jszly Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
1	Is it LV to not want to date for commitment right now	DISCUSSION	jszly	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/20 05:30 AM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
78	How to explain that he should pay? I’ve never had a man over 30 “make” or suggest I pay. Your friends men are doing that cus they let them. Personally, I don’t argue and I don’t persuade. Feminist or not.. men are to court women. - Broke men only mention feminism when it comes to opening their wallet. They don’t care about the tampon tax, maternity leave, if you are treated fairly at work, or anything else. - If he asks you out, you’re attractive enough. (.also seems like the root of your issue is self esteem tbh why do you keep …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/07/20 05:52 AM
14	Is this method really effective? So effective! On Grindr	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/07/20 11:32 PM
55	Male socialization means earnestly expecting women to act as charities that do everything for them Why can’t a man fix himself? Men can do everything else in the world they claim, so why can’t they do that??	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/20 12:02 PM
26	Dating HVM when 'young'? I personally feel like shitty dating experiences is a necessary growing pain. as long as you don’t come out of it with any babies or marriage ideas with LVM... just date men who meet your standards, casually. But it’s gonna be a struggle for a while. You actually will have to decide to place yourself in circumstances where you’re only around higher class men if that’s what you desire. They won’t just fall to your feet.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/20 02:45 AM
85	Ladies, Be Patient. He'll Marry You ELEVEN YEARS FROM NOW 🤡 wtf we talking about for two years with no relationship	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/07/20 01:50 AM
9	HVM or LVM? Having a hard time telling with this one Does his house look lived in? I’ve dated wealthy men with multiple places. Specifically a man divorcing (in my country you have to live apart for a year before you can legally divorce) so he had the family house, his own apt and another apt closer to town. Maybe your man is in ~an entanglement~😬	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/20 11:29 PM
3	I’m [16F] scared of not getting a HVM. Be HV yourself. Dodge LV relationships. It’s simple really. A lot of dating will be LV for you until your peers mature or can put yourself amongst HV people in your adult circles and hobbies. Just enjoy yourself, be safe and don’t get your feelings involved.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/20 11:09 PM
3	Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now? It seems like you’re coming from a place of “needing to date” instead of wanting to date. why? At 19? You have your whole life and will change as a person several times. Dating should still be occurring naturally for you. You’re (covid aside) surrounded by peers and there will never be another time where you have this. Your history sounds very serial monogamy like to me. Please take our advice and do not fill every viable year of your youth with a relationship.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/20 05:37 AM
12	How to respond when PickMe’s say you are “slut shaming” when you point out that showing your ass on the Internet is thirsty and embarrassing ? If you seriously care about her calling her thirsty will not get your point across. If she’s someone who’s well being you care about, you could ask her what she’s seeking from that and why she feels that’s the best way to obtain validation.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/20 05:15 AM
2	How to respond when PickMe’s say you are “slut shaming” when you point out that showing your ass on the Internet is thirsty and embarrassing ? 💯	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/07/20 05:12 AM
19	Scrote’s reason to quit porn: it supports women 🤦🏾‍♀️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/20 10:41 AM
11	Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now? I remember trying to get a therapist to convince me to leave my (ex)partner. She asked me what I would do if I was single and I said “write more, make art” she was appalled, and asked me why I wasn’t doing those things in the relationship and I shrugged it off. Fast forward to a year later, I’ve been single for one whole year for the first time in my entire adult life. I realized that in all my relationships I lost myself to please others. I did not feel like there was room or time for me. I did…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/20 10:40 AM
44	Scrote’s reason to quit porn: it supports women I’m not well versed in this culture. what is the goal of men like this? they hate women, do they sleep with men?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/20 10:14 AM
8	Is Dating Even Worth It Right Now? What are you looking for? If you’re seeking out people you must be looking for something. As a 30 year old I can’t image OLD at 19. Sounds like a disaster waiting, but I idk we just didn’t have the option. When I was 19 I casually dated people I met through my friends circle or uni. At that age, in retrospect, I personally would be getting to know myself better and focusing on setting future goals. Every relationship I had before 25 was a drain on my emotional health. I wasted time worrying abou…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/07/20 06:58 AM
-10	A Simple Exercise for Objectively Evaluating Men I get what you mean but please be cognizant of dynamics and racial implications	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/20 09:40 AM
1	Go to his place for dinner or nah? Thank you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/07/20 01:47 AM
5	Thoughts on this? We matched on OLD and had a few text conversations over a week, asked for a quick phone call and he said no? “Doing some stuff for work” as opposed to “I’ll be finished with work at 5 and give you a call then!” 🤔🤔🤔 you werent very clear. Either you need a phone call or you don’t. Too much room for grey area and now you can’t even tell if he’s playing games or not.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/07/20 04:12 AM
6	Do you confirm meetings with your first ODL dates? If yes, when? Yeah the important part is reservations and confirmed spot and time.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/07/20 03:23 AM
12	Do you confirm meetings with your first ODL dates? If yes, when? Communication, Clarity, Consistency. Communication: I confirm a few hours or hour before. “See you at 7 at xyz?” I would say that for any meeting of any type. Clarity: I don’t say things like “are we still on for tonight??” Or “are you still down to meet?” that seems desperate to me. But that doesn’t change anything he could still stand you up. You can’t change what men may or may not do. You can just change your reaction. Consistency: I have a consistent response. If they contact me I am no lon…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/07/20 03:22 AM
4	Some clownery I found in the wild on Insta. If you were in this situation, would you stay or not? I was pretty much born into this situation smh. My sister and I are the same age. I was the “bonus”baby tho. I can say nothing ill about my mother, because she quickly realized and did the best she could to remove herself from being pickmeisha. But chile.....	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/07/20 02:57 PM
9	Recovering Pickmeisha in need of advice. How do I react when the bill arrives at the end of a date? I went on a date with a guy who it took forever for the date to get arranged with. First yellow flag. He kept saying “yeah I think I could make that time work” or “maybe” in response to me asking if we were going out. (yikes @ myself) I made plans and then when he checked in about the “maybe” date I said, sure but I have plans at 7. He seemed shocked I was like sorry didn’t realize you were actually interested and other plans came up he then shuffled around and suddenly became direct and respons…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	19/07/20 09:29 AM