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Be glad that you have a girl that others guys think is hot. Give her tips or pickup lines. Joke about it. A girl that thinks of you as her alpha will rebuff all other guy’s attempts
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:46 PM
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Your red flag is kind of meaningless. All girls will become slutty with the RIGHT guy at the RIGHT time. In fact, you can argue that the strength of a relationship is based on genuine desire. Meaning if she is putting up road blocks for intimacy then she has ulterior motives. If you guys slept together on the first date it can mean she’s “easy” but it can also mean she has a genuine attraction for you. Which is good for a healthy relationship.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:43 PM
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Trust your gut. A woman that wants exclusivity knows that hanging alone with other men is a deal breaker. If you want her as a FWB only then no harm done.
/r/askTRP04/02/19 06:41 PM
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This is a good problem to have. Start considering reaching out to your plates less and less. This only increases their competition anxiety. Consider dropping a couple. Remember, plates have to break to make new ones. The idea of plate spinning isn't a numbers game necessarily, it's about developing abundance. So not reaching out every week actually increases the idea that you're the prize. Maybe even consider only seeing them on the week days and save the weekend for family, friends, and other p…
/r/askTRP03/02/19 08:10 PM
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She's not interested.
/r/askTRP03/02/19 08:01 PM
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I live in CO so also a high number of Scandinavians descent. But only 5% of whites are blonde in the US. So there’s a high chance there’s a placebo effect going on.
/r/askTRP13/01/19 04:28 AM
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It could also be that there’s only a small percentage of women that are even blonde. So you could be seeing a placebo effect since more women have darker hair. It also could be that since blonde hair sticks out so much more that you could be over estimating how many actual blondes there are. Nothing about this is definitive, but I’ve also wondered why I get much more attention from brunettes that blondes. I think it could have something to do with plain statistics.
/r/askTRP13/01/19 02:03 AM
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/r/askTRP12/01/19 03:31 AM
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Negs. Never been good at them. Or at the least I wasn’t understanding their application and I ended up making the girl feel insulted. So I stopped them. Instead I do a lot of push-pull and disqualification game. Disqualification in a playful but sometimes serious way has dramatically increased my success. It’s just more in line with my personality.
/r/askTRP12/01/19 03:29 AM
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Never a good idea
/r/askTRP07/01/19 08:55 PM
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Yes, because you want something. But the goal is to flip the frame and make her qualify herself to your frame through game.
/r/askTRP07/01/19 08:55 PM
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Starting with this fundamental truth: AWALT. Also, good girls are not born they’re made. You don’t snag a unicorn, you become the type of high value man that girls keep themselves in checkover. Once you internalize that, something’s to look for. Good relationship with her father Cares about her health No social media Low N count Submissive Religious (I’m not but it helps if she is) Introverted Crafty Doesn’t bash masculinity or male endeavors Even with all these, you’re still in need to be on to…
/r/askTRP07/01/19 06:21 PM
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“Below human perfection” Give me a break, you don’t want help you just want to bitch.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 07:34 PM
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“Have a good time” “Take some photos” If you comment anything else then you’re going to fail this shit test. This is almost akin to a girls night out. Do not appear fazed or butt hurt. Do not tell her there are lines. Do not ask her if she “has anything to tell me.” Do no hesitate for a second. “Have a great time” is the only thing that should be said. When she calls you to say hi, don’t play games and act like you’re out with other girls in an attempt to make her jealous. It will communicate th…
/r/askTRP31/12/18 07:30 PM
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Way to put limits on yourself. I did and I’m not a supermodel. But if you believe you need to be then you’ve already put yourself in your own prison. Good luck
/r/askTRP31/12/18 07:20 PM
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Most women I’ve had sex with in a week was 4. They individually came over to my place. I don’t look like Chris Hemsworth. I’m in shape but not ripped. 27 with my own house, job, and have interesting hobbies. You don’t have to be Superman to have multiple plates.
/r/askTRP31/12/18 07:13 PM
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She wasn’t a LTR but had potential. I was vetting her for it. She got close. Super feminine, never denied me sex, very respectful, and even cleaned up my place in the morning. Except one hair in the soup. She was an alcoholic and was constantly doing girls night outs. I could care less if she went cause she wasn’t my girlfriend. But combined with her alcohol problem, if we ever had a rough patch then without a doubt I can be sure she would probably act out.
/r/askTRP29/12/18 07:31 PM
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So true. I had a short fling with a BPD. Absolutely porn worthy sex that I’ll never forget, fucking incredible, but she was a fucking psycho. Hot, cold, in the space of seconds. I couldn’t imaging dating someone like that for 9months.
/r/askTRP29/12/18 07:27 PM
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Absolutely under pain of death never reveal how many women you’re currently seeing. Never tell her you’ve just had sex with another woman.never tell her how many woman you’ve had sex with. Always obfuscate and dodge these questions that demand hard numbers and facts. Woman want honesty, but they don’t want full-disclosure. Tell her this, “yes I’m seeing other people, and I hope you’re doing the same. I don’t want to stand in the way of you finding someone you connect with. I’d rather lose you to…
/r/askTRP29/12/18 07:21 PM
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I second jabbermouth. Also consider walking from this group. Even if only temporarily. I do this occasionally with friends, plates, even family if I feel my presence with them is too much or I’m too available. I’ll just stop hanging out with them and you’d be surprised how fast people will respect that and miss you. It’s basically giving them a taste of your disappearance so they know that you only will be with people that want you there and respect you, otherwise you’re gone to them.
/r/askTRP26/11/18 06:39 AM
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Good question. Honestly a lot of factors leading up to such success. I didn’t get jacked but I’ve always been in good shape. Not getting frustrated helps. I honestly tried to get laid before 26 and I just couldn’t pull it off but I didn’t quit and I kept learning. I kept approaching and getting rejected. It was very discouraging. But I kept at it. That constant struggle of being rejected I think helped me get emotional resilience to approach girls. My own friends are terrified of it even to this…
/r/askTRP26/11/18 01:41 AM
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I wasn’t either. I didn’t lose my virginity until 26. I’m 27 now. I have 4 plates and not enough free time. Things just keep getting better with girls. I could care less that I missed out.
/r/askTRP25/11/18 10:49 PM
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Absolutely approach and learn how to game women. Just don’t commit to any of them in your 20s. all while continuing to increase your SMV
/r/askTRP25/11/18 10:48 PM
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The medium is the message. Her being indecisive is the message but you’re not receiving it. Next her. If she wanted to meet up with you then she would make it easy.
/r/askTRP25/11/18 05:43 AM
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No. I don’t see any reason to be friends or pals with an old plate or a girl you went on two dates with and either you or her didn’t text back. Simply due to pragmatism. Time is better spent on meeting new women who want to be with you then time spent with a failed relationship — no matter how short.
/r/askTRP25/11/18 05:07 AM
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AWALT The sheer opportunism of women. I had a feminine plate, but was noticing some bad behavior and red flags. I dropped her. She proceeds to fuck one of my friends to irk me. It’s sad. Filthy in fact. That sweet face turned into a monster when I think of her now.
/r/askTRP25/11/18 05:02 AM
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If after 3 dates or whatever, and she’s not putting out it means she’s negotiating genuine desire. You can’t negotiate genuine desire. If she is overtly saying she will not have sex with you after numerous dates it means she doesn’t have the desire to do so. Sex first, then relationship. There is no quality woman, there’s just women. The same girl that says she will not have sex with you because she wants commitment is the same girl that would fuck Chad at a frat party. If she doesn’t have the d…
/r/askTRP25/11/18 05:00 AM
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Lift AWALT — this will bite you in the ass if you forget Genuine desire can not be negotiated Never re start a failed relationship Never negotiate for sex My favorite that started it all is rejection is better than regret Spin more plates and get an abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP25/11/18 01:31 AM
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Where’s the update OP, gonna grab some pop corn
/r/askTRP02/11/18 01:20 AM
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Ran into this today. I’m staunchly in the mindset that texting should only be used for logistics. However, guys shouldn’t be so autistic about this. If she’s trying to engage in a conversation or some banter, spit some back. Emphasis on some. It’s not going to kill you to make your interactions at least a little genuine if she’s trying to engage. Then quickly cut it short and go back to logistics only. This comes to head when you’re first starting to text her. Maybe you got her number the day be…
/r/askTRP29/10/18 05:22 AM
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Stop humble bragging and understand many girls are even more viscerally desirous of being dominated in bed.
/r/askTRP21/10/18 12:07 AM
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Understand that you’ll never escape your burden of performance as a man. You will always have to battle shit tests, be confident, never show weakness. The best part is they will still never appreciate it. They will either be attracted still or if you blow it then they walk. Women can’t love you the way you want them to. But realizing that makes you in a better position to enjoy them for what they are, not the idealism you wish they were. Move from your nihilism to realism. Hope and meaning can b…
/r/askTRP20/10/18 04:38 AM
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Online game and cold approaching when out with friends on a Friday/Sat night. Is it worth it? Yes. Will it make you happy? No. I’ll explain. At any given time I’ll have a couple plates. The most women I had sex with in one week was 4. Throughout the week they individually came over to my place and at the end of that week I was absolutely exhausted. The only thing that I felt was indifference. I wasn’t ecstatic, I wasn’t beating my chest, all I wanted was the next week to have time with myself or…
/r/askTRP18/10/18 05:06 AM
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Benjamin Franklin said this
/r/askTRP02/10/18 11:43 PM
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I’m 27 and I agree. I can’t get over some of the shit they say. Normally they’re so inexperienced that they’ll fuck up the interaction unintentionally even if they do like me. Once they’re out of college and realize how much harder it is do they get marginally better.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:12 AM
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This is good advice. I’ve been actually curbing how much alcohol I drink when out in town with a plate due to this very reason, combined with health concerns, a plate is not worth it. You just never know who won’t back down and go Joe Pesci on you.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 06:01 AM
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Lmao perfect response. Cracked me up.
/r/askTRP01/10/18 12:19 AM
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I like these. Much easier and diffuses any tension.
/r/askTRP30/09/18 10:55 PM
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I was prepared to be welcomed in their group. However, I didn’t initially deny a hand shake first. I wanted to shake hands but he threw it away. Then demanded I shake hands like we’re in a Jay-Z video.
/r/askTRP30/09/18 10:53 PM
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Fuck with her, when she tells you she went to Harvard say you never heard of it. When she responds incredulously say “oh is that that community college?” Or when she says she went to Harvard say with no emotion, Oh cool. Don’t be impressed by a woman’s career or education choices until you guys are actually a thing.
/r/askTRP17/09/18 05:36 AM
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It’s happened to me before. what helps me snap out of it is to seriously consider if I’m spinning plates efficiently. Meaning, at any point in time that you’re afraid of losing a particular plate, then you’re not operating on terms of abundance but on terms of scarcity and exclusivity. Plate spinning is not a numbers game it’s a non-exclusivity game. Meaning no matter how great you think this girl is, if she asked you right now to be exclusive, you should say no. That’s the path to true abundanc…
/r/askTRP31/08/18 04:27 AM
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Yea. Seriously. I wouldn’t say anything to her. For many reasons. One, texting misses context. It’s too easy for you to fuck up and say something stupid or she may misinterpret you. Two, you’re entirely in her frame when you text. Three, you’re not building any mystique. Four, you’re projecting that you need to keep her “warmed” up by texting which just means you have a scarcity mentality. Meaning you think through text you can hang on to her...not going to happen.
/r/askTRP28/08/18 11:06 PM
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I think that’s a good gauge. What do you think about her last text in regards to a counter-offer? Does it qualify or no? “I can’t hang out this week either 😕. My cousin is getting married this weekend and there are family things happening every night leading up to the wedding. Next week my life is mine again if you are available”
/r/askTRP27/08/18 10:16 PM
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It's true, she's exemplifying female solipsism. But you're DEERing too much (Defend, Explain, Excuse, Rationalize). This is making the problem worse. Stop explaining and justifying yourself and for the love of god stop telling her about plate theory. Yes, all women are natural plate spinners, but no woman wants to hear it.
/r/askTRP07/08/18 03:48 PM
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This is a relatively good problem to have, albeit the way she is handling it is not good. First, she's immature and doesn't realize that this is how adults date. No reason to hang on to one dance partner until AFTER she has requested your commitment. Call her on her bullshit that you can't read minds. That no you were not committed to her until you two talked about it. The best way to enter a LTR is with her knowing that you have other women around. This creates a constant passive dread that whi…
/r/askTRP07/08/18 03:32 PM
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Yep, slut defense. Give her any reason you want, say let's make or order some food, have some drinks, watch a movie. That's all she needs to make it seem like it "just happened"
/r/askTRP07/08/18 03:19 PM
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Not bad as long as it's in the frame of abundance and she already sees you as sexually attractive. Too often men use romance to negotiate for sex. Don't do that. Genuine desire from her allows you to be slightly romantic, but I wouldn't focus too much on it. Maybe as a reward.
/r/askTRP03/08/18 03:49 PM
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This is cuckoldry. "Open relationships" are not about any equalism but rather for women to fuck alphas on the side while their doteful beta/cuckold (you) is at home to give them comfort. Giving permission for your girl to fuck other guys makes you a cuckold. A willing cuckold at that. Wrap it up in any veneer you like, even if you get to fuck other women, allowing her to do the same makes you less than a beta. The dynamic you should strive for, if you and her are in a committed relationship, is …
/r/askTRP02/08/18 03:19 PM
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True about the don't want to lose her part. My oneitis is strong with this one. Then this is your issue right here. You're thinking in terms of commitment, not her. It's obvious but you're looking for ways to rationalize it to make it seem like it's her idea when in reality it's you that wants to LTR her because you don't want to lose her. This is needy behavior. I'm sure she was close to wanting that, but at this moment it's you. I would say to not bring it up. To calm the fuck down, meet up wi…
/r/askTRP31/07/18 07:11 PM
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No rule says you can't. However, it's pretty clear that you're operating on terms of you don't want to lose this girl. Which means you're being necessitous. You're rationalizing. That will definitely make her lose interest. But that's a separate topic. By all means ask her to be a LTR. It might very well work. Not saying either way. I'm just clarifying how she will approach it that will leave you in the best position in the long run.
/r/askTRP31/07/18 04:38 PM
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Well, she does sound pretty close. Normally I would say to never bring up the subject of a LTR unless she OVERTLY says she wants that. The reason why is when she does that she is succeeding a massive amount of frame in to your hands. A woman knows that if she has to communicate overtly to you about a LTR then she has exhausted all other options to gain your commitment. This is her hail mary. If she's asking if this is only sex to you, then she's very, very close to doing so. Again, you can wait …
/r/askTRP31/07/18 04:19 PM
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Couple things to clarify. Who approached the subject of a LTR? Did she overtly say she wants commitment? That's an important point. If she did and you're not interested in a LTR then be prepared for this to drop. Not the best decision to LTR this girl because you want to stay with her even though you don't want a LTR.
/r/askTRP31/07/18 04:05 PM
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I think you demonstrated considerable higher value by sticking with your game plan of a 12:30 cutoff time. You walked away. Walking away from this girl just nuked her hamster. She loves it. Sure, I bet you could have shown a little less butt-hurt. That may have been your only mistake. But it's not always going to be perfect. Especially after drinking. But you stuck to your game plan and basically told her that her pussy doesn't control you. You didn't lose frame. "No amount of pussy is worth los…
/r/askTRP31/07/18 03:56 PM
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“A woman would rather share an alpha than to be saddled with a faithful beta.”
/r/askTRP27/07/18 02:10 AM
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I think you're in a good spot. Obviously you know not to shit where you eat. With only 4% males at this place then you're in a great opportunity to really lay some value down. This is a great place to practice emotional resilience. As women will seek out that one male that isn't shaken. Good place to practice light game and understand them better. You're going to put up with bullshit you otherwise wouldn't have to deal with at a male dominated place. I'd say it's not bad. Only thing to consider …
/r/askTRP13/07/18 10:02 PM
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Without revealing too much, what is your role at this company? Much of it will be dependent on what you're going to be doing and in what context you will be interacting with women there.
/r/askTRP13/07/18 08:34 PM
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The what do you do for work question is always a big debate. 95% of jobs are not sexy... well because they're jobs. Women don't care about that fact. Frankly, when a woman asks me there's usually two reasons why. She's either trying to keep the conversation going and asking what people do for work is very common -- albeit boring. The other reason is it's a shit test and she wants to know if I'm a good boyfriend material or lover. Since I can't always tell for sure, I usually deflect and tell the…
/r/askTRP13/07/18 08:29 PM
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Yep.
/r/askTRP10/07/18 03:26 PM
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Are you masturbating and or watching porn a lot?
/r/askTRP10/07/18 03:10 PM
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What are your reasons behind wanting to do SL 5x5? Are you trying to gain strength? I'm curious as I used to do SL 5x5 for over a year but went another direction. Depending on your goals it might not be the best.
/r/askTRP10/07/18 03:09 PM
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You're right, definitely not a good idea to completely ease her dread completely. This shows she's attracted and she is legitimately worried you might leave. This builds attraction. However, in some cases like this you don't want to over-game her and she starts to auto-reject herself because she doesn't believe she can keep up with you. There's a fine balance between arousal and security. You want her consistently leaning toward arousal but if you don't show her some security then she will wilt.…
/r/askTRP10/07/18 03:06 PM
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First thing you should do is stop calling yourself a faggot. Why on earth would you think so low of yourself? I’m not saying this in some pseudo-pop psychology bullshit way I’m saying that how you think about yourself literally effects how others view you as well. If you’re going around and saying you’re a faggot and other negative things about yourself, well, you’re going to be viewed like that. Start approaching this first as a mindset issue: tell yourself you’re a 10 that needs some work. At …
/r/askTRP08/07/18 05:04 PM
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I did it. It went well for my general courses, but when I got into my actual major (Computer Science) I was miserable and burnt out. My grades suffered for it. Had to re-take a Calc class as I just couldn't keep up. My advice: start slow, maybe only a couple classes and if you think you're handling it well add another. Don't be afraid of taking classes in the summer to spread the load. If you can get a job where you can knock some of your work out while you're not busy then you're in a good spot…
/r/askTRP06/07/18 07:54 PM
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Personally I'd address this directly to him and squash it. Why have to go through this at work? You spend all day there; the least people can do is respect each other as long as you're doing the same. Insulting you in front of another co-worker is low-quality.
/r/askTRP06/07/18 07:42 PM
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Always default to not giving a fuck. Make it a game: next time she says some guy tried to flirt with her give her advice on how to flirt back. Approach it like you have no competition. The fact she's telling you is a golden opportunity to display your abundance mentality.
/r/askTRP05/07/18 04:01 PM
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Throw her shit in your crawlspace or in the corner of a closet. If she doesn't text asking for her shit then 6 months down the road when you're cleaning your place throw it in the dumpster. Why initiate a text when she doesn't even respond to your first one?
/r/askTRP05/07/18 03:53 PM
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Nah, no need to tell her to not contact you. Unless you have a severe problem with it. Just ignore. She'll figure it out eventually.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 06:45 PM
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Nope. You're doing everything right. She's out of your life. She just wants you to orbit her as a back up. It's reasonable at this point to cut the cord on this.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 06:17 PM
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If she just said Ok then it doesn't sound like she's interested. If she was then she would make it relatively easy. Sorry dude but I think you're projecting your own interest on her thinking she has the same for you. This is why pushing and pulling on text is difficult. Context is missing. She way have taken offense or think you're being a jerk. But just in case, ask her out anyways. Who knows, she may be down. Read the side bar on how to properly set up dates. Logistics, timing, etc is importan…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 06:11 PM
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Couple things off the bat. Telling her you think she's cute may have been too much at this point. If you must say that to her then push-pull by telling her she's cute but disqualify her in some other way. "You're cute but I think you may be a little too crazy for me." But midway when texting Texting should be used to set up logistics. If you feel you need to get a little repertoire with a girl because she may not be warmed up to you then do it sparingly. Set up a date in less than 10 text messag…
/r/askTRP27/06/18 02:45 PM
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A lot of different definitions of monk-mode. The most extreme involve alienating yourself from social interactions. I don't think that's a good idea. The less extreme seem to use monk-mode to "focus on themselves." However, it always looks like monk-mode is to avoid rejection under the guise of self-improvement. Getting burnt out on approaching women is real, but at least then you're getting the experience. There's just only so much you can learn by reading books and thinking about it. The only …
/r/askTRP27/06/18 02:19 PM
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You'll be fine. You may even be decent. Let your instincts ride on this one. Try not to make things too wet because that's gross. Don't overuse your tongue. Other than that trust me you'll know what to do when it happens.
/r/askTRP27/06/18 02:14 PM
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Imagine you’re with this girl at a bar and you’re having a great time with her, drinks are pouring you’re both laughing she’s touching you. Then some dude comes up who is no slob but aggressive and tries to start up a conversation with her right in front of you. What do you do? If you’re doing everything right then in these situations you don’t have to do anything, you let her solve it for you. She’ll be bitchy or cold with the guy until he leaves. Same goes with the “competition” here. Every cu…
/r/askTRP26/06/18 05:47 AM
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Very real possibility that the Red Pill subreddit gets shut down. No chance that as it grows the feminine supremacy and beta orbiters will let a growing group of men ruin woman's ability to optimize hypergamy to the fullest extent. With that said, the Red Pill is not just the subreddit. It exits all over the internet and is pretty decentralized. Even if it the subreddit gets shut down there's plenty of other blogs and sites to continue.
/r/askTRP03/05/18 02:43 PM
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Looks like I’m the only one that will say you shouldn’t initiate a meet with her. SHE should be the one to do this. The ball is still in her court even after two months she has still not returned the ball after you had asked her to meet up. She ghosted you. You went radio silent. That earned gave you some respect in her eyes. Don’t cede your respect for yourself by asking her out again. At this point she should be the one to chase and to initiate a meet. Just keep playing cool and eventually she…
/r/askTRP01/05/18 06:16 AM
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Currently, the pressure that women face is from their own post-wall biological clock ticking. Women have every support imaginable at the moment to disregard that clock to fuck chads, focus on their career, and forget about motherhood. There is no such thing for men. With our feminine primary culture not only do women get to jump on and off the cock carousal at will, but they can also push men into marriages when they're ready to "settle down." So no, the outside pressure is not the same. Men fac…
/r/askTRP20/04/18 07:59 PM
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(real football) You mean the dudes that prance around a field? Jk I'm fucking with you. Your SMV is contextual on your surroundings. At your highschool you were well established in a small ecosystem. You move away to a bigger pond and girls don't know or care if you were the captain of your highschool football team. Things just got a little more competitive. 1. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. Get rid of that negative mindset starting with the title of your post. It's stupid and a waste of your …
/r/askTRP20/04/18 06:00 AM
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The Myth of the Lonely Old Man The lonely old man and dying alone fear is just a feminine-primary culture that makes men think they're going to die miserably if they don't wife up some post-wall woman. We're born alone and we die alone. Nothing to be afraid of and nothing you can do about it. I'd rather die alone then be stuck in a soul-crushing sexless marriage.
/r/askTRP20/04/18 05:15 AM
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Two declined offers for a date and you walk away. No matter what excuse she gives you if you make two consecutive offers for a date and it doesn't happen you walk. Ask once, she can't, wait about a week, ask again, still can't, she doesn't want to see you. Walk. This is for your sanity. Also, you're not really asking. "Doing anything tonight" is going to set you up for failure every time. Make a definite date that she won't flake on. You don't ask her what's she's doing tonight, instead, you ask…
/r/askTRP20/04/18 05:10 AM
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If you’re doing everything right and she’s interested she’ll get rid of cockblocks for you. If it’s going well you don’t have to do much.
/r/askTRP18/04/18 04:34 AM
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Do you jerk off to porn? Most cucks get their start by being addicted to masturbation and porn. What helps is to completely go cold-turkey on porn and masturbation. If your dopamine receptors are fueled by a cuckold fantasy then even real sex where you're imagining her getting fucked by some other dude is just continuing to carve this cuck fantasy in your head. Consider forgoing sex for a while until you can start fucking women without the fantasy of a cuckold.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 01:21 AM
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She may be waiting to see if there is any fallout from sleeping with a friend in her social circle. You could ping her to see her reaction or wait until the next time you see her to get a feeling for her attitude. If it’s positive rinse and repeat. Do the same thing that attracted her to you in the first place. Probably be best you also don’t tell your friends that you slept together. If you share the same social circle. Let her bring it up if she wants to. If she wants to be a fwb with you then…
/r/askTRP16/04/18 06:06 PM
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You absolutely do not text again. If she’s interested she will respond. If not then you move on.
/r/askTRP04/04/18 04:50 AM
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lmao small world, grew up there
/r/TheRedPill30/03/18 04:32 AM
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That gym locker room looks familiar as hell... Littleton? Anyways good job mate.
/r/TheRedPill30/03/18 04:03 AM
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You did he right thing cause double dates are retarded and waste of your time.
/r/askTRP23/03/18 06:34 PM
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That’s a decent response. Keep it light keep it water off a ducks back. Keep inviting her over and seeing other women. This is what spinning plates is all about.
/r/askTRP16/03/18 06:41 PM
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I don’t understand how this is a problem. She’s told you up front that she’s just looking to fool around. What could be better? Unfortunately, it looks like you’re projecting you want a relationship which is a bad idea. You tell her that that sounds like a great idea. Keep inviting her over and keep fucking. Keep seeing other women yourself. If you have your game together there’s a possibility that she may want to be exclusive with you. At that point you can agree or not. She’s dating like an ad…
/r/askTRP16/03/18 06:29 PM
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I see it manifest itself in other ways too. Before this metoo shit came out a lot of guys at my work would regularly talk with the women in our office. After it came out, you could sense the distance that they all put on them. It was night and day. The girls noticed the change and they now look pretty alone. While I don’t harbor any ill will against my female colleagues I just hope they have enough honesty to see that feminism is reaching too far. Men are starting to adapt and it’s not going to …
/r/TheRedPill05/03/18 06:26 AM
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Lmao I was dying when you brought Trump into the story hahaa well fucking done! I have a framed picture of Trump in my office at home. With a shit-eating grin giving a thumbs up and wearing a MAGA hat. When I bring girls home and I give them a tour I make sure they see it. Some will get a little bitchy about it but I still fuck them anyways. I'm thinking about moving it to the bedroom
/r/TheRedPill23/12/17 06:44 PM
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I'm not so optimistic that the pendulum is close to swinging back. This won't be the end of their push to legislate hypergamy. Those men that decide to subconsciously make that choice between which colleague to mentor, whether male or female, will eventually be charged with sexual harassment on the basis of not including women. If they see men deciding not marry or even engage with women on the basis of risk, then they'll come after your money just by saying sexual harassment is based on whateve…
/r/TheRedPill19/12/17 07:31 AM
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Initially her attraction for you was high enough that she would make time for you. Whether that's cutting time short for her friends, moving plans, etc, the point is she MADE time to see you. You did enough wrong to reduce her attraction to you where she's now making lame excuses. It is what it is. Analyze what you did wrong, take it as a learning experience and apply it with a new woman.
/r/askTRP15/12/17 10:52 PM
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This is going to come off as harsh but you need to hear it. You sent a vine that said "I thought you were bae" when she made her excuse. Comes off as weak and needy. You've been on 3 dates with her and you haven't slept with her? Every date after the first that you haven't slept with her your chances of seeing her again diminish. Women that want to see you make time to do so. They are not busy, they just don't want to see you. I know it sucks but it is what it is. Analyze what you did wrong duri…
/r/askTRP15/12/17 10:33 PM
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These are not comfort tests, this is just regular insecurity. No response will shut her up. If she asks you what you think agree and amplify.
/r/askTRP14/12/17 12:04 AM
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This sounds like a comfort test. Give her a little side hug and say don't be silly, laugh it off and change subjects. Comfort tests are actually landmines in disguise if you don't handle them correctly. When a woman feels she likes you more it makes her feel insecure and to try and even the field she'll do her best to get you to admit that you like her as much as she does -- this is a mistake. On the other hand if you give nothing to her she will wilt and really think you're emotionally cold and…
/r/askTRP13/12/17 04:39 PM
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This is why you walk away and mean it. She probably won't contact again. But for your sanity, you have to walk away. Take this as a learning experience. You sound young, there's going to be plenty more trust me. I've seen dark days like this too. Hold fast to those RP teachings and you'll come out of this laughing like a mother fucker.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 07:35 PM
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Attraction is non-negotiable. If she has lost attraction for you, then it's already done. The absolute WORST thing you can do is to try to reason with her why you should still be together. It's clear you have oneitis for this girl, especially with your list of "green flags." Not good. The only chance you have is to just walk away, and communicate to her that it was a great relationship. Whether you feel it or not at that moment act like you both got something great out of it and wish her all the…
/r/askTRP10/12/17 07:22 PM
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You set a definite date and you do not talk to her over social media or text anymore. Texts lead to trouble and the more you text before the date the higher the chance you fuck up and say something stupid. Anytime she reaches out before the date, take your time and reply back with "Hey, just saw this, about to step out for the (blank) tonight, but looking forward to seeing you (blank)." This creates, whether true or not, an allusion that you're a busy guy with possibly other options. I've never …
/r/askTRP10/12/17 07:07 PM
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Probably. The way to avoid this is to make definite dates. I'll be up around 3 This is not a definite date. Saying "around" also confuses the situation and believe me the more diluted the situation becomes the higher the chance she flakes. Next time, set a definite date. Then do not text her anymore.
/r/askTRP10/12/17 06:59 PM
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I wouldn't approach this so specifically. Because you'll drive yourself mad and/or people can sense you're just following a script. The point is to emote less than she with you. Show less interest in her than she is showing for you. That's the goal. With that said, I will throw in I got substantially more interest on various dating apps by having most of my pictures of me not smiling. I have one pic of me smiling and that's it, so I don't come across as too serious.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 03:59 PM
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A couple cardinal rules of texting: Texting is used to set logistics for dates ONLY. The more you text without setting a date the higher the chance you fuck up and say something she takes out of context. Limit your texts between 3 to 5 messages and set a date. Text her... later. The reason why she texted so fast is because she's wondering if you're interested in her. Women are attracted to men that make their feelings unclear. So respond to her text later. Go do something productive and text whe…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 03:20 PM
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I agree with AlmightyFin. It's apparent she has a high level of attraction for you and you're doing everything right by having her contact you more than you are for her. However, her bitchiness about you not responding right away is indicative of some serious insecurity. Be careful if you decide to continue forward. As your options grow tests like these will weed out the good ones from the bad ones. Girls do this same thing to guys to find one's that are really masculine and in their own frame. …
/r/askTRP04/12/17 01:48 AM
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Dude... everything you're saying screams neediness. I hate to break it to you but you're looking at this in the entirely wrong frame. You need to read the sidebar and really understand that there's a lot wrong with your entire outlook on this girl. Don't take it personally, but there's a lot of beta in this post. I messaged her again....from late afternoon to when I went to sleep Text or facebook messages should only be used to plan dates and logistics. show her I really am interested. Epic fail…
/r/askTRP03/12/17 11:37 PM
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I think this is an interesting question. Personally, I've found that both usually get me the same reactions at the end of the day. Meaning if I focus on making her cum, she's still cuddling and blowing up my phone later on. If I don't care and just do what I want then I get the same exact reaction. I've settled on expending less energy and just doing what I want to do and not worrying whether she does or not. I don't ask her if she did nor do I care. Regardless, with a high attraction, she usual…
/r/askTRP02/12/17 04:54 AM
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This worked by the way. She seemed pretty excited to meet this week lmao thanks
/r/askTRP27/11/17 05:13 PM
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Then she is entirely way too comfortable in this. No sex = no relationship. Period. So what other elements of dread are you using? Are her hypergamous red lights going off? Nope, because she's not wanting to fuck you. Are you lifting, are you being better, are you getting looks from other women? etc, etc. And if you tell me you are then I'm going to tell you that's bullshit.
/r/askTRP27/11/17 05:39 AM
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In a long-term relationship, cancelling a dinner date or rejecting eating out is only half-way there. Doing both of those in a negative way can come across as passive-aggressive which is gay and gets you nowhere. However, removing your presence is the right step forward. Next time she rejects your sexual advances and tries to cover it up by wanting to cuddle, simply get up and in a non-butthurt way start doing something you've been needing to do. Pay bills, work on a project, head to the gym... …
/r/askTRP27/11/17 04:57 AM
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Absolutely. However, wishing for your idealism of women to be true is what got you here in the first place. Never forget that. You can never go back to your blue pill idealism now that you know their true nature. I absolutely wish women were not the hypergamous, opportunists that we now know they are. The pragmatism of women and their incredible ability to hide it is absolutely astounding. We all want to rest and relax and forget our burden of performance, but the moment you do is the moment you…
/r/askTRP27/11/17 04:36 AM
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Interesting. I enjoy the Friday night dates as it seems we're both more relaxed knowing we don't have work tomorrow. What's your experience with Mon-Thurs? I'm not opposed to it, I just have the girl tell me when she's free then I choose a day that matches mine. That way we're not playing ping pong just to find a good day. The dates I have set during the week have gone well, but seem to go a little better Friday. What's your attitude when setting and meeting her during the weekday? Thanks.
/r/askTRP22/11/17 04:25 PM
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I like it. Very solid point, about not sure I was going to hear back. Definitely would be a misstep saying that.
/r/askTRP22/11/17 06:05 AM
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I'm not 30. I'm 26. Look at Wheysteve's comment, Rollo addresses this that 30ish is when a man starts to really hit his prime. Again, I have no idea because I'm not 30. What I will say is that even at 26, with a good job, my own house, my life in order, and healthy I am having waaayyyy more success than when I was 21 with women. I can't wait to be 30 if this increases, I'm sure you're getting even more indicators than I am though. So yea, I think things do get better as we age.
/r/askTRP22/11/17 05:28 AM
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Stories like these are why I come back here once a week to remind myself to never get married.
/r/TheRedPill08/04/17 04:02 PM
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If we're going to ignore what "touches your heart" etc lol, then you need to approach this in what gives you more opportunities. Obviously, that is the guitar. However, no one will care if you're the best guitarist in your city, unless you can prove that in front of other people, or more specifically, prove that to her in front of other women. So being part of a decent band would help. If we lived in the 17th century France, then go with the violin.
/r/askTRP02/04/17 08:44 AM
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