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Nah, it’s the consensus of research.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 11:16 AM
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Happy for you! I am very sexually attracted to women but I have never managed to fall in love with one. I wish I could, then the likelihood of me finding a partner I'm physically attracted to would skyrocket.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 01:24 AM
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This is how I feel. Being with someone I'm attracted to > being single > being with someone I'm not attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 01:21 AM
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Barely anyone has "self-discipline." It's a myth.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 01:00 AM
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You're attributing a societal failure to individuals. I'm sure if you think about it for a moment you'll realize that's an error.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:58 AM
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Agreed. I'm fat and I'm not attracted to fat people. Guess I'll be alone forever :shrug: Edit: reading from these statistics I'm actually totally average for an American woman lol
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:42 AM
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Wtf did I just read? I want children. It's better for them if they have two parents instead of one. I'll have kids on my own if I don't meet someone in time, but ugh but nannies are so expensive. I'd rather fall in love and then have a nanny for free!
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:39 AM
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1) I guess at age 30, more than 40 would be "high" 2) As long as it wasn't because he was a sex addict, I would think it's cool. I guess it's a plus because I'm sure he'd have lots of interesting stories to match mine? Though I'd get concerned that our sex drives might not match if it was super high - as long as he was ok with non-monogamy that wouldn't be a problem though. 3) That's silly 4) Nah
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/21 12:37 AM
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I envision the opposite for my life. I can't imagine giving up my career for a child. I hope I meet a guy that can be the primary care taker of the children. If he makes as much money as me, great, we can hire a full time nanny and they can be the primary care taker.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:44 PM
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That doesn't apply to hotness lol. When most people say 7/10 they mean "in the 70th percentile," in this case "hotter than 70% of people."
/r/PurplePillDebate24/10/21 02:39 PM
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In my friend group, at least four of my woman friends outearn their boyfriends. One of them complains about it and she's the most traditional out of the four for sure. The others don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 09:04 PM
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It's literally the top 30%...
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 09:03 PM
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I've done this, but in a corner, not a bathroom stall. Have gotten eaten out in a bathroom stall by someone I already knew though. Also fingered a girl in a club.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 09:00 PM
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Isn't this the norm? Women have to compromise to be in a relationship because as a whole the female population wants a relationship earlier than the male one, therefore attractive men can date slightly younger women, and older women are left with less attractive men.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 08:55 PM
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As a former teenage girl, you're absolutely incorrect.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 08:54 PM
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If it makes you feel any better, I have not one but TWO friends who refuse to take anyone over 5'10. One is 5'3 and one is 4'10. The one that's 5'3 has a boyfriend that's 5'3 also. The one that's 4'10 has a boyfriend that's 5'5. I'm not like this though. 5'3 and if someone's really awesome I'm mot flexible, but preference for 5'9 and taller.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/10/21 08:52 PM
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It’s definitely the norm in my circles, and I’m not interested in dating outside of that.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/10/21 06:08 PM
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That has nothing to do with what I’ve said. Obesity is not due to personal decision making and neither is weight loss. Certain societies eat less “gargantuan amounts of crap” because it’s the norm. The opposite is the norm in the states. But once someone reaches a certain set point because of growing up in that norm, it’s very unlikely they will go under it for a significant amount of time. The body will try everything it can to maintain its excess weight, and on top of that that norm is still a…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 10:22 PM
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Go read Mao and you'll get it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 03:08 PM
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Wow are there still people out there that think others can just "lose weight" despite the masses of scientific literature showing that it's nearly impossible to keep it off? The only successful method for weight loss is drastic surgery and even that only has a long term success rate of under 50%. The war on obesity has been lost. Fat acceptance is the future until we can create a pill that changes our chemistry. Get used to it.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 03:06 PM
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What is a hobby exactly? I don't think I have hobbies. I work full time, am in school on the side, ride my bike for transportation, read periodicals for knowledge, and workout for health. I think of a hobby as something one does for pure pleasure. There's nothing in my life like that besides cooking and hanging out with friends, and those activities are too universal to be called "hobbies." I guess I have my plants. Sure, I tend to my plants as a hobby.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 03:00 PM
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You asked a question. I answered it. Those values are no longer the norm. You're welcome to have them, but you shouldn't wonder why most of society will be "bothered" by them.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 02:52 PM
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It's just a type of body. No need to get offended at different people's bodies.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/21 02:51 PM
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It is ok to be fat, you buffoon
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 07:55 PM
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Doesn't both us, it's just silly. Get with the program, those days are over.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/21 02:12 PM
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Based.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/21 11:27 AM
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Woman here. Literally all my friends are couples. They're all in relationships, they're all pretty average, they're all pretty well-adjusted. We all see each other usually once or twice a week.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 03:01 AM
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You've gotten "recent years" older. The older you get, the more women leave Tinder because they're looking for something serious, but the guys stay.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:59 AM
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I prefer open relationships so I don't really believe in "cheating" unless there's some deception/secrecy. But if I had a partner that wanted to be monogamous, I would absolutely respect that and would never betray them. So why would I cheat? I wouldn't.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:58 AM
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What you're saying sounds like utopia - less economic growth means less environmental damage. Swoon!
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:48 AM
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This post is literally about CHILDREN.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/09/21 02:45 AM
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Because I assumed your conversations with these women are negative? You’re right, I shouldn’t assume.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 11:52 PM
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Literally just someone that I want to have sex with and that I want to spend time with, and that will put in equal effort into building a relationship, a home, and a family. Edit: if you’re asking what personality traits do men I want to spend time with tend to have? Smart, reasonable (not hot tempered), communicative, confident, and has ideology I can at least have a conversation with.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:39 PM
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I mean, there are all kinds of attraction. Attraction is whatever draws you to a person.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:36 PM
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Hate to say this but I’m gonna bet you feel this way precisely because you don’t have experience with women. My last relationship was with a sensitive little emo boy (tall though!) that cried in front of me multiple times. I found it endearing and loved that I could be the one to comfort him a bit. He is a sweetheart. You, on the other hand, sound like a drain. I imagine your conversations with these new friends develop into a spiral of negativity. I have a friend like this and while I’m glad to…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:34 PM
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Even my level of fatness is rated as less attractive for most men, but that’s what I think a lot of people here don’t get. Just because someone lacks the body type that’s the MOST attractive to another person doesn’t mean that they aren’t attracted to them as well. Most men have a preference for normal sized women, but at least half of them are also attracted to women clearly in the overweight or even the edge of obese BMI (like myself). I’m speaking about in the US -and Europe- course it’s diff…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 10:25 PM
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There's a good amount in my face I think, but they even do it when I'm wearing a mask. Some men are attracted to larger women - it's a fact. Much more than people on this sub seem to think. Especially when they have exaggerated hourglass figures like me.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 09:24 PM
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175 on a good day :)
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 08:26 PM
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Good take.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:44 PM
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Ugh, I wish I could give off those vibes. A couple week ago I got cat-called three times in one day. I flipped out on the last guy and he literally went running.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:43 PM
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I keep hearing this but it doesn't match up to my lived experience at all. I am overweight and unfortunately I get catcalled at least once a week. When I was younger it was even worse. No, none of these rude men are attractive to me, but they are attracted to me, so to say all fat women are ugly to men is silly. I also get politely hit on in public once a month. A couple months ago I was literally in the middle of eating what as left of a messy falafel, hovering over the trash can as tahini drop…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/21 06:40 PM
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Ah there we go. Not sure if 90% is true but at least that's some kind of qualifier. You're on your way to more accurate language, buddy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:15 PM
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I’m not asking you to care. I’m asking you not to say “women do not like younger men at all.” It depends on the woman and on the culture. My mom is 4 years older than my dad by the way, and my mom’s best friend is 6 years older than her husband!
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:44 AM
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Nah, I am not attracted to older men, period. All my dating apps are set to 6 years younger than me and 2 years older than me, begrudgingly. I’ve never slept with someone more than 3 years older than me, but I’ve slept with people 9 years younger than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:20 AM
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Your first paragraph proved my point and then you came back to harping on evolutionary process. Everything you said in your last paragraph isn’t consequential because of what you’ve illustrated in your fist paragraph. Why does the reason why boobs evolved important here?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:18 AM
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I upvoted and then un-upvoted lol. Broke even
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:13 AM
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Actually I dated only women for two years, so I have. Has a girlfriend and everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:13 AM
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And doing it to someone you don’t know is degrading. They’re trying to go about their business and you feel the need to make them stop to listen to you say something about their body. The vast majority of women do not want to hear compliments from strangers unless that is appropriate in the context.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 10:12 AM
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If you were posting a pic whose purpose was to get compliments, then no. But if you were posting a pic for some other purpose, then yeah, why should people say sexual comments to you without your consent?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:10 AM
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But we aren't talking about whether or not partnership is a joke. We are talking about choosing a partner. We are talking about whether women are more picky than men when it comes to looks, for the purposes of selecting a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:07 AM
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No, I claim that they are not inherently more sexual than other aspects of the body. Currently they are sexualized, but if women ran around topless as much as men, we'd become desensitized. It's like hair in societies where women cover their heads vs. in societies where they don't. They were genetically selected because females with those features were more likely to survive and reproduce. So were a lot of things we don't care about today, which is why I'm saying it doesn't really matter for the…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:05 AM
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So people post for the purpose of meeting other swingers? Sounds like it's not an environment where the purpose of posting is to get compliments. Very different than GGW or the like where the whole point is exhibitionism.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 02:00 AM
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You know you don't have to see them? Just decrease your age range.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:47 AM
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Obeying your parents or your future. Your choice.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:45 AM
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Do you do procedures? I was thinking of getting a little shaved off the frontal lobe. Maybe something I can do on my lunch break?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:43 AM
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Most women feel the same way. Look around you. Most men are average. Most men wind up married.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:42 AM
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Was it a sex site that functions in a way that people post pictures of themselves and users comment on the pictures?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:41 AM
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Explain why it matters.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:40 AM
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Men like you make me want to cut my tits off.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:31 AM
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Upvoted for mentioning Asimov. Downvoted for suggesting that tits are inherently sexual. If women walked around with tits out just like men do, their allure would be on par with men's chests to women. They're sexualized because they're hidden and forbidden.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:30 AM
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THEY HAVE GIVEN CONSENT. THAT IS THE KEY DIFFERENCE.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:26 AM
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It's not just boobs, it's anything. Why would you compliment a stranger in public? I would find it incredibly degrading. All the more so an "intimate" part of the body. Whenever a guy says something about my ass in public I literally want to maul him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:24 AM
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Sure what? Do you want me to, like, show you a picture lol?
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:17 AM
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That's a great way to put it. Fortunately I've encountered very few men like this in bed, and each time was the only time.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:14 AM
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Women are hoe. Also, women have no sex drive. Make it make sense. Also not sure where you're getting the idea that women are virtually asexual? I have a normal sex drive. All the women I've slept with have a normal sex drive as far as I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:12 AM
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Are you attracted to women's intelligence rather than looks? Also I'm amazed at the non-ironic use of sapiosexual in the wild. Got transported back to 2012 for a sec.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 01:08 AM
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I've got a guy friend who is bald, 5'3, not rich by any means, and has been dating one of my smartest, prettiest, funniest friends for over a year. Honestly, I don't get it, but she's happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:59 AM
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And people like you are killing hyperbole.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/09/21 12:58 AM
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Weird flex. I'm attracted to younger men. Never dated someone older than me (though I'm open to it - like max 2 years older)
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 05:18 PM
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Great advice! Sex is enjoyable and we should enjoy our lives.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 05:15 PM
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I know my dating prospectives will be different because I've cycled the same weight on and off for over a decade. Of course it's physically possible. But so are a lot of things that the average person doesn't have the willpower to do, so it's kinda besides the point. I've done many physically and mentally difficult things in my life - parents being too poor to give us xmas presents, bootcamp in combat unit, moving to different countries not knowing a soul - and I can tell you that nothing I have…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/09/21 12:15 AM
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I don't understand what you're getting at
/r/PurplePillDebate13/09/21 05:18 PM
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I also lost the weight a few times, just gained it back every time. The body really really wants to get back to its highest weight. Each time it becomes more and more difficult to resist everything my body is telling me. Who knows, maybe next time it’ll stick? I used to jog 3-5x a week but had to stop because it was grating cartilage off my mis-aligned kneecap. Doctor said no more running after walking into the room and expecting to see a 75 year old based on the xrays. I do break a sweat on the…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:48 PM
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Tried it, couldn’t manage to stick to it. You must have the self control of the 10%. Very happy for you
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:38 PM
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If 90% of people lack that self control then it’s the norm. Stop eating carbs and exercise more? Wow, what novel advice that I’ve never ever heard before.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:37 PM
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I almost never ate pastries in the US - I only started when I moved to Europe. I was raised without sugary cereals, soda, or any dessert and even today only drink soda maybe twice a year. I just don’t have a taste for these things. Pastries transcended my upbringing somehow. Your reply is filled with inaccurate assumptions. I mean I’ve eaten a Cinnabon maybe five times in my entire life. It might do you good to ask questions instead of making assertions about people you don’t know. One assumptio…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:36 PM
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Nah I loved the guys with makeup in the video
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 08:31 PM
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I mean who cares about me? Just putting some data out there. By tall I mean probably 5'9+. Anything more is bonus. Oh I noticed you legit asked my opinion. Wearing "women's" clothing is next level. I'm not against it, but it doesn't do anything for me. It's more the pretty-boy face, lack of body hair, no big beard, maybe some nail polish. I like a feminine tinge, especially with personality traits like sensitivity, sweetness, tact. Mix that with confidence and wit and I'm ded.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:25 PM
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I'm from the US and actually gained 20 pounds when I moved to Europe 5 years ago (so many good pastries, so cheap, so available!) and haven't been able to lose it. Now I'm back in the US. Before the pandemic I rode my bike 1.5 hours a day to work (don't drive, don't live in a driving city, too hot or too cold I take the subway). But with lockdown I didn't go to the office for year and gained another 15 pounds by sitting at home all day. Offices finally opened back up a couple months ago and now …
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:24 PM
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Hell yeah I love feminine men swoon. Still like 'em tall though. Sorry. I like long, lanky limbs.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:19 PM
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Lol "get fit." I mean, I can't blame you, not everyone keeps up with scientific studies. It's nearly impossible for someone to lose weight and keep it off. Over 90% of people who do gain it back. How many of us are lucky to be in the 5-10% of human beings with exceptional fortitude? Considering I've been trying to lose weight for 15 years, it's unlikely that I'm in that group.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 03:14 PM
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Where do you live? I'm in a big metro area in the US, all my friends are in their early 30's/late 20's, and only one couple has a kid.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:56 PM
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Not having any of these issues I wonder why I'm single. Oh wait this is PPD - it's because I'm overweight.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:52 PM
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I don't understand what you're getting at here. The premise of the post was that if online dating declines, single people will have to meet other single people through their friend group. I was saying that I hope that it doesn't, because I never meet single people through my friend group.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 01:19 PM
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This post was written by Michael.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/09/21 12:31 AM
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I don't understand how solitude relates to friends here. Yeah, when I first met my friend group all of them were coupled except me and another girl. Now she's got a bf too. The group is basically seven couples and picky old me lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 09:10 PM
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God I hope not. Literally all of my local friends are coupled. Every single one. They don't know single people at all. I'll never meet someone through them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 08:41 PM
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I've never been fond of vibrators and don't own one. While they feel intense, the actual intensity of the orgasm doesn't increase for me, only the speed. The few times I've used one I've been left desensitized, which is unpleasant. I understand that they are vital for some people with clits/vaginas, but in my case it's just overstimulation without reward. People of any sex can get used to toys that feel better than other humans. I don't have any idea how common this is for women, but I'm guessin…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 08:36 PM
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Ah now you change your tune. Calling someone who is 15 pounds over the "normal" BMI "chubby" is debatable but at least not hilariously off-base like the "obese" you kept doubling down on. Glad you could listen to reason. Ciao <3
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 07:29 PM
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Sounds like you're talking about the BMI? Even by your own metric, as a 145 5'3 person I was exactly 4 pounds into the "overweight" category. "Normal" is up to 141 for my height. 170 is the very start of the "obese" category so unless you use totally different math than the rest of us and 145=169 then, no. In those pics I was around 160, which is "overweight" according to BMI, but still not borderline obese.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 05:19 PM
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https://i.kym-cdn.com/entries/icons/original/000/014/285/sideeyechloe.jpg
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 05:14 PM
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I was an F cup and had wide hips and big thighs from commuting by bike, but I was not fat. Some people are naturally muscular. Here's a picture of me at age 25 or so, maybe 155-160 pounds. If you think this is "borderline obese" then you've got issues :P https://imgur.com/a/H38WICc Edit: another one around the same time, maybe 160 pounds...omg so fat!!! https://imgur.com/a/PAhQn2G
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:15 PM
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I'm 5'3 and as a fit teenager with 0 belly or muffin top and my collar bones sticking out, I was 145. Sub 120 I would have looked sickly and probably lost my period. Different people are built differently - sub 120 being a healthy weight for any woman that height is nonsense.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 03:06 PM
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A job can't just fire you and hire someone half your age because they feel like it. If a job does want to let you go, they have to pay you 'redundancy' money (which can be a huge amount) You obviously do not live in the USA. Companies can fire anyone for practically any reason, and severance is not legally mandated. There is no redundancy money.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/09/21 02:55 PM
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I've never understood why Chris Pratt is considered attractive. Just not my type I guess.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 08:28 PM
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I took the quiz and I'm right at the Progressive party. I guess it's as close to socialism as the US can fathom.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 08:20 PM
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I think the question is flawed. It assumes that reasonable standards (which we could define as "standards that will yield many options") are more desirable than unreasonable standards ("standards that will not yield many options"). It's not desirable to lower one's standards only to get into relationships with people they aren't attracted to. It's more desirable to maintain unreasonable standards and remain single. But for data, here are my standards as a short hourglass chubster that's (probabl…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 06:59 PM
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Nice being the 1% of something I guess
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 06:31 PM
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I said "potential"
/r/PurplePillDebate08/09/21 03:03 AM
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Oh I'm totally in favor of leaving your money out of it. And everyone's money. I'm in favor of a money-less society. But until then, we are all in this together and your, my money, and everyone's money should indeed pull to provide healthcare for everyone.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/09/21 12:20 AM
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It's not a slippery slope - we are talking about the boundaries of one's own body. It is a literal parasitical relationship, not a metaphorical parasitical relationship like you are talking about. Also, with modern technology and the morning after pill there is really jo justification why abortions are even needed I'm sure you're forgetting that no form of birth control is 100% effective. The morning after pill is for when you know or suspect preventative measures have failed, but many people be…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 10:15 PM
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It's not defenseless. It's literally feeding off of someone else's body. If the other person doesn't consent to that, then it is quite literally a parasite. Killing it is self defense.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 09:44 PM
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If we can protect some stupid plant or an insect from going extinct we can sure as hell deem that all human life is worth protecting. We protect the survival of these plants and insects on the level of species, not individuals. This comparison could only possibly apply once humans become an endangered species. You have rights and it is the duty of our modern civilization to make good in upholding your rights Glad you mentioned that. I have a right over my body. The government can't even harvest …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 09:28 PM
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Why go through all that money and trouble instead of just killing it?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 07:14 PM
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Do you believe that consenting to sex also entails consenting to getting pregnant? Yes, you consent to the possibility of getting pregnant, just like you consent to the possibility of catching a disease, bothering the neighbors, or getting less sleep. And if one of those possibilities comes true, say, you do get an unwanted disease, you can get some antibiotics. If you get an unwanted pregnancy, you can get an abortion. Do you think abortion until birth is good or bad? Good. Unwanted fetuses are…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 07:14 PM
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I prefer dating other bisexuals because they don't tend to suffer from the same degree of gender role bullshit as straight people. Having sex with someone of your own gender removes the ability to rely on gender norms and roles, and that's liberating.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 02:05 PM
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As a bi woman, I would be over the moon to date a bi guy. Ultimate dream. Maximum threesome potential.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 02:02 PM
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I prefer to be in non-monogamous relationships but am happy to compromise. I'd be monogamous if that was really important to my hypothetical partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 02:00 PM
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I don't see this in my friends but I see it in me, and I'm the only perpetually single one. I usually go on a date every week or two but am never both physically and intellectually attracted to the guy. I'm not attractive enough to attracted the ones I'm into. I will certainly never be in a relationship with someone I'm not attracted to, so I've resigned to being single forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:57 PM
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Well I did have other options, but this was convenient, low effort, lucrative.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:39 PM
1

I mean hopefully forever! Once I find a partner I hope to continue to fool around, but I should have put more effort into finding a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/09/21 01:39 PM
1

I dunno I think she's cute? To each their own.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:17 AM
1

But they did get to eat, just virtually. Sure, not the same as IRL but that can be an asset. Sometimes we want someone "real" but with the distance of the virtual.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:17 AM
2

Bummer.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/08/21 12:15 AM
4

Ok but where the hell do I find a guy I can watch gay porn with?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:31 PM
2

Before the pandemic when I used to cycle commute and do yoga - 20. Now that I'm a sloth that never exercises - 10.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:29 PM
1

Wait why do you shower before the hike though?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:28 PM
1

I did it for the money and easily made peace with knowing I would never become a politician.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:25 PM
2

What portion do you think are cynically doing it mostly for money? I did it, briefly, purely for the money. However I was not "cynical" about it. I figured I was generating income by adding a little bit of happiness to a stranger's day. It's not as if I was doing something dirty like being a hedge fund manager.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:24 PM
1

I'm saying your scale is way off. You must just not take the different degrees of ugly people into consideration when you create your mental scale.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:17 PM
1

And I thought I was a cougar for going for guys 1-5 years younger than me lol. My therapist says I should be looking at older men but I don't find myself drawn to them :/
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:16 PM
1

You must just not notice people on the street that are under 5 then. This person is a 5 if you deleted all the people actually under 5.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:09 PM
1

On what planet was she a 5 to begin with?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:07 PM
2

There are certain countries where the average man is 5'4
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:03 PM
1

I dunno why you all are speculating so much when you can just observe that HELLO GAY MEN EXIST.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:00 PM
1

I'd give it 4.5/5 stars. The only issue in my mind is that our physical bodies have not caught up with our more abstract liberties. I might have focused on finding a partner a little earlier instead of fooling around if I would have considered that it's slim pickings in our 30's, and my ovaries won't be around forever.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 10:00 PM
1

Hell yeah
/r/PurplePillDebate29/08/21 09:56 PM
1

If I'm an outlier then all of my friends are also outliers. Apparently there are enough outliers that men who cry should be able to find women that don't care.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 05:15 PM
1

And you're basing this claim on what, exactly? I'm basing my claims on decades of lived experience and observations of my women friends' experiences. This covers six cities, three countries, and hundreds of people. Of course I have gravitated to certain social circles throughout my life and they will skew differently than yours, but these blanket statements are simply laughable.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:31 PM
6

This is just laughable. What are you basing these claims on? People want casual sex with hot, confident people. In the casual sex domain, people don't want their partner to be emotionally needy because they're not there to give emotional support. Many guys would also be turned off by a woman suddenly being vulnerable and sharing TMI in a casual setting.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:29 PM
3

Very interesting rhetorical strategy you have there. I respond to someone's blanket statement of "X applies to all women" with "X does not apply to all women, instead, Y applies to at least some women"...and you reply with "actually, Y doesn't apply to all women."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:26 PM
1

The statement I was responding to was "this works on all women" not "this tends to work more on demure, feminine women."
/r/PurplePillDebate15/08/21 01:25 PM
1

I think it's important that we be honest here. Indeed, which is why I'm going to be honest and say that a man who acts stoic would not be attractive to me nor any of my close friends. So I'm coming from a place of being a woman, knowing lots of women, knowing the kind of guys those women have been interested in and what kind of guys they are in relationships in. You're coming from..."I think it works on all women."
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 06:03 PM
4

Sure, just decide my experiences aren't valid. I guess that helps reinforce this imaginary dichotomy you've created. I hope you see through it someday <3
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:27 PM
3

timid, defensive, and needy Strawman argument. No one is saying men should act like this. Wanting a normal level of emotional support doesn't make a person needy, it's wanting a high level of emotional support unendingly that does.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:05 PM
4

Same here. Guys crying is normal. I'd never date a guy that was afraid to express his emotions.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:03 PM
2

This is the norm in my social circles. You are in the wrong circles is this is what you are looking for. Last time a guy cried I totally swooned and fell for him. It was amazing that he felt comfortable enough with me to express his true emotions, and it made me think much more highly of him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:03 PM
0

Of course people can be emotionally stable and still experience normal human emotions like frustration, anger, and sadness. Also why would I want to see my hypothetical bf as a "masculine man that can protect me?" Ew.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:01 PM
2

Why would that turn me off? I'd love how vulnerable he was being and would want to nurture and comfort him.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 05:00 PM
3

It works on a specific type of woman. If you want that kind of woman, I guess go at it?
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:59 PM
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A LOT of women lose attraction over the slightest loss of frame, sometimes to the point where it seems they want somebody who almost shows no "human" traits at all. Dude, you are in the wrong social circles. This is not real life.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/08/21 04:59 PM
1

34 F and I regularly enjoyed it up until the lockdown
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 05:30 PM
1

Yes. That's practically all this guy has going for him, as far as I can tell. He treats her well and listens, and apparently that does it for her.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:00 PM
2

Ugh I know. Why can't I find a guy like this? I see bi men lament being stuck in a straight monogamous marriage and I'm just like WHERE ARE YOU PEOPLE!?!?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 12:59 PM
1

I envy women who are able to do that.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:09 AM
1

I have a cartoonishly feminine, short, pudgy figure and my style is decidedly girly, but I'm anything but demure and can be quite dominant (personality wise). I work in an industry that's probably 90% male but have typical feminine interests and love to cook and entertain company. So I guess if I were a guy I would be tall and exaggeratedly masculine in body type and attire, but have many typically feminine personality traits. I'd have typical masculine interests but work in a woman-dominated in…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 02:02 AM
-2

One of my best friends who I think is gorgeous, smart, and interesting is dating someone who is sweet but not really her equal (literally shorter than her - she's 5'4 and he's 5'3). When I asked why she loves him it was mostly about him treating her well. So, yeah. More women are looking for relationships than men. Just don't be an asshole and apparently you can get a gf.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/08/21 01:46 AM
1

I'm planning on starting a family on my own. Of course my changes of meeting someone will decrease but it could happen. I guess I'll just date divorced people :)
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 09:54 PM
1

If he insisted on paying and I wanted to see him again I would let him on the condition that i pay next time. But I don’t understand your rationale - “I truly enjoyed your company and it is my pleasure as a man” - why couldn’t I also truly enjoy someone’s company and it’s my pleasure as a woman?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:43 AM
1

Haha cute but that’s not what I meant
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 10:41 AM
1

If it's so simple then why is 70% of the country overweight? If it wasn't hard, everyone would do it.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/08/21 01:25 AM
1

Oh that's awesome, good for you. Of course I have these avenues but you can't really compare skin care and dressing better to weight loss. I've done some difficult things in life but nothing is as difficult as weight loss.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:40 PM
1

Not sure there's been a journey - I stumbled upon TRP subreddit years ago, and now after many years of relationship experience, I am even more convinced than ever that most of it does not reflect my reality nor the reality of my friends. The things they said I would grow to want, I never did.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:36 PM
1

I don't want a submissive man. I don't want anyone to be submissive or dominant. I want an egalitarian relationship. I find it extremely hard to believe that 95% of women want a dominant man. Maybe my circles are just very different from the norm, but all my friends are partnered and not a single one of them has a dominant partner. Edit: also, none of my guy friends in this group are over 5'10. One of them is 5'3 and another is 5'5. They are in happy relationships with two of my shorter women fr…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:33 PM
1

I'm female ENTJ
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:17 PM
4

Per usual skewed introvert because reddit. Missed this poll but I guess I'm the only woman ENTJ here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 08:17 PM
1

You're equating them as being in the same category of ideas, not as being the same idea. That category of ideas is "concepts that could be defined through this chart of emotions."
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:49 PM
2

It does detract because you are comparing "submission" to "love" and both of them to a list of emotions. Love is often thought of as an emotion or feeling, but submission is not. These two are not comparable.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:45 PM
2

Thanks <3
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:37 PM
5

It's not about "happiness," it's about existential dread. I need to pass on my genes before I die.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:33 PM
8

I would choose option 1 because that's what I'm planning on doing anyway, only with a sperm bank. It would save me the thousands, maybe tens of thousands of dollars that it's going to cost me to get pregnant.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:30 PM
2

You can think of anything as an "experience." Submission is an action. The rest of these ideas are not.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:25 PM
5

Submission is not an emotion or an experience, it's a pattern of behavior.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:03 PM
1

We care about it because this data was evaluated before data privacy was part of the mainstream discourse, and when OKC was the top free app. We probably won't get insights like this from any other app in the future because of ethics and liability considerations.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:55 PM
1

The study doesn't show how many messages there are total, it compares the percentage of messages from men that go to the most attractive vs average vs least attractive women. Supply doesn't matter here, it's about the relative distribution.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:01 PM
4

Society may go in the direction of more people being single. More men will learn to thrive without a partner the way many women already do. It won't be the downfall of society.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 01:59 PM
2

The analysis showed that too many men are chasing too few women on the apps. Like or message, it’s saying that if they broadened their scope as much as the women, they would get more matches.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:22 AM
2

I hope you maintain, but statistically, the majority of people don’t manage to. Sounds like you’re pretty determined so maybe you’ll beat the odds! I’m not food addicted, fortunately. But I did gain 20 lbs since 2020 as my activity levels changed, and had about 20 to lose before that too. I’m working on it. But honestly, I romantically attract enough people that I am physically attracted to anyway…I’m just quite picky in other ways as well. Increasing my pool will be helpful but I’m not sure wou…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:20 AM
2

Yes, that’s what I’m doing (though I don’t intend to be celibate, just probably single). But why is it a “problem?”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 10:14 AM
1

This was from the old okcupid where anyone could message anyone
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:08 AM
2

I’m glad you had success in self improvement! My history of physical self improvement is like most people - yo-yoing constantly. Maybe the next time it will somehow stick.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 03:00 AM
2

Actually, I have anecdotal evidence that this wouldn’t work for me. When lockdown began, I didn’t sleep with anyone for four months. I didn’t even meet a new person IRL. At one point I couldn’t take it anymore (and the peak was over) and went on the apps and slept with some guy who I wasn’t particularly attracted to. I did this again the next week with a different guy, and another after that. Being celibate for four months didn’t make them any more appealing when I actually slept with them, it w…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/21 02:42 AM
3

Even if that’s true it doesn’t really matter
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 10:49 PM
2

This has to be satire. Also, I don't like masculine men, not that there's anything wrong with being one. Gimme a femboy any day.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:56 PM
2

You must have me mistaken for someone else, because that's not what I'm looking for. Why would I need a man to provide for me when I make six figures?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 09:34 PM
3

You're right, it is possible in theory, and I'm sure some people have done it. But let's not call casual sex "someone using you for your body." It's people engaging in an activity they enjoy together.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:17 PM
2

Worst case a man approaches women he's not thrilled about rather than be single I feel like plenty of people end up doing this, but it just doesn't appeal to me. I'm already satisfied with my life, so someone would have to significantly add to it for a relationship to be worth it.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 07:00 PM
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One assumes you are sleeping with men out of your league and that could potentially hinder you by making that your baseline reference for sexual experiences. Why would it be in my interest to reduce my baseline if it's great? Have you told your therapist that you'd like to try and conquer your unhealthy attraction to men out of your league physically? I don't consider it "unhealthy" - most people are attracted to people out of their league. I guess it would be nice to be attracted to more people…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 06:57 PM
2

Not a serious one
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 06:31 PM
1

I'm flexible with the parameters
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 06:23 PM
3

I tried mostly just by dating them/sleeping with them until I realized it isn't pleasant. I have also been in therapy for a year. Why would I be celibate?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 06:22 PM
5

Years of trying to make myself be attracted to people I'm not?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:41 PM
4

It would be nice if I could, but we can't help who we're attracted to.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:31 PM
2

I meant a woman that doesn't want a traditional relationship. Having that kind of man "flocking to" her isn't useful.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 04:29 PM
10

I know I'm not as attractive as I used to be, but I don't find people that are my level of attractiveness to be attractive, and I won't date someone I'm not attracted to. No big deal though - it would be nice to have a partner but I don't feel like I need one.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:56 PM
2

Why would a woman do that if she is repulsed by those things? I wouldn't want to be with a man that was attracted to those traits.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:48 PM
2

What is the meaning of this tautology. What does it mean to be "treated like" a man or a woman? I want to be treated like an equal partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:48 PM
1

That's not modern
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:42 PM
2

I still always try to split, but if the guy absolutely insists AND I want to see him again, then I'll do exactly that.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 01:32 PM
1

More direct than saying you want to see her again?
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:11 AM
-4

Lol not you you, "one" you
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/21 12:07 AM
0

If this is true then they would jump at the chance to loyally set their friend up with a quality guy. Sounds like you're not a quality guy.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:03 PM
0

"All you need to do is be kind and respectful and dress well, then women will want to date you!". It's not that "women" will want to date you, it's that the specific women that would want to date you if they wouldn't have been put off by your disrespect and shlumpy look will now want to date you.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 10:01 PM
1

But why do you feel like you should pay? Why would you insist on it?
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:57 PM
1

Absolutely no shame - just in case it sounded like I was insinuating that. Being a stay at home parent and homemaker is totally valid.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:56 PM
4

Interesting how different people are. I would feel disgusted if a man said that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:38 PM
19

That's exactly why I don't allow men to pay for dates.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:35 PM
3

I wasn't expecting the content of this post when I saw the title. I see a big deal of men paying for dates but from the other side - I don't want to feel a power or resource imbalance on a date. If a man pays for me, an imbalance has been created, whether or not he minds doing so. He has exerted more of himself towards our two hour experience together than I have. Even if he doesn't feel like I owe him anything, social norms dictate that favors are returned, and I don't want to feel obligated to…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 09:21 PM
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I don't understand what you're implying.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 04:31 PM
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What's my general marketplace value? Probably a 6? The ratio of men who have wanted to date me but I only wanted them as friends or fwbs vs the other way around has been heavily in my favor. However for the kind of men I'm interested in, more like a 4. I tend to be drawn to snotty, over-educated men and they tend to seek the similarly high achievers, which I am not.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/21 02:01 AM
1

What do you mean? I think being attracted to someone is a given.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/21 12:16 AM
1

Wouldn’t be a deal breaker but I would be a bit disappointed haha. Hopefully we could invite a friend over and do it to him instead though?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 01:45 PM
1

puts equal effort into maintaining the tidiness of the house wants an open relationship is generally happy in life and emotionally stable physically speaking, is tall and lean with little body hair, and is not very muscular is also bisexual is intellectually engaging and shares my sense of humor i don’t care about his salary as long as we have enough to raise kids in a HCOL area. If his contribution equated to less than the cost of day care or a nanny, and he didn’t love his job, it would make s…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:57 AM
1

I wouldn’t mind someone out earning me, then we could afford a full time nanny. But someone staying home with the hypothetical kids would be great too. I’m not talking about a guy who’s “aspiring” to be a stay at home dad…more like I have a demanding full time job and am I’m drawn to artists, writers, etc, and it would probably make more sense for them to be the primary care taker than me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/21 11:38 AM
2

My record is three people (separately) in one day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:44 PM
0

What happens if women eventually collectively decide that abortions are as culturally acceptable as getting a boob job? I'd say it is MORE acceptable than getting a boob job. Having an abortion is no big deal. I've had one, many of my friends have had one. I took a pill and viola, expelled that unwelcome fetus within an hour. Easy peasy, 10/10 would abort again.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:43 PM
7

I would love a house husband
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 09:26 PM
0

all they have to do to fix it This is, statistically, an almost impossible feat. But besides that, this is a silly comment. People who are not conventionally attractive know that there are fewer people attracted to them than people who are conventionally attractive.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/21 07:20 PM
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