jsmooth3363 Archive

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2	People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages. The problem I have with the unhappiness part is are you sure that explicitly comes from the relationship the majority of the time? So if a woman is generally unhappy or has a sense of unhappiness because of external reasons outside the relationship such as a workplace issue , then I think more comprehensive answers can be found for the disparity.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/25 02:39 AM
2	People obsess over women initiating divorce because they believe women should stay miserable in marriages. I think if the numbers were reversed, the narrative would be men shouldn't make a commitment they can't honor, especially given since the man proposes to the woman. What other reasons would you give for the disparity?	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/04/25 02:11 AM
1	in the US the women are wonderful effect is on steroids and this is part of the problem Lizzo has been highly celebrated.	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/12/24 05:55 PM
0	Women are inherently predispositioned to utilizing men in a uni-directional transactional nature in female to male friendships - and this is the reason why most male to female friendships do not have implied loyalty - a hallmark of male to male friendships. Any kind of reciprocity or courtesy when he needs it. Basically the golden rule we were all taught as children.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/11/24 12:55 AM
2	Guys could put more effort into their dating profiles, pictures, and conversations to get better results. They are their own worse enemies. "One thing I've learned in 5 years of marriage is we are always working on me". "Apparently my wife is this completed work under museum glass that is to be studied and admired" Bill Burr	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/10/24 09:44 PM
–	Only way for a man to win in a war is to dodge the draft.. It's about community - then by default your family - your wife - your home. It's very common for a soldier's sole motivation to be to get back home to a wife waiting for them. Soldiers keep mementos and photos of their wife or girlfriend as motivation to survive. So yes, it's ultimately about sex and survival two of the most basic human needs as your country is threatened.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/08/24 11:55 AM
–	If Society “Doesn’t Hold Women Responsible”, What SHOULD Society Be Doing to Them? I don't see much criticism, it may covert. Can you give an example of criticism you have seen? 1 more...emotional abuse. A man talks sternly to a woman....he is abusive... A woman talks to man sternly....that's rarely considered abusive	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/24 11:38 PM
–	If Society “Doesn’t Hold Women Responsible”, What SHOULD Society Be Doing to Them? Leaving a responsible husband and breaking up a family because her feelings changed	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/24 11:16 PM
1	If Society “Doesn’t Hold Women Responsible”, What SHOULD Society Be Doing to Them? I'll give a specific example... 1) At applebees a woman sitting with her boyfriend becomes overtly hostile and verbally aggressive to another man over a perceived slight or misunderstanding. The woman expects the boyfriend to defend her honor against the random male through combat. The problem: She has no regard for the safety of her boyfriend who can be physically finished after the altercation or the safety of the unknown male. She likely goes home unscathed. Police will only see 2 men fightin…	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/05/24 06:46 PM
-1	Men are not blindsided by breakups/divorce as much as they think "forget to take the bins out" -1st paragraph. Women initiate more breakups and I think some women can't explain their general dissatisfaction with a partner. So instead of saying she fell out love, (putting the onus on herself), it gets masked as unequal division of chores.	/r/PurplePillDebate	11/03/24 10:37 PM
1	If a man is failing to attract the women he wants, and he is a good person, what options does he have aside from lowering his standards or giving up? He can travel to a different country and try again. Too bad it has a negative connotation to some people.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/02/24 07:52 PM
3	I genuinely think people underestimate female toxicity The study was retracted.. Husbands leaving their sick wives more often is a false narrative that needs to end. https://www.deseret.com/2015/8/4/20569426/study-that-found-husbands-prone-to-leave-sick-wives-was-flawed-researchers-say	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/01/24 07:41 PM
1	How do you explain the phenomenon of ‘high quality’ falling for absolute dregs? It would be interesting to know if they have relationships with their father.	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/01/24 06:52 PM
2	Two leaders in a relationship. Thoughts? She appears to be difficult to manage. I doubt she would submit to a man and she isn't open to constructive criticism i.e. being more agreeable. Ironically, she wouldn't respect a man if she leads the relationship. 2 leaders is code for she leads and destroys the relationship with no accountability.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/12/23 03:54 PM
–	The fact that so many women have a problem with a man who goes 50/50 is proof that most women just want to use men and don't actually care about them. I would like to see your calculations. Anyway, women have always generally completed more domestic work than men. I'm curious if most women would be content with the way a man cleans the house...I have doubts.... It would be like a man complaining that he doesn't like the way his wife cleans the gutters or the way she cleaned the cars. My point is it certainly seems more important to women to complete domestic work and to her standard as well. That's the piece not spoken about.	/r/PurplePillDebate	26/11/23 03:10 PM
1	The thing women don't understand is that there are millions of eligible women out there and a lot of guys can't get ONE (1) girlfriend. I don't think this is true. You should travel and experience women from outside your culture. It could include learning a new language and spending time learning different cultural values.	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/11/23 01:12 AM
1	Q4A, on preselection by men: Where exactly can a 25+yo man find a 25+yo woman who is both of a good character AND single? I think you are correct. It's tough to balance what you want professionally compared to your personal life in your early and mid twenties.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/11/23 08:49 PM
1	Q4A, on preselection by men: Where exactly can a 25+yo man find a 25+yo woman who is both of a good character AND single? Sure, so up to the point of graduation the relationships are seemingly good. At the point of graduation, it appears the relationship is evaluated for long term viability. So do you think there are some factors outside of distance that you may not be considering or are fully aware of that causes the relationship to end? Tough question I know..	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 01:40 PM
1	Q4A, on preselection by men: Where exactly can a 25+yo man find a 25+yo woman who is both of a good character AND single? Genuine question, What do you think happens cognitively (concerning the relationship) when a person graduates and enters the next phase of their life that causes a relationship change other than distance. Because you described all the men as great but the timing was off due to school ending except guy number 3.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/11/23 01:06 PM
1	Women don’t respect the average man? I think generally through simple appreciation of common courtesy. For example, I was raised in the south and was taught to hold open doors for men and women. In return, most people say "thank you". I noticed a lot of women stopped saying thank you. I don't take it as disrespect but I isn't respectful either.	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/10/23 12:37 AM
–	What happened when I asked my neighbor is she wanted to go for coffee? Unfortunately a lot of women's mode of rejection is avoidance. She is 24 and her development skills are still progressing. You did what you could. It's not worth chasing her.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/10/23 01:49 PM
1	Why do you think marriage for couples who were cohabiting before marriage do not last long. Because it's a trial period where either party can have 1 foot in the door and 1 foot out the door. It's also more likely that you will see something you don't want to see in your partner and it's established during a period where you can still leave if you want. I think carrying this type of energy into a marriage isn't helpful. Essentially, you saw too much before the marriage and you want out. It's best to see some things i.e. bad habits after a marriage and then you learn to compromise more.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/09/23 11:03 PM
–	Should men be expected to intervene when random women are in trouble? Your supposed to be BATMAN!	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/09/23 12:26 PM
–	Should men be expected to intervene when random women are in trouble? No, you never know where a physical confrontation will go. Call the police.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/09/23 07:28 PM
2	Where do you think this new push to call men pedos for being attracted to 18-24 year olds is coming from? What do you think "finding oneself" generally means? Generally it used as wanting a relationship change rather than professional change imo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/09/23 01:43 PM
22	Are passport bros really a thing? If a man chooses to go this route it's generally a man who has earned a pension i.e. military or government. Combine this with the fact that United Sates is generally becoming less traditional and less secular, then some men will choose a different path if capable to find a traditional wife. Slightly off topic, but I think the naysayers have an issue with it because to some degree they view women outside of America as lesser than imo. Superiority complex I suppose.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/23 09:28 PM
1	The response to the Jonah Hill situation has demonstrated that women will demonize men at every turn, and take zero accountability for their problematic dating behaviors/role in making dating what it is today I'm curious what are your thoughts on Keke Palmer's story in comparison to Jonah Hill's story? Jonah Hill expressed his boundaries and preferences privately and was seen as misogynistic and abusive. Keke Palmer's partner expressed his preferences publicly and was seen as misogynistic and abusive. What are the boundaries men are allowed to have?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/07/23 12:55 PM
2	Q4M: would you move into a house your SO owned as a tenant? Probably not a great idea. Her owning the house changes the dynamic of the relationship more so than the man owning the house. She can change the locks whenver she pleases. She can use her place as a investment property and we can buy something in the future together. If the man and woman aren't married, but cohabiting, then they are already playing married without the title. These types of matters are more complicated when the couple isn't married.	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/23 09:08 PM
1	As a woman, you can afford to be lazy and uninteresting and you'll still find someone to provide and take care of you. See Amber Heard	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/06/23 01:21 AM
1	Is it reasonable or controlling to be uncomfortable with your partner being connected with previous sexual partners on social media apps after marriage? These are healthy boundaries. Marriage is about closing off your former options. Women can do this by not posting thirst traps and booty pics with intermittent motivational messages in between. Men can do this by not liking photos.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/23 12:39 AM
1	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough I encourage you to list to Suzanne Venker on the issue of uneven housework. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bXE73-f8aYM	/r/PurplePillDebate	20/04/23 02:22 PM
4	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough I think your assumption is incorrrect. The wife is the highest valued woman, she gets commitment, kids, resources,.... everything. He hitched his to wagon to her for a good reason. The "lusted after woman" only gets selective sexual attention if he steps out + maybe a little cash. That's nothing special. There a plenty of women to lust after, but fewer women to build a family with.	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 11:25 PM
2	We don’t talk enough about the “Settle Down” woman enough It seems you are giving too much credit to women who are nice to look at. The purpose is to be the wife, not be the most lusted after. "You’re chosen because he wants to do less work for more reward to obtain and keep you." Also, I would mention that part of a man's love for a woman is his confidence that he can make her happy enough. It takes effort from the man regardless of the woman's status. There are plenty of tales about men who do everything for a woman and ultimately the woman is never …	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 11:08 PM
2	Q4M - Is fit, feminine, friendly, and cooperative REALLY all you're asking for? Of all these traits, I would be most concerned with emotionally immaturity. She may look for external validation too often or not understand how to maintain a adult relationship. Personally, I would want her to be able to keep her word. Does her word mean anything? Can she keep her promises and commitments?	/r/PurplePillDebate	16/04/23 10:17 PM
0	Why not look for a woman with a career? I would prefer she has a career and the ability to earn her own income. I wouldn't want her career to become more important than her family and specifically a husband. I think women can have a difficult time balancing career and family. Also will she be content sharing her resources to provide for the family? It's fair to consider this.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/23 10:33 PM
1	Would you ever give a reformed OF model with a promiscuous past having a high body count a chance if she changed her ways ? I couldnt do it, I would be afraid of everytime she went to the grocery store.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/04/23 08:16 PM
5	Women get over breakups faster because they do less work to initiate relationships I read it somewhere in the forum but men seem to be able to reconcile boredom and love. Women don't seem to be able to reconcile boredom and love. If she feels bored, the relationship is doomed.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/23 03:17 AM
3	Q4M: What do you, personally, do for women in general that they fail to do for you ? I think it's an extension of men holding open doors for women. I noticed less and less women say thank you. Clearly some become entitled to it and don't acknowledge it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/03/23 12:12 PM
0	Q4M: What do you, personally, do for women in general that they fail to do for you ? Interesting, I'll take a look at the book. I'm curious do you think this behavior can be explained away by thinking the man is threatening? What percentage of the behavior is due to fear and what percentage is due to lack of courtesy?	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 04:34 PM
0	Q4M: What do you, personally, do for women in general that they fail to do for you ? Efforts in the dating dynamic seems to be well covered in the thread. One commenter mentioned lack of basic courtesy. I'd like to dig further into that (outside the context of dating). I live in a building that requires a key fob to enter. Whenever I buy groceries, it's quite difficult to open the doors with the fob while holding the groceries. I have noticed many women will casually pass and won't offer to help with the door despite seeing me struggle. More often than not men are more willing t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	18/03/23 02:08 PM
5	Women focus on careers because a career is a good investment, a man generally isn't Sure. Your post indicates that man is replaceable through a career. Also a man's role in the nuclear family is replaceable by either getting a sperm donor or adoption. You have reduced a man's value to his financial utility. A man is more than a provider. Here are 2 points Your children would need a father...father's are good investment in their upbringing. If you get sick, it would be more advantageous to have a husband than rely on paid time off. BTW a husband leaving the sick wife study has b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 02:12 AM
1	Women focus on careers because a career is a good investment, a man generally isn't This is a very long explanation & it demonstrates that you may not know how to love a man or see his value.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/01/23 12:42 AM
1	The Myth of Men’s Time Vs Women’s Time It would be nice if it was simple. I think it's better if she chooses the tasks that she holds to a high standard and she completes those tasks because they are important to her. It's likely the man won't complete the task to her standard. It would be like a man complaining that he doesn't like the way his wife cleans the gutters.	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 03:27 PM
0	The Myth of Men’s Time Vs Women’s Time I'm curious OP. Do you think women today are doing more housework than previous generations of women? I also wonder how content women would be with a man completing household tasks. The way he cleans, how he organizes the house etc... A wife fullfilling this role is linked to the husband's assets, his pension, savings, earnings, future earnings, etc. I would value her time as much as my own. It's not good to compare, because it will never be equal, it was never intended to be equal. The narrativ…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 03:16 PM
13	The Myth of Men’s Time Vs Women’s Time "Any job you can do in your pajamas is not difficult" - Bill Burr	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/12/22 02:59 PM
1	If "men are loyal" and women are opportunistic, how do you explain the concept of "starter girlfriends" and the phenomena of men leaving their SO when they achieve a certain level in life? This study was retracted. https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/to-your-health/wp/2015/07/21/researchers-retract-study-claiming-marriages-fail-more-often-when-wife-falls-ill/	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 05:05 PM
1	What do you think of Jordan Petersons claim that “marriage is for children”? My take away is marriage is the ultimate responsibility to your family and it's important to keep it intact above your own desires. It requires sacrifice and your happiness becomes secondary, but people don't like these words.	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/12/22 03:18 PM
1	Who has more pressure? Do women have more pressure to be beautiful or do men have more pressure to be successful and why? In stock market terms, women start off as high end IPOS and men start off like penny stocks.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/11/22 08:31 PM
1	What do people think will change if no fault divorces go away? Words are important and "no fault" indicates no responsibility for your actions or consequences. Marriage is the complete opposite of that kind of thinking. It's full of responsibility, important choices, and consequences. Therefore, I believe if "fault" divorces were the norm, then more stigma would be attatched to men or women who choose to leave a suitable marriage. If fault divorces were the default, I think more stigma / societal pressure would cause more women to re-evaluate their choice t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	27/10/22 08:05 PM
1	Are you concerned with the rate of failed marriages? What do you think could help decrease divorce rates? Unpopular opinion. I think proper vetting by the parents of the daughter or son's spouse should come more into play. In this past, a man had to approach a woman's father for approval. A father can see what a daughter doesn't see in her potential mate. I also think it takes a village to reinforce the importance of marriage, honoring your commitments, and sticking things through. In the movie Goodfellas. Henry Hill had went to prison and upon his release Paulie told him he had to go back to his wi…	/r/PurplePillDebate	08/08/22 06:26 PM
5	“Pick better men” is a cop out to not hold men accountable Ultimately the onus is on the woman to filter and select. The vast majority of men are everyday men and aren't prone to violence. Women know and are acutely aware of who the good men are. If you ask an older woman about her dating experience, she will most likely speak of at least one man who was an ideal candidate but she wasn't able to recognize it or ready to commit to him at the time.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/08/22 05:04 PM
1	Q4Men: Do you genuinely think OF is easy/worth it? I believe it to be easy for the women involved. Most OF "content creators" or whichever phrase takes away from the stigma are fully aware of what they are selling and understand the market. If she can sell a dream to one man who doesn't know any better, she can have access to his present and future earnings for years. I would compare it to how difficult it is for women to get Instagram Followers or matches on bumble or eharmony...not very difficult.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/07/22 11:54 PM
3	Discussion : Women moving on faster than men. I think there is most likely some evolutionary aspect to this. Maybe because in the past men would die in war or hunting/gathering. Therefore, women adapted surivial mechanisms to move on quickly for their survival (i.e. find a new mate fast). I also think it's due to many women constantly chasing the "spark" in a relationship. It's a common theme to hear "we lost the spark" or some variation when a woman chooses to leave her partner. She finds the spark in the new guy and the cylce repeats. So …	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/07/22 12:02 AM
1	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks What's your solution to sustain relationships and decrease the amount of divorces? I'm looking for answers other than the notion of even housework. I'm sure there are more significant reasons.	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/07/22 03:38 PM
1	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks Not always true, but generally true. The financial burden is not the women's responsibility even when current relationships are insisted on being 50/50. What's more concering is your support of believing uneven domestic work is a viable reason for divorce. It's a flimsy reason. Would you support a stay at home dad who completed all of the domestic duties and worked part time if he wanted to divorce a high earning wife because he felt he was doing too much domestic work?	/r/PurplePillDebate	07/07/22 07:06 PM
3	If familiarity kills attraction, do ALL LTR's EVENTUALLY become void of attraction? Familiarity may induce less attraction. It's normal and part of the ebbs and flows of a relationship. At this point, the partners must search for a deeper and more mature meaning in the relationship. This happens most likely through raising kids and instilling values. It will probably improve whatever feels different or is lacking in the LTR. Furthermore, it proves why relationships should be based on principles other than attraction.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/07/22 08:47 PM
1	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks OP that's wishful thinking... the money is used at her discretion.	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/07/22 12:54 AM
0	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks We are going to go down a deep well. Do you truly believe that 100% of child support payments only go the needs of the child? I standy by my happiness comment. Absolutely nobody cares about a man's happiness. A woman's happiness is important and paramount. We fundamentally disagree. The numbers tell a story..70%. Someone has an advantage? If the stats were reversed? 70% of men file divorce? Who would you presume the men have an underlying advantage to file?	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/22 11:58 PM
0	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks The article linked is comparing divorced women's wealth to married women's wealth. Divorced women will have less wealth than her married counterpart, but she still benefits. She's likely not walking away with $0. A divorced woman is starting over, but still has access to some of her husband's assets. She couldn't always get his pension, but many men are expected to continue paying the woman upon divorce. Child support, alimony, the house, and even social security (I had no idea)... https://www.c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/22 11:43 PM
0	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks Fair point about the full time job. But when a woman has kids, the financial burden shifts to the male. Many women work part time after having kids and rightfully so. Lastly, marriage has never been a 50/50 concept. It's a team sport. If we try to quantify the man's traditional role (provider) and the woman's traditional role (nurturer) and all the intangibles, we can never reach a understanding.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/22 11:15 PM
-2	Women ‘initiate’ 70% of divorces because women do most of the households admin tasks There's a lot of nuance to this discussion. Women have always done most of the household tasks/chores. I find it surpising that now this workload seems unfair and a viable reason to divorce. I doubt women today are doing more housework than women of previous generations. I bet it's less when you account for all the time spent on the phone.. I agree that women would file the paperwork, but mostly because of incentive. If one knew they could benefit financially from filing paperwork, they would be…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/07/22 10:13 PM
2	Do you agree/disagree with this discussion that women should not fuck around till their 30's in finding a husband? It's an interesting question. By the time a woman is 30, she will have most likely had a few potential suitable mates. In my opinion, it becomes apparent that women marrying at a younger age is more advantageous when you witness a woman who wants a child in her 30's, doesn't have a husband, is ready for a break in her career (that she chased so desperately for and thought it would fullfill her), and will pick a man whom she is less than excited for as a result. Essentially, her priorities will c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/06/22 05:23 PM
1	Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men? Who's happiness are you referring to? I think you are referring to individual happiness? If we only rely on happiness, which ebbs and flows, then how would a husband & wife, family ever stay together? Marriage wasn't designed to work by putting individual happiness and individual achievement above the needs of the family. This is why the "I'm not happy anymore" narrative is very concerning. The purpose and value system behind marriage was the merging of two halves and sacrificing the needs of se…	/r/PurplePillDebate	03/05/22 02:55 PM
2	She says she has a boyfriend FOR NOW!! I think it's the same context. Leave her be. Let her reengage if she truly becomes single. Nevermind... you reengae in a few months. "Leave the Ball in her hands" rarely works.	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/05/22 01:55 PM
1	Is controlling behavior always a bad thing? Why? If so, what are the alternatives? You explain to your hypothetical girlfriend that there is behaviour acceptable as a single woman and there is different behavior expected from a woman in a relationship. If she can't adjust her behavior or becomes defensive, then you have a choice to make. Unfortunatley, not enough men have boundaries. The few who have boundaries are labled with the shaming terms we have heard time and time again.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/05/22 11:21 PM
2	Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men? The original intent of marriage was family not happiness.	/r/PurplePillDebate	29/04/22 03:49 AM
10	Q4Bluepill: In your opinion why do you think more Women iniate divorce than men? Modern economics cause women to value men less financially and be less dependent. Women have been told they shouldn't "settle" for a partner which insinuates she is better than her husband. Her feelings and emotions generally supersede commitment. Phrases like "my truth" or "he wasn't my person" or "I'm not happy" or "I need to find myself" are very common. Btw you never find yourself lol, we are all in progress. Men are instructed to honor their commitments at all costs. A man who breaks up h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/04/22 04:01 PM
4	Most girls are desperate Your friends chose to be there with these types of men you portray as lesser than. Women can be losers too. But you will call it something else. You confuse desperation with a woman choosing to partner with her equivalent male counterpart. Your friends are now realistic, attracted, and value something in these men you cant' see.	/r/PurplePillDebate	23/04/22 05:46 PM
2	What are some examples of female privilege? Men banter with each other, but it's not a sign of disrespect. You have a reciprocal relationship. I'm simply stating women need to feel more special in a relationship than the man for it to work. Men are generally happy just being in a relationship. Men require less.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/22 11:19 PM
3	What are some examples of female privilege? I would argue that men do treat each other with dignity and respect. Men are difficult to earn the approval of amongst other men. Obviously men don't hold women to the same tenants of approval. Preferential treatment meaning she expects to always feel special through constant acts of service / love by her partner. A man generally carries the relationship and is happy to do so. A woman's role in the relationship is generally more passive. The outcome is preferential treatment imo.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/22 09:44 PM
1	Marriage is bad because you promise that you're not going anywhere no matter what I like your analogy but you leave out 1 important detail. Marriage is utlimately about kids and family. Kids change the dynamic and each partner is required to be less selfish. Studies show children are more succesful in a 2 parent household. This changes the incentive of the relationship. Complacent behavior occurs less if one truly wants to raise kids properly. The kids are a reflection of the parents. Marriage is good for families.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/22 07:00 PM
11	What are some examples of female privilege? Expecting preferential treatment as the baseline form of communication. Never being told she is just wrong. Expecting ultimate protection during a physical confrontation from a stranger. Her feelings and emotions supersede the greater good lol. Her money is her money, his money is her money.. Receives approval and validation for leaving a good partner. Can construe and create fluid definitions for words such as honor and commitment (ties into #4).	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/04/22 05:24 PM
5	What every man wants and what very few get….perhaps It's not right and rarely discussed. You won't see it in the media often. There is a stigma attatched to negative male emotion. A similar stigma that used to be attatched to mental health. I first noticed the theme watching The Sopranos. Tony Soprano was the Boss of the family. All around tough guy. But he was an emotional mess, seeing a therapist regularly and didn't want his crew or subordinates to know.	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 03:19 AM
3	What every man wants and what very few get….perhaps I agree, men and women should learn to deal with their particular problems. But men have to solve their problems faster and with less support. I think the disconnect is that men truly want to fix the problem / console a woman in her time of need. A man will generally assume responsibility and onus in this effort because he will feel needed. He gets to serve as the protector (his role outside of traditional provider). Consoling her is a form of protection. As a result, he won't lose attraction fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 02:27 AM
22	What every man wants and what very few get….perhaps I have learned that negative male emotion makes women extremely uncomfortable. The threshold is extremely low and generally women lose attraction and subconciously lose respect when a man displays his worries. I think the context of Scottie Scheffler winning the tournament matters. He won and isn't on the verge of loosing his professional golfer status. Men are supposed to automatically have the answers to their problems and reaching out for comfort from his partner is unfortunately a sign of we…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/04/22 12:58 AM
2	In the majority of instances of “Ghosting” the person who gets ghosted did nothing wrong the other party just got a better prospect/offer. You give some type of shit if you feel the need to block. The opposite of giving a shit is indifference and you would do nothing.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/22 11:59 PM
2	How do you feel about your potential spouse/LTR pursuing a full time career for herself? I consider it to be admirable and I think it's important for the family. I read that a mother's educational status is a predictor for a child's educational status, but a father's educational status has a lesser assoication. Therefore, it has signifcant relevance in the children's success. I support it. But being mother and raising children is a full time job. I wouldn't want her career to put so much stress on her that she subconciously begins to value career more than family. Also, the debt ass…	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/22 11:26 PM
3	In the majority of instances of “Ghosting” the person who gets ghosted did nothing wrong the other party just got a better prospect/offer. Ironically. One could also say you also lack emotional intelligence and maturity by being unable or unwilling to communicate that you simply aren't interested. Also, you would value commitment from the type of man you presume to want. Give it time. In before "women don't owe you anything or an understanding".	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/04/22 06:34 PM
1	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? Desperate...? I think we were having a civilized discussion. I just understand commitment. Nice shaming tactic.	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/04/22 12:29 AM
1	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? It's clear that we fundamentally disagree. By your words, you would always put your happiness first. Marriage is about much more than your happiness. IMO, single women can put their happiness first but not married women. Do you think your happiness is the best base for a relationship? As soon as your happiness changes or leaves, everything you and your husband previously built is suddenly jeopardized? You shouldn't agree to do something that you don't agree to. You agreed to the marriage vows. M…	/r/PurplePillDebate	02/04/22 03:16 PM
1	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? You make valid points but I think those who commit to someone should truly understand the word. Commitment supercedes your personal happiness. It's a duty. Once your married, you think for the benefits of the family. In your examples. I think the person should examine their lifestyle and not just their partner. I think we conflate the two and it causes one to always think it's their partner... What do you think is the solution for when a person becomes unhappy? Is the answer always to leave? The…	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/22 06:08 PM
0	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? I think it would only be showing your kids not to honor their commitments. Happiness comes and goes. And if you always leave, you never learn anything about maintaining a relationship.	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/04/22 01:22 AM
1	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? True, it's up to the individual. But in the past there was more societal shame in creating a broken family by leaving your partner. Now, it's arguably promoted as a good thing to leave and break up a home if you claim your not happy. If society returned to shame, those who choose to leave would think more critically on their decision because they would have less support.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/22 11:48 PM
2	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? Because society ultimately dictates the narrative and many people become susceptible to it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/22 11:23 PM
2	should society support or shame dumping good partner for a better one? Honor your committments whether it's a LTR or marriage. Society shouldn't promote selfish behaviour.	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/22 11:22 PM
2	What would you teach your children about the opposite sex? 34, male. I would teach my son that life will be difficult and rejection is part of the process. I.E. not getting the job you want or the woman you want at the time. Also, no one is going to save you. Be a gentleman, learn a new language, have a form of spirituality, be disciplined, travel the world, have all the tangibles you need to lead a household / family. Learn to regulate your emotions in healthy outlet and not vices such as gambling or vodka. I would teach my daughter to have a balance b…	/r/PurplePillDebate	31/03/22 09:50 PM
1	People discredit the lifetime consequences of leaving a serious LTR as a woman I'm not sure how you pulled arranged marriage from my comment. I'm not referring to Sugar babies either. I'm speaking to the everyday trajectory of healthy relationships between men and women and specifically the phase after the honeymoon phase, where one feels the spark may have died. The maintenance phase of the relationship. Love changes and becomes more mature as the relationship progresses through milestones such as kids or creating a family business. You say you don't believe in staying fo…	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/22 04:05 PM
1	People discredit the lifetime consequences of leaving a serious LTR as a woman I would be curious to know your thoughts on a woman leaving a suitable partner. A stable man who provides for her but doesn't excite her daily. Let's assume he checks all the boxes but the woman feels emotionally distant for an amibiguous reason and decides to end the relationship. I think OP is referring to these types of scenarios, a scenario where the relationship is functioning and suitable. What consequences would women have who choose to leave?	/r/PurplePillDebate	25/03/22 01:46 PM
1	People discredit the lifetime consequences of leaving a serious LTR as a woman I agree with your statement. Unfortunately, many women are not told to bear out the difficulties in a relationship. The answer she receives is to leave the relationship rather than face difficulties. Essentially, she should leave if the relationship is temporarily not working in her favor. Or if she uses the phrases "I'm not happy," or "I need to find myself," or "I'm not fulfilled." I think these phrases are abstract and generally avoidant of the true conflict. I think these ideas of how quickl…	/r/PurplePillDebate	24/03/22 11:43 PM
7	If western dating is not working for you try somewhere else I'm here to encourage you. Yes, learn a new language and improve your opportunities. A man's job is to figure out what works best for him and then do it.	/r/PurplePillDebate	21/03/22 02:57 PM
2	What solutions would you guys propose? On an individual level, I think men have to go against the grain for success. Although religion is declining, a man should attempt to find a woman who relies upon a value system of a higher order to be rooted in her decision making. If she believes in something greater than herself and her feelings, she could be a candidate for a good mate. For this reason, I suggest men look for a woman in the church. She is more likely to have these values. Also, I tend to think that these women would likely v…	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/03/22 01:17 AM
2	CMV: The only reason women claim that men only want to fuck them and not be in a relationship is because the bottom 80% of men that DO want a relationship are invisible to women Were you surprised by the men attempting to lock you down for a relationship? How did it feel telling them no consecutively?	/r/PurplePillDebate	13/03/22 09:29 PM
1	Men often say “agreeableness” is a top trait they desire in a partner more so than women state that. Why is that? "Agreeableness" is a positve indicator for a woman to have. A man would prefer an agreeable woman who can see through the lense of agreeablebness as a natural instinct. It signals being polite. I would argue men are more disagreeable in the professional world as a means to get ahead and secure more financial gain. Men prefer the opposite in their personal life and want a woman who brings peace and empathy. It's her ultimate form of order and structure in the home. A woman chooses how she keeps h…	/r/PurplePillDebate	09/03/22 12:45 AM
7	If men are the problem in western dating then why aren't women leaving the country to find other men? Because generally women don't pursue men. Most women expect a man in their vicinity to pickup her "choosing signals" to demonstrate her interest. Her role is is passive. Very few women would be such active pursuers and assertive to initiate leaving her home country and actively build a relationship with a man overseas. Also, she would have the bill to boot...	/r/PurplePillDebate	01/03/22 11:21 PM
3	Q4All, what makes some people say women being promiscuous is a catalyst for societal collapse? Yes, I think the number of men choosing permiscuous women for marriage is declining. However many men will choose promiscuous women for short term benefits and non-marital relationships. I think this is what causes the confusion to women. The best way to keep score is marriage and not casual sex. Generally I do think a shift is occurring. The rise of OnlyFans, Instagram models, and open promiscuous behavior without shame could likely lead to many women being unfit for marriage. And yes, men do c…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/22 10:05 PM
7	Q4All, what makes some people say women being promiscuous is a catalyst for societal collapse? It could be the start of something our country hasn't witnessed. I don't think a promiscuous woman is highly conducive to a family structure. It could lead to a lack of men desiring to create nuclear families with promiscuous women. Also, some promiscuous women could choose to be single by choice. Less families = less of a community. Less of a community = negative society consequences. To your point of economic collapse. I don't think a single promiscuous woman would fair well financially long t…	/r/PurplePillDebate	28/02/22 01:23 AM
1	Q4ALL What you think about no fault divorce? The generational change is happening right now. Parlay high divorce rates, lack of a nuclear family, and recent statisitcs show that 50.1% of UK women have not had a child by the age of 30. This demonstrates a societal shift that will have intended and unintended consequences. It will be intersting to see if the data will be analyzed or dismissed because uncomfortable questions will need to be asked as we determine our core societal values. https://www.yahoo.com/entertainment/women-children-30-r…	/r/PurplePillDebate	19/02/22 03:22 PM
5	Q4ALL What you think about no fault divorce? It's a slippery slope and will continue to degrade the family. No family = no community. I'm not a lawyer but "no fault" equates to no responsibility. A marriage is responsibility and divorces are rarely mutual. Someone is at fault. A "cool off period" should be advised so that recalling the tenants of marriage is practiced. Order and structure are required and "no fault" provides a scapegoat for never being honest.	/r/PurplePillDebate	17/02/22 03:39 AM