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| 2 | Fiancé disappointed she didn’t get the ring she was assured she would, so future BIL (and all of Reddit) calls her a gold-diggerI think the “k” in 5k was karat. So the center stone in the ring she GOT was 2.5k (karat) but she wanted a 5 karat stone. This is super confusingly written because OP is also talking k=thousand. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/05/20 03:05 AM |
| 6 | A few fine gentlemen I’ve encountered during the past year. For your amusement 😂 long post but fun (I hope)I think there are probably things that suck for each generation just in different ways. I’m a Gen-Xer, and it fucking blows. All these middle aged assholes whose wives got sick of their BS and who think they’re entitled to a 24-year-old VS model and are practically scandalized when an adult woman has the audacity to say she had a career and/or children to work around when scheduling dates. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/20 08:50 PM |
| 75 | A few fine gentlemen I’ve encountered during the past year. For your amusement 😂 long post but fun (I hope)I’m really getting to a point where it’s like: just...I mean I have a career and a great vibrator. Why would I want any part of this dating nightmare? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/20 10:46 PM |
| 16 | This guy who I met doesn’t believe a girl like me could have anixety or other mental illnesses simply because he thinks I’m attractive.My ex reacted similarly when my kid started treatment for similar challenges. Like, oooh, I forgot you took two psych classes at a community college. You clearly know everything about mental health. He mansplained my kid’s mental health despite the, you know, actual doctor who is handling the treatment along with a therapist. Oh, and I’ve lived with the same things my whole life; it runs in my family. But sure. You think the kid only had one of the several challenges we are working on? I’ll just… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/04/20 10:10 PM |
| 47 | As if being single is a disease 🙄It’s incredible to me how he sees her as basically a used car: Looks good Seems to work Why hasn’t some guy claimed it...her? Maybe she didn’t WANT to date. Maybe she was focusing on school/work. Maybe she has personal reasons. It’s like they think it is a woman’s natural state to be in a relationship. If there are men who would want you, why would you be single? Ummmm....because I’m capable of independent thought? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/20 02:58 AM |
| 5 | LVM going through their phone/social media/yearbook during quarantine.I’m really enjoying leaving this d-bag on read after he quaran-touched-base today because he was, “thinking of” me. Sure. Like you were thinking of me when you cancelled our date and ghosted? Eff off. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/03/20 03:25 AM |
| 12 | Their egos can't handle it any longerYes! But not until you are in love with them or reeeeally invested. They wait. They like all these things...or act like they do...and then once you’re super invested, they change. They stop trying. They show their true selves, and then they resent us for not also becoming lesser versions of ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 10:29 PM |
| 220 | Their egos can't handle it any longerTHIS!!! Men love strong women because: -We don’t NEED you, so we’re not “needy.” -We know who we are, so we are confident. -We know our worth, so we are successful. Men can’t handle strong women long term because: -We don’t NEED you, so we’re not willing to put up with your BS. -We know who we are, so we are harder to neg and abuse. -We know our worth, so we are successful and expect you to have your act together too. Edit: typo | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/20 02:21 PM |
| 52 | « A woman choosing to have you in her life is a privilege that can be revoked at any time and it’s up to you to earn and maintain that place in that women’s life »I said this (want vs need) many times to my (alcoholic, manipulative) ex. He always really loved this about me. Loved how strong and secure and successful I am. Loved that I am solid on my own. Respected that so much. But really, what I finally figured out was that he loved how people saw him when he was with a high quality, successful, powerful woman. He loved that he "got" a woman like me. He felt like I was a prize. And while that is good... the fact is that he didn't deserve this prize. And … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/20 06:45 PM |
| 15 | My therapist is becoming more masculine and it is triggering and making me feel less safe100% find a new therapist. This therapist is going through a personal journey, which is fine. However, it is not ok to project one’s own feelings into a patient/client. And it is absolutely acceptable for you to feel however you feel. I literally walked into a potential therapist’s office once, sat down with her and my (now-ex) husband, and after about five minutes, politely told the therapist that we needed to leave. We were seeking couples/sex therapy, and this woman’s office literally looked … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/20 02:43 AM |
| 2 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.While I absolutely recognize and understand that A LOT of people — men and women — live paycheck to paycheck, I would absolutely argue that it is NOT true that, “most women” are unable to invest and have no discretionary income. I have been BROKE. Super totally BROKE. With kids. And an underpaying job. And a LVM ex who decided child support was optional. I absolutely hear what you’re saying and have lived it. And STILL, my advice is the same: you have to own your life, and that means your financ… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 01:58 AM |
| 2 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.Thanks! That’s a great perspective! It’s so interesting how it all comes down to strategy and risk tolerance. So neat! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 12:57 AM |
| 3 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.This is super interesting. I’ve had advisors tell me to focus more on retirement savings than paying off a house. If you have any insights into why/how you made that choice, I’m super interested in hearing more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/20 12:30 AM |
| 12 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.I’m sure this varies by local, so it’s definitely important to clarify costs on the front end before getting involved. In my experience, financial planners do a lot of up-front work at no cost because they want to manage your investments for you, and that’s where they make money in the long term. As for finding one, ASK. Specifically ask single women you respect who clearly have money. Ask successful women. These women are unlikely to be working with a man-splaining d-bag. They’re more likely wo… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 12:38 PM |
| 44 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.YES!! Now tell ALL THE WOMEN YOU KNOW to do this!! So many women think of buying a house, starting an investment portfolio, or planning for retirement to be things you do when you’re married. NO WAY! Do it at 21. Do it at 25. Do it whenever you possibly can because it is YOUR LIFE. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 02:53 AM |
| 46 | We often talk about FDS w/ the goal of marriage. But marriage doesn’t always (or even usually, anymore) mean forever. So, yes, hold out for an incredible HVM. And ALSO: learn about investing. Hire a financial planner. Start your 401k. Buy a house. If a man joins your path, yay. But OWN YOUR FUTURE.Seriously, I cannot overstate this. I learned it the hard way. For instance, after my divorce, I had practically no retirement savings because I stayed home with the kids so we only invested in his account. I had no idea I could have just opened a Roth IRA with a financial planner. If you don’t know about investing: GO FIND A FINANCIAL PLANNER. You do NOT need to make tons of money to do this. You do not need to have, invest, or spend a lot of money to do this. Just go. Listen. Learn. And then b… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 02:51 AM |
| 30 | No clue why he still has a girlfriend but this makes me sad for herI love how damn near everybody commenting on his post is like: *BRO. You are gonna die ALONE. * | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/20 02:31 AM |
| 27 | RP from /trashy IDK how about you just don’t be a shitty LVM...I hope she still leaves his assWTAF is this?! Now she has to look at this crap every time he takes his shirt off? If they go to a pool/beach, she has to be with him and have everyone know he’s a loser?! This is one of the stupidest, “This’ll fix things,” moves you can make. Right up there with, “Let’s have another kid. That’ll help.” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/20 06:42 PM |
| 2 | HVM...but kinda just...not feeling it.Thanks! I appreciate your perspective! :) I decided to go on a third date with him and give it one last shot. If I’m still not feeling it, I’ll break it off :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 12:52 PM |
| 3 | HVM...but kinda just...not feeling it.That was largely why I posted. My thought was, if I can go a few days without hearing from someone I’m newly dating, it seems like I’m just not that into him. I think, “pickme” behavior here would be texting him repeatedly or calling him when he hasn’t reached out, no? I’m still new here, so I’m certainly open to your feedback :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 11:53 AM |
| 2 | HVM...but kinda just...not feeling it.Thanks! Will do!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 06:38 AM |
| 9 | HVM...but kinda just...not feeling it.Thanks, ladies. I really appreciate the input. He’s definitely different from the men I have dated before, and as I am still dating, clearly none of them have worked out! LOL! I will give it one last shot and see if we have any chemistry. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/20 02:43 AM |
| 29 | My friend praised a man for offering to split costs of the morning-after pill 🤦🏼♀️It's almost like they're raping themselves. Please do not equate consensual sex, even bad-decision sex, to rape. Having experienced both, I can tell you 100% that there is no similarity, and implying otherwise is downplaying the impact rape has on a woman for life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 03:55 PM |
| 59 | Just watched a full grown adult man fake fumble for his wallet at an ice cream shop. His poor date just sighed as she pulled out her wallet.My LVM ex did this to me. He picked a nice restaurant for dinner and suggested we go. On the way, he told me I was paying for dinner because he had, “...like fifty bucks to my name,” and that he’d treat next time. He assumed I could afford this place, which, fucking of course I can. I’m a fucking successful adult. You should be, too. He assumed I’d be fine with this. He never asked. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/20 01:01 AM |
| 24 | Using science to be disgustingMen: Test her so we know how many men she’s been with because sex leaves a deep, permanent imprint on a woman and women who sleep around are all sl@ts. Also men: Baby, it’s just sex. It’s not a big deal. It doesn’t have to mean anything. I mean, monogamy isn’t a natural state. Let’s just enjoy ourselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 10:58 PM |
| 43 | They know what they’re doing, warning a girl her nudes were leaked then sharing the video with all their male friendsNEVER. SEND. NUDES. Think about your last three ex boyfriends. How would you feel about them having naked pics of you to jerk off to, blackmail you with, show others, or post to the Internet? Now remember that near every man you date will become an ex. NO NUDES. And if he pressures you for them, he is a LVM jerk. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/20 06:31 PM |
| 45 | How do I dump him? Specific words/phrasingOP, you said he’s not the man for you...but one flower delivery changed that? No disrespect to you. You do you. I simply want to point out that you were very clear in your post that he’s not the man for you, and I find it hard to believe that the ONLY reason you felt that way was because he had yet to make concrete plans for Valentine’s Day. Just a little, “Come back down to Earth,” nudge to remember that you are a strong woman. You can buy your own damn flowers. If he’s the right man, and you w… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 05:02 AM |
| 17 | Do all men cheat?I don’t think ALL men cheat. But I do think a LOT of men cheat. And sometimes that’s full-on cheating and sometimes it’s, “My wife doesn’t understaaaand me,” texts with old flames. In fairness, a lot of women cheat too. I know so many women who have cheated on their partners/spouses. It’s not something women talk about a lot, I think because we are way more harshly judged for it than men are, but it’s super common too. Regardless of gender: STOP FREAKING CHEATING ON PEOPLE!! Idk what is so hard … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:20 AM |
| 13 | Is this grounds to breakup with my boyfriend or am I being dramatic?First, I agree with the other ladies here that this is a LVM who does not respect you. Just on that alone, no, you’re not being dramatic. The point I want to make, however, is this: People often wait for a big catalyst. A major event. A huge conflict. And THEN they break up. Like ...oooohkay, I’m unhappy but I’ll just go along with this until BAM! He cheats or you have a huge blow out fight or something like that. But that is wholly unnecessary. You can calmly see that this man is not the person… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 04:04 AM |
| 19 | Woman seriously wonders if she’s wrong for pointing out that her husband is useless for not knowing where his own kids go to schoolWhat the actual f*ck?! How do you not know WHERE YOUR KIDS ARE?!?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 03:53 AM |
| 31 | How would y’all respond to this? I’ve only met him once before.Negging. Block. Move on. I know it sounds harsh, but that, “Or am I wasting my time?” BS is such passive aggressive garbage. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 03:51 AM |
| 17 | Why are men so unattractive (cough cough UGLY) in comparison to women on dating appsGet. Off. Tinder. It is LVM Central!! Match is better. Honestly, any app you have to pay to use meaningfully is better than Tinder because it weeds out losers who aren’t even willing to shell out $20 to maybe meet a nice person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/20 03:48 AM |
| 11 | I just joined reddit and this sub and I get such weird DMs from women mad when I say something nice 😂 most people don’t do this but it’s just funny because I just joinedEvery time you say something bold enough to get a trolling LVM to use his “precious” time to (privately, secretly, anonymously) call you out, a boss bitch gets her wings. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/20 09:26 PM |
| 15 | The Effort is Too Low100%. And if your profile says, “Just ask!” I always, “Just pass!” | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:20 AM |
| 16 | Ask these questions and BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF!‘Scuse me....I have some breaking up to do... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:19 AM |
| 117 | HVM Protect WomenHats off to your BF!! And to you for being ready to step in!! This is what we are supposed to do! Look out for one another! Men AND women! Well done!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/20 03:12 AM |
| 5 | If you want a quality woman, BE A BETTER MAN.I agree. And it goes both ways. We ALL need to strive to be good people, be our best selves, be whole and complete. We need to do this for OURSELVES. The nice side benefit is that it makes us healthier partners, parents, colleagues, and friends too! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 04:18 PM |
| 6 | The new HONY story has me feeling a lot of emotions. Went from a survival story to 40 years of emotional neglect in .2 seconds.I read this story earlier today, and I found it heart breaking. This woman lived a lie. She lived with the ghost of this man’s past and blamed herself and prayed over him and spent FORTY YEARS trying to make their marriage work because that’s what she was taught. A wife stays. Supports. Suffers in silence. She took him back after his release, having fought for him and advocated for him. And her “rule” is that she basically gets to be equal partners now. That just...SUCKS. The only thing I think … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 05:00 AM |
| 13 | Why is “What do you do for work” the first question guys immediately ask?I agree. People are often uncomfortable with super personal questions right away, and asking what you do for a living is a safe, easy way to give a person something to talk about without having to get too private. I generally say what I do and talk about what I enjoy about my career without divulging where I work right off the bat. Then I ask them what they do and what they love about their work. It’s a good way to see how people approach their lives! Does he take pride in his work? Is he passio… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/20 01:05 AM |
| 26 | First date tonight since a bad breakup and finding FDS. Met via OLD. He asked. He planned it. He confirmed days in advance. He offered to pick me up but also understands if I prefer to drive separately. So far...good signs. Any tips? Things to look for?Update: We went and had a really nice time! We sat at this restaurant for about three hours just talking and enjoying one another. We were planning to go to this fun spot after dinner but I’ve had a headache for two days, and I told him I just really didn’t want to cancel on him but also didn’t feel up to the second thing. He was so sweet. He picked up the check, walked me to my car, asked to see me again, asked me to text when I got home safely, and waited for a clear sign I wanted a good night… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/20 04:28 AM |
| 17 | First date tonight since a bad breakup and finding FDS. Met via OLD. He asked. He planned it. He confirmed days in advance. He offered to pick me up but also understands if I prefer to drive separately. So far...good signs. Any tips? Things to look for?Thanks, ladies!! I am kinda nervous!! We are meeting in about 10 minutes. I’m early so I’m sitting in my car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 11:22 PM |
| 31 | Woman (31F) reveals sexual past to boyfriend who shocks no one with his reaction. Daily reminder to keep your sexual past a SECRET!I am with you on this. I don’t make a habit of having long, detailed discussions about my previous partners, but also, I don’t hide it. If a partner asks how many people I’ve been with, I’ll give him a number, not a list with names and dates. It’s important to be honest. If he can’t handle it, that’s his problem and it says a lot about him. I want to tell all the LVM: If you want a partner who is sexually confident and knows what she’s doing, you can’t also have a virgin who lived in a cryostate… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 08:22 PM |
| 38 | Dudes who complain about women with fake butts/boobs don’t seem to realize they’re not the target audienceThis behavior just underscores how LVM project their own thoughts and actions onto women. That is, EVERYTHING they do is in service to their dicks. They want to get laid, and everything they do is in some way related to that goal. Therefore, they assume we operate the same way. Fake boobs? Must be trying to get a man! Makeup? Existing? Must be doing it so she can catch a man. Ummmm....no. No. We may want to get laid. And also we may just like being attractive and successful while ignoring your L… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 08:15 PM |
| 13 | First date tonight since a bad breakup and finding FDS. Met via OLD. He asked. He planned it. He confirmed days in advance. He offered to pick me up but also understands if I prefer to drive separately. So far...good signs. Any tips? Things to look for?Thank you! I am kinda nervous, which isn’t normal for me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:56 PM |
| 6 | Comedy hour: what is the most ridiculous thing a LVM has ever had the audacity to say to you?First and LAST convo with an OLD LVM: Him: I’m a vegetarian. Me: Oh, that’s cool. Him: I mean, I eat MAD pu$$y, but I’m a vegetarian. Me, wondering wtf to even say to that: Ummmmm.... Him: Actually, I guess that makes me pescatarian. Me: 🤮🤢🤮 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/01/20 07:43 PM |
| 10 | What it really means when they say they "hate too much makeup"Woman wears makeup, shape wear, heels, great clothes, and has her hair done. Men: Ugh. So full of yourself! So fake! What a (insert choice of insult). ———- Woman walks out the door in jeans and a baggy sweatshirt to run to the store with no makeup on. Men: God! Make a freaking effort! What a cow. Why would any man want that?! ———— Also men: Where are all the nice, sweet girls who are naturally hairless and Barbie-looking while being successful and financially independent yet also submissive and … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/20 03:01 AM |
| 3 | When you give LVM a "chance"Mediocre people will always try to move you to their level. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 04:27 AM |
| 24 | Kink shaming and "sex positive" womenKey differentiators: Women bosses: No benefit perceived by LVM. Women who are sex-positive or openly into kink: LVM presume they’re all DTF and not looking for a serious relationship, so they see this as a huge benefit to themselves. Basically, LVM want to “empower” women when it’s to their perceived benefit. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/20 04:26 AM |
| 10 | HVM Will Put it All On The Line For the Safety, Security and Happiness of His HVW and Children. Lesson from Meghan: Don’t Settle, and Never Give Up on Your Dream Life.Idk about this one. Of course none of us know these two personally. But what I’ve read (which obviously needs to be taken with a grain of salt) is that he has been noticeably unhappy and easily aggravated in the last couple of years. He and his brother are barely speaking when they used to be so close. It is 100% admirable for a HVM to protect his wife and work with her to create a life they both want to live. In this situation, they blindsided his whole family, which was really disrespectful. T… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 11:26 PM |
| 1 | Amen.This is BRILLIANT!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 10:58 PM |
| 10 | That's an understatement, Joe.Ew. No. Just...so much no. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 09:29 PM |
| 1 | Divorce is final on the 15th:Congrats to YOU, mama!! You did the right thing!! It’s hard, and it will be hard, but you can do this, and you’re doing what’s best for your son and yourself! 💜 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/01/20 08:57 PM |
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