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I stayed with a boyfriend for two years who I thought was incredible because he was the first man who hadn't sexually assaulted me. I've realised now that that's a really really really really fucking low bar, like so low it's in hell, but in my head feeling physically safe with someone meant I should cling on even when the relationship wasn't serving me. Since then, I've dated one guy who also respected sexual boundaries (while still being total trash), and I'm now in nun mode for a little bit, …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/19 09:17 AM
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any advice on learning tactics for dating women or recommended reading?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:54 PM
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thank you! any advice on where or how to learn the rules/develop comfort with actively pursuing? can assure you not just dating women because men are trash - i was bi before i discovered men are trash, and would continue to be bi if they all woke up and stopped being trash. just interested in the unique position of bi women who have a non-celibate option to deliberately avoid men but obviously have to overcome a lot of socialising to do so when it's in some ways a lot more straightforward to jus…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 08:53 PM
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That's another good job analogy in line with this sub actually... you don't stop all your other applications the minute someone offers you an interview, so date around. Same with height - I've actually been attracted to many men my (q small) height or a lil taller! The ones getting defensive about their heights in dating app profiles however... and i have ended up on dates with a number of men who were so insecure about height it was offputting. I have other superficial preferences that are more…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/19 09:59 AM
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yahuh! he's trying to make me easier to get for some other man somewhere! very ODD.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:27 PM
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Firms are already chasing me for jobs - I should expect the same from men!! Thanks for the brainwave!!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 08:26 PM
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Thank you so much u/keep_my_stuff ! This is such a helpful reply :D Reading those posts was so helpful. What you said about feeling safe and comfortable resonated so much with me - honestly, I think my standard and self-esteem is so incredibly low from past trauma that someone feeling safe to be around and giving me the oxytocin hit to assuage the depression is enough for me to completely disregard myself. Never again! I'm going FDS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:41 PM
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Thank you! This is so true. I'm going to adopt no sex until exclusivity going forwards and it's going to be better for me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:37 PM
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honestly, knowing people think i must be a troll is quite helpful for realising i need to not see this guy again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:34 PM
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I promise I'm not a troll! I just have no dignity. I'm trying to work on it though! Everything you're all saying is super helpful. I'm not gonna be seeing this guy again.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 09:34 PM
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This is incredible! As someone who suffers with depression and doesn't find that many men attractive it particularly made a lot of sense to me about why I feel so dependent on sex. Thanks so much for sharing!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:40 PM
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It feels like it is really draining me of energy and will eventually kill me! But yeah I don't have very high self-esteem/have quite low self-respect, which I know I need to work on. Thank you!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:15 PM
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Thank you for this advice which is so accurate and kind! I'm gonna get a good vibrator. A FWB dynamic is definitely not for me and going forwards it's going to have to be no sex until exclusivity... which is going to be hard because I really really really crave sex but I also really crave intimacy. I'm going to read the sidebar a lot. I am lonely and depressed which is not fun but I need to work through that on my own.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:14 PM
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i have actually googled this now haha. I need to find a satisfying simulated cuddle set-up.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:10 PM
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Thank you! This is really helpful, clear advice. "It won't cuddle, but then again neither did he" is so resonant and... poetic damn. I already own a few vibrators and it just doesn't quite get rid of the thirst for me but I might just invest in a better one.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:09 PM
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thank you! I will take this advice on board going forwards. I want to be with someone who really wants to be with me and makes me feel wanted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/19 05:06 PM
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