jiyaski Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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6	It's interesting how some women come to men's spaces and say "I feel your pain, it's not fair" yet they don't do jack in their own spheres? I mean that when a woman talks about a problem, she tends to want emotional validation, and may view practical advice or support as condescending or insensitive. This is in contrast to men, who tend to want practical solutions and view emotional validation by itself as empty. Of course this is not true for everyone, but it is a general trend, at least in my experience. Sometimes this causes communication issues between men and women, because women habitually value emotional support while men hab…	/r/MensRights	04/06/23 06:37 PM
10	It's interesting how some women come to men's spaces and say "I feel your pain, it's not fair" yet they don't do jack in their own spheres? I don't agree with criticizing those women for wanting to show their support, even if it is not backed by tangible action. Doing proper activism is work, and not everyone has the time or inclination to do that work all the time. I think pretty much anyone here knows there is more they could be doing to address mens' issues, but nobody is obligated to become an activist. I welcome anyone who shows the slightest amount of genuine concern, since that is more than what you'll get from most people.…	/r/MensRights	04/06/23 05:35 PM
46	It's interesting how some women come to men's spaces and say "I feel your pain, it's not fair" yet they don't do jack in their own spheres? Probably because anyone who goes against the narrative in those subs is banned, not that people don't occasionally try	/r/MensRights	04/06/23 05:28 PM
0	Physical self-defence against psychological violence Physical violence is only warranted when it is the only option to prevent a comparable or greater amount of other physical violence. Generally if someone is psychologically abusing you, you are able to get away. You are also able to retaliate verbally. There is no risk that a permanent, unavoidable injury or death will result if you don't stop it right that instant. I think it is true that women have an inherent advantage when it comes to psychological violence, since men and women have a deep b…	/r/MensRights	27/05/23 05:06 PM
14	Can the left win back men? My main critique is that the tone seems weird. I've seen a lot of your slideshow things and they always have an informational, kind of professional tone. But then this one uses a lot more casual and first-person speech and memes, and it just feels incongruent with the overall "brand" you've made. I'm not sure that a MAGA hat in the first image is good to appeal to left-wing people. I know it's attention-grabbing, but most leftists will look at that and immediately be primed to disagree with what…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	04/04/23 05:21 PM
100	My boyfriend thought that when I said "I hate how men think this way," that I was including him in that. OP be like: "My boyfriend is the sweetest person ever. He's always supportive, he's handsome, he's romantic, he has a stable job, he helps with housework, and he's good at sex. But when I moved in with him, I realized he puts the toilet paper on the wrong way. I am heartbroken. I just don't know if I can see him the same way anymore." Replies be like: "Sometimes people just aren't compatible and it will never work out. Leave now before you find yourself filled with regret years later." "Omg that…	/r/MensRights	20/03/23 03:24 PM
9	Men's Right in one picture ChatGPT's "guardrails" for detecting and refusing to answer prompts it considers inappropriate are becoming more robust over time as the researchers learn from users' attempts to circumvent them. Rather than being fake, it's more likely that the algorithm has been tweaked since OP had this interaction. So improvement is happening, which is good.	/r/MensRights	15/03/23 02:05 PM
14	women don't congratulate men on men's international day, so why should i on women's international day? Honestly I don't care at all about all these minor international holidays. I'm not going to congratulate women on Women's Day. I'm not going to congratulate men on Men's Day. I'm not going to congratulate vegetarians on Vegetarians' Day, or lepers on Leprosy Day, or kidneys on Kidney Day. Hell, I can hardly be bothered to celebrate Christmas. These holidays don't exist for everyone; they exist for the small minority of people who feel some benefit in acknowledging them. I say just let it be; the…	/r/MensRights	08/03/23 03:47 PM
10	women don't congratulate men on men's international day, so why should i on women's international day? It's not a "man's world", that idea just comes from people under-acknowledging men's issues because society as a whole doesn't have as much empathy for men as it does for women. It's true that men are the majority of billionaires, business owners, and politicians. It is also true that men are the majority of the homeless, the incarcerated, and those who die by wars, violence, suicide, and job hazards. When you balance these things, it is not at all obvious that the average man is better off than…	/r/MensRights	08/03/23 03:41 PM
21	Where exactly should a man meet a woman? To be fair, I think randomly approaching a stranger and telling them they look gorgeous is actually pretty tactless. As for where to approach, it seems the generally-agreed protocol among women is that places where people generally go for the purpose of meeting people are okay (e.g. bars, clubs, concerts, meetup group things). And everywhere else is not okay (e.g. grocery stores, on the street, restaurants, work). It kind of sucks tbh, especially as a person who doesn't drink and doesn't like to…	/r/MensRights	07/03/23 11:23 PM
5	Why do men feel like no one care about how they feel? I believe the more modern term for that is "cringe".	/r/MensRights	01/03/23 10:09 PM
1	I'm chatting right now with a cis man who's being actively and violently abused by his wife. He's in the US. What are some resources I can refer him to? Barring that, how can I best support him as a woman talking to him? Just wanted to chime in and say you seem like a wonderful person and I am a bit sorry at how many downvotes you're getting here. I hope you don't take it as an attack on trans people (although I'm sure a few users here do mean it that way, but not most). It's just that in most people's experience (especially men), the word "cis" is almost always used as an insult, to the extent that it's often considered a slur. It's a bit weird because I can see how the word "cis" has legitimate utility for whe…	/r/MensRights	27/02/23 11:49 PM
1	How many of you are left wingers? I think the left-right tribalism is a major problem in politics, so I try not to let my political identity be defined that way. I have some "right-wing" views and some "left-wing" views, and I'd say I'm moderately left of center overall.	/r/MensRights	27/02/23 11:17 PM
8	The prevalence of violence against women and girls is exaggerated by statistics. Debunking myths about violence against women and girls. I don't see how doing research and clarifying common misconceptions about the prevalence of violence is "striking out against women and children." And this is relevant to men's rights because usually when men bring up their own struggles with violence, feminists cite inflated statistics to make it seem like men's suffering is negligible in comparison and thereby shut down the conversation.	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 09:21 PM
1	Nowadays it's women who keeps alive the ideia of "Men can't cry" Interesting, thank you.	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 08:56 PM
1	Nowadays it's women who keeps alive the ideia of "Men can't cry" The quote does not provide evidence to support the claim in the link text that "shame is almost exclusively imposed on men by women". It illustrates a dynamic by which women impose shame on men more than women admit. However, it says nothing about how much shame is imposed by men, so the statement you've made doesn't follow from the source material. I would agree that quoting the author in itself isn't misleading, but the link text is definitely misrepresenting what was said in the quote, and it…	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 04:44 AM
3	Nowadays it's women who keeps alive the ideia of "Men can't cry" I think we are mostly in agreement then. You aren't actually claiming that men shouldn't cry, just that they shouldn't cry in front of others unless there is a big enough reason. We both agree that one shouldn't cry when it interferes with doing something else. It seems the only point of disagreement might be what reasons are considered big enough, but I don't feel like getting that far in the weeds right now. Also, I see nothing ridiculous about using the myth as an example. Sure, the character…	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 04:32 AM
7	Nowadays it's women who keeps alive the ideia of "Men can't cry" The point here is to challenge the idea that crying is weak in the first place. To me, being weak means that you are unable to do the things you want or need to do. Crying doesn't get in the way of that. Sure, there are some times when it is inappropriate to cry, like in the middle of an immediate crisis when you still have decisions to make. But crying afterward does no harm. The idea that crying is a sign of weakness is a very modern idea also. I remember reading the Iliad a couple years ago. …	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 02:45 AM
6	Nowadays it's women who keeps alive the ideia of "Men can't cry" God that quote hit like a bag of bricks. That said, your link text is pretty misleading. I was expecting to open a research article, not a quote.	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 01:56 AM
14	Women need to be called out on their hypocritical use of sexuality in the workplace I don't think she said anything deserving of hostility. I appreciate when women show support like this, even though it's small. Don't become like the radical feminists who berate even their supporters for not being fervent enough.	/r/MensRights	25/02/23 12:33 AM
1	The Cost of Living for both sexes Definitely there are some people in this sub who will be quick to assume your intentions and put up a mental resistance. I think most people here have experienced this treatment from feminists as well. Unfortunately, people's brains are wired to easily fall into a sense of tribalism, and it takes vigilant self-awareness to ensure we don't. Overall, I think this sub does a better job of being open to different viewpoints than most.	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 11:00 PM
1	The Cost of Living for both sexes The article talks about "settling the debate" but doesn't cite any of their sources... IMHO, there are some areas where women do get charged unfairly more than men. E.g. car shops, where the workers are mostly male and tend to think they can get away with charging women more because they are presumed to know less about cars. But in the majority of cases, women spend more because they choose to spend more. If a women spends more money on clothes or beauty products, that is her choice. Nobody is f…	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 10:08 PM
2	The Cost of Living for both sexes Idk how you're pasting these links but they aren't working.	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 09:47 PM
1	How often are men the victims of domestic violence? Not to argue against your point, but can you please provide sources? Statistics get thrown around all the time, so they don't really mean anything if there isn't a way for others to verify first-hand whether they are true and what their context was.	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 06:19 PM
4	thoughts on feminism and how men are treated from a 15yr olds girls pov Oof, sorry to hear that. It really is sad how many basically kind and reasonable women have developed such a blind spot for mens' issues because of feminist propaganda. Even my best friend, who is a woman, makes gross generalizations about men a lot, and I kind of just put up with it because there's not much else I can do. It does seem there are a lot of women who adopt the "ALL men are bad, (except my boyfriend / family / close friend)" mindset. It really sucks. If I were in your shoes, I want …	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 04:53 AM
4	The perceived agency and empathy gap between sexes is massive https://www.psypost.org/2017/06/straight-mens-physiological-stress-response-seeing-two-men-kissing-seeing-maggots-49217 Translation: Straight men have a reaction of disgust to watching two men kissing, but that isn't a sensational enough headline, so we're going to invoke flesh and maggots to make it sound more impactful.	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	19/02/23 03:13 AM
2	Of topic question for my Bros. I have to drive 7 hours soon need advice dealing with sleep deprivation. I'm probably late but for me listening to music or radio can help me stay more alert at the wheel as long as it isn't something too relaxing or repetitive. Stay safe!	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 02:36 AM
2	thoughts on feminism and how men are treated from a 15yr olds girls pov Misogyny and support for enforcing traditional gender norms are not popular views on this sub, although unfortunately there will always be a few people like that. You are falling prey to confirmation bias - the few misogynistic comments with hardly any upvotes are sticking out in your mind, while the great majority of reasonable comments are not registering properly to you. This is understandable and happens to everyone more than we realize or care to admit. At the time of writing this reply, I …	/r/MensRights	19/02/23 02:28 AM
39	thoughts on feminism and how men are treated from a 15yr olds girls pov I am glad that you've managed to see beyond the "man bad" propaganda that is pushed in the mainstream nowadays. At the same time, I think your views have become too extreme in the other direction. Feminism is toxic indeed, but women in general aren't. I find it a little disturbing that you think of "good women" as those who "know their place" and imply that they should always stay at home. I understand that you have grown up in a fairly traditional family where that is the norm, but just because…	/r/MensRights	18/02/23 08:20 PM
5	Why people think male getting it cut off is funny? A while ago I was at a party, and a group of women there were drunk and started doing this weird role-play about a burger shop where every man who went in got his penis chopped off, ground into burger meat, and fed to him. And they were trying to include the men in the conversation too as if they actually had no idea how disturbing they were being. I just kinda stood there and tried to ignore them, but tbh it made me hella uncomfortable. I also thought about how outraged these women would be if …	/r/MensRights	16/02/23 06:34 AM
2	Who has it worse Men or Women? And the answer to the question is either "We have it worse" or "They have it worse", both of which are unproductive. Like I said, the answer to that question is never necessary for any kind of constructive action, so the question itself is pointless and serves only to divide people.	/r/MensRights	01/02/23 06:05 PM
3	Who has it worse Men or Women? Saying "We have it worse!" is not the same thing as identifying a problem. "Men do not have enough ways to prevent unwanted parenthood, such that reasonable and cautious men can still be stuck with a baby they don't want due to deceit and selfishness from their wives." Problem identified. "Men should have a right to financial abortion." Solution identified. Then you can talk about implementation details, such as the time frame and situations where that would be allowed, who bears the legal costs…	/r/MensRights	01/02/23 04:10 PM
0	Who has it worse Men or Women? It doesn't matter who has it worse. The point of MRA isn't to bitch about "having it worse", it's to create a space to focus on solving the problems that disproportionately affect men. The existence of sexism against men in our society does not imply the nonexistence of sexism against women. Both genders face certain problems, and we all need to work together to solve all of them. Honestly the #1 obstacle to solving sexism in either direction is that too many people start seeing gender issues as…	/r/MensRights	01/02/23 02:54 PM
1	Paternity fraud is around 30 percentage for which test are done, real will be way more than that. I read the study you cited. Here is my takeaway: The article said there were ~280,000 paternity tests each year (this figure was from 2000, and so was the data used in the study, although the article was published in 2006). The researchers collected an initial sample of about 153,000 cases, then reduced that to a nationally representative sample of 9999, which is what they actually analyzed. They found that in 72% of cases, the alleged father was the real father (so 28% chance he wasn't). Theref…	/r/MensRights	29/01/23 04:46 PM
1	Paternity fraud is around 30 percentage for which test are done, real will be way more than that. Why is 1-3% discredited? I don't know where you are getting the 400,000 figure from; the source I referred to had a sample of 5,000 people. As for the hundreds of thousands of tests done in secrecy by men, there wouldn't be any statistics for the actual results of those, right? So we cannot draw any conclusion about the prevalence of paternity fraud from tests whose results we don't know.	/r/MensRights	29/01/23 05:05 AM
1	Paternity fraud is around 30 percentage for which test are done, real will be way more than that. (1) I'm a dude lol (2) I totally agree that paternity tests are a good idea, and of course I believe every father should have a right to get one. I was taking issue with OP claiming that >30% of all children were instances of paternity fraud, which is absurd and does not follow from the evidence provided. It discredits the MRA movement to have people spreading false claims, so I feel a need to call it out.	/r/MensRights	29/01/23 04:35 AM
11	Female antifeminists are heroes and should be honored. Here’s a few online activists… Please list any others Cassie Jaye Edit: Well, she's not really an "antifeminist" I guess, but definitely a big contributor to the mens' rights movement. For anyone not familiar, she was a feminist who decided to do a documentary on the mens' rights movement called "The Red Pill", and in doing so she realized that a lot of what she thought was wrong and changed her views. She definitely has my respect for being able to challenge her own views and change her mind in the face of evidence, and for being a voice in suppor…	/r/MensRights	29/01/23 01:11 AM
13	Paternity fraud is around 30 percentage for which test are done, real will be way more than that. I'm quoting the Manchester Evening News, which was one of the two sources linked by the video: "The tests were carried out in cases where there was doubt about the identity of the child’s father. They were done for personal information reasons, rather than for legal purposes. The tests cost from £95." And the scientific director of the testing lab mentioned: "...the families approaching BioClinics for answers generally have good reasons for raising the question of paternity." So no, we expect th…	/r/MensRights	28/01/23 03:06 AM
14	How to avoid misandrists in real life? I think a large number of people who "identify" as feminists in polls are not actually part of the feminist movement in any active sense. A lot of people, if you ask them, will think "Feminism means believing in gender equality, right? I believe in gender equality. Therefore I guess I'm a feminist." This doesn't mean their beliefs are extreme or misandrist, just that they've bought into the more innocuous-seeming definition of feminism that is pushed by the movement for PR purposes. I want to po…	/r/MensRights	28/01/23 02:55 AM
18	Don’t waste money on only fans Agreed. It would be hypocritical to advocate for something and then vote against yourself with your own dollars.	/r/MensRights	25/01/23 06:19 AM
13	Why do women always have to “marry up?” In college most of my class was girls putting males down who were their equals. They always said they deserved to marry up like to a professor or Doctor. Why isn’t an equal partner good enough? Lol and what good does that knowledge do actually? People value knowledge only because it is useful, it's useful largely only because it can help you get a job and survive, but since everyone is more educated and the world is more high-tech nowadays, you need more knowledge than before to get the same level of employment. Our parents and grandparents could support a family with a high-school education. Nowadays people accumulate five or six figures of debt to get advanced degrees in technical fi…	/r/MensRights	24/01/23 02:30 AM
2	Is the whole redpill "female imperative" thing true? It is not true; don't let it get you down. Some people just oddly think of humans as nothing but animals following instincts like deterministic machines. It is definitely true that men and women have biological programming that creates tendencies to act in certain ways, some of which create conflict and harm. But the whole point of being a human is that we can transcend our programming and choose to act from a higher motive than what our genes prescribed for us. Many women are unloving, selfish,…	/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates	22/01/23 07:36 PM
1	Branding a person's natural born identity as 'toxic' is one of the most hateful forms of discrimination possible, and it's time to stop pretending it's not. Tbh I'm glad people say "toxic masculinity" instead of just "masculinity" because at least it implies that some masculinity isn't toxic. Imagine if someone said, "Wow, that guy was such an angry jerk. But you know, masculinity, whatever..." I think the real issue is that the majority of instances where the idea of masculinity is invoked, it is when people are fixating on negative aspects. The solution is not to get rid of the phrase "toxic masculinity" but to normalize talking about positive asp…	/r/MensRights	22/01/23 05:42 PM