jono12132 Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Men who can’t find a girlfriend have simply not dropped their standards enough Yeah if you're a bit of a shy Reddit type and you work shifts in a male dominated workplace, its a recipe for being single your whole life. Even if you have friends, they change when they settle down. Even more so if you're a shift worker and can't always make get togethers.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/06/25 09:00 AM
3	Men of the western society, I'd like to know if you're really not able to find even one decent woman out there? I agree. I think this is the hardest part. For guys, especially below average looking ones, you have to put a huge amount of effort in to find someone. It's basically got to be a part time job. Statistically that person probably exists for most people, but it doesn't mean you'll ever meet them. You can try the apps, but they're their own little subculture of terminally online people with extremely high standards. Most guys aren't having a great time on them. You can try nights out drinking but o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/03/24 03:59 PM
2	Many of the problems in the dating landscape can be attributed to a lack of viable social venues for young people. I remember when I did the meetup thing 4 years ago. As you'd expect it was a sausage fest. But there was a handful of around 5 or so regular women. Anyway it eventually transpired that this small group of women were all sleeping with the same guy, this Irish guy that was the group organiser. Despite there being tons of single guys in the group they all went for the leader. The Irish guy had a gf at home who rarely came to events, he's still with her afaik. He eventually stepped down as the organ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/23 03:44 PM
4	Why do you think male loneliness and decline in dating is finally getting mainstream coverage? Agree. I'm also from the UK but up north. It's definitely more of an expectation to drive here because the public transport isn't as good as London. I've never had a relationship and my social life is so so, so without having a relationship or a big social life, there was never a pressing need to drive. I could easily get to work by bike. I only learnt to drive because I needed to for my job. I can see the benefit now I've done it. But I can also see I would've done it years ago if I had a relat…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/23 12:27 PM
2	Do the men in here that struggle to get laid not have any women in there social circles? It's also the case that lots of people end up in gendered industries. Such as nerdy tech guys or people that work in factories or on the docks. In my role I can go full days at work without seeing a woman. Not that it's really a good idea to date at work anyway but for lots of guys there just aren't any women in the workplace.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 10:20 AM
7	Is the ratio really better in real life? A lot of guys work in gendered industries though. Where I work, you can go full days without seeing a woman. Lots of blue collar guys working long hours in male dominated factories or whatever aren't really finding going to be finding people to date. There's also the whole "don't shit where you eat" thing. I got rejected by a girl at a previous job and this lead to a really uncomfortable atmosphere for a while. You don't want to make your professional life difficult or uncomfortable, or being se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/11/22 12:00 PM
2	The tinder cycle for the average man and woman and why you shouldn't get frustrated or take it personally. If you live in a small city it is very noticeable. Every time I open the app, there's always at least one profile I've seen before I'm asked to swipe on. Sometimes I give them nicknames I see them so much. Most of the time they're attractive, so I don't believe they're not getting matches. I'm unattractive so I've been on tinder a long time. I still regularly see the profile of one of the earliest matches I can remember getting back in like 2014 or something. Every couple of weeks she pops up on…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/22 09:59 AM
6	ONLINE DATING STATS: The figures are in for OkCupid and Hinge, and what a surprise it's more dude fests. OkCupid is now 74% male and just 26% female in terms of users, while Hinge, despite being the most gender equal out of all the major apps, is still almost 2-to-1 men to women Agree. The apps are a shitshow, but so is everywhere else. If I go to a nightclub, the will be about 4 guys to every woman and all the guys will be drunk and aggressive. If I go to a meetup, I end up going to meet a cliquey group of about 20 guys and 4 women. I just don't feel like women like men that much and aren't really interested in meeting them. These app stats are bad but they make sense. They feel the same as every place I go to.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/09/22 08:02 AM
1	Something i noticed about tinder statistics Agree. I also think lots of guys find themselves in gendered industries so work isn't an option anyway. Clubs and bars aren't everyone's cup of tea. I think many guys go just to meet someone and don't actually enjoy partying. It only really attracts the party types and for a lot of guys that kind of person doesn't suit them but more introverted women are hard to find. I'm also convinced that most women grow out of partying by their mid 20s. They prefer to have meals out with their friendship gro…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/08/22 09:05 AM
1	How much impact do cultural factors have on who we find sexually attractive? How do cultural influences change who we find attractive? Agree it is interesting. I think there's something kind of boring about heavily tattooed women for example. I've never found them attractive. They've always been around but where women in their 20s 10 to 15 years ago would maybe just get an ankle or wrist tattoo, it isn't crazy to see women with full sleeves and chest pieces now. Why are people doing that now but not back then? I think tattoos have become very conformist in recent years which is a huge difference to how they used to be perceived…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/05/22 04:40 AM
–	Does dating through clubs, social activities, and Meetups actually work (as a man)? I find meetup is a mix of socially awkward people with few if any friends and really extroverted people that are usually new to the city. So these 2 groups don't always mix that well. After a while they become cliquey and the extroverts just hang with the other extroverts etc.	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/21 10:15 AM
–	Does dating through clubs, social activities, and Meetups actually work (as a man)? Does it work? Yes. I attended a meetup weekly pre lockdowns and saw it happen to others. But you're right that women generally don't attend clubs and meetups. I think they prefer women only spaces. I also think most women have fulfilling social circles already so don't need to join clubs. They also have tinder etc so don't feel the need to join one to find someone. I also agree that even when they do attend clubs they can be closed off and stand offish. I think this is because they're conscious …	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/06/21 10:11 AM
3	What do you think of the Jesus of Red Pill, Roosh V, disavowing all of his past work and unpublishing his red pill pick up books? Is he forgivable? I don't think that article was ever genuine. A lot of his articles seemed to me to be troll articles designed to go viral and get people mad. His old Return of Kings website was pretty much nothing but clickbait troll articles full of exaggerated hot takes. But I think this also meant he did attract a lot of people that took a lot of his stuff at face value. I read his forum a lot and over time the members slowly moved away from topics about lifestyle and game, eventually it just ended up full o…	/r/PurplePillDebate	22/01/20 03:17 PM
10	What is tinder like for the average guy? No matches at all really. Due to Tinder I'm no longer sure I even am an average guy tbh. Upon making a profile, I'll get about 5 matches... and that's it really. During the week of making a new profile I might get another couple. Then it is kind of just one match every week or 2. So I kind of stop getting them after about 7. Of those 7, 5 won't reply. Of the 2 that do, they usually will stop replying after a couple of messages. I rarely can get to messaging someone for around a week but when I s…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/10/19 10:46 AM
3	Is it creepy if a guy is standing alone at a nightlcub? No one cares. I used to go night clubbing alone a lot. Initially I felt shame and embarrassment. I wanted to go out and party but had no friends. I used to feel this anxiety until I realised like most things in my life, no one cared. No one looked at me. People were out enjoying themselves. I used to get really drunk until I didn't feel self conscious, then I'd dance with groups of girls and have fun. I've always been a bit of an outlier with awful success with women. I got my first kiss clubbin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/10/19 01:45 PM
5	Isn't there a significant chunk of dudes whose only barrier to sex and dating is their own apathy? Some of this sort of describes me. Ultimately I just don't try like I should. But for me I just don't really have the self esteem to believe I'm what anyone wants. I've been through using the dating apps, in addition to putting myself out there socially, but I just don't get matches on apps or connect with people in real life. The thing I can relate to is when you actually date someone is how much pressure I feel to plan everything, to seem interesting and charismatic and that she is enjoying he…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/09/19 02:16 PM
13	CMV: Men Whining About Women’s SMP Privilege Is Unattractive ... Because They Want To Be Treated Like Women Yeah as a lower tier guy this whole gatekeeper of commitment thing is meaningless. No one wants my commitment. I’m a gatekeeper of nothing. Every time I’ve started to get anywhere with women and made it clear I was looking for something long term they ended things. It’s such a meaningless phrase when you’ve been around long enough to see that people don’t want that commitment. They only understandably want the commitment of those top tier guys. My commitment has been proved to be pretty worthles…	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/09/19 07:08 AM
3	Being Sociable I'm in my late 20s and for years I was pretty much living an incel tier life, no friends, nothing with women obviously. At the beginning of the year I joined a meetup group and while it has changed my life around, it hasn't really done anything for my romantic life. Just being out there and being social isn't enough if you were never great with people in the first place. It can be hard to make connections with people if that has something you've always struggled with. I see people that haven't b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/09/19 03:04 PM
2	Is it normal as a man for girls to NEVER flirt with you or express interest in you? Very normal. I've been approached by a girl a grand total of one time in my life. It threw me off because it was such an odd thing to happen. Only afterwards did I think she was maybe interested. I know what you mean about girls who have boyfriends flirting. One time at work that happened with a girl I was working with. I thought she was interested so I messaged her later to ask her out. She obviously said no, just like you I thought she liked me. So even if a girl is friendly to me I don't thin…	/r/seduction	25/11/18 06:53 PM
22	X-year-old still a virgin Yeah, I wonder how old OP is. OP is right that it is a really unhelpful thing to think about. But if you get well into your 20s and it hasn't happened then you probably should be at least a little bit worried about it. It isn't normal and I say that as someone who is basically a 27 year old virgin. I lost mine to an escort last year but I still pretty much feel like I'm still a virgin. Sex seems to be everywhere, except for you. After a certain age it can consume you. I know I really struggle de…	/r/seduction	14/10/18 06:35 PM
3	25 year old kissless virgin trying to not appear so... advice please I lost my virginity last year at 25, to an escort though. I really understand where your coming from, I still have zero success with women. Anyway I really relate to your post and I think we are probably quite similar. I can't answer all your questions because I'm not that experienced. For your second question, I was 21 when I first kissed a girl. I used to worry a lot about the things you do but it actually came surprisingly natural to me. I will say that you should try not to be too eager with…	/r/seduction	13/06/18 05:31 PM