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Yeah I can attest. My teachers (both male and female) would be a lot harsher on the boys for punishment and even beat us sometimes (some indian parents encourage beating their children) but no matter what the girls did they were let go. At max, a girl was told to stand outside the class. I suspect teachers also gave them better marks because many girls would cry if they didn't score well.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/25 10:12 AM
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The prize? Carrying conversations? Bringing resources? It's not a game. If the girl is not taking any effort in a conversation then you also shouldn't. If a girl is not bringing anything to the table why are you chasing her? I have seen guys including me chase those girls who treated me badly and only with time did I understand that there were other girls too. Who will help me carry the conversation as well as the metaphorical shopping bag. I don't want to be the prize. I want us to be happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/08/25 07:33 AM
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Nope. My friend gets more like than I have ever had but is never approached in real life. He isn't good looking but knows how to take photos.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/25 08:33 AM
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I guess that's how cheaters think too. Not saying you are cheating but it's the same rationale given by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/25 12:53 PM
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question is literally supposed to make you say more words. Are you sure? I mean unless you are 8, you should know that some questions are downright disrespectful and shouldn't be answered. Like the one you asked. You're the one calling women who like me not decent even though you don't know them. Obviously. Kinda like how i would call a woman who likes racist guys as characterless. I don't know them but from their likes I can deduce that much. I'll give you another example about how i would not …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 12:19 PM
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I know your statement is supposed to shut me up, because of burn! but it just shows how little respect you have for your elders or someone's parents. It shows a lack of respect, low moral compass and lack of mental capacity to think clearly. You may think you had a pretty nice comeback but if you retrace your steps you would see that i explicitly pointed out the hypocrisy from every para of your posts. You couldn't even retort with a counter point without putting words in my mouth. On top of tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:41 AM
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I never said it settles it. You seem to jump to conclusions very quickly which kind of explains your post. Don't put words in my mouth. Also, I don't understand why men like you would say things like - leave women alone they aren't worth it. I mean it's clear no decent woman is going to be attracted to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 11:29 AM
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Settles what?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:52 AM
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I think this thinking is the main cause of the collapse of the dating world. People on both sides focusing on the more vocal and visible sector of the opposite gender. Why are men chasing women who treat them like shit? They can be as entitled, self centered and superficial as they want, and men will still chase them. Not true. Even with the lack of success with women i still didn't take any shit from women. If any girl tried to ghost me and then tried to come back i would politely kill the conv…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/03/25 10:44 AM
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Why do so many males view these as insulting? It's a common fact that women like the conventional "bad" boys. Although that may change as they grow up but when they start dating they go for specific guys. These guys who get their heart racing. So, telling a guy that you don't make my adrenaline rush, you don't make my heart race, you don't make me feel the thrill but since the guy who does all that isn't going to be stable, respectful and supportive I'm going to be with you, isn't exactly a comp…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 08:28 PM
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English is not my first language. I'm having trouble understanding your point. Could you please elaborate on why not saying in the first sentence is all right but not in the second one?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 06:14 PM
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How is that different? You saying being called a husband material automatically means you find that guy attractive and it needs not be said. Then, how is not saying I love you any different? Doesn't being in a relationship automatically mean you love that person? What is the difference?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:54 PM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:45 PM
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There is a difference between dating and matrimony.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:31 PM
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That's like saying i would never say I love you to my partner because why else are we in a relationship?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 05:31 PM
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Nope. You don't get to decide what a person considers a compliment. It's like saying a girl I'm glad you aren't pretty otherwise you would have a bitchy attitude.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/25 04:04 PM
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It happened to me and yes I did the worst thing i could have done. I asked a girl out for a coffee. Never again. Worst years of my life. Constant teasing and bullying.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/02/25 07:57 AM
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I order online.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 06:31 AM
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After trying which ever fits best, no?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/25 05:48 AM
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I can't be mad at her because whatever she did is nothing compared to what i became after. For a brief moment after Covid, i used to call myself incel and say shameful things. All because I was rejected by a girl. And funnily enough I saw this instagram reel today and I feel why I didn't see this 4 years ago. Link: https://www.instagram.com/reel/DFGdHbdieRW/?igsh=MTNxdXZsZ2gwNXNq
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/25 10:58 AM
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If tooting their own horn was an art...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/25 09:17 AM
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She yelled at me in front of everyone. Maybe she was tired of guys asking her out or maybe she thought i meant something else who knows. I only remember one line she had said to me which is the reason I feel ugly and disgusting. She said i should have looked in the mirror before approaching her. Which became a recurring joke. Whenever someone wanted to pick on me they would say that exact lines. Sometimes I laughed with them but it always stung. Being not good looking enough for anyone. The wors…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 06:38 PM
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When not approaching someone you know like a friend of a friend, you don't know anything about that person. The fact that you say women are able to gauge a man's personality from a small conversation doesn't explain why there are abusive guys who get dates. Also, no one simply asks out anyone without making small conversation. Life is not tiktok. The reason you felt those feelings was because he was good looking. You were attracted to him and found his personality also attractive. If a guy like …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 01:24 PM
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When a guy is approaching a woman, how is she able to gauge the traits you mentioned? If I'm asking you on a date how do you figure out what values we have in common? What you are talking about is after the guy has approached and both are on a date where they can get to know each other. But when the guy is approaching the only metric for women is looks. And sadly as someone said, only 1% are found attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:13 PM
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What does it matter what people call it out as? I had to endure the teasing and bullying for 3 years of my college life. My dating life got shot behind the barn because of a meltdown of one girl.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:05 PM
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I used to wish that something like this would happen to me but to be Frank I don't want this. I want genuine un-conditional love and thank God I found her. Now I don't care how ugly I'm. Even though I don't believe her when she says I'm good looking, I don't question her because she may think I'm insecure.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 12:03 PM
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I once approached a girl in college. She was a friend of a friend. We were working on some college fest. Not in an overly flirty way, just asked her for a cup of coffee if she was free. That blew up in my face. I was the social outcast thereafter. The teasing and bullying that followed was just too much. I was so happy that Covid came in so it would stop. A few of my friends still tease me about it. And while I have gained some of my confidence back I don't think I'll ever be able to approach a …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:59 AM
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I wonder how many men want to be approached and how many men are getting approached and are women approaching men at all?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/01/25 11:45 AM
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I never said I don't like myself. I said I'm not very good looking and it's fine not everyone is. But pretending that you look like a model isn't going to make you one. They will perceive me as they will. I can't make any judgement because everyone is different and they might perceive me differently.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/01/25 05:21 AM
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What? You mean to say that women have no agency? They can't think for themselves and take cues from you on how you should be treated? I think women treat you on how they perceive you. If they like you they treat you well.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 06:57 PM
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I don't know why it would sound like that? I have improved a lot as I said. I am perfectly capable of talking to women I'm not interested in. I would say I have more girl friends than before. But it's still tough for me to stick out compared to others. I'm not very good looking and you may deny it but physical attraction is important and even if I can become attractive emotionally it's something that holds me back.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/25 05:05 PM
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Tbh if I hadn't persevered with the dating app when I got a single like in 6 months. I don't think i would have a girlfriend today. I don't think I'm a guy any girl would like without completely knowing me. I'm not very attractive or outgoing. My interests are very simple and bland, for lack of a better word. I'm not able to talk to any girl I'm interested in (I can talk with women I'm not interested in easily) And, I had given up on finding someone and my profile was active only because of a be…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/25 02:30 PM
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I doubt it. The men already don't like only fans and that's online. . There’s so many pros. Hot women, cheap and less time consuming There are so many cons but I'll only list one STDs. That should scare away any normal human being.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:02 AM
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Algorithms tend to show you content you most likely engage with, That's certainly not true. I don't know why I'm bombarded with Sydney sweeney posts. /s
/r/PurplePillDebate16/01/25 07:00 AM
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People dont have excess to celebrities. Thats why Its different then a coworker. How does it matter if they have access to celebrities or not? Do you not trust your partner because if you do, why is there a limit on access? Why would you be okay with your partner fantasizing about a celebrity? This means that you are ok with men watching half nude models on instagram since there is no access. These models won't reply to dms. No I dont think its better to fantasize about a real person. No i meant…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:36 AM
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What about not causing the harm part? I don't believe these would cause harm. Also, you didn't mention the celebrity part? How is fantasizing about a celebrity any different from work? Also, wouldn't it be worse that your partner would rather get off to an imaginary person who isn't real?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 10:06 AM
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doesnt involve real people. I believe you would be okay with your partner jacking off to onlyfans then? Or fantasizing about someone from movies or work?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 09:11 AM
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Why not?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 08:32 AM
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Does that include literary porn?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 07:07 AM
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Most of the comments here say that women taking initiative would make them assertive or less feminine which is absolute crap. Taking initiative doesn't mean out right asking the guys for a date. Taking initiative means letting the guy know that she likes him or is interested in him. I know some would say women already do that but I think only a small minority of guys understand these "hints". I don't think I ever received any hints from anyone including my current gf. There was no moment where i…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/01/25 04:05 AM
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For women it’s drinkable water in swamp lands. At least for online dating. As a guy who couldn't find a single match in over 1.5 years with premium and many tactics and even profiles curated by women, I can tell you that it's like finding water on Mars.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/01/25 02:03 PM
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You must follow rule 1&2
/r/PurplePillDebate03/01/25 10:55 PM
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I don't think feminism has anything to do with it. In my case, i could never approach a woman I liked. I could easily strike up conversation with women I had no romantic interest in. I could also talk to women whom I found sexually attractive, but knew that they were out of my league, easily. I only had trouble with women I genuinely liked. So, I never had a girlfriend till now. I downloaded the old bumble. And got to swiping and it took me a year and half to get 1 date. And surprisingly, we are…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/01/25 03:33 PM
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Is Islam a bird? 🤣 Jokes aside. As the world moves away from petroleum. Any importance Islam has will fade. The only countries in the world which have Islam and a stable authority are Saudi, UAE and maybe Turkey. The rest of the countries are in ruins. Afghanistan, the most muslim country, is in chaos. I have no hate for Muslims mind you. Many of my friends are muslims. I only hate Islam as a religion and those who blindly follow it. Your comment above is a perfect example. You didn't even conde…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 10:28 PM
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Nothing would fly with islam. It didn't fly 1500 years ago nor did it fly in France in 2015, or on the September 11 attack in the US or 26 November in Mumbai. No other religion has attacked, caused more destruction or misery. Not just to other faiths but to themselves. I hate almost all religions but I have a special place for Islam. The only thing I admire about it is how it brainwashes people. How people can be so stupid as to tie explosives to their body and go kill innocent people. How musli…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 05:15 PM
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Islam is the worst. Its entire foundation is based on suppressing women. It's also not good for the general population.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/24 01:29 PM
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Keep us posted
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/24 03:30 PM
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You should watch a movie called "good will hunting". The movie in part discusses this topic. The flaws don't mean you would lose interest or attraction. My first crush had crooked teeth. It didn't make her attractive to others but it did to me. I hope one day you feel vulnerable enough with someone to see that you yourself are not perfect and it's not a requirement to become perfect.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/11/24 10:37 AM
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What? The commenter literally only made two comments one was a question and another was an observation. The commenter never said this is evidence for anything.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/11/24 04:03 AM
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Doesn't mean it will work for everyone or even most of guys.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:22 PM
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You are quick to beliy OPs theory? I would say YT would rank higher on trust scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:21 PM
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😂😂😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:19 PM
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That's the most bullshit argument. Has OP conducted a survey before declaring that red pill is the best way for men in dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:17 PM
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What gym are you going to? Every gym I have been to has had more fit people than fat/skinny people.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:16 PM
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I don't think so. The red pill demands a lot from a person to become successful. Being a millionaire, as Andrew Tate has mentioned many times, is not easy. Only 1.5% of people in the world are millionaires. Also, there is no data of "jacked" dudes. So, I don't know what percentage is that. I would make a healthy guess, no pun intended, that around 20% of the population goes to the gym regularly. The interaction of these two sets would be even less. If you check the success vs. Effort then the bl…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/24 08:15 PM
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But it's more rare.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 08:24 AM
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even conventionally attractive women get rejected sometimes By conventionally attractive guys i would assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/24 06:22 AM
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Wtf? Can you write a complete sentence?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 01:28 PM
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But I don't understand how does porn makes men nervous when talking to women?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 12:20 PM
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Porn is one of the main reasons why guys become to nervous speaking to girls, other factors too I watched my first video when I was 16. Porn was not the reason I was nervous to speak to girls.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/09/24 11:55 AM
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or turning down "nice guys". My current gf said that she was so surprised that I had been single for 24 years. She said she was glad she found me. While men think that women reject nice guys but the thing is mentioned also don't go after nice girls. At least I didn't. I looked back at the girls I had a crush on or was attracted to and I came to the conclusion that I only liked women for their looks. I never got to know them so I can't say they weren't nice but the thing is I chose to like them b…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/24 11:46 AM
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You forgot to mention STDs.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 10:26 AM
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Bro I have literally explained everything in the comments above. Your reply to my explanation was that you could read the lines in the same paragraph which makes no sense. Go to a comment where I have said how one is a wish and the other one is blamed.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 09:58 AM
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Have you considered the possibility that maybe you are brainwashed? I mean if you really can't differentiate between the two statements then there is no hope. Be miserable thinking your girl doesn't want you. I never understood how cucking fantasy is so prevalent with Red pill. Well what should I expect from people who follow Sneako and his gang.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/24 03:50 AM
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When men are horny, they’ll bang anything! Anything! They don’t care if you’re a cunt they want that sweet sweet pussy. Speak for yourself buddy. Not me.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 12:04 PM
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I don't understand. Are you mocking yourself?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 11:49 AM
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What? You understand that blaming your girl because insecure is very different from having a healthy relationship value. There is nothing wrong with wanting your partner to be monogamous but there are many things wrong with thinking that your partner is going to leave you because of your ideology. The first line is wrong because you are just guessing that she is thinking about her ex. Unless they have given you reason to think like that it is simply stupid to blame them. Kinda like.how you are i…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:59 AM
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You really think that "Even if you get a girl, she's always going to be thinking about her ex", "She's only with me for validation" or "she's just settling until she can find someone better". And What's so wrong with wanting a partner that only has eyes for you? Are the same?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 10:45 AM
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Men now live in fear that at any moment their woman can fire up her Hinge account, or respond to a dm on IG, and can find a hot guy to fool around with within days or even hours. Bro, why would a woman who wants to fool around with a hot guy be with a guy who isn't hot considering she can easily get any guy according to you. You may say they won't be exclusive with her and other red pill lingo like rotation etc. if non exclusivity was a deal breaker for her why would she go back to that guy or a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/24 06:11 AM
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You won't find a conventionally attractive woman who is mentally healthy, who likes even an average looking guy even if he's richer. But I have. It's very easy to discard others'views by forming your own opinions. I said the women were hot so you say I'm overeating women and underrating men. You say I made a mistake and misunderstood the scenario but have you ever thought that maybe it's you? Women want a guy who would love them not because they do work or bring money or their looks but because …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/24 12:19 PM
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Even though I don't agree with the red pill or black pill or any of those stereotypes this is hard to believe. Maybe you are attractive enough. I mean, 2 proposals even from women you don't prefer is too good. Not many girls approach guys. I mean I had to do all the heavy lifting with my gf. She wouldn't take any initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:53 PM
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Even though I don't agree with the red pill or black pill or any of those stereotypes this is hard to believe. Maybe you are attractive enough. I mean, 2 proposals even from women you don't prefer is too good. Not many girls approach guys. I mean I had to do all the heavy lifting with my gf. She wouldn't take any initiative.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:53 PM
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Tbh, I am sure most women would not approach me but I can see the reason. I don't look after my looks as much as my gf. I'm not very handsome looks-wise. She puts more effort into her looks and dress and skin.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:49 PM
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I have seen hot women lust after ugly guys too. They weren't rich. I don't think we can find any pattern. There will always be exceptions.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/24 12:36 PM
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women like money and women like status and how these standards are impossible for them to attain. Sentiments like "women are gold diggers I have seen minimum wage workers with women, I have seen facially scared guys with women, I have seen short guys with women and I have seen poor guys with women. I dismiss this claim that women want only 10% or whatever percentage of men.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/24 06:02 AM
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So I'm doomed?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/24 01:02 PM
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You know that there can be many reasons for being a single mother? Like the death of her husband, maybe he cheated, maybe he left, maybe she was never married. Most of these are not mistakes.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 06:22 PM
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I can see the alcoholic part but not the single mother part. I mean abstaining from alcoholic person is good but I don't think anything is wrong with being a single mother.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 08:17 AM
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35 women in 2 years Is that supposed to be a boast? If you had just said you were in a loving relationship with your one, it would have meant more.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/07/24 05:04 AM
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He doesn't - if he can't have sex with her, he doesn't want to be around her AT ALL. You ever think it's not only about sex but self respect too? You don't hang around someone who rejects you. It's a recipe for depression. Imagine the guy stays. After sometime she gets a boyfriend and he has to pretend that it's all okay. Is that gonna be a good thing for his self esteem? He's allowed to not want to be around her if he cant' have sex with her. But that does make him a Bad Friend. Not in the leas…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 12:23 PM
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have sex with me, or I won't be your friend anymore" Is sex the whole point of a relationship? So if a guy falls in love with his friend you think he just wants sex and when he tries to distance himself from her because of the awkwardness or saving himself some pain, you assume he is doing this because he was denied sex? According to you, the guy should just suck it up and stay with her no matter how much it hurts him? Rejections hurt. Also, if you stay with your crush it makes it very hard to m…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 11:49 AM
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learn it outside of their household often than not. What's the point of flirting if it's not gonna be reciprocated?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:45 AM
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I can't flirt even if a gun was aimed at my head.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:39 AM
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Honor killings are petty rare and yet are seen as a huge issue. It is a huge issue. All of the middle east and Indian subcontinent suffer from this. Now, I'm sure you know that half the world's population lives there so it is definitely a huge issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 07:15 AM
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No man would choose an ugly woman if he can get a beautiful one. Nope. My brother left his hot girlfriend because she was crazy and very needy. His new girlfriend is not exactly conventionally hot but he seems more happy than he was before. I think you discount how important personality is to a person. The ex was very hot but still it wasn't enough so I don't think anyone settles. Everyone wants someone perfect but no one is really perfect so if you call that settling then I don't think there is…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/24 06:58 AM
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Kinda like Jerry in rick and morty?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 10:02 AM
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as we all know the standards of women combined with their egos make it so only a tiny percent of men have a real chance with them Not really unless you are going for clout chasing Instagram influencers. It seems as though these days you have to be at least 6 feet, chiseled jawline, lots of money and status, and more. I'm not 6 feet. I don't have a chiseled jawline. I don't have a lot of money or status. I am an average guy. I have a girlfriend. And I know you won't believe that these things won'…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/24 07:56 AM
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That doesn't mean that's what love actually is. What is love according to you?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 10:17 AM
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If a woman genuinely loves a guy, she's not going to be concerned about his money, status or whether he buys her stuff or not If a man genuinely loves a guy, he is not going to be concerned by her body count, or be jealous of her male best friend as long as she assures him and doesn't play games, or whether she has a kid from previous marriage. Unfortunately, most women approach dating and relationships like it's a business transaction. From the beginning, the guy expects their date to have sex …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/24 09:58 AM
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Because guys like us never get to date anyone that's actually attractive Ok. I think I found the crux of the problem. I am head over heels for my gf and I have left social media and porn for a long time. I think the majority of people have been desensitized by the advent of social media and pop culture in general and to a fair extent porn. That is why you don't think that a normal girl can be attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 12:44 PM
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Because it seems you don't consider women as humans and just try to use them. If those comments were made by you then you are what is everything wrong with this gender issue. Why would you sleep with someone and not find them attractive? It makes everything you say come under scrutiny because you are very disingenuous.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:08 AM
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My gf actually initiated because I have a hard time starting conversations. So if a girl likes you I guess she will initiate.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/06/24 10:06 AM
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just pick a person that’s “good enough” figuring they will just grow to love them in a “we have a history now” kind of way I think this makes it very tough since then anyone can be good enough. I think i would rather be single than with the wrong person. But I guess other people have other plans.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 06:26 PM
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that’s settling, it’s not horrible. It’s just “meh , good enough” I don't think you should be with someone you consider just good enough. It's not right for your partner. I'm head over heels for my gf and i would want her to be the same for me. If she can't then I don't want to be with her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/24 11:47 AM
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Do you take everything literally? I am saying if she spends the majority of her time with a bunch of dudes I'm jealous of then it's not a healthy relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 07:06 PM
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Not interacting. The original comment mentioned "spending all their time". And that is what I'm commenting for. You can read it up.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:17 PM
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Why wouldn't I be jealous/envious if my partner spends so much time alone with other dudes? Apparently, she values these dudes more than me. But that is not the crux of the problem. The problem is my partner is doing something which I have explicitly said that i have a problem with.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 12:06 PM
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But having a healthy scepticism if your partner spends a lot of time around the other gender and continues to do so even after you have raised your concerns is not good. Being afraid of losing is also not very manly Being devoid of emotions doesn't make someone manly nor having more make them womanly.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/24 11:47 AM
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We are the same age and in my country she is supposed to be married by 28-30 and i can delay it to 34. So she told me that we should not ruin now on the future and if it happens good if not then also good.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 03:26 PM
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Not true. I'm saying i would directly pay the child's needs instead of giving money to my ex. Like we can calculate the cost of school fees, insurance and other things. And for clothes or anything the kid wants, I'll buy it when my kid is with me. This way I make sure that the money is spent on the kid and not trust someone with that money who broke my trust.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/24 10:16 AM
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Because men have been the primary breadwinners for years I thought divorce was a matter between two parties and not the society in general. Also, my point is not for every divorce but the one caused by cheating wives. We all know how the men in the military are taken advantage of. If any one of the partner cheats, then he/she should be punished with fines or alimony. I'm not supporting any physical punishment just a monetary one.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:22 PM
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you have to support your crotch goblins cuz I sure af am not First of all, that is a very wrong way to address a child. Second, in shared custody the kid will be with the father where the father can support the kid in any way necessary. Also, the support should be 50/50. Half by the father and half by the mother. if she can’t afford it and give her visitation. Why should a guy who was cheated give any consideration to the cheater? Also, if someone wants to not pay child support he can simply rel…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:17 PM
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It says only 3% of men receive alimony. If that is the case then I don't know how you could say it's not a biased system.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:06 PM
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I pay the bills of the kid like fees, insurance and clothes. I don't give that money to my ex which she can use any way she sees fit. Also, if it is shared custody then why do I have to pay when I can support the child when he is with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 05:00 PM
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Let's start with no alimony, child support or property. If someone cheats in a business, it is a big offence but not in a marriage?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/06/24 12:39 PM
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I'm telling you I'm a bit big for her. Obviously in books no one faced this issue and every guy fits perfectly. I don't know if you had sex but in real life it's not like porn or movies or books. Hair gets stuck, some positions don't work out, it's messy. So I'm not particularly depressed that our sex is not like what is mentioned in the books.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 07:12 PM
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I don't provide her with anything bro. On the contrary she has lent me money. So your theory is invalid.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:06 PM
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We have sex and most of the time we have to stop mid act. She says it hurts her. Even with lube she asks me to wait for a minute to adjust when I enter her. She then uses her mouth and other ways to finish me off. She makes sure even though she doesn't finish, I do. So I'm definitely not a cuck.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:05 PM
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True. That's what I was trying to say that fiction is one thing and reality is another. Hows the sex? Does she initiate? Do you guys enjoy it? It's been ok-ish. Although most of the time we have to stop mid act because she says it starts hurting. I bought a lube but even with that she says it hurts her. Yes she initiates. We can never keep our hands off each other except in public. I enjoy it and the fact that she can't take it all is an ego boost.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 06:03 PM
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Thats not a fair analogy Ok fair point but Would you buy it if someone watches pedo stuff and says just because i watch doesnt mean i am into it Is also not a fair analogy. She is into dark romance which is legal and not morally wrong since it can be consented meanwhile pedo shit is straight up wrong. your gf not mine Yes true. But for the time being I'll trust her judgement about her wants and not try to become toxic and abusive because frankly I don't think I have it in me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 03:09 PM
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She is not giving me dating advice. She is giving me advice on how i should treat her and if she doesn't want me to be toxic and abusive what is wrong with that? Also, I met her on a dating app setup by a woman friend. So, I think she didn't sabotage me because I finally met someone.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:10 PM
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Not really. Even if she finds some scenes gratifying it doesn't mean she is not into me. I like game of thrones (books) doesn't mean I want to fuck my twin. Use your brain bro.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:09 PM
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you just might want a few others on the side too I used to be an incel. And now that I have finally reformed myself. I don't think I'll belittle my partner just for a few flings. I also want to be a good person and cheating is off the table for me. Dad Bod thing is about. The women don't actually find it attractive and sexy, they think it's kind of repulsive and don't want sex with that guy much... but... he's fucking safe. I am skinny fat which means i am fat from my waist and belly. We have se…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 01:06 PM
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What makes you say that?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:12 PM
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Maybe. But I don't think so. Even if i somehow become the most attractive person in the world i would still want her and she knows that.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 12:12 PM
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books women will pay to consume! My girlfriend strictly told me not to copy the men from the shows/movies and books she likes. She said that they get her heart racing for a moment but in the long run she doesn't want that. Fyi she is into dark romance and all that. Most of her protagonists are toxic and abusive men. She told me scenes from her books which horrified me. I was also aghast that they were written by women. When i voiced my concern that I was not like those guys in books, she said th…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/24 11:25 AM
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course they’re going to be having less sex than bad ones Married men have more sex than these scumbags. And we know good men are more likely to get married. So technically, good men have more sex although with a single parnter.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:28 AM
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I would only ask one thing. Are all men like that or even the majority? If not, then why are you judging all the women based on those who sleep with these guys?
/r/PurplePillDebate08/06/24 04:27 AM
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men during the chase portraying themselves a certain way, and then shifting that once they believe the chase is over. Well you could see the appeal in this approach since it works. There is also an issue here because you mention that guys have to chase. This makes the floor uneven and thus, different portraits are painted to convince the girl. If you actually tried to meet in neutral ground instead of becoming a prize the winner gets after a chase, you would be able to attract an honest guy. My …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/24 07:38 AM
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No. Heterosexual means wanting someone of different sex not different qualities. So according to you, homosexual want the same qualities in their partner because they like the same gender?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 03:57 PM
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heterosexual people look for things they may not have in their partner. Their gender, Tf!? That's what heterosexual means.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:02 PM
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Nope. Statistics show that the majority of people in relationships have things in common like financial condition, previous relationships, values, looks, etc. I can guarantee that a ugly, broke guy would not be able to live in a sustainable relationship with a Victoria secret model with a billion dollars in bank. It takes much more than wanting your partner to have things that you don't have.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:49 AM
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men and women are not looking for the same things when it comes to romantic partnerships People are individuals and have a personal preference rather than having a herd mentality as red pill would have you believe. objective biological reality. Can you explain what is the reality? I'm genuinely curious. it's just leftist/woke pseudo-equality bs Trust me I'm not leftist or woke or want pseudo-equality. I have many opinions that fall in both camps. Also, i support equality for both genders. (See I…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:47 AM
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sexually modest people cheat and divorce less Obviously because they put up with things that a person with some financial independence and a smudge of self respect won't. statistical fact, not medieval voodoo. Please provide a citation. Don't tell me to search it myself because it's your argument. You need to provide evidence for it.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 09:06 AM
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What?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:33 AM
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two-thirds of women have incurable STDs. Nope. Despite the rampant STD epidemic it hasn't infected two thirds of women. excuse promiscuity You realise that a woman can have sex with hundreds of men and not get infected and a woman can only sleep with her husband and get infected. Promiscuity doesn't play any role in the spread of disease.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 02:15 AM
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You are missing the point smartass. It doesn't matter that there are condoms. People are still having unprotected sex. That is the reason why we have so much STD related cases especially in Africa because of the low literacy rate and overall lower standard of living. Check out the hyena men of Malawi. A guy who was job positive had unprotected sex with over 100 of girls and didn't tell them. People are still not using condoms that is the reason not some shame related issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/24 01:06 AM
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Not only hypocritical but also borderline predatory. Wanting someone "pure" is pure mediaeval voodoo stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:35 PM
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its loss has created an incurable STD epidemic. I thought unprotected sex had created the STD epidemic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 06:33 PM
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All standards are valid until you don't demonise those who don't fall into these standards. You want a partner with a low body count, it's fine unless you start abusing/shaming those who do not have it. Also, you shouldn't be hypocritical and should also have a low body count. Ps. I used body count as an example because in this group I have seen that as a major problem.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/24 12:07 PM
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People who struggling with dating offline go to apps So whoever is on the dating app is not good enough? I joined a dating app because I don't want to creep anyone out and only hit on girls I know are interested in me. The likes make it easy that yes, she is interested. I don't have to try and error and make anyone uncomfortable because I know that the girl I matched will be reciprocative. And it's a good sign because dating within the people you know is not good for introverts with a small circ…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/24 07:09 AM
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I don't think it is. I was 6 ft tall and I had to wait 24 years to get my gf who for 2 months didn't know the size of my junk.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 07:07 PM
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Dating apps give women infinite options for sex and relationship Are you it's the apps and not the men who use those apps to like every girl they see? Is the app forcing men to like women? You are desirable, you can have anything you want" I don't think so. Certainly there would be a few women but I don't think everyone gets that message. Also, what is so wrong with that message? I would like to feel I'm desirable and can have anything I want. Do I need to explain why this is harmful to men and …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 05:16 PM
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I don't think they benefit anyone. Neither men nor women. Which is why I want why you think otherwise. Give me some points. So i can know.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 03:17 PM
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those corporations create conditions that benefit women over men. How? I'm curious.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/24 02:52 PM
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celebrity crush is Jason Mamoa, My gf has a crush on BTS singers and I'm Indian. 🥲 Edit: why was I downvoted?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/05/24 09:57 AM
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I assume you would be okay going near a lion after he is well fed. Animals are wild. They kill for no reason. If the bear isn't hungry doesn't mean he won't kill you.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 06:43 PM
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We clearly have different definitions of the word average guy. An average guy does not have more sexual encounters. More than 70% of guys in my college didn't get any girls. The rest of them did. I rest my case.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:51 PM
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I'm not saying you/women do it consciously. But the guys that is attractive to a woman is a small minority. That is why a small number of guys get so many matches on dating apps while the rest get almost none. Speaking from a first hand witness pov.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 05:31 PM
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Maybe you chose guys like that. I'm saying there aren't many guys like that. It is known that girls shun virgins. Obviously the high level guy you chose
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 03:53 PM
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I love doing anything that makes her go crazy. Around 70% of the time I spend is on her. Including playing with her clit. Sorry but not all men are like that. Sweeping generalisation instantly kills your case. How would you even argue if some guy says something similar about women not caring?
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:41 AM
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The majority of men have way less sex than women. It's obvious that they would suck. We have less practice.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:35 AM
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The other issue is that she hasn't left him. Even after getting brushed off many times. What could be the reason? I know why he isn't listening to her because he knows she won't leave him.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/04/24 11:33 AM
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Bro. Delete Instagram. Delete snapchat. Delete Twitter. And even reddit. See how much time you will have to become a millionaire.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:04 AM
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I have seen beggars with wives.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 04:03 AM
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Pretty much. Because purpose and struggle are worth it if the person knows that they can overcome this. Dating is not the same. Guys don't know that even if they do things right, they can overcome the expectations of women. There is no way of knowing that maybe after doing everything right, one day she can just say i miss my ex. Also, for me the worst thing was. The introverted girls were still getting attention from guys but as an introverted guy, I was non existent. No girl came to me like the…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/04/24 03:53 AM
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You didn't understand my point. I'm saying even if she cared about him it doesn't mean she had to say yes to him. The same way he doesn't have to say yes to her request.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 11:13 AM
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So if I get rejected by someone, I can't say no to their requests? I have to do what she asks even though I don't want to? Is that what you are saying? He doesn't owe her a friendship the same way she doesn't owe him a relationship. Your point about caring is like this stupid line - if she cared about him, she would have said yes. I care about the homeless guy that sits around my block. I care about him and give him food sometimes. Doesn't mean I'll give my spare room to him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:15 AM
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He might have actually been motivated to do this task as it allowed him to spend more time with her alone with romantic intentions in mind. Is that wrong? I bring flowers for my gf before because I like her. If she was a friend, i wouldn't. Now that post-lady has made it clear, it is not the concern of the guy to put in efforts where it's not needed. She is not entitled for his protection. He is a good guy. If she was so afraid of walking back home why did she drink so much and go back so late? …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 07:11 AM
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there is still a reason why she is an ex. Yeah the reason is she is not my #1 not even #100. Most beautiful women that you see - Will be the girl I'm with. If I don't find her most attractive what's the point. Mind you I don't only mean physical attraction.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 07:19 PM
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This insistence on being #1 is juvenile. I don't think so. If I'm not her #1 why should she settle for me? Because if she is not my #1 i would not be with her. It's not childish to want someone who wants you and doesn't think about someone else. Because people don't think about their top 5 people just the top1.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/24 12:36 PM
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I care because they care. I don't care about the size of my foot because they don't.
/r/ExRedPill09/02/24 06:57 AM
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Who is saying it doesn't happen? I'm saying the majority is looking for a big one while a tiny minority are into "average" ones.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/24 01:02 PM
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Some women actively prefer smaller or average dicks Some women do. No doubt about it. But I'm talking about the general population. Can you tell me if given the choice most women would not choose a bigger size? multiple Reddit threads that they like something and there are dozens of others echoing that they also like that thing Sorry to burst your bubble but people are not exactly truthful on reddit. You can go to any sub and find over the top made up and straight up BS posts and comments. Not t…
/r/ExRedPill08/02/24 12:52 PM
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I used to think I have a small one but I checked online and guess I'm slightly above average. Both in terms of length and width. Yet, I know it's not gonna be able to satisfy her because it's not gonna be massive. I'm average. Like there are many guys who will have the same if not better.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/24 12:29 PM
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I have heard them talk about how big it was. Joking and laughing. I also had a colleague say that the hot gym trainer might have a big one since he is huge (6.5 ft+) Why didn't she gush that he might have an average sized dick? Why did she feel that his size was an important note when discussing office crushes.
/r/ExRedPill08/02/24 12:27 PM
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Guessing what?
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 03:37 PM
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Care to elaborate? I have never heard anyone say " it's great I have an average salary, or an average car". What makes the size special?
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 03:37 PM
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Try once.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 03:35 PM
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Care to enlighten me?
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 03:34 PM
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Exactly. There will always be a guy who would simp for her. She might even keep him while being with someone just in case things go south.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:34 PM
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I don't know what afbb means
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 01:24 PM
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I guess it's like they would rather have a bigger guy for "fun times" but they know he won't stay with him so they look for a stable option. Obviously not everyone is packing. So they settle. Maybe find another guy when they get bored. Also, yes they prefer bigger. You will never hear a girl smile over how good an average size is. She will be ecstatic if it is big. They say that stuff to be politically or socially correct.
/r/ExRedPill07/02/24 01:05 PM
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Maybe they are afraid of the same thing as you. She could say that she was waiting for your fuck me signal or whatever. Plus, no one gives anyone a fuck me singal. And would you really want a girl who just looks at a random guy and signals him to fuck her? .
/r/PurplePillDebate07/02/24 01:00 PM
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I don't think any girl ever sent me any signal. Maybe I'm not worthy of their signal. Before everyone bashes me and blames me let me just say that I have a very easy time talking to women who are already married or in relationships. I am able to befriend them very easily and no i never think of anything other than friendship. But yeah, I am being myself by not trying to look for anyone to date. And, yes I'm still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/02/24 12:52 PM
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Still doesn't answer my question. Why would women feel threatened by it?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 12:07 PM
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Why do you feel threatened? Would you really want a guy who likes artificial women or ai gf? Imagine no ugly guy like me would bother you by our presence. Edit: I thought the guy I'm replying to was a woman because I didn't check the subtext.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 11:56 AM
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You are not a prize that I have to continuously please so that you will reward me. Relationships are supposed to be a two way street. I gave up after a clear No. Don't tell me shaming me in public was her way of testing if i would still pursue her.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:07 AM
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There was no police but i was acknowledged as a loser because of her outburst. I was constantly taunted by my peers sarcastically "if I wanted to have a cup of coffee". I'm glad college is over. Worst years of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/01/24 07:05 AM
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Literally every girl says that when they are out you should not approach them. Asking someone at a museum out of the blue will land you in the creep zone instantly. The library would be the biggest mistake because everyone goes there to study and asking someone a very vague question might just get you banned.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:12 PM
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It's a classic case of creating a problem. Do you know what i would give to get a single like on any online dating? People don't like what they have. You can easily get many guys on any dating app yet you won't even try.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:08 PM
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I approached one girl who wasn't even a stranger but a friend of a friend and it did not go well. Safe to say I was labelled a creep for asking her out for a coffee. College was the worst year of my life.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:04 PM
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As someone who has experienced both. I would say i totally agree. I was rejected so harshly by a girl that even after 3 years I feel unworthy of love. I feel why would a woman like me? But on bumble Its not the same. I don't have any matches but it doesn't feel like what i experienced in college.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/01/24 02:00 PM
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You can't do anything about it. Asking a woman anything related to her life is considered sexist.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/01/24 06:56 AM
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Being attracted to a celebrity and someone around you are two different things. If you are attracted to my best friend or a random stranger at a bar, you can't say that it is the same as finding a celebrity attractive. The guy clearly said his wife was sexual with other people. I don't think their relationship is doomed or anything but it is not the cup of tea for many people.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 02:31 PM
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I don't have the percentage. I didn't do a survey. Fun means sleeping around or flirting with the intent of getting attention. I would think most women as a guess. Fun means cheating basically.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:55 PM
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Please explain.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:34 PM
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I thought it was pretty self explanatory but here it goes. Women have many check boxes when they are looking for a guy but it depends if she is looking for something casual or marriage. If it's her younger years, they look for guys who are good looking and not how much they earn. The priorities are different. When they get a bit older and mature they look for a guy who will be there when they need them. It's kinda hard to explain but you can watch a TV show called 'sex/life' on Netflix. That wil…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 12:34 PM
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just meant acting a bit flirtatious. If you are okay with your wife flirting with other dudes that's totally your call. I don't have anything against you. You can let her sleep with the guys with whom she flirts and it wouldn't bother me a bit. I also don't have any issues with women being whoever they want to be. If they want to pretend that they dress in short clothes for themselves and not to get the attention of the strangers at the club, they totally have this right. But it also means I hav…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:57 AM
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I do. If you are not attracted to me then what's the point? Wouldn't you want to be with someone who finds you attractive? Otherwise it will feel like I'm a second choice. Only there because her "attractive" first choice didn't want her.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 10:29 AM
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If you are sleeping with someone why bother dating anyone else? If you are not informing them, it's cheating. Tell the guy you are dating that you might be sleeping with someone after the date. See how fast he runs.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 08:11 AM
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I'm not saying women are responsible. Actually I don't really agree with the post. If a woman wants to dress slutty to impress other dudes, there is no need to morally police her. The guy can leave. She can do whatever she wants. The only issue worth mentioning is why there is a need to seek validation from other unknown strangers, or flirt with your best friend?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:40 AM
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Being drunk has a big effect on your decision making. People can take advantage of you. Also, there is this trend among this generation to "explore" which basically means sleeping with any guy you find attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:30 AM
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would she seem sexual around other men sometimes? Sure What does this mean exactly? If she did fool around on me, I would just as soon not know about it. Isn't that just turning a blind eye? Ignorance is not a good thing. People should be held accountable for their actions. If she did fool around, you have the right to know about it. Frankly, if a girl is sexual with other guys while married to you then you have a problem. There could be multiple reasons why she stayed with you. Women tend to ge…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/01/24 04:23 AM
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I lack too much in both directions. Even the things I like aren't that crazy. Still I'm single. Sigh!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:03 AM
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I have seen many women who are way out of the league of a guy but it's mostly because A. He has money, B. She wanted a safer and stable option after enjoying her life. C. The hot guy left her because he knows he can get anyone. Also, it's real life and reddit is different. Here you can feel better about yourself by thinking men are shallow and women aren't because they don't care how you look as long as you have a heavy wallet. inappropriate eye contact, If the guy is hot it's ok. But if he is u…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/01/24 11:01 AM
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Natural selection is a rule that is not a good thing. Imagine letting Steven Hawking die because he didn't fit into this "jungle" rule of letting only the strongest live. Also, natural selection would make women's lives horrible too. Since, they would be judged on their looks instead of their character.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:32 PM
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I'm hoping that you are joking. Right?!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/01/24 02:23 PM
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But the thing is that I realized that some men can't get ANYTHING by being honest. Thats me. Yes I don't get anything by telling the truth. But I don't have a chance to tell a lie too. Help me with this though. Unless I pester a woman, i don't get any reply. And if I gather my self respect, and don't text anyone. There is no chance to receive a text. I'm an introvert so pushing myself into different groups is not an option.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 12:12 PM
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By 30 you will have better options because of 3 reasons. Girls would be done with their "exploring" phase and looking for a guy who will take care of them without cheating. They look for normal or ugly looking guys because they know he won't cheat. Otherwise they would have stayed with the good looking guy but they know that sooner or later something can happen. So ugly rich guy is playing it safe. You would be willing to put up with things because building a good future and career requires sacr…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 11:28 AM
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Imagine if I wrote a post about how I'm afraid my partners would file for divorce and take half my stuff. I wonder, how many will call for my head? Your mutual friend told you one thing and you believed him. Meanwhile the guy who said he will love you regardless of your looks is being ignored? You are creating drama/problem out of the blue. Ye hasn't done anything remotely red pill. Get a therapist.
/r/ExRedPill14/12/23 11:03 AM
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One of my major fears but i can't flirt so not so pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/23 10:21 AM
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I'm gonna try for my parents'sake. But I'm positive that it will end the same way. What can possibly make me attractive to women through arranged things that didn't make me attractive to women I met.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:52 AM
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Tru for everyone except for a few "bad products" like me. But I hope you are right. I'm 24 and it didn't happen. If I had at least one girl like me(not even a relationship) I would have agreed that i could get lucky.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:42 AM
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There always seems to be the problem of “everyone likes you, except the person you want” . Bruh. No one likes me. If they did i wouldn't stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 06:06 AM
1

I have seen so many people cheating on their spouses and I just can't imagine any scenario where you can't even think of getting a test. I imagine that their spouses must be so TRUSTING of them. Trust doesn't tell you whether your partner cheated or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 05:07 AM
1

Bro, you get asked if you are seeing anyone? Thats like a dream for me. For me, everyone just thinks(rightly) who would date this guy. You weren't dealt a bad hand so you can still win if you play it right. But no matter what I do, I'll lose. Girls are only interested in sharing their emotional baggage with me. I'm their guy when her bf fucks up and isn't emotionally available. So I can say If I had good or even mediocre looks i would have at least had some chance. But what can I do. Cry myself …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/10/23 04:51 AM
3

Exactly. Since I'm ugly everyone assumes I can't get a gf. Which is true but how can they tell just by looking at me.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/10/23 08:23 PM
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I once told a girl "friend" that I felt like crying and she called me a oussy. I was so disturbed because she had been so supportive and understanding. Well, needless to say I have zero female friends now.
/r/ExRedPill20/10/23 08:15 PM
5

Maybe you think they are not good looking. If they have a gf/ wive they are clearly better looking than guys like me who never had a relationship. Forget relationship no girl ever initiated a conversation with me.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:29 PM
3

Because looks matter. If a handsome guy flirts with her it will be good. If an ugly guy like me will even try to initiate a conversation it will be considered creepy. Yes only looks won't work and you need to have a good personality but if you are ugly they don't want to know your personality. I don't blame them but it is what it is. Looks matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:28 PM
3

I just get so angry at this. Girls have this amazing power to know if a guy is desperate but not if he is manipulative, abusive, short tempered, and all the other things. You can't get a gf? Go make friends. Oh so you are an introvert. Yeah then go fuck yourself. You don't deserve to be loved. Simply because you don't have xyz no of friends. If women are as shallow as you described them I'm fine being alone.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 07:11 PM
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I fully support that women should choose whom they are attracted to. But I think he is just listing the reason why most guys are single. Women have more options and thus less guys are gonna be selected. It is basically science. If the roles had revered it would have been the same. So while it sucks for me because I am not the prince charming girls look for but there is nothing i can do about it. 🥹
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 12:03 PM
1

Because I tried and it didn't work. Women don't seem to be interested in me. I don't fault them for it but there is nothing i can do to make them like me. Yes someone will say go to gym(I have been going to one for 2 years and played basketball in college, so basically I'm fit), shower(yes I shower every day, I don't smell as far as I know), get some hobbies(I have them) but I'm not the guy they want. I can try the numbers game but I'm not that kind of guy. If a girl doesn't show interest in me …
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/23 11:55 AM
1

I don't know about that but it's definitely harder for guys. Women have the choices and although I understand that they want the best for them it hurts. I'm not good looking so I only have a choice to get rich. If I make enough money maybe some girl will settle for me. It's highly unlikely though. If i could get a gf i would have till now. But meh, I can't be miserable for it. If no girl will ever want me what's the point of crying over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 07:20 PM
1

Don't men feel unwanted and humiliated by being with a woman who is not attracted to them and is only using them as a walking wallet? I feel unwanted and humiliated for being single all my life. Now if there is any chance that i might get to just feel what others feel even if it is fake I'll take it. Even if she is for the money, I'll take it because the other choice is being alone. Now some would say being alone is better than being in a shitty relationship but I want to experience it so i can …
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 08:21 PM
1

Too late. Plus, it doesn't matter if I gave up or not. It's not like women want me. Even if i don't give up, I'll be unwanted. So it's better to end it on my own terms
/r/ExRedPill23/09/23 10:08 PM
1

I never truly joined any cult. I was not so heavily invested in it. I'm sorry you were abused. I am just unlucky enough to not be desirable but I can't let it stop me from being happy so I am becoming a voluntary celibate. Like the monks. Except I am doing it so i can at least have an excuse about being single.
/r/ExRedPill23/09/23 10:06 PM
1

Guess I'll have to find something that doesn't make me wanna crave it. Hehe
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 10:39 AM
1

Nope. I attended two sessions once but it was not effective so I stopped. I'm not into red pill or incel culture anymore.
/r/ExRedPill22/09/23 10:39 AM
2

I'm 24. And quite frankly, I have given up. I am just trying to make peace with the fact that I'll never experience some things and it's all right.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 05:21 PM
1

Did anything change? I feel the same except i came to the conclusion that i would fail after failing. It just has got to the point that I take myself out of places so as not to make women uncomfortable.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 01:02 PM
1

mutual attraction, a connection It's always been one sided for me. Don't think any girl ever liked me. Can't be sure but since girls make moves, according to you, I can say that because no girl ever did anything like that to me. How am I supposed to make that connection when it's only me who is putting in the effort. You might say to look for someone else but there is no one who is replicating my enthusiasm. And I don't feel good because I don't want to make anyone uncomfortable. I'm open to und…
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 12:45 PM
1

Plenty of women aren't getting approached regularly. Still more than guys. we can get over it and work with what we have. I have never seen a girl make a move(except movies). So when you say work with what you have, what exactly do you mean?
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 10:33 AM
1

a girlfriend is not going to help you feel less lonely. Okay I think i did not write this point but i actually don't want a gf. I just want to know if I'm good enough to get one. That I'm not what my situation suggests. I just want a girl to tell me she likes me. She can vanish the next moment, it doesn't matter. I know it's pathetic but I just want to know that.
/r/ExRedPill21/09/23 03:53 AM
2

I don't think any woman will ever truly desire me. I earn decently for my age and I think if a woman is ever gonna be with me it will be because her first or second or even third choice didn't work out. Even though I'm not okay with it, I don't have a choice. I'm 24 years old and never had a girl like me. It just crushes me sometimes. How is it that no one likes me?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:50 PM
1

Lmao I am a guy and don't believe it. Being the ugly guy with no interest from women in my 24 years of existence speaks more than an ad for their product. I have made peace with it. Whatever women want i don't have it and it's fine. Everything else in my life is sorted except that part. I'm thinking of adopting pets because I don't want to be alone when I'm old. My pets will love me I'm sure.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/09/23 01:40 PM
1

Like at the end of your reply instead of the beginning. I only said that in the beginning because I reply to comments based on the chronology they were written in. Also, I was genuinely asking about "unfathomable" because I did not understand the unicorn metaphor and thought it was related to it. I even googled it thinking i didn't know the meaning. Google suggested that it was unfathomable which i tried to confirm if you meant that or not. sorry to be a bit of a grammar snob, Don't apologise fo…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 06:15 PM
4

So an ugly like me has no chance? Well glad i got my answer. Now I can stop having the tiny bit of hope I had.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/23 03:54 PM
1

I'm not valiant enough. I'm gonna get downvoted for saying this but I can't approach a girl. And I don't like the idea that if I don't, no girl is ever gonna approach me. It's fine i guess. Survival of the fittest am i right? The confident and better looking guy is gonna have the attention of everyone. Sadly that ain't me. But thanks for your support. I always wanted to visit France. I got another reason to visit now. Hehe
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 03:28 PM
0

because that's a good indicator of a good partner How is that a good indication of a good partner? Also what is social life in your dictionary. Does being friends with many people mean you are a better person than a reserved one? If a lot of friends are the only precursor to dating then I'm good. I have a hard time making friends but they stay with me once we are friends. A driver here is someone who actively participates in relationships How am I supposed to participate in a relationship withou…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 03:20 PM
3

idk why you felt the need to be my copy editor there. I appreciate when people inform me of my mistakes so that I can improve upon them at least on things that are essential. I don't know why people get so agitated when you correct them. Doesn't striving to be better require corrections? a woman you just met, supposed to know that? Isn't knowing someone part of the dating experience? I try to make friends where I can but it's mostly guys because I have a better time opening up to guys than girls…
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 03:12 PM
1

I don't understand what the phrase "unicorn of a woman" means. I think you meant to write unfathomable, correct if I'm wrong. How does not being good at socializing makes me a bad friend or partner? Not being good at opening up to new people doesn't mean I won't be a good friend or that I won't understand my partners needs. Also, I'm the last person who would like anyone for their looks because being an ugly guy I know how looks have nothing in relation to one's personality. I know that because …
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 01:32 PM
0

socializing Yeah, that's not possible for me. But thanks.
/r/ExRedPill17/09/23 03:49 AM
2

But that's what I don't understand is what is so wrong with me that none seem interested? Because I know red pill is shit and not all women are attracted to only Uber successful people. What do I do?
/r/ExRedPill16/09/23 11:09 AM
1

Do you think not wanting someone who had a hoe phase is valid?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:33 PM
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I don't know what has or has not changed. I don't even know what women want. I have seen ugly, good looking, poor, rich, assholes, kind hearted guys get a gf. Like there was no parameter where a guy is rejected except maybe me. I might not know what women want but I do know what they don't want and they don't want me. So this topic has nothing for me.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:29 PM
1

sex is the only way to feel wanted. If a girl just initiated a conversation with me i would be happy. Don't even want her to want/like me but that's not gonna happen. relationships are not everything Why not? Isn't it the goal? To find someone who is gonna be there for you no matter what?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 06:00 PM
6

Why are you assuming that all guys want to have a fuckbiy lifestyle.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/23 05:38 PM
2

I would sign up if they don't make fun of me for being single there or bully me for my looks.
/r/AllPillDebate17/08/23 08:30 AM
4

No bro. This is too much. Spending money and time on something that is not gonna be helpful in any other field is not justifiable for me. But thanks anyway. As for confidence, I know that even if I become confident i will be the second choice for them because good looking people can be confident too. I would rather be alone than be a second choice.
/r/AllPillDebate15/08/23 09:04 PM
9

Never seen the look of attraction. It has always been normal or disgust. They try to mask it but I know it. So to spare them some blushes i remove myself from those situations or interaction. I don't blame them for that. I am ugly and when I see my face I cry so I don't really expect them to like me.
/r/AllPillDebate15/08/23 03:08 PM
5

I would like to apologise for the comments that you got but you have to accept the fact that there are guys whom no girl wants. It's just bad luck. While the hate from others isn't deserved. They are just looking after their life. I don't blame women for choosing the best. If i was one of the best guys i wouldn't be complaining. But it's all right, I just have to play with the cards I have been dealt.
/r/AllPillDebate09/08/23 12:21 PM
6

No. Women don't want me. While I'm not at all sold by the idea of sex dolls, that's my last option. No girl has ever liked me in my entire life which is fine I understand that it is their choice and I have to accept the fact that whatever they want i don't have it. So while the idea of even a fake love from a robot is intriguing i wouldn't buy one because I know it would be fake.
/r/AllPillDebate09/08/23 12:19 PM
2

Gym is not cope. As an ugly guy I can tell you that gym is not to attract girls but to keep yourself healthy. It's good for your body and mind. Forget about girls and do gym to be fit.
/r/AllPillDebate09/08/23 11:10 AM
1

I don't agree with what the guy said but i would agree that they would rather be single than give a ugly guy like me a chance. I'm only good for dumping their trauma their bf gave them. Telling me all about how their "great" bf isn't who he was pretending to be.(shocker right)
/r/AllPillDebate09/08/23 10:53 AM
1

I would rather swallow poison. OP careermax and get pets. They will love you unconditionally.
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/23 06:40 PM
1

Exactly. I live a normal life that's just devoid of one thing. It didn't matter to me until i realised that it's the only thing that matters. Only one thing that blows my mind is how no girl ever liked me? It's just a very depressing thought. I hope I die sooner.
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/23 06:38 PM
1

But how is careermaxx gonna work. He will still only attract someone for his money and not for his personality. They will cheat the moment they get a chance. It's just sad that because i don't even ask for happiness just a little less pain.
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/23 06:33 PM
1

How so? I'm genuinely interested because I have a similar story. And trust me it's not a personal choice as far as I know.
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/23 06:29 PM
1

My coping mechanism is to remember that whatever women want i don't have it. I see all the dudes getting girls and enjoying life and while I'm happy for them, i would like to not see them. I have no hope left and my future plans are to adopt and save as many pets as I can. They will love me unconditionally. I know no girl has ever liked me in my entire life. Maybe it's because I'm ugly and introverted. I find it hard to talk to girls. I am able to make guy friends easily. If i wasn't ugly i coul…
/r/AllPillDebate08/08/23 06:24 PM
3

Yes. It was a bit of a rant but what most people who advise don't understand is that not all guys who vent on reddit live in a basement or live in filth and don't shower or have no job or hobbies. People just assume I have no personality. It just makes me feel more bad about myself. I lost hope buddy. I'm bringing myself to face some facts. I already know that girls don't like me. Maybe it's my mannerisms or looks or whatever. If i accept this fact then I won't be sad about being a loser. And I …
/r/AllPillDebate06/08/23 09:46 PM
5

Look i understand why you would think that. People have this mentality to be a good person in general. They like to be optimistic about everything. No, we can't easily change anything. I have memorised the help you give - gym, hobby, forget about dating, hygiene. I can say from experience that it doesn't work. There are some things that are just not possible. Look, I don't hate women. I understand they want someone better and they should absolutely choose them. But please don't think that our co…
/r/AllPillDebate06/08/23 09:30 PM
6

Me too. I just started tagging them as not interested and my feed is filled with cats and dogs again.
/r/ExRedPill20/07/23 09:49 AM
1

Still single. Don't think it will change. At least I'm not blaming anyone else now like i used to. I just figured out that women don't like me and that's cool. It's their choice obviously
/r/ExRedPill19/05/23 10:15 AM
3

You apologize to that girl. You have no idea the toll it takes on one's mental health when rejected that hard. I had suicidal thoughts in college when i was rejected so harshly and the teasing and bullying that followed after. You made a mistake and you can make it right. Apologise and tell her you are sorry.
/r/ExRedPill26/03/23 06:44 AM
1

I think she is pretty. Also that's just mean regardless. You shouldn't say things like that to someone.
/r/ExRedPill20/03/23 07:50 AM
1

Nope. Most of my friends and colleagues have someone in their life. I mean some are invisible because of their traits and others due to luck or circumstances. I was on the basketball team in college, also in the swimming team. I was still invisible. Still am.
/r/ExRedPill19/03/23 02:17 PM
1

Well i am doing things and trying to just be happy. I have a heavily packed routine. I'm doing things i wanted to do. But still it feels like I'm not into them. Now even basketball has lost its appeal. The thing is I now care what girls think of me. When i didn't i used to enjoy everything now I'm just miserable. Which sucks
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 02:04 PM
1

Yeah i understand. (I think) you are very correct and i can't seem to think of anything to disagree on. I will definitely give this a thought but i don't think i have it in me to do what you say. It's comfortable and easier to give up.
/r/ExRedPill13/03/23 05:50 AM
1

I don't expect them to spend time with me. something that is difficult to change and puts the onus on women for failing to accept your ugliness What do you mean exactly? How is me not liking myself related to women? It's not like I'm telling random women that I'm ugly. Also, i agree it's a miserable existence but it's all right. I made peace with it.
/r/ExRedPill12/03/23 06:18 PM
2

Well i hate myself but that has nothing to do with the point i was trying to make. They are two different things. But I'm glad you understood my point. :)
/r/ExRedPill12/03/23 05:58 PM
5

I don't like the idea that you can generalise people who are nice. Why is it assumed that nice guys are doing it for rewards. Maybe their parents raised them right? I would like think I'm nice. I always try to go out of my way to help. Feeding strays, or elderly i don't do it because God will reward me(I'm atheist) don't do it for social media (i don't make videos of me helping) i do it because it feels good. But meh i have given up on girls. Maybe i don't deserve one. Also, what i see is if i p…
/r/ExRedPill12/03/23 02:19 PM
1

Well. I am funny when i want to be. I used to make fun of friends but i stopped because once or twice i pushed too far. Now i try to maintain minimum conversation. Don't try to be funny and maybe you are right. But if that's the case then it's all right. Doesn't matter now does it?
/r/ExRedPill09/03/23 02:54 PM
1

I haven't posted anything about going to the gym because the sub i follow is mostly for people to show their gains and ask for suggestions. I don't trust the internet with gym or health advice. Also I'm planning on making a video when i have gotten the body that I want. I already have made progress but there's a long way to go. I didn't give up. It just didn't work out since the advices were very random and didn't work for me. I don't plan on getting therapy now. Yes I'm not very extroverted but…
/r/ExRedPill09/03/23 02:01 PM
1

I once wrote i have given up on dating and was downvoted. I guess if your views aren't mainstream you get downvoted
/r/ExRedPill09/03/23 01:36 PM
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Done done and done.(some points not checked but most) Still single. Now what?!
/r/ExRedPill08/03/23 05:06 AM
1

I understand their concerns and they are genuine. And i understand that you didn't give up and somehow kept going. I'm not like you. It's not bad to give up actually. I feel no obligation to initiate conversation now even when there are only two people sitting during lunch or at other events. I wanted to be a pro basketball player but it became clear that I couldn't become one so i had to give up. I'm happy that I gave that dream up otherwise I wouldn't be where I'm rn. So you see it worked out.…
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 09:25 AM
1

Women don't approach me so if i like someone i usually have to initiate conversation but mostly i don't because i already know what she will say. So why bother. I just accepted it as fact and as you can see am just trying to keep myself involved and do things i always wanted to do.
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 08:38 AM
1

Well let's see I'm also a middle class average guy. I recently completed my graduation and got a decent job. I used to play basketball for college. I like to learn new things. I recently picked up an instrument. I also go to the gym 5-6 days per week. I like to read too. Also i like romantic and coming of age movies and no not euphoria or some shit that Netflix labels as coming of age. I'm talking about movies like the perks of being a wallflower, dead poets society, call me by your name etc. I …
/r/ExRedPill01/03/23 06:31 AM
1

You know I would like you to get to know Me and then i would like to know why you think. I couldn't get a gf? Are yo uup to it?
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 07:58 PM
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I did. My best friend had been in 3 toxic relationships and still friendzoned me. She said we weren't compatible and all i can think is that she would prefer to be with someone toxic than me. I personally want to know whats so wrong with me? What do I do is so wrong? I have multiple times refused to be physical with someone because there wasn't an emotional connection.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 04:05 PM
0

The dude i replied to just said his friend told him that women go into it despite knowing the guy and his intentions. So i don't think it not based on preference. They are attracted even after knowing that he is toxic.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:41 PM
3

Fine I'll do it myself. Thanos grin
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:00 PM
-1

Well then I'm happy i have given up. I have made peace with the fact that women don't like me and would prefer to be in a toxic relationship. Because in the end it won't hurt me it will only hurt them. If what you are saying is correct which i also believe to be true then i don't know what more i can do to make myself likeable. Women choosing guys knowing they are misogynist just makes me feel good that even after being alone I'm not so stupid to jump into arms of someone whom I know is going to…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 03:00 PM
2

I'm not saying that I'm a nice guy and it's unfair they don't date me. I'm saying that I would at least try to treat them better than they are being treated rn. Also I'll watch the video as soon as I finish my gym
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 02:51 PM
1

Yes.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 01:29 PM
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I would personally like to go after them because i think i would provide them with the kind of love they never received. I would be good to them. I think they require more love since stable women would find someone good enough regardless.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 12:38 PM
1

I can't do what he does. It doesn't align with my ideas. Its just sad to see him being successful with women while I'm not. I don't even want different girls every week or something i just want one. But meh it's too much to ask for. Also i know he is a womanizer and i have told him that too and he just said at the end of the day who is happy me or you? And i guess if women find him attractive and indulge and promote his lifestyle who am I to judge.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 12:31 PM
3

I assume then they think I'm worse since they would rather give guys like my flatmate a chance than me.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 11:37 AM
3

Chill bro. I get it everyone wants something different. But it just makes me live a lot easier knowing that I got rejected for someone better and not worse. I don't mind losing but it should be someone better otherwise it doesn't make any sense. Like when someone gets better marks in exams and you feel okay knowing they worked hard and deservingly got better results. Like i would never have cheated on her but then she chose an engaged guy which makes me think i did everything right but it didn't…
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 10:53 AM
-5

It seems to me that no matter the upbringing no one wants me. I'm somehow not even good enough for those girls whose exes have been abusive.
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 10:45 AM
0

Woah. You ever think that maybe if you had such success with girls doesn't mean everyone else has. Maybe some people are not so good at it. Maybe they just are tired of rejection. While some may say to keep going but it doesn't make sense. There is a time in a man's life when he has to choose where he wants to focus his energy. He needs to understand that maybe whatever women want he doesn't have it. And it's okay. Not everyone has someone special, don't let Hollywood fool you. Also, when i say …
/r/ExRedPill28/02/23 08:49 AM
4

Everyday I wake up i know that even if there are 7 billion people, there is not a single person who likes you. Even when you are present on earth when there are more people than ever were, you are still alone. Your friends are busy on weekends, posting cute pics and videos. Even in movies, not a single protagonist doesn't have a special someone. And while i am gonna stay single forever, that doesn't mean I'm not scared. But in the words of bojack horseman, it gets easier. Everyday.
/r/ExRedPill21/02/23 08:06 AM
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