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rule of thirds applies. Ive had many friends and in general they all serve a purpose male or female. Only a small few i would call best/close friends for life. As you get older that number thins to a handful at best but more often only one. Those are people you could call at 3am even if you havent spoke in a year. I was close with my sister so ive always gotten along with females. Ive found they provide a type of companionship a male just doesnt. So throught hs and college i always had my top fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/03/21 05:56 PM
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Its a conversation that needs to be had as a couple. Think of it the other way around. If you were getting hit on would you want your partner to stand back or step up. Relay that to your partner and get their preference as well. Now, if a guy is hitting on your SO in your face or within earshot and he knows she is in a relationship. I would say that is a respect issues between two people and has nothing to do with your partner at that point. That would need to be addressed.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/20 05:40 PM
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I got it was more that a 4/6 girl is not incapable of snagging a 7/10 guy. She won’t have her pick of the litter but she might could get one Personally I assume she is really great in all other areas than looks or maybe she’s really smart
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 05:17 AM
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Girls can climb the ladder if they play ALL of those cards well. The ones that pull it off really commit to w/e the role is
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 05:09 AM
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Well yea he’s off the board for circumstantial reasons.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 03:56 AM
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Right! Or is it attractive people confident they can find another if SO pisses them off
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 03:54 AM
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See that’s the only data we can rely on. Personal testimony
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 03:53 AM
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This is one I doubt data could ever truly shed light on. On a scale of one to America how ugly are you? Nobody is even capable of answering that correctly
/r/PurplePillDebate29/10/19 03:52 AM
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Yea I don’t see where we disagree. Unless you thought I was disagreeing but I was just adding. From my understanding it as a whole metabolic profile of categorizing oneself as ecto, endo or meso. So yes the type is how the body will tend toward but it can also be shaped to resemble other body types. To our collective point ecto’s tend to atrophy when out of shape and sag. I call it the “lazy skinny” look. An endo is never going to atrophy as a whole from sedentary lifestyle. Their body will stor…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 08:03 PM
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Like my brother is endo but he’s athletically gifted like a D-lineman. In HS he was an all American D-lineman with running back speed. He worked out constantly strength and conditioning but In his best shape he had a gut. Im obvious ecto. I struggle with looking flimsy(underweight) or flabby and round in odd places(overweight). In my best shape my muscles get definition but bulking takes diet and much more work. I don’t think there is one category that works less to look really good but maybe on…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 07:12 PM
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Pretty sure bone and body structure play into body types. I had a coworker really into body type studies. He was reading a book that attempted to make personality correlations to body type. It was interesting the way our metabolism effects so many aspects of our life and development
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:53 PM
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No it’s a body type. It’s obvious to see on the street. We have all seen a very in shape curvy woman and thought “she is fighting nature” that’s what I’m talking about. We can extremely shape our body around our body type but like a rubber band it’s going to want to get back to normal. Just how male actors can pack on 30lbs of muscle to make a spartan body
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:39 PM
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I lost it at 16 and felt way behind even then. I was bent on losing it as a form a validation. She didn’t even know I was a virgin and I did my best to fake it lol we could do more as a society to teach kids about sex in a more intimate way than “x goes in y. wear a condom. now get out there and be free!”
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:29 PM
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Agreed
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:20 PM
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Believe me she is gross to me. It looks unnatural
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:19 PM
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Yea I feel you. I think of the body types as where the resting body will tend to if left to its own devices. Like ecto needs to work to gain, meso is in the middle, endo need to work to lose.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:17 PM
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Black culture worshiped fat asses almost two decades ago. Black sex symbols now look like young Halley and current Beyoncé. I feel like white culture recently caught the thicc fad over the last ten years. Where white girls feared having a fat ass in my childhood they now spend hrs in the gym beefing it up and another hr tanning it to be darker.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:14 PM
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Word. I burned out on weekend hookups. They once used to motivate me and I would feel energized after a hookup. After a while I noticed my best effort wasn’t coming out. Even then there were certain acts I reserved for relationships(casual hookup usually occurs at the end of a long day or night of drinking with no showers lol) I also found the women(not all but some) that did a ton of nsa didnt perform well or at all in bed (starfish)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 06:05 PM
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I once dated a fairly promiscuous girl my freshman year of college. I had my reasons but convenience, her effort and her 9/10 looks played a big role. We did get along well but I was not naive about who she was or planned on the relationship going anywhere. One thing many don’t point out is the experience of being attached to a person so many know biblically! Every party it would be apparent one or two guys had slept with her or had been working toward it. It’s like they were mourning the loss o…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/10/19 05:47 PM
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Most athletic men find ectomorph “bony” or “nothing to enjoy” the meso’s have the advantage. By 2019 standards an underweight endomoroph is going to get the lions share of attention. Thicc hips and ass, large breast and underfed frame is the standard basically as fake as can be aka Kim Kardashian’s( men today still wonder who buys her shit and it’s overwhelmingly women)
/r/PurplePillDebate25/10/19 01:51 AM
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This guy could have took to social media about stigma of bad hair or wrote an article about why female hair styling is sexist, demeaning and should not exist or he could just go learn how to do it himself and help his daughter adopt some good life skills
/r/MensRights22/10/19 08:47 PM
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So 1 point from the obese category. So one cream cheese beagle away from obese. If that’s how people enjoy living then fine by them. 29 BMI is nothing to aspire to
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:20 PM
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post ambiguous picture of a unfortunately highly average male sim asking women to throw stones at it on defense of whales of female gender to freely swim the dating pool. Men show up: pull studies and fact such as BMI being the real judge of health and they head for the hills I mean if this guy is overweight then he’s overweight. It doesn’t bother me that it’s a male sim. Geeze
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:18 PM
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That’s always been my understanding of her “cum” vs “orgasm” vocab. The former typically companied by lubrication and a small contraction(I feel) and can happen often. The later is more of an obvious event and usually marks the end as she’s spent and too sensitive for anything else. I don’t doubt this may not be common. I never noticed it with anyone else but I have to account for hs college and post college encounters mostly had some sort of alcohol involved. Also casual sex is much different f…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 07:13 PM
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From my experience I have never discussed or even been concerned with my or any other woman’s virginity. I would assume anyone who is dating has had sex. Anyone of my friends getting married have had plenty of sex. I come from religious background and the virginity things is personal not public. The hope is if a person remains virgin then they will most likely expect a virgin partner regardless of what gender they are. Americans in adolescents are bent on losing virginity asap with no worry of c…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/10/19 06:49 PM
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People are bigger for genetic reasons. Having too high of a BMI is problematic not genetic
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 05:33 AM
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As a friend I do not judge the fat woman but if a woman approached me romantically I would be insulted
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 05:32 AM
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That’s cute
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 05:17 AM
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So obese “However, just because a figure is an average, does not necessarily mean that it's a good target weight for you. In fact, adults in the United States are trending toward being overweight and obese, so it would be better to use other factors, such as body mass index (BMI), to give you a more accurate goal.” Verywellfit.com top hit on google “The study also says that the average height for adult women is about 64 inches, or 5 foot 4 inches. The average waist circumference is 38 inches and…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 05:02 AM
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The male message i got was be edgy cool(10thingaihateaboutyou), letter for the team, be rich and miss understood If you want a cheerleader you got play varsity. If you get a cheerleader you can now have any girl you want in the school for the immediate follow up
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:27 AM
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There are just things my dad taught me that have carried me so far. No one else would have been able impart as much knowledge. Plenty of good men marry single moms but not all of them. Divorce fucks people up and few stop at two marriages
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:21 AM
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Plus if she is good looking that’s kinda hot. I mean a woman who knows her way around a job site doesn’t take shit with a farmers tan. Like no joke I had a huge crush back in the day lol Plus not afraid of hard work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:17 AM
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they are so straight and so secure they fuck guys to show how straight they are and comfortable in their own skin
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:13 AM
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5’4 169!!! Are you high?! That’s a damn meatball.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 04:08 AM
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Wait I thought millennials stopped in 93 with the incoming of internet? That would make 26 millennial cutoff. I remember studies showing our generation was more conscientious about promiscuity, pregnancy and also said we didn’t plan on marrying or going into debt. Basically everything our parents excelled at. Haha boy were we wrong lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:55 AM
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Seriously I have contemplated it. I was trying to figure out how to lower my overhead and I was like what if I just sold all my shit. Like buy an RV pay for a single cell phone and just park close to work
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:28 AM
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Haha I wasn’t going to break it to him
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:20 AM
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Yea and plus you can get the same level of luxury from the other brands. The technology is the same. A luxury car is something you buy when you have nothing else to do with your money. We are still trying to get the picket fence
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:19 AM
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Because that’s proportional and average. He could lose some weight for cosmetic but overal that’s a healthy proportion. Not spilling over himself or jamming fat into spandex to hide it. Medically obese women who rely solely on spray tan and in your face cleavage think they look good and it’s gross. You know that girl... we all know at least one
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:16 AM
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I had a boss round up the entire department to watch that Simón senac video bashing millennials for always have phones out and working on weekends. He did all of that and pushed us to. It was a real observation of cognitive dissidence
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:07 AM
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I know. We don’t need Lexus’s and diamonds when’s we can barely afford to own our homes.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 03:05 AM
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Remember the articles about how millennials weren’t buying enough luxury items and “killing” the economy
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:46 AM
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HHahaa this right here!
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:41 AM
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Yea but she said for her gf. Not for her. So she hasn’t had the experience herself or at least didn’t say. So her account is slightly more valid but not her own. Your a biggot
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:36 AM
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So what do you call the two very different sensations?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:33 AM
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Did you read the comment below?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:31 AM
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Get over it
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:24 AM
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What is this leave it to beaver?! Not a single couple I know the woman works all day then comes home and fluffs his pillow. That’s not how our generation was raised Now if she stays home. Damn skippy her jobs is the house and finances and more. If a person is a stay at home mate. They should be finding ways to save about a quarter of the breadwinners salary. Regardless of gender. That’s the duty of the stay at home. Your father did not have the amount of filters back then from today. They put fi…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:23 AM
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Yuuuuuuup
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 02:10 AM
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Not exactly
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:26 AM
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If people only pursued pussy we would still be walking around naked fucking all day like the bonobo. Human ambition is why we have progressed. Pussy is easy come easy go and completely worthless in the long run. Not actual women but act of casual sex. It’s great! Don’t get me wrong but nothing to get out of bed everyday for or 27 years of school doctors do. Do women put on makeup to get dick or thinking someone will hand them a $20 because they look good. No they do it to compete with other wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:14 AM
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Not small group of people. Them and them alone
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:09 AM
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Look their is a catch22 for women. They CAN but they WONT. Many reasons but the largest being a four letter word. S.L.U.T I’m talking about your average worthy of dating woman
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:07 AM
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Some people just don’t want to be alone. Nothing to do with love. They hurt because now their object of validation is gone. Midsommar is a good example Other people truly loved and that hurts and scars
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 01:01 AM
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Agreed, If she was worth her salt. Also about as rare as a woman’s definition of a “good man”
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:55 AM
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If you meet a girl and she jumps you the first night. 9/10 she is not relationship material. Relationship minded women usually will want to take it slow and investigate you. They will avoid sex too soon just in case your a creep or skeezy. The ol’e wish of just meeting a girl and banging her regularly then one day u decide to be in a relationship is as rare as the lottery. Some women are bangers and some are daters. When you find one that’s suits both for YOU the you lock that shit down my man
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:52 AM
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Yea dude it’s hard for Anyone to get laid. Even if your above average it’s hard to land above average. And to be honest I never got laid enough. Everything you say is subjective. What is getting laid frequently. I think your stuck in a pocket or trying to analyze the world from a small pool you are working with. Average people date average people. Male or female we don’t like to step down so it’s always a struggle to improve
/r/PurplePillDebate18/10/19 12:20 AM
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Yes accurate. Women also tend to believe there problems are completely unique to them. Where guys tend to believe if they have a problem then most people have it too. Both extremes and a little unfounded
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/19 10:45 PM
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Iam going to make the feminist points for them. One) Internalized Misogyny- this means the women behind the screens have all the answers if everyone would just listen. Meanwhile I close my laptop and walk into the real world and just about every woman I know truly believes women are the prize. They also either work out and diet or wish they could to be fit and feel better aka get attention from desirable men. Well a feminist will knock this fact of reality with one fell swoop called “internalize…
/r/MensRights15/10/19 08:54 PM
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Vagina has never been a motivation for doing the right thing Vagina has often been the motivation to do the wrong thing
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 09:28 PM
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The good dude argument is like showing up to practice on time and expecting that gets you a starting position. No one who is an honest “good dude” does it to get laid lol... none A man who values respect, values it above anything else period. We often regretfully sacrifice our honor FOR sex but we never cultivate or improve our honor and character in hopes of gaining sex. Sex can cost honor but cannot be purchased with honor. Men don’t see it that way either Most good or honest actions garner ve…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 09:25 PM
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Seriously who do these people work with or live with. Most guys I work with are all of the above and the ones that aren’t people avoid. I’m not asking the wife beater out for drinks lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 08:54 PM
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I find women way more concerned with ncount in the real world. Guys talk about it but among ourself in more of a comparing trophies kind of way. Women seem to look at it more negatively. I get why. LTR’s in the count get a pass for the most part. Now if you have been active for 10yrs and have 10 LTR’s I’m wondering if you are incapable of being alone or a branch swinger. So red flags can come from LTR data. There are too many variable to make an across the bored judgement. There is definitely a …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/19 08:40 PM
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True, I wonder how many guys do a days worth of chores then get bitched out for all the things they did wrong? Also, no one ever mentions mowing or exterior/interior work. My lawn is a 2hr job 1-2x a week. 3-4hr once a month for side work like edging and bushes. The house need lots of filters for everything from the fridge, vacuum, A/C, and I bet many don’t know about the dishwasher. I’m constantly fixing shit I had no idea how to do until it happened. I need to pitch in on dishes. I refuse to d…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/19 04:14 AM
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I understand your knee jerk but I would never assume to understand something I cannot experience. I simply relayed information passed to me. And what I experience in the most intimate way. Also my wife says she has never discussed things this intimate with her friends and has no idea how it works for others. So in that sense I did have communication with my previous partners and have some reference and noticed correlations on a very basic level as everyone is different. Try explaining to someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 08:39 PM
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What like just picking someone up for a ONS or a sex only relationship? Then yea do whatever as long as the playing field is mutual and communicated. Simply having sex with a large age gap is just having sex. The discussion is having a romantic relationship with a 19-23yo when your say close to or over ten years older passable as not creepy. Your influence is huge believe it or not. The point I focus on is due to life phases and what most seek from a relationship it has to be rare to find a pers…
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 08:01 PM
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Honestly misread the comment and thought it was a dude and he sounded off. The irony right? I’m just repeating what my now wife has told me over the last 12years since we met. Maybe she is wrong but she definitely expresses a difference for her between “coming” and orgasming. that’s just her explanation of what’s happening. For the record I can feel them too and it is different
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:45 AM
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She was saying I was hot and yes newer coworkers
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:33 AM
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Thanks you said it better! 100% what I’ve noticed
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:08 AM
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How so?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/09/19 12:02 AM
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I agree but few understand why. maybe not age gap but phase of life gap. Once I purchased a home there where things I found I could relate to my paper net dwelling friends. Figuring out the best duct setup for the season or lawn tips isn’t interesting to my non home owning friends. The ones who do we go on and on about home shit. 9/10 a 19yo is unbearably annoying. What they find important is off. What they find interesting isn’t fully developed. Pop culture has them indoctrinated regardless of …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 09:31 PM
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“If she consistently struggles with enthusiasm, libido and orgasm.” Yes, all three are very personal. Probably need to see a doctor depending on if she was always like this. If it’s recent then yes it’s relational but she is responsible to open up some communication. He is responsible to do what he can to help. Key word HELP
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:53 PM
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Understandable
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:41 PM
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There’s a difference between cum and orgasm for women. Cum is much easier to achieve and happens pretty often. The O usually consist of a build up, peak and valley climaxes and come down. They can shorter or last for minutes and longer. One thing I’ve noticed is sobriety plays a big role in women achieving the O
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:40 PM
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Key that opens many doors is a master key. Lock that many keys open is shitty lock - stolen from meme
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:17 PM
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Reason why is because no woman would feel comfortable with her friends who will be in close proximity of her relationship making overly positive comments about her man. A friend make too many enthusiastic comments and she is marked as a “keeping her away from him.” The comments do get made behind her back. As she has been around the corner and heard two coworkers talking when she came in they looked like she was a ghost.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 08:15 PM
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Wow kinda the same though process I initially felt then I just pulled my brain out of my head and answered the questions as best possible. Also if female me met me we would be great friends but clash as lovers. Ship can’t have two captains.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 07:41 PM
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100% yes. But to clarify I would need to be a different woman than me otherwise two me’s would clash. Perceptive, street smart and pretty book smart as well. I value my common sense most. Some women have expressed pleasure that I seem more knowledgeable than them. I don’t get that but I guess it’s a female thing. I hate stealing and other sketchy acts. Overall bad character is a huge turnoff. I have high standards but not for superficial stuff. The best quality craftsmanship and materials gets m…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/09/19 07:36 PM
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These women/men are better because they don’t need women/men arguments are dumb and flawed to the core. Some statement: Hammers don’t need nails the same way nails need hammers. Or Nails don’t need hammers the way hammers need nails. They both have flaw. What’s the goal? If your goal is to build then yes you need a hammer and a nail. One could argue the hammer is most important and any nail will do. Another could argue the right type of nail is most important but any hammer will do. You see it’s…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/19 05:26 PM
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I’m married. I see and hear her convos dynamics and everything. Have sisters. Platonic friends. Gf’s before that. I talk to females. I have also had this talk organically with my wife long before this post where she laid out the same observations as OP. Women believe their way is better. Men think the female way is stressful.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:54 AM
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Also how many times have you been in a wedding party? Either you know or will find out that weddings for bridesmaids most especially maid of honors is absolute hell. Best men plan a party if that and show up on the day off not too hung over. The women in every wedding I have been apart of comment on it. Female friendships are complicated but also come with some added perks the women need. Men don’t need that much. So our friendships take on a different appearance. They both fulfill what we need.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:39 AM
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Incorrect, male friendships are just as deep, lack the same maintenance needs and are just as enjoyable as female from my opinion more enjoyable because less work. Male friendships are not as flashy or outwardly noticeable as female. For that reason OP made the observations she made. I have noticed it is common for females to judge male friendships as lacking from their point of view. We just don’t operate the same. You don’t know what goes on within our support net. Personally I find the male f…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:30 AM
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Happens to me and my wife when separate. Women do it too. They also don’t care that your are married wearing a ring. Once a lady started chatting me up at a bar. I went on and on about my family and wife, it’s my classic debuff, and this woman response was to ask how she fucks me. I have plenty others. It lame how people imagine it’s a guy thing. Some people just don’t care
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:13 AM
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Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:03 AM
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It’s always that first hard dig after a long time you brave to see how it’s taken then boom your back on track Yea at that point it’s clear what he’s about.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 06:02 AM
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We get the information from women we know. No ones making this up. What is it “believe women” well that’s what we are doing. It’s is uncommon to meet a woman with a deep friend bench from middle school or high school after 15 yrs. Its not always a fight or drama they just change scenes and drop off. Personally I don’t see it as a knock just proof of male female difference in thinking. Women seem to be more one on one focused. They get more intimacy and ready support. It requires more attention t…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 05:53 AM
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It’s pretty old and common knowledge women change friends like clothes. Need proof find two female friends about to move in together check back with them when the lease is up.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 05:39 AM
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I concur. Same core group now 15 yrs. There when I need them but also can go months without seeing. For the record my wife has a group of friends but only one from more than ten years that’s still close. Also her groups are more from proximity than history. Like she has a group that she worked with. A couple girls she went to school with. One friend doesn’t like the other so she has to manage who gets invited where. It’s like one or two from each group stand the test of time and the rest are rec…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/19 05:29 AM
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In some cultures larger women are a sign of all those things plus family wealth or wellbeing
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 07:37 PM
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“If a woman thinks saying the latter leads to a conflict or some other time waste, she is not telling it.” - honestly should condense the whole post to this
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 04:23 AM
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They did when I simply did not have the time. No point I couldn’t make it not in an enjoyable fashion. Basically what’s being discussed is a lie is ok if justified by an honorable concern and a justifiable reason to bail. The subjective part is really what is considered justifiable to bail on friends or family but not justifiable enough to tel the truth because it could hurt.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/09/19 02:07 AM
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Most people who are sexually successful exhibit RP tendencies regardless if they have ever read and single page of RP literature. I have only learned of RP and BP over the last year but funny enough reading RP content to me seemed like reading a bunch of common sense packaged for teenager and guys having a hard time meeting and understanding women. Most men who benefit RP have very low social skills. I see the positive of RP as helping young men develops confidence so they can improve life for t…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:39 PM
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You have an important meeting in the morning that you cannot miss and need to prepare for. Just as your preparing to head home for the night two women approach you in succession. The first is a 5 - 6 in your opinion. She asks to come back to your place for the night. You tell her you have a very important meeting and cannot risk not being prepared. The 10 approaches you next. You figure this is a one shot opportunity and figure you will have a job regardless and decide to take her up on the offe…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/09/19 07:14 PM
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Unemployment is going to kill your mind. Forsake all and seeking meaningful employment. Think career path instead of immediate job. Even if you are cleaning toilets if you are on a path to a goal 15 yrs down range you will feel better. I would forget everything else because rp, women, smv and self improvement is just masturbation if you have no purpose or plan for life. Essentially you are asking for advice on when you should upgrade rims on your car but have no working engine. I see no problem …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/09/19 08:15 PM
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Thirst imo has always been tied to apparent or obvious desperation. Like a dog foams at the mouth, begs, turns circles and gets overly excited for water ie acting thirsty. so think of thirst as an extreme of desire. If something is desired then a person can thirst. When it comes to romance, relationships and sex those are things we cannot just save up a purchase. Hence, women and men can be equally thirsty just for different aspects of a relationship. For men it is often used in the context of b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/09/19 09:15 PM
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BluePill is a forum for rejection of RedPill social world view, tenants, philosophies and subsequent groups or movements such as; MGTOW, MRA RPW and hookup hacks(game). It comes down to motivation. If one simply disagrees with a certain aspect of Redpill yet accepts other generalized ideas I would think they would discuss or debate within the Redpill communities. Motive to get to the bottom of the disagreement or make a point. A person compelled to post or identify as BluePill would mainly seek …
/r/PurplePillDebate22/08/19 04:47 PM
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I believe there is a level of intimacy between female friends that requires maintenance on a level that male friends do not experience. The positives i believe female/female friends offer a higher level of immediate anytime anywhere emotional support. So in order to enjoy that support they must give it as well. I dont see that level of maintenance between men. I have had guys there for me when i need and been there for them. I have also not seen or talked to them when our lives get busy for many…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 04:35 AM
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THis question had nothing to do with male female dynamics. it is about female to female friendship excuses. Why do females need to make an excuse or avoid their female friend when they dont want to hang out? why cant you just say i dont feel like doing that tonight instead of making up an obligation to avoid saying no. I used the other story as a context that lead to this question as they seam to be the same tool
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 04:12 AM
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so within your girlfriends group lying keeps the status quo? no ill will just asking for clarification to the question at hand
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 03:55 AM
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Explain please?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 03:52 AM
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yea i do that too but i am in the process of heading that way. not saying yea im on the way and nestling in for a good flick or firing up the ps4. so you tell the boys you gotta mow the lawn or hit the dmv because you cant just say you got other plans with work friends
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 03:51 AM
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Understandable Kristi cant let things go. Thanks for you honesty!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 03:37 AM
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Opposite of your friend i give a straight answer but the results over time will be the same. Less invites over time. I feel my being honest about what i am doing is understandable because my friends know i run a busy schedule with work and young kids. Sometimes i do bite the bullet and go just to keep ties and so that my single or non kid having friends dont get a bad impression of married with kids life. Other times im just tired or I need some alone time. But they also dont have the idea of me…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 02:57 AM
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Thats your projection on 100%. And it shows where your head is. I spent a good deal of time reading a re-reading my post before submitting. I took extra steps to state that i had commented in the previous post which sparked this subject and came to agree with the majority of women on the need soften rejections for various reasons. The top half of my post was dedicated to agreeing with that. My mistake if i portrayed myself as the OP(dance club guy) i mentioned. Not me. Definitely never frequente…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/08/19 12:15 AM
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Wow you just made a hurdle to that conclusion. since when does a guy asking for a pretty female intimate perspective on a very real difference he notices need to be "The Enemy" I am not calling woman out for anything. I asked a question based on my observations. Ive had this discussion with plenty of women from friends to gf to sister to wife. I get some different answers but yes i notice women deal with more obligation among themselves than men. My close female friend from college hipped me to …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:57 PM
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Exactly! Thats the point i was trying to make. If i just didnt want to hang I would say that and I have. "Hey man im on the couch and im not getting up for shit, long day." But with my wife she sometimes feels she needs to ghost the call with certain friends or make something up
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:33 PM
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This is the most honest answer so far, Congrats!
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:25 PM
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who decides what is trivial?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:25 PM
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if thats all that rolls through your head bro then i guess you should stick with lies or maybe not so we can get you off the streets
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:21 PM
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Then i would have been in the car driving to pick her kids up. In my book that would have been ultimate piss me off. Ill take the whatever it takes to get me to shut up before i blow the lie i 1000% cosign
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:20 PM
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When it comes to weddings female and male members of the wedding parties have different experiences. I have never heard a man complain about not wanting to be a groomsmen again for many years to come because of all the obligations. Ive heard it from plenty of different women. So something is to be said of the level of social obligation that males and females experience within thier pier groups. Once again its not a bash. Obviously men and woman communicate differently and form different relation…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 11:12 PM
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I took a good portion of my post to justify why in public situations i understand the excuse to keep things civil if you happen to be dealing with a creep(no way of knowing) so the safe choice is a good excuse. I agreed with that. I encourage my wife to do that same with my daughters when they get older. Hell ive done it on the street myself. The question is why is it ok to do with friends and family? No one is addressing it just saying everyone does it when a many will say no thats not true. Wh…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:52 PM
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I get doing that with someone you just met as to keep the relationship at a good level as you get to know each other. But true case; my friend asks if i want to go golfing? I replied i didnt feel like it because it was hot. He follows up with well do you want me to come over and (throw darts, play games, drink etc) and i say yes. Had i made up some story about my dog needing a bath or what not then we wouldnt have hung out period. I rarely lie to my friends about actually just not being interest…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:41 PM
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“Whining about how people( girls mainly) don’t tell the absolute truth at all times...” It’s funny to hear an attack about why the truth is so conditional. Yet let that same white lie come from your SO and it is a problem. Personally your last statement is just rude and not truthful as you arent actually going to do that. a no thank you should suffice. Why the extreme? The question at hand is why do it to friends and justify it. Just say yeah I lie to my friends and iam ok with them lying to me.…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:33 PM
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No it is not a staple of male communication. Yes it happens that everyone does it as a form of being polite to certain people. It is not a blanket use across the board as you point out. Many friends will flat out say no or require a form of deal that makes it more appealing that the other may not be willing to concede “if you pay and pick me up otherwise I don’t feel like going.” There are a few woman my wife has known over the years who will flat out say something like that. One of her best fri…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:26 PM
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I had just come in the door and was about to speak. She would have been forced to volunteer me to go. I was actually grateful
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 10:16 PM
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From what I have read TRP and referencing what I have lived/experienced I have found that shit test vary based on relational context and the woman in question. Not all women have appropriate value systems. Hence their test desire results most would consider a failure. Example: Some woman wish to see a man become angry or violent because that is the model of love they understand. A man with strong character will not pass this test in your gatekeeper of sex end goal. Many of the shit test discusse…
/r/PurplePillDebate19/08/19 05:56 PM
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I have to agree. It’s a judgment call but I definitely see your point.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 06:21 PM
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I think you misread my comment. I addressed the validity of those fears in vulnerable situations. Basically, any secluded place or place you could be harmed without any fear of repercussion. A public place and even more a social dance club where mingling is encouraged is not the place to blanket dishonesty in the name of fear of having a preference. Same as I don’t wear Kevlar to dinner just in case I get shot and robbed. In a public place whether or not the person in questions handles rejection…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/19 12:24 AM
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Agreed but by self preservation in this sense I was speaking of harm, injury, assault, verbal abuse etc.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 11:21 PM
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Women: how many men do you believe are out there one no away from killing the next women the rejects them? How many times have you suffered a violent reaction to saying no? Is it better to treat all men a violent criminals until proven otherwise? Have your personal experiences enforced this belief or is it just a collective understanding? Maybe iam wrong about women’s general experience with men. Maybe just because I and most of what I have seen does not support that statistically saying no to a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 06:47 PM
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I think situational awareness is one thing. Person approaches you alone walking home or similar solitary environment by all means say what you need to say to get out of there. If your at a public venue or shop or club you should exercise your right to speak an honest answer. 100% of decent people would do anything to ensure EVERYONE has the freedom to decline a dance or date. It’s 2019 a dude flips out on a girl for declining a dance he is a threat to society. Report him to management and get hi…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 06:38 PM
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Agreed all adults including women should be as honest as possible to each other. This will produce a more positive and real experience for everyone. Being married I understand that women feel the weight of social obligation in a more heavy or intimate way than men BUT lying to soften blows gets you into more trouble than it get you out of. Say what you mean and mean what you say. That goes for men and women
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/19 06:28 PM
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I have never ever in my life had any thought about this until now. At the time it was the medically responsible thing for parents to do. Now this seems to be in question. I have done zero research on this because once again it was never an issue for me to even think about. If your uncut more power to you
/r/MensRights03/08/19 03:05 AM
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Your findings with the catchfish profile explains a lot. You just need to read between the lines. You posted a top 5% attractive male picture. Your most responsive catches were decent to ugly. Women are driven to date up. There are many other factors of why low attractive women take shots or are very forward with a traditionally attractive male but it plays into knowing where they stack up and needing to overcome that deficit. Also women are not as visually excited as men. This explains why wome…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/19 02:29 AM
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Cut and thankful here. Please tell me why my own personal experience is wrong
/r/MensRights25/07/19 10:36 PM
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That’s why I hated traditional dinner dates. Sitting in front of a stranger with a plate of food I don’t care about sounds miserable. The activity based date is sound advice. Do something competitive or that centers around yours or their hobbies and interest. The best way to get to know someone is doing things not talking.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/19 09:21 PM
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How is everyone reading this as government conspiracy? It’s on observation of a natural trend. Any civics book will tell you governments tend to get larger. Any business text will tell you all businesses maximize profits. No conspiracy no author just the natural trend.
/r/MensRights16/07/19 04:55 PM
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It won’t last or cannot last. Think of it like the Matrix movie. the machines originally built a utopia but human minds kept rejecting it. It was unnatural because we are wired to survive adversity.That’s how this Uber progressive woman be more like men men be more like woman. It won’t feel right because feminine traits are women’s best way to survive and contribute. Masculinity in men same thing. I know so many hardcore feminist now married and stay at home moms. I am talking shaved head before…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/07/19 08:44 AM
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True, It was not always that way. I think it started as nice when she understood what it meant for me emotionally( regularity). I think over time with that effort it grew into something else. Idk I feel like now sometimes I need to step up
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 09:14 AM
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Really? I am intrigued why sex goes in nice and not hot? I really want to hear yours but I’ll give you mine to save time. I understand hot for many people is vanity. Having a wife keeps herself healthy, fit and tan in the summer is great. It is a nice confidence boost to get compliments and easy on the eyes in daily life. But Hot is also wearing sexy underwear at special times or on dates (clearly not comfortable to wear) giving me a little tease before we go out. Hot is how she conducts herself…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 08:51 AM
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You can spot em but they are low key af. The one who never drives in a group of girlfriends Small things like that. Frugal women are excellent planners and blend in like zebras. They may even treat you sometime but that shit is tactical too
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 08:18 AM
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I had this friend back home who just sold drugs and played video games. We used to play on the same team in school so I would hit him up when I was back in town. I invited him out to the bars and he showed up to my house in his usual lounge at home attire. I felt bad but I told home I wasn’t going to a bar with a man in basketball shorts and threw him a pair of my shorts. I may have given him a shirt too I can’t remember. Dude met a girl that night
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 08:08 AM
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He can get a black tee no logo from target and some decent jeans with no wholes or goofy crap on them. He can buy a decent pair of shoes or sneakers w/e fits his style at off broadway and stash those in the closet for dates and nights out. A trip to the barber every couple weeks. It doesn’t take much to dress with class. At some point he could drop $100 or less on a watch that will last him the next decade with proper care. You need some level of health to wear clothes properly and that’s a good…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 08:00 AM
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I highly question the quality
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:48 AM
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I am sorry but your in HS. No one gives a shit about money until their parents cut them off. If your not good looking or athletic or really smart and socially outgoing or you have a good house for parties forget getting your peepee touched by the cheerleaders and go for the band girls and yearbook crew. They give better... pretty much everything anyway. Go to college and hit the books. Have some fun while your at it and work on those social skills and you might get your peepee touched a couple m…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:46 AM
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Agreed. Hot is a distant second because it involves sex and sex is very complicated and an ongoing process through phases. I find it’s hard to balance both of those at the same time.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:21 AM
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The problem is large majority of people are incapable of the type of introspective balance that says where they went wrong as well as partner as well as the relationship as one. Some people blame the other too much other blame themselves. It’s hard to read through all of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:19 AM
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150% same answer. Have you seen how “lock down” relationships play out. The woman is always perpetually disappointed because she finds she needs to push and manipulate to get anything she needs( iam talking emotional not tangible). These guys fall into this habit of always needing to be told what to do because they aren’t actually a good match for the woman. She made chess moves to get the ring but it was never organic. It was not real. I would never wish that on my daughter. I have watched it p…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 07:15 AM
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I identify with this. I could get sex from going out. Work was a layup to because once vetted well... Anyways I had my fill and got over the marry-go-round. Almost a decade in the scene and the music got louder the girls got more annoying. Party girls are terrible company when you start wanting to spend a night in. I prefer marriage. I prefer staying in and having some shots and breakneck sex all night. The young guys don’t understand how sex with a proper woman improves over the years as she dr…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 06:46 AM
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You just explained what being nice means. A great example of how complicated people are. What does being hot mean? Being a perfect 10. But what if she doesn’t like having sex or is terrible at it. Or only horny once a month. It’s all more complicated
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 04:17 AM
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This right here!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 04:01 AM
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All true. It comes down to what type of situation the opposite sex advisor is in. If they can’t hold a relationship or they are in constant turmoil in a ltr then pass on that advice
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 03:34 AM
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I would never give a woman advice on how to “lock down” her man. It would be bad advice for her. No woman should want to lock down anyone and the same for men. I would listen to the situation and tell them the best way to communicate their interest and to be prepared to move on if the answer is not to their liking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 03:31 AM
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It’s hard to get good advice on the internet. There are so many people who are married but miserable and tons more single and bitter. You got people that hack the system to get laid but can’t sustain a relationship. People who settle for the league bellow because it is safe. How is one to know the difference. Solid advice coming from a male or female will have a solid perspective on some basics of the opposite sexes wants and needs. That’s the advice you need. BUT too much advice on the others w…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/19 03:21 AM
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30 yr and married. I had tons of women in my friend groups and social circles. My close circle of best friends is a handful of guys from way back. At this age with kids and career even maintaining them is work. Previous to marriage I usual kept 2-3 females that I would hang out with one on one. I would do movies and hangouts with them and not much drinking or hitting the town. So I spent my chill time with female friends and my party time with the boys or an actual date. Most of my large social …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/19 10:07 PM
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“Why don’t we value monogamy and marriage?” Baby boomers. The millennial and gen Y are children of baby boomers. Baby boomer generation brought in divorce culture in a massive fashion. If you look at nineties movies and kids programming just about everyone has a divorce aspect of the movie or show. It seemed like everyone was getting divorced when I was growing up. I think that made kids grow up bitter about marriage and place less value on families. We were also told that a degree was paramount…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 10:08 PM
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I’ve been to a lot of beaches and non of them nude. I know they are here but you have to destination to them. Walking down the street with an open container is against the law. I think OPs point was that we take casual sex differently and created a bunch unnecessary rules like how long to you wait to contact after first date? Women don’t approach men because of “tradition”. Granted we are trying to break that last one but ask 100 women how they feel about that rule and most firmly believe a man …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 09:55 PM
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I think you summed it up well. I feel dating in US is mostly for sport. Sports require rules. Also, a lot of what we have normalized post sexual revolution is counter intuitive. We celebrate freedom to enjoy otherwise risky behavior in other parts of the world. thus you see the calls for more societal policing to keep people safe from themselves.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/19 09:48 PM
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I just wanted to add in agreement to class and family background. My wife and I come from the same financial background. We have the same general understanding of money. Our homes are just a neighborhood or two away. Her parents divorced when she was an infant then got back together when she was 7 or 9. To me it did not seem like a big deal because the family I knew was a married when I met her. The reality was she spent the first 5yrs in China being raised by a nany. The next 2-3 years she spen…
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 03:08 AM
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Black men naturally view women as a value proposition( what can she do for ME). That is different from the natural way I have notice white men view women. Whites seem to care more about how their woman makes them look so the relationship becomes tied to his sense of self. Not saying it doesn’t happen with blacks too I just notice it more. For a black man if all a woman can offer is sex then sex is all she will receive in return. If she offers substance or value(character and or money) then a rel…
/r/MGTOW22/06/19 01:58 AM
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I don’t think we are disagreeing on any level and much of what you are saying lines up with my post. My post is focusing on WHY the attack on men is taking place. The why is to divide and conquer. Separate the lions from the pack and have your way with the pack. We live in a capitalist society so you need to follow the money, always. Women are a huge consumer mechanism. Female consumption is an evolutionary compulsion that has a root in the role of gathering and distributing nourishments within …
/r/MensRights20/06/19 03:56 AM
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You missed the point. I am not pointing to a particular conspiracy or some shadow group. As I stated much of this may be subconscious to the actors. It’s natural to seek gains. I am highlighting a trend and the WHY it persist. Feminism and all of the next isms or ideologies that rise to cultural power in the Modern Era will offer value to the tendencies of increased profit and power.
/r/MensRights19/06/19 11:07 PM
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What you will find is that most women do not enjoy the best sex of their life until after 22+. Maturity lends to their sexual enjoyment. Under 21 people are just boning and not really enjoying the process.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/19 07:57 PM
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No you wouldn’t sign a contract the required castration. Likewise you don’t enter a relationship not being yourself. Walk with your chest out. Mgtow exist for people who cannot take confrontation. It is needed for those reasons because sneaking around to play games makes woman think controlling behavior is acceptable
/r/MGTOW14/06/19 06:34 AM
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Wife bought me the glacier ice special edition ps4 destiny bundle as a wedding gift saying “I don’t plan on seeing much of you for the next couple weeks.” (Something I used to say when we dated and a game I was waiting on would drop) could have bought the thing myself she just beat me too it. Guys these days don’t set the bar for the women the get in bed with.
/r/MGTOW14/06/19 06:28 AM
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I feel for you reading this. Many comments are placing a high focus on avoiding women. In other words; many comments are placing a high focus ON women. Get it? That’s not true mgtow. Granted much of the redpill is deprograming men who are compelled to place women on the pedestal and willingly ruin themselves for “the cookie”. I also warn against the opposite; making decisions placed on fear, hate, distrust or sustain for woman. As I pointed but sides are overly influenced by the female gender. F…
/r/MGTOW13/06/19 10:36 AM
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30yo m here. I am blessed to have a few women in my life that do shop for me. It started with my mother and sister( mainly sister has the eye for fashion) I can usually count on a birthday or Christmas present that is a new fashion cut or look to try. If it doesn’t fit my look which has only slightly changed over the last 10 years I’ll give it right back or give it a try. So it’s nice to have a person who may pick something out for you that you would never try. The key is I know right away weath…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/19 07:52 PM
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