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It's called a slump buster. Sometimes it helps
/r/seduction29/03/26 05:15 PM
1

Yea as someone in mid 30s this whole idea makes no sense to me
/r/seduction27/03/26 01:27 AM
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I thought I was ugly for years turns out my pics were garbo lol
/r/seduction04/03/26 08:11 PM
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It's good advice, but it's buried under sounding exactly the same as every other AI post, of which we're all reading like 100 a day on every God damn sub. You don't need to be a perfect writer to convey your ideas. Using ChatGPT makes your post sound boilerplate and it's annoying to read the same shit over and over so I wouldn't be surprised if a lot of people didn't even read that far. Using ChatGPT to write doesn't make your writing better in 2026 it makes it sound the same as everything else …
/r/seduction30/01/26 04:07 PM
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This is the part that's never talked about
/r/seduction30/01/26 04:03 PM
1

This is a great post. But any dude who doesn't get why girls want to bang Drake is an idiot. Girls are pretty similar to dudes. Even the nice guy dudes would bang Taylor Swift if she wanted to. Drake bangs groupies all the time, so girls try to be that groupie. If Taylor Swift or rihanna were bringing random dudes home from their shows, dudes would definitely be lining up too.
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:54 AM
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Me too
/r/seduction27/01/26 05:45 AM
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Yea don't listen to that guy. What he said is not true at all, unless maybe you're in high school. People are busy and some dude they met one time isn't their top priority. This situation is incredibly simple. If she doesn't hit you up, don't be a butthurt baby, just send another text in the same manner you have been. If she's still busy on the second try let it go
/r/seduction18/01/26 10:54 AM
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If you're a tall dude, tall girls are easy money. I love tall girls. Always hit on them first
/r/seduction23/11/25 07:35 PM
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I agree with you, and there are definitely hot girls who aren't going to date someone in a lower league. Most of them honestly. However, there are definitely some looking for different things than you'd expect. The takeaway for me is, if you see a hot girl, don't just assume she's out of your league and not talk to her. She probably is, but there's a higher chance than people think she could still be into you for whatever reason. I say this because I have gotten girls way out of my league a coup…
/r/seduction03/09/25 10:18 PM
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Couldn't agree more
/r/seduction29/07/25 11:34 PM
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I have done this many times, it especially happens if the girl is very attractive. Because they are quick to reject and often worried you only like them for their appearance. It doesn't work if you are doing it with the intention of her changing her mind. You have to actually be ok with just being friends/acquaintances (friend mindset works better imo) and appreciate her as a person. Like no worries I think you're hot and pretty cool and I'm down to be friends (this is internal monolog to give y…
/r/seduction24/05/25 06:10 PM
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I agree 1000% about pets. I live in an active mountain type place, literally 95% of chicks have a dog it's so obnoxious. They're never trained well. Every girl on the apps has 2-3 variations of "me with my best friend 🐶". I don't want to take care of your barking dog lol. I don't want to have to plan trips around your ability to find a dog sitter. I don't want to leave social events early because of your dog. /rant. anyways I'm currently dating an amazing girl with 2 cats, I'm also allergic. She…
/r/seduction06/05/25 06:21 PM
1

Bro, it's meaningless. Getting hung up on it will only cause you issues. If anything it means she's comfortable with you
/r/seduction19/12/24 05:38 PM
6

It's fine advice but hardly groundbreaking.. eye contact, confidence, break the touch barrier then escalate. Literally the most rudimentary advice lol. Was expecting something more from the title
/r/seduction13/12/24 10:16 PM
10

As someone who's been an actual addict.. Lol
/r/seduction08/11/24 02:16 AM
1

Upvote for good post, reluctantly though because that title is cringe lol
/r/seduction23/10/24 09:06 PM
10

Guys picking up girls is the next step AFTER being able to talk to girls. This is so important
/r/seduction20/10/24 10:14 PM
1

I have a course on this exact scenario
/r/seduction20/09/24 05:55 AM
0

Some people are hotter than others bro it's not rocket science
/r/seduction11/08/24 07:38 PM
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Meeting women through friends has become impossible after 30.. I have upwards of 25 close friends in my city, almost all of them are married or very LTR people and so is everyone they know. It's crazy.
/r/seduction09/08/24 12:57 AM
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Not to be a dick but it's possible the screenshot was to make fun of you, not for how you look but posting shirtless pics of yourself is not considered very classy. Right up there with fish pic. Not saying it never works but it's definitely not always viewed positively
/r/seduction12/07/24 06:14 AM
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2 weeks to see a difference, a couple months to be mostly normal. Once you stop looking at porn you don't really need it though it's not that bad. Also fwiw I'm not anti porn, just had the same problem as OP and stopping watching porn helped a ton. Still jerk off just not to porn
/r/seduction18/06/24 07:15 PM
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You don't need to stop jerking it to solve this problem, just porn. IME
/r/seduction18/06/24 07:12 PM
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I am a night owl and it definitely makes it harder to date. Literally every hot girl older than 25 goes to bed early it's crazy
/r/seduction19/05/24 09:11 PM
7

27+ and not on your parents phone bill or health insurance
/r/seduction18/03/24 03:01 AM
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No it's not. Source: me. I have great game and pull from time to time but it's a lot of work, and never at a bar/club where it's purely attractiveness based.
/r/seduction23/05/23 04:35 AM
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You just have to tell her. You've been together long enough that hiding it for longer isn't going to help you. It's going to be revealed at some point, might as well be now. If you're looking for a long term relationship then stop wearing such big lifts and find someone who accepts you for who you are
/r/seduction05/09/22 10:22 AM
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OP said she's 22 in the post. But I agree with you in spirit
/r/seduction04/08/22 02:04 AM
5

Nobody asked him to be a step dad, that's kind of like assuming you're going to marry a girl you have a crush on. No reason to worry about that, it's not even close to happening. If you both start catching serious feelings is when you need to figure it out
/r/seduction04/08/22 02:03 AM
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I play video games.. but he's right lol. Not the worst thing in the world in moderation, but very very easy to overdo it. And pretty much no hot girl thinks its attractive.
/r/seduction19/07/22 11:18 PM
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/r/InstagramReality
/r/seduction09/07/22 05:43 AM
5

Same. "Hot girls never get approached", idk where you guys are but every time I'm out, I see every dude in the bar going for the hot girls
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:07 PM
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This is drastically different than my experience, and I've been with both types
/r/seduction14/06/22 08:06 PM
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Yea both genders act like hot people from the opposite sex are all there is. For every dude saying women are terrible, there is a mediocre looking girl saying all men don't care and just want to fuck. In reality, there are plenty of dudes dying for a relationship, and plenty of chicks who are super cool. They're just not the ones people go after.
/r/seduction13/06/22 03:37 AM
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Then he's either grinding with ugly girls or he's fairly attractive. I'm 6'2" and while it definitely helps, I get turned down much much more than some of my friends under 6'
/r/seduction13/06/22 03:32 AM
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Never thought about it that way. I worked out like crazy in college but I never got even remotely big. Now I'm in my 30s and don't bother because I look exactly the same. I could maybe put a shitload of effort into eating protein shakes 3x/day etc and see some benefits. But that's not "just go to the gym" that's "dedicate your whole lifestyle to gains"
/r/seduction13/06/22 03:30 AM
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That's definitely 80% of it, the other 20% is taking care of yourself. If you are gross (meaning the things you can change - clean clothes, hygiene, healthyish) it's also a non starter. But knowing when to stop flirting is absolutely essential. As a bonus, I've gotten girls because of how well I took rejection. Some girls are so used to being relentlessly hit on that when you are not bothered by a rejection, and don't keep trying, that self awareness and lack of desperation can be very attractiv…
/r/seduction10/06/22 09:46 PM
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Good luck finding a hot girl with a PhD in math haha
/r/seduction27/05/22 02:00 PM
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It can, but it can also have no effect. Every situation is different.
/r/seduction16/05/22 07:50 AM
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You can't fight it completely but you can fight it enough. Every time you start crushing super hard you just remind yourself over and over that it's really not a big deal, she's just a random chick (even though your brain is telling you she's soooo special - how many times have you thought that before?). Honestly it takes some experience, but most of us have been through it many times by the time you're in your 20s. You just have to remind yourself that despite your feelings, it's not the end of…
/r/seduction08/04/22 04:19 AM
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This is maybe the biggest thing I've learned over the years. And it's especially essential when trying to get with hotter girls, because every guy they meet falls "in love" with them at first sight and they are very over it. All you are doing is fucking up your head and your game when you start letting yourself believe that someone you barely know is the one for you.
/r/seduction07/04/22 02:59 PM
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If you have a really attractive face you can get by just being skinny (or chubby) but for an average or below dude a great body helps a lot
/r/seduction04/04/22 03:05 PM
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Spoken like someone who hadn't been on many first dates. There's a big difference between a mediocre one and a great one. And if the girl is a dime and seems cool, talking to the servers when you're there for dinner is not really that big of an ask. Also, this is just good advice for life in general. Having a spot in your town/city that you go to a lot and taking the time to get to know the people who work there is great for your social life. Nice work OP
/r/seduction23/03/22 02:35 PM
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So quick to tell others they're playing the victim card and then you say shit like this lol
/r/seduction19/01/22 07:36 AM
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Nah, I think really hot people are more likely to end up narcissistic because they can get away with it. And everybody likes really hot people regardless of their personality. I don't think it's that personality that attracts people.
/r/seduction15/01/22 05:31 PM
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Grinding at the club is fun af though especially if the music is good
/r/seduction02/01/22 01:31 AM
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I hope this isn't offensive but where are you going to ask these things if not reddit. Are a lot of South American girls trying to get with American dudes to get a green card?
/r/seduction31/12/21 05:54 AM
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Are they not thots? Posting your ass every day on Instagram for likes is pretty much the definition of the word. OP didn't shame them for it or say they are bad people. That's your projection. Many of them are literally self described thots and hoes. If you think that's deserving of shame, maybe you are the one slut shaming
/r/seduction29/12/21 07:25 AM
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This is how it used to be. Watch any show from the 90s or before, and even the hottest chicks were struggling to find a guy who didn't want to just smash and move on to the next, and not realizing how hot they are. Which everyone found believable. I'm not saying we should go back to that, but the roles have definitely reversed and it'd be nice to find a balance. I agree with everything in your post.
/r/seduction29/12/21 07:16 AM
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You are definitely on the right track, when I started making female friends instead of just trying to bang girls it improved my game, social life, and love life immensely. Secondly, don't compare yourself to other people. We're not all hot dudes that every girl wants to talk to and have around. It sucks but that's the way it is. On a similar note, what kind of girls are you trying to talk to? If it's hot popular girls it's going to be a lot more difficult. You will have to have a decent level of…
/r/seduction28/11/21 05:32 AM
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This is the truth. Do you your own research people. Where does sperm come from? The dick or the balls? Don't let the medical establishment and big OBGYN brainwash you. I put a condom around my balls every night before bed and I've never had a kid.
/r/seduction06/10/21 02:44 PM
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Great post
/r/seduction03/09/21 04:42 AM
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People need to stop thinking that guys always want sex in any circumstance. We're not always horny, sometimes we just want to sleep.
/r/seduction20/07/21 07:06 PM
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Sometimes.. Sometimes they're just super hot girls that are terrible in bed
/r/seduction25/06/21 03:37 PM
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Cocaine
/r/seduction18/06/21 10:09 PM
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Well the difference is what other people think of me determines if they want to bang lol. People aren't crazy for caring what other people think - what other people think has a massive effect on our lives. With random strangers though it's definitely less important. The second paragraph is on point though.
/r/seduction19/05/21 03:53 AM
2

Try beta blockers, safe and amazing for fear extinction. They basically stop your body from freaking out (no jacked up heart rate, no hands shaking, etc), which is often 80% of the reason your conscious mind is freaking out. Doctors prescribe them a lot for people doing public speaking or big performances
/r/seduction07/05/21 10:17 PM
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Drugs are bad m'kay
/r/seduction07/05/21 10:12 PM
2

Yea, having hot girls hit on me is a problem I'd love to have even if I fucked it up sometimes lol
/r/seduction26/12/20 07:19 PM
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I think his point was that he's attractive and gets hit on by women, but it's still easy to fuck it up
/r/seduction26/12/20 05:43 PM
2

So if you were hanging out with a chick you want to bang and you're not sure if she does, what do you say to ask them what their boundaries are?
/r/seduction02/12/20 07:05 AM
1

I don't consider it too much effort
/r/seduction29/11/20 03:26 AM
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If you haven't been on in the last year or two you don't know what you're talking about. It's not the same as it used to be
/r/seduction25/11/20 06:00 PM
8

This is pretty accurate although being really cool and fun can definitely bring your attractiveness up a few points. Not going to make a 2 into a 9 but can definitely make a 6 a 7
/r/seduction23/11/20 02:30 AM
2

You might be attracting hot basic chicks who have never been turned down before and dont know how to handle it
/r/seduction15/11/20 06:18 AM
1

I'm super monotone too, I'm trying to put more emotion in my voice because I think it makes you more interesting to people. And people have a hard time telling when I'm joking lol
/r/seduction29/10/20 01:32 AM
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I'm not an expert on the subject but I've been told there are lots of studies showing that Asian men (and black women) are considered the least attractive by the population as a whole. A lot of Asian dudes especially on reddit/internet confirm that this is their experience. I'm not here to say either way, but that's what OP is referring to. So it's not just being non-white its specific race/gender combos - Asian women and black men do way better than their counterparts
/r/seduction29/10/20 01:31 AM
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Seriously haha and the top comment is like "wow that's good advice!"
/r/seduction26/10/20 05:50 AM
2

Physical attraction was last on the list for much of human history. Wealth/status played a much bigger role.
/r/seduction26/10/20 05:41 AM
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Someone's looks being the main factor in your attraction is literally the definition of shallow. They're not saying it's a bad thing.
/r/seduction26/10/20 05:38 AM
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Approaching isn't about making any girl like you (for most people). It's about finding girls who do. If a girl is very uninterested right off the bat, you have a pretty low chance of changing her mind. Knowing what to say, being funny, etc - that's all stuff you need to know for when she's receptive, so you can keep the momentum going. If she's not receptive, now you know. You succeeded. Time to move on! You did great man.
/r/seduction19/10/20 12:48 AM
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Totally. "Don't overthink, ask girls out, and move on quickly" is the real advice of the post. "Be a man" by itself is incredibly nebulous advice, that means different things to different people, girls included. Some people don't have good role models to look up to. I'm glad OP has a solid definition of what it means to him to be a man. But the post would be equally as helpful if he took that part out. Maybe it helps some people grasp the energy he's trying to convey. But it also leaves a giant …
/r/seduction15/09/20 11:24 PM
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Plus dudes are insatiably attracted to hot girls. Any hot girl is going to have tons of guys in the friend zone, because 90% of the guys she meets will want to get with her. It's really not dependent on how she treats them or what their conversations are
/r/seduction31/08/20 07:06 AM
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Assume they are into. They'll let you know if they're not
/r/seduction01/08/20 07:23 PM
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Considering everyone's different suggestions have people saying "I always get compliments on that" it seems like they're all pretty good
/r/seduction30/07/20 05:31 AM
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Swampass
/r/seduction30/07/20 05:28 AM
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Are you a dating coach? I am 29, big into house music, live in upstate NY and party in Montreal all the time. There really are so many hot girls. I do ok in real life with girls I know, but have never once even had a make out with a hot club girl. I feel like I must just not be that good looking, but every year or two I date a very hot girl (it doesn't last though). I will pick up your book but just curious if you have a website or would be down to chat or something.
/r/seduction28/07/20 06:55 AM
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The problem is that full package women are so rare, especially if you don't live in a city. Every time I meet one they are dating/married a full package guy already
/r/seduction28/07/20 06:40 AM
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Plus even if they turn you down, they know you are dtf in the back of their minds. I've had that turn into a hook up or even relationship months later
/r/seduction25/07/20 05:20 PM
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Lol you're the only one who started talking about cold approaches. No, 10 years of game taught me to get laid and have awesome relationships. You have a really shitty outlook dude good luck with all that
/r/seduction24/07/20 03:41 PM
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Tons of stuff, basically all of the book Models. I've been on this sub for 10 years and my game has improved exponentially. These were girls in my social circle who said they weren't interested, they only see me as a friend. But instead of being butthurt like my former self would I continued to be a cool person and do a lot of things from that book and similar ones. Game has also helped me get girls that are way out of my league physically, a lot of friends who meet exes of mine say "damn, you d…
/r/seduction23/07/20 09:17 PM
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I disagree, before I learned this stuff I was needy and repelled women. After learning game I have turned multiple rejections into relationships and also succeed with women who think I'm attractive rather than ruining it
/r/seduction23/07/20 04:41 PM
1

Seriously
/r/seduction10/06/20 02:30 AM
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She just thinks you're hot, try to keep your mouth shut because talking a lot is your biggest risk to fuck it up
/r/seduction01/06/20 04:25 AM
1

Same for me, still working on walking away though, and also seeing multiple girls because I live in a small town and there just aren't that many
/r/seduction03/05/20 07:55 AM
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/r/nevillegoddard
/r/seduction04/04/20 04:46 PM
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Same
/r/seduction02/04/20 10:42 PM
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To add on to this, something that helps me is realizing you don't have to be the hottest person in the room to get girls. Not every girl you've been into is the hottest girl you've ever seen, average is totally good enough a lot of the time
/r/seduction28/03/20 06:05 PM
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Don't worry man women are not easier at clubs unless you're very good looking. I go to clubs a ton because I love house music etc. It's super hard to pull unless you are the type of guy every girl wants to fuck. If your game relies at all on talking clubs are not what some of these posts make them out to be. Stick to the places you enjoy and don't think you're missing out because you're not. The only thing you are missing out on are some insanely hot club outfits girls wear lol
/r/seduction03/03/20 01:04 AM
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The whole club environment is set up to get chicks in the door because no one wants to be at a club full of dudes. If chicks are there guys will come. This can include hiring hot girls to be there, promoters bringing girls, girls getting cheap or free drinks, girls getting let in while groups with too many guys have to wait. And yea I have a bunch of hot female friends who get texts from promoters all the time offering them free tickets/cover just to show up
/r/seduction03/03/20 12:59 AM
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It's helpful in the sense that, unless you are very attractive, you shouldn't compare yourself to this guy. This is a great post about how to not be an average douche at a club and how to not fuck it up if you're an attractive guy. Because believe it or not, attractive guys can be terrible with chicks. But if you're not the type of dude who has chicks starting at you/hitting on you/being super receptive when you hit on them - it's not going to help you to read this post and think all you need to…
/r/seduction03/03/20 12:54 AM
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For real, I talk to girls at clubs all the time and am having lots of fun on my own, never have had one run after me before haha. My very hot friend however has it happen from time to time
/r/seduction03/03/20 12:47 AM
1

Have you read the book the Power of Now? It's basically all about this and it's amazing
/r/seduction17/02/20 11:29 PM
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The Power of Now
/r/seduction17/02/20 08:19 PM
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No, not at all. I agree there are patterns that biological men and biological women gravitate would probably gravitate towards. I think a vast majority of them are influenced by society, and in a vacuum there would be way less, but that's kind of beside the point. The point of separating sex and gender is just that the categories are very restrictive. For much of human history and still in many places, you would be ostracized, beaten, or killed for not conforming to a cultural standard of what's…
/r/seduction16/02/20 06:35 AM
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Gender is a social construct. Our society is moving on from the idea that there are only two genders, as other societies have in the past. Biological sex is what you're talking about. Even then there are hermaphrodites though.
/r/seduction15/02/20 09:23 PM
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Is it hard to meet single women at 40? I'm 29 and just curious. Seems like most hot girls I know are in LTR and a lot of people starting to get married
/r/seduction12/02/20 06:09 AM
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Sorry bro, sounds like you handled it well. I've done the same thing with too much sarcasm. Sucks when you can't turn back the clock but that's why we keep moving forward. Maybe she'll cool off in a week or two.
/r/seduction12/02/20 01:25 AM
1

What did you say? I've known a lot of girls that will block you when they're mad and then unblock you a day later. They were all fucking crazy though. If you actually hurt her feelings, apologizing doesn't make you needy. What would make you needy is if she doesn't accept your apology and you refuse to let it go, because you need her to forgive you. Say your piece and let it go. Also, I obviously don't know the context of this situation, but make sure you have normal conversations with girls. If…
/r/seduction12/02/20 12:14 AM
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Relying on "should" is a surefire way to get laid way less often. Girls don't see you as their favorite musician, 90% of the time they see you as some dude they might be interested in. That comparison is terrible.
/r/seduction09/02/20 06:06 PM
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Do this OP. Also you can make a female account and see what other dudes profiles are like. Might give you a sense of how yours looks to other people. Also try bumble and hinge. Tinder sucks where I live but it depends on your area
/r/seduction31/01/20 03:41 AM
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Videos like this just edit out the dudes who were dtf
/r/seduction31/12/19 03:29 PM
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A huge factor of it is the situation that you are in. If you're really good at something, you are going to be considered dominant in that environment. If you are with a big group of friends the girl doesn't know, you will have a lot of social dominance. In the same vein, if you took some famous footballer and brought him to some farm in Indiana, people wouldn't know who he was. His value/dominance would go way down. So a big part of it is the environment you are in, whether you are comfortable/c…
/r/seduction17/12/19 08:52 PM
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Same. My friends and I laugh constantly when we're together, often sarcastic/satirical jokes. We always say we wish we were gay cause I have only met a handful (if that) of girls in my life who make me laugh so much
/r/seduction17/12/19 08:47 PM
0

Presence is a big one for me. Took a long time to figure that out and it's still hard to implement when I'm with a hottie and get nervous
/r/seduction17/12/19 08:44 PM
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This isnt a male vs female thing (not saying you think it is, just adding to your post). I've known a ton of women who've gone through this same scenario
/r/seduction17/12/19 12:03 AM
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Unless you live in the country and the bus only comes once a day This is semi a joke but really that's how I feel about OPs post. I live in a small town and the lack mentality definitely hurts my game but at the same time "move on to the next girl" is definitely not always an option
/r/seduction12/12/19 12:32 AM
1

Models is an amazingly insightful book. When I read it it helped me realize little things I was doing wrong that were having a big negative impact. After reading it my game improved astronomically. If there's something going on and you can't quite pinpoint what it is, I'd start reading it like today. It's also an entertaining read.
/r/seduction10/12/19 03:47 PM
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I don't know you but since you seem open minded I'll give you my 2 cents. Treat girls like everyone else, they can tell if you want something from them. Like a salesman. And it's like repellent. Nobody likes when someone is trying to sell them shit. Secondly, it's just the internet so I don't know what you're really like. But it's important to remember that you're not better than anybody. We're all out here doing our best and having certain things or being a certain way isn't any better than how…
/r/seduction10/12/19 07:00 AM
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Although there is plenty of shit here you'll learn how to have super tight game and keep the girls you want. Also like the other dude said, you've got absolutely nothing to worry about body wise.
/r/seduction29/10/19 06:07 PM
2

I don't think that was about games.. Some people are just way less into monogamy than others. I think what you're doing is legit. All my best relationships started with waiting. I usually do make moves on a first date and go for sex, but usually just because of the reasons outlined throughout this thread. My secret hope is that she turns me down, not because she doesn't like me, but because she likes me a lot. That said you might have better luck with "are you seeing anyone else right now" than …
/r/seduction28/09/19 09:28 PM
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This. It's just like a normal guy who gets with a hottie and falls in love instantly
/r/seduction28/09/19 09:16 PM
1

Live and learn, don't stress it too much. If I worried about all the chances I've blown I'd never get out of bed in the morning haha. Some of us learn with more difficulty than others. The important thing is the ability to make new chances.
/r/seduction28/09/19 09:14 PM
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Completely agree. I read The Power of Now and Models by Mark Manson at the same time and my game skyrocketed. It can be hard to put into practice what OP is talking about but Tolle's book lays out very well. When you do put it into practice it makes your whole life better.
/r/seduction26/09/19 06:30 PM
1

Wow, I guess I stand corrected. Thanks.
/r/seduction16/09/19 05:41 AM
1

Where do you meet them?
/r/seduction16/09/19 05:13 AM
2

Do you have women friends? Women - even very attractive ones - fall super hard for people all the time.
/r/seduction16/09/19 05:09 AM
6

The Game didn't teach me that, years of being made fun of or rejected did. Eye contact is powerful and I enjoyed this post but saying that being attractive isn't a huge factor is ridiculous. Especially if your stories about hooking up with tons of women are true. If you can't see that a factor of that is you being attractive to begin with then you have no real knowledge of what's working for you
/r/seduction16/09/19 05:08 AM
1

Keep flirting with her and make a move again. Say something like you think she's worth the risk and that you can agree to be friends even if things don't work out. You could also do it with a text if this all just happened. But if she still says she doesn't want to, make sure you take it well and tell her no worries
/r/seduction13/09/19 04:58 PM
1

Yea. Some catholic girls are freaky but the odds are low. The important part is you made good moves. Don't get hung up on the one girl!
/r/seduction30/08/19 03:34 AM
6

Same, all my attractive female friends get hit on constantly
/r/seduction29/08/19 12:00 AM
2

Sounds like a fucking great time. As someone else said, don't try to control it. Shrooms can be disorienting but if she's experienced she'll take care of you. I would try not to run game during this experience and just enjoy it. However if it's coming naturally (sometimes I'm a flirting God on shrooms) just roll with it. Worst case you have a super fun time with some cool chicks. Best case you fall in love with each other lol
/r/seduction23/08/19 11:42 PM
16

Even if the car girl doesn't hit you up, doesn't mean she doesn't like you. A lot of chicks I know wouldn't go on a date with a week left in town even if they liked the dude! Not that it matters because approaching is the important part and you slayed
/r/seduction21/08/19 03:03 AM
1

I get phased by rejection because I meet compatible women so infrequently. It's so hard to have an abundance mindset when there just isn't an abundance of women where you live. People always say just move on to the next one - for me "the next one" could be 6 months away
/r/seduction14/08/19 06:04 PM
0

Yea I really think the odds of a guy getting attacked by a girl on a first date are so small that it's not worth worrying about. Way less dangerous than getting in your car and going to work every day.
/r/seduction28/06/19 02:52 AM
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How many dudes do you know that have been drugged, robbed, or stabbed by a girl they were with? How many girls do you know that have been sexually assaulted or harrassed? If you know any girls you would know those numbers are not even close. Acting like guys have to face just as much danger as girls is a bit ridiculous.
/r/seduction27/06/19 07:18 PM
2

Saying she only wants attention is ridiculous. There's nothing wrong with just wanting to be friends with someone.
/r/seduction09/06/19 03:38 AM
3

Yea - a lot of dudes, especially on this sub, make eye contact into some "alpha" thing and refuse to look away for any reason. It's not about that. It's just about making a connection. If you're trying to be alpha and refusing to look away you're just going to seem like a creep. Cheers!
/r/seduction08/06/19 06:54 AM
9

If you're really stressed about it you can grab her hand or put a hand on her leg and say "I really want to kiss you right now". If you do this make sure you don't break eye contact. It's better if you don't do this but it's not the worst thing in the world. Some girls actually really appreciate this if they are the social justice type and really into consent. Some country girl from Texas however will probably not appreciate it. In any case just make sure you say it confidently. You HAVE to be o…
/r/seduction06/06/19 04:36 PM
18

What helps me is just escalating little by little. Unless I was sure she wanted it (key indicator of this is if you catch her looking at your lips, also sometimes you just know) I usually would go for putting my hand on her leg, or her back, or sitting close so your arms are touching. If she responds well to this then you're generally in. Having those mini escalations makes it a lot easier to go for the bigger ones. Another good one is seeing if she comes somewhere alone with you.
/r/seduction06/06/19 03:57 PM
3

Some girls just don't initiate, it doesn't mean she doesn't want to see you again. If I said "text me if you want to see me again" and just waited for that to happen I'd get laid a LOT less. Just hit her up, tell her what happened, ask if she wants to hang out. You don't have much to lose. It's not needy to ask if someone wants to hang out, it's only needy if you do it despite repeated no's or super frequently.
/r/seduction31/05/19 09:56 PM
147

Anyone who thinks not staring at random dudes makes you "beta" is a fucking idiot
/r/seduction29/05/19 11:50 PM
2

Thats first paragraph is key in my opinion. I have turned many friends into more by not getting butthurt at rejection and not putting any pressure
/r/seduction09/05/19 03:57 AM
1

That's not true at all. That's how thirsty dudes act. In 2019 any hot chick with options is going to be intrigued but care more about her own priorities than hanging out with you.
/r/seduction29/04/19 11:57 PM
1

So if you have a lot of this stuff, will backing away work? Currently talking to a girl who lives in another city. We've been texting every day but it's obviously hard to keep that fresh when we haven't hung out in weeks
/r/seduction13/03/19 12:51 AM
1

Damn dude. Thanks for the follow up. You may be able to start over from square one if she doesn't end up with someone else. You attracted her once so do it again. Keep in mind you will have to start at the beginning of getting her attracted. But at least you know you have a chance. You could also text her something that shows you're interested and willing to make a move, to maybe salvage the situation. It's a risk though. If you do that, make sure it's not approval seeking. In any case, that suc…
/r/seduction26/02/19 06:31 PM
2

In my opinion saying "ok I'll try again later" might get you in trouble because another main factor is that the girl has to feel you respect her decision (and it shouldn't be a lie anyways). If she knows you respect her rejection she'll be a lot more comfortable around you. It's a really fine line between being chill and being creepy so you have to be super careful. There are different kinds of girls out there though so this stuff is my experience with pretty down to earth girls in their mid - l…
/r/seduction11/02/19 04:34 AM
20

It has worked for me so many times. For instance I am currently hooking up with a fwb who I asked out a year ago (when we met. She was part of a friend group). She turned me down politely, and I said cool no problem, and continued to be friends. A few months later, she came after me and told me that originally she hadn't wanted to mess around in the friend group. But she thought I was attractive and when she saw that I wasn't bothered with rejection she knew I could be mature and decided she wan…
/r/seduction10/02/19 09:04 PM
3

This is fake
/r/seduction06/02/19 03:34 PM
5

None
/r/seduction13/01/19 10:16 PM
1

There's a whole other problem here which is jealousy, you can't just gloss over that like it isn't an absolutely enormous stumbling block for most people
/r/seduction11/01/19 04:15 AM
1

Chicks don't have options the same way when you're older. Men stay pretty handsome if they keep themselves in good shape. Women can keep looking good but still, after kids, or even just after a few decades, womens looks are not what they used to be. It's a lot harder for them. Not when they're younger though, good lord.
/r/seduction10/01/19 01:00 AM
7

I really liked this post for saying to match their confidence. I think that's a fantastic idea. I have to say though, it's a pretty common trope on here to say that super hot girls aren't that confident. I have to say, confidence or not, many of them know they are hot af, and if you aren't also hot af, they won't give you a chance, no matter how confident you are.
/r/seduction07/01/19 11:00 PM
23

I once did a 10 day silent meditation retreat. The meditation style is called Vipassana. In this meditation style, a lot of things come up in your mind. You're sitting there meditating all day, you can't talk to anyone. What this style teaches is that emotions and karma get trapped inside of you, and you have to let them out. But when it comes out, you have to experience it - to go through it. Most of the time in regular life, when something deep within us is trying to come out, we respond to it…
/r/seduction04/01/19 06:38 PM
2

What is Jamboree on the hill?
/r/seduction13/12/18 04:13 PM
1

It's good you are in great shape. High school is very different from adult game. The principles are the same but there are a lot of other factors. Look up what's called "social circle" game. That will help you a ton. The short version is, popularity/status is the main factor in high school (unfortunately). You don't need to be the football qb to get laid, but you do need to be invited to the parties, and you have to be popular enough that a girls status won't go down if she hooks up with you. Al…
/r/seduction30/11/18 03:30 AM
7

This is so spot on. Took me way too long to realize this shit :( . I have a lot of chick friends and it is unreal how much they complain about their crush not making a move on them. When I suggest they make a move first, they just stare at me blankly. Or think up 1000 excuses why they're not going to. One of which, I've heard many times: I'm just not into guys who won't make the first move.
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:47 PM
3

Impossible to know what she's thinking at this point, but if she wants to hang out with you alone at your/her house there's definitely a decent chance she's into. She could have just asked, "can I buy some?" A few things you can do to gauge interest without being too aggressive and making things weird: Sit pretty close to her on the couch. See if she leans in, stays neutral, or moves to a different seat. Don't be afraid to touch her in non-sexual places. Once again, see if she's into it or moves…
/r/seduction29/11/18 09:43 PM
13

That's a huge mistake imo. Unless she sucks. So what if she doesn't want to hook up with you. If your buddy comes over to smoke weed but doesn't want to hook up with you, is he "just using you" too? Having chick friends has helped my game tremendously and brought tons more girls into my life. Being able to go out with girls in the crew makes you so much less threatening to other girls. And girls always have more friends.
/r/seduction28/11/18 08:17 PM
1

Don't get caught playing games, if she's being straightforward she won't appreciate it. If she is playing games, then fuck that.
/r/seduction24/11/18 06:54 PM
3

Exactly, just keep the balance and don't take it too seriously if you're rejected. It's OK to be excited about someone or want something to work out. As long as you don't come at them with a bunch of expectations.
/r/seduction24/10/18 04:37 AM
5

Super true. Trying to act like a girl will never bring fulfillment is silly. A woman can't be the ONLY fulfilling thing in your life, but having a relationship/family you care about is extremely important and fulfilling. Like you said, it only becomes oneitis when they don't like you back. There are plenty of people who focus all their fulfillment on things like hobby or work or self improvement, and that's not healthy either.
/r/seduction24/10/18 04:35 AM
5

He's clearly just super hot, I don't think he's going to have any good advice for you. Something to think about though, that might make you feel better. If you were casually hooking up with a girl you liked, and her friend was smoking hot and made moves on you, would you hook up with the friend? That's probably what happened to your gf. If you were friends with a girl, and she had a super hot friend that tried to hook up with you, would you do it? You definitely would. So that's what's happening…
/r/seduction18/10/18 04:46 PM
1

The "your description" in the post you're responding to is directed at OP, not at you
/r/seduction18/10/18 04:42 PM
13

To rob him. It happened to a friend of mine once anyways
/r/seduction13/10/18 02:29 AM
16

Your last bullet "talk about them with girls" is that referring to goals again?
/r/seduction11/10/18 03:14 PM
20

which is unfair to others but hey can't tell them what to do I guess I feel like this sums up so much of our world today
/r/seduction23/09/18 06:47 PM
36

Post your content here if you want people to read it, this is just blog spam
/r/seduction30/07/18 03:59 PM
5

Make female friends. It works super well.
/r/seduction30/07/18 01:55 PM
2

There is no universal line you cross to be attractive or ugly, but there are percentages and numbers we can judge based on the the number of people who are found attractive and ugly. You are asking other people for evidence for their opinions, so surely you don't mind if other people ask you for evidence of your opinion?
/r/seduction25/07/18 04:38 PM
1

Do you have any evidence for that?
/r/seduction25/07/18 04:34 PM
0

Do you have any evidence for that?
/r/seduction25/07/18 04:33 PM
3

Dressing well is so important. I'm an average looking dude, but for much of my younger life I refused to wear collared shirts, style my hair at all, wear cologne ever, etc. I thought it was only what douchey lax bros did. Now that I'm older, I've realized a collared shirt, good haircut, and a very small amount of cologne has gotten me laid so many times. I didn't want to look that "normal" because I resented "normal people" but girls for the most part are freaked out by "weirdness." I'm still we…
/r/seduction23/07/18 01:52 PM
1

Maybe read the sub for a day or two? I downvoted this post because the answer is obviously yes, there are posts about it every day.
/r/seduction12/05/18 04:15 AM
3

Dude, I know it's not the same, but I have a giant cyst on my nose. It's definitely not attractive. And I have never been the dude that girls are all crushing on or whispering about. I've never been attractive. I'm also not in great shape.. I'm really skinny. Anyways I have been getting laid like crazy with very hot girls and am now dating a really amazing yoga teacher who started her own non profit organization and is into all the same stuff as me.. and is gorgeous. All with this big cyst on my…
/r/seduction24/04/18 02:39 PM
5

I agree wholeheartedly with the top post kenic_in_md. Just wanted to add something because I've been in this situation numerous times. The number one thing you have to do is be cool and not expect anything. Girls fucking hate it when you expect sex from them. Second tip - be a good cuddler. If you touch her right she will want to fuck for sure. Third thing - If she turns you down, don't freak out or flip out. Just chill. The only mind set you will succeed in is "if she's into it, awesome. If she…
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:09 AM
0

Are you 14?
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:02 AM
1

Yea, this has happened to me multiple times. The key is not becoming a butthurt sadboy when they first reject you.
/r/seduction21/04/18 12:02 AM
1

As an old school sedditor I appreciate this field report and you seem like a rad dude
/r/seduction17/03/18 04:50 AM
1

This is super true. I have a few friends that are super attractive and don't believe it. I've been on this sub for years so I see the IOI's from a mile away, but they just stumble along blindly, not knowing why they sometimes get laid, missing signals all the time, LOL. If they had any semblance of game they would be slaying. I try to tell them but they don't believe me.
/r/seduction16/03/18 05:51 PM
3

Man.. nothing like this has ever happened in my life lol. Every time I dance at a club nobody gives a shit. I have pretty good game outside the club but this is so out of my world.
/r/seduction16/03/18 05:27 PM
1

Nooo dude. Just play it cool. Treat it like a test, there's a 50% chance she's just saying this shit to see if you freak out. If you don't, she will want the D again
/r/seduction07/03/18 03:14 PM
6

Download this: https://www.qbittorrent.org/ Then go here and click on the little magnet next to the top entry: https://thepiratebay.org/search/models%20mark%20manson/0/99/0 Congratulations you are now a pirate
/r/seduction03/03/18 01:40 AM
1

Presumably you're a guy trying to get laid and/or have meaningful relationships
/r/seduction03/03/18 01:35 AM
2

Dude, no offense but those books are not the books you need. That's old shit, the world has changed a lot. There are way better books for a dude trying to get laid in 2018. If you haven't read Models by Mark Manson you should download it and read it right now.
/r/seduction03/03/18 01:34 AM
2

Super true. Yes there are instagram model type guys out there that girls swoon over. But any guy can look clean and put together. It took me so long to understand why my super average looking friends would get laid with a polo, some cologne, and generic bro haircut. Girls just like a dude who puts effort into how they look.
/r/seduction22/02/18 05:48 PM
5

When they couldn't leave the house or have sex till marriage
/r/seduction15/02/18 10:51 PM
9

It's not because men have been feminized, it's because girls can get sex so much more easily. It used to be difficult for women to find a husband, so they would dream about all the Disney romance shit. While men were known for partying, sleeping with prostitutes etc. Now, a decent looking woman can go out and get laid almost any night she wants. So it's a lot less valuable. Men however struggle to to get out of sexual scarcity. So men dream about romance and Disney shit. Edit: I should rephrase …
/r/seduction15/02/18 06:54 PM
2

Yea, my friends who are objectively good looking (frequently hit on, girl friends tell me they're hot etc) get wayyyy more matches than me or other average people I know. I do pretty well in person because I have decent game, but it's a lot harder on the apps. I would say probably 10% of dudes are getting 90% of attractive matches. It's all looks based on the apps.
/r/seduction09/02/18 09:31 PM
1

Most people also go out. Most of my dates are from in person game. But there's no reason not to do both (if you want). The apps suck most of the time but there's always that hope, and occasionally it works out. I've gotten laid a few times from the apps. It's pretty low effort to swipe hotties while you're taking a dump at work or sitting at home, so there's not much to lose.
/r/seduction09/02/18 09:28 PM
1

Yea, it's the same for me. It also works the other way. I have met girls at a party or a bar or whatever, didn't close, but then matched with them on bumble and gone out with them.
/r/seduction09/02/18 09:25 PM
1

This was definitely my experience as well. It's better in the real world but there are still plenty of girls after status
/r/seduction27/01/18 11:13 PM
1

I don't know, I would probably just drop it rather than bring it up again. You could say something off hand like "sorry, I didn't mean to be pushy I was just excited"
/r/seduction25/01/18 04:02 PM
1

Let it go dude of course she's not going to have a good time if you put all this pressure on her. She's only said she would go because you won't stfu about it. Listen to her and leave it for another weekend. No girl is into a guy that desperate to get laid. Stop putting all this pressure and expectations on this one weekend, I promise it won't go well if you do that. Your plan of dropping it and hanging out normally is probably the best move. If she seems into it then go for it but stop acting l…
/r/seduction25/01/18 01:54 PM
3

Keeping your own perspective is key. You don't need to be as accomplished, as attractive, or as much of anything as anyone in order to respect yourself as much as you respect anyone else. All people deserve respect. Yea your boss might be the man. Your friend might have a lot of money. A girl might be super hot. But everyone is born into different lives. You were born into your life, and if you are living it with dignity and virtue, you deserve just as much respect as anyone you can imagine. Vir…
/r/seduction12/01/18 03:33 AM
8

If you're going the same direction as them or are in some sort of line with them or something, just say "hey, what's up?" Treat them like an old friend, just be natural and casual and don't act like you think what you're doing is weird. Girls usually respond to the frame you set.
/r/seduction17/12/17 02:24 AM
1

Sure that's true but it has no bearing on what I posted. If you're not a stunner you better have good game. That's why we're all here isn't it?
/r/seduction17/12/17 01:10 AM
1

Keep on keeping on, it sounds like you're doing decently. Girls are SO flaky in this day and age, it happens to everyone. The more you practice the tighter your game will be, but I would bet even the best dudes out there get flaked on from time to time. You never know what's just around the corner - try not to think about your problems and keep a positive mind set. For what it's worth, this happens even when you're getting with girls, believe it or not. For me, it's that none of the girls I get …
/r/seduction13/12/17 11:33 PM
2

Wow that video is great. Thanks!
/r/seduction11/12/17 06:31 PM
1

This is really helpful, I never thought of oneitis as something that can happen with a girl you already hooked up with. I am going to apply all my oneitis knowledge to the girl that recently broke my heart - thanks.
/r/seduction11/12/17 06:11 PM
5

Dude, don't kiss the back of her hand that is some serious fedora neckbeard shit. In my opinion. Sorry onfire9123. Just kiss her, it doesn't have to be perfect. If you are waiting for the perfect moment it will never come. Just go for it, she will be happy. It becomes the right moment when you do it. You don't have to worry about the line at this point, based on your comments.
/r/seduction11/12/17 02:18 AM
1

I have always had problems with performance anxiety, often my first time with a girl I used to struggle to get it up. Now I take supplements and don't have to worry about it at all, it's awesome. The best stuff is pine pollen, tongkat ali is also really good. There are a lot of good supplements out there though, tribulus terrestris, epimedium aka horny goat weed. You can usually get something at like gas stations or a maybe a health food store or something if you're in a hurry, that stuff is low…
/r/seduction09/12/17 11:03 PM
12

Easy come, easy go. This girl picked you up from the club without even talking to you, I doubt she'd be trying to hang out again even if you laid serious pipe. Don't worry about it man, beating yourself up doesn't help at all.
/r/seduction09/12/17 10:56 PM
22

If you can't handle not obsessing you should definitely just stop talking. Otherwise just be friends with her. If she's hot she will have more hot friends. Don't put her on a pedestal and don't expect anything from her. If your game is tight you can turn it around, depending on the situation. Here's an example that just happened to me last week. I met this girl, we became friends, she didn't seem super keen so I didn't push for anything that hard. One day she gets all cuddley with me so I make a…
/r/seduction30/11/17 10:34 AM
3

Invite her to something fun or say something about something she's doing you saw on social media (but nothing pointless like "so beautiful". If you can think of something funny/witty you're golden)
/r/seduction30/11/17 04:14 AM
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You hinted at this but I'm going to say it more explicitly - not expecting anything will get you laid. It's like outcome independence. Girls absolutely hate when a guy expects something from them and it's one of the quickest ways to kill your chances. An attitude of "if it happens, great, if not, it's fine" is so attractive because so many guys are all crazy about their need to be validated and their expectations of a girl. Not expecting anything is harder than it sounds but it's helped me immen…
/r/seduction30/11/17 04:05 AM
1

Alright legit!
/r/seduction15/10/17 09:24 PM
3

Hahaha I have a moustache and I think that chicks are not into it. I have gotten mostly negative feedback. Paradoxically, some of the hottest women I've ever gotten with were when I had a moustache at various points in my life. I think I'm going to shave it just to see what happens, since it's so easy to grow back. My only other option is a goatee, which I think looks douchey. If only I could grow a full beard...
/r/seduction15/10/17 09:11 PM
3

Do people really do this?
/r/seduction15/10/17 12:01 AM
18

Probably they're super resistant to being hit on so they discourage anything remotely similar to being hit on
/r/seduction10/10/17 02:21 AM
3

Sounds like just some drunk dude, you should just forget about it man
/r/seduction23/09/17 04:42 PM
11

You'll be fine, if you start banging a girl more than once and you like each other, just go from there. Relationships can be crazy but that's why there's /r/relationships. Simple advice is don't be clingy, don't be jealous, be there for each other and respect each other and give each other space when needed. You can drop the act and the game - most girls will expect you to - but only to a degree. It's important to still make your girl laugh and tease and build sexual tension, you just do it in a…
/r/seduction05/09/17 06:01 PM
2

If you play it super cool and don't be weird/angry about this it's your only chance to get with her in the future. Even if she has changed her mind fully it will make you look good to other girls. Here's what happened - she changed her mind and didn't want to talk to you about it. Women do this shit all the time. I'm not going to get into whether it's fair because it doesn't even matter. It's going to happen. If you play it cool and respect/understand that decision, it takes a lot of pressure of…
/r/seduction03/09/17 05:41 PM
4

Hey Ma, Cam'ron and Juelz Santana. A classic. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=m60XKqEEnfg
/r/seduction29/08/17 05:57 PM
85

Yo, now I was downtown clubbin', ladies night Seen shorty, she was crazy right And I approach baby like: "Ma, what's your age and type?" She looked at me and said, you's a baby, right I told her I'm 18 and live a crazy life Plus I'll tell you what the 80's like And I know what the ladies like Need a man that's polite, listens and takes advice I could be all three, plus I can lay the pipe Come with me, come stay the night" She looked at me laughing; like "boy, your game is tight" I'm laughin' bac…
/r/seduction29/08/17 04:37 PM
1

Tell us the joke
/r/seduction15/08/17 03:47 PM
5

Girls say this but is it true? I hit on a lot of cute/hot girls and it's not like they were all just waiting for me to hit on them. I get turned down a lot.
/r/seduction13/08/17 07:31 AM
2

This is great advice, girls at festivals often put a lot of effort into their costumes. If you have cool shit on they are likely to notice and it's an easy conversion starter. Also drugs are great as long as you're not totally inexperienced. If you are (or even if you've done it a bunch) it's still a good idea to do your research. Depending on the festival being a dick or overly "alpha" is likely to get you a lot less far than it would in the "real world"
/r/seduction12/08/17 06:04 AM
8

It's in your head dude, I wear glasses and it's fine
/r/seduction28/07/17 05:16 AM
8

No, he specifically didn't hook up with her because she was inebriated
/r/seduction26/07/17 04:55 PM
2

I feel like when I'm upfront about my intentions it makes girls less interested. Like they want to play cat and mouse first. Or they want to be wooed or something.
/r/seduction06/07/17 12:23 AM
10

/#2 has been tough for me lately, I don't get much action on tinder/bumble while I have friends hooking up with different girls every week. But in person I do pretty well, I just get demoralized from these apps. I guess it's about realizing the apps are different from real life.
/r/seduction26/06/17 02:50 AM
12

What a beta response. Too beta to spell fuckin
/r/seduction05/05/17 02:53 PM
1

Lol at the shaggy reference. Didn't see that coming.
/r/seduction27/04/17 07:38 PM
1

If that's their answer they probably don't want to talk about it. The whole reason to talk about a girls interests is to get her talking about something she likes, but if she doesn't want to talk about what she's into then its irrelevant. Try to stay in the moment rather than talk about past and future, it's much more exciting for the girl. This way things will come up naturally and when you notice she's excited by something you can go from there. That's my 2 cents, good luck
/r/seduction25/04/17 08:57 PM
2

How often do you make moves on girls? If the answer is not "a lot," that's your problem. Girls are not going to make a move on you 99% of the time. Stop waiting for it to "happen." It only happens when you make it happen. If a girl seems even remotely interested in you, isolate. That means, if you're at a party, ask if she wants to go outside and look at the stars. Or check out something in another room. It doesn't matter. Go somewhere where it's just her and you. It can also mean if you're hang…
/r/seduction24/04/17 03:21 AM
1

Ha damn thank you
/r/seduction19/04/17 10:15 PM
1

I quit drinking for a time and people were super supportive. I learned that 99% of girls weren't drinking as much as me in the first place, and many many women only drink because everyone else is doing it. Bars suck anyways. You need to make some female friends if your social circle doesn't include a lot of women. Then do fun stuff, invite girls, they will invite friends and invite you to parties etc. Hiking or anything outdoors is great. Art stuff, like museums is great if youre in a city. I do…
/r/seduction17/04/17 04:15 PM
1

The inner game stuff has always been there. David Deangelo was the first dude I read when I was 14. I don't think it's new to pay attention to self improvement.
/r/seduction07/04/17 08:46 PM
1

Score one for the lanky guys, this made me happy haha
/r/seduction05/04/17 09:28 PM
5

I have regretted not looking at the second picture after many matches
/r/seduction29/03/17 02:37 PM
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Gold is $3 dude
/r/seduction22/03/17 10:01 PM
1

If they are paying attention to you you should assume they are interested until proven otherwise
/r/seduction16/03/17 12:00 AM
6

Dude... there is no right move, there is only a wrong move, which is doing nothing. Don't worry about shame, the past is the past. Use it as fuel so that next time some girl hits on you, literally do anything. Ask her name. Ask if she wants to get a drink. Ask if she wants to do something somewhere alone. Or just start making out with her. Girls want you to make a move, it doesn't matter what move you make. Just do something.
/r/seduction15/03/17 08:36 PM
1

All you have to do is ask them what music they like
/r/seduction15/03/17 02:39 PM
3

He means not waiting for the girl to initiate. He's saying to initiate, whether that's a kiss or a touch on the arm or whatever - just do it and she will tell you if she doesn't want you to.
/r/seduction07/03/17 05:06 AM
4

Casually explained: https://youtu.be/xa-4IAR_9Yw
/r/seduction05/03/17 12:21 AM
4

Don't be less obvious, that's what everybody does. It can work occasionally but it's best not to hide your intentions. Like you said, girls know what you're planning. Don't be ashamed of your sexuality. Just make sure you aren't belligerent or socially inept. They should only have to say no once. Stay on this sub for a while or look through the history and there is plenty of advice on how to show interest without being a creeper. I know you have to play it safe to keep your reputation intact but…
/r/seduction03/03/17 10:35 PM
1

Some chicks are way into that
/r/seduction24/02/17 05:53 AM
4

Don't wait too long, the magic will fade. Make it happen while she's still thinking about that night. Or else you will become just another random dude from a crazy night. Also don't get too bummed if she doesn't want to go out, sometimes people have a great connection and it doesn't mean there has to be more
/r/seduction07/02/17 03:53 PM
1

Might be a better question for /r/relationships
/r/seduction28/01/17 12:10 AM
1

Yeah you should do it, just communicate with them. I once lived in a dorm with 3 other dudes, all with gfs. Making me the 7th wheel. Lol. It had its good times and bad. As long as you give them space sometimes it's fine to tag along. Also don't get depressed thinking about what you are missing out on cause that will fuck up your game, got to have an abundance mindset. ALSO don't hit on every single one of their friends, be normal and it's ok to approach/make a move/show interest if you actually …
/r/seduction19/01/17 10:50 PM
5

Not pushing is key. That in itself can increase attraction. Just chill and don't treat her like she's the last chick on earth and the right time might come around.
/r/seduction14/01/17 03:36 AM
17

I joined groups and didn't really talk to people, so don't do that either. Get out of your comfort zone, the earlier in the year the better. Try to find the most approachable clique not necessarily the hottest girls (unless there is a hottie with no one to talk to, then full speed ahead. My experience is hotties usually have a posse). You want to make social connections, get more party invites etc not just meet one chick.
/r/seduction04/01/17 04:07 AM
4

Good shit! This is what it's all about. All the people saying you didn't do anything must not know what it's like to play video games all day and not talk to girls lol.
/r/seduction28/12/16 06:24 PM
3

OP is 19
/r/seduction28/12/16 06:22 PM
1

It's not a bullshit game, you should be busy doing shit not sitting by your phone waiting for a girl to text you. I understand where you're coming from but replying super fast is definitely unattractive most of the time. It can kill the vibe. I know you want to be yourself but just chill on it for a bit, a girl does not want to be your first priority before you have ever even hung out. Girls like to wonder what will happen, what is he thinking, and anticipate what you will say. It really rustles…
/r/seduction27/12/16 05:25 PM
3

After reading this sub for years, these things just pop into my head when i need them. For instance, I'll be sitting there chatting with a chick, not overthinking it or even thinking about it at all, and start to notice IOI's. It's just a signal to start kino or isolate. It's about reading the signs and knowing what to do, not about trying super hard to make things go a certain way.
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:47 PM
4

Gaba agonists ftw Head over to /r/drugs and there is a story just about every week about someone who blacked out on xanax and woke up with a super hot girlfriend lol. To casual readers of this comment - there is about 1/50 chance this works, and 49/50 you end up buying stupid shit, breaking your phone, and alienating people you care about.
/r/seduction20/12/16 05:44 PM
3

Alright I have a really stupid question. I don't get how you make a beginning, middle, and end in 10 seconds max? Or do you just post parts of the story throughout the day? If that's the case how will anybody know it's a beginning/middle/end if they just see one part? Anyways your writing got me amped up haha great work
/r/seduction21/11/16 11:31 PM
2

A is not in your control. B is in your control.
/r/seduction01/11/16 04:15 AM
2

One way to look at it is a numbers game. If you knew you were going to get rejected 14 out of 15 times, what would you do? Probably approach as many girls as you could haha. If you approach 30 girls a month you would probably have a girlfriend very quickly or be banging two chicks a month. That's kind of how it works if you have the basics down. If something about your approach is drastically flawed you might get 100% rejections till you fix it. But that's got to be really bad, if you're sociall…
/r/seduction01/11/16 04:13 AM
1

Exactly
/r/seduction23/10/16 09:09 PM
1

I know exactly what you're talking about. Stop thinking about the consequences, live in the moment, and be willing to be rejected. You have to look at rejection as a filter. You want girls to reject or accept you quickly, because then you're not wasting your time. Also I think the whole philosophy that maybe if you make a move now you will ruin it, but if you wait and make a BETTER move LATER is so bad. It's the opposite of the truth. Waiting around causes you to miss chances, get friend zoned, …
/r/seduction23/10/16 06:15 PM
1

Yeah I appreciate the warning. I'm pretty experienced, but like in your story, I sometimes come off as a "naive happy" type (for lack of a better word). I'm good at reading the vibe and have years of being an idiot under my belt so I can generally avoid wrong timing these days. Just looking for ways I can introduce that element of dominance in kino.
/r/seduction20/09/16 03:35 PM
1

What was the hair pulling neck move? Can you tell a more detailed version?
/r/seduction19/09/16 10:56 PM
3

I really enjoyed this field report good shit
/r/seduction19/09/16 02:48 PM
1

yeah it's dope it's all about being authentic
/r/seduction24/06/16 02:51 PM
6

Girls are attracted to guys that turn them on. When you don't make them feel horny you are just a friend. The hard part is turning them on without being a weirdo. My tip is presence. Just be physical and don't think too much. Check out the book the Power of Now. Another thing is to get turned on by them, and express it subtley + without expectations. Girls hate it when you have expectations of them. But they love to feel beautiful/sexy.
/r/seduction23/05/16 01:32 AM
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This is also good practice for staying in frame/dealing with rejection/outcome independence. Not everyone you talk to is going to appreciate your little comment, but that's OK. It helps you realize it's not really about the content of what you say, it's just whether or not this person is interested in talking to you, which is totally out of your control. Sometimes that's just not for them. But what you see after doing it a while is not to take it personally.
/r/seduction13/05/16 02:17 AM
1

Their fault, our problem
/r/seduction04/05/16 06:02 PM
1

Read the Power of Now by eckhart tolle
/r/seduction04/04/16 06:28 PM
3

Just want to say, your honesty about the situation is refreshing
/r/seduction28/03/16 12:39 AM
2

This is really good
/r/seduction17/03/16 05:36 PM
2

Yeah, the sexyness Nilac is talking about is relevant, but you don't have to be swoll to be sexy - you just have to think you're sexy.
/r/seduction12/03/16 05:25 PM
1

Gold
/r/seduction28/01/16 09:32 PM
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It depends how you frame the feeling in my opinion. If you're horny af but you don't throw away your principles/personality to get laid then you're golden. If you turn into a supplicating dude who will do whatever to get laid you will come off as desperate/needy. I don't think the sexual aspect and the emotional aspect are that separate. They can be, I suppose, but even then, whichever aspect is the needy one should be dealt with the same way.
/r/seduction27/01/16 04:01 PM
1

I wouldn't focus so much on finding the perfect setting, it'll just slow you down. Invite her for a drink to catch up, tell her you're seeing a show, do the dog thing.. probably doesn't really matter. I would say the more high energy the situation, the better - less time to reflect, just having fun.
/r/seduction07/01/16 08:12 PM
1

The herb Ho Shou Wu worked wonders for me
/r/seduction07/01/16 08:02 PM
3

Hear hear
/r/seduction06/01/16 10:03 PM
2

Nice, I added an edit just now in case you didn't see it, the book The Power of Now really helped me feel good in my body and not constantly berate myself with negative thoughts. It's a great complement to the book Models which is probably in the side bar. But you don't even need books if you just notice how the hottest authentic girls do it and copy their mindset
/r/seduction03/12/15 09:47 PM
2

Sure. There are a lot of great examples on TV actually. Or just think about people you have met. The sexiest girls aren't always the physically "hottest". The sexiest girls are the ones who know what they look like, what their flaws are, and still consider themselves sexy. I think it's a mistake to ignore the parts of yourself that you don't like - you have to integrate them. Think about Keira Knightly. She's hot as fuck. But she has virtually no boobs. But she's a stunner in any situation, simp…
/r/seduction03/12/15 09:35 PM
5

See yourself as attractive and others will too, women unconsciously mirror the attitudes about ourselves that we project to them
/r/seduction03/12/15 02:05 PM
2

It's a book by a dude named Mark Manson, it's really good
/r/seduction06/10/15 04:18 AM
4

Ah I see what you mean
/r/seduction05/10/15 08:58 PM
7

I disagree, from the article: The women who are open to you, will be dripping off your realness. The women who are not open to you at this moment in time, wont. The response is irrelevant. Your only focus, should be on coming real, and from a place of self appreciation. You appreciate and respect yourself enough to always be your raw self. Could be straight out of models
/r/seduction05/10/15 08:47 PM
1

His username is the same as the author of the article..
/r/seduction05/10/15 08:40 PM
1

The voice in your mind that doesn't want you to do stuff - fuck that voice, that is the definition of negativity. It's the part of you that is afraid of good things happening. Just ignore it if you want to have a good life.
/r/seduction01/09/15 04:33 AM
9

I sense impending oneitis
/r/seduction26/06/15 07:17 PM
1

Wow, this sparked a revelation for me. I am always trying to predict the future because I'm afraid - but it's trying to know the future, something I inherently can't know, that causes the fear. Damn.
/r/seduction11/06/15 02:21 PM
2

Me too
/r/seduction31/05/15 01:13 AM
3

I am incredibly spiritual and for me the two go hand in hand. Spirituality is about seeing the truth and having a clear mind, and these things are majorly helpful in getting laid. I want to present my most authentic self, not some conditioned, afraid, overcompensating and manipulative effort. Meditation and spirituality help me do this.
/r/seduction20/05/15 06:24 PM
1

It means he has a high social value, lots of friends around. Makes him not creepy and creates a social network of fun that a girl wants to be a part of
/r/seduction28/02/15 06:11 PM
5

Get a sprite with lime and buy her drink
/r/seduction02/02/15 07:16 PM
1

Do cool shit and invite people. Doesn't have to be crazy, just something new or fun. Host parties. When I was in high school, all the hot girls were going to parties.
/r/seduction20/01/15 03:14 AM
1

Robert Bly
/r/seduction31/12/14 06:00 PM
2

Haha that was like 4 years ago! What are you doing on this thread 2 months later??
/r/seduction29/12/14 02:42 PM
1

I don't know if what other people are saying about validation is true, but if you're going to find out, don't say stupid shit like "prove it." Get her number. Invite her to your place. There is your answer.
/r/seduction24/12/14 04:32 AM
1

You have to actually care what people are saying, and contribute to the conversation. People will generally talk about anything when they're drunk, so it's really not that hard to ask questions you find interesting and be involved. I think not participating is really your issue, not the alcohol. You have to invest in the situation (participate) to care, and caring is key. A healthy dose of empathy goes a long way too
/r/seduction30/10/14 04:23 AM
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For me, planning is the enemy. If she seems receptive, just go say hi and start chatting. Imagine you are sitting there studying with a hot girl across the table. Would you be upset if she just started randomly talking to you? No. Now imagine she seems to have pre planned the whole conversation, hoping to get something from you. Not as attractive. If you did have a lot of work, and didn't want to chat, or you're not single, you'd probably just politely say so. It's not that different. Stop think…
/r/seduction19/10/14 03:17 AM
1

That's a whole journey in and of itself but I find it to be 100% true. I was going to tell you to try drugs/alcohol, because those can help you have a really good time. If I were to say someone doesn't party it would mean they are living their own non social life, instead of going out embracing the chaos of revelry with the rest of us. Honestly though, if you learn to love who you are, that's the definition of self confidence, and so many things will fall into place. One big thing is the narrati…
/r/seduction19/10/14 03:12 AM
14

Look for students, expats, travelers. Not saying locals are impossible - I have no idea. But I'm guessing your best luck will be with those three groups. Once you feel comfortable in your city and have fun stuff to do you can play tour guide to girls who are traveling. I wouldn't limit myself to thats though. Just be careful not to upset local social norms, it seems like they don't take that lightly there
/r/seduction26/09/14 01:30 AM
2

It's from the awesome movie The Princess Bride
/r/seduction19/08/14 07:24 PM
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I have been with girls that turned down a kiss on the first date, and ended up in full blown relationships with them that were definitely not "ambivalent". Just because this guy says it is simple, doesn't mean it is. I think this is bogus advice based on personal experience.
/r/seduction16/08/14 01:13 AM
9

How would that possibly look desperate, if she agreed to meet up with you from tinder she clearly is attracted to you already
/r/seduction04/08/14 12:15 AM
1

Stop planning. Don't even plan how you're not going to plan. Don't plan what you will do when you succeed, or how you will cope when you fail. Trust yourself and jump in!
/r/seduction06/07/14 12:16 AM
1

It was a great move imo, sounds like you just didn't have the same idea of a great afternoon. Cest la vie, probably would have been fun to bone but ultimately it's better with someone you really connect with. Thanks for posting this.
/r/seduction15/06/14 04:19 AM
6

Reality
/r/seduction09/05/14 11:15 PM
0

You don't have to be, in my travels I hung out with plenty of people whose English wasn't great.
/r/seduction17/04/14 04:32 PM
1

Start thinking of yourself as sexually attractive and don't be afraid to get what you wish for (don't self sabotage)
/r/seduction03/04/14 05:48 PM
1

I am in a very similar situation
/r/seduction06/03/14 06:34 PM
5

Fuck yeah
/r/seduction06/03/14 02:14 AM
1

Smile at yourself in the mirror and talk to yourself positively are two corny ways that aren't a magic bullet but definitely help
/r/seduction05/03/14 06:27 PM
1

Exactly, just because a gender norm is normal for you doesn't mean it's natural.
/r/seduction20/02/14 08:15 PM
1

Then how come those "norms" change depending on geography?
/r/seduction20/02/14 07:29 PM
1

Haha. It's a long story. I don't know why I even bothered to say that in the first place.
/r/seduction17/02/14 04:24 AM
1

I think you handled it well. One thing that keeps me grounded in these situations is if you know you are already in. For instance, she came with you, you have a huge huge one up on any rando from the party (assuming you are more than friends). So when a dude is clearly trying to chat her up, I just remember that this guy is going to put his whole night into gaming the girl and then I am going to take her home! So don't be the chump playing games, be the guy who's already won. Helps me stay level…
/r/seduction16/02/14 11:33 PM
1

Love this post, thank you! To anyone wondering how this relates to pick up, I can tell you a few months ago I was living this way and getting laid more than ever (with very little effort). Then I spent a month back home with my parents (as ram dass says, if you think you are enlightened, spend a week with your parents) and lost all my mojo some how. Thank you for the reminders!
/r/seduction16/02/14 11:16 PM
-2

Which could help your game in the long run - self respect etc (depending on the situation)
/r/seduction16/02/14 11:02 PM
13

Exactly what I was thinking... not for me
/r/seduction07/02/14 02:57 AM
2

In another post he says 10/15 which is pretty damn good imo
/r/seduction04/02/14 03:22 AM
2

Dude, thank you for posting this. I think we have all experienced it to some degree and it's easy to see myself as the protagonist of this post. Oneitis is like crack, it's really great when you're hitting it and really shitty when you're not. You honestly have to treat this girl like a crack pipe, and realize that she is bad for you! In your imagination, there is a world where you are smoking crack every day, and having the time of your life. But you have to realize, it's crack - that's not rea…
/r/seduction02/02/14 10:22 PM
1

Being cocky/funny only alienated people in my experience.
/r/seduction01/02/14 03:31 AM
1

Have a good time for yourself, not because girls like guys who are having a good time.
/r/seduction01/02/14 03:25 AM
1

Girls like to talk about their problems so I often go for that. A lot of standard seduction advice will tell you to not let her talk about her ex, I think this is horrible advice. As long as you are in the conversation too (I had an ex like that, this happened, break ups are hard etc) she can really open up. And then she's even more down to bone. That's my experience. Anything that's weighing on her mind she will love to talk about, and if you can relate she (and you) will come away thinking you…
/r/seduction29/01/14 04:07 PM
8

I have to chime in, I recently had a very similar experience and have a lesson to add. I read this book, then got laid more in a few weeks than I had in the past two years. Note that I was doing abysmally in the past two years. But anyways, after reading the power of now, I felt more honest, direct, and able to handle anything a girl might throw at me (and handle it honestly and directly). I think one of my crippling weaknesses had been being totally uncomfortable/afraid of making moves on girls…
/r/seduction31/12/13 10:02 AM
2

There's an amazing subreddit /r/Stoicism if you don't know already
/r/seduction31/12/13 09:58 AM
1

That is my dream. How do you screen? For the record I am more than willing to reciprocate
/r/seduction21/12/13 05:23 PM
1

Be comfortable. Girls like dudes, they want you to make a move. Do what feels natural, and remember that she will feel the vibe you put off, so if you are comfortable with your own attraction and sexuality, it will allow her to feel comfortable with her attraction and sexuality... And then just let your millions of years of genetic experience guide you. If you want to touch her hair, hold her hand, do it! There's usually a reason you want to, and she wants you to too
/r/seduction16/12/13 06:26 PM
3

Put some conscious effort into your appearance and tell yourself how great you are. They aren't out of your league. There is no league. The only reason you believe that is because you keep telling yourself. Seriously. There is no league. I don't care if a hot girl rejected you once, that's not proof of anything. It's a big world! Start telling yourself what you want to believe, and then live it. Look in the mirror and focus on what attractive features you do have. You will begin to notice that h…
/r/seduction23/11/13 04:24 PM
16

I have never understood everyone's obsession with eye contact. It doesn't mean you're somehow inferior if you don't stare at somebody. Why do people feel the need to stare everyone down anyways? Not trying to bash I just really don't get it.
/r/seduction23/10/13 05:28 PM
1

Other people have said some good things that are the opposite of what I'm about to say, and they might not be wrong, but I'm going to throw my opinion in there. When I was going out trying to get laid by anyone remotely bangable, I had a semi desperate mind set, failed a lot, and wasn't into the girls I did get. Recently I've really only been making moves if I'm actually into the chick and it's helped astronomically. I realized it's really not that big a deal to not get laid every weekend, or ev…
/r/seduction11/10/13 01:32 AM
1

If she was only doing this stuff with you, that's a good thing. If she's touchy and flirty with everyone, she might still be dtf but there's a lesser chance
/r/seduction29/09/13 11:41 PM
9

Holy shit I'm glad I read this
/r/seduction29/09/13 10:51 PM
1

I know what you mean by not being that turned on by a girl you don't really know. You could think of it as getting to know her intimately before you invest emotionally, as opposed to the other way around. Or just fool around a bit, but leave them wanting more. Just make sure you peace out on a high note.
/r/seduction20/08/13 09:49 PM
20

/r/OneY might be a better spot for this. Time dude, give it time. Don't be afraid to grieve, do whatever you feel is best / want to do. The more you avoid it the longer it will take. I've lost both my parents and it never goes away but it does become very possible to be "you" again, though probably changed, and hopefully for the better.
/r/seduction24/03/13 03:40 AM
9

You have to get on the same page as other people. Those clowny jokes and actions are all like little inside jokes. Surely you've had inside jokes before. At a party they happen quickly. If you don't know the same media as the people you are hanging out with it can get difficult, because a lot of silly things come from media. But if you are very open minded this can be quickly overcome. Instead of being left out, be interested and engaged. The world is not full of idiots just people with differen…
/r/seduction20/12/12 06:15 PM
1

Yeah, you just gotta know the audience. The whole story might be awesome and colorful, but not everybody is interested in some random dude you met. These stories can be great as you get to know someone better, but in a bar/party scenario, it's best to give a slight context ("in spain one time") and then get to whatever fits in the conversation - I was insanely drunk and we did x is usually pretty well appreciated by anybody who likes to drink. The Spain part just gives extra flavor, but let them…
/r/seduction08/11/12 08:29 PM
7

I'm going to put down a middle of the road opinion on this. You really should do something you would have fun with by yourself - do something you want to do. If you start out trying to please her, that's just a bad road to go down. That said, don't just not think about her. The mall is not a great place to go, unless you are so on top of your shit that you can be the entertainment the whole time you're there. Just like halo in your dorm room is a bad idea (first date anyways). Have her over and …
/r/seduction24/02/12 07:30 AM
2

Damn, this explains why I'm always attracting girls in relationships and otherwise unavailable.
/r/seduction07/02/12 11:57 PM
1

I say go for it. I've been in this situation before. When I got the girl my friend was very cool about it, definitely happy for me (she was a catch). I've also been the loser, so make sure if she ends up going for the other dude, you don't hold it against him. Fuck limiting yourself. I do get where you're coming from. A dude can't be possessive of something that's not his; he has no right to hold it against you if you go for it. So don't worry about it. Worst case, just play dumb.
/r/seduction05/02/12 11:57 AM
3

I did this once. Chose fat ass. "Well you have a fat ass." I thought it was hilarious. It went over horribly. Long time ago haha. Girl was actually pretty attractive though.
/r/seduction24/01/12 06:12 AM
1

I agree with frogma, but also want to add the concept of value in interactions. This is an awesome post about it.
/r/seduction12/01/12 04:58 AM
1

Not necessarily. For some people it would be. I don't know him personally, but it seems like that's just something he wanted to do. If I really like French literature and tell everyone about it, does that mean I'm hiding behind it? No, that's just what I like. Some people might hide behind French literature (pseudo-intellectuals etc) but that doesn't mean that, because I love French lit, I'm a pseudo-intellectual.
/r/seduction16/11/11 06:29 PM
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