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make your life so awesome you don't gaf if anyone chooses not to be a part because you're happy enough by yourself, and you actually become selective who to let in as to not rock the awesome boat
/r/seduction24/10/22 11:42 AM
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I mean ya there's always pressure but in my experience most girls are understanding that no guy bats a hundred and were cool about whatever as long as I was... this girl doesn't sound that cool to be honest
/r/seduction04/10/22 07:51 AM
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love this. this goes for everyday life too. I tell ppl it's almost arrogant to take things personally
/r/seduction07/09/22 12:23 PM
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look man it wqanothing personal... she clearly just wanted something very casual and that's not what this would have been and she knew that. you're too into your own feelings here and aren't considering her.... if she wants something quick and easy why take on the high pressure of giving someone who is MUCH more likely to get attached their first sexual experience? also most virgins are trash in bed so there that too ( that comes with experience don't worry man). Just keep this in mind next time…
/r/seduction03/08/22 12:59 PM
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Yep, it's all over. Pack it up folks.
/r/seduction27/06/22 04:52 PM
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I'm like this at times on dates and have caught girls off guard when I go for it. The thing is just go for it, even if it's not the smoothest she's on a date with you for a reason so at least go for it you literally have nothing to lose.
/r/seduction27/06/22 04:50 PM
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many guys givee bad advice because what they say sounds logical, similar to your friend. however, attraction is based on emotion not logic which is why you should do the exact opposite of what many people tell you when it comes to women
/r/seduction27/06/22 11:33 AM
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definitely not that. I was more content when I was with her but still missed being single if that makes sense. I was happy with my choice though things just didn't work out.
/r/seduction25/06/22 05:04 PM
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nah I just mean I missed her so I got her back and once I did I missed being single. then we broke up and I miss her again
/r/seduction25/06/22 02:44 PM
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thats exactly what it taught me. then getting my ex back reminded me
/r/seduction25/06/22 06:43 AM
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I tell them I have a tough time falling asleep with someone else and need to wake up early.
/r/seduction18/06/22 03:21 AM
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this thumbnail has serious meme potential
/r/seduction12/06/22 08:45 PM
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I'm a copywriter and all these tips apply for that too lol. the key to keeping an individual engaged really seems to be making them feel
/r/seduction12/06/22 08:02 PM
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couldn't agree more
/r/seduction12/06/22 06:53 PM
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ok man you blew it for this week its cool doesn't mean you're cooked. by saying I can grab dinner when your free to her you just said you have no plans all week and are willing to revolve your life around her.... not good!!! give it a few days, and then message her and say you want to take her to x place on y day at z time (a couple days from when you text). this shows confidence and taking control is an attractive trait. also making plans is part of your duty as a man. I wouldn't be shocked one…
/r/seduction07/06/22 12:47 AM
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everytime youre about to message something, ask yourself if you'd behave that way if you had 8 other girls of equal attraction currently interested in you.
/r/seduction05/06/22 06:24 PM
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damn dude, I'm happy you went through that so young. I had a very similar experience and learned the same lessons last year at 30 lol. you sound wise beyond your years
/r/seduction02/06/22 07:58 PM
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tell them what you want and give them a chance to say ok. it's way less awkward then asking them
/r/seduction31/05/22 02:13 PM
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I would change this to people in general love talking about themselves and the funny thing is if you give them the chance to they will feel like they know you better as a result while learning nothing about you lol. there's a lot of people I get along great with that know very little about me because of this.
/r/seduction22/05/22 01:46 PM
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sounds like you know what to do. the more passively I approach dating the less grief it causes me personally. that doesn't mean not doing anything it just means being patient and ok being alone until I feel genuine interest in someone and then pursuing them instead of forcing things with girls I dont care so much about. requires patience though.
/r/seduction04/12/21 05:51 PM
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This. When I was much younger I used to hang around with a large group of guys and we were all insecure. Anytime a girl came around the place degenerated into a circus of everyone grandstanding and putting eachother down in hopes of looking cooler... it was poison.
/r/seduction03/12/21 02:12 PM
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I remember being at a party in my early 20's and this older guy who worked with my friends randomly came up to me and started talking about life. He told me it isn't how comfortable other people are with you, it's how comfortable you are with yourself. It sounded wise but I never understood it fully or why he said it to me until years later when I now realize it is one of the most important life lessons I had to learn.
/r/seduction28/11/21 09:43 PM
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good stuff as always mo. I would also like to add that another benefit to not chasing when you feel them pulling away is the preservation of your self esteem.
/r/seduction24/11/21 01:09 AM
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to put it as bluntly as possible. have a life. to go into more detail, have a life that fulfills you and gives you purpose and base your self esteem off that rather than how someone else perceives you. your self esteem will be less fickle that way
/r/seduction10/11/21 08:43 PM
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jordan harbinger show. he has highly accomplished guests and there's often episodes about effect self improvement methods
/r/seduction29/10/21 05:05 AM
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give her a time and a place, most women like when the guy takes control and actually plans it instead of the usual "idk where do you wanna go?"
/r/seduction25/09/21 02:22 AM
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honestly grab a drink or grab a coffee is noncommittal and low pressure. if they're a drag you can bail without being rude and it also filters out girls trying to use you for a free meal
/r/seduction23/09/21 11:14 AM
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doesn't matter what it means and there's too many possible reason, lots of which have nothing to do with you. just stop reaching out and if she doesn't reach out she wasn't interested enough anyway and move on. at most maybe send her one message as a feeler after a couple weeks but that's it and keep your expectations low
/r/seduction14/09/21 05:20 PM
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Some good points here especially about not having friends making one overinvested/clingy. another id like to add is not having friends could be a sign of an inability or unwillingness to take proper care of relationships which could be a red flag generally speaking
/r/seduction11/08/21 12:44 PM
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I've heard they can be great to meet attractive women and very few men attend... can't speak from experience though
/r/seduction24/05/21 01:07 PM
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not recommended but how I did it was fall really in love with one girl and then once she breaks up with you it'll be much harder to get attached to anyone you see or sleep with after lol
/r/seduction05/04/21 10:56 PM
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great post man, everything you say is completely in line with what I've been learning since my last break up and I've been trying to develop in the exact same ways. thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction02/04/21 03:31 PM
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relationships are never easy. a truly great and healthy relationship requires a lot of upkeep and maintenence and there will always be difficulties even still.
/r/seduction07/03/21 06:37 AM
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came in to say this... so many reasons why that can happen that have nothing to do with you man. maybe she was fresh out of a relationship and they decided to try again or maybe she was about to get serious with someone else. don't take it personally man
/r/seduction03/03/21 02:49 AM
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great advice and my sentiments exactly
/r/seduction22/02/21 06:45 PM
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what exactly happens before they break it off or go cold? are you telling them you want to make it long term/exclusive? if so I've learned it's best to let them be the ones to initiate that kind of thing. and perhaps you're crowding them a bit much ie texting too much or asking to hang out too often. sorry for your troubles man the good news though is if you're getting as far as you are then you're doing a lot right and might just need a couple subtle adjustments in your approach.
/r/seduction20/02/21 09:28 PM
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good stuff man! I might add make her feel heard as in doing your best to be present and not distracted. This is something I've had women comment on since I made an effort to do so.
/r/seduction19/02/21 07:55 PM
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there are 3 components to what most people consider good posture. chin down, head back, and shoulders down and back. if any of those 3 things arent happening it makes the other 2 more uncomfortable. also tight chest and anterior shoulders make it more difficult.
/r/seduction14/02/21 10:20 PM
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attract and keep her by jim wolfe. first section is entirely about learning to become a high value man and self love. super important and I wish I'd read this stuff a decade ago.
/r/seduction10/02/21 05:09 PM
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lead but dont chase. ask for their number, ask them out and if they agree great. if they dont it's completely fine and just move to the next one. dont be sulky if they say no and they might even come back around when you give them space. it's only when you persist when they dont reciprocate interest that you come off as needy and it will also hurt your self esteem.
/r/seduction08/02/21 03:57 AM
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fuck bro I lost my gf I loved so much a couple months ago because of exactly what you said. there were external factors contributing to it as well but I know if I been fulfilling my responsibilities as a bf and not treating her like a mommy we could've dealt with whatever. cheers man I'll definitely give that a read
/r/seduction03/02/21 06:29 PM
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this is great advice, especially the part about men taking initiative and arranging dates to make them feel more feminine. I neglected to do this in the past and realized I was failing in one of the key roles as a man in relationships. that and being an emotional base for them.
/r/seduction03/02/21 05:09 PM
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do you mean like being late for a date? I agree if so but as far as building attraction it shows a ton of internal strength if you're willing to wait a few days between initiating contact/ dates. most guys dont as they dont like leaving them in the wild for any amount of time and honestly that's insecure. if you can wait she'll wonder what you're up to/ who else you're with and thus be more attracted.
/r/seduction24/01/21 10:51 PM
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stop trying to impress her and try and see if she is truly impressing you. dont wonder if you'll be good enough to have sex with her and just know that if she chooses to you'll show her a great time. if she doesnt it's her that's missing out and on to the next one. stop pursuing as soon as they dont reciprocate interest, and reward them when they do. you arent in this to get sex from them. you're in this because you have a lot to offer them if they choose to have sex with you. by not putting you…
/r/seduction24/01/21 07:14 AM
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that's amazing man. now the hard part begins lol dont stop learning whatever you do!
/r/seduction23/01/21 06:29 PM
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I'm sure there's a lot more you could do better but don't say maybe we should hang out again tell them I want to see you again or anything that sounds more confident and certain. dont ask them, tell them what you want. and texting the next day would kind of make you look needy or like you don't have much of a life outside of them
/r/seduction22/01/21 06:04 AM
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Look up jim Wolfe. He has a great yt channel and i bought his ebook "how to attract and keep her" and the first chunk of it is about developing your sense of self which is critical. Also been going to therapy for the first time ever and I really regret not going when I was much younger. Good luck man pm me if you need anything
/r/seduction18/01/21 03:48 AM
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An older guy at a party once told me it's not how comfortable other people are with you but how comfortable you are with yourself. Took me years to grasp it but I wish I had a lot sooner. Im currently on a path of self love/improvement because of a recent break up that hit me really hard and a lot of what I'm learning is embodied by what that guy said to me.
/r/seduction17/01/21 11:59 PM
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Guys I'm gonna say a piece here about this. I recently went through a break up with a girl I loved more than anything who made me happier than I've ever been. However after a couple months with her the happiness wore off and I went back to being mostly depressed and relying on her completely for the little bit of happiness I had. Things slowly died between us as she saw me for what I was, a man who doesnt love himself and completely codependent. Anything I did was for her and her approval, I lit…
/r/seduction04/01/21 03:13 PM
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You dont belong here.
/r/seduction15/05/20 05:36 PM
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Post flop calling and ashlee and raising an ashleigh would just be a raise bruh.
/r/seduction07/09/19 12:58 PM
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Great things await us outside our comfort zones friends.
/r/seduction15/08/19 10:33 PM
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