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I think the pp part is where she thought it was ok for her to do it in the first place, without regard to how it would impact others.
/r/PussyPassDenied10/01/24 12:29 PM
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Just the idea that I could buy something I wanted, and didn’t have to explain it to anybody, was so foreign to me for such a long time.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 02:01 PM
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I agree that the considerations we are making right now are oversimplified. But they are based on the original post. If he’s making more money and living away from his kids, it is going to greatly increase his financial burden for the kids. I.e. Higher salary compared to her means more child support and potentially more alimony. Not being there half the time to take the kids, could increase her child care costs, which will also increase the amount of child support that he owes. We have also not …
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 12:36 PM
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OP is the one that presented it as an option to take the lesser pay. If he can’t make it work why present it as an option?
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 12:08 PM
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Well, first of all family courts also take into consideration, when calculating child support, the percentage of time that you have with the children. A 50-50 parent is going to pay less child support than someone who has no custody of their kids. Secondly, according to OP, the best case scenario is that he makes 120 K for the next three years. Worst case is that he makes 120 K for the next four months and then 80 K for the next 2 2/3 years. That’s $106k difference. hardly enough to set anybody …
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 10:30 AM
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“Setting up MY next 15 years”. There you have it. It sounds like you’ve done the math and you know the dollar value that 3 years with your kids is worth.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/23 01:42 AM
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As a divorced father, when you say “settling financially, just to see my kids” makes me want to vomit. When you have kids, you need to be devoted to them, not yourself. They dgaf how much you make, and they never will. They want you in their life to show them that they are worthy of love. If you leave for money you will be teaching them that you care about money more. You say that they will be better off later because you’ll have more money, and they are still young now blah blah blah. Man up br…
/r/Divorce_Men13/06/23 07:16 PM
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On the bright side, you got away from that nut case 😃
/r/Divorce_Men12/06/23 04:56 PM
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Not because they want to.
/r/Divorce_Men22/05/23 06:45 PM
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I have language in mind that requires us to use the our family wizard app. We use it for all of our communications and exchanges of money, and it leaves a paper trail of everything about when you check your messages what the message was, and supposedly it’s admissible in court. Our agreement says that only in case of emergency are we supposed to call or text, that everything has to be on that app. And I find that very helpful in limiting contact with a high conflict person.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/23 07:28 PM
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Powerful. Thanks for sharing that.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 11:38 PM
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Yes by all means do it. I was already on some thing and I had mentioned to my doctor that I was going through a divorce and he offered up it because of how stressful it can be. There’s no shame in getting the help that you need.
/r/Divorce_Men09/09/22 04:49 PM
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I agree with a lot of what the others have said here. Quit working the overtime. Get your own bank account in just your name and quit mixing the money with what you already have. Anything new thats coming in goes into the new bank account. It’s still marital funds, so she’ll still have a chance to get at it, but only through the legal process. You won’t just find your bank account cleaned out. If you’re in a 401(k) or something like that, drop out of that immediately if you can. She’ll have the …
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 03:19 PM
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I haven’t seen anything but this one post, but there’s more red flags than I care to count. Lol
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/22 01:00 AM
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Couldn’t agree more.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 06:50 PM
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Bet she is too…
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 06:13 PM
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I think my point was pretty clear actually, but I’ll try to explain it to you. I don’t think anybody would take the position that asking someone “do you wanna get punched in the face? “During a fight would be anything other than a threat. It’s the same with asking her “do you wanna get a divorce? “ It’s a threat. And for you to pretend like yours is just a simple question, and not a threat, is pretty disingenuous. And now, rather than face the fact that you’re acting like a bully to her, you’re …
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 06:10 PM
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No.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 05:58 PM
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If you were having an argument with her and you asked her “do you wanna get punched in the face? “ Would that be a threat or just asking a question?
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 05:51 PM
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I guess you can believe whatever you wanna believe, and rationalize it however you want. But as somebody who’s been on the receiving end of that, and as someone who is read the literature about the right things to say and not say during arguments, I can tell you it’s a threat.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 05:50 PM
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Routinely asking “Do you want to get a divorce?” during fights IS A THREAT. You can say it isn’t, but that’s BS. It’s like a kid who says they’re going to take their ball and go home if they don’t get their way. I can’t speak to the rest of your marital issues, but that is wrong on your part.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/22 05:44 PM
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I’m 52, and I only recently learned one of the best lessons of my life. In regards to other peoples behavior and the things they do: ” It’s not about you.” It really isn’t. I know you probably think that there is something about you that “made her do that” but it’s not about you. It’s about her and only her. She had her own internal motivations that don’t have anything to do with you. If the ring on her finger didn’t mean the same thing to her that it does to you, that’s on her too. It doesn’t m…
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/22 11:20 AM
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You’re in a really tough spot but I’m sure you can find a way to navigate it. I totally understand the idea of wanting to be there with your son to help him enjoy this vacation. I think you do need to set up some boundaries and ground rules with your ex to make sure that you’re both getting what you expect. I definitely think you should get your own room. I think your goal should be to spend as much time with your son as possible, and as little time with your ex as possible. She should also unde…
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/22 01:04 AM
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I was in a similar situation to you, but I’m a little further down the line time wise. It helped me to think about it this way: everything we had I was going to share anyway, the retirement, the house everything was going to be split 50-50 with her if we stayed together. So giving her 50% to get away from her wasn’t a bad deal really. At least you’ll have your freedom. Another way you could think about it is this: what’s the dollar figure that you would put on being miserable for the rest of you…
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:59 PM
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It’s just fucked up all the ways that stress can mess with you. After about nine months apart I feel so much better, so much healthier.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 10:04 PM
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I had a lot of unexplained diarrhea. Cleared up within a week or two of moving out.
/r/Divorce_Men07/07/22 09:29 PM
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Super secret option #3: copy everything, let her know you have it, use the threat of exposing her as leverage.
/r/Divorce_Men11/04/22 03:31 PM
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I recommend you be brutally honest with your therapist. Hold nothing back. I took that approach and I’m so glad I did.
/r/Divorce_Men05/04/22 05:36 PM
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If they can get along and agree on things then they can mediate no matter what property they have. Only when you can’t agree and you need someone else to decide do you have to go to court.
/r/Divorce_Men26/03/22 12:09 AM
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So sorry to hear about your situation. Hang in there it will get better. Reminds me of how I felt early on too. Shame and depression are things that I have struggled with too and I’m glad you are in therapy, it really helped me. I know that when you are in the middle of it that shame/depression spiral can be almost impossible to see out of. I see some things in your story that I’d like to point out to you if you don’t mind. Sounds like you don’t think you were the perfect husband. No shame there…
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 09:56 PM
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It can get better. My soon to be ex, is controlling and loves to play the victim. So she would get all manipulative and it would piss me off and I would say things that were out of character and quite regrettable. Which fed her supply. Since I’ve read the book I have learned to just communicate the bare minimum amount. I am so much happier now and things still get communicated that need to. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/22 02:17 AM
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There is a book that helped me in a very similar situation. It was BIFF communication for co-parenting. I don’t know if you have kids involved but it would be helpful either way. Any resource on BIFF communication would help you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/03/22 05:16 PM
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At this point I’d sooner cut my dick off.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/22 09:37 PM
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