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jn14j/r/askTRP13/05/20 05:45 PM
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As others said, trust the process. Out in the real world most goals: fitness, girls, having your own place, etc. take time. More than you realize, but then things start to fall in line seemingly all at once. Something tells me that since you are on here you already know what you should be doing, you just have to be honest with yourself if you are actually putting in the work or not. Yes, there have been times that I have been here, there have been times my friends have been here, and others on t…
/r/TheRedPill10/06/22 11:53 AM
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Great lesson from fighting to social relations. Great feeling when an opponent thinks they can charge in on you, only to be met with a stiff jab. You can really tell it is effective when they simply don't charge in on you anymore and start flinching at feints. I think this is all akin to the saying "you teach people how to treat you". Nice post.
/r/TheRedPill22/09/21 12:41 PM
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Hey man, I never really comment on posts but yours struck a cord. My dad and other men in my family were/are first responders. According to my mother, there was only one incident he shared with her that bothered him over twenty years, everything else he compartmentalized. Whether that did damage or not I am not sure, but I do believe any "talking" that would have happened would have been with other firefighters. No therapy, he thinks it is soft; could it be useful to some individuals? Maybe. No …
/r/TheRedPill18/09/21 03:49 PM
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Hence why I said "or some other platform"
/r/askTRP28/04/21 11:55 AM
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What if he uses snapchat or some platform?
/r/askTRP27/04/21 12:04 PM
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Forreal this would be an entirely different question if he said he was getting laid consistently already (without hookers).
/r/askTRP23/04/21 01:17 PM
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Second this. PE is controversial, but it works if you are smart and consistent. I think it is not widely recognized because its pretty boring, I watch youtube while I do it now.
/r/askTRP19/04/21 02:11 PM
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I worked retail Summer after my freshman year of college as a cashier, my first experience with Nofap streaks so I got to see how my interactions with people changed over the course of that time. A lot of people think it changes how people view you, and maybe it does with pheromones or some shit, BUT more so in the way you hold yourself: posture, eye contact, etc. I mean over the course of kicking the habit the look in your eye changes, you look and won't see a dead stare anymore. I don't advoca…
/r/askTRP23/03/21 11:59 AM
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Any references for gaining better control over your emotional state and thoughts?
/r/TheRedPill15/03/21 12:24 PM
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Welcome to reality as a male, it's as lonely as you allow it to be.
/r/askTRP11/03/21 01:08 PM
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Awesome, I will check these out.
/r/TheRedPill10/03/21 12:31 PM
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Seems like you are in the E-Commerce game. I have a lot of ideas, but actual planning and implementation are drowned by the sea "gurus". Any recommendations on where to start?
/r/TheRedPill09/03/21 01:14 PM
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Join a club or get a part-time retail job, something to just get desensitized to talking to strangers. Also, read. How to Win Friends and Influence People is a good start. Social Skills are just that, a skill. Skills can get rusty with no use.
/r/askTRP04/03/21 01:01 PM
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Ya gotta fall in love with being by yourself and your own personal mission first homie. If you don't you will fall into having to be with person X to be happy.
/r/askTRP02/03/21 01:01 PM
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I second this, was in a similar position socially at 20. Don't know your circumstances but I was in college. I got a job at a popular bar as a bar back and worked my way up to bar tender by the end of college. Definitely helped a ton.
/r/seduction28/02/21 02:31 PM
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The past can be a great teacher, but knowing how to distinguish between what is helpful and what is useless is critical.
/r/TheRedPill27/02/21 03:48 PM
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Thank you, needed this after having a morning filled with impatience with my overall progress in life.
/r/TheRedPill25/02/21 12:47 PM
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Just sounds like a girl with abandonment issues to me.
/r/askTRP22/02/21 12:54 PM
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Working at a bar in college, there is absolutely nothing you can/say do to girls who are acting like this except for walking away. Any sort of comeback and response with energy seems to feed to the furnace that is the emotional meltdown and only makes things worse. It's like a fire that needs to be suffocated from a lack of fuel.
/r/askTRP17/02/21 01:24 PM
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Yeah there are times it would fuck with my energy, but I have found it has more to do with my physical fitness/nutrition. Turning it into a once a week scheduled event at night has helped me to do a lot more with my life.
/r/askTRP11/01/21 03:08 PM
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Obviously, porn is out of the question, but I would tend to say don't avoid masturbation altogether. Limit it to once a week, maybe give yourself a few more if you are in a competitive environment with lots of girls. Social media will make it almost impossible to control urges in my experience, so I go without it. I used to do Nofap but would just get caught in vicious cycles of relapsing back to insane binges, and found that some kind of middle ground was better.
/r/askTRP10/01/21 02:39 PM
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Good assertiveness, but for real learn to fight. Jiu-Jitsu, Muay Thai, Boxing... Not only will you be less likely to get into a situation like this again, but if you do, you should be able to handle your own. Also is very good for self-confidence.
/r/askTRP03/01/21 04:42 PM
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For me a lot of it was deprogramming, up until puberty like most kids, I was very social. Then high school was very much like your experience. A lot of it was in my head, feeling like an outcast. And that feeling only makes you behave more strangely and anti-social around others. Starting monk mode was a great start to give me the energy (working out/nofap), and enthusiasm to converse with others. Working retail was the next piece of the puzzle. Getting the opportunity to say "How are you today"…
/r/askTRP21/12/20 02:50 PM
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Yes, it can still happen, but I have come to accept it is a result of my lifestyle decisions. Getting a job at a sports bar in college helped a ton, with just shooting the shit. So did working as a cashier. Lifting heavy weight helps change the baseline anxiety. MMA has helped a lot too, less anxious in foreign places. Porn is something I absolutely abstain from, anxiety is very intertwined with it. Also, keep masturbation to a minimum, or go on occasional Nofap streaks if I feel I need a little…
/r/askTRP21/11/20 04:25 PM
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Honestly, if you make the decision to break up with her. I would wait until she can't pin the why on TikTok. While most of us here understand that it's the principle (the lying), if you have mutual friends I would suspect most people would in fact blame you for breaking up with someone over a TikTok. Just a thought to persevere your own reputation.
/r/askTRP15/05/20 12:15 PM
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As someone who has had Nofap just about drive me insane in the past, I understand. I think in this instance it is great to feel your baseline motivation and mental clarity improve over the 5 days. However, once that testosterone peak hits and you become too horny to think is probably the point you are at. Don't know if you are using porn or not, that can fuck you up. If you are not, the "depression" you feel is likely from going from a hyper-aggressive (horny) state to being relaxed and mellowed…
/r/askTRP06/05/20 12:28 PM
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I think like all things moderation is key. The difference between blowing off steam after a few days of hard work vs. doing it because of boredom or to numb mental anguish is an important distinction.
/r/askTRP06/05/20 12:16 PM
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What is your side business?
/r/askTRP23/04/20 03:46 PM
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Whatchu do?
/r/askTRP16/04/20 09:44 PM
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I'm not entirely sure how to feel about this post. Considering that I graduated from one of the top party schools and held a job where I got to be around drunk sorority girls every weekend, perhaps I can offer some perspective... I definitely experienced everything from a typical anger phase and information overload to being a smooth motherfucker, who got hugs from all the girls when I showed up, and everything in between. Redpill helped me wake up, go figure, sophmore year and raised my n count…
/r/TheRedPill19/10/19 01:32 PM
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I think all this is well-meant. Whatever you have to do to get the results you want, do it. I just wanted to add some perspective on the laptop/phone usage. I like you, have done all of the above. Now I'm also sure what combination that has worked for me is very different than for you. However, be wary of HOW you use your technology. By this I mean do you have social media on your phone? If you do either cut it out completely, or limit it in some way (Don't use any of it before 5 p.m.). If you'r…
/r/askTRP19/08/19 02:14 PM
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I will say from personal experience that it does have benefits. The perceived superpowers are from dudes who have been living in a dopamine deficient world since puberty. Everyone's brain chemistry is different, there are dudes who watch porn every day and still are productive and get girls. I am NOT one of those guys lol. The only way to know is to experiment and see if it works for you. I first tested this when I worked in retail as a cashier, and kept track of how my social interactions chang…
/r/askTRP15/08/19 01:54 PM
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Yes, for your own sake. I just graduated from a major state party school. Every girl who came in with a LDR didn't last long into freshman year. I can think of maybe 1-2 girls I know of who kept a bf throughout college, 1 the guy went there, the other cheated while drunk but didn't tell him. Having this time commitment will only be a burden to you the rest of college. It may give you a sense of validation and unfrequent sex, but your time is better spent building yourself and getting good with g…
/r/askTRP15/08/19 01:40 PM
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^This is true, I forgot some have an issue with PIED to a point where it takes a longer amount of time to "heal" from. Though everyone is different 3 days abstinence for me and heavy squats and I'm like a teenager during puberty again. This will likely take time and patience, but in general life without porn sex and intimacy are improved drastically. Again it takes time though.
/r/seduction13/08/19 02:36 PM
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Porn use or excessive masturbation is probably the culprit. 2-3 days without either, as well as some kind of physical activity, should change this. Deathgrip could also be a cause.
/r/seduction13/08/19 02:11 PM
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Great comment. The hypomania part really hit home for me. I'd be interested to see if you have any sources that elaborate on that. I want to prepare for the likelihood that that can happen again in the future as I slowly make progress on myself again.
/r/askTRP05/08/19 04:01 PM
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What's your suggestion? Try and be present and your senses focused on the things outside yourself?
/r/TheRedPill01/06/19 03:33 PM
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This was exactly what I've been searching for the past month. I noticed I've recently had trouble meeting and speaking to people in general, and have been trying to discover the root cause. I knew deep down it was a lack of curiosity in people, or rather, the mindset that they have nothing interesting about them. To curate this, setting hard limits on things I deemed to destroy my curiosity (Excessive Reddit/Youtube) has helped tremendously in getting a dopaminergic kick from digging deeper into…
/r/TheRedPill27/05/19 08:04 PM
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book of pook
/r/seduction20/11/18 08:41 PM
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This^. The first time I experienced this I was talking to a friends girlfriend at a party, just her and I. Three different girls approached me simply because I was making her smile and laugh a lot, so I looked like a good time lol. When you are with a normal good looking girl and having this type of interaction other girls automatically assume you aren't creepy/ weird. I thing eggy is correct that you should use her to fill that role, if there was anything that would get her to change her mind a…
/r/seduction18/08/18 03:33 PM
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Can be misconstrued to the community being misogynists and such by the media. Ultimately it has to do with women's nature/ women's sexual strategy, becoming a better version of yourself, and basically reclaiming lost masculinity. It can teach you a lot of traits/ habits that society teaches you women find "desirable", but actually are counter intuitive. I recommend starting with the sidebar, if you have any questions just ask. Just be aware a lot of this may make you go through complete denial, …
/r/TheRedPill16/08/18 12:45 AM
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Saw your post on nofap, was gunna direct you to here. Not sure how much you have swallowed the pill, but pick up the rational male as well. It's easy to get attached to girls at your age, but hard to realize they ain't shit. Next.
/r/TheRedPill16/08/18 12:26 AM
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Stop making that a priority, if you care so much about how you look you will never be content in your entire life. I've met college cheerleaders who are 10s who are some of the most self conscious people you've ever met. All it does is cause anxiety and negative thought spirals. Take care of yourself, mind, body, spirit
/r/seduction12/08/18 08:17 PM
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Jesus man it doesn't matter, stop deriving self worth and confidence from external things. If you really want to feel better about yourself get fucking strong (gym), learn to fight, improve your people skills, eat healthy, get some sun, just live and have fun. Stop looking for validation/ego boost, that's what women do.
/r/seduction12/08/18 07:45 PM
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Try making it a daily habit to try to talk to anyone and everyone you can. Along with this, I recommend reading "how to win friends and influence people - Dale Carnegie", it was the starting point for me to overcome general social awkwardness.
/r/seduction25/06/18 05:19 PM
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Treat her like she's your little sister
/r/seduction30/12/17 04:42 AM
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Ask her if she wants to cuddle, from there feel how she responds to your touch and escalate your touch based of it. If you feel her start to breath heavy and her heart start to race when your hands on her lower back or waist that's probably a good sign lol
/r/seduction22/10/17 05:30 PM
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Best advice I can give is use texting for almost purely logistics, I would set a timer on my phone so I didn't reply too fast (used to reply instantly, which killed a lot of relationships before they got off the ground) I think at least 30 min max of 2-3 hours.
/r/seduction27/07/17 03:05 PM
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Yeah man don't overthink, all you gotta think is bitch I know
/r/seduction27/07/17 05:39 AM
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Work out, I've done nofap and felt almost asexual at points. Worked out one day, all of a sudden random boners and mouth watering over news anchor post workout. Make sure to hit legs twice a week for maximum testosterone, as your body will release the most to help the largest muscle group to recover. So try and combine working out and nofap and see how that works. Recommend 4x a week 5x5 stronglift program to start.
/r/seduction12/07/17 02:33 PM
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Hank moody- Californication
/r/seduction29/01/17 03:54 PM
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Any specific videos that you took a lot from, from the RSD guys you mentioned? If you happened to save them or something.
/r/seduction05/01/17 02:21 AM
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