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If you two are kinda seeing each other and she maintains her orbiters, it’s usually bad news. If she’s into you and “normal”, she’ll drop them all without you saying a word. If she has just one overly close guy friend that seems platonic, that’s your call; could go either way.
/r/seduction29/12/19 06:45 AM
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Hmm sounds like either that girl is seeing other guys too, and/or you’re not quite pushing the right buttons. When she says “forget it” usually means you didn’t say or do the thing they wanted from you. Obviously she’s frustrated from that. Sounds like you have a couple of girls in your circle, but you’re just trying to “win” with this girl, cuz she has you spinnin in circles. Don’t keep your eye off the ball, if your goal is reallly to get into the relationship.
/r/seduction01/01/18 08:56 PM
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Good response, she does sound pretty irritating though. Hopefully she doesn’t continue this if you get ino a relationship with her. Either way, you’ll get some experience out of it.
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:36 PM
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Cool man hope it went well
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:03 PM
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Man wtf are you talking about? Red pillin?
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:02 PM
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Haha np, good luck man. Do whatever works best for you. I personally hate talkin on the phone, texts work well for me. But depending on the girl and our connection, I’ll either build some rapport through texting first, or like you, only for logistics
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:18 AM
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That’s a good idea, but I would tell her that she can do whatever with her account, but you’re deleting yours. I wouldn’t straight out tell her you have oppuritnies to fuck other women. Just by being attractive and confident, and how you interact with out people, she’ll know other women want to fuck you. You don’t want to come across as, well I’m doing these things for you, so you should fuck me. I think you just have to comminicate to her that you like her. Some thing short, confident, not need…
/r/seduction30/12/17 01:09 AM
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Be a bit vulnerable, give her a little bit so she knows she’s not wasting her time. Do it in a confident, in control way. Every girl is different so figure out her buttons and know when to push em, and what to avoid You should be good with that coffee girl the next time lol
/r/seduction30/12/17 12:23 AM
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"Having flawless fundamentals gets women interested in you." I think that’s EXTREMELY helpful advice. Fundamentals is completely within a person’s control, that they can work on and practice. And it’s not even that hard. To be honest all I did was dress a lot better and work on my frame and mindset towards women before I starting seeing significant results. Inexperience people tend to think it’s about being more handsome, or tall, or rich, or an extremely smooth talker (which all help, but is th…
/r/seduction30/12/17 12:16 AM
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Have you actually read through and applied the principles on the site? To be fair, it feels like the site has gotten away from it's roots. When I originally found it, it was mostly written by the creator Chase. Those are mostly the articles I liked; I don't like any of the newer articles written by others. I agree, I don't like the boastfulness that they sometimes put in their articles. Makes me feel icky inside, like its a hard sell. But they don't go as far as you're saying, nor does it mean t…
/r/seduction29/12/17 11:11 PM
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Hahaha! Good stuff. That’s what abundance mentality gets you, that don’t give a shit attitude that they just love. You won’t be passing those shit tests if she’s the only girl you’re talking to. Does sound pretty annoying though, maybe it’s an online thing. FYI here’s an article that might explain why you’re diggin her after all these shit tests: http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-give-her-butterflies-her-stomace . Now time to flip the script
/r/seduction29/12/17 08:19 PM
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This is kinda like saying you only shop at Target, even though there tons and tons of other stores to shop from. I have met some crazies from my circle of friends, and I've also met some great women randomly IRL. Most recently I met this girl from Korea when in a train station while visiting Japan. One of the most compatible women I've ever met. This may be a subconsious thing you're doing to yourself, justification to keep yourself from having to doing the 'hard thing' of approaching strangers.…
/r/seduction29/12/17 05:20 PM
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In your case, it sounds like you're beyond seduction and moving into relationship territory. Generally you kinda have to keep them in this balance of security. Too secure, and she'll find you boring and safe. Not secure enough and she'll always be anxious. This doesn't necessarily mean playing hot and cold or other power games. You're both are making each other too anxious. This is where you get into things like trust, vulnerability, etc... Do a quick read on love language. Sounds like the type …
/r/seduction29/12/17 05:08 PM
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Haha yea man, do what feels right to you. Sounds like you're doing great. Personally sex in and of itself isn't my motivator. I'm really looking for a life partner, so i only have sex with girls i really like. But i move fast with all girls to spike that attraction level. Half the girls I bring home, i don't even make a move lol. Often times, I just dont feel it anymore so I dont bother. Dont want to get them all emotionally invested just to tell them im not intereseted.
/r/seduction29/12/17 04:39 PM
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Exactly. And if you were able to get 5 dates in 3 days, you're already pretty far along with abundance mentality. 5 in 3 is insane though lol
/r/seduction29/12/17 04:16 PM
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If you're asking... you don't have abundance mentality. If you had abundance mentality, you wouldn't be here asking if its okay to have sex with this girl. If you had abundance mentality, you'd be straight with her (you find her attractive and want to get physical, but not want a relationship) and would be ok with her answer either way... because you know that you'll be able to get another girl. Personally I wouldn't tell the girl I'm with other women unless she explicitly asks. If she asks, i'd…
/r/seduction29/12/17 03:56 PM
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For the hot and cold girl, def go on a date with her, but it's also a good time to experiment. Try out different tactics that you normally wouldn't with girls. You'd be surprised what works and what you can get away with. Since you're not that into her, and she's playing hot an cold, its fair game.
/r/seduction29/12/17 03:48 PM
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Keep your goals simple and pressure free starting off. Next time, just keep your goal at, "have conversation, then walk away." Takes off all the pressure, you're not really even hitting on her. If that's too hard, set your goal to "give compliment, then walk away."
/r/seduction10/06/17 12:15 AM
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move her and get compliance early. Could be as simple as. Sit at some seats, get drinks, have her move a bit closer. If she's complying she's probably interested, just the quiet at first type.
/r/seduction10/06/17 12:07 AM
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Take responsibility for your life, don't be lazy. Men approach women, those are the rules of the game. Women do approach at times, but they're typically the same 'types' of girls and you usually already have to be good with women. No easy button here, sry
/r/seduction08/06/17 07:46 AM
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Drugs is usually just a crutch for stuff like this. People are afraid of putting in hard work. Work on your social anxiety through exposure therapy, i.e. just keep practicing irl. Yes it's gut wrenching at first but guaranteed that it will only get easier. Start with a social anxiety group or something if you're afraid to jump in with both feet. I went the drugs route before and it only delays real progress
/r/seduction08/06/17 07:42 AM
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There's ton's of resources for this stuff. Check out www.girlschase.com, completely changed my dating life. The important thing is to get off Reddit and go out and talk to girls and get experience. Try different things, gauge people's reactions, iterate. See what works best for you. Being more attractive will help with the initial approach, but after that its mostly game (unless you're REALLY attractive to the girl). Start with your clothes, style, fundamental game. It almost sounds like you thi…
/r/seduction23/05/17 10:46 PM
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Hot is relative Being hot doesn't mean you can't be socially awkward. People's upbringing play such a huge role. Hot people are just normal people with their own problems. Don't look at them any differently. I would say just keep asking her out and boning. You'll find out soon enough.
/r/seduction23/05/17 10:33 PM
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Shy girls are completely different, give her time to get more comfortable. I've been dating a girl that acted the same way. Except barely communicated via text/phone and seemed kinda whatever about seeing me. But she always went along with escalation so I kept persisting. She's slowly starting to open up and initiate more after we became intimate, but it's still slower than I'm use to. "She always jumps at the opportunity to be out with me" "We've had sex a couple times" That's pretty much all y…
/r/seduction23/05/17 10:17 PM
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Geezus its so obvious she likes you, she's just shy. Empathize with her shyness, instead of taking it as a slight. Encourage her to open up, tell her you like it when she does certain things. If she really likes you, she'll try harder, the probably pull back again. Being shy is hard.
/r/seduction23/05/17 10:00 PM
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Good man wingin for your buddies lol
/r/seduction23/05/17 09:12 PM
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Numbers would definitely increase. Same analogy, fat girl gets skinny, will attract more men. Your style should be based on your personality and the type of girls you want to pick up. Being bigger and more attractive gives you more to work with. It'll help attract party girls much more than the nerdy girl. For me I just updated my style and game. I'm still pretty skinny but I just worked with it. I get enough attention from the type of girls I want that I'm pretty content. Edit: You should start…
/r/seduction23/05/17 08:44 PM
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No, take responsibility for adjusting and raising your game, instead of blaming it on something. Yes you won't have it as easy as the rich, tall, white guy, but that doesn't mean you can't have great success. My buddy (5'5) is the shortest of our circle of friends, but he pulls the most girls.
/r/seduction23/05/17 08:35 PM
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Lol I'm the exact same way. I don't even bother hitting on girls at night venues anymore, unless they approach me. Plus my type pretty much the opposite of the party type anyways.
/r/seduction23/05/17 08:27 PM
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Adjust to the situation. Escalate as much as is comfortable for her. Don't mistaken light resistance as no, that's important. Aim for sex on the first date, but just try to escalate as much as possible. The quicker your escalation, the more attracted she will be to you. If you're after a relationship, that's really the true goal of getting to sex on the first date.
/r/seduction23/05/17 08:12 PM
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Lol maybe its your style. Clothes, hair, attitude... goes a long way. But hey, you still do great at cafes right?
/r/seduction23/05/17 08:02 PM
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People like to blame their lack of success on one thing or another. Height, looks, money, blah blah. Don't blame, take responsibility.
/r/seduction23/05/17 07:19 PM
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Good job! Don't forget that seduction never ends.
/r/seduction23/05/17 07:15 PM
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Do all of it. What you need is experience
/r/seduction23/05/17 07:13 PM
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Yes cafes and I'm 35 lol. Then again people mistaken me to be in my 20's all the time.
/r/seduction23/05/17 07:12 PM
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Being true to yourself while being good to others.
/r/seduction23/05/17 07:10 PM
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The number of girls that would be interested in you would go up, yes. Being too skinny for a guy is like being fat for a girl. There's a niche but it's gonna be harder for you. Then again, I'm 5'9, 140 lbs, but I have decent style and fundamentals, and I still do ok.
/r/seduction23/05/17 07:09 PM
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Ah I see. If you can't control your eating controlling your cooking is probably a good solution. I can't stop snacking. Put it in front of me and I'll eat it til it's gone. Sooo I don't buy snacks anymore
/r/seduction19/05/17 05:58 AM
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No self pity and looking for sympathy bro. You're not happy with the way things are and you already know what you need to do. Do it. Tip: Start learning to cook individual dishes. Fillets, steaks, etc... that will force your portions. I only cook like this, I don't know how to feed multiple people.
/r/seduction18/05/17 11:01 PM
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By itself no. But added with other stuff, yes. This happened to me last week. She was kinda shy.
/r/seduction18/05/17 05:05 AM
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http://www.girlschase.com/content/how-girls-show-interest That website completely changed my dating life and the way i look at women (and no I don't sleep around). Things that have happened to me you catch eyes with a girl, she looks away (or down) then looks back girl catches you in her peripherals. At some point, she will turn to check you out. If you think she's checking you out, yea she's checking you out. you try to make eyes with a girl, and she doesn't look back at you, when most people w…
/r/seduction18/05/17 01:00 AM
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Make a 'script' or routine for yourself and practice it. What to say to a girl, how to respond to common things, how to touch a girl, etc... They'll be your training wheels to get you comfortable approaching girls that have shown interest. You won't have the excuse of not knowing what to say, just follow the script. Refine the script as you get more interactions. At some point you just won't need the script anymore.
/r/seduction17/05/17 08:41 PM
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Sounds like a defense mechanism, a pretty common one. You can't get friends or girls, so you justify it to yourself by saying you're not needy. You cared enough about it to make a post on reddit. Take responsibility for your life and work on it. Don't be a pussy.
/r/seduction17/05/17 08:37 PM
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At a minimum, ask for her number. You can always change your mind later.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:36 PM
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Only if you are a seductive person (which you naturally will be if you are learning and practicing game). Unless there's something about you that allows you to go beyond game (you're famous, incredibly good looking, natural personality, etc...), learn the rules and play along.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:35 PM
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You owe her nothing, you two haven't even f'd yet.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:32 PM
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You not making a move is just a reflection of your own insecurities, then you justify it (to yourself) by saying you're just being a 'nice guy'. Good for you for realizing it. Kino on the first date and start getting comfortable touching women. You'd be surprised how receptive they are to it, as long as you're being creepy about it.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:24 PM
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i would move faster, but that'd be a good 'deadline' to force yourself to make a move.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:21 PM
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Its almost impossible for me to get women that I find attractive to respond to me online. It ends up making me feel like a troll and deflates my confidence more than anything. No such problem in real life. Don't let your insecurities stop you from getting good at real life interactions.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:18 PM
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I don't cold approach, but got better at noticing women noticing me. The interactions are almost always positive. I'm not in a rush so i don't mind the lower numbers, but you'd be surprised how many women check you out in a week. Definitely don't stop cold approaching, it helps a lot with being comfortable with women. But also develop the skill I just mentioned.
/r/seduction17/05/17 07:12 PM
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This is the correct answer.
/r/seduction17/05/17 06:58 PM
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Not necessarily but don't do it if you're not very smooth. Just kiss her instead. She may give you some resistance. If the resistance is light, be persistent. Don't ever back down when she wants you to move forward (but throwing a little resistance at you). In the moment you described, you should have kissed her anyways after she said no (unless she was disgusted with you or something lol). You would have owned the moment, and her.
/r/seduction16/05/17 05:28 AM
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If you're dating a girl that likes to take care of people, you're pretty much set. Food and bjs all day. Just make sure to show your appreciation.
/r/seduction16/05/17 05:19 AM
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Move to a different country. Seriously, even if it's only for a few months. You'll naturally take care of the things you need to yourself, because, well, there's literally no one else to do it for you. Then you'll realize what you're capable of, real confidence booster, it'll change your own perception of yourself. If you're getting a job, be careful of becoming dependent on someone that takes you under their wing.
/r/seduction16/05/17 05:16 AM
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Lol sounds like you got a handle on things
/r/seduction05/05/17 09:55 PM
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Didn't you say you're tired of hookin up and lookin for a gf? Lol doesn't sound like you're quite ready yet for a proper relationship. But I agree, day game is harder.
/r/seduction05/05/17 06:46 PM
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Maybe you should do more day game, meet different types of girls (not from a party or big social setting). More variety and interesting. Girls that are kicking ass in life usually don't have time to party and drink.
/r/seduction05/05/17 05:52 PM
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lol just ask her out already
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:58 PM
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You won't be happy either way with your current mindset. If you stay with her, you'll wonder what's out there. If you drop her, you'll wonder what could have been. Make a decision and stick to it. And dont the the douchy thing of seeing her and other people behind her back (unless she's ok with it, heh)
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:53 PM
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The social media stuff is all fake. Seriously. No other way to get around it but experience. When you get to a point where you actually start getting with these people you thought were too good for you, you'll realize they're just people. Even hot people can have terrible self-esteem and look horrible at times.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:48 PM
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Im INTP, use to have the same problem. Didn't like touching people or being touched. Just keep doing it, you'll get use to it and eventually actually enjoy doing it. Enjoy the the positive responses and progression you get with kino.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:43 PM
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Lots of reasons, too many to consider. Dont focus on that. If she goes out with you, be the type of man she'd want to spend more time with and move fast. If she flakes, move on and move faster next time.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:38 PM
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Gf. I'm fairly introverted so I find constantly going out and hooking up exhausting. But you're young. Keep banging and keep those skills sharpened until you find a girl that gives you butterflies.
/r/seduction05/05/17 03:36 PM
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Move her around. Around the bar (not just sitting at the same table all night), doing different things, from the table to the bar, whatever. If things get stale, go to a different locale. Different bar, food venue for snack, park, your place ;) I find dates are funner for both people when you're moving around a lot and doing different things. Makes it feel like an adventure for her. Just think of what she will say if someone asked what she did last night. "Oh we went to a karaoke bar". Rather, "…
/r/seduction21/04/17 12:42 AM
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Well kinda. Focusing on your breath is just a technique to use when you want to center yourself and be present. But the point is to not focus on your thoughts. Use as needed. Maybe its something to do before you approach someone. When you are actually talking to them, just focus on them.
/r/seduction20/04/17 10:09 PM
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Hmmm asking a girl to hang out with a bunch of guys she doesn't know very well is probably a scary proposition for her. especislly if she's not super extroverted or not the leader of her pack of friends. Why not just ask them to hang out one on one?
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:30 PM
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You could have some type of allergy to alcohol. Heard it can come out of no where one day, even if you've been drinking all your life prior. If it's consistent, see a doctor
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:22 PM
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Is this from cold approaches?
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:18 PM
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If unsure, assume attraction. Don't think about all that, just focus on getting her to hang out one on one. If she's not biting, just next her. If she's interested and playing hard to get or something, she'll probably reach out to you.
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:16 PM
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Lol you only focus on your breath when your mind is scattered and you need to get back in the present. If you're actively doing something, like having a conversation, you focus completely on the current situation/person.
/r/seduction20/04/17 09:12 PM
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I don't think it matters if you're an introvert. In fact, its probably detrimental to think that way since you think you should be behaving a certain way or, 'its just the way you are'. That's limiting. Almost everything in game can be learned. You just have to go out there and try different things. Reflect, adjust, and try again. And i say this as an ex shy introvert. I'm still a bit shy, still quite introverted, but learned to flirt pretty well.
/r/seduction19/04/17 09:52 PM
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Same. Talk to her, bring up topics that she might be interested in. She engages. Invite her to come over and do said activity. If you feel that's too big of a step right now, build some rapport with her first. Flirt with her, make her see you as a sexual being.
/r/seduction18/04/17 06:42 PM
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Since she's friend, just ask her to hang out at your place. Listen to music, play games, whatever you guys are into. Then make a move.
/r/seduction18/04/17 06:31 PM
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haha true that
/r/seduction18/04/17 06:18 PM
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Definitely can work, I've used it recently. More of an exception than a rule for me (especially if you don't really know the girl). i keep texts simple unless the girl initiates the text games and are consistently receptive. But if you do try to text game her and she's not receptive or inconsistent, it can really mess with your head.
/r/seduction18/04/17 06:09 PM
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If you're great in bed and have that aura that you always have women in your life, some will understand and keep chasing. You have to understand some girls really are looking to settle down, especially at your age. They don't want to waste time, so if you don't see them as such, just be straight with them and don't waste their time. As a woman, they are headed towards scary territory (30 and single, esp if they want kids). Just enjoy the time you had together, its not a loss. I'm usually pretty …
/r/seduction18/04/17 05:20 PM
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You should always try to get the number on any IOIs (if you're not sure, consider it a yes). You won't ever regret being shotdown, but you'll always regret a missed opportunity. During eye contact, you could have smiled and gauged her reaction.
/r/seduction18/04/17 05:01 PM
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I got into this at 33 and by 35 I've dated more in a year than i have my whole life combined. With hotter and younger women to boot. So don't worry about your age. First work on your fundamentals. Your clothes, hairstyle, general grooming, look, walk, frame, swag, exercise, etc... You should be able to fix this in less than a month. Can't reiterate how important this is. Automatic increase in confidence and first impressions. It'll make your approach much easier. I think the details depends on w…
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:32 PM
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lol text pickup. Don't do it, use only for logistics. Too many opportunities for things to go wrong, especially if you don't really know her. I found that for the most part, you can say pretty much anything if the girl is into you, or if the girl herself is generally receptive and recipricol to lots of texting. In other words, its not the game itself but the girl.
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:22 PM
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I like to bring girls to any area with lots of different venues nearby. Doesn't really matter what you do (quick bite, drink, ice cream, park, etc...), but since you're moving around, lots of opportunity to kino and move things forward. If things feel like its getting stale, just move to the next place. Plus it feels like an adventure for her if you're somewhat fun to be around.
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:18 PM
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It depends on the people you want to attract. What's cool and interesting is different for everyone. Most importantly, make sure you are genuinely passionate about the hobby. Don't do it just to try to be cool. Its fake. A better idea is to be a 'yes man' for a period of time and just do and try everything that crosses your path. Someone asks you to join them to do something (even if its weird) you've never done? Join em. Walked past yoga studio you've always wanted to try? Do it. Just expose yo…
/r/seduction18/04/17 03:06 PM
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First make sure you look good. Hair, clothes, generally grooming, posture, walk, etc.... Make sure you KNOW that you look good. More importantly, this will make you feel good and confident, give you a bit of swag. People can sense this. Then work on your 'I want you' look. Smile, eyes, etc... You aim should be to look casually seductive. Don't think trying to be sexy is creepy (but in this instance, just a bit). Its not creepy as long as you have the right look, so make sure you practice (mirror…
/r/seduction18/04/17 02:58 PM
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If you can get her back to your place, yea DEFINITELY do that. Otherwise, I'd recommend moving her around a lot on the first date. If you have a nice downtown, walk to coffee shop, ice cream shop, bar, etc... hopefully back to your place by the end of it. Gives you lots of opportunity to lead and kino, makes it feel like an adventure for her.
/r/seduction11/04/17 07:07 PM
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Here's a story that may be pertinent to you. I was 33 when I got out of a LTR. Got super depressed felt like shit, like I had absolutely nothing to offer. I was never good with women. Spent about a year just focused on improving myself and my work (while extremely depressed). At 34 I went to Japan to get out of my funk. Met a few beautiful ladies. Ended up dating at 21 year old. Had SO much fun with her, by far the best lay in my life. She came to America to visit but we ultimately broke up. The…
/r/seduction11/04/17 06:36 PM
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Lol there's no magic voodoo you can do at this point. A first impression cant be taken back. Best course of action is to just be done with her. Delete her messages and number. If she texts back at some point, great. If not, chalk it up to a lesson learned.
/r/seduction05/04/17 09:59 PM
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Yes. Go no contact and work on yourself. This is the only option at this time. Spare yourself the wasted time and heartache. The best way to get over someone is to find someone better. The ironic thing is she'll want you back when you've truly moved on.
/r/seduction05/04/17 09:52 PM
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Actually I'm reminded of something. Anywhere in real life. Meaning while you're out and about doing normal life things. Buying groceries, eating, waiting in line, running to the bank, mall, going for a walk, literally everywhere. Be aware of the potential women around, be aware of the signals they're throwing at you, and be ready to pounce. Its harder to overcome since its such a cold approach, but once you learn it, your dating potential will have increased exponentially.
/r/seduction05/04/17 06:00 PM
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lol yea, or just find something to talk to. The coffee she's drinking, what's she's working on (better if you're sitting next to her). The last time I asked the girl about her surface pro computer. Geeky, but if she bought a surface, she probably is a bit geeky.
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:54 PM
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Learn how to react to rejection confidently. If you seem unfazed, can laugh it off, like she didn't really reject you and you'll get her eventually, you'll come up with points ahead to her and everyone around. Not easy to pull off though.
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:44 PM
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Yes most likely just conversation. Since they're women, relationship stuff tend to be top of mind.
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:38 PM
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Haha definitely try Coffee Meets Bagel. I like their format too, you only get a handful of matches to work with a day. Makes the women more invested in their matches. Although I'm screwed being so near San Francisco. The online scene is rough for men. I think my standards have roughly stayed the same, but I'm having much more success with those women as I get older. With younger women too. Go figure. Sounds like you have your dating game down. There's really only one thing left to do; get out of…
/r/seduction05/04/17 05:03 PM
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Really? I heard there's a big vietnamese community out there. If meeting a woman/finding a wife or whatever is a high priority for you, why not make the change? You just have to be proactive enough to find a job in your desired location. Dont wait for opportunities, make them happen. The way I see it, if you're willing to relocate for a woman you've met, why not relocate to substantially increase your dating pool. But it depends on your priority. I've learned to love women more and more as i've …
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:59 PM
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Its probably from people who has never left the country or didn't have any success out there. But you know, you make your choices. If you're going to stay your ass in America, you gotta make due with what you have. Then I can see how it can be detrimental.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:20 PM
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Haha sometimes i'll do off the wall shit, like a big lick up their cheek. More to be surprising and playful, and they'll dig it. There really are no rules, it all depends on the girl and situation
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:11 PM
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lately its been friends of friends, and just during normal living. Coffee shops, grocery stores, etc.... I actually find it easier than clubs and bars. In fact, i don't even try to meet women in bars and clubs anymore, i just go to dance and drink with friends. I've also learned to read women much better, so I'll usually only talk to someone when they've given off a signal or two. It happens more often then you would think, but your fundamentals will have be to tight.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:01 PM
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not sometimes, always lol
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:51 PM
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I'm using generalities and averages. You ask 10 different, and they'll give you at least 7 different answers (yes i just made that up). So when you go kiss that girl, which moves do you use? Don Juan probably has a few moves that he uses depending on the situation, but he's had consistent success with women. The key (and this is the hard part) is to read between the lines and use the appropriate tools for the situation. We obviously have different philosophies to this, which is cool. Maybe I'm c…
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:48 PM
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Geez lol its not meant to be sexist, but there's an element of truth to it. We're on the seduction subreddit, it's about seduction. Understanding what women want without them knowing what they want, or before they know they want it, seduction. Let me put it this way. We have a don juan that has kissed hundreds of women. He knows he can make them swoon and their knees weak. It happened to him more often then not. Now you ask a women on what she thinks she wants. She's thinking through this logica…
/r/seduction05/04/17 04:15 AM
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Ah yes the hands. I use them to initiate, pull them closer to you, pull their head/face towards you, whether that's two hands around the back of the head/face or one hand behind the neck. Careful not to do this when she's not that into you yet. It can come off as forceful or awkward. After that, yea hands go everywhere lol. Keep on mixing it up, use em as progression to reach for the bases.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:54 AM
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Sure it is. I wouldn't say I'm a great kisser, but I think he's smart to be asking men that are great with women, on how to kiss. I think its better than asking women, but i'm sure they'll offer great advice too. Why you angry lol
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:40 AM
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lol what if you introduced something new to them that they never knew they liked? What if the way YOU did something they thought they didn't like turn them on? What if they only liked something in certain situations? Point being, i'm not saying they're purposely being misleading, conniving, stupid, or whatever but the situation and their emotional state makes all the difference in the world. Being able to read and respond to those untold emotions, and women will melt like butter.
/r/seduction05/04/17 03:06 AM
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What women say they want, think they want, and actually want are all different things lol
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:42 AM
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Oh, and coffee shops
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:00 AM
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Friends / friends of friends. Don't be desperate about it but don't be afraid to ask.
/r/seduction05/04/17 02:00 AM
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Work on your core self (self-esteem, confidence). Dress and groom well, work out, smile and say hi. Going from 'pretty socially awkward' to 'capture the room' and 'friends straight away' are huge huge steps. They require a fundamental change in yourself and lots of practice.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:53 AM
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Seconded. The more attracted a girl is to you, the 'creepier' you can be and it'll still be cute. Its the same for a guy. If a hot girl (that isn't coming off as crazy) tries to track you down through social media and work, I'm sure you'd be stoked.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:47 AM
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If you don't feel satisfied smashing, try a relationship. If you're not satisfied in the relationship, end it and go back to smashing. No one can answer this question but you, and you can't answer this question until you try it.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:40 AM
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ummm doesn't matter if she's flirting or not, just ask her out if you're interested. Worse case she says no and you save yourself months of heartache from being friend zoned.
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:35 AM
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Lol yes, i'm 35 and online dating sucks, i tried it for the first time sometime last year. The quality at where I can even get a girl to respond to me is pretty rough. I didn't want to waste time and money anymore so I've become very picky online, which means i haven't gone on an online date in a very long time. I did meet a girl (she was 26 at the time) and we had a nice several month fling, but she was the dumpee of a 3 year relationship and ended up going back to her ex. I figured it would ha…
/r/seduction05/04/17 01:31 AM
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Let me add its not actually that hard to see results from working on your fundamentals. Change your wardrobe and style. Stylish haircut, clean well fitting clothes. This can be done in a week. This may change if you're dramatically changing your physical size. Automatic confidence booster, you'll immediately notice people treating you differently. Working out. It may take some time to physically see results (depending how hard you work), but only takes a few weeks for it to make a tremendous imp…
/r/seduction05/04/17 12:33 AM
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lol I agree with redpill. That's why i recommend sites like chasegirls.com. The 'good' content is roughly the same, without all the hate and weird mindsets
/r/seduction05/04/17 12:24 AM
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Bro your approach is way to... academic. I know you're going to say that's the way you approach problems, but I'm telling you you're just delaying the inevitable. You're making excuses to do the lazy/easy thing (reading) instead of the much more difficult task of actually working on yourself and going out and facing your anxiety. If you're worried about all these social behaviors, here's a shortcut: Think of some movies and TV shows where there are men that you want to be like (or are getting th…
/r/seduction05/04/17 12:01 AM
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I hate it when girls jam their tongues down my throat, and this happens waaay more often than you would expect. I slow them down and use a lot more lips, small and light. At this point i'm taking control and setting the pace, makes it more seductive. Then I slip in the tongue here and there, mimicking penetration. Don't be afraid to move around her face and body. Light bites on the lips, ears, neck, etc...
/r/seduction04/04/17 10:33 PM
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You're focused too much on the tactics, rather than your fundamentals. By improving your core confidence, self-esteem, fundamentals, style, etc... the pickup game becomes more natural. I recommend www.girlschase.com, and focus on the fundamental articles first. Its more about being a better person/man, which will naturally make you more desirable, rather than running routines and trying to essentially trick women. Its changed my dating life within a year. Just a lot of reading, hard work, and pr…
/r/seduction04/04/17 10:21 PM
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No pity party. Get your mind out of that negative space by changing your focus on making yourself better. If you need a place to start, i recommend girlschase.com. Start with your fundamentals.
/r/seduction04/04/17 10:03 PM
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