jonkedi Archive

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1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. Well let me put it this way: your posts in this thread have reflected a great deal of intelligence and self-awareness. If you talk to girls the way you have been interacting with me you will have no problems getting what you want. Yet for some reason when you interact with real women in the real world you say that you are awkward, frustrated, and annoyed. So you tell me what's going on.	/r/seduction	14/05/14 04:12 AM
1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. Maybe. Hookers will not give you much intimacy as their job is to create a fantasy. You will get some experience with the physical mechanics of sex but you probably won't learn anything about how to emotionally connect with women, which is what you have to learn is you want to get better at seduction. It wouldn't be the worst possible thing you could do though.	/r/seduction	14/05/14 04:08 AM
1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. I took a close look at how my past conditioning about my sexuality was influencing my behavior and emotions. Then I changed those things. Guys who lack sexual experience are stigmatized in our society and it can be difficult to fully accept yourself as you are. But if you can't accept yourself then how you are going be able to to engage in the most intimate sexual acts with another person? You can't hide forever.	/r/seduction	13/05/14 06:44 AM
1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. Inner game is about overcoming your own internal blocks to success. Limiting beliefs. Social conditioning. Fear. True inner game is not a product. What most people call "inner game" is just some BS pop-psychology marketed as something it's not. I don't know you but I can see from your posts how your beliefs about what seduction is and can be are preventing you from having the success you want. You might think you don't need inner game, but it's actually exactly what's holding you back. Once you …	/r/seduction	13/05/14 06:40 AM
1	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. Yes you can be successful at life and yet suck with women. General self-improvement is useful for seduction, but to get good with women you actually have to get good with women. There's some overlap with general life and social skills but there's a whole lot of more specific skills and knowledge that are required to be good at seduction. And in your case, as in that of many guys in the community (formerly including myself) there's a shitload of inner-game issues you need to resolve in terms of y…	/r/seduction	13/05/14 03:29 AM
2	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. No worries, man. I read your other post in this thread and I agree with you that seddit has gone too far in the direction of self-improvement at the expense of the technical side of seduction. Self-improvement is NOT seduction. But they are not incompatible. OP does not have to abandon self-improvement, honesty, or being genuine to get better at seduction. In fact, he needs to get more in touch with his own sexuality and learn how to genuinely and skillfully express it. Woman want to be desired,…	/r/seduction	12/05/14 07:29 PM
2	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. Not sure why you posted this as a reply to my post. Perhaps you meant to post this as a top-level reply.	/r/seduction	12/05/14 07:09 PM
2	A rant about self-improvement and the anti-PUA direction of dating. You are creating a false dichotomy between "PUA" and self-improvement. PUA means picking up girls and having sex with them. Seduction is not incompatible with honesty or self-improvement. Your problem is that you are not owning your sexuality, so you are not being genuine. You are being what you think is genuine, which is actually quite artificial. If you don't care what her name is yet you pretend to because you think that's what being "genuine" is, then you are actually being artificial. You n…	/r/seduction	12/05/14 05:50 PM
41	25 year old virgin here. Your problem is due to the fact that at some point (probably multiple times, actually), you were made to feel ashamed of your sexuality. Whenever you enter a sexual situation with a girl you are re-triggering those feelings of shame. The girl notices how you are feeling, and it turns her off. It's possible that going to sex worker could help you get over some part of this, and there's nothing wrong with trying it if you want to, but I doubt it will fix the core issue. Most sex workers are have a…	/r/seduction	27/11/13 08:20 PM
3	I AM TIRED OF THE SHALLOWNESS OF THE GAME. I AM A SENSITIVE UNIQUE FLOWER AND I WANT REAL CONNECTIONS WITH WOMEN :'( I agree. OP makes some good points but the issue is more complex than how it is presented. First of all, the PU community has a history of superficial approaches to women. Not that long ago guys who today call themselves "naturals" and put out products about natural game used to insist that the only way to do PU was to learn canned routines and use them in nightclubs. The community has evolved a lot since then but not as completely as this post represents. Second, the reality of PU is that a lot…	/r/seduction	15/10/13 12:36 AM
9	DON'T BE CONVENIENT This is great advice! To go beyond it, if you are genuinely not very busy when you are making plans to see a girl you like you should obviously try to make plans for the first available time. You quite literally have nothing better to do. If she doesn't take you up on that then you can step back and let her pace the interaction according to her schedule and comfort level. This shows both interest and respect for boundaries. Learning to genuinely express interest while demonstrating respect for y…	/r/seduction	23/08/13 04:04 PM