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| 22 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women? | Logistics | jobforaspawn | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 04:31 PM |
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| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?best way to not be afraid of women is to make female friends Which is next to impossible when you're 31 and have anxiety...I've ben trying. Treat them with respect and as your equal, and soon you will realize that those extremely attractive women are people just like us It's not that they aren't people, it's that they're people with tons of options and high standards. women are a product of the men they spend time with, and we can empower women, help them succeed in their careers and interests. … | /r/seduction | 25/03/24 01:29 PM |
| 2 | how do i put myself out there after a rejection?And I hope u use that as motivation to change it, prove to everyone and urself that u r not a pussy. I wish... | /r/seduction | 22/03/24 03:43 AM |
| 2 | how do i put myself out there after a rejection?thanks a lot dude, you're really helping! | /r/seduction | 22/03/24 01:14 AM |
| 2 | how do i put myself out there after a rejection?Well I wish that were easier lol | /r/seduction | 22/03/24 01:11 AM |
| 3 | how do i put myself out there after a rejection?wow what a big help you are, thx! /sarcasm | /r/seduction | 21/03/24 05:48 PM |
| 2 | how do i put myself out there after a rejection?If you find out the answer, please share. I'm 31 and fear of rejection is literally the reason I can't approach women. | /r/seduction | 21/03/24 12:45 PM |
| 1 | Girls WILL put themselves in positions to let you make a moveSure...if you're attractive. | /r/seduction | 20/03/24 11:05 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Some women are dying for attractive men to approach them. Most women don't want men to unless they're super hot, bc they can just go on dating apps and find all the hot guys they want. | /r/seduction | 15/03/24 03:02 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I've been trying to use apps for years, ofc my photos are good... I've taken hundreds of pictures and used dozens. Literally improving pictures are the more obvious thing literally everyone does first... Women don't want to meet irl anymore. It's deemed outdated and unwelcome. | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I'm obviously not suggesting that women can literally smell emotions, they are just far better than men when it comes to spotting a general vibe that a person gives off. I can tell you from experience, both ways, that anxieties and insecurities are far more obvious than you think they are, when first meeting someone. So why do so many women wind up with abusive, violent, psychopathic, toxic, evil, etc men? Why doesn't their spidy sense go off with them? Whatever you think about your face, there … | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 02:57 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I have anxiety, dude...I only have so much social energy. | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 02:59 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?You feel very pessimistic from your comments, that won’t help. Girls can smell things like that a mile off. Really? Then please explain all the depressed, self-loathing, whiny, woeful, toxic, etc men who have no issues meeting women. Women aren't mythical creates...they cannot "smell" negatively lol. Some of them are negative themselves. They're not altruistic unicorns. You see thousands of “ugly” guys with great women, it’s guys who don’t give a fuck and have confidence. Your height and build s… | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 12:35 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Telling a joke to a Grandma is practice for telling the same joke to a cutie. You can be dealing with a whole variety of people. If you're near College or Uni, plenty of cute girls would come by as well. umm...it's not. Talking to old women and young are literally 100% different. The dynamics are too different. Old women talk to anyone bc they're old lol. Also I'm 31 dude...I'm not talking to kids at college wtf... Can you join social groups? Meetup.com has some heaps of different things to do. … | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 12:32 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I’m just saying you at 6’3 means it’s not your height getting you rejected that’s for sure. Sure...it could be my income, looks, lack of status, race, body, or 4,562 other things lol. | /r/seduction | 14/03/24 12:29 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?If it was my mind holding me back, I would still get matches I'm alternative and weird...I've done Acid, Shrooms, dmt, k, etc before it's never changed anything in regards to women | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 07:44 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Tons of fat men are considered attractive. As long as they're good-looking. Also poor to most women is less than 100k a year lol. | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 03:18 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Ummmm...no | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 03:11 PM |
| 3 | There is generally speaking two types of guysHoly chit...#1 is me to a T...FML | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:44 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Dude your third-party anecdote of height doesn't change my entire life experiences. I've been tall my entire adult life and I have pretty low physical standards, I don't need someone else to tell me what it's like. Height has never done anything for me. It has never led to me meeting women, or women caring. It's moot if you don't have the looks to back it up. Also there's no feedback to get as far as dating sites. You're either good-looking or your aren't. I've worked on every aspect of my profi… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:37 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?No, clubs aren't for ugly dudes lol. I tried them a bit when I was younger...I never got looks or anything. Women in clubs are shallow af and only looking for hot guys. And I never said I was strictly seeking sex. I'm looking for companionship. So if you are an artist or artisan , Then put your focus and efforts into a way you can be seen for what is inside you rather than the superficial , You never see a violinist , Of repute with an ugly woman on his arm ,lol or look at Jesse James , no one l… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:26 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?dude, I'm 31 and not good-looking...going to a club would be a disaster for me. Women don't look at me anywhere, let alone at a club where are the women there are young af. The attraction that got you noticed is usually enough to get you laid , The issue is I don't get noticed in the first place. Your "advice" is intended for good-looking men, not me. I'm invisible anywhere I go. | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 01:59 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Have you considered getting a job that's customer facing? Builds a lot of social skills and helps with social anxiety. I had multiple customer-facing jobs in my 20s. Talking to customers and talking to strangers are radically different. Gotta be in the same type of circles. I think volunteering at the art gallery was a great idea. Can you find other community groups you could volunteer / join? Making female friends is a great idea. Its pretty difficult to find other artsy/alternative places to d… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 01:46 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I mean...of course I am. I haven't had a date in years and I cannot get a single match on any dating site. It has nothing to do with mothers and teachers, it's bc women have made it known they aren't interested in me. It's not that I treat them any different, I just know they're never going to be interested. Huh? Man-woman dynamics? All I mean by alternative is that I wear a lot of black and I like metal and foreign horror movies. It has nothing to do with gender roles... Even if you feel differ… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 01:28 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?The only women that have height as a requirement is shallow, vapid women, in which case they also have looks, income, body, status, race, etc requirements too, not simply height. Hot ig models or something...most women...don't care. Height is a bonus unless you're going after the top 10% of women. If you're tall you can still be rejected for not being attractive enough, or fit enough, or income, etc. I'm tall, black and not good-looking...most women would take the most average of average men ove… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 12:01 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I live in a fairly large metro I've been on the apps for years and yes, sometimes I do see the same women in my feed. | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 11:51 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Your situation is literally nothing like mine. You're attractive and have options...YOU can actually use OLD which I'd give my right arm to be able to ever get matches there. I'm ugly and I have literally none. No options, no suitors...nothing Did you even read my OP? Your post feels like a humble brag. Women never look or smile at me, cute or otherwise... Posts like this just make me feels worse and highlight how fecked my situation really is and how no one will ever understand it lol. Even the… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 03:47 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I've but all given up that any woman is ever going to give me a chance. I never assume or expect that. You're projecting, dude. At this point I just want to be able to interact with women in the most platonic sense. | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:35 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?You clearly didn't read my OP. I literally mentioned I'm too anxious to even approach women so yes...I was trying to make friends. And I mentioned I have next to no physical standards, and haven't had a date in years...why are you even talking about women in the top 5%?...like..what? | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:28 AM |
| 1 | What are the biggest problems for you when it comes to dating?Being too ugly to get dates in the first place lol | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:26 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?It's not about partners, I can't even get a date on apps. I can't even get a conversation. | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 02:04 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?And there's the root of your anxiety. What would you do if you were on a desert island where getting laid simply wasn't in the cards? That's basically just my life already lol. Has been for years. Just bc I cannot get laid, doesn't mean I can just forget I'm lonely. I wish I could just not care, but alas... You will not die without female affection. And it is certainly not a necessity for mental health. Ummmm....yes. It is. I'm a heterosexual male. Female companionship is a necessity at some poi… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 01:08 AM |
| 2 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?You can't be totally removed from dating and have no suitors or options and have high self-esteem. Like that's not possible. Again, if you're alone all the time with no women, no dates or anything, of course you're going to rely and fall back on porn. I'm not only on tinder, Im in hinge, okc, match, and bumble and I don't get anything on any of those sites either... Perhaps if you're attractive...not when you are ugly. Women don't just pity ugly men, as far as dates. I volunteered at an art gall… | /r/seduction | 13/03/24 12:40 AM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?As I said in my OP, 31 | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Go out for the next two nights (or wait for Friday night) and resolve that you will go out to have fun and enjoy yourself and you won't attempt or even think about meeting women. I literally did that for years. Years. I did the bar scene for years where I would just go out to enjoy myself and not worry about women, and it resulted in me never meeting women...which just made my anxiety worse. The issue became I just never met women...years went by and it never happened. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 09:35 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Im not going after hot or attractive women...I would take a woman just as unattractive as I am, not sure why I need to compete at all | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 09:12 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I'm not being vague. Its just nothing I do is ever good enough for women....any women. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 09:06 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Mate your advice to tantamount to telling a depressed person to not be sad. Yes, of course...the issue is HOW? If I could just not care...I would already be not caring | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 08:35 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Welp I guess it's over, then. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 08:27 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?It's not about the quality of women. I don't get any women irl or on apps. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 08:23 PM |
| 0 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?You're projecting. I simply cannot just decide to not care. I have extreme anxiety and I haven't had a date in years. I am so concerned with the outcome I cannot do an approach in the first place. If I could just not care, I would already be doing that... | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 08:21 PM |
| 0 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Yes, they're either rich and/or have very high status. Women don't care about any of the work I've put into myself. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 08:03 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Ummm...he could be good looking, make a lot of money, have a lot of status, etc. I didn't say tall guys had issues meeting women, my point is I have issues bc I'm ugly and being tall isn't enough to compensate. Neither is confidence. Women still have eyes. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I mean...that quote isn't wrong, but the issue is when you don't have any feats or anything worthy of being confident lol. Or even if you've just progressed and improved yourself...and women still don't care. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:54 PM |
| -2 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Either you're a totally social invalid or your standards are too high. If you're *actually* a seven, and white the world is your oyster. Most non-black ethnic women would kill for an average looking white guy, let alone above average. Again, no. Women will take a fat, poor, toxic, stupid, etc man as long if he's attractive. You're trying to equate looks to height and it's ignorant. You have to be young or something. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:51 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I can't not care. I have too much anxiety to not care. If that was the case, I wouldn't be afraid of rejection in the first place lol. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:45 PM |
| -1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I’m good looking, but also doesn’t matter either. This is bs. This is like I'm I'm rich and it doesn't matter. Or I have high status and it doesn't matter. I legitimately wish some of you could try being tall and ugly and seeing for yourselves how pointless it is. If you're actually good-looking, it's a cheat code. To deny it is pure ignorance. It’s 100% personality, and how do you say height doesn’t matter when all women you ask what they’re type they say tall. Ummm...no. When you ask women wha… | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:44 PM |
| 0 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?A therapist isn't going to make me not ugly to women...that is the real issue. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:31 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?lol no thanks | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:21 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?therapy isn't going to make me not ugly | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Sarcasm is very helpful! | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:57 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Saying good morning to a barista you see often isn't the same and going around saying hello to literal strangers in passing | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:45 PM |
| 0 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I don't think I'm all that ugly tbh...women do. I'm no looker or anything, but they're the ones who never like or match with me. I'm 5'6" and very handsome but I'd trade to be tall and ugly. I used to have the same mindset as you because of my height until I realized it was a confidence issue, not a height issue. This isn't the same. Height and looks aren't equal to women. There are MILLIONS of tall, ugly lonely men. Do you see ample short, good-looking men? No. Being short isn't even an issue. … | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?How are a bunch of one-sided interactions where I'm always the one initiating going to do that? | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:29 PM |
| 3 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I'm black and unattractive, you are factually incorrect lol. Not all tall men look like Chris Hemsworth dude. Just being tall in a vacuum doesn't make you attractive. You're projecting. If I was attractive to a decent number of women, I would have likes and matches and I'd get hints and looks irl. Something would actually confirm that. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:23 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Who just randomly goes around saying "good morning" to female strangers? That seems weird. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?If you are tall and fit, there's no reason you shouldn't be be getting any matches on dating apps, which means something is wrong with your profile and pictures. Be as not serious as possible in your profile, and with pictures make sure they are not too try hard - just good pictures of you out living your life and with friends. I'm ugly...that's what's wrong. I'm on five apps...I've taken hundreds of pictures ad have used dozens, I've experimented with countless bios(not that women even read min… | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:14 PM |
| 2 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?I tried forcing myself to volunteer to be more social and help with my anxiety. For months. And it really didn't tbh... | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:09 PM |
| 4 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?you have to approach situations and truly not care what way the outcome goes. The issue is being able to do that in the first place, dude. | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?That doesn't feet natural. Women never do that to me, why would I randomly start doing that to them? | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:07 PM |
| 14 | Can I ever not be so afraid of women?Your height should guarantee you the door, just like my looks guarantee me the door. The only thing that stands between you and getting women, is social skills & self-confidence. Once you get both, the rest is easy. I'm going to let you in on a little secret...height is mostly moot. The only people who care about height are short men who want to blame their lack of success in getting 11/10 supermodels on height. I have been tall my entire life and it has never mattered to women. I couldn't be an… | /r/seduction | 12/03/24 05:06 PM |
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