jswoolf Archive

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2	45M, 7mo separated after 20y together, we have two kids. I feel I've alone the rest of my life. I am a swing dancer. I don't drink either. Partner dancing is where it is at. Usually drinking and partner dancing doesn't really work so you should be good there. Depending on where you live it might be a pretty vibrant dance scene. Most of my community is related to dance. I just did a workout class with 4 of them. My wife is in the same community so this might be awkward going forward. I don't really do it to meet girls (I am married) but of course they are there. I wouldn't make that a main …	/r/Divorce_Men	06/07/26 05:45 PM
3	45M, 7mo separated after 20y together, we have two kids. I feel I've alone the rest of my life. 49 here. 16 years together. Two kids. I feel the same. I think we need to hang out with friends and find some hobbies.	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/26 03:53 PM
10	Lost an amazing wife and can’t accept it I am worried about this for me. My wife is done and I am not. We have kids together and will be co parenting. I think she is amazing but we don’t communicate well. I don’t want to get hung up on her and be unable to move on. There is a part of me that will always want her to reconsider and I don’t know what to do with that	/r/Divorce_Men	05/07/26 01:31 PM
2	To those struggling - you are going thru withdrawal. And you will be ok. Link doesn’t work	/r/Divorce_Men	04/07/26 07:34 PM
3	Happened today Mine is still fresh too. I am three weeks in. The first week was pure hell. The second week was begging to reconciliation. This third week is acceptance. Just moving right through. I am trying not to blame myself too much or dwell on what I could have done differently. It all got to this point because I wanted marriage counseling. I just wanted to be connected to my wife. I didn’t think it was this bad for her. 16 years of marriage. I feel like i did everything I could. She is amazing and beauti…	/r/Divorce_Men	30/06/26 05:43 PM
1	Wife asked for separation/divorce after 20+ years and two young children - how do I give space without disappearing? The thing I keep coming back to that is hard for me to accept is that once she decides on the divorce it is over. I am still stuck in that phase were I am either thinking about all the things I could have done better or thinking if I say the right thing she will change her mind. I am also grieving 16 years of marriage. Nothing has changed very much yet. She is gone this week for my daughters national dance convention. I went camping with my boys. She doesn't want to tell the kids yet becaus eshe…	/r/Divorce_Men	29/06/26 05:40 PM
2	New to the Club Gosh I am surprised at how common this story is. I was the one not getting any emotional support. But pretty much the same story. We have kids though. I am not happy about telling them. Seems wierd to blow up a pretty good life when a few compromises and some couples counseling could probably fix.	/r/Divorce_Men	27/06/26 11:26 PM
4	Wife asked for separation/divorce after 20+ years and two young children - how do I give space without disappearing? This is my story too. We are divorcing. She gave me a letter of intent and has said she feels so much relief. I hope it goes better for you. I am adopting your plan as well. I really wish she would reconsider. I started therapy because I wanted to feel more connected to her. I keep thinking I should have kept my mouth shut and just did my own thing, but my therapist and the couples counselor said that I deserve to have a partner that wants to be with me. She would have stayed if we just lived pa…	/r/Divorce_Men	25/06/26 04:24 PM
2	What would you have done differently We went through two rounds of marriage counseling. I looked back at texts I had sent my marriage counselor from 3 years ago. We quit going to her because my wife said it wasn’t helping. We ended the first round with her taking about divorce. I started doing personal counseling because my wife told me I need to be good with being alone. That led to more marriage counseling and now we are talking divorce. I tried so hard to make it work. She said I was too forceful and she felt manhandled. Maybe i…	/r/Divorce_Men	22/06/26 04:40 PM
1	Looking for some perspective This is me and my wife. Audhd we have 4 kids all neurodivergent. I have been reading a lot of articles from Bridgett Hammond. Information is a that would have been good to know 5 years ago. Or even 5 months ago. I think she still loves me but feels so misunderstood and frustrated. I still love her but she is checked out. I don’t want it to end. 16 years.	/r/Divorce_Men	22/06/26 03:18 PM
1	Scared But Hopeful Don’t knock it till you’ve tried it. :-)	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/26 11:53 PM
1	Scared But Hopeful I am doing orange theory and zepbound. I have lost 30 pounds. I am trying to get into mountain biking and camping more. I want to do that with my boys.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/26 10:49 PM
4	Scared But Hopeful I am right there with you. Except I am trying to work through it still. She is the one who asked. This sucks.	/r/Divorce_Men	19/06/26 09:23 PM