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DISCUSSIONjust_a_mum/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 02:21 PM
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Keep doing it. Keep reminding him it's not funny, it's nothing to do with you not being about to take a joke, if you don't find it funny then that should be enough for him to stop. I might poke fun at my brother about certain physical aspects, because I know he will poke back and he laughs. I would never make the same jokes towards my sister, because I know she's sensitive about certain things and would not find it funny. I'm currently teaching my 5 year old that if her friends aren't enjoying t…
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 10:06 PM
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Call him out on it, in public. When he starts saying mean things about you tell him loudly and clearly "ouch. That hurt my feelings". If he laughs and continues, walk away and TELL HIM why you're walking away - "I don't want to put up with this and I shouldn't have to. I'm leaving". Make a boundary, a line in the sand, and stick to it.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/22 04:28 AM
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Ha. Thank you for saying that. I do feel that my entire persona is wrapped up in being a Mum right now. We wanted kids close together in age, but it's hard!! I working on the assumption that this will be life until he youngest is in school. After that, I have no idea what happens!
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/21 11:30 PM
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I did, though due to certain circumstances I was not working in my chosen field, and was not very high in my career. So, to add onto the fact that I wanted to be a SAHM anyway, it made financial sense as child care would have more than my wage. I think the first few years of a child's life are so important. So yes, at least for the first few years I think it is important for a Mum to stay home with the kids if she can. N/A, My kids are all under school age right now It works for us. We both have…
/r/RedPillWomen19/07/21 02:37 AM
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Anything that will put my or the kids lives in jeopardy, including any substance or alcohol abuse, bringing a gun into the home, driving in an unsafe way. A drastic change in the way we parent our kids. Bringing someone into our lives (for example a new friend) who makes me or the kids feel uncomfortable. Really bad financial decisions (like payday loans, buying extravagant things when we can't afford them, etc). Telling me to do something to my body that I don't agree with (for example contrace…
/r/RedPillWives16/07/21 09:48 PM
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You don't need to do all of the housework either. If you're both working, then the household chores can still be split 50/50. I understand from your post that he seems to resent you for having to do any of it, but that might just be because of the way you've been nagging him and/or treating him. If he's not happy in his own house (which it sounds like he's not), then he probably doesn't care what state it's in. I'm not saying don't become a SAHM, I'm a stay at home with 3 young kids and I love i…
/r/RedPillWomen27/06/21 12:01 AM
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You don't have to become a SAHM to be a surrendered wife, unless it's something that you want to do.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 05:55 PM
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Please please please read Laura Doyle's "The Surrendered Wife". I think it would be perfect for your situation.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/21 05:53 PM
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I think you're being overly sensitive. You're therapist may have just been pointing out that there is no rush, and the usual societal pressure of "get married and have kids" doesn't need to cause issues. Also, just because someone had a child at 40 does not mean something went wrong. Maybe they always planned to have kids later in life? If you don't want to be judged for aspiring to be a SAHM, then don't judge others for wanting something different. As for the fear, that is real. There are lots …
/r/RedPillWives14/06/21 11:26 PM
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I dont have time to write out a comprehensive answer, I'm sorry. But I just wanted to say that you can't change him. You can only make changes in yourself. I'm sorry that you're going through a rough time, especially with Covid. As a man with OCD, this past year has had to have been really hard for your husband, which of course is going to trickle down to you. Work on self care, do things that make you happy. Keep showering him with love and affection because you want to, not because you expect …
/r/RedPillWives26/04/21 03:35 AM
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Came here to say this - can't recommend this book enough.
/r/RedPillWomen17/04/21 12:36 AM
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I dont understand why this sub is considered a hate sub. I've never seen a hate post on here.
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/21 03:39 AM
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My first thought was the smell of fresh baking. My husband LOVES to come home to the smell of fresh bread or a new batch of cookies. Live flowers and plants can help make a house a home. I also think that family pictures on the walls are important. We have moved house a number of times over the years (always rented) and my husband likes that I prioritize getting our family pictures on the walls. Personal magnets on the fridge and kids art work on the walls makes a place feel homely too.
/r/RedPillWives26/03/21 01:05 AM
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Came here to post this.
/r/RedPillWomen24/03/21 07:46 PM
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Right! This isn't something for him to fix. This is the time for you to refocus your attention. I'm currently stay at home to 3 under 5 and I totally understand how you kinda forget how to be anything else other than "Mum"! Take some time to figure what's next for you, and talk it through with your husband. I'm sure he will love to be involved with you discovering a new hobby!
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 11:22 PM
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Being confident in yourself and your relationship. Trusting your husband and knowing that he has you and your family's best interests at heart. Being vulnerable, supportive, and open enough to let him do that. In my opinion, everything else is window dressing. "Keeping house" is only one aspect of who you are, if you are now feeling lost, as it were, then you are in dire need of a hobby! If you're not fulfilled with your days, then find something else to fill them. Being happy in yourself and pr…
/r/RedPillWives16/03/21 06:37 PM
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Please go and talk to a professional. You did not lose your virginity to a rapist, the rapist took it from you - that's a big difference. You choose to give your body to your husband, that's the gift. I really believe that therapy will help you.
/r/RedPillWives15/03/21 01:20 PM
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He's never done it with you, you are the excitement. Remember that he chose you, he loves you and every part of you. He already finds you unbelievably sexy, trust him and be vulnerable with him. One of the most important things to learn when being intimate is to be present. Enjoy what he does to you and how he makes you feel, listen to the sounds/ movements he makes when you're doing stuff to him. Be enthusiastic. Don't be embarrassed by queffs or farts, they happen to everyone, see the humor! I…
/r/RedPillWives14/03/21 09:59 PM
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General rule of thumb, it takes about 100 days.
/r/RedPillWives14/03/21 02:29 AM
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WARNING WILL ROBINSON, WARNING!!! There are so many red flags here, and I think you know that. Respect goes both ways, and it doesn't sound like he respects you at all (or any women for that matter!) In a good, traditional marriage the wife respects and takes cares of her husband - but you know what else? He treats her like a goddess in return. This man doesn't want a partnership, he wants a dictatorship, he wants a downtrodden slave. Is that what you want to be? Do you think you're a dog that c…
/r/RedPillWives11/03/21 07:58 PM
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It is possible, it's just hard! I'm a SAHM with 3 under 5. My youngest is 2 months and I'm just starting to get my stride back. I'm back to going out most days for playdates, making full nutritional dinners, and starting to get back to the buffet cleaning jobs. As others have said, the beginning is the hardest and don't expect to be able to do it for at least 3 months! The first 100 days with a baby is the hardest (known as the fourth trimester), and you and baby have to come first during that t…
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/21 09:00 PM
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With kids around, it's very hard to find time just for you. It's really good that you have this open line of communication, it is so important. I would suggest talking about it and asking him for a solution. Let him know you're beginning to resent him for it and you don't want to.
/r/RedPillWives19/02/21 06:35 PM
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This might not actually be a very productive suggestion - but my first instinct is to say turn off the wifi when he's in there! Seriously though, what the f*$k is he doing for 4 HOURS A DAY in the bathroom?? How is your sex life? Is he looking at porn? Or is it just literally playing games on his phone? Maybe suggest to him finding more appropriate time and place for him to have alone, uninterrupted time during the week.
/r/RedPillWives19/02/21 03:32 PM
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I dont think you need to say anything, and I don't think you should feel uncomfortable about it. Maybe he's been on a number of dates in the past when the woman has gotten offended when he's paid for the bill without asking first. And so he just asks now, just to make sure. I think you're looking too much into it.
/r/RedPillWives07/02/21 01:46 PM
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Do you also remember the answer "why do you care?" when you asked the question "what does he want?" "Because I care about him. I expect he's asking the same question about me". Do you also remember the question "why do you need a man to define who you are?" when you wanted to talk about wanting a boyfriend, husband or partner? "I don't. Having a man won't define me or who I am, but neither will a grilled cheese sandwich. Doesn't mean I don't still want one." Do you remember the question "why don…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/21 03:29 PM
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Please see the side bar.
/r/RedPillWomen04/02/21 10:13 PM
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Yes, I can see how it's read that way, and in which case I agree with you.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 10:19 PM
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Yes, it definitely depends on what you define as success. But I think the quote is saying a woman can't be the best person she can be without a man.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 09:02 PM
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Not being called a cute little bitch...
/r/RedPillWives21/01/21 06:43 PM
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The original post says that we, as women, need a man to succeed. I dont think we do. I do realise that this opinion goes against rpw beliefs a little bit, which is why I figured I would be down voted. I do agree with you that in a rp relationship, the man is the captain and the woman should follow him. Im just saying that for a women to succeed in life, in general, she is quite capable of doing it on her own.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 06:01 PM
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I'm probably going to get down voted, but I have to disagree. We, as women, can be a woman is a hundred different women, limited only by imagination We don't NEED a man to thrive and be amazing. It is possible to do it on your own, there are many examples. However, for a lot of us, it's a hell of a lot easier to become the best person you can be with the support and guidance of a good man. Just as most men will become the best they can be with the love and support of a good woman.
/r/RedPillWomen21/01/21 04:52 PM
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I make a menu each week so I know what we need when I go food shopping. I try to make the menu using what we still have in the cupboards/fridge/freezer.
/r/RedPillWives10/12/20 11:43 PM
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Finding a man should not be the be all and end all of your life. And doing so will ultimately mean you come across needy and desperate. The first mate of a ship is their own person in their own right. They are chosen to be in that position by their captain for what they can bring to the relationship. Being good looking and fit might get you in the door, but it won't get you the job. How are you expected to bring happiness and joy into a relationship if you can't do things to make yourself happy?…
/r/RedPillWomen06/12/20 04:05 PM
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Even if prostitution becomes morally acceptable in society (which I honestly don't think it will, though I do think it should be legalized), does not mean that you have to feel comfortable doing it! Butchers are a necessity in almost every culture on Earth and becoming a skilled butcher is considered an achievement - but I could never do it. I would never feel comfortable in that profession. You realise that it would hurt you in the long run, becoming a sex worker, so that's why you don't do it.
/r/RedPillWomen27/11/20 05:26 PM
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"We men can be that autistic" is a derogatory statement toward autism. I dont care if you're on the spectrum or not, it's not a nice thing to say.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 02:57 AM
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Personally, I feel very secure in my relationship and wouldn't worry too much about Hubby staring at another woman at the beach or out shopping. I might even make a comment in jest like "you're drooling Hunni...". Calling a new friend "hot" or "sexy" would also be OK, as long as it was in the right context and not creepy. More simply observational. I also feel very secure in being able to tell my husband when I find another man attractive. Following models on Instagram, however, is kinda creepy.…
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/20 01:08 AM
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If you can, get out for a walk with the kids (preferably as a family) at least once a week or more. Go for a hike through the woods or to national park. It really helps clear the cobwebs and resets everyone! If you have a garden/yard, bundle the kids up and send them outside with a ball for half an hour a day. A bit of fresh air will help them and it gives you time. Lower your expectations a little bit. So what if the washing builds for an extra day? Let the kids watch an extra hour of TV and ea…
/r/RedPillWives19/11/20 04:44 PM
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"A partner should just accept you for who you are" I really hate this advice, because it arrogantly assumes you are perfect. News flash - noone is perfect!! I'm constantly improving myself for my husband and he's always trying to better himself for me. We work on our flaws together. But I do think the advice should be "don't change your fundamental values for a partner". There are certain things that I am not OK with, and if I had to bend those core beliefs it would build resentment. I also real…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/20 08:56 PM
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Holy red flags batman. I'm so sorry for your loss, and it is absolutely perfectly reasonable to want to talk about your loss and grief with your mother. Your husband's reaction, and ultimate "punishment" is completely out of line and far past a healthy reaction. In fact, its in line with distancing you away from your family and isolating you, making you completely dependent on him - which can be seen as abusive. I feel like such a fuck up. I upset him all the time. I just don’t know what to do n…
/r/RedPillWives07/11/20 12:48 AM
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I would recommend reading parenting books and listening to podcasts. But honestly, everyone is "the best mother" until they actually have kids! Babies need love and attention. Most everything else you figure out on the way! The most important thing is to have a good captain first. Make sure your support structure is in place and you have a good foundation before having a baby.
/r/RedPillWives02/11/20 10:16 PM
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because they are more mature, financially stable , ready for family, etc. Is he all of these things? Because seriously, age is just a number, everyone matures at different rates. My husband is 4 years younger than me and I think we are perfectly matched! He is a wonderful captain for our family and a fantastic father. I also want to add that a guy might not be financially stable in his early 20's, but he could have the potential to be soon. For example, when I met my husband he was finishing his…
/r/RedPillWives26/10/20 12:41 AM
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I am pregnant with number 3, due January, and my husband has already asked for some easy meal planning from me for the weeks after birth (knowing we won't have any help this time from family due to covid). I've told him I will also make at least half a dozen freezer meals beforehand. I also know that my kitchen will not be as clean as I like it and the beds will not get made in the mornings. But he will step up and be my hero and take care of me when I need him to.
/r/RedPillWomen24/10/20 04:04 PM
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So you would rather spending the rest of your life feeling inadequate? You know you deserve better.
/r/RedPillWives11/10/20 02:15 PM
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I was very promiscuous in my early twenties and honestly lost count. I found the love of my life at 28 years old, he was also only supposed to be a bit of fun as I was due to move back to my home country in a few months. Turns out he wanted more (and he actually said no to sex our first night together!). We were married less than 2 years later. I am now a SAHM to 2 beautiful children and 1 more on the way. We have a fairly rp marriage and I couldn't be happier. Your past does not need to define …
/r/RedPillWomen01/10/20 06:11 PM
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I dont see how. Stating that its abuse would not negate her power to make a change. (Want to continue this discussion in the discord server?)
/r/RedPillWives27/09/20 12:00 AM
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Hhhmmm. I want to say yes, it's still abuse. But I see what you're saying, if we overuse the term "abuse", does it lose effect when it really needs to count? Perhaps I would change my original comment to "borderline abuse".
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 11:56 PM
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I understand what you're saying. I think I would say that abuse is not always so black and white and there are men who want to change and who do change. With this kind of subtle manipulation he may not even realise just how negatively it is affecting her, especially if OP hasn't specifically told him. But yes, unfortunately there are those people who hear the word abuse and go straight to imagining a bruised and battered woman too meek to change her own situation. This is clearly not the case he…
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 11:50 PM
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I completely agree - if thats what OP does. She does not need to become isolated, nor put up with his behaviour. But, at least up to know, she says she hasn't been attending these events. I really hope OP does realise that there is a different between being submissive, and being a doormat. And respect still works both ways.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 11:43 PM
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Just because it's subtle doesn't make it any less dangerous.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 11:38 PM
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I think long term emotional manipulation is abuse. And o think it's clear from this post that's is long term. You could even say that it is a way of manipulating her into isolation, because he won't go to events.
/r/RedPillWives26/09/20 11:30 PM
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I think what he is doing to you is emotional manipulation and it is a type of abuse. You can be respectful and submissive to your husband while still holding true to yourself. Tell him that you're sorry he is upset with you still and you would love him to go. But if he doesn't want to, then that is his choice. Then you should go. Don't badmouth him to anyone who asks where your husband is, just tell them so.ething came up and he couldn't make it. You are not his child, you are his mate, his part…
/r/RedPillWives25/09/20 03:47 PM
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I'm 35 years old, married for 5.5 years. 2 kids (4f and 2m) and 24 weeks pregnant with number 3! I'm a SAHM and intend to be at least until the last one goes to school. Being a mum pretty much takes up all of my time, but I am also quite involved in my local moms club.
/r/RedPillWives19/09/20 04:27 PM
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Troll.
/r/RedPillWives06/09/20 01:37 AM
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Thank you for your reply. Want the 1st wave all about equality though? Want it all about getting the vote and making sure women's voices are heard just as much as men's? I will definitely watch that link and look up that paper when I get chance!
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 05:01 PM
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I completely agree. It's like the movement has gone too far the other way now.
/r/RedPillWomen28/08/20 04:59 PM
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Re read your post and try to imagine one of your friends saying it to you. What would your advice be? I'm pretty sure your advice would be "you are worth more than second best". This man is settling with you until the girl he is actually in love with snaps her fingers and he will be running. Leave now before he strips all of your dignity.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/20 06:47 PM
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That sounds like a tough spot, I'm sorry you're having to go through it. I'm one of the outliers in this sub, in that I think that every couple should cohabit before getting married, because I truly believe you don't know someone until you live with them. That being said, I also think that there is nothing wrong with getting engaged first (or at least the understanding that the ring is coming pretty soon). I would have an open and vulnerable discussion with him. Explain that you do love him and …
/r/RedPillWives27/06/20 11:28 PM
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Whats his love language? For example, my husband's is time spent together. So I would do something that we can both enjoy together, thats more to his likes, to show my appreciation. I also think that a sincere "I really appreciate everything you've done for me lately" goes a long long way.
/r/RedPillWomen25/05/20 07:07 PM
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I think she already is. All of the excuses that she's come up with makes me wonder if we're hearing his words out of her mouth, you know? That she truly believes that noone will believe her and she will lose custody of her kids because he's told her that. Plus the way she talks about the "agreement" they have, its clear to me that he beats her as well.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 09:23 PM
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If there is history of abuse, which there clearly is, he will not get 50/50 custody. You just need to testify, social services will get involved. If you fear for your children, then why not let them stay at your parents, or another family members house until you can secure alternate living arrangements. I see that you are tryimg to make the best out of a bad situation, but i truly don't think you are graspingthe severity of the situation. YOUR CHILDREN'S HEALTH AND WELL BEING IS AT RISK. Do some…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 04:49 PM
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I think you should listen to your father and get out now. Hitting a baby so they are flown across the room in completely unacceptable and, in my opinion, unforgivable. This behavior will only escalate. There is never a reason to hit a baby. Whether you agree with spanking or not, there is NEVER A REASON TO HIT A BABY. YOUR CHILDREN ARE SCARED. That in itself is reason to leave. No child should EVER be scared of their parent. Your father sounds like a good man. He sounds like he wants the best li…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/20 04:18 PM
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I'm sorry, but you actually just sound delusional now. You need to walk away. This man will NOT change for you.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 05:42 PM
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Please leave him now. There are lots and lots of BIG RED FLAGS. He is manipulative and using you. He is uninterested in you or your wellbeing beyond his ability to get laid. You don't ever need to risk your health for a man's satisfaction. EVER. Honestly, redpill women don't want a true redpill man. You need a strong leader, not a dictator. Theres a big difference.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/20 04:57 PM
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There are plenty of women with a non rp background who still find their captain. There are plenty of men out there who will happily fulfill the roll of captain to an already made family, for the right first mate. Just continue being the best version of you that you can be, including being a much needed caring mother to your cousin's kids. Whatever answer you find on here from various people, it sounds like it won't change your mind in taking in these children. So try not to take much heed in the…
/r/RedPillWomen13/05/20 01:45 PM
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I’ve tried to get him to think about bettering himself with stoicism and things of that nature, but he takes it as me insulting him You are insulting him, you're telling him he's not good enough as he is. You're telling him that his likes, dislikes, and opinions are not good enough. There's nothing wrong with nerdy things. Did you judge him for being into comic books? Look, basically this relationship is never going to work if you don't respect him for who he is, not who you want him to be. Even…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 04:36 PM
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To begin with, you can not make him do anything. You can't change him, you can only change yourself. You say that when you go to a restaurant you do all of the ordering - have you tried letting him do it? It sounds to me like you might never respect him, in which case you should walk away. Because you will never have the relationship that you are looking for. Did you start respecting him? Why are you together in the first place? What initially attracted you to him? You say he does a lot around t…
/r/RedPillWomen11/05/20 02:08 PM
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I think the main differences are finances and dependencies. A gf would have separate finances and shouldn't be dependent on their bf.
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/20 12:07 PM
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Congrats!! Enjoy the newborn snuggles and remember - you can never spoil a baby! This time really is so fleeting. 🥰
/r/RedPillWives25/04/20 04:55 PM
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The only things that helped me was ice cold sparkling water and small but frequent meals. Never let yourself get hungry, but don't have big meals.
/r/RedPillWives25/04/20 04:53 PM
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I would be interested, although I have to be honest - I've never used a discord server!
/r/RedPillWives23/04/20 07:41 PM
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I would consider myself to have a low smv and I have always been overweight. I also have a PhD in a stem field. I met my now husband when I was 28, I am a SAHM to 2 beautiful children (trying for our third) and he is happy in his dream job. My husband is a great provider, a wonderful father, and he loves me. We met through a mutual friend and he asked for my number mainly because I made him laugh. He is tall, good looking, post graduate education, and when we met was a perfect weight (he's got t…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/20 07:06 PM
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I really don't understand why there needs to be a label for every small variation!! Its ridiculous in my opinion, just people who don't have anything better to worry about than having a definition and recognition for "sometimes feeling a bit like a boy". I'm sorry if that sounds a bit offensive to some people. I completely agree with acknowledging certain variations of sexual orientations or identities. But everybody is slightly different, with their own likes and dislikes, I don't see why we ne…
/r/RedPillWives18/04/20 04:20 PM
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You need to tell him all of these fears. Lay it all out in no uncertain terms, write it out in a letter if you need to. Explain to him you feel insecure, explain you feel massively underappreciated. Don't beat around the bush or drop hints, say the exact words about how you feel. He is not a mind reader and he might honestly believe that you love your life right now. You have to explain to him that you either need to be self sufficient (which will probably mean living on your own), or you need t…
/r/RedPillWives16/04/20 07:10 PM
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This is a really great answer! I've saved it to look back on in a few months time when I start to decorate or new house. Thank you!
/r/RedPillWives14/04/20 01:57 PM
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I'm sorry you're in this situation. If he's had a history of ED before it might now be more psychological. Perhaps you could go back to the beginning as it were and have some dates? Act like teenagers and build up to the main event. Find intimacy through other things that does not necessarily involve PIV sex. We currently have 2 small children and at the end of most nights neither of us have the energy for a full sex session, so we might mutually masturbate. It still includes intimacy, we both s…
/r/RedPillWives04/04/20 09:15 PM
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I'm a SAHM, so the majority of the housekeeping and meals falls on me. I find making a menu at the weekends really helps me. Not necessarily a set dish per day, but a set list of dishes that I want to make that week. That way if my husband calls me to say he feels like chicken, or that he had a big work lunch and won't need dinner (which happens about once per week), I can choose the best meal for that particular night knowing I have everything for it. It also means that I can plan ahead any slo…
/r/RedPillWomen30/03/20 06:23 PM
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This too shall pass!! I know it's tough, that 1st trimester fatigue is REAL, add in a toddler and a decrease in caffeine because of said pregnancy, and you're basically a zombie for 2 months. I've totally been there and it's hard. I always found I had the most energy first thing in the morning, so that was when I would try to get stuff done. I would also nap with the toddler, but I am lucky enough to be a SAHM and so had the time to nap. I cant imagine doing all that with a fulltime job as well!…
/r/RedPillWives28/03/20 09:17 PM
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Didn't say it was impossible, just said it was very hard.
/r/RedPillWives24/03/20 07:07 PM
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I think it depends on how much he expects you to contribute. If he expects you to hold a fulltime job from home and raise his children then he is being unreasonable. As a SAHM I can say that that is impossible. However, I do work from from home, I do about an hour a day and am therefore financially contributing to my family. I know plenty of other women who work part time from home successfully, while being a fulltime SAHM. It's very hard to live on a single income, unless that income is 6 figur…
/r/RedPillWives23/03/20 01:00 PM
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Ok. I don't really understand what's going on, you say he's the only one for you and yet later you say you're not actually together. Then you go on to say you don't want to be with him, you just want him to want you. Can I ask, how old are you? I think you have some much deeper issues than being expressed in this post. I'm sorry that you seem to have such low esteem of yourself that you feel like you need this validation from someone who clearly doesn't respect you. Leave this man behind and mov…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/20 08:20 PM
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It's pancake day, so Brinner for dinner tonight! British pancakes are not my (American) husbands favourite, but he knows it's important to me. But, he loves Brinner! 😉 I made small, individual chicken pot pies in ramekins for the first time last night, they were really nice and everyone seemed to like them. I'm going to make an alfredo at some point this week, I have the cream for it. I also have lentils that I need to find a good recipe for, not sure what to do with those yet as I've never cook…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 08:27 PM
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I've never understood the "I'll come round and hold the baby for you". Like no, that's not for me, that's for you. I need you to vacuum and make dinner, that would be helpful. I don't want anyone else to touch my baby, with all their germs. Plus for thr first few weeks they are essentially attached to your nipple. I warned anyone that was coming that I might be naked from the waist up, and no, I won't cover for you in my own home.
/r/RedPillWives22/02/20 08:27 PM
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I used to think the same way. I thought I would have to settle if I ever wanted a family, either that or end up a spinster with 7 cats. And then I took a chance on a guy, I was 28. I was finishing my studies in America and knew I would be leaving to move back home in a few months (home being England). We went on a few dates and fell in love, simple as that. We discussed what would happen when I moved back home and in the beginning, decided to just enjoy the time we had. It quickly became apparen…
/r/RedPillWomen09/02/20 08:19 PM
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This is a big assumption and not useful to the discussion.
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 01:44 PM
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I'm probably going to get down voted for saying this, but if he is at home all day and you're at work then he should be doing the lion's share of the housework. I understand that you're wanting to live the traditional gender roles,but while you're the breadwinner it's never going to work perhaps if he could accomplish things during the day he might start to get his confidence back. He needs to have some wins. You should start asking for help from him. Let him be your hero and feel like he is nee…
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/20 02:16 AM
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You are so much better than being second best to someone. Move on - and tell him exactly WHY you're moving on.
/r/RedPillWomen28/01/20 03:12 AM
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So glad you updated, and really glad to hear the outcome. Of course it's going to be hard, but it does sound like he's excited beneath it all!! We're actually trying for our 3rd atm, and if it happens in the next few months, we'll have 3 under 4 as well. So I might be hitting you up for tips and tricks! 😅
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/20 12:53 AM
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There could be a myriad of reasons as to why he's not talked to you about it yet. Does he have a stressful job? What kind of hours does he work? How old are your other kids? How do you feel about the pregnancy? (Also - CONGRATS!! 😘)
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 02:47 PM
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Completely agree!! I cant believe at how many comments are insinuating that shes tricked him into having another baby and somehow at fault here! That clearly the ONLY explanation is that he's upset about the pregnancy.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 02:45 PM
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Why does he need to snip snip!?? You're making a huge assumption. Perhaps they want 10 kids?
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 02:44 PM
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I'm not sure why you're getting downvoted for answering the question. But you will never know what's going through his mind until you ask. I would just ask him straight out how he feels about the pregnancy. Be open and honest, but still be vulnerable.
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/20 02:39 PM
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A healthy bdsm relationship should be explicitly discussed. If there is something you would like him to do in bed, then you ca and should have a frank discussion with him. You can start it by asking him what he likes. Is there something he wants to try? Does he consider himself more dominant? These questions should naturally lead into a discussion about what you both want in bed. For all you know right now, he could be trying to pluck up courage to ask you to include pegginginto your sex life! T…
/r/RedPillWomen13/01/20 10:27 PM
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I agree, that was another reason. Though I dont think it was the main reason.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 02:14 PM
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Religious practices were often made up for health reasons.
/r/RedPillWomen12/01/20 02:12 PM
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I think this is wonderfully worded, and I completely agree. The original idea of staying a virgin until marriage wasd to cut down on sexual encounters, and therefore STI's. But these days there really is no reason to stay a virgin until marriage, in my opinion.
/r/RedPillWomen11/01/20 03:18 PM
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This man is putting you down to control you. He is not worthy of you. Leave and move on, you are so young to waste any more time on this guy.
/r/RedPillWomen05/01/20 02:38 PM
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Thank you for taking the time to reply. I know I'm probably over thinking it! We're on the TWW now, so I just need to keep eating healthily and not stress too much!
/r/RedPillWives31/12/19 02:43 PM
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Not OP, but I will answer from my perspective. Being a SAHM is lonely sometimes. I have a 3 yr old and a 1 yr old and even though I'm part of a Moms club and we go out to story time and play dates etc, there's still a lot of time at home on your own with 2 small children. There can be weeks when one or both of my kids are sick (just a cold or the like), which basically means I'm stuck inside all week. We've also just moved to a new state this year, and making adult friends is really hard! Regard…
/r/RedPillWomen30/12/19 01:00 PM
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Thank you. But I'm fairly certain that it's normal and mature, what he does to you is neither. Please realise that you are better than that, that you deserve a mature relationship with a decent man. A good man, a good captain.
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 12:44 AM
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We're trying for our third baby. Our firstborn was conceived on the first cycle and our second was conceived on the 3rd. This is our third cycle and I'm starting to freak myself out that I cant get pregnant again, which I know is ridiculous! I'm 34 now though and I cant help but think that it's going to take longer this time, that I'm already over the hill. No questions, just a small rant. On a side note, I've now been breastfeeding for a total of 3 years, so if anyone has any questions or conce…
/r/RedPillWives28/12/19 02:25 PM
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Sorry for my late reply, busy holiday period and all that! We discussed it when we were dating and both if us agreed that we didn't want our kids to be brought up by a daycare or nanny. He originally said that he wouldn't mind being a SAHD if I were earning more, but of course he would be fine with me staying at home as well. He's since told me that he's very glad he doesn't stay home, because he doesn't think he could do it! I always wanted to be a SAHM, and told him this from the start. I thin…
/r/RedPillWives27/12/19 04:58 AM
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You are worth so much more than the way he is making you feel. I want to say that out loud - "I AM WORTH MORE THAN THE WAY HE MAKES ME FEEL" He is manipulating you. These childish behaviors of punishment and trials are signs of a weak man, not a captain. AND YOU DESERVE A CAPTAIN. A real man makes his woman feel loved, cherished, protected. All the time. Even after an argument where I know I'm in the wrong, there is no doubt in my mind that my husband loves me. And we still cuddle and kiss at th…
/r/RedPillWomen27/12/19 03:59 AM
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HA - I didn't even notice! Well you know, if they've been particularly trying that day! 😅
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 09:06 PM
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Variations of grilled cheese, children and spinach alfredo, fajitas or quesadillas, chili.
/r/RedPillWomen23/12/19 03:29 AM
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I'm fairly certain that the people who are shouting my body, my choice are not expecting money from men.
/r/RedPillWomen20/12/19 01:20 AM
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I would recommend on reading the Surrendered wife by Laure Doyle. I read it after just getting married and I feel it really helped me. It told me the things to watch out for, as well good advice. In my first year of marriage I made sure to hand all the finances over to my husband. I took over the day to day cleaning and tidying and most of the cooking. We talked about our favourite meals and things we wanted to try and I learned how to make them. I set up a routine of making sure we sat at the t…
/r/RedPillWives18/12/19 06:30 PM
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We're having a quiet Christmas this year as we're travelling to England in March (I'm British, my husband American, and we live in America). I'll be making a classic British roast - Roast duck Roast potatoes Roasted and steamed vegetables Yorkshire puddings Stuffing Duck gravy And I'm making a chocolate yule log for dessert!
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 04:08 PM
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I still consider myself a feminist, I believe that every woman should be able to choose what she wants to do in life and have the same opportunities as any man. I choose to be a SAHM and a homemaker. Therefore I want to be the best homemaker I can be, and this community helps me in that. Through the recommendations from this sub, I read the Surrendered wife and I truly think it helped me. I helped me to not try to control my husband, and to trust him to be the best man he can be. My Dad married …
/r/RedPillWives12/12/19 03:23 PM
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We have two kids, aged 3 and 1 yr, and I am a SAHM. When my husband is at work, I am solely responsible for child rearing and housekeeping. This results in me doing the majority of the household chores. When my husband is home, we split the child rearing 50/50. He will do certain chores that I didnt/couldn't get around to that day and I make like 90% of all our meals (he likes to do the occasional breakfast!) I was brought up in a house where my Mum did almost all housework and child rearing and…
/r/RedPillWives11/12/19 02:07 AM
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We have two kids, aged 3 and 1 yr, and I am a SAHM. When my husband is at work, I am solely responsible for child rearing and housekeeping. This results in me doing the majority of the household chores. When my husband is home, we split the child rearing 50/50. He will do certain chores that I didnt/couldn't get around to that day and I make like 90% of all our meals (he likes to do the occasional breakfast!) I was brought up in a house where my Mum did almost all housework and child rearing and…
/r/RedPillWives11/12/19 02:06 AM
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As it's been pointed out, I'm talking about the sub reddit from where the original link is from.
/r/RedPillWomen04/12/19 01:12 AM
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Because of so many bitter men hating women and seeing women as more trouble than they're worth. They seem to be a step from incel territory. And I think it's sad.
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 09:12 PM
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That sub reddits so sad...
/r/RedPillWomen03/12/19 07:29 PM
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You can try and look at it like "he's trying to seduce me, I'm going to let myself be seduced". I will also say however, that if you say no he should respect that. It works both ways.
/r/RedPillWives25/11/19 03:30 PM
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I can see both sides. I dont think you're being unreasonable by asking him to ask. But with the same breath, isn't initiating through wandering hands a way of asking?
/r/RedPillWives24/11/19 11:30 PM
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She keeps mentioning specifically about how it's harder for WHITE men. And how WHITE women do things. Specifying the race. She comes across racist.
/r/RedPillWives13/11/19 02:57 AM
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I think she is racist and transphobic and wtf was that comment about being in Epsteins basement!?!? I think she sounds like a woman that I would avoid and wouldn't let my kids anywhere near.
/r/RedPillWives12/11/19 03:41 AM
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What if he had told you that he's tired and just needs to unwind tonight? That his day at work for quite taxing and he needed some time to decompress? Sometimes my husband gets in from work and says to me "do you mind if I just decompress for a little bit". So I will the baby in the highchair and put the tv on for the toddler while I finish dinner (most other days this is his time to play with the kids). My husband will then play a video game. It helps him to unwind and just zone out for a littl…
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/19 06:23 PM
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There's a couple of major issues here. First are his outbursts and anger being taken out on you. I think you're very right in that be is stressed out about finances and his work. I think that ANYTHING financial (like investing) needs to take a back burner until he feels better about your finances. I think you could ask him more about work, ask him how he feels about certain aspects (workload, colleagues, etc.) Try and talk through any potention stressors with him. I might also suggest asking to …
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 05:40 PM
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I agree with the response. Not the reason for cheating part, but the fact that he sounds like an emotional bully.
/r/RedPillWives07/11/19 12:33 AM
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I'm not trying to find exceptions. I'm choosing to not lump everyone into a neat little box. I definitely would argue with the statement women are awesome and cats are great.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/19 08:30 PM
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Well I don't think it should be a "let's respect all men". I think a person deserves respect if they've earned it. I'm not going to assume all men deserve my respect, just as I'm not going to assume that no men deserve my respect.
/r/RedPillWives24/10/19 08:25 PM
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I'm not sure I agree with this. SOME men are worth admiring. But there are also a lot of men that are oppressive and callous exploiters.
/r/RedPillWives23/10/19 08:59 PM
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Yes he might. You need to believe he won't. But you also need the confidence in yourself so that IF he does, you won't fall apart.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 06:07 PM
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I think you still need to work on you. You need to realize that you ARE good enough to be chased. You need to understand that you ARE worthy of being in a loving relationship with a man who you can trust. You need to trust that thr man who you do let close will not hurt you.
/r/RedPillWomen27/09/19 01:28 AM
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I made a chicken and gnocchi soup the other day which was amazing! Last night was leftovers from a beef mince dish I made. Tonight I have chicken breast out, though I'm not sure what I'm going to do with it yet!
/r/RedPillWomen25/09/19 06:40 PM
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IT'S OK TO BE SINGLE!
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 08:05 PM
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I wasn't aware that being religious was part of RPW. I knows that usually religious women follow rpw, but I didn't think that all, or even most rpw are religious.
/r/RedPillWomen06/09/19 08:02 PM
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I don't believe that all women should follow rp, that is should be a choice. I also don't believe that, as others have said, being rp is biological for all women. The fact that there are gay women is proof enough of that. I also don't think that your past should affect your future. But that might be just because of my personal situation. I agree with the sentiment that serious couples should live together before getting married. A good friend of mine had serious issues with marriage right now wh…
/r/RedPillWomen05/09/19 05:17 PM
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Until that last paragraph, I can kinda see their argument. Not every woman wants kids, and if they don't then they shouldn't be expected to take care of kids. One of my best friends is such a person, she doesn't ever want kids and doesn't coo over babies. This doesn't make her any less of a woman. However, that last paragraph though!! Motherhood is akin to slavery!?! Really!?! If she gets so annoyed with people not understanding that she doesn't want anything to do with kids, how can she then go…
/r/RedPillWives31/08/19 09:03 PM
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My husband cooked burritos tonight, he likes do one complete meal by himself once every few weeks. I'm trying to figure out how I'm going to do a "black forest inspired brownie tiramisu", which is what he's requested for his birthday!!
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 11:28 PM
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Oh no! Do you let the dough rest in the fridge before baking?
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/19 11:25 PM
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It doesn't matter how she's being or what kind of person she is. You can't change her or tell her what to do. You can only change yourself and how you react. And the best reaction in this case is no reaction at all.
/r/RedPillWomen25/07/19 05:12 PM
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Take it as a compliment. Be confident and don't stoop down to her level. Be friendly. Your husband chose you to marry, trust in that commitment. So what if she's there at every friend's event from now on? He married you, you are his wife. Hold his hand, whisper something in his ear that you know will make him smile. Do not let her pettiness get to you, because at the end of the day - he married you. So don't ask about whether or not she'll be somewhere. Be completely apathetic about her presence…
/r/RedPillWomen24/07/19 07:48 PM
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I agree, OP is making it out as though the blame is all on their child - which is never the case.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/19 12:34 AM
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Ok. You need to work on them hard. You can't change him, but you can change you and therefore your relationship. If you really want it to work then really focus. Read the books again, subscribe to the emails, read the blogs. Make notes. Don't tell hi. What you're doing, just make the change. It may take time, and you might have to deal with a separation, but just persevere. Don't give up. Be the best person you can be and let him see it.
/r/RedPillWives16/07/19 12:32 AM
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You say that you've read the Laura Doyle books, when was this? How long have you been following the guidelines? If I remember rightly there are 7 steps, right? How far did you get?
/r/RedPillWives15/07/19 05:36 PM
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You are a grown up and can ask for what you want instead of being passive aggressive. I think I you need to sit down and have a Frank discussion with your boyfriend, lay out exactly what you want in a relationship. Do not attack him in any way, don't explain how he can change. Just the facts out about what you want. And then ask him if he, honestly, can meet those needs. I think you already know that this relationship is over. The touch aversion is the biggest red flag, in my opinion. Resentment…
/r/RedPillWomen12/07/19 08:47 PM
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From your post I would say that your ex is most definitely NOT a captain. He's a bully. I am so glad you had the courage to get out, be proud of yourself for that. Take time to heal. Take time to discover who you are and who you want to be moving forward. Internet Hugs from a stranger. Xoxo
/r/RedPillWives03/07/19 09:39 PM
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I told him if he doesn't realize what he did this time that I don't want to talk about it. What are you, 12? You're a grown ass woman, if you have a problem, and he's asking you what the problem is, just tell him! Taking upon yourself to sleep on the couch is quite frankly just punishing yourself, and it's a little bit manipulative. Be vulnerable with him instead, tell him you felt insecure about his greeting with this lady. Tell him you're sorry for feeling jealousy, but you can't help it.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 11:00 PM
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A man who owns up to his actions and his mistakes. I've seen way too many men wallow in self pity when something goes wrong, or blame everyone else when a problem arises. It solves nothing and, IMO, is a sign of a weak man. A good captain should be able to apologize when he's done something wrong. He should also be able to solve an issue without anger or panicking.
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/19 07:37 PM
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Yes I see what you're saying, and that must be tough. It's a tough situation anyway and I'm sorry you're having to go through it. Definitely work on the STFU in the moment, and try to bring something up at a more appropriate time, when you know he's not going get defensive. Also remember that though you can definitely be OK with his decision, while still getting what you want. Tell him that "it's fine if we go to your favorite burger joint, but we will have to stop by xyz on the way home so I ca…
/r/RedPillWives02/07/19 07:29 PM
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I said that I could understand why it is hard for him to learn to speak more before he thinks, because his family is not the most considerate, but tried to express confidence that this was a skill he could grow in with practice. This was definitely the wrong thing to say, this was an attack. I understand what you're trying to do, you're trying to help him grow. But I don't think bringing that kind of thing up in an argument is going to help him grow, it's going to make him defensive. Acting hurt…
/r/RedPillWives30/06/19 02:51 PM
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I would highly recommend reading the Surrendered wife. It's not religious based (it might mention it, but I'm also not religious and I don't remember it being). The main take away from the book, in my opinion, is the fact that though can't change him. You can only change yourself. You need to work on yourself, your husband is right. Do some self care. Stop trying to control him or your relationship. Just work on controlling your life. I will add however, that you should ALWAYS be able to say no …
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/19 10:55 PM
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This might get downvoted, but whatever. It's not necessarily anti feminist, it's just different. I have a PhD in Stem field and almost all of my friends from university have gone on to good careers. I am a SAHM, I always knew I wanted to be a SAHM. I submit to my husband. And you know what, they accept that, because it's MY choice. That's the whole point of feminism, it's equality. It's getting to do what you choose to do regardless of sex. One of my friends has a strong career and her husband i…
/r/RedPillWomen24/06/19 01:23 AM
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I think generally speaking you should offer to pay occasionally, or even offer to go Dutch. But always accept graciously if he insists on paying.
/r/RedPillWomen22/06/19 11:46 AM
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I'm already married, but I'll answer anyway. I'm a good Mum, I'm naturally very maternal. I told him when we first met that I wanted kids and I wanted to be a SAHM. Most girls you meet in post grad education are much more career driven - so that was a big thing that I could offer. He wanted his kids to be raised by a SAH parent, preferably the mother. I'm also honest and open, and I listen to what he's saying. We have good conversations and I understand his work (to a certain degree!) I laugh at…
/r/RedPillWomen19/06/19 01:33 AM
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Personally I think that's a good idea. It sounds like you're over analyzing it and making a mountain out of a molehill.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 06:05 PM
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I'm going to go with a different approach here. You say that you've had a sleepy bedroom for several months and yet you've only been together for 2 years! Are you sure this isn't just you both settling down in your relationship after the honeymoon phase? You also mention that you're going to a sex therapist, was that his idea, or yours? Because I can imagine that's quite emasculating. It's also pushing him to open up to a stranger about a very personal subject, is he's really ok with that? I kno…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/19 05:23 PM
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I am grateful for my loving husband. He started a great new job recently with a significant pay rise. We moved to a different state with 2 small children. We now have many more opportunities open to us and I'm really looking forward to the future. I am grateful that I am able to be a SAHM and raise our beautiful and healthy children (age 2.5y and 8m). I am grateful that my husband is a great provider and captain. He takes care of our finances and trusts me on my opinions on how to raise our chil…
/r/RedPillWomen11/06/19 12:20 AM
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I would do it gradually. Tell him that keeping an eye on all of the finances is stressing you out and ask for his help. You can give him the passwords to the bank accounts and tell him it would be a big weight off your mind if he could take care of 'xy&z' this month. As you said, you have a slight buffer. Give him plenty of notice and don't nag. Don't bring it up until it's done. Then remember till thank him for taking care of that for you and see if he offers till do it every month. Don't forge…
/r/RedPillWives06/06/19 07:54 PM
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Practice peaceful parenting Breastfeeding (extended if you can) Teach them respect, respect for their elders, respect for their friends, and most importantly respect for themselves. Teach them body autonomy. Teach them manners, please and thank you, table manners. Teach them humility and how to apologize - make sure you always admit to them when you're wrong. Have realistic expectations for their age. Understand that they will have good and bad days and that's ok. Tell them that you love them ev…
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/19 12:19 AM
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This right here! I completely agree and I think reading The Surrendered Wife would be the best place you start.
/r/RedPillWomen30/05/19 04:54 PM
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Your man is telling you that he loves you and find you sexy. Do you not trust him? These feelings of self doubt are rooted in your feelings of self worth. Let me tell you something, you ARE worth the affections of that gorgeous man on your arm. He WANTS to be your Captain, so trust him. Continue to be the best you can be and continue to bring the best out of him. He can't keep his hands off you because he finds you sexy and you clearly have no problems catering to his needs in the bedroom. He te…
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/19 03:30 AM
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I was 28 and he was 24. I met him through a mutual friend. I made some offhanded double entendre joke and he asked my friend for my number later in that evening. I wasn't sure about it at first because I was due to move back to the UK (we met in Florida) in about 3 months, but I figured why not. We ended up having a long distance relationship (trans-Atlantic long!) for just 2 years until we married in 2015. Best decision of my life. We now live in Indiana together, been married 4 years and have …
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/19 06:01 PM
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29 It's a whirlwind of happiness - try not to forget to keep working out and don't put too much weight on! (Spoilers, I didn't do this! 4 years and 2 kids later and I'm back on the diet...)
/r/RedPillWives16/05/19 06:48 PM
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Wow. What an angry and bitter woman...
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/19 08:31 PM
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I am a SAHM and therefore run the household. My husband works long hours but it's usually home for the weekends. During those time he (of course) wants to help a little bit around the house and spend quality time with the kids. I have to keep myself in check sometimes because he will tidy differently, or do something with the kids that I wouldn't necessarily do, those kind of things. I need to be careful to not tell him he's "doing it wrong" (because it's not wrong, just different!) I also try t…
/r/RedPillWomen27/04/19 10:43 PM
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As a current SAHM to 2 very young children, I find your post extremely ignorant. I would love for you to tell me when I "have all this time" on my hands!! I also do not manage the household finances, that is my husband's job. My husband deals with all of our money and I get an allowance if I need it. I raise our children, I clean our house, I cook our meals. The small amount of time I do get free in any given week is spent on me, time that I need to re-energise. I will say, however, that I am al…
/r/RedPillWomen26/04/19 02:49 AM
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I'm a SAHM/homemaker. My husband deals with all of the finances. When we first got married I suggested that we pool all of our money into a joint account and that he should take responsibility for it (as per suggested in TSW). He jumped at the chance and he likes to be in control of all of our finances. He's told me a number of times since how much he appreciates me letting go of all of that and trusting him with our money/bills. Honestly it was hard for me to do in the past, but now I'm taking …
/r/RedPillWives14/04/19 03:38 AM
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I'm thankful for 2 healthy pregnancies and 2 healthy children. A friend of mine had just found out her 15 week pregnancy is not healthy and she's going through a rough time. Makes me slightly more grateful than usual.
/r/RedPillWomen11/04/19 12:54 AM
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I have a PhD in low temperature physics. I am a very happy SAHM to 2 beautiful children. My husband also has a doctorate and is very successful in his field. He loves that's he's the bread winner, he loves that he is in control of all our finances. He loves that I am raising our children and 'keeping house'. He also loves the fact that we can still have intelligent conversations and we can talk about his work when he needs to.
/r/RedPillWomen07/04/19 01:50 AM
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Have you read the books? It's not about putting your husband is on a pedestal and taking a back seat. It's about realizing that you can't change him or how he acts. You can only change yourself. You can't control him, you can only control yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen04/04/19 02:18 PM
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