johnxdoughy Archive

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2	6 month update Hey bud, glad you're turning the corner. Looked at your comment history -- it's uncanny how similar betraying spouses are: lacking in empathy, victim identity, reflexive lying / gaslighting, rarely takes accountability or apologizes, rewriting history, pattern of disrespect, pattern of being annoyed, habitually unappreciative, receives a lot but gives little, demonizing once the affair starts, ... A few days before my EXW's affair came to light, I was cleaning up her dishes while she sat at the …	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/24 08:58 AM
6	20 year+ marriage has become a prison cell. I can’t stay any longer, but I can’t seem to leave. She absolutely flipped out that I was talking to different women. It made her angry that I seemed to like I liked them. I don't understand it. She was cheating behind your back, then had sex with some other guy, but the moment you're enjoying talking with other women, she flips out? The hypocrisy is astounding, I truly don't understand how people can have so little self-awareness. How do people just blindly trust their feelings without any level of introspection like this?	/r/Divorce_Men	28/04/24 06:51 AM
1	Any recommended books while going thru divorce? Just finished that one, high recommended	/r/Divorce_Men	26/04/24 02:46 AM
2	Her business success affected our marriage But the scary part is, she did love me; it just can vanish overnight. And yeah, immediately after she cheated, like within hours, she was an utter monster to me and never stopped. It's scary to see that change. And hard to understand. My story is similar, but I came to different conclusion -- maybe she loved me as much as she could, but her capacity to love is severely limited compared to the mature kind of love required for a lifelong commitment. IMO people whose "love" allows them to betray an…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/03/24 03:35 AM
9	My Life is a Comedy Part II Wow huge respect dude, it takes real balls to try stand up.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/12/23 04:08 AM
3	Ex Called to Meet Up I haven’t once thought about her at all the last 2 months Dang and you were together for 11 years?! I can't wait to be where you are.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/12/23 03:29 AM
7	Advice for bringing it up she's always said, "Once a cheater, always a cheater." Wow it sounds like she really knows herself!	/r/Divorce_Men	18/11/23 02:54 AM
38	What is your biggest regret? Just posted this in another thread: My biggest regret from the end of my marriage is that I wasn't stronger in dealing with my wife's affair. I desperately wish I had the strength to end the relationship decisively and immediately, but instead I sought emotional support from the very person that betrayed me.	/r/Divorce_Men	17/11/23 04:32 AM
6	Finally got rid of the ring What kind of plane did you get?	/r/Divorce_Men	14/10/23 04:24 AM
12	What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt? God damn man I'm glad you got out.	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/23 05:23 AM
23	What is the worst thing your ex did to you that hurt? Oh wow there are so many! But the highlights: On D-Day she told me she's not willing to stop talking to her boyfriend to save our marriage, and that she needs to "conquer him". Told me she "fundamentally doesn't support my life goals". It was somewhat clear previously that she never supported me but it was quite something to hear her spell it out. Called me when she was having a panic attack about the prospect of dating. (I still wonder if she thought she was talking to her boyfriend and not her…	/r/Divorce_Men	24/09/23 05:22 AM
13	Never thought I’d be in this position… Damn dude that's rough. I'll say what you already know: she's moved on and you need to cut contact and move on too. It's hard as hell but you'll get through it like all of us will. It sounds like you're already separated. Have you filed for divorce yet?	/r/Divorce_Men	23/09/23 11:10 PM
10	Why does she text like this? You're more charitable than me -- my STBXW is listed as 'Succubus' and her photo is an inverted pentagram.	/r/Divorce_Men	21/09/23 05:52 AM
17	My ex-wife finally found a boyfriend on a dating app, and I can't stop laughing at the irony She mocked my income to my face and behind my back to her family and friends. She judges people harshly for how much they make, as if their income is their only measure of who they are as a person. Jesus this person sounds awful. I worry for the children in her presence!	/r/Divorce_Men	19/09/23 11:18 PM