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| 1 | What are ways to build confidence and how to show it?Confidence is an expression of strength. Confidence is having only insignificant insecurities. Confidence is not having need for validation. In this condition you naturally let your good personality traits shine forth. Confidence can be built primarily by obtaining validation, first and foremost validation from women. Also validation from friends. Also validation from people you look up to (such as parents or a teacher). Also validation from social success and impressing your surroundings. Also … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/22 09:49 PM |
| 1 | Women need to give men more chances for a while before ghosting them out forever...A ‘personality’ is not really a thing in this context, I’d say. It’s the ways that you use your personality traits and the way that you can show them and the whole way you wanna aproach a conversation on a date. Most men (as well as women!) are hopelessly cluesless as to what makes a woman interested in a man when he’s on a date with her. I mean, a guy can have so many good traits that women desire and get attracted to, and most men do in fact have them, but if he doesn’t know how to carry himse… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/22 08:52 PM |
| 2 | Women need to give men more chances for a while before ghosting them out forever...Dude. Have to tell you, I think it’s got little to nothing to do with your looks and instead to do with your game. Generally, if they’re on a date with you then you’ve already passed the looks-test. It might be easier for you to blame it on looks, but on the other hand you can actually change so much about your game amd get much better. My comment here about looks was applied to OLD apps. Women don’t care that much about looks irl (it’s waaaay more important on the apps), and if she’s taken time… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/07/22 08:37 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Exactly. It’s constructed with gamification. I read that Tinder is the highest grossing app in the world that is not a gaming app. And them I thought, well Tinder is also a gaming app lol. Every match feels like a win. There are some one billion swipes per day globally or something, and the swiping is what generates all the ad revenue for the company. Its design is focused entirely on making you wanna swiiiiipe, not on makkng you wanna chat. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/07/22 10:18 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I hope you’re right. And for me this thing also has to do with one of my fav subjects, ‘masculinity’. The ways in which ‘masculinity’ finds expression varies from culture to culture, but I still think masculinity should be treated as an abstract constant itself. It’s just its expressions that change. For example not crying. That has in most cultures been one agreed upon expression of masculinity, but that has changed to a certain degree (there are still only certain things men can cry about and … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)It is so fascinating times. As it is now for 35+ ppl here in northern europe and especially here in denmark in the big cities you get the new phenomenon that there are more high earning women who can’t find a partner due to the lack of available high earning men. These women apparantly in general don’t want a man who has a lower education and wage than herself. Likewise, the men in general apparantly also prefer that his woman earns less than him. Therefore there are record numbers of high earni… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 21/07/22 11:16 AM |
| 0 | Women need to give men more chances for a while before ghosting them out forever...Lol sounds about right. However, for women ‘looks’ is not quite the same as for men, I’d argue. Meaning that for men it’s more simply the actual shape of her body, signalling how fit it is for baby making and surviving. While for women a man’s looks is also a signal about his personality traits. And therefore a man’s ‘good looks’ are also very dependant upon how he carries himself with body language and the movements of his facial features as his talks. All these things about his ‘looks’ are con… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Well, I dont know you, but you seem very level headed and with a very healthy and positive attitude in general, and imo that will make for an important foundation for one’s life, so keep that up! Everyone at your age have those feelings of anxiety for the future to some degree, I’d think, that’s standard. But as you point out, taking care of oneself is incredibly important in order to stay as attractive as possible as one ages. Ppl gain lots of attractiveness simply from their youthfulness alone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:30 PM |
| 2 | Online dating is where low quality, leftover women (such as very overweight women, single mothers, those with mental issues) go to find prince charming and mr perfect, in an environment where men outnumber women by 3 to 1How are all women in the world categorized into these two categories of “high quality, attractive, mentally stable” and “low quality, lefterovers”?😂 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:55 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Thx alot and keep enjoying things:) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)For me irl dating post 30 has been absolutely mindblowing. I’m not gonna brag about my conquests on here, but let me say that in the hookup scene I’m having all the fun I could ever hope for lol. OLD not so much, that’s all different. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:18 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)It’s an incredibly mixed bag. I get everything from young 5-9’s to 50 yo 5-9’s. I guess you gotta use that (horrible) 1-10 rating scale for different age groups for the scale to make sense. Most of them in general regardless of age are prolly 6-8’s. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:15 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I’m 43 and have my age range to 25-50. There are tons and tons and tons of users 30+ as well as 40+. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:05 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Yeah, I dunno, dating is never easy, especially not for the majority of ppl who are below 8, and therefore OLD will never be easy either. I wonder what the age spread is for all tinder users. Whether it’s mostly young ppl or not. I also thought of an idea making a dating app based on video clips! That there had to be one small video clip of the person where he/she presents him/herself one way or another, getting creative and all. That could immediately give a completely different impression of t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I agree all around, nobody is entitled to anything from another person. I’m simply making this post cuz I’m curious about is how one might analyze hypothetically fix the problem which I think is there. The problem I see is not that I don’t get with hot chicks, but I can see from many comments here that this is how it’s perceived. I’m doing very well personally both OLD and (especially) irl. But I do see a general problem, which I’m trying to describe. I’ve seen plenty of women’s tinder profiles,… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 06:27 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Tinder used to be just a hookup app, today it’s just as much a ltr dating app and designed as such. You soecifically described it as an app designed for women to get anonymous sex without their friends knowing. Seems like a bizarre description to me. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 06:15 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Would still say that’s a randomly narrow way to define OLD. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Thx, I see what you’re saying. I was perhaps also making a parody of the thing in order to get my point across. Of course average women don’t just prioritize the polished perfect looking guys, but that’s not what I mean by 8-9 guys. A 9 guy can be rugged looking etc but still have that which males him an overall 9. Especially for men it applies that looks and beuty is not what places them in their league. I do still think it’s a phenomenon causing a problem in OLD, that women find themselves spe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 05:37 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Why do you assume that I’m making this post out of frustration. I’m trying really hard to analyze this bcuz I find it absolutely fascinating. And the fact that I see a general mechanical problem with OLD has to do with all the rational arguments I’m trying to mount. I’m doing very well in dating, both irl and OLD. But OLD and Tinder is just an immensely fascinating phenomenon to me. But thx for your input:) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 05:26 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)That’s the difference between men and women in OLD. Men will match with women whom they are not interested in, just to see if they’re dtf. Similar to a bar where men will go below their league or standards just for a ONS. But this effect is rampant in OLD. Women will find themselves surrounded by men out of their league showing apparant interst in them, something that doesn’t happen to these women irl. At most, sometimes a hot guy in a bar takes her home to fuck, good on her. Men will fuck anyth… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 05:13 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I’m not trying to win over Tinder Inc. I’m not delusional lol, I just love this subject and wanna analyze and discuss. Yes, the algorithm matches somehow using likes, in effect creating ‘leagues’ on tinder. But. Women who are 5-7 will be bumped up to a higher league than they are. Bcuz the 8-9 guys will like their profiles. Therefore the tinder leagues (what used to be called the elo number) are not in tune with irl leagues. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 04:53 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I agree! OLD can well be described as a beauty contest to a degree that real life dating is not. All I’m saying is that my hypothetical proposal could change that somewhat. If you don’t want it changed, then fine. But you’re right and wrong when you say that I’m competing with men out of my league. 8-9 will match with women in a lower league whom they are not genuinely interested in, simply bcuz they can. This is a major part of what makes OLD problematic for so many users, men and women alike, … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Look, women who are 5-7 go on OLD and suddenly experience that they are in the league of 8-9, bcuz 9 guys, who in irl would never approach them, will match with them, simply bcuz they can. This obviously gives normal women anfalse illusion of great options that they focus on, amd then they find out that those guys most of the time are not genuinely interested at all and never were. This creates a shitty experience for so many women (who are not 8+). With my proposal I speculate that this would i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 04:29 PM |
| 0 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)What I’m speculating is that my hypothetical proposed change would lead to the elimination of most of the female attention users and would also minimize the flaking in conversations. Simply bcuz there would be something at stake now when you match. Maybe it should be a 5 limit match at a time and also a max 10 matches a week. That would make ppl’s matches more valuable and less disposable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 03:49 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)No, OLD is designed to make money off of… well, dating. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 03:45 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Let me just add that since you’re a woman who is an 8 then you are in that minority that experiences the least of these problems that I describe. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 02:58 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Where we disagree is whether most people have issues with OLD or not. You think that most people don’t feel that there are any real problems in OLD compared to irl. I think that most people do. But I understand if you feel sort of attacked as a woman by my comments here. I am saying that women in general on OLD unknowingly act against theIr own best interests. And that triggered you, fair enough. Bit that’s what I’m saying. If you wanna see this as misogynistic, you can. I see it as a technical … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 02:51 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Wow, all those emotions. If you can’t stay on topic and only try to understand my argument by resorting to making judgements about my character and motivations then that’s that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 02:35 PM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Jeez. This is not about me. I’m trying to explain what I see as a general problem with OLD and suggest an hypothesis. I wanna didcuss and analyze and understand. Calm down. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)If you wanna make this about me, I can tell you that I’m very succesful with women. Irl. Bcuz I get to talk with them. But on Tinder those same types of women will often not invest in conversation with me. And I’m pretty sure I know why. It’s bcuz they sit with a phone where they have 50 other matches and they tend to pnly invest in those ‘profiles’ that are the most attractive, but which very often turn out to be shitty ppl who have no real interest in them. Moderately attractive women (who are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 02:25 PM |
| 0 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Fair enough, I’m talking about ghosting in a particular way here. Meaning that I believe there is a problem with OLD apps compared to real life meetings, that women in OLD in general tend to ghost their matches too quickly. That too many women too often miss out on men who would be great matches for them and instead tend to focus on those matches who actually are not really interested in her. All those good options among her many matches turn out to be mostly bad options for her. Not you, appare… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 02:07 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Are you saying that most people in fact find dating (irl or OLD) easy? How did you get that idea. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 01:53 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Lol fun comparison, but non applicable. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 01:49 PM |
| 0 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I’m talking about limited matches, not limited right swipes. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:40 PM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)That’s probably true, all else being equal. Much of the revenue for Tinder Inc. comes from the huge male user base, and just like bars, the more women there are, the more men there will be, and vice versa. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:06 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I think the women I’ve talked to do not experience much of that harrasment and aggressive behavior that I see with ppl here on reddit, I dunno why, maybe it’s a regional/cultural thing. But harrasment and aggressive behavior is often also a sign of low interest to begin with. And as for turning sexual too quickly, this is precisely also a sign of low interest. Bcuz a guy only does this if he has nothing to lose bcuz he has so many other matches. If he was actually really interested in hooking up… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:59 AM |
| 4 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Limiting their matches would make it less fun for them and many of them would go away. This would leave the more serious women users which would in turn lead to more serious male users. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:46 AM |
| 0 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)The fact still remains that if the dating apps from these corporations worked in the best interest of their customers, then they would lose half of their customers. A happy Tinder customer is quite often a customer who doesn’t need the product anymore. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:34 AM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I never said it was the corporations problem, I specifically said the exact opposite. And ghosting in OLD is most def not just a me problem. I’m not saying Tinder ought to do this, cuz then they’d be out of business. I’m just suggesting how Tinder hypothetically would work so much better for a majority of the users. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:32 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I hear you, bro, I completely relate. But my proposed change would precisely not change those things you mention which make Tinder so accessible and universal. Amd yes, ppl don’t wanna fill out a 2 hour questionnaire, and also you can never leave true human attraction matching up to an algorithm. Ppl can have completely different interests and still be immensely attracted. Plus, such an app would only be for ppl who are specifically looking for relationships only. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:27 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Based on the fact that their game consists in matching and matching and matching. They couldn’t do that so easily. The women I’ve talked to about this (and I love the subject!) are some 15-30 in the age range of 25-45 yo and with all kinds of preferences (hookups to ltr). What I hear from them is that the biggest two problems are low interest from matches (=ghosting or not messaging) and too many ‘bad’ looking male profiles. What is your take? What are the worst problems with Tinder amd OLD apps… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:21 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Carry on then, my friend! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:13 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)No, I said there were not enough profiles, or users. And no, strangers normally give a fuck about you. But the more you are perceived as disposable on a dating app, the more it will bring out the dont-give-a-fuck ppl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:12 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Lol probably. I’m just trying to imagine how an OLD app could work better for the normal majority of users. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:09 AM |
| 5 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Yes and no. There’s a blurred line between looking seriously for something and just being there for entertainment. Those women who just want to play validation and entertainment would to some degree be weeded out of Tinder. But many women who actually want something from tinder just dont use it seriously, bcuz they have a bad experience (that their matches are not truly interested). So they use it half-assedly and have tons of matches. Also, it’s very human to fall into the line of thinking that… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 11:05 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Yeah, only one match at a time! That notion really accentuates the principle I’m getting at that might improve the OLD experience. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:49 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)No. Making it harder for the top 10% sexy minority and easier for the 90% normal majority. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:45 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I know this isn’t going to happen, Tinder is in the money business. I know for a fact that pn Tinder I’m in a lower league than irl, and I also know that tons of women also find Tinder (OLD) extremely bad. It’s not like all women just have a blast on Tinder, they dont. Only the young&sexy minority. Normal women have their oen problems on including matches who dont initiate or who ghost quickly as well as the fact that they think most male profiles are undesirable to swipe on. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:43 AM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Agree. It’s not gonna happen. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:37 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Not if they got the experience that many of those bad male profiles actually are men whom they can by extremely attracted to when they really get to talk to them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:36 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I’m pretty sure that’s a thing of the past. Ppl looking for ltr also go to tinder. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:33 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Cuz women are humans, and humans are emotional beings. Just as many men would do the same, if they could, I think. And bcuz in my experience (I’ve seen many women’s tinders) women gerally have tons of matches at a time, most of whom dont initiate convos anyway ot ghost after a couple of messages. I’m thinking that in my system women’s matches would initiate convos much more and ghost alot less (cuz more of them would be actually interested). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:31 AM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)When men swipe on anything this gives women tons of options, but it also creates a situation where most of women’s options are actually potential false options (matches who won’t date her and only care to fuck her as his last resort). Nobody would be ‘stuck with 5 options’ in this system. You could just unmatch a guy to free up a slot. But normal women, those outside of the top 10%, would now be ‘stuck’ with the bottom 90% male profiles as options, and this might initially seem bad, bcuz men’s p… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 10:20 AM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Yes, average and attractive women usually have at least 20 marches at a time, sometimes 80-100. So they only really engage in 10% of them. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 09:48 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)No? But that’s my point. If a woman did not have 50 matches where 45 of them dont give a shit about her bcuz they are highly attractive men with better options of their own, but she only had those five matches with normal guys then that would incentivize her to invest in convos with those guys. Something she wouldnt do when she had all those others. And then she would find out that men whom she actually finds attractive irl are quite often just not highly skilled in the modern art of making inte… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 01:23 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Of course it isn’t when you actually think about it. But I speculate that alot of women don’t think about that, they just feel validated and hope/assume the guy is for real. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 01:09 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Well, I believe that part of the reason that you need to give her an orgasm in the first two messages or else she’s lost interest, is precisely bcuz she can, bcuz she has all the options. Not bcuz it’s just natural for women to act like this on OLD. But in large part bcuz of the design. And even tho it seems great for her that she has tons of other options if a guy doesnt get her off with two messges, it isnt actually great for her. Bcuz that guy could be a perfect match, and all thise other opt… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 01:00 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Yes, men might swipe all they can, but they are not getting matches. You cant play the numbers game without getting matches. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:48 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)The numbers game is only a thing for the highly attractive male users. Most men get extremely few matches, they simply can’t play the numbers game anyway, unless they lower their standards much more than they like to and what they’re used to irl. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:42 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Thx, yeah I tried it bcuz ppl talk about it on reddit, but same thing. Practically no Danish users. Guess we Danes don’t really use so many different apps. Even reddit if pretty unknown here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)This is the intelligent strategy for women, I’d think. It’s just so tempting for most ppl to keep getting the endorphine/validation fix that comes from the matching function. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:34 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Alright. Pretty much every woman’s tinder I’ve seen they got about 30-50 matches | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:17 AM |
| 8 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I think they’re referring to the fact that women apparantly find 80-85% of OLD male profiles to be way below average attractive. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:16 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Really? That’s exactly the app I mostly associate to being a hookup app. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:14 AM |
| 4 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)They wouldn’t. But I’m not here to pitch a new business model to Tinder’s board lf directors. However, maybe there could be some other way to make it just as profitable with my alternative model here. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:13 AM |
| 2 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I dont want limited options, I wamt quality options (=getting to have actual concersations with matches) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:11 AM |
| 4 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)There is a thing called ‘the paradox of choice’. It’s the phenomenon that humans generally prefer options, but when presented with many options it actually produces stress and unhappiness. Also, what would ppl rather have: a multitude of options that gives the pleasure of gamification and addiction to swiping, of less options which gives the pleasure of meeting ppl of the opposite sex? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/07/22 12:10 AM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Hm I dunno. I’m in denmark and our Danish mentality is not well geared to cold approaches, I’d say. Dunno. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:50 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I think that irl dating is tough for everyone who is not very attractive. And that in OLD it’s even worse. So that there is a discrency between irl and OLD for the 95% who are not highly attractive. And that discrepency is the problem imo. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:48 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Again, I disagree. At least where I come from. When ppl look for love and ltr they go to dating apps, amd nowadays Tinder is still the main player for that. Maybe it’s different where you are. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:44 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I actually think this could be part of a solution for that. What if this would change the whole dating app experience for women. Meaning that they are used to all these non-acceptable profiles that they wont swipe on, amd it still works for them bcuz they can in fact match with that pool of the top 5-10% male profiles. So, in a situation where these top male profiles wasnt available anymore they would instead match with the best of the 90% ‘undesirables’. And in this system they would be incenti… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:41 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I couldn’t disagree more. It may function best as a hookup app, but it’s definately designed to appear to be a general ‘dating’ app. Lots of ppl look for and find their ltr there. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:29 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I disagree, I think they work alot worse than real life interactions to the same end. Fundamentally bcuz there’s an algorithm and a drive for profit involved. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:27 PM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Tinder is designed to make money off of humans’ sexual and romantic needs. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:24 PM |
| 5 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Men shifting to become selective before right swiping would also change things a hell of alot, as I see it. And I don’t think the problem I see beong solved is too few matches, but rather the problem that women now can’t manage to actually maintain a convo with all their matches for that crucial amount of time where she will actually find out if she is attracted to the man. When women leave a convo after the first two messages she has no idea whether she just left a guy who was in fact a perfect… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:22 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Ah ok, could happen. The standard first comment would be: @insta_acc3725 | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:14 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I’m from a Scandinavian city of 1 million. I’m 43 yo, maybe that has something to do with it, but I hear from others as well. They’ll swipe 2 minutes on bumble and then it’s out of profiles. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:12 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I see what you mean. But she wouldnt have to save a like. She could just delete a match anytime to free up a new match. But this would also mean that she would be incentivized to regard her matches as more valuable, so that before she deleted one she might as well try and see if he was actually bad enough to delete. A match for her would not to the same degree just be a quick validation or entertainment, but would be a more valuable thing. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:10 PM |
| 1 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)How many matches do you typically have at the same time? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 11:03 PM |
| 3 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Yeah, havnt heard of this app. Generally my experience is that Tinder is the only one that works. Simply bcuz there is not enough users on any other app. You quickly run out of profiles. Tinder is unique in this regard. At least where I’m from. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:54 PM |
| 12 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)I guess that women would just become even more disinterested in the app and just give it up alltogether lol | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:47 PM |
| 12 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)At least users would be forced to delete an uninterestlng match instead of just ghosting. That would save alot of time and energy and frustration for many users. Amd it’s not max 5 swipes per day, it’s max 5 matches at the same time. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:46 PM |
| 8 | Hypothesis: If Tinder and the other OLD apps made a 5 match-at-a-time limitation that would greatly enhance OLD for the majority of users. (And greatly diminish the profit from the apps)Unless all the market players did the same then the one app who did it would be out of business:) Swiping is what generates the profit. Everything is only designed towards that single mechanism: getting as many ppl to swipe as much as possible as often as possible$$$ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:41 PM |
| 7 | Women need to give men more chances for a while before ghosting them out forever...Yes, men whose looks the woman is really into will get more chances. But this is mostly an OLD thing and imo women work against their best interests when they do this, bcuz women in general can far easier than men find themselves attracted to personality and also judge a man’s looks irl in another manner than just from OLD pics. When a man approaches irl with his movementa, body language, tone of voice and just his whole presence this will immediately also affect how a woman perceives his looks.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 10:00 PM |
| 1 | Women need to give men more chances for a while before ghosting them out forever...This exactly. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 09:45 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I mean strength as the overarching fundamental concept bcuz that applies to his whole being, whether it be physical strength or mental strength, and those two cam also be perceived as complimenting eachother even though that’s hardly necessarily the case. I mean it just seems more contradictory to see a big muscle guy sitting and sulking over some insecurity. However, you are absolutely on point imo. The concept of ‘mental strength’ best translates into stability. Being an emotional rock, so to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 03:23 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.What is a masculinity tool? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yes. There are countless other traits that can subtract from the effect of those two traits, just as there are traots that can add to them and the overall attractiveness. My point is that these two basic traits are the fundamental defining traits for a human male that human females are wired to attract to. Then there are all kinds of other traits. Obviously a man can have those two traits and still be unattractive bcuz if other, bad, traits. I dunno your story of course, but I’m guessing that hi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 02:07 AM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.That’s where my take comes in! ‘Too much kindness’ does not in fact mean too much kindness, rather it translates to ‘too little strength’, in so far as the man fails to show that he is able to assert his own will. ‘Too much kindness’ translates into ‘I can’t take control’. Women (all else being equal) want their male partner to be stronger than them, they want that feeling, and that dissapears if she feels he needs to be a pleaser for her. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 01:59 AM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yeah, it’s like the men in Eastern Europe have practically no obligation to make an effort of their appearance and try to look good. Many of the women apparantly move to Western Europe precisely bcuz they are getting educations now and so the gap is becoming very big now between these beautiful, educated, giving women (they’re some of the most beautiful women in the world!) and then the men who don’t give a fuck about putting in an effort to match the women. They’re used to be able to just wear … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 01:13 AM |
| 3 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Thx for sharing, man, I hear ya. Eastern Europe is interesting in this regard I think. Bcuz they’re close to us in the West, but they still have a conservative culture. Meaning that there is an understanding of the traditional gender roles which they culture happily and extensively. They’re much like us, but they havn’t had our ‘60’s sexual revolution and love liberation. I’ve also dated Russians, Latvians, Bulgarians, and last month a Ukrainian refugee. Many of them had this in common. They are… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/07/22 12:40 AM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Right? Be careful out tjhere, we hide in the dark! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:43 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.That’s just one tiny example. Also the whole way you act with body language and the whole way you frame you view on life and on youself. If you talk about your past amd your history do you show a healthy self perception? Can you be critical of youself? Things you’ve done? Ways you have coped? If not, that’s a sign of weakness. The way you talk about other people can also signal whether you feel threatened by the world. Can you laugh at yourself? Great skgn of strength. Are there certain subjects… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:12 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yeah, it’s so complicated! Thx. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 10:00 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.For the record: the PUA industry is filled with toxic, harmful, idiotic nonsense and assholes and morons. But they’re still knowledgable about certain things that can help a man. As long as one uses common sense. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:58 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Now you’re asking the real questions lol! ‘But can this help me get laid??’ It can. I started to watch all those pickup artist vids three years ago and eventually took from them what worked for me. In my situation I already had much of what I needed to attract women, but I just always suppressed the wrong sides of my personality in a misunderstood attempt to try and ‘be level’ with women. Instead I learned to rely on my natural inclination to regard women as weaker and more emotional than me. As… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:56 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Trust me, you dont wanna know. There’s a certain dark corner of reddit for that kink! You cant unsee it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:40 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yes. If we define ‘masculinity’ as that thing which is the attraction point for ‘the human female’, then my proposition is that masculinity comes from these two traits in ‘the human male’. If they are not there at all then a man will not be attractive to the ‘prototype woman’ bcuz all the most important things to make a man sexy is based on these two traits. If they are there then it’s just a matter of how many other things subtract from his attractiveness. It could be other traits in him, the s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:38 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I’m 6’0 so good on that account, but I live in scandinavia where most men are tall, so height is not such a big thing in dating here. Got divorced four y ago, got two healthy kids and wonderful ex wife, so I’m a happy man, just dating for fun and sex. And it’s been going very, very well. Luckily, women are suckers for strength and ability amd so therefore older men can easily be attractive to women of all ages. Older men generally have more mental strength amd abilities, making them attractive a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:25 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I prefer to avoid those terms like AB and BB so as to not infuse all kinds of connotations, but yes, the basic idea on which these notions of AB and BB are built is what I’m talking about. Yes, there is a weak point in my argument, but I still think it’s tenable as a theory. I would say that men want to sleep around, but in the past it would only happen among the young hormone filled teens who couldnt control themselves amd had the opportunity when not being controlled and monitored by their fam… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 09:19 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Well, I am a scientist and a scholar. But a 43 yo dangly ginger with asymmetric, feminine facial features. So I have to play my cards on the abilities parameter and the mental strength parameter. It’s going pretty good atm! | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:59 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yes, many women, for various reasons, would never sleep with a man whom they are attracted to. But they are still attracted to him, amd that’s the subject of my disussion. What creates the attraction itself. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:54 PM |
| 2 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.By steroid heads a take it that you mean men who are obsessed with building muscles? Obviously because there is something else about them, apart from their strength, which subtracts from their attractiveness. Could be their lifestyle. Could be that the women reads his life style as a sign of narcismish personality or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:45 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Good point, and I must say I enjoy that you accept my frame of understanding the subject for the sake of argument, thx. First of all, there’s no loss situation for a man to get a woman pregnant and he knows he never sees her again. Maybe the offspring survives, great, maybe mother and child dies, too bad, but it doesnt affect the man. All he did was have sex and carried on with his life. So there’s all to win and nothing to lose for the man in this situation. Secondly, if woman would get pregnan… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:40 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yes, but: why are certain traits generally aesthetic to women and not other traits? The jaw line thing, marked eyebrows, etc. Just a random coincidence? No. There’s a logical explanation. And, I posit, it’s mainly bcuz those traits signal strength. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:31 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Alot of women are attracted to nerdiness. This why. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:27 PM |
| 3 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I hear ya totally, 100%. But ask yourself this: can a man be a leader if he lacks strength and ability. Nope. Therefore a leader will be very attractive automatically, he most definately has precisely those two traits. When a woman finds a young man who shows signs of having these traits, it points to the fact that he also has the potential to become a leader. Women are just as much attracted to potential status as to the fulfilled status. Likewise you can be poor, but if a woman senses strength… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:23 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.A deeper understanding of things is bad, you think? Up to you. But tell me. Why are looks important? Why charm? Wealth? Etc? Why is a male face that in various ways signals strength generally the most attractive? Why not a small mouth? Or a big forehead, or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:13 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.That’s bcuz toned muscles signals other attractive traits, besides just strength. But toned muscles are and will always be a clear sign of strength, obviously. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:08 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I would explain it by the suggestion that women’s lizard brain will also look for the opportunity to get good genes from a man who passes by. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:05 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yes, the lizard brain notion is what I’m also getting at (or whatecer we wanna call that concept). To your point I will say that loyalty is not a universal attraction trait. A woman can find herself deeply, sexually attracted to a guy who she knows is a complete fuckboi. That couldnt be the case if commitment was a universal trait for masculine attractiveness. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 08:02 PM |
| 0 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.I disagree. You’re talking about hyperstrength. When you say that ‘actual strongmen don’t look strong to women’, that’s obviously not the case. An overweight man will of course always look stronger than a thin man. There’s a reason the dad bod became a fun popular notion. Just like the overweight ‘bear type’ of man body can be attractive to women as long as it looks strong. A guy can have body fat, the criteria for his attraction is whether he looks fat and strong or fat and weak. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 07:57 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Lol not what I mean. I’m talking about the deep psychological mechanisms of sexual/romantic attraction. But yes, my take here implies that I approach the subject matter by regarding the modern human psychological disposition within a ‘naturalistic’ frame, ie. we are mammals, and our minds work as such. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 07:49 PM |
| 1 | A simple take: The two all-important and most fundamental basic masculine traits that attract women is strength and ability.Yes, that’s why niceness is one of many other variables when it comes to attractive masculine traits. My take here is that there are just these two universal, fundamental traits. All other traits are not universally or inherently attractive masculine traits, just these two. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/07/22 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Why most girls I know get attracted to "bad boys"? Boys they don't deserve.All you really need is some balls and the right attitude. You certainly have the right attitude, I can tell. If you first learn a little game and then try to put it into action, and probably fail initially, then you also have the balls, and that’s actually succeeding. Trying to apply game and failing is actualyy a success. The success is trying. And then you’ll also know you have what it takes. Cheers | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 10:03 PM |
| 3 | Why most girls I know get attracted to "bad boys"? Boys they don't deserve.Well, if you want to change then you’re not an incel and you’re not going to become one. Then you’re instead acting well and taking the first healthy step to improve your life. You have no idea how important this attitude is, I think. Understand this: if you keep up this healthy attitude you will in fact improve your life. If you want to learn and improve yourself, then you’re going to. I will recommend you go to the world of PUA, but be very critical and for god’s sake always use your common se… | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 09:27 PM |
| 1 | Why most girls I know get attracted to "bad boys"? Boys they don't deserve.My friend, you are on the path to incel country. Most girls do not want bad boys who are dumb and who will hurt them. And don’t ever refer to girls, or women, as ‘females’, they’re people not animals. Women will never be attracted to inauthentic persons who try to hide their wants and needs and interest in them. Confidence is a winner, but authenticity is the first condition for posdible attraction. Awkward doesn’t have to be unattractive, as long as you’re authentic. | /r/seduction | 16/04/22 06:13 PM |
| 1 | Do rich girls really date poor guys, or is it like girls only date up?Sounds like it could definately work, at least for a hook up or an initial relationship. Depends entirely on what kind of person she is. If she’d made herself rich through dedication, hard work, high ambition and a wild career, and she surrounds herself with like minded highly succesful people, then she most likely has core values which make these same characteristics necessary in a man for her to get attracted and respect him. But if it’s just her family’s money you can have a perfect chance to… | /r/seduction | 14/04/22 09:34 AM |
| 1 | Letting down girls that catch feelings but aren't direct about itDepends very much on what your initial frame was from the very first? Just a casual thing from a night out? A ‘normal’ dating thing from a Tinder match (feeling out for romantic partners)? Or a totally open, random frame? I always make it clear very early on, mostly before first hookup, that I’m not one for a committed relationship. If we then proceed and hook up and then start having a fwb thing i’ll talk more about it at pillow talk. That we need to be open about emotions and what I can offer … | /r/seduction | 13/04/22 07:33 PM |
| 2 | Am I a low status man?Emotional connection is a great thing, but I was talking about something a little different: Acting in certain specific ways when talking to women which will be unconscious indicators to her (to her ‘reptile brain’) that you are a man with certain personality traits, and this will in itself generate emotions in her towards you. Meaning that when you exhibit this underlying behavior there are good chances that she will become attracted to you bcuz women in general get attracted to the personality… | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 06:09 PM |
| 6 | Am I a low status man?For some women social and financial status is explicitly important. This pool of women will not be a match for you as a girlfriend (perhaps casual sex, if you learn game). But for other women it’s not important. Generally, what women seek in a man is someone who can make them feel emotionally in a certain way. And you don’t need money or status to make women feel this way. Women are attracted to your personality. When women are attracted to men with social and financial statuts it’s generally bc… | /r/seduction | 24/03/22 11:46 AM |
| 1 | This girl I’m dating seems a bit selfish am I wrong for thinking this?Yeah, sounds really great for you. Maybe not always so much for your partners, but who cares right, gotta be alfa, my guy. | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 11:04 AM |
| 2 | This girl I’m dating seems a bit selfish am I wrong for thinking this?Good luck with your sex life and your love life, my friend. You’re gonna need it. | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 08:51 AM |
| 5 | This girl I’m dating seems a bit selfish am I wrong for thinking this?Hahaha dont listen to this shit. Women can lose respect for men in any number of ways, but going down on her is not one of them. If anyone thinks it’s a “submissive act” they’re just immature idiots. What ypu need to do is communicate and be assertive in a respectful manner. There can be a whole list of reasons as to why she won’t bj you and you don’t know which one it is. Maybe she’s just being selfish, but maybe she’s just insecure. Maybe she’s had some bad experience before, maybe she jut doe… | /r/seduction | 22/03/22 01:55 AM |
| 7 | Older coworker (F40’s) and me (M21)Initiate flirting: Compliment her clothing Try to seek deep eye contact If she does the deep eye contact thing, you’re good | /r/seduction | 14/03/22 08:11 AM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find that they are attached after finally getting some casual sex?Dude, what you’re describing is not casual sex at all. It’s a fling, like you say. Fling has an emotional dimension and you were not just banging casually but doing couple’s things together. And apparantly she went all in! Humans are different and some women can pour out emotional connection and flirt totally uninhibited in a more ‘casual’ way than most women and then just leave it at that, often leaving a trail broken heart guys in their wake. Maybe this is why ur friend warned u to not get att… | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 02:33 PM |
| 12 | Tinder experiments are some of the most eye opening things you could run..Rules 1 and 2. This: https://www.boredpanda.com/social-experiment-guy-created-fake-tinder-profile-hot-model-pictures-germanlifter/?utm_source=google&utm_medium=organic&utm_campaign=organic | /r/seduction | 05/03/22 01:03 PM |
| 1 | Beaches are great for Same Day Lays!No… | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 07:48 PM |
| 0 | Beaches are great for Same Day Lays!A joke. Women are allowed to flee from Ukraine, but the men must stay. A distasteful joke. | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 07:48 PM |
| 4 | Beaches are great for Same Day Lays!Odessa here, we got great beaches, but I can’t find any girs:( (Too soon?) | /r/seduction | 04/03/22 12:15 PM |
| 1 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Yes, this is what I’ll do. So far I’ve only hinted at it. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 06:22 PM |
| 0 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Yes, every person has always discovered everything there is to know about their sexuality and this of course applies to everybody in the world cuz there’s no difference btwn ppl. /s I can see how it comes across as patronizing tho, but then you misunderstand me. I can tell you that she in fact doesn’t know her own mind and what she finds sexy. One of the reasons that she likes to be with me is that I’ve shown her new things she likes. And having a conversation about it is fine, but I wanna be su… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:21 PM |
| 1 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?I did this and she was shy but agreed, and afterwards she abosultely loved it seeing herself how sexy she can look | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 03:09 PM |
| 2 | Please provide tips to date older woman. (M25) (F35)Good for you, my guy! Yeah, escalation is always the tricky part, but your date setting sounds good. Two things: You gotta be clear with youself what you want from her and then only send vibes from that angle. I mean whether you feel like she could become your girlfriend or whether you’re thinking about a more casual fwb thing. If you prefer a casual thing to begin with and would like sex from the get go, then tell her you’re ‘not running around atm looking for a girlfriend’. A museum trip can h… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 02:07 PM |
| 2 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Good point, perhaps I will. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 12:57 PM |
| 1 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Thx, yeah I know what you mean how men and women are different in that department, but that doesn’t mean at all that women generally don’t like to send sexy pics. Lots of women love to send sexy pics to their guy, it gives them a great feeling, and I feel pretty convinced that she also thinks that, but that she’s just not used to it. If I sense that she has anything against it, then that’s that. It’s only sexy for me, if she also thinks it’s sexy. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 12:55 PM |
| 2 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Yeah thx, I’m probably going to do that, but I only want her to send me pics if it also gives her something, it doesn’t really give me anything if she’s only doing it for my sake, if u know what I mean. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 12:52 PM |
| 0 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Yeah, ur right, it’s more of a guy thing. But alot of women also get something out of it, i.e. the feeling that they can make the guy horny with their sexiness. This is in general a huuuge turn on for my new fwb here, so I know that this most likely also extends to pics on the phone. She has send some already, also without me asking, but I think she’s actually afraid to not make them ‘good enough’, that she thinks it needs to be these perfect erotic pics or it wont do the trick, when a simple pi… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 12:20 PM |
| 2 | I’m (M43) seeing a new fwb (F36) and she loves dirty texting, but she doesn’t send dirty pics unless I ask her. She has never been with a guy who texted really dirty like I’ve showed her, and she loves it, but any suggestions as to how I get her to send dirty pics without me asking her explicitly?Haha that would surprise me. I’ve been fucking her for a month now. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 11:14 AM |
| 4 | When she asks "what are you looking for"This second part is so true. I’ve hooked up with several women who even stated on their profiles that they only look for serious relationships. I write them early on something like “I have to admit, I normally wouldnt swipe on you, cuz I’m only here for fun and dont wanna waste ur time, but there’s just something really fucking sexy about you. Even tho you have two cats!” Very very often they get turned on by the honesty and the crystal clear frame, and it gets them thinking that even tho they’r… | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 11:04 AM |
| 5 | Please provide tips to date older woman. (M25) (F35)Women in their 30’s are generally suckers for complements and they typically crave feeling sexually attractive. So if you can give her the impression that she turns you on, she will likely want to pursue that feeling endlessly. Especially if she has just brokwn up with a bf and could use some validation and some sex, I think. You could have hit the jackpot here. | /r/seduction | 02/03/22 10:53 AM |
| 2 | How to transition from texting about school work to sex?First, turn the convo to be about her, show her you’re curious about her person. If she’s into you she will love talking to you about herself. Ask her a personal question like where she grew up. Then start to tease her a little about something, like stereotyping her, with a wink. Then when you tease her and she likes it and laughs and ‘defends’ herself, throw in affirming comments like “You’re funny:)” or “haha you’re cute!” With this kind of conversation she will know that you’re interested in … | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 06:22 PM |
| 1 | Should you juggle multiple girls?Rotate. But don’t do relationship things with your fwb’s, just make it clear that you only offer casual and that you can also see others. If you have a great casual thing and start to have feelings for a girl just start to treat her like a girlfriend instead of fwb, like taking her out for drinks or dinner, make her feel special and in this way signal that she’s winning you over and that you’re only interested in her. Then she’ll most likely be extremely flattered and perhaps really fall for you… | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 05:52 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]You feel disrespected? You are disrespected lol. Her actions that you describe here show clearly and unmistakenly that she doesn’t have feelings for you and she doesn’t respect you. Are you gonna let her use you like this? You need to have self respect and swallow the hard pill now and say goodbye to her and find yourself a new girl. It hurts, but be a man about it, and simping for her now will only make you hurt way more and lose all of your self respect, man. She’s gone. | /r/seduction | 18/02/22 05:07 PM |
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