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I can’t talk for everyone, but from my own personal experiences and seeing some of my friends’ relationships, chemistry is difficult to build over time. I think chemistry is your brain giving you a big hint that this potential partner will be VERY compatible with you (intellectually but mostly sexually). Something about him is mostly turning you off (maybe subconsciously), and you should try to figure it out. Is it maybe the fact that he pursues you too much? I have been with an ex whom I didn’t…
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 04:36 PM
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I don’t think you’ll be able to stop feeling this way (whether it’s towards his best friend or another man). As women (for the majority) we search stability and someone that can provide for us, so someone smart and successful is obviously attractive to us because it means those things. If you feel strongly attracted to someone else, it just means that your man doesn’t have the qualities that you’re searching for, so you’ll be constantly attracted to men that have those qualities. Unless he works…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 03:10 AM
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I do read RP subs but not frequently. Their view on relationships are very harsh and disturbed me at first, but I try to understand why they think like that. I take the few positive stuff that can be useful to me and my relationship (ex.shit tests, masculinity, sex life..) but of course, I relate way more to RPW.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/20 05:20 PM
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I think the first step of not being naive is not to think like this though :/ You have to know what you can and cannot offer a man yet so you can improve yourself because no man settles for a girl just for “who she is” but more because of what you can give him (sex, making his life easier, femininity, ect.). A man can choose between lots of women so you have to stand out and even more if you want a high quality man. When you know you can offer a lot to a man, you won’t let a low quality man take…
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/20 01:48 PM
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Looks do matter but you can increase your worth by developping your confidence/personality as best as you can because people feel your insecurities (through body language, talking, ect) and therefore, walk away. Try to be authentic to yourself in the best way possible and accept your qualities/flaws.
/r/RedPillWomen17/01/20 07:43 PM
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I went through something similar with my bf and he also didn’t tell me what his friends said exactly. From what I understood, the main problem was that his friends didn’t respect him so they didn’t respect me either. For this to stop, your boyfriend has to stand up to those men and earn their respect (this stuff shouldn’t happen if he already does that). As for what you can do, simply be non judgemental and don’t take the critic seriously. He’ll learn with time that he can tell you stuff. This i…
/r/RedPillWomen16/01/20 06:32 PM
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Preach 🙏 To add up (for her), if you use sex as a tool, you probably need to work on your personnality so you can attract a man long term. Try doing what RPW preaches and you’ll have a REAL man that will want to stay with you long term because the ones your friend has are probably low quality men that will do anything to have sex with her. High quality men will not tolerate that childish game and would probably leave, knowing they can get a woman who will give them sex AND be wife material.
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 03:34 PM
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So true!
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/20 03:24 PM
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Can I give you a woman’s perspective? I think that you’re probably doing things right at the moment, and she seems attracted to you (which is good!) But eventually, for the future, you’ll have to work on yourself and start being alpha because she seems attractive, considering the physical and personnality traits you describe about her. If she’s cute, feminine and pretty, she’ll be wanted by other men (alphas), so you’ll have competition. Do not stay “comfortable”. As women, we’re naturally attra…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/12/19 03:18 AM
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Thank you! I really needed this :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/19 01:33 AM
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Totally agree with your mindset ! I’ve experienced this type of comment from other women, making me look like I was controled when I only wanted to please my bf who respects me (for example: by wearing more feminine clothes, growing my hair longer, ect). Does anyone know what to say when they tell you stuff like that?
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 11:21 PM
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I agree with you. And there’s something blue pill about the comment ..., red flag for sexual attraction in the future
/r/RedPillWomen09/12/19 10:52 PM
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I totally agree with this. You should try and be open with him about this. Happened to me and my bf. We both tell each other when there's something that turns off the other (physical or psychological) and honestly, it works if you both want it to work. But of course, you have to say it in a nice and not attacking way. And also, from what you said, he's the problem since you're doing everything you can to stay attracted and attractive. Your husband will not change in your eyes if he doesn't do an…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 09:12 PM
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Like someone else said, there's: -the mother who nurtures -the queen who inspires, who has wisdom and whom people look up to -the temptress who uses her sexuality in multiple ways -the witch: who is thirsty for power I think you have to be in the middle. -Be nurturing but not too much (ex. the mama bear who is too controlling ) considering the consequences it can have on the children. -You have to be somehow a queen, so you can learn from your mistakes, see the truth and not be blinded by your i…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 10:22 PM
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What do you mean by feeling “physically safe”? I had a talk with my SO and he also said something like that . I felt like I wasn’t safe anymore too, and that he might leave me for another girl as his status rises. Made me want to break up before it happens. But eventually, I realized it was coming from insecurity (and maybe the fact that I felt powerless) and stopped feeling that way. Also, my SO did understand how I felt and made me feel loved and reassured (of course, if I don’t fuck up/disres…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/19 02:53 PM
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Be as feminine as you can, be positive, smile, touch his arm lightly while laughing, give him a bit more attention than others. But don’t look too interested because he’ll find you easy. Let him chase you a bit 😊
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 11:54 PM
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I think it’s better to let the guy make the move. When you’re asking for his number, you’re acting “like a man” because you’re deciding and you’re making the move. Also, if the guy really wanted to ask your number, he would have done it himself. 😅The best you can do is show your best sides and hope that he will notice while giving him some hints that you’re interested. Hope it helps :)
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 11:47 PM
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I had this talk with my boyfriend and from what I understood, I think a guy can cheat but still love his wife (depending on the context) ? I think for guys sexuality and love can be totally separated. He can be aroused by a younger and beautiful women and have sex with them but return to his wife whom he loves for her values, personnality, ect. But if he cheats because his woman does not respect him, it’s another thing. Maybe he’s slowly falling out of love. On the contrary, we, as women cannot …
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 08:13 PM
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He is bothered by the way I act on my masculine side (he said I change the way I look at him and talk to him), which I think is because I can be socially insecure (i’m really working on it though because I know it’s not okay). But other times, I still stay on my masculine side even when he’s very masculine (leader, not letting others disrespect us, ect) and I don’t understand why 😣 I guess I gotta think more about it and explore the situation with him since there seems to be a lot possible expla…
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 05:30 AM
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Thank you, you explained it really well! I think sometimes I tend to be masculine because it makes me feel safer when I’m in control (and also because I remember the few times it didn’t work out). Next time, I’ll try to remember why I picked him as my SO. But other than that, there are other moments when my masculine comes on for no reason (example: I wake up next to my SO and I’m already in my masculine mode I don’t know why. And my SO was being masculine). 😪
/r/RedPillWomen30/11/19 04:46 AM
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It's probably because I can't let go easily ... And thank you for the video and the tips! :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 04:28 AM
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Wow, makes sense! I will think more about it, thank you :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 03:34 AM
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Thank you! I will go check it :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/11/19 12:59 AM
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I think you should tell her directly (but smoothly), and still show her love. Give her the opportunity to change. From personal experience, my boyfriend always adressed the things from me that bothered him, but in a gentle manner that still made me feel loved ( sometimes, I was more in my masculine then my feminine side and he didn’t like it) And it worked because I wanted to please him and knew that what he said was best for our happiness (it took a few months to re-adjust tho). So i guess what…
/r/RedPillWomen26/11/19 01:16 AM
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I totally understand the fear of not finding someone better, but you will because you’re still young! From what you said, I think you’re stressing mainly because you doubt your social skills. If you work on them (and you can!) and if you show your feminine side, you can find someone out there. Personally, I met my exes and present boyfriend through some friends (my friends also met their bf this way). So don’t worry, you will find someone out there if you talk to people :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/19 11:19 PM
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Ignore them. They must be really unhappy/insecure to make those comments. If it makes YOU happy, then it’s all it counts.
/r/RedPillWomen19/11/19 12:55 AM
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I’m thankful for my boyfriend, who taught me so much about love and life, and mostly, how to be happy. And even though I can be difficult, he believes in me. Makes me want to be the ideal woman for him ☺️💕 Also thankful for finding this sub, who makes me feel like I’m not alone thinking this way and answers some of my questions. Thankful for this particular friend who is always there for me, no matter what. Greatful for the time I slept at her house during one week because I was heart broken. Th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 04:15 PM
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I think your body count can affect men’s perception of you but I also thinks it’s maybe more how you approach them. If you give them the vibe of a one night stand girl, they will automatically categorize you in that box and you won’t get out of it. So it’s important for you to show your values, qualities, etc first. Also, you should give more information about that, so we can help you better😅
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/19 04:09 PM
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I think the RPW “rules” apply at any age and could make you more attractive. My mother in law is 50 and after being divorced, she still dated men because she’s really feminine for her age. Also, not wanting to have kids is okay, but can be a deal-breaker for many men, especially when they know they can have a younger woman who really wants to give them kids. Therefore, it can shrink your pool of men. But like I said before, I think following RPW rules can help a lot
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 07:11 PM
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I suggest you wait until you develop really close intimacy and like another post said, if she seems interested and open, then you can talk to her about it. For some people, RPW views can be harsh (since society tells you otherwise) so it’s important for the person to show curiosity and openess by herself. As for my personal experience, my bf is the one who, by his caracter, made me want to please him more. And while having one of our deep talks, he mentionned RP so I got curious, as I had wanted…
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/19 10:40 PM
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I totally understand, and it’s really scary at first. But it is something you will achieve soon, if you continue to put efforts (speaking as someone who also had difficulties being vulnerable). And also, if he truly is an alpha male, he will cherish your feelings (instead of judging you, like beta males do) so don’t be afraid to show him who you truly are 😋
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 01:48 AM
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Yes , what you said was a perfect example of being vulnerable 😊Being vulnerable is showing/telling how you deeply feel inside without trying to cover it to appear in a certain way.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 01:21 AM
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I suggest you wait just a bit more (like 2-3 dates?). Before doing it, you should show your feminine side completely (by being cute, happy, genuine, VULNERABLE, etc. ) because it’ll make him see you as someone worth marrying (good mom and wife for the future) and not only for casual sex. I insist on vulnerable because alpha males find it VERY attractive and it makes THEM vulnerable after. If you make it TOO easy, he won’t have the chance to be more curious about you. Also, my boyfriend, who is a…
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/19 12:57 AM
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