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Seriously get an STD screening. You have no ideal who she’s been with. Also check the girls DNA there’s no way the cheating is a new thing. Other than that fight for your parental rights as hard as you can.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/26 02:24 AM
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First get an STD screening and a paternity test. You really have no clear idea how long and with who she has been sharing bodily fluids with. As far as reconciliation, I doubt it's possible how can you ever trust her. Sorry for your children. However kids are resilient and adaptable.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/26 08:42 PM
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That stinks but you will get through it. File the divorce and finally start healing the sooner you realize it's actually over the sooner you can start healing.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 07:53 PM
1

The charges may be legitimate. What really concerns me is that she is talking about leaving somuch. Either she trying to manipulate you into ignoring what she's doing or she has already checked out of the marriage. Start planning an exit strategy. If she's doing either. Manipulation or just not committed to the marriage you deserve better.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/25 05:19 PM
1

Frankly that's bull! There is absolutely no excuse for not verbally communicating. In fact not verbally communicating is lying.
/r/Divorce_Men18/05/25 04:13 AM
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All I know is there's lots of stories on the web of paternity fraud. And given the number of health issues such as kidney transplant where genetic relationship really matters. It's more than worthwhile to check paternity at birth. The objections of women's groups tells me the leaders of these groups have something to hide, that is more important to them than their children's health.
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 12:57 AM
2

Yes whole heartedly
/r/Divorce_Men10/12/24 12:47 AM
5

Get an attorney right away push for 30/70 in the other direction with you as the 70. After all you're still in the family home. Refuse contact with her except through your attorney. Fight on every bit of property. Show her what a divorce can cost her. Either you end up with a better deal or she realizes she really doesn't want the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/24 09:40 PM
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First point women tend to throw divorce as a threat to get whatever it is they want. If she serious then the relationship is already gone The best advice is charge forward with a divorce, if she realizes you're not going to beg and plead she may wake up. Let her know hormonal problems and such are completely unexceptionable. That you will only accept a complete commitment to the marriage. Definitely let her know even thinking of ending the relationship means it's over. At this point you've got n…
/r/Divorce_Men30/10/24 04:49 PM
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If she's like my ex she wanted the divorce either because she was cheating or wanted to play the hookup game. I never bothered to find out which. Funny how a few months later she realized all those hook ups saw her as just that, a quick hookup. And how much she missed a stable marriage. My heart cries purple peanut butter for her.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:07 PM
6

I was smart enough to keep all the phones in my name. The cell company is thought I was using both phones. When she started acting weird I linked the phones saw every text she sent and received. Also the apps mirrored into my phone her dating apps where very revealing.
/r/Divorce_Men31/08/24 09:29 AM
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Personally I'd go for the new place if you can get a 6 month lease. Then continue counseling and see if she sticks to the changes. 9 weeks is not enough time to tell but if you're both serious about healing the relationship it's probably more then worth it.
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/24 04:47 PM
3

Yes but will she.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:34 PM
11

I think you'll want to wait until divorce is final. Otherwise you could end up with huge medical bills from her.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:30 PM
1

Interacting with her is habit. It's as hard to kick as any other habit. That's why you have to consiencely limit contact to only what is mandatory about your son. Break the habit! Learn to not let the habits of thought from your past relationship effect your life. It takes time and effort, but it's the only way to move forward.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/24 01:27 PM
5

Is she still married? I wouldn't be able to take her back knowing she committed to and gave herself to another man. It seems she takes commitment to lightly.
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 06:07 PM
4

Realistically if all you want is occasional casual sex. Outsourcing is probably an option. It certainly comes with less risk and hassle then dating.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/24 07:42 PM
8

Do nothing until the divorce is finalized. But it may be helpful to gather evidence. If you still want revenge then anonymously send him the evidence.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 08:10 PM
7

She says maybe after a week or 2 weeks she may want to start dating you. Bull she's trying to string you along until she's either Shure of the new guy or has all her preparations for getting the most out of you in the divorce. Odds are she's already playing with a new guy. But isn't Shure he's going to work out. After 4 years she found a therapist. Basically she's either been cheating or wanting to cheat she just wanted to find a therapist to tell her it's ok.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 03:05 AM
1

Realistically the most important thing is find something that you enjoy and make it a part of your routine. I know a guy who rediscovered a love of fishing as a great way to destress and get his head back in shape. We all have pass times we gave up during our marriage that we should get back to. For me it was reading. Just spending a few undisturbed hours with a decent book regularly certainly brought back my mojo.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/24 01:08 AM
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I have seen it go many ways. A really good marriage it's all good. I've seen men have an identity crisis. And I've seen women lose respect for their husband. The big issue is that she's career driven. People who sit their and others value on careers often cannot have a good relationship with people they think don't add up. Women who feel this way will often have affairs that they feel will advance their career. They feel justified in this because thier husband is beneath them.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/23 01:23 AM
1

You missed scenario 3 you discover wife's infidelity by getting an STD. ALL are bad and far to common.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/23 05:39 PM
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I understand the desire to want her back, and it may happen but please be cautious and take baby steps. Wait and see if she takes responsibility for the separation. It's very possible she has discovered either her other guy is not reliable or that single life sucks. Do not believe her that she hasn't at least tried out other relationships. The odds are massively against that. Remember that even mildly attractive women are persuded by men.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 07:32 PM
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You are a wonderful person and extremely valuable to your husband and children. It's great that you realize it is others opinions that are negatively effecting you and not just reacting to the feelings, or blaming your husband and children. All I can say is stay strong and discuss this with your husband. I bet he thinks you're wonderful. And he really appreciates you.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/23 10:43 PM
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Is it at all possible you are missintetpreting his actions. I personally tend to focus on female coworkers faces so as not to be accused of starring at other parts of their anatomy. When I tried looking away from them completely I was accused of not respecting them. Try having an adult conversation with him ask him what's up and let him know what he's doing that makes you uncomfortable.
/r/RedPillWives30/11/23 10:36 PM
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I'd just relax and see what happens. Either you both fall in love or you just become FWB. Just wait and see.
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 10:26 PM
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1 year sobriety is a good start. If I were you I'd ask her to talk. Apologize for everything tell her you don't expect her to forgive you but you want to take responsibility for your actions. Give her sometime to roll that around. If she seems ok with it try asking her out. Maybe a coffee shop somewhere with no pressure. Take baby steps. Be prepared to except failure. Or even her finding someone new it could happen at any time. Remember this is all your doing, stay strong and sober.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/23 03:22 AM
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Frankly I'd be very suspicious of a honey trap of some kind. I'm not saying I wouldn't bang her but caution is the key to all dealings with you ex! I know that it would take years for her to regain my trust, but I'd never be able to have a relationship with her. Even if I did manage to trust her.
/r/Divorce_Men27/11/23 02:14 AM
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Please try to explain what she means by taking a break! Get her to define it. Best case she's stressed and will get over it. Unfortunately this is the least likely. When women honestly take a break from their relationship they almost immediately meat someone, or have a hookup often with alcohol involved. So even if they choose to come back the relationship is extremely damaged. It's not unusual for a man who waits for his partner to come back finds she's brought a pregnancy or STD back with her.…
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/23 04:39 AM
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Regardless of her $hit you can still create a good example for your children. You have no control over her so ignore her. Focus on you and your actions.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 09:59 PM
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Seriously I have no interest in changing myself. However the real ideal is to, 1 Try to lose as little as possible in the divorce.( Don't give away your future) 2 Learn your own value. 3 be comfortable with the fact that you can be happy with out a partner. 4 Move forward with this knowledge. Realistically your best chance of finding a true partner is not to need one and not searching for one.
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/23 09:54 PM
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You getting full custody would be best for the children. If CPS forces the change you'll have a case worker so follow their advice on child care. You'll do fine!!
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/23 02:00 PM
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It really depends on the individual. Best to say don't get involved with someone until you've healed. Serious dating can lead to disaster, casual hookups shouldn't be a problem. The problem is you're very emotionally vulnerable and need to use extreme caution moving forward.
/r/Divorce_Men19/10/23 05:04 PM
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Hang in there life gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:34 PM
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Let's be very frank, when a woman states she wants a divorce some sort of relationship is already going on. When she changes her mind it means the new thing didn't work out. She most likely had an affair with another woman. Then learned later the other woman didn't want anything serious. Welcome to the brotherhood!!
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 06:28 PM
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See an attorney and plan your exit.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 12:56 PM
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Question she wanted divorce after 4 months to be with another guy, and you didn't give her the boot? For crying out loud she valued you so little she already was reaching for another man after 4 months. Are you Shure it's your child? She obviously is not stable and is not going to ever be a good partner. So get clear as soon as possible.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/23 03:59 AM
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At this point does it matter. The only question might be paternity if children. If you have any questions in this get a Test done.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/23 03:07 PM
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Good for you remember once divorce starts there no longer your partner. They are your opponent. Also you may want to really think about the possibility that the thing with the boss started before the divorce. It seems to fit her actions.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 06:30 PM
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Frankly she feels it's all your fault. She's created an internal dialog that somehow you forced her to take the actions she took. ( this happens with many women especially ones that cheat.) So now she's hoping to find something to help her get the revenge she thinks she deserves.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 06:16 PM
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To be honest. She's hanging on to your financial support, or just to avoid admitting she's to blame. The longer she stalls the worse it will be for you. And the more she can make it seem your just being unreadable. Move on with divorce and don't pull any punches, she has found someone else. Allways remember she found someone else! What she promised to you she has given to him! That's the honest truth.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 12:55 AM
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Unfortunately this is a common theme. Brace yourself the worst is yet to come. Whole you are at home taking care of your daughter, she will be exploring the single life. I would not be surprised if she hooked up within the first week of separation. After all she has to experience to find herself, and focus on her happiness. Why should she wait for the divorce to be final.
/r/Divorce_Men24/08/23 11:43 PM
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I tend to suspect there a reason their not going to his place. Maybe a wife, could be a chance for revenge! Think on it!
/r/Divorce_Men19/08/23 04:11 AM
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My wife is also a native Chinese, believe me I feel your pain. Chinese women are very initialed. Also they only evaluate your feelings based solely on how much money you give them. After 25 years it's just getting worse. What I have a really hard time dealing with is they believe all other Chinese women's lies about husbands income and what not. One of her sisters has her convinced that her husband make 6 figures doing door dash.
/r/Divorce_Men07/08/23 05:11 PM
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If that keeps you going great! Eventually you will gain some equilibrium. But for right now keeping her from getting anything extra is the correct focus.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 01:29 PM
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Honestly she was already sleeping with someone when she asked to open up the marriage. Opening the marriage just made it easier and let her not feel guilty. Note she never told you about sex with him, so she already was in the habit of hiding the relationship. And realistically he's probably just the guy you found out about.
/r/Divorce_Men29/07/23 02:20 AM
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The researcher didn't cover that but I tend to believe it.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 11:52 PM
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I actually saw a recent talk by a female researcher who stated that society has it backwards. 90% of all infidelity is the woman not the man. She listed several reasons, the most notable one is that because women are constantly pursued, she just has to say yes. The reasons for saying yes very from hormonal to intoxication to just a difficult emotional situation. She also stated that in our society women are conditioned to blame all of the above situations on their husband's. Why and how I don't …
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 11:30 PM
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Seriously the possibility that she has been unfaithful all along. So get a STD and DNA test done. Then please start the divorce proceedings started. She's is not the love of your life because she's not who you think she is. You've been fooled and taken advantage of. Fact the love of your life wouldn't be doing this to you.
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/23 01:28 AM
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Let's be honest I really doubt he thinks this will go anywhere except some easy sex. He has to know she's rebounding. In the end don't worry about it. Her sex life is not your business anymore except where it impacts your kids. And realistically the more poor judgement she shows the more likely you are to wind up getting full custody. When your kids start talking about mommies revolving boy toys, you can ask for a custody change.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/23 05:51 AM
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Get a paternity test on the kids. There's a chance he was not actually an ex but a side piece. For all you know they've been meeting up all along.
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/23 06:16 PM
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Let me be blunt. She's doing what's called monkey branching. She wants you and her safe family life on the hook while she separates in order to have the freedom to try a relationship with the new guy. That way if it doesn't work out she can slide back into her safe life. I would be very surprised if there has not been some physical activity already. She just wants to be certain of him before letting you go. My advice get a lawyer and file.
/r/Divorce_Men24/05/23 04:54 PM
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A relative of mine caught his wife cheating last year. Her response was "it's 2022 as a woman I can have all the dick I want and you can't say anything about it!" She was very surprised by the divorce and even more surprised to find out most guys found her very average. And only good for a quick tumble.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 06:46 PM
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While I agree it's kind of disrespectful. I have to say get over it. Your divorce is final, and it's past time for you both to move on.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/23 04:50 AM
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Talk to your lawyer. I have seen cases where child protective services pull a child out of the home because mom was an exotic dancer or possing nude in magazines. Your lawyer should know about possible uses and financial aspects effecting the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/23 10:48 AM
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Your reaction is completely normal! It's actually a long recovery process. Unlike women men take longer to learn trust. The main difference is that women can jump right back into the game because they never trust in the first place.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 01:11 PM
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It's an unfortunate thing that our society blames all martial problems on the husband. Even an unfaithful wife can blame her affairs on her husband and get away with it. He must have some how caused it. This creates a situation where women are encouraged to leave instead of working on the relationship. My mother and father had problems aplenty but they worked on solving them together. I'm much older then the average poster here but I find few women my age and even fewer younger who are willing t…
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/23 08:05 PM
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Sounds like a divorce in progress
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 09:58 PM
1

Let me be frank. At this moment you've got a totally great settlement. If you take her back the next settlement will be much worse. You will probably lose custody of the kids. You know she's already sexting with someone else. She's moving on without you. She has made accusations of DV against you. Honesty does not seem to be her strong point. Also I strongly doubt she hasn't done more then just sexting. And even if you get back together what incentive is there for her to behave.
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/23 09:27 PM
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First did she start the fight and was it something unimportant? I'm asking because this is a tactic women use to excuse their bad behavior ( IE cheating or strongly considering cheating). Best move, call tonight if she answers ask to come get your clothes. If she says yes she maybe ready to talk. If she doesn't answer or refuses to see you. It's time to lawyer up.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 10:59 PM
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Ask her to meet for coffee. Then bare your soul. She probably already knows but you'll get props for honesty. And a coffee shop is a safe meeting place lots of public and no intoxicates involved. So your obviously not trying to take advantage of her. All points in your favor she'll notice.
/r/Divorce_Men22/04/23 10:27 PM
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Could be a lot of things. Heck maybe she found the ex's abusive behavior more sexually stimulating. And she married her husband because he was not abusive. No one really knows. I found a case where a teenager was raped a few years later she married a man she said was the most gentle guy she'd ever met. A week after the wedding her rapist starts coming around and she found not only could she not say no to him, but the forced sex with him was more satisfying then any other partner. It never makes …
/r/Divorce_Men21/04/23 05:01 PM
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Sorry this happened to you. However it's kind of an old story. A woman married for a good stable guy. Eventually starts cheating with the crap load she's really attracted to. But at least you know! So get an attorney. Don't let her attorney get her all she wants by not being represented. Remember she's no longer your wife, she's now an adversary trying to take what's yours. I also recommend a personal counselor. Your world just imploded and it helps to have someone to help get your feelings sort…
/r/Divorce_Men20/04/23 01:41 PM
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Yep face it your life has been yanked from under you. That's why we all talk about focusing on your self. First start working out, gives you something to do that takes all your attention. Make Shure you focus on your job while at work. Spend some time deciding what you want out of life. Then what you need to do as far as education goes to get there. Make a plan for you it's your life.
/r/Divorce_Men19/04/23 03:46 AM
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Look the answer is different for everyone. Don't date because your afraid of being alone. You'll rush into a relationship that's even worse then your last. (experience thought me that) Don't put yourself though that. Learn to be happy with you. I'm short fat old (63) and ugly, and that's just great with me, and yes I do get dates, and may find someone special, but that's not important because I'm never alone I'm better company than anyone else.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 08:17 PM
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Seriously get a lawyer, a local lawyer will know how things go in local courts and the tendencies of local judges. Your lawyer is your best resource.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 02:00 PM
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Seriously relax you've done this before. Turn off your phone let her lead the conversation and have a good time. In twelve years the dance really hasn't changed that much. So be yourself and enjoy.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 01:56 PM
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A DNA test is a double edged sword. Also in many states if the child is born during the marriage your responsible for that child even if it's not yours. Also it just increases the already high emotional trauma. But knowing for Shure can create some piece of mind, if you can live with knowing their not your child. Either way talk to your CO get a counselor and legal help you need.
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/23 01:36 PM
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Yes avoid that trap. Having sex* with her just triples the pain. You should strongly consider and SDT screening. You have no idea how many people the BF is doing.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:55 PM
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Yes it was probably going on long before she asked for divorce. It's going to hurt no way around that! All you can do is get angry not the hot yelling angry, but a cold calculated anger. Get a lawyer start working on ways to get clear of her betraying cheating A** in as good financial shape as you can. While doing your best to support your kids.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:51 PM
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Credit score is another, registered vehicles. All things that indicate financial status. Some states also give out state tax returns for a fee. Imagine you had your return direct deposited, your account information is on that form.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 10:07 PM
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Yeh people forget how much information is out there, she was obviously researching her targets.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 09:56 PM
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I don't know if bumble ran the check or she did! I've never actually used bumble.
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 09:54 PM
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Realistically I find it's extremely annoying. Some dating sites even run backgrounds on male posters and give females the information for free. They don't run checks on females. A friend of mine met a girl through bumble she had tons of personal information on him. She frankly told him this over dinner when they met. She got furious when he jokingly said " I guess I'll have to check on you just to be even". She stormed of, so he did. She was awaiting court for 2 charges of using a boy friend's d…
/r/Divorce_Men17/04/23 06:34 PM
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Seriously she's treating you better than you deserve. Let her go. Get with a counselor and figure out what you really want. It doesn't seem like your marriage is it.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 09:59 PM
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Unfortunately while separated in many states your still responsible for each other's bills. Also in states where infidelity is a crime you could be charged. It's generally best to just get it over and file the divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 09:09 PM
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Just keep focusing on what you have to do. Set priorities do priority one then priority two and so on. After a while you'll find things are under control. And remember the degree will make you more financially successful and that will ease a lot of pressure in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 08:18 PM
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The question is, "Is the money she failed to disclose and the deposit enough to extend the divorce over?" Your almost free any extension is making things harder for you and the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 07:59 PM
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All the Benefits of celibacy aside. Using a hooker is a very liberating experience. And it can be done legally if you are able to travel. There are legal brothels in Nevada and many nearby countries. Using a professional allows the experience to be all about you!! And you know going in what it's going to cost you, and what's going to happen. I've never had a relationship that wasn't a risky venture with unpredictable cost and results. I don't recommend it for a regular thing but just giving it a…
/r/Divorce_Men16/04/23 07:53 PM
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Women will always blame everything on the husband. They even blame their cheating on their husband. We all go though a suicidal time at the start of the separation. After all your reality just imploded. You have to hang onto the truth that it's not your fault. She made her own decisions. She had other options. But she chose divorce, and probably chose to cheat first. If there where problems in the marriage she could have talked to you. But that's not what she did.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 10:50 PM
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Look you know it's not your fault!! She's going to blame you even if she pregnant from the new guy. The fact that she locked her phone tells you she's hiding something. Frankly you just have to hold on to what you know. It's not your fault!! And the hell with what everyone else thinks.
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 09:48 PM
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The absolute perfect marriage is a partnership where both parties full focus is the others happiness. The problem with current society is that women are conditioned to think the purpose of a marriage is to spoil them. As long as either partner is focused on themselves more then 10 percent of the time it will fail! Also there needs to be a clear definition of roles. Who is in charge one of the partners must have the ability to end conflicts with a final decision that both accept completely. Other…
/r/Divorce_Men15/04/23 02:29 PM
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Let's get real, no matter why the divorce she's going to blame you. And her revenge will focus on showing you how quick she can be a major slut. Most won't wait for divorce to be final. Just remember that's how desperate she is!
/r/Divorce_Men12/04/23 10:43 PM
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Don't suck it up!! Feel free to be hurt and angry! You need to get those out of your system and can't help but feel it. Focus on supporting your children, and taking care of yourself. Find a hobby that keeps your mind occupied. Arrange private times when you can cry and rave away from the kids. Eventually you'll find the feelings lessen. Then work on your self confidence you are still as great a guy as you where before her. You'll know when you're ready to start dating.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 02:55 PM
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Plan your exit!! She's already gaslighting you so confrontation is useless. Set a date to leave and serve her the paperwork. Quietly hide any belongings that are important to you and enough funds to take care of yourself.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/23 02:34 PM
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Expensive but legal!
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/23 05:51 PM
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I don't know where your located or your financial situation. But hey take a 3 day weekend from work and go to Nevada many if the brothels have web sites and provide limo service from closest airport. They are also fanatical about privacy. Just tell everyone you have tickets to a las Vegas show. (Make shore the show your claiming actually exist.)
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 12:27 AM
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Sounds like you've reached a really good place.
/r/Divorce_Men29/03/23 11:06 AM
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Seriously it's long past time to get out. Move out get divorced and start rebuilding your self respect. Heck living alone in a cardboard box beats heck out of an emotionally abusive relationship.
/r/Divorce_Men25/03/23 07:00 PM
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I can't quote all the literature but in both men and women the more casual your attitude to sexual activity the more liable you are to cheat! Regardless of the best intentions.
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 12:28 AM
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In all things related to divorce there is a court order. If she wants less time with the kids it's her loss!! Document the times and maybe you can eventually get full custody and make her pay support. Also what kind of example do you want your kids to have? A party girl or a responsible father? This whole thing seems to be a win for you and the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 07:10 PM
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Unfortunately all he can do is carry on until they get to court. Best advice is to get with his attorney and see if it can be pushed forward.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 10:46 PM
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Realistically at this point, there's no reason to care. As for staying together the next 3 months f*vk that. She is moving on so should you. It's time to focus on your future! Start planning where you're going to live and what you're going to do. Pay attention to your career you will need it going forward. I'd put the shoe on the other foot, and get enrolled on some dating apps. (Make Shure she knows.) Discuss property settlement. Ask her when she can make time to meet with the attorney to start…
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 10:02 PM
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Yes, I have! It frequently seems like women are more susceptible to peer pressure then men.
/r/Divorce_Men26/02/23 07:37 PM
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Seriously find a different lawyer. And get a personal counselor before you go insane.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 07:56 PM
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Have you considered that the woman who contacted you is looking for some revenge on her cheating husband. She probably hopes you'll either assault him or cause him some legal problem. Best just ignore it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/23 07:53 PM
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Amen!! Honestly it really sounds like mine. Normally you'll find the divorce talk and often the affair that it sounds like is going on are encouraged by co workers she confides in.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/23 02:02 PM
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Basically you are forced by circumstance to give him the benefit of the doubt. Also you owe it to your children to get to know him, if your wife becomes serious with this guy. That is the only way you can protect your children. It stinks butt it's just the way things are.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/23 12:04 AM
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Actually trying to talk to your wife about problems involving lack of intamacy usually just makes it worse. (They tend to get defensive and nasty) It may help with the spending though. I would recommend ask her to help with monthly budget and saving goals.
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/23 10:15 PM
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Well I'm afraid I'll never understand it. To me it just sounds crazy.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/23 05:06 AM
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How could submerging self identity be necessary for survival?
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 11:50 PM
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I find it interesting that the kids just stopped. Makes me wonder if they have heard that line frequently.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 11:48 PM
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Actually the question does inspire a lot of contemplation. On the flip side being an only fans provider is grounds to be found unfit.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 08:19 PM
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I understand the concern for your kids. What sucks is she knew you would be bringing the kids home at that time. When divorced parents start dating they need to prepare the children for the first meeting not try to set up a scene.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/23 07:58 PM
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I just can't understand how people can let someone else's situation effect thier own life in such a negative way. I've had male friends go though nasty divorces and not effect any of their friends marriages. And of course we've all had male friends bragging about their sexcapades with out it ruining there friends lives. Males at least assume they're exaggerating things, and it has nothing to do with ourselves.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/23 12:27 AM
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If you ever get a chance to listen to women talking when they think men aren't around, you'll note some interesting trends. One most women are highly competitive for social status among the group. The most unhappy members of the group are the most vocal and for some reason the most listened to. But not about how unhappy they are about how wonderful thier lives are or how victimized they are. The listeners come to reflect these statements onto their own lives. Example a group of coworkers in a mo…
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/22 07:15 AM
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Unfortunately this is just truth. I have had a hard time with many friends. On top of years of emotional abuse I had video and photo evidence of infidelity. Still get accused of leaving her when she threw me out.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 06:27 PM
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Thank you and merty Christmas to you too.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 08:14 PM
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Strangely today just feels like every other day. Just a big empty nothing.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 08:08 PM
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While your situation is way to frequent and it stinks. I know that infidelity is not always the cause of divorce.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 08:04 PM
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Be honest people cheat. People monkey branch. All that is true for both men and women. And frankly I recognize her feelings, they are just as legit as a man's in similar situation. I'm certain he has a different story and I feel the same way towards him.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/22 08:01 PM
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Sorry your going to have bad days. Don't rush when your ready, you'll move on. It just kind of happens when it's time for it to happen.
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/22 02:06 AM
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Please vent as much as you need it's part of the healing.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 03:09 AM
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Over 25 years she just became more and more hateful and narcissistic. Finally could not deal with the constant emotional abuse.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 02:16 AM
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Same problem that I have except my kids are old enough to see what's happening. Unfortunately some of them have problems from watching us the past twenty-five years. I truly hope they can learn to have a normal relationship. And I'm am afraid I should have acted sooner.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 02:10 AM
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Yes you should register the complaint. It is will make a huge difference in future custody issues.
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/22 01:32 AM
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Every one has that bit that wants to work it out. Stay strong push forward, life gats better.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 02:25 AM
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Sorry friend it's time to go! She had a wild time in new Orleans, went to a sex party got laid and decided that's what she wants. All the time since she's been trying to drive you off. Note her behavior. The second job was both to help move out and help cover other activities. She may be using recreational drugs or just dating. Let her move out and start building yourself a new life. You'll be amazed how much you soar when you let go.
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/22 02:23 AM
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Very sorry about your son's health, and hope he recovers completely. As to your wife moving to another room and getting out when she raging is a great idea. I have found that usually the first to forgive has the most successful post divorce life. In fact most successful marriages envolve a lot of constant forgiveness.
/r/Divorce_Men14/10/22 11:39 AM
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Definitely consult an attorney your son's actual paternity may not matter in your state. So get legal advice soon.
/r/Divorce_Men10/10/22 07:02 AM
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Face it its over you'll never be able to trust her. So your options are divorce or learn to share her with another man and accept that your her number 2.
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/22 07:05 PM
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