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Relationship & Parenting: Not much to report. Wife is constantly shit testing me that I won't be able to take care of our son this week while she is away visiting family and that he should go with her. This is happening multiple times a day, which I am mostly ignoring and somimes A&A. I have actually been looking forward to this week and have planned a few outdoor activities and healthy meals with him. We had a Christmas day out with my son. My wife was whinging and complaining alot, which previ…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 10:58 AM
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OYS #9 - 5th December 2023 31 yo, married for 6 years, together for 10, son aged 3. 5'10, obese, 101.4kg, BF 32%. Lifts: (BP 80 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5). Diagnosed with Autism. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. Goal: By Christmas Eve 2023, I aim to weigh 96 kg or less. By the end of July 2024, I will weigh under 80 kg and achieve a body fat percentage of under 15% .---------- I had some good feedback last week, so thank you for that. I'm frustrated as I need to do better in weight loss. Weight L…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/12/23 10:58 AM
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haha your not far wrong. Guess I was annoyed with myself with the initial losing of my cool but glad I was able to recognised it quickly and check myself. Feels like progress but not good enough yet.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/23 09:19 PM
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Ok, good rule. Wish I read this comment 3 days ago but I am commited from right this second. I've been offered sweets, cakes, chocolate etc. every day since my OYS. Somtimes I say no but this approach of 100% no until I weight 85 actually sounds nice and simple - removing my though process of if I can "afford" these calories.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/23 09:17 PM
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I appreciate you taking the time to provide your perspective. I've just started playing football again after around 12 years break. Mostly with other 30+ guys and I have a home gym so football has been quite beneficial to me so far with socialising. It also highlighted to me how embarrassingly bad my cardio is. One of the dumest things I am doing at the moment is not going to see my chiropractor. I know someone with a great reputation based next door to my office. I really don't have an excuse b…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/23 09:13 PM
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Tkanks, have you lost alot with fasting? What window do you use? Its been on my mind to try again, I went from my heaviest around 120kg to now mostly with intermittent fasting 16/8 but i messed around with other times. However, I found myself slowly slipping into snacking more and more in the window and almost overeating to compensate. I'm in a weight loss group at the moment that requires calories counting but the guy who has lost the most in the group swears by it. I may give it again soon.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/12/23 09:01 PM
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Thanks mate, appreciate the advice.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 09:26 PM
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Thanks, I didnt spot that but I have been mostly A&A with this anyway without giving it much through. It is coming up daily now though.
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 08:07 PM
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Business: Situation: Family business. Co-owed with my wife, but I run it. Growth has stalled, and the company is in an unhealthy financial position. Our biggest customer is considering leaving us, through no fault of our own. Our current staff are worried about losing their jobs. I've done a good job so far to remain calm, but it is pretty obvious that if they leave, it will lead to layoffs. I've begun planning and preparing for all eventualities. Once I know what the customer wants to do, I wil…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 10:15 AM
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OYS #8 - 28th November 2023 31 yo, married for 6 years, together for 10, son aged 3. 5'10, obese, 101kg, BF 33%. Lifts: (BP 80 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5). Diagnosed with Autism. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. It has been two weeks since my last OYS. Back injury and work stress have hampered my progress. I need to do better in weight loss. Goal: By Christmas Eve 2023, I aim to weigh 96 kg or less. By the end of July 2024, I will weigh under 80 kg and achieve a body fat percentage of under 15%. W…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/11/23 10:04 AM
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Business: October was probably our most profitable month ever. The trick is to now set that as the new standard and get it repeated. However, I already know we are going to get a dip in November but the forecast is looking good for Jan-Feb. I'm confident that 2024 will be our best year but not sure if it's going to be enough to get us out of debt.I found a new motivation. While furniture shopping, I saw a kid's bed and it suddenly dawned on me that my son will go to school soon without a room of…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 04:48 PM
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OYS #7 - 14th November 2023 I couldn't post this yesterday for some reason. Tried laptop and phone. 31 yo, married for 6 years, together for 10, son aged 3. 5'10, obese, 100.8kg, BF 33%. Lifts: (BP 80 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5). Diagnosed with Autism. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. Goal: By Christmas Eve 2023, I aim to weigh 96 kg or less. By the end of July 2024, I will weigh under 80 kg and achieve a body fat percentage of under 15%. It has been two weeks since my last confession OYS. To summ…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/23 04:44 PM
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OYS #6 31/10/2023 - 31 yo, married for 6 years, together for 10, son aged 3. - 5'11", obese, 101.8kg, BF 33%. - Lifts: (BP 80 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5). - Diagnosed with Autism. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. Goal: By Christmas Eve 2023, I aim to weigh 96 kg or less. By the end of July 2024, I will weigh under 80 kg and achieve a body fat percentage of under 15%. ---------- Weight Loss: - Lost 1.4 kg this week. - Lost 0.4 kg since OYS4 (starting at 102.2kg). Diet: I gained weight the week befo…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/10/23 10:26 AM
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I wouldn't normally post advice as I am still working through my own shit, but I know exactly what you are talking about. Granted, I only have one toddler. Even before we had a child, she was 10-15 minutes late leaving and obviously got worse since we had a child. On a few occasions, it's 45-60 min. A few years ago, I would get angry about this, but she then got a diagnosis of OCD, and after reading up on it, I realized I would have to adapt. This was all before I started reading about red pill.…
/r/askMRP30/10/23 01:17 PM
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Thank you, that's a helpful post. Good or bad, she is a reflection of myself. We were both in decent shape when we met, and I quickly became fat. Around the same time, I started to whine about the lack of sex. I see the irony. As I've been making an effort with my diet and fitness, it has been interesting that her response so far has been eating much worse, being lazier than before and struggling badly with the kid. I've got a long way to go before I will know if the rope will tighten or not.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/10/23 08:38 AM
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OYS #5 24/10/2023 Background: - 31 yo, married 6, together 10, son together 3 - 5'11, obese, 103.2kg, BF 33% - Lifts: (BP 80 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5) - Business owner, financially successful. Diagnosed Autistic. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. Goal: By Christmas Day 2023, I aim to weigh 96 kg or less, ideally less than 25% body fat, and by the end of July 2024, I will weigh under 80 kg and achieve a body fat percentage of under 15%. ---------- I won't lie. I fucked up this week and need to get…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/10/23 04:20 PM
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Count me in
/r/MarriedRedPill19/10/23 07:22 AM
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Not a lot really. Weekdays consist of work, spending time with son and exercising. Weekends I typically plan a day out on a Saturday. Going to football this week has been the first social thing I have done in about 10 years. Before it was just work. The business is pretty full on but I am working in a plan to slowly allow for a passive exit where the management team takes more responsibility and I check in a couple of times per week. But that is at least 2 years off.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 09:33 AM
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Thanks, I just bought it and seen it mentioned here a few times.
/r/MarriedRedPill18/10/23 07:28 AM
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OYS #4 17/09/2023 Background: - 31 yo, married 6, together 10, son together 3 - 5'11, obese, 102.2kg (220lbs), BF 33% - Lifts: (BP 80 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5) - Business owner, financially successful. Diagnosed Autistic. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. - Read (related to MRP): Sidebar, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Mastery, The Book of Pook, The Way of the Superior Male, The Rational Male, The Art of Seduction, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Extreme Ownership, Leangains. Reading business b…
/r/MarriedRedPill17/10/23 08:37 PM
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Thank you. In the book, Martin talks about getting as close to 60% as possible, but he has about 55% himself and suggests that 50% is a reasonable compromise. Yesterday, I only got to 37% so I have some work to do to improve this.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/10/23 08:45 AM
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OYS #3 10/09/2023 Background: 31 years old, wife is 30, together 10 years (married 6), and a 3-year-old son together. 5'11, obese, maybe 96.7kg (220lbs). BF 30.4% (navy) Lifts: (BP 77.5 kg x5), (DL 102.5 kg x5) Business owner, financially successful. Diagnosed Autistic. Discovered Redpill in early 2022. Read (related to MRP): Sidebar, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Mastery, The Book of Pook, The Way of the Superior Male, The Rational Male, The Art of Seduction, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, …
/r/MarriedRedPill10/10/23 06:51 PM
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Thanks for pointed this out. I am using MFP to track weight but just subscribed to premium and will now use it to rack calories and macro. PPL in the gym every other day with cardio on the days in between.
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/23 11:52 AM
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OYS #2 03/09/2023 Background: - 31 years old, wife is 30 years old, together 10 years (married 6), and a 3-year-old son together. - 5'11, obese, 99.7kg (220lbs). BF 31.8% (navy) - Lifts: (BP 77.5kgx5), (DL 97.5kgx5) - Business owner, financially successful. Diagnosed Autistic. - Discovered Redpill in early 2022. - Read (related to MRP): Sidebar, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Mastery, The Book of Pook, The Way of the Superior Male, The Rational Male, The Art of Seduction, The Subtle Art of Not Givi…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/10/23 05:47 PM
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OYS #1 26/09/2023 Background: - 31 years old, wife is 30 years old, together 10 years (married 6), and a 3-year-old son together. - 5'11, obese, 98kg (216lbs) - Lifts: (BP 77.5kgx5), (DL 97.5kgx5) - Business owner, financially successful. Diagnosed Autistic. - Discovered Redpill in early 2022. - Read (related to MRP): Sidebar, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Mastery, The Book of Pook, The Way of the Superior Male, The Rational Male, The Art of Seduction, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Extreme …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/09/23 10:37 PM
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OYS #6 15/11/22 30 year old, wife 29 years old, married 5 years, together 9 years, 1 son who is 2 year old. Read (related to MRP): Sidebar, NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Mastery, The Book of Pook, The Way of the Superior Male, The Rational Male, The Art of Seduction, The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, Extreme Ownership, Leangains Currently Reading (not related to MRP): Business Turnaround Blueprint (34%) OYS #1 was 25/01/22, last OYS #5 was 22/02/22. Haven't posted for a while but have been grad…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/11/22 10:41 PM
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OYS #5 22/02/22 29yo, wife 29yo married 4 years, together 8 years, 1 son 18 months old. Feedback from last week - focus on an alternative activity instead of focusing on losing weight MAP: Phase 1, prioritise lifting routine and losing weight. I expect to be working on phase 1 until the end of April. Read (related to MRP): NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Mastery, Leangains. Currently Reading (related to MRP): Sidebar (45%) Fitness & Heath - Height: 5'10 - Weight: 101.6 kg - decided to go weigh mysel…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/02/22 11:13 AM
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Historically I would do something special for her on the holidays. Which I think is why it hit home that I didn't do it this time. For the future, I plan to reward good behaviour with my time and attention and not award my time and attention for her bad behaviour. I've got better things to do. Take my comments with caution, though. I still do not have my shit together. I'm deeply in her frame, and I have relationship problems.
/r/askMRP22/02/22 10:55 AM
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I appreciate you following up with me. I literally binned her shit without her knowing that I got her anything and got on with my day as normal. I had a pretty good day. When I got home she continues the silent treatment and before bed she asked me why I didn't get her anything. I proudly said "I chose not do do anything because I didint feel like doing anything" and got on with my evening. As others have said, maybe this comes across as butthurt and unattractive. However, I'm happy with myself.…
/r/askMRP15/02/22 09:27 PM
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Ok, I see what your saying. I'll give that a try.
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 09:19 PM
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Since starting OYS, I fast 16 hours and drink at least 1.5+ litres of water (probably more) per day with still water, black coffee and green tea. At dinner, I try and fill up half my plate with vegetables (not raw) and snack on grapes in the evenings that also contains lots of water. Prior to OYS, I drank a lot of coke, juice, tea and coffee with milk and would generally overeat shit processed foods and snack on chocolate and biscuits. Why do you ask?
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 04:37 PM
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OYS #4 15/02/22 29yo, wife 29yo married 4 years, together 8 years, 1 son 17 months old. Feedback from last week - Lower reps - Get out of her frame - Lift, read and STFU - Wife giving me the silent treatment is good. More time to spend getting my shit together. MAP: Phase 1, prioritise lifting routine and losing weight. I expect to be working on phase 1 until the end of April. Read (related to MRP): NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP, WISNIFG, Leangains. Currently Reading (related to MRP): Sidebar (40%) Fitness …
/r/MarriedRedPill15/02/22 10:36 AM
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Yep. Still in her frame and will make sure I add the small details next time. Lesson learned.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:44 PM
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The first two silent treatments jumped out as a manipulative tactic to correct behaviour. I agree. She has done this a lot in the past and I'm only just realising its a tactic to control me (because I'm an iddiot) Bu the desk cleaning was not her adding value. To clarify, cleaning the desk was at work in our office and she was cleaning the whole office not just for me or my desk. We all take turns to do this but most of us do it first thing in the morning or after work. She did it in the middle …
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:38 PM
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it sounds like your wife wanted to provide value No this was not her adding value. To clarify, cleaning the desk was at work in our office and she was cleaning the whole office not just for me or my desk. We all take turns to do this but most of us do it first thing in the morning or after work. She did it in the middle of the day which is why I said no and why I don't see it as her trying to do something nice for me.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:34 PM
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Anytime silent treatment last 2+ days, there's a leadership problem I needed to hear this
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:33 PM
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Cheers guys. I spent a while thinking abut this: Cheers guys. I spent a while thinking about this: Sadly, the only conclusion I have is because I'm supposed to. Society and my wife expect me to. Anyway, I've decided to bin her shit without her knowing what I got or that I binned it. Not in a butthurt reactionary way but just because I don't feel like doing this shit this year.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:31 PM
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Thanks mate, I appreciate the way you framed this as it makes it so simple to understand.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:26 PM
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It’s so damn simple and I feel like an idiot for being married so long and never realizing this. You and me both
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:24 PM
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Not the case. I'm actually a clean freek myself. I provided on update on the post.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 03:18 PM
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I think your right. She has most of the signs of emotional abuse according to Google. My plan is to keep my head down, keeping working on my MAP and eventually get to decision time described in MMSLP in around 8 months.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 11:54 AM
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So I've been slowly working on a plan to reduce her needs in the business and eventually have the option of removing her with minimal disruption. I'm trying not to make it too obvious for her or the team so I've been taken this slowly but I've made good progress over the last few months. I've also made a plan to quickly remove her access to data, finances etc if she went all crazy on me and tried to damage the business. I've also told her that I think her leaving the business to work somewhere e…
/r/askMRP12/02/22 10:40 AM
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No. We are literally never apart. I asked her to join me in by business a few years ago. Massive mistake.
/r/askMRP12/02/22 08:21 AM
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It's a good question. I'll give it thought and report back.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 08:20 PM
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Hahahaha I can assure you this was not a softball. This was at work in an open office with others (not close enough to really hear). In hindsight, we could have put on a show for the guys. If this was at home, I would completely take your point. But yeah, I'll send her round to you while I get through the sidebar. I think you would enjoy her this week... Hard Core Red.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 08:19 PM
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Thanks mate. Background silence is a blessing and a chance to focus.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 07:44 PM
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Cheers mate. It's true, I'm using this silent time tonight to get through the sidebar.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 07:43 PM
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Thanks mate. It's true, I've been getting really solid advice here and I really appreciate it. I know that I can only expect to progress on my journey here if I'm being honest and accept the honest feedback.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 07:12 PM
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Thanks for confirming mate. That really helps. Still got alot work to do and need to get out her frame.
/r/askMRP11/02/22 06:05 PM
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Cheers guys. I have seen a few guys on here doing 5 reps but I've based mine on the following the leangains example. Although, I've now dropped the DL to 6 and the SQ to 10.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/02/22 03:56 PM
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OYS #3 08/02/22 29yo, wife 29yo married 4 years, together 8 years, 1 son 17 months old. Feedback from last week - Lose weight - Brush your teeth - Stop playing MRP lingo bingo MAP: Phase 1, prioritise lifting routine and losing weight. Read (related to MRP): NMMNG, MMSLP, MAP Leangains Currently Reading (related to MRP): WISNIFG (75%) and Sidebar (15%) - didn't realise how deep the sidebar is Fitness & Heath - Height: 5'10 - Weight: 103.4 kg - BF 31% (navy) - Stats (kg): BP 55x8. SQ 40x12. DL 60…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/02/22 11:12 AM
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Haha well said. This made me literally lol.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/02/22 11:52 AM
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OYS #2 01/02/22 29yo, wife 29yo married 4 years, together 8 years, 1 son 17 months old. Feedback from last week - Focus on me instead of talking about the wife - Stop trying to do too much and focus on lifting and losing weight - Stop eating chocolate and sweets you fat fuck The focus of the upcoming week - Lift at least 3 times - Loose at least 0.5kg - Stop eating shit - No porn or initiations MAP: Phase 1, prioritise lifting routine and losing weight. Dread Game: working on levels 1 and 2 at t…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/02/22 11:15 AM
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Jeez. I would believe that as I'm against having another and she's for it. However, she's got a implant to stop her getting pregnant and I still wrap up regardless.
/r/MarriedRedPill30/01/22 07:43 PM
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Thank you for the feedback and great advice. I see what you're saying about taking on too much and I definitely see how losing weight is my biggest priority. I guess because once I've worked out in the morning and I'm eating better there is still time left to work on the other aspects I feel the need to take on more. I read lots of business-related books already on audible so combining this with walking is going to help.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 12:31 PM
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Great advice. That is a simple but powerful sentance.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 12:22 PM
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haha great advice, thanks man
/r/MarriedRedPill26/01/22 12:22 PM
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Thanks for the feedback. This is helpful and very true.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 12:38 PM
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OYS #1 25/01/22 29yo wife 29yo Married 4 years, together 8 years, 1 son 17 months old. 5'10 103.9kg (229lbs) BF circa 35% (guess). First time posting. Only started looking into MRP about a week ago so I've got lots to learn but I want to jump straight in with the OYS posts. I have lots to improve upon but my initial focus is on losing weight and lifting consistently. My Focus of this week - Lift at least 3 times - Stick to my diet - Read about and recognise Shit Tests Starting Point January 2022…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/01/22 11:32 AM
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Thank you for the advice. I think I'm going to leave her and I want to set a good example for my son.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/22 09:35 AM
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Thanks for the advice
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/21 06:46 PM
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Thanks for the comment. I guess 'staying for the kid' could just be me delaying the inevitable. How olds your kid?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 05:41 PM
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This is great advice, thank you. I started taking notes on my phone about a year ago of all the issues. However, this is just me making a note with a date. Not sure of that's good enough or I will need video evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 01:31 PM
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Thank you for the advice. I do wonder if staying unhappy is really a good example for him.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 01:29 PM
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This is great advice. Thanks so much for taking the time to make that comment.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 01:28 PM
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Thanks for the advice. Actually, I read that book last year after seeing it recommend on Reddit a few times. Reading this book was probably the moment I realised things needed to change. Really eye openings. Hopefully, it's also prepared me for future relationships. Is there any other books you would recommend?
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 01:27 PM
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Thanks for the comment. It's a very hard decision. Are you planning on leaving now your daughter is 18? Given you experience, what would you rect for me? I realise I'm extremely lucky to be in my financial position where I could support two houses.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 01:20 PM
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Great advice which I will be following myself
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 01:17 PM
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Thanks for the advice
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 10:39 AM
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Thank you for the comment. I don't have any family or friends who could help but given that it's only 50% of the time, I thought it would be able to manage it.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 07:52 AM
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Wow, sorry you got screwed like that but I'm happy you made the right decision. This has been on my mind alot, weather I'm setting a bad example for him by staying in the marriage. One day I would hope to give him relationship advice. I can't really do that if my own isn't working.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 07:50 AM
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Thank you, that's really helpful
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/21 07:45 AM
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Thanks for the comment. How old was your son when you separated? How's life worked out for you now?
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 11:50 PM
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Yes, 100% He's basically a mini me and we look identical. Also, we had unprotected sex once at the time needed for the pregnancy to happen. She's quite religious so I don't think she would ever cheat.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/21 11:48 PM
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