jesustan1989 Archive

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1	Men are looking for casual sex and fwbs whether you want to hear it or not. Let's get to your main point first since that's what you're really upset about. There's no problem with undesirable dudes settling. They just need to be honest with themselves instead of lying to themselves that they are looking for commitment and emotional connection when what they simply are doing is coping. Nothing wrong with that. I never said that was the problem. Simply pointing out facts. Done Now, let's get to your point of 80% of divorces initiated by women. That doesn't actually dispro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 08:02 AM
1	Why would a high effort man want a low effort woman? They don't want those women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 06:21 AM
4	Women cannot understand how men can feel horny for women they don't even like Yeah speak for yourself. Im certainly not wasting my time with a girl i don't even like or find disgusting just for some pussy. Have some self respect, jesus christ.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 06:11 AM
1	Men are looking for casual sex and fwbs whether you want to hear it or not. Im not a woman. Im a man so i know how men think from an inner circle. Guys who can't get laid do not WANT commitment. They do NOT emotionally invest or commit. They simply SETTLE until opportunity comes their way, then they will act out what they WANT when they have the resources to do so. That's why many dudes leave their wife/gf for the woman that they really WANT or the lifestyle that they really WANT when they finally have the resources to do so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/11/23 06:05 AM
2	Men are looking for casual sex and fwbs whether you want to hear it or not. Most men are "innocent" because most of them can't get easy access to sex. Give them the resources and see how innocent they are. Them claiming innocence is just a coping machenism because they know that they couldn't get sex even if they tried. I know many men that bash women for sleeping around, but given the same opportunity, they would do tue same think.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 07:02 PM
3	Guys with girlfriends, How did you land them? I've been in 3 serious relationships. One was in high school, one in college and one after college. I think we just vibed well together. There weren't really anything outstanding about me I don't think. We shared many interests and we were also in the same environment and saw each other regularly. It wasn't anything special or complicated. Shits really just happened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 01:14 AM
1	Women who exclusively pursue wealthier, higher-status men should accept the consequent perception as commodities, since their affection appears contingent on financial acquisition No shit?	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 01:10 AM
2	Western Women are the luckiest I mean I have heard of passport bros, but not passport sis. So I don't think this is at all a real issue.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 01:00 AM
–	Would you plan a family with a woman you suspect to cheat on you? I am a man, and no, I would not have a baby with a woman that I think is secretly fucking someone else. I also don't understand that whole paternity test mindset either. Granted, I used to think that the paternity test made sense when I was younger. I mean I'm not the one given birth so how would I know the baby is mine right? However, being in a few serious relationships with good women, I realized that a good woman will never make you feel like you need to do a paternity test. It's not even at…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 12:43 AM
4	Q4A, on preselection by men: Where exactly can a 25+yo man find a 25+yo woman who is both of a good character AND single? They are everywhere. If you are a man with good character you will attract women with good character. As a matter of fact, You will only see women with good character. If you consistently only see women with bad character, that just means the world is a mirror reflecting back at you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/11/23 11:01 PM
1	Realistically, is the only way to avoid becoming a betabuxx achieved by simply staying single until you've had enough partners that you feel "qualifies" you to no longer be one? Like i said, you don't have them. You think that self improvement is a process with a finish line. It's not. It is continuously. Like staying in shape. You Don't go to the gym for 2 years to get fit and think that you can lay on the couch again and stay fit. You are not regularly setting goals for yourself and achieving them. You are not regularly identifying obstacles in your life and overcoming them. An obvious example from your previous reply, financial stability. How can you feel like a self…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 06:03 PM
1	Realistically, is the only way to avoid becoming a betabuxx achieved by simply staying single until you've had enough partners that you feel "qualifies" you to no longer be one? You don't have that	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 09:10 AM
0	Realistically, is the only way to avoid becoming a betabuxx achieved by simply staying single until you've had enough partners that you feel "qualifies" you to no longer be one? You build self esteem by self improvement. Learn something, build something , create something . Learn to woodwork, learn a new language, learn to program, paint, draw, do a sport, go to the gym etc. Just do something with your life. Regularly set goals for yourself to achieve so that your brain knows what it feels like to feel accomplished. Identify obstacles in your life and make a plan to overcome them one by one. Build up small insignificant success to large significant ones. Have a history …	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 05:25 AM
-1	Realistically, is the only way to avoid becoming a betabuxx achieved by simply staying single until you've had enough partners that you feel "qualifies" you to no longer be one? Gtfo with this alpha chad bullshit. You want a whore that sleeps with anyone then go persue whores. If you want a good woman then yeah, news flash, you're gonna have to put in the work. Words of advice, don't say things like betabuxxx when talking to women, you can't even imagine how cringe that shit is to everyone around you.	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 05:10 AM
4	Realistically, is the only way to avoid becoming a betabuxx achieved by simply staying single until you've had enough partners that you feel "qualifies" you to no longer be one? Your self esteem is your problem and yea you do need to fix that first. There are many kind of women in the world. I think that you are seeking approval from these women that you don't even respect and want love from. You say you are bitter that they didn't want you when you were younger, and now that they are becoming desperate, they finally picked you. It's difficult to see but you shouldn't even entertai attentions from these women in the first place. You can't tell me that there aren't women…	/r/PurplePillDebate	06/11/23 01:21 AM
3	Once a woman stops being attracted to her husband, and the bedroom is dead, there is no reviving it. If she's not attracted to you because you have gotten fat and stopped showering, doing housework is not going to fix the problen. People need to talk to each other and figure out the problem instead of asking for dating advice on the internet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 10:39 PM
6	Being in a position where you can pursue women is a privilege What do you think people in the past do to meet the opposite sex? On the moon? It's the same of these places that you listed. Most people meet and date those that are in their vicinity. You can absolutely meet women and get to know them in any of these places. The privilege is not in how many places you can meet women, but perhaps in how healthy your self image is. No, im not a boomer, I'm in my mid 20s.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 10:14 PM
3	What is the Your Ranking of What's Important in a Relationship? Trust. This is the most important. I need to know that they are in my corner. Shared goals. We need to be working towards the same future Chemistry. Of course you want to enjoy being with them as well.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 10:02 PM
2	Does experiencing love for the first time in your mid 20s feel the same as it would have if you experienced it in your teens? I don't think it will feel the same. As kids, your hormones are on a roller coaster, you have less life experience and you're impressionable. Everything is new to you and emotions feels more powerful. As adults, you have experienced more of life, of different people, different situations, different emotions. You might not have experienced romantic love, but everything else that you have experienced will help you be more grounded and levelheaded as a person instead of chaotic and naive as a teen.…	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/23 06:47 AM
2	Every Girl I have Casually Slept With Was With Another Guy at the Time of Penetration That makes more sense	/r/AllPillDebate	04/11/23 06:36 PM
1	Men being the initiated should give them the right to be entitled or they are in a huge disadvantage Just hire a prostitute if you want to buy sex. The fuck you doing all this dating shits for?	/r/AllPillDebate	04/11/23 09:25 AM
2	Don't know what to say on this 👀👀👀 Is he loaded or what?	/r/AllPillDebate	04/11/23 09:15 AM
-1	Every Girl I have Casually Slept With Was With Another Guy at the Time of Penetration Yall are casually sleeping, she's not your fucking girlfriend. When she's your girlfriend then you can bitch about it. "im casually sleeping with this girl with no commitment and she's also sleeping with other dudes, what a whore" you sound like a clown.	/r/AllPillDebate	04/11/23 09:12 AM
10	It’s telling that even girls well past their prime think they can afford to be insanely selective Well if these old bitches still don't want you then you must be a real catch.	/r/AllPillDebate	04/11/23 09:09 AM
0	Dating apps and the internet should have been a blessing rather than a curse. Dating apps are souless and any dude with balls should be talking to women in real life.	/r/AllPillDebate	04/11/23 09:07 AM
1	The argument that most black pill/red pill/Puas make dating too complicated, because all you gotta do is "Treat women like their human" is a lazy defense. Yes, that's how most people develop their social skills. And in most cases, that is sufficient. However, there will be that population that is just genetically deficient in that area, an example is autistic people. Some will be able to work through it themselves with enough time, however, there are some that just can't do it themselves, and these people need professional help. If they can't afford it, that sucks, but that's life. There are people who can't afford food. If you genuinely do not ha…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/23 08:57 AM
2	The argument that most black pill/red pill/Puas make dating too complicated, because all you gotta do is "Treat women like their human" is a lazy defense. If you are socially inept, your priority should not be dating. It should be going to therapy and learning how to communicate with people. There are professionals that can teach you these things, the way that therapists teach autistic children how to regconize emotions and react appropriately. Once you have improved on your social ineptitude, then you can apply the saying "treat women like they are humans". That means getting to know the person as who they are, and not as a potential hole for you…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/23 07:45 AM
–	Would you be ok covering all expenses for a relationship partner if they lose their job ? Im a man and I like women. Yes, i would be ok with being the sole provider. We probably would have to do a lot of budgeting because I don't make bank. There's no time limit really. I don't mind being a provider, what I do ask for in my partner is for them to keep moving forward in life and not becoming a couch potato. I don't want to be with someone who is depressed with no goals and plans for the future. I only date people that I deem fit for marriage, so yes I would provode for my girlfriend a…	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/11/23 07:24 AM
1	Do women's taste in men change when they are on birth control ? I have heard that some women lost attraction to their partner when they got off the pill	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 09:50 PM
0	Men are not more volent for not getting sex. Most volence against women come from men they are partnered with, not from virgins men men are not more violent for not getting sex. The men that think they are entitled to sex are violent when they don't get it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 09:48 PM
5	CMV „As a Man you should never be emotional/weak infront off you‘re Girl“ is one of the most brutal reality’s that a Man has to accept. Either he chose the wrong woman, or he projects these assumptions onto her and doesn't bother to find out whether she would actually loose respect for him or not. Some people are just afraid to face the truth.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 09:42 PM
1	CMV „As a Man you should never be emotional/weak infront off you‘re Girl“ is one of the most brutal reality’s that a Man has to accept. In a lot of cases, the way many dudes find girlfriends is to approach a hot girl and then adjust themselves to fit her standard. They don't think about what they want from the girl in terms of character. So it's not surprised that a lot of dudes are in relationships with women who don't care about them as humans, but just as what they can do to please her. In that case, they need to recognize their role in their own unhappiness and change it. Or they can continue to complain, in which case, noth…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 09:38 PM
1	Age gap relationships - two weights, two measures I did change, perhaps not quickly in terms of tangible metrics like money, looks, skills. But hugely in terms of emotional maturity. If I were to have a conversation with my 27 year old self I probably would want to pull my own hair out. If we're talking about when I was 20-25, I was an absolute idiot who thought that he knew everything, and that's the mentality that I see in most early 20s people that I talk to. I cannot date someone like that. Not that there's anything wrong with them, but jus…	/r/MensRights	03/11/23 09:18 PM
–	Is dying alone really such a bad fate and is dating really that important? It's not a horrific fate. But some people don't see that. Some people are so damaged that they would rather be in any shitty relationship than to be single. Usually these people don't have any meaningful connection to other humans outside of that relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 05:13 AM
3	Men shouldn't stop saying "not all men" until more women are willing to say it themselves I don't engage in conversation with obvious ignorant and extreme views. If someone truly believes that it's "all men" or it's "all women", then it's best to stay away from them for your peace of mind. Engaging in "you do this and I'll stop this" is a waste of time because clearly neither side intends to come to a mutual understanding.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 03:01 AM
1	What advice would you give your sons to help them have stable healthy families in the West? I would spend a lot of time with them doing different activities. I would foster their strength/talent/interest. I would just show them unconditional love so that they can grow up to have good self esteem and know that their worth is not based on materialistic things.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:55 AM
1	Do you think men bring the more, same, or less to the table as they did in the past? You win, good job	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:50 AM
0	Age gap relationships - two weights, two measures I'm 29, and I am hugely different from when I was 27. I can't even be interested in anyone younger than 25. So yeah, I can relate to the age gape issue. If both parties love each other and it's legal then live and let live. I personally can't see why a guy/woman in their 30s+ would be romantically interested in a <25 year old.	/r/MensRights	03/11/23 02:48 AM
1	Q4M: Would you break up with a girl because she's boring? If I find a woman "boring", I wouldn't date her in the first place.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:31 AM
2	Do you think men bring the more, same, or less to the table as they did in the past? My answer didn't list women because the question is about men.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:27 AM
3	What has been the reaction when you tell the person you're on a date with you're splitting the bill. What has been your reaction when you're told the bill is being split? I have always paid the whole bill because I like to take care of my date. I feel that it's a privilege to pay for the whole thing. Women these days have their own jobs and can pay their way, so if they let me pay then I feel honored. If my date insists to split the bill, I will oblige because whatever makes her comfortable, but I would never ask her to do so.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:20 AM
2	Do you think men bring the more, same, or less to the table as they did in the past? Everything in nature is always seeking a state of equilibrium and so is human relationship. Whatever the future looks like is hard to tell, but we can be sure that it will be a state of equilibrium.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:11 AM
–	[Q4All]What are your thoughts on “Foodie Calls”? I believe taking advantage of someone is a shitty behavior. I think that these women are terrible people. To avoid situations like this, get to know the woman first so you get an idea of her character. I assume that in most of these foodie call scenarios, these guys just ask out whoever they think is hot. They don't even know these women personally. I'm not saying that they deserve it, but they are putting themselves at risk for these foodie call.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 02:01 AM
4	Q4A: Are women more responsible for divorces? If the statistic is true than sure, I guess women initiate divorces more. I don't know what people would consider acceptable circumstances for divorces, but if you're unhappy, then you can either take action and change, or stay and die the way you are. I suppose most women choose to take actions and most men don't.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 01:54 AM
1	What does emotional availability mean? To me, it means that you are ready to take on the responsibility and the commitment, pretty much you are "ready for the job". In terms of dating, someone who is emotional available is someone who is ready to take the next steps.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 01:50 AM
38	CMV „As a Man you should never be emotional/weak infront off you‘re Girl“ is one of the most brutal reality’s that a Man has to accept. From a rational point of view, I wonder why these guys would date women that they can't be vulnerable with. I can sit here and tell you that there are women out there who will support you emotionally in your time of vulnerability, but if you believe that that's just not possible for the female nature, then I don't know what else to say. Have you ever thought that perhaps your approach to finding a life partner should be re-examined? Instead of settling down with any pretty face, or anyone that g…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/11/23 01:40 AM
16	Do you think men bring the more, same, or less to the table as they did in the past? I think that it's not correct to say all men or all women, but, I believe that in general, both men and women are bringing more to the table. Despite what a lot of online rhetoric are like, I think the population is moving in a positive trend. A lot of men are becoming more aware of social issues, inequality, they are also more emotionally literate. A lot of men are not hesitant to do their share of child rearing and house chores. There will always be a portion of the population that are resista…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 08:23 PM
1	The biggest mistake of passport bro The world is a big place. Unless you live in some remote village with the population of 100, there will always be enough women/men out there for you. I believe that it's a good idea for everyone to travel and see the world if they have the means to do so. Too many people are stuck in one place and they have very limited perspective on the world. Don't go oversea to find a girlfriend, just go and experience life outside of your little town.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 07:57 PM
–	Is this sort of thing creepy or cute? As a guy, I think that this is not ideal to approach women. If you are total strangers, Have some balls and go up to her so she can see your face, your body, your energy. Note leaving is fun and cute if you're already in a relationship or if you already know each other well. I would think it's creepy to get a note from some stranger that I don't know. I'm here thinking about someone is watching me and I don't even know it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 07:50 PM
–	What incentive someone who belongs to a negatively stereotyped group like men has to behave well or he's still going to be judged by the stereotype? the reaction to good men and bad guys are not the same. If you think that it's the same, you need to get out more. The real world if not the echo chamber that is the internet.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 07:41 PM
1	Women overestimate the times they are being "hit" by men And you magically know all these to be true and generalize that to "women" as a population.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 07:39 PM
–	Being alone is often worse than a boring or unloving relationship Not being in a romantic relationship doesn't mean that you're alone. Humans are social animals. We want to belong to a community. You can be single and have the most fulfilling life. You can have a partner and be the most lonely. People can't always walk away from an unhappy situation because there are a lot of other logistic things involved, like kids, finance..etc. If you have nothing and no one that you can connect to outside of your romantic relationship, then yes, perhaps staying is the bet…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 07:37 PM
1	Is it over for autistic or socially inept guys, or can they still do something about it? What are the most effective ways they can improve their social skills and personality? Autistic? No. Socially inept? Yes.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/11/23 07:30 PM