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| 2 | Do you think this audience reaction is representative to how society sees domestic violence against men?how can we possibly address the impact that female assault has on men when we don't even talk about male on male assault? Focusing on female perpetrators while ignoring the bigger problem is detrimental to this. I wasn't making a statement about societal priorities - women don't assault men very often (I think it happens almost exclusively in DV situations). I was just saying that even though it's not really a "societal problem that needs to be addressed", and that the reverse is much more preva… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/24 04:54 AM |
| 6 | Do you think this audience reaction is representative to how society sees domestic violence against men?But lets be honest here, is this man in danger of losing his life? Women murder men to be sure, but definitely not as often as men murder women. The fact that men are generally more violent and much stronger than women isn't really any consolation to the men that are victims of violence from women. Sure, they'd likely be in much worse shape if it were a stronger man attacking them, but someone weaker than you can still inflict a great deal of harm. I don't think most of the people against this w… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 30/03/24 04:31 AM |
| 4 | It's rare for a man to be with a woman who likes him for who he is as a human being instead of what he can provide.This depends on who you're around, but I tend to see more flexing around "what my partner did for me" than vice versa (from women). Engagement rings are a big example of this, but also "he bought me this handbag/took me on this vacation/etc". | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/03/24 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Is settling a widespread common occurence?I have talked to a number of girls and it seems a lot of times their most memorable person is their first/second even if she had 8+ relationships at this point. I felt emotions more strongly in general when I was younger. The first time you fall in love just hits harder than the next. But I date "better" women now and have higher standards. I like my current gf better than any other one I've had before her (and will still feel that way long after we've broken up) In a way, most people have to se… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 11:01 AM |
| 2 | You're focused on the wrong qualities that are triggering her lust: He's more attractive than you because he's more masculine, not because he's an asshole.Yeah, higher-iq, higher-class people have longer, more stable relationships. It's worth noting that a lot of these thuggy types with high partner counts are not sleeping with the most desirable women - they have low standards | /r/PurplePillDebate | 22/02/24 10:50 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Ever gotten the ick from a woman being too into you?Yes, but this is rare. For me, the issue has been more along the lines of flooding me with messages, wanting to see me constantly, or getting really jealous of female friends. 1 and 2 would never be a problem for me from that list, unless the compliments just feel really cringey and misplaced. I don't mind a girl being eager, the problem is when she expects me to match her 0-100 intensity levels, and gets upset when I don't. Most girls who do this expect you to be on the same page as them and fe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 02:40 AM |
| 1 | Is most of dating dynamics about who is the most “parent”? Who can appear as the most high status individual? Is there no equal relationship?Social power dynamics will always exist in dating/relationships, but most people aren't so fixated on them, and tons of people have great relationships without being concerned about this sort of thing. that there has to be someone that the other is “chasing” in some sense and another that is settling. A game of who can be “daddy” or “mommy”, in the sense of being the authority figure and the higher status one in the dynamic. There are people that feel really insecure in relationships unless they… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/24 01:47 AM |
| 3 | Is it easier for the average girl to get laid and sleep with other woman than it is for an average guy?I know and have been with a lot of bi women, but not many lesbians, so answer may be biased Even among bi women, they often have a preference for one gender over the other. So it's pretty specific to the girl on the receiving end. There are more women who like men than women who like women, so that means that men have more options in a sense. But women are a lot less guarded towards other women, because the "is he just using me for sex" dynamic isn't present. There are also certain standards tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 01:36 AM |
| 2 | She isn’t “withholding” sex from you. She simply doesn’t feel like having sex.In relationships, I don't think this ever happens outside of maybe a small amount of really petty people. So I agree. However, at the beginning, women who are turned on will definitely hold back sex. For example, there are a lot of people who view having sex to soon as being "easy" or "sl*tty" and some girls will be concerned that you'll think bad of them for being too "easy" or they have a self-image of not being that kind of girl. Or she could be afraid of getting too invested only to have you… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/24 01:24 AM |
| 0 | Q4M: Describe the type of male a traditional woman deserves?I don't see how any of those things makes someone a "mindless robot obeying her husband's requests". Having a peaceful attitude or cleaning doesn't mean someone can't have ambitions? I have a somewhat peaceful attitude, am willing to follow my partner's lead, and don't complain about cleaning (I just do it - why complain about this?). But I still have ambitions and I'm not a mindless robot. You seem to be equating traits relating to being agreeable or having a pleasant/calm personality with havi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 07:40 PM |
| -2 | Q4M: Describe the type of male a traditional woman deserves?a woman who has no ambitions or goals of her own and only sees herself as a support character in the man's life. Wtf what does that have to do with OP's post? Any man who would specifically want a woman like this doesn't see women as actual people. Lolwut. Wanting a partner who supports your goals mean you don't see them as a real person? This is just nonsense. From the OP: Supports her man's goals Cooperative and agreeable > Dresses modestly, claims low bawdy count Happy to follow his lead Have… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 10:42 AM |
| 1 | Q4M: Describe the type of male a traditional woman deserves?I don't think "deserves" is a really a great way to think about partners. But this sounds like a very caring, committed, and cooperative woman. I think people who have a lot to offer like that should also have high standards in return. What exactly that entails depends on what exactly the woman in question values in a guy. Any description of that potential guy would just be a list of generally desirable traits. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 29/01/24 03:53 AM |
| 1 | He is Tall, Funny, Wealthy and/or Handsome, But Wants Multiple Girlfriends?This just depends on so many details. I believe in letting my future children live the lives that they want, and while, of course, I would support them, advise them, and do what I can to help them succeed - what kind of life they want to live is ultimately up to them. I would be pretty insistent on keeping them away from certain serious mistakes, but if my future daughter wants to have some sort of polyamorous relationship, I would support that. I probably would not support her making big life s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 09:01 PM |
| – | Is it true that most good looking men prefer quantity over quality?No, this isn't correlated with attractiveness. Most men want serious, committed relationships, but most men are also open to having casual sex. You can find survey data that shows this. iirc, more attractive men are more likely to be in relationships. https://datepsychology.com/we-were-patriarchs-male-mating-strategies-and-intrasexual-competition/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 08:49 PM |
| 1 | Get zero or negative interest in real life but a ton of interest online - what is going on and how can I change it?Could be a lot of things. It sounds like you have a great old profile and are probably very physically attractive. The in-person issue could be: - you're going to venues that are bad for cold approach - your body language/nonverbals aren't great - You're bad at opening - something about your interactions with others seem off from the outside (unlikely) A girl not immediately being receptive off the open is normal in a lot of places. You should expect that and learn how to work through it. This c… | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 08:09 AM |
| 2 | How to act after getting the number early in the night.If this is a party, club, bar, etc, you should really be trying to pull the same night. If you don't have logistics for that, then just game her. Flirt, build investment, tease her, kiss her at some point if you want. Or just go do something else if you want. | /r/seduction | 28/01/24 07:50 AM |
| 0 | Someone complaining about their S.O. on social media or in a group chat is a huge red flag.I disagree. If you mean non-anonymously, then ok, that is a problem. I don't think you should ever discuss relationship issues with anyone who knows your partner or will ever have any meaningful social contact with them. That probably includes most of the people you know. I don't see any issue with making an anonymous reddit post or talking about an issue with your friend from college who lives on the other side of the country and doesn't know your partner. I think it's important to keep in mind… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 28/01/24 04:40 AM |
| 3 | Is there a Lizzo Paradox™ for males?I'm sorry, I don't understand. Was this reply meant for a different comment? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 08:34 AM |
| 11 | I genuinely think people underestimate female toxicityImho there's a bigger proportion of shitty men than shitty women. Though both genders have their share of toxicity. Another hot take: twoX is kinda misandrist. My impression is that they kinda do generalize shitty male behaviors and talk as if all men or most men are like that. It's not usually something stated explicitly, but I think it's pretty clear from the way people write there that most of them view the male gender quite negatively. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 08:32 AM |
| 3 | Is there a Lizzo Paradox™ for males?Lol, then find someone who looks similar to Lizzo, tell them you see a resemblance, and let us know how it goes | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 08:21 AM |
| 17 | Is there a Lizzo Paradox™ for males?I think it's just seen as really rude to call a woman unattractive in the US. So asking questions like this makes people feel like you're both springing some trap on them and being rude yourself. Obviously there's a very easily-understood definition of beautiful or attractive that Lizzo doesn't meet. Some people's first reaction to that statement will be "but beauty is more than skin deep...." - sure, you can use some different definition and talk about her style/personality/creativity, but I th… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 08:11 AM |
| 12 | Telling small d men to be good at oral amd fingering is emasculatingIf it's not awkwardly thrusting a micropenis for 30 seconds into her dry vagina with erratic rhythm after zero foreplay in a silent, cold, but somehow still sticky room under harsh incandescent lights with an elbow awkwardly digging into her ribs and halitosis breath in her face and misinterpreting her painful wincing as pleasure....is it really even heterosexual? (Don't forget to ask if she came afterwards) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/01/24 07:47 AM |
| 3 | What are some of your 'favorite' societal contradictions?There's a common perspective around sex and dating that certain girls have and I find really strange. They classify guys as 1. good guys who are serious about them and want relationships or 2. player guys who aren't serious about them and "only want sex". Some girls interpret just about everything in the context of these two categories. This is really wild when it leads to girls associating any sexual interest as belonging to 2 (i.e. a guy not liking her enough, not being serious, or being a fuc… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 09:57 PM |
| 4 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?Why do you think this is so horrible? If I met someone really inexperienced who wanted to explore and experience what it's like to have a relationship, even if they don't imagine or expect it lasting forever - I would think that's really understandable. You learn a lot about things like communication, conflict management, your own desires and preferences, etc from relationship experience. I think that's a lot more balanced and level headed a take than something like "I'm going to wait to be in a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 09:14 PM |
| 4 | Should late bloomer men insist hard on "starter girlfriend" status or not?I think people new to relationships generally lean more towards overly-serious and overinvesting with thier first partners. For obvious reasons, teenagers are a good example of this. I tend to dislike dating advice that promotes emotionally safegaurding yourself from partners and don't want to encourage that. But I think getting super attached and to your first partner out of desperation is not good. If you've never had a relationship or sex before, I believe it's good to approach it from an exp… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 08:58 PM |
| 8 | Would you care if your gf hung out with guys she’s slept with in the past?I don't care unless I don't trust her for some reason. I have a lot of female friends that I've slept with in the past, so I understand wanting to keep a friendship in that instance. I wouldn't like it if my partner tried to pull me away from friend groups just because I had slept with a couple people in them. Why would I want my gf not to have those friends if she's committed to me? I want her to have great friends. My relationships have mostly just been with women I trusted a lot and who were … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 07:42 AM |
| 4 | Men erroneously confuse being confident with being an asshole with the whole nice guy/asshole dichotomy and womenYeah, I agree with this. I think I'm generally pretty kind and try to build people up and it helps me much more than it hurts me in dating. I will say that you can go pretty far on the cocky/arrogant side and still have many (not all) women love it with the right vibe. I don't mean being mean to people or being stuck up, but having an attitude that will make a lot of people think you're full of yourself and want to "cut you down to size". Many will call that "being an asshole", but many girls wi… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/24 07:30 AM |
| 7 | CMV: Most Red Pillers (TRP) are actually the most defeatist of all the "Pills"I think it's hard to use "defeatist" as a philosophical label of red pill overall given how self-improvement focused they are. It definitely is individual-focused rather than collective-focused as you mentioned. There is a sort-of "giving up" vibe regarding giving up certain relationship desires or goals (by saying they are impossible due to the nature of women). | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/01/24 02:49 PM |
| 11 | What sex act permanently taints a woman?I can't think of one off the top of my head. I've done a lot of sexual exploration in my life and wouldn't judge anyone else for the same. Maybe something really reckless wrt stds? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:38 PM |
| – | Women are 100% repelled by genuinely kind men and respond positively to being mistreatedSuch a stupid take. People don't like people who mistreat them. You can he an asshole and still get laid, but it's going to hurt you more than help you. I'm genuinely nice to people and have a lot of success in dating. Though, yes, being cocky is attractive to many women | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:33 PM |
| 4 | The first step to being with a woman is to make it absolutely known that you don't want to be her friend.I've hooked up with a lot of my friends before, so I don't really agree with this. In fact, there are girls that you can invite out to things as friends who'll then start to like you, but wouldn't come to a 1-1 date off the bat. But generally, if you want to date a girl you should do that, not wait while trying to make her a friend | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/11/23 06:29 PM |
| 0 | Q4M: how do you feel about divorced women?In this case you already know they're equal in every other way including relationship potential with you. So you're going to have the exact same experience with either of them anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 08:07 AM |
| 10 | Q4M: how do you feel about divorced women?I mean you're saying that they are the exact same person, right? I really wouldn't care. I'm trying to think of a reason this would ever matter at all. Unless any of the exes would be an issue or something? Maybe this is picking between hearing stories about woman b's marriage and woman a's flings/boyfriends. If so, a sounds more interesting, but this is really the most insignificant thing to make a decision about ever. What is even the point of this? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 06:50 AM |
| 1 | Men's income is possibly the most important factor if he will get divorcedPeople with higher education levels and higher incomes have lower rates of divorce. You can compare effect sizes of different things like comparing divorce risks in equivalent percentiles of within-partner income difference vs education level. Why not do that instead of randomly say one is more important. In the end, there are a lot smarter things you can select for in a partner than low income | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 06:26 AM |
| 12 | current dating climate in 2023How is the current dating culture effecting your life and do you think this is a passing phase or is it here to stay? I don't find places like this subreddit to be an actual reflection of real-world dating (or people that I've met). I think in the US things like dating apps, atomization of society/isolation of people, growing risk-aversion of youth, gender-combativeness and antagonism in some places, some other subtler culture things, and possibly social media have had a noticeable effect on dat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/11/23 06:15 AM |
| 5 | Discussion: Why is being “clingy” seen as a bad thing for men and womenI actually don't view this as negatively as many people do. I think there are a lot of people who make the mistake of trying to distance themselves from people they like or withhold affection in an effort to "not be needy". Putting up walls like this does not help connections and relationships form, and I don't really like when women try to act aloof in order to be "cooler". Sure, this can be done in a bad way. I don't like women who are clingy in a "negative" way where they become really demand… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 03:30 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach is one of the worst methods of getting women.The more effort you put in, the better your odds will be. But, yes, I agree that "warmer" approaches are generally going to be easier than colder ones | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 03:22 AM |
| 11 | Honesty is the kryptonite of sexual success for menThe guys that get the most women here are the men with 3 different kids from random moms that they fucked in an alley in a party (if you can't guess i am from brazil, big fuckfest here), usually with drugs and crime involved. Yeah, this is something that you see in poorer areas in certain countries. This exists to a lesser extent in the US, but I noticed this happened a lot when I lived in south america (not brazil). I don't have that much experience with this sort of scene, but from what I've s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 03:18 AM |
| 2 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?I actually didn't have that great of an impression of the other foreigners I met when I was in Manila (though I met more Asian foreigners than Americans/europeans). But most of the people I hung out with there were Filipinos, so I can't really say a lot about foreigners there. Sometimes it's easy to hear stories on the news or internet and make generalizations about them. There are people in countries like the US (my country) who have silly and backwards stereotypes about people from Southeast A… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 03:02 AM |
| 2 | Cold approach is one of the worst methods of getting women.You can meet someone through a friend, talk to them for 2 minutes and never see them again. Then meet a stranger at the train station and end up spending the rest of your life getting to know every single detail possible about them :) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 02:40 AM |
| 15 | Honesty is the kryptonite of sexual success for menI've slept with ~150 women in my life and I completely disagree with this. It's like they can tell which women are sad and vulnerable at a party. Then they convince said girls that everything will turn out OK IF they let them smash. Create a lot of mental problems in the girls and pose themselves as solution, it is really that simple. And how is this going to work? Why is a girl going to think sleeping with a guy that she met at a party that night going to solve her life problems? I don't really… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 02:34 AM |
| 3 | Cold approach is one of the worst methods of getting women.I've had a lot of great experiences with really cool women I met through cold approach in my life. I think it can be a really great way to meet people and gives you a lot of freedom and flexibility in your dating life. I wouldn't necessarily recommend doing things like street approaches for most people, or even doing cold approaches at bars/clubs. It really depends on your goals and what you're willing to put in - cold approach isn't some magical panacea for your dating life either. There's not … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Realistically, is the only way to avoid becoming a betabuxx achieved by simply staying single until you've had enough partners that you feel "qualifies" you to no longer be one?Putting dumb incel-culture labels on yourself is not going to help you. Interpreting everything through the insecure lens of "am I a betabux" once you get into a relationship will hurt whatever relationship you get into. People don't exist in these black-and-white categories or have formulaic relationships based on them. I feel like the only way to get over these insecurities is to stay single and somehow become a guy that women want and have sex with some to finally know what it's like to be de… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/11/23 01:37 AM |
| 5 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?I'm an American who's spent a lot of time living (and dating) abroad. They just don’t like their equals I don't view people from other countries as less my equal than other americans. There are a lot of americans who have this (wrong) idea that people in countries outside US, Canada, Western Europe, Australia, etc are uneducated, poverty-stricken, etc. But that's not how the world is - they are normal people too, and even in extremely poor places like central africa that does not make them "less… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 07:52 PM |
| 3 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?Where do people come up with stuff like this? I've lived and dated abroad for years in several different countries/continents, so I guess I'm a "passport bro" and I've never met anyone like that or seen anything like that at all. Most expats are normal people not child sex traffickers. Dating while living abroad doesn't make you "evil" nor is it something that only/mostly "evil" people do | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 07:28 PM |
| 0 | Passport bros seems like a lot of work. Are things really that dire?Yeah, many people do go through struggles with dating and relationships, but most people end up spending a lot of time in long-term relationships. Reading this subreddit feels like visiting an alien planet sometimes (and I'm someone who has had very positive dating experiences while living abroad) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Being in a position where you can pursue women is a privilegeIn the end you get to live whatever life you want. Some people will choose to go out, take action, and turn thier desires into reality. Others will choose spend their time whining on the internet and coming up with excuses | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Being in a position where you can pursue women is a privilegeThere's no perfect place to meet women that has no drawbacks, is super easy and accessible, filled with only attractive single women interested in meeting someone, etc. It's something that requires time and effort in general. But many of these excuses are silly. I grew up not very successful in dating, not particularly good-looking, introverted, etc. A few years ago I started putting in a lot of work to change this part of my life. Since 2021, I slept with over 130 women. I met them on dating ap… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/11/23 06:59 PM |
| 16 | What are your thoughts on 'It's how I was raised"?Most people don't give genuine explanations for parts of their behavior and choices. Many lack the self-awareness to their own motivations in the first place. Others give easier or more socially acceptable explanations. Some people are just dumb and throw up nonsense excuses for way things that benefit them are fair/right/best/whatever This happens in many parts of life | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/11/23 09:05 PM |
| 11 | Cuck fetish is to men what CNC kink is to womenWomen who have undergone trauma or are negatively affected by male thirst use this as a way to re-establish control over how vulnerable they feel in the sexual act. This is "nice/clever"-sounding explanation that people like to throw around on reddit, but it's not very reflective of reality. There are tons of women who've suffered traumatic incidents like sexual assault and abuse who aren't into cnc and similar kinks. There are also tons of women with those fetishes who have never been through s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/10/23 07:23 AM |
| 3 | Cold approaching doesn’t workI don't think I'm advanced enough to write something like dating/pickup book. I have a few unique ideas, but most is stuff that's already written somewhere. If you want recommendations for that kind of stuff, dm me (good stuff can be hard to find - most advice out there is either pretty basic or low quality). I do wish I had blogged about my experiences or things I've learned the past few years. I will be making a general "lessons learned" post on reddit next week. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 11:56 PM |
| 0 | Cold approaching doesn’t workI've personally had a lot of success with cold approach (though I struggled at first). I've taken home a lot of women from clubs, parties, and events as well as places like malls, parks, and even the street. I've even had a couple instances where I took girls home that day after approaching them in broad daylight. I will say that doing cold approach well is a difficult skill to learn, primarily because the feedback you get is very random and unclear. It's hard to associate reactions you get with… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 10:10 PM |
| 1 | On dating apps over the past 5-8 years, why do you see the same exact women on them? Why are they perpetually single?Generally, they either aren't looking for a serious relationship, or aren't able to find or maintain one. Either could be due to various reasons | /r/PurplePillDebate | 25/10/23 09:43 PM |
| 1 | Porn's impact on males' standards when it comes to women is equivalent to what dating apps/social media is doing to women's standards.I'm not a big porn user these days, but I never really felt like it had any impact on my dating standards. I definitely had lower standards during the periods of my life when I watched more porn. The things that raised my dating standards were mostly: Having more success in dating Improving myself and feeling more like I deserved/could get more attractive women (closely related to 1) Seeing other men with attractive women, especially when I didn't view the other guy as more attractive than me ("… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/10/23 05:09 AM |
| 3 | Women who don’t have casual hookups are only appropriated onlineThey want women to not sleep with other men quickly but make an exception when it comes to them People like feeling special and validated. This isn't a uniquely male thing. I think this is generally accurate. People want to be the exception and feel like they're special to their partners Irl women who struggle the most with dating are the ones who want to wait a bit longer until they know the guy to sleep with them. No, sexually conservative women don't have a much harder time dating. Things tha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/10/23 04:42 AM |
| 1 | It’s not surprising why dating sucks if you look at the statisticsA man who is not married, of any race, at least 5’7” / 170cm tall, not obese, makes at least $55k (about $26.5 / hour), between the ages of 24 and 54 only exists in 5.8% of said men between 24 and 54 This is really irrelevant. These calculators aren't accurate (they assume independence of all variables), people segregate based on these variables, and being compatible with 6% of all of the opposite sex would he great, but none of this matters anyway. If you're a desirable women, you're going to h… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 06:44 AM |
| 1 | Are you worried you might be in a dead bedroom someday?So are you not worried about being in a dead bedroom someday? You’re all trying so hard to find a woman to date/marry right now, but will it even be worth it in the future if she won’t have frequent sex with you? Will you still be happy? I'm a man who tends to lose sex drive for my partners in long-term relationships. It was never a huge deal to me to have sex when my gfs wanted it, but sometimes I didn't feel like it and didn't initiate often. I have a hard time imagining staying in a monogamou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/10/23 06:24 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?What are you even talking about? 10 isn't really that many, and tons of women have been with less than that. Why do you care so much? Hooking up with people has nothing to do with this thing you're upset about anyway | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:49 AM |
| – | Is anyone else engaging in hook ups as a defence mechanism?Virgins tend to prefer other virgins and run in the same circles as other virgins and want the same things out of relationships as other virgins. Not really. People don't segregate by virginity like that. Sure, I don't meet many girls with low partner counts at wilder parties or clubs, but in general this isn't how the people work on planet earth. If you're promiscuous you're unlikely to even meet many virgins much less have compatible worldviews. I've been very promiscuous (~150 partners) and a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/10/23 11:47 AM |
| 1 | Assuming traditional gender norms in dating, what do women offer in the initial dating stages?Do you pay to impress her No, buying a cocktail or bubble tea isn't impressive. you mentioned dinner just why tf I don't like eating in front of people on the first date, but sometimes I'm hungry and didn't have time to eat. I never really plan dinners as first dates. If I'm taking a girl home and she's hungry, I want her to eat first. I won't pay if we get her quick food from a restaurant and I don't eat. Paying for uber? Yes, I know when she will arrive and don't have to worry about waiting so… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 07:46 PM |
| 3 | Q4FandM : why does virginity matter or not matter to youNot really a big deal. I think teaching someone and guiding them through their first time is really hot. I think showing people new things is exciting and satisfying in general. I haven't ended up with many virgins however | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:41 AM |
| 4 | What do you think of hypergamy?People take what they can get. Everyone has slightly different priorities for traits in partners. Sure, we'd all like to be dating charming, kind, billionaires who look like models. But those people don't seem too interested in dating us ;) In reality people marry others from similar socioeconomic and educational backgrounds, and attractiveness levels. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:16 AM |
| 1 | Anyone tried passport broing?Anyone tried passport broing? Yes, I've lived and dated in several different countries and continents. but what I found was that I was wary because I wasn't sure if these women wanted me for me or if they were interested in my passport or my money. I did not have this experience at all. Though I have friends who said this was a problem they ran into. There were a couple times I matched a girl who asked for money or was a prostitute on dating apps, but 98% of the time this was not the case. I nev… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 03:09 AM |
| 1 | Assuming traditional gender norms in dating, what do women offer in the initial dating stages?I think that focusing too much on "what am I getting out of it" or "how even is this" is a bad thing in general. I pay for the majority of my dates. I don't mind paying for dates with women who are sweet, positive, engaged, appreciative, etc. When I really like a girl, I'm happy to pay for things, but it's also a big bonus when girls want to help out with costs too. But I don't spend a lot of money on the first few dates anyway I do tend to have women travel to me. Always for the first date, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 02:53 AM |
| 1 | What do you make of a woman who regularly dates older men?Some people have a visceral reaction to relationships with age gaps and it gives them the ick. Other people can date fall in love with people of very different ages, and it doesn't feel weird at all to them. I don't care if a woman has dated older men before. I date people for who they are, not their dating history. On reddit you hear people make all these negative stereotypes about people in relationships with different ages. I think these are mostly ridiculous | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 02:24 AM |
| – | Most Men Struggle in Dating Because they Lack "Main Character" EnergyYeah, I think this is actually a really good facet/concept to look at. You can succeed with women with pretty different styles of personality, but having an interesting, compelling, eventful life where you're a driving force that makes things happen is a huge plus. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 02:18 AM |
| 7 | What do you think of hypergamy?Men also want women who come from better backgrounds, have more money, are better looking, have better personalities etc. Not sure what blue pull ideology is, but does it say that women don't like rich, attractive men? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 02:10 AM |
| 3 | Do men want a woman like this?Why would this be sexist? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 23/08/23 02:07 AM |
| 1 | Today society is PERFECT for menIt has been taboo at several points in certain times/cultures, but has been openly discussed and practiced in many others: https://www.mic.com/impact/a-history-of-oral-sex-from-fellatios-ancient-roots-to-the-modern-blow-job-16543812 (Article also mentions time periods where the practice was taboo) In fact, even bonobos perform oral sex, suggesting that it existed as far back as our last common ancestor with them | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 06:36 AM |
| 1 | At what point is 'improve yourself' no longer good advice?Focusing on my improving my dating life made an enormous night-and-day difference for me. Though a lot of the conventional "money and muscles" type advice didn't make much of a difference. And yes, I know there ARE less attractive men in relationships but the trends are extremely obvious. More and more men are going to be single and alone going forward and no amount of 'improve yourself' is going to change this reality. You can only do so much. I mean, the hundreds of millions of ugly guys in ha… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 05:24 AM |
| 2 | Today society is PERFECT for menLol, and which part is "boldly gaslighting"? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Do abusive/manipulative men have better relationships than normal ones?No, they don't. You have x number of guys who complain about x number of bad relationship outcomes- being cheated on, dead bedrooms, being rejected, being compared to exes, etc Then you have x number of women who talk about how they would do everything for their toxic ex and now don’t want to be vulnerable anymore, or what have you. There are different dynamics that toxic relationships can have. The majority of the time this is a 2-way problem. Think about it - if you ask the partner in either o… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 12:25 AM |
| 1 | Are men and women's sexual standards too high because of over stimulation?Personally, the only thing that really increased my dating standards was dating success. Dating more attractive people with more attractive personalities. My standards are much higher now than when I watched porn regularly. Quitting porn didn't help me at all with ED either. You'll get a bunch of men complaining in the comments about social media or dating apps giving women unrealistic standards and women complaining about porn and dating apps giving men unrealistic standards. These narratives a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/08/23 12:04 AM |
| 3 | Today society is PERFECT for menCasual sex is encouraged and accepted and is accessible via apps like tinder. No more are the days that you had to sleep with the same person for your whole life. This is completely dependant on where you live. In the US this is very accepted, but people still have less casual sex than 20 years ago. Men seek casual sex more than women, but most men seek committed relationships over singledom. Hot college girls are encouraged to have a "hoe phase" so the hottest girls in society are down for casu… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/08/23 11:49 PM |
| 1 | Dating apps are not designed for womenThe idea of dating apps generally appeals to men more than women, but these companies work very hard to market to women and build female userbases (because they're harder to get than men). There are apps that try to limit choices/matches for users, but they are less popular | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 09:35 PM |
| 5 | The men are better looking at pool parties than womenDo you think that's weird? Pool parties and beaches are very popular activities | /r/PurplePillDebate | 13/08/23 09:27 PM |
| 61 | How much of a turn off is astrology when a woman heavily believes in it?I think astrology is fun, but I wouldn't have a serious relationship with a woman who made important decisions based on astrology. I'd be friends with her though. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 06:24 AM |
| 2 | Would you use male birth control?Sure, but it's better than risking sti's. Many women don't like them either | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 04:16 AM |
| 1 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**The scientific method tests hypothesis using data. You can't "test" a definition or concept like that and nobody said anything about scientific method. there's an "alpha" there's a "beta" etc. You can't all be alphas. Just like you couldn't all be royals or knights or merchants or farmers or paupers. No, just because other greek letters exist doesn't mean anyone is obligated to create or use categories of traits named after them. Of course if "everyone was an alpha male" it would be a pretty use… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 04:11 AM |
| 1 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**Dude, everything is made up - that's how language works. Plenty of terms have inconsistent definitions. People on this subreddit argue about what feminism means every week. People add on to it, take parts away, and make up a bunch of other types of it. It creates an easy classification to glorify and put down other men. Men just found another way to create and trap each other in a hierarchy. Because men interacting with men is a lot of dick jousting. Nobody here is trying to glorify you or put y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 03:14 AM |
| 0 | **Why Women Desire a Healthy Alpha Male**Op's post is basically a definition of "alpha male". There are people who fit those traits to some degree. There's no science or pseudoscience involved | /r/PurplePillDebate | 12/08/23 02:29 AM |
| 2 | Question for men who say women are overly shallow - If you genuinely believe that all (or essentially all) women only care about looks, why don't you focus on improving your looks?Not sure what you're disagreeing with? I don't really have "natural handsomeness", but I have a great dating life. I have a close friend who's 5'5" and skinny-fat but does better with women than most guys. I even know a bald, slightly chubby indian guy who bats out of his league. There are exceptionally attractive men who struggle with dating, but it's not because they work at gas stations | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 03:45 PM |
| 1 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleThey are plots summarizing the survey data....including the pie chart chowing the answers for the above question. It's a yes/no question, I don't understand what additional data you're talking about | /r/PurplePillDebate | 11/08/23 01:21 AM |
| 47 | Question for men who say women are overly shallow - If you genuinely believe that all (or essentially all) women only care about looks, why don't you focus on improving your looks?I don't agree with the extremity of your premise, but looks matter a lot in dating and people tend to date around their relative "looks level". But there's only so much you can do to improve your looks. Fitness, fashion, and grooming do make a large difference, but it's not everything. Aside from not being overweight, I'd say that genetic components of your face and your height are the most important parts of your physical attractiveness as a man and aren't things you can change. For example, I'… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 10:36 PM |
| 1 | The problem with online dating is women's selectiveness, not the ratio of men to womenI don't understand. You still don't know someone's personality until you meet them. So unless you don't care about that at all, you still have to meet them first. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Age Gap Relationships are Parasitic for Both PartiesI'm late to this so I'm not going to write out a long response. But you're making way too many assumptions about people here. There are reasons people usually date around their age, but you can't just reduce people and their relationships to just ages like that. It's such an insignificant part of who someone is and how they connect with other people. I've been involved in age gap relationship both older and younger, and, of course there are some differences on average, but there are so many othe… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:27 PM |
| 0 | Approaching women is a humiliation ritual that only psychopaths can win long runIt's not really a big deal. Way more women swipe left on me on dating apps than I have time to approach in real life. It's just part of life. Not everyone is going to like me and not everyone will be open to dating anyway. Why would that affect my self-esteem? I already know it. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:22 PM |
| 2 | Would you use male birth control?I'd probably do this, but condoms already are pretty effective and RISUG wouldn't prevent sti's. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:19 PM |
| 1 | The problem with online dating is women's selectiveness, not the ratio of men to womenDoes this not apply for men too? Like, sure, I can tell whether a girl is physically attractive through her profile (though many women have profiles that make it hard to tell what they look like). But I can't tell if I'm actually going to like her personality or have chemistry with her until I actually meet her in person. Isn't that just part of online dating? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:15 PM |
| 8 | Men don’t have commitment issues any more than women but women tend to go for guys who have no reason to commitYeah, this happens to men too. It's really easy to "date down", but many people want to date up. I can very easily get dates with less attractive women and some of them will be very nice to me, make it very easy to see them, etc (there are still ones that won't put much effort in anyway). But getting attractive women to meet up is a pain in the ass. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 09:10 PM |
| 1 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleThe survey results are in the blog post | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 08:47 PM |
| 3 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleI'm not the author - most of those questions are answered in the article. You can contact the author for the others | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 08:15 PM |
| 1 | Men today act so feminineThey never want to pay for anything because "thats unfair". Like aren't men supposed to be natural providers? I guess not. No, men spend money that they make. If you're referring to providing for others, men are more likely to be primary breadwinners than women. -Men are also suppose to be protectors. But most fathers leave their families, thus not being the protector of the household Again, wrong. Most children are raised by their biological father. (Other comments pointed out that divorces ten… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 08:08 PM |
| 1 | Can porn and masturbation discourage men from getting sex?Yes, ejaculation definitely reduces sex drive for men. I rarely masturbate these days, but when I do, I definitely have much less motivation for sex. Though masturbation won't just completely satisfy someone's desire for sex. Sex with another person involves waaaay more than just physical stimulation. Also, some of these comments are ridiculous. Many men who have sex still masturbate. And masturbation isn't something that people do "just because they can't get laid". Many people would choose mas… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 07:20 PM |
| 1 | When approaching someone, it feels like you have to be as indirect as possibleThis is more or less the correct answer. This by almost any measure is incredibly unempathetic and selfish socializing. This isn't really that out of the ordinary. Many people aren't very aware of other's wants and needs and many people don't understand the situations/viewpoints of certain other people. Stop talking to people with these direct intentions and plans. They're ludicrous to have in the first place. You have direct intentions about a person you barely know because they want...have a n… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 10/08/23 07:03 PM |
| 5 | The equivalent of a man being ghosted after paying for a fancy dinner and outing for a woman is a woman being ghosted after sexI'm not sure I've ever had a date that took that little time factoring in all the time texting, whenever I first met the person, getting ready, etc. Nor have I ever spent $300 on a first date...what even is that | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 07:25 PM |
| 6 | The equivalent of a man being ghosted after paying for a fancy dinner and outing for a woman is a woman being ghosted after sexYou don't need to make some gender equivalency here. Men don't like being ghosted after sex either, nor do women like being ghosted after spending money on someone. And the time cost to a date is always more valuable than the money cost | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Women want to be loved, but they don't want to love.There are women who will expect you to do everything for them and give very little in return. There are also women who will give and give to you if they really like you even without getting much at all back. I went on a date last night where I ordered my date a taxi, and took her to a nice cocktail bar. She was hungry and asked for a specific place, so I bought ordered delivery for her from there. I shared a bottle of wine I had with her as well. She asked for a massage at one point when I was r… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 03:23 AM |
| 2 | Men's aversion to be seen as husband material is same as women's aversion to being seen as a sex object.I don't relate to this at all. I've never had a woman trying to have a long-term relationship with me without also being sexually attracted to me. I'm happy to hear that a woman is interested being with me for something longer-term, but unfortunately, people often say things like that and then disappear. I'm not sure if I've ever been called husband material before, but I'd be at least just as happy to receive a genuine compliment like that as "you're handsome" or "you're hot" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/08/23 03:13 AM |
| 1 | The standard rejections of "no spark, not enough chemistry and not feeling it" is just a nicety of 'I didn't find you sexually attractive.'Your last comment said: No physical attraction is sexual attraction! I was just surprised as I think that works differently for most people | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:59 PM |
| 3 | The standard rejections of "no spark, not enough chemistry and not feeling it" is just a nicety of 'I didn't find you sexually attractive.'So you're sexually attracted to every person that you're physically attracted to? I've met tons of available, physically attractive people that I'm just not sexually interested in, bc they lack the type of personality/mannerisms that I'm attracted to | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 07:19 PM |
| 6 | The standard rejections of "no spark, not enough chemistry and not feeling it" is just a nicety of 'I didn't find you sexually attractive.'Most people aren't able to break down exactly why they don't feel drawn to someone and they default to explaining it that way. Because they didn't feel that feeling! Sometimes they are more aware, but saying they "didn't feel it" (to other people and themselves) feels more acceptable than the real answer (like "I couldn't date a garbageman" or "I find the giant mole on her lip gross"). Also people are attracted to personalities, not just looks | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:25 PM |
| 4 | The standard rejections of "no spark, not enough chemistry and not feeling it" is just a nicety of 'I didn't find you sexually attractive.'I don't necessarily agree with OP, but "physically attracted" and "sexually attracted" aren't really the same thing right? You're not going to be sexually attracted to someone if there's no spark, nothing in common, and you feel you're incompatible, right? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:19 PM |
| 1 | Do you have a “one that got away”?If so, would you/have you tried to get back with them or is it more of a fantasy you know wouldn’t actually work out better the second time? Yes, I would get back with them Would you dump a current partner if they came back? I moved away before, but I probably wouldn't leave a new relationship. I find myself comparing potential future partners to her and look for someone on that level (I've come very close a few times since). What makes this person special to you? Were they a first, a best, or y… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 06:14 PM |
| 1 | Men treating their partner/spouse like women treat theirs is considered abusiveIf your point is that women are on average more hygeinic than men, than I agree. But I still have to give women advice on stuff like this sometimes (don't eat unhealthy food all the time, clean up your room, don't smoke weed everyday, don't clean your vagina with sanitary wipes, don't leave leftovers in room temperature for hours, please don't eat in my bed, being an hour late all the time isn't acceptable, and many others). Taking their shoes off in my place is a common one I have to battle. I … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 05:55 PM |
| 1 | Being a traditional women does not benefit womenAssuming you live in a country/culture that provides you adequate freedoms, you can pick and choose whatever items from either of those lists you want to embody. Nobody is limited to your random made-up categories and restrictions. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 05:36 PM |
| 2 | Say No coffee dates!!!!! have standardsWhy would getting coffee or going on a walk in the park with your partner or date be a bad thing? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:30 PM |
| 5 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?There are 50 things I'd tell my younger self in general before dating related things. But that list is still interested to think about. Depends on the age as well, but let me try. This is mostly a list of how to maximize your dating/sex life. Big ones 1. Biggest thing is just to go all-in on your goals in that area of life now. Don't wait because things are hard or uncertain or scary. Put yourself out there and build the social life you want. Be creative and don't be afraid to aim high. Just sto… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 12:18 PM |
| 1 | There’s a good reason men get praised for sleeping around and women don’tThere are some people that are impressed by it, but in my experience, more people will view you as sleazy/degenerate for sleeping around a lot. Other people will even be weirdly bitter and defensive in a jealous way, and make weird negative assumptions about you. I don't share that part of my life with people outside certain friend groups that are cool about it. I don't really ever feel like I get "praised" for it. I don't get why people here think that men who sleep around are lauded or whateve… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:23 AM |
| 2 | Isn't the "Red Pill" supposed to be a harsh truth, yet it seems incredibly easy to believe?Yeah, I thought the things people said in the old redpill reddit was mostly ridiculous, but it went pretty hard on accountability, responsibility, improvement, etc. Honestly, it felt kind of self-victimizing the extent which people pushed the "you can't count on anyone else, you can't trust women they're emotional children, nobody will ever care about you apart from what you provide excluding your mother, you have to take responsibility for absolutely everything yourself, etc" type stuff | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:09 AM |
| 2 | Say No coffee dates!!!!! have standardsYou don't have to like coffee dates, but you should know that different people have different preferences. Your dates aren't more "right" than their dates. I mean, come on, do you really expect everyone in the world to have the same preferences as you? Coffee dates aren't some weird evil thing and the idea that people should avoid having coffee with people their dating is absurd. I've gone at least 200 first dates in my life (let alone second+ dates) involving all kinds of different things. Ther… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 09:03 AM |
| 6 | Is it true that a lot of guys are bitter about dating being better in their 30s?I haven't really gotten to the age where I feel this much yet, but in my observation and experience, dating only gets harder after you turn 30, all else being equal. If you're improving yourself a lot, or especially if you were unattractive/awkward/weird when you were younger, then you can definitely have a better or much better dating life in your 30's. But you aren't going to get more attractive just by aging, and you're going to start getting cut out of more and more girls' consideration due … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:54 AM |
| 1 | CMV: If the only reason you’re improving yourself is to get laid, you’re making it more difficult to get laidI used to do a lot of outdoor sport climbing. I've also done a bit of canyoneering, mountaineering, and skiing, but was much more into sport climbing and occasionally bouldering. I've also traveled quite a bit and spent the last two years living abroad in multiple other countries. It's mostly men who do extreme sports. It's not common for really attractive girls to do them, though it does happen, and I imagine skydiving might be better for that than something more physical. You're definitely not… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 05/08/23 08:46 AM |
| 2 | Guys make more on Onlyfans than womenThe problem here is that "guys make more on onlyfans than women" is not a well defined statement. The link doesn't really make the point to the contrary, even if there is actually a certain percentile range within which men outearn women on onlyfans | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 09:13 PM |
| 0 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseWow. Ok: Rio is one of the most visited cities in South America (and 7th on that crime list), and I'm currently living in a different city among the ones I gave. All of those cities have well over a million in population Paris is also among the most dangerous cities in Europe. Tourism has nothing to do with this discussion anyway, you just randomly brought it up. The first Colombian city ranks number 23 on the list, not 36. I already made the point that rankings on a list like that won't necessa… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 09:01 PM |
| 1 | Testing a potential partner with no sex, while having casual sex/hook ups with other guys before, makes no sense objectively speakingYou should do whatever works for you, but how are you going to have someone prove that? Even if someone intends to do something that doesn't mean they might not change their mind later. What would you think of a guy who had a list of things he said you needed to do to prove your intentions before he would contribute some particular thing to the relationship? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 07:00 PM |
| 2 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseIt sounds like you're just redefining passport bros to some super specific, negative, 90-day fiancee on steroids, ignorant-sterotypes-of-foreign-women type thing. I guarantee you that 99.99+% of people who date people from other countries do not fit this extreme af description. Have you even actually met a single person who says they want to find a partner so they can move them to a completely different country to isolate them from all thier friends and family and make them dependent? This sound… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 06:47 PM |
| 12 | Single independent women are not really as independent as it seemsI mean, I'm a man and I pay for a maid, laundry service, food at restaurants, etc. I went to a mechanic when I drove a car (now I use public transport or taxis). Sure, there was a point where I cooked every meal and cleaned for myself, but I've also never owned my own home so I never handle any of the maintenance. It's the 21st century, it's normal to pay for services. When you're sick you go to a doctor, not treat yourself right? You buy food from the supermarket not grow it yourself right? I d… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 06:36 PM |
| 9 | Guys make more on Onlyfans than womenNo, men do not make more money on onlyfans then women. This is painfully obvious to anyone who has ever worked in this space: https://blog.gitnux.com/onlyfans-gender-statistics/ | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 06:25 PM |
| 1 | Testing a potential partner with no sex, while having casual sex/hook ups with other guys before, makes no sense objectively speakingDon't listen to dumb comments about "rewarding" or "punishing" guys, that's not your responsibility. But this is kind of like saying: "I'm not going to get a dog because I'll get too attached and be too sad when it dies. So I'll get a plant instead". This isn't really a gendered thing either, there are guys who do the same thing | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 06:16 PM |
| 2 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseI don't know what you mean by very young - I don't date minors. I'm not poor, so I don't generally meet or date people from very poor backgrounds. Though I have before. Earlier this year I dated a girl who grew up in very rural Laos, and didn't have electricity for the first half of her childhood I don't know what you mean by wield my money/influence over. I'm not rich or famous and I don't bribe people I'm dating or anything weird like that. I've also dated women who were a lot wealthier than m… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 05:52 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseI never said muggings are rare or don't happen in any of those cities or only happen in South America. I'd still argue that the safety levels of London, Paris, and Stockholm are not very comparable to places like Rio, Salvador, Cali, Guayaquil, or Caracas. I've also had things stolen in cities that I would consider safer than major Colombian cities where I haven't been the victim of any crimes. But that's just anecdotes This doesn't measure muggings exactly and gang/drug crime plays a big part i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 05:39 PM |
| 1 | Being sexually open is a viable mating strategy for womenI do think women (and men) overthink a lot of this sex stuff in dating. But the way you proposed that is going to sound pretty repulsive to most women. I personally think shy women are very cute, and in my experience women who are really forward sexually such that they're taking the lead in making sex happen have been pretty "easy come easy go" (as in they disappear as fast as they appeared - but not always!) That being said, I do think there are a lot of women who focus way too much on avoiding… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 04:47 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseI have no idea what point you're trying to make. There are people who make both good and bad partners who date within their own countries as well and your original comments were negative about international dating. I also don't agree that choosing to live in your vs your partner's home country determines the quality of a relationship. Sure if your point is "Going to a foreign country to pick up a submissive local girl and trucking her back home because you're fed up with western women is bad", t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 04:06 PM |
| 2 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseI live outside my home country and prefer dating women from certain cultures/backgrounds that aren't my own. That's the definition of passport bro, right? I wouldn't consider any of my relationships exploitative whether abroad or in my home country, nor do I desire to "exploit" anyone. I don't understand the association with "exploit the economic predicament of other people" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 03:54 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseI live outside of my home country and prefer to date women from certain cultural backgrounds that are not my own. So I'm a passport bro, right? Even from your urban dictionary link "men who have chosen to seek out foreign women, typically from other countries, for relationships" is completely different than that dating a foreign woman will give you the submissive, house trained woman of your dreams You're equating someone who resonates more with women from a different culture with some pretty ex… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 03:12 PM |
| 1 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseYou can definitely live in Colombia and not have anything bad happen to you. I've done that. But the majority of people I know here have been robbed/mugged on the street at some point. This happens to locals just as much. In many other countries this would be a rare occurrence, but is very common in Colombia and other countries in this region of the world | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 03:01 PM |
| 5 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseWow, an actual good, well-thought-out take on international dating on this sub! Even if you learn her language, you will never understand it with the subtle depth required to deeply understand a person. Learning a language takes a lot of time and effort, but you can definitely learn a second language to the level of a native speaker like this (though relatively few people do and this takes quite a few years and immersion) The pool of women that will be drawn to you and receptive to your offer of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:55 PM |
| 7 | Testing a potential partner with no sex, while having casual sex/hook ups with other guys before, makes no sense objectively speakingOf course men can do the same. Do you think a woman who takes a man out on inexpensive "low effort" dates that she plans is also "holding back and trying to have the upper hand?" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:38 PM |
| 2 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no sense“going over to a developing country to snag a foreign wife because you’re fed up with local women or think that dating a foreign woman will give you the submissive, house trained woman of your dreams is foolhardy at best and predatory at worst”. You just made up some wild, random scenario. This doesn't justify any of your points at all, and >99% of cross-cultural relationships do not involve someone who fits this description | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:32 PM |
| 3 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseLol, two people from different countries dating each other is not "exploitative". People on here say the dumbest things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:24 PM |
| 4 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseThis is a ridiculous take predatory because her choice to be with you was primarily made because she gets to live a life much better than what she would otherwise have access to in her own country Not everyone from outside of your country is some rice or banana farmer living in a straw hut, this is ridiculous. It's not anymore "predatory" than dating someone less wealthy in your own country. Is it "predatory" for a doctor to date a middle school teacher in the US just bc one makes much more mone… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:22 PM |
| 2 | There's nothing wrong with being a passport bro and the excuses against the practice make no senseI generally agree with your comment, but that bar girls wanting green cards and a meal ticket in entertainment districts are always easily distinguishable from nice poor hardworking girls who just want to be rescued from poverty despite the fact it is pretty clear there's a huge overlap in those categories If by bar girls you mean prostitutes, you'll find out pretty quickly if a girl sees you as a customer. It's also often not hard to distinguish sex worker types, but not always. Secondly, the v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 02:11 PM |
| 27 | Testing a potential partner with no sex, while having casual sex/hook ups with other guys before, makes no sense objectively speakingThere's nothing wrong with not having sex immediately, but having "rules" like that about withholding intimacy (or anything else) comes from insecurity and is only detrimental to relationships. Imagine you had a partner who said "I'm never going to spend money on you until 6 months into a relationship to make sure you really like me and aren't a gold digger" or "I don't share emotionally intimate personal stories until 90 days in to make sure I don't get hurt" or whatever. This feels overly cont… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 04/08/23 01:49 PM |
| 7 | The greenpill is a true and genuine solution to modern datingI do strongly prefer dating abroad in certain countries, but this lifestyle requires a lot of sacrifices and definitely isn't for everyone. I probably wouldn't advise people to move abroad just for a better dating life. For most people this is going to require big career sacrifices and language and cultural barriers are not insignificant things to overcome. Seeing family becomes complicated. It's also not like it's impossible to find a nice partner in western countries. If you want a great relat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 02:56 AM |
| 5 | Question for passport bro'sI've been living and dating outside my home country for a while But how many passport bro's are actually prepared to fill the social and cultural expectations the women and the womens families have for them? Or hell just dealing with the prejudice that they will face. This heavily depends on who I'm dating and what their expectations are. This varies widely even within a single city. It's not really that different than dating in the US. But I haven't lived in any super conservative or religious … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 03/08/23 02:38 AM |
| 3 | Is it more difficult for guys to get sex than it is for a relationship?Why are you asking women instead of men this question? The answer is "yes", unless you're in a very religious/conservative environment that strongly discourages premarital sex or an adolescent. I've never had a girl as an adult that wanted a relationship with me but didn't want to have sex with me. I've had tons of girls disappear after having sex | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 05:02 AM |
| 3 | “Overwhelmed with messages” is NOT an excuse for women’s awful online dating behaviourIt is pretty annoying to deal with so many people who disappear or put no effort into messaging. But I get overwhelmed with messages too as a man when I'm putting effort into online dating and dating through social media. Sometimes I have more bandwidth to message more people, but other times I'm busy or get tired of it and just ignore it all for a couple weeks. So I understand. Honestly, I don't care about random app matches that don't respond. It's the ones that text me forever and act interes… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 04:51 AM |
| 2 | Women who had pre marital sex are more likely to get divorced because of lack of religious belief, not because of broken pair boding abilities or whatever RP says.I don't think this is necessarily a religious thing, but I agree that the causal direction probably is mostly in the opposite direction than some people on here say, i.e. people who have lots of sex partners because they are promiscuous aren't going to be good at staying committed and people who have lots of sex partners because they are bad at maintaining relationships are also going to get divorced more | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 02:00 AM |
| 1 | if withholding sex is not a good way to secure commitment, then what is?Lmao, not being ready to have sex is not "an egregious dating offense". Different people have very different expectations and preferences when dating, so no one can just speak for everyone. here are the reasons i’ve gathered for this: 1) she had sex with other men earlier so that means she isn’t attracted to you and just wants your resources 2) even if she has a low body count or is a virgin, sex needs to be had early in the relationship to ensure attraction/compatibility and avoid being friendz… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 02/08/23 01:42 AM |
| 2 | CMV: If the only reason you’re improving yourself is to get laid, you’re making it more difficult to get laidIt's no more specific than any other number. I don't care about the total, but have chat histories with numbers from different cities I'd lived in during that time. Definitely possible I forgot a few, but I think it's pretty close. It's not really relevant to my point though. Nobody can secretly sense your inner motivations, they can only observe your behavior. And it's always tinted by their own beliefs and experiences. Insecure girls will worry you don't like them even if you obviously do. Som… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:27 PM |
| 1 | CMV: If the only reason you’re improving yourself is to get laid, you’re making it more difficult to get laidLolwut. I really don't think anyone climbs everest, visits the pyramids, or goes skydiving to get laid. That doesn't make any sense | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/08/23 07:32 AM |
| 2 | Most men catch feelings for their female friends, women rarely for their male buddiesThis is so ridiculous - I don't know what world some of you people on here live in. I have tons of female friends that I'm not interested in, including ones I'm not attracted to at all. If I'm attracted to someone, I'll just date them instead (unless I have stronger reasons to want to be friends with them - which is not a rare thing!). Sure, I suppose the vast majority of my female friends are attractive, but that doesn't mean I want to sleep with them or date them. Many of them I just don't lik… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 09:23 PM |
| 2 | Sleeping together too soon vs if she's into you it should be immediatePeople have all sorts of "common wisdom" ideas about relationships that contradict each, don't matter, or are even wrong. The timing of when you have sex is generally not going to be why your relationship succeeds or fails unless it's causing someone to feel rejected/inadequate/distanced or overly-pressured. Not everyone is always going to be ready to have sex on the first date, but it's never going to require someone a year of dating to become attracted to a person either. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 09:07 PM |
| 2 | CMV: If the only reason you’re improving yourself is to get laid, you’re making it more difficult to get laidI spent most of my time over the past few years focusing on improving/optimizing my dating life. I've slept with 116 women the past 26 months. Though I don't care about the quantity anymore, I've also dated girls way cooler and more attractive than before. This journey led me to have some of the craziest experiences of my life and taught me a lot. Anyway, this post is ridiculous. If you want to achieve anything you have to focus on it and work at it. If someone told you that improving yourself t… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 31/07/23 08:55 PM |
| 12 | CMV: It makes sense that men (particularly ones who had a glow up) don't treat women with much respect.So to me it makes sense that successful men don't treat many women with respect because it's the same treatment they would've received if they weren't in the same position As someone who's had the both experience of being a somewhat shy, awkward, ignored kid, but also of having more attention from women than I have time deal with, I didn't have that experience at all. If anything, it made me more empathetic towards women. I don't often get outright "disrespectful" treatment by women. I don't cou… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 06/06/23 11:25 AM |
| 0 | How can Facebook Groups like Are We Dating The Same Guy Balance Female Safety and Male Privacy?Wrt privacy, you can't control other people talking about you. You don't have some "right" to prevent people talking about that. Some of these groups have already devolved into toxicity, and others will as well. People will realize that that the people most involved in those groups tend to be pretty toxic and drama-seeking. These are gossip groups after all. You can't really maintain quality of an open, public group on a topic like this. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 07:40 AM |
| 1 | Does the fact that a guy friend would bang his female friend if given the chance mean he's not really her friend?Of course not. I have a lot of attractive female friends. There are several that I would sleep with in the right situation. There's at least one that I particularly like, and would try to date them if I got any signs of interest. There are others that I like as friends, but I don't find their personalities attractive in that way. There are several that I've slept with in the past, but we just hang out as friends now. There are some that have valuable connections for me and I don't want to compli… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 15/03/23 06:08 AM |
| 1 | Change my View : Location is a very Big factor, in terms off sexual success, there are Playboys in a certain region who would be incels if they moved to a "harder" region.Interesting, I've met girls that I really liked here in thailand (I like girls here physically for sure). But I don't get that level of attention here on tinder or at clubs. I've dated a couple models and a micro-influencer girls in bangkok, but those are mostly from network/connections/private events. I only occasionally get hot ones from tinder or clubs (and the club ones are often pretty hoe-y, which I'm not into). So you often get approached by women in Sing Sing, Thong Lor clubs, and RCA cl… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 07:16 PM |
| 1 | Change my View : Location is a very Big factor, in terms off sexual success, there are Playboys in a certain region who would be incels if they moved to a "harder" region.Are you saying that the girls you met in Pattaya City and Udon Thani were very similar? Bangkok is the only one of those 3 I've personally lived in for an extended amount of time, but those are very different places, and I would be extremely surprised to hear someone say they lived in all 3 and found dating to be the same (because I've heard many say the contrary) The "easiness" of dating somewhere depends entirely on your goals. US is easy if you want casual sex with overweight women. Bangkok i… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 04:38 PM |
| 3 | Change my View : Location is a very Big factor, in terms off sexual success, there are Playboys in a certain region who would be incels if they moved to a "harder" region.Yes, your location or "market" can make an extreme difference in the quality of your dating life. I've lived and dated in several different regions of the world including some on your list. Outside of extremes in appearance and personality, I'd say that location is the most important factor in the quality of someone's dating life. This topic is actually really fascinating to me after having such different experiences dating in different places. Major cities in regions like the US and Western Eur… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/23 06:01 AM |
| 2 | No woman has ever been manipulated into sexYeah, that's the point. People like sex - that's why they have it | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 05:39 PM |
| 4 | No woman has ever been manipulated into sexThis is ridiculous. "I would have never had sex with them if they didn't say hi to me" "I would never have had sex with them if they didn't act interested in me" "I would never have had sex with them if they didn't kiss me back". "i would never have had sex with them if they didn't lose 30 pounds and go to the gym for 6 months" "I would never have had sex with them if they didn't make me feel so comfortable and understood" None of this is manipulation. The word manipulation implies an element of… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 05:34 PM |
| 2 | No woman has ever been manipulated into sexMost sex women have is the result of manipulation? That's ridiculous. Most sex people have is in relationships and comes from desire and love. I've had sex with over 100 women in my life and none of those experiences involved anyone being manipulated or any of the things on your list (except maybe me having been lied to). Women (and men) have sex with people because they're sexually attracted to them. Personally, getting sexual with a girl who doesn't seem into it is a huge turn-off. Doing thing… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/02/23 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Why do people think that individual men are responsible for women value in regards to body count?There are tons of people who don't view promiscuity as "bad". I'm a man, I have a very promiscuous past and I've dated people with both few and many partners. You can't just look at dumb people on weird subreddits and say all people are like that. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/23 07:35 AM |
| 1 | What, or when, do you think the breaking point will be?But I also don't believe that passport bros are looking for the outgoing, sophisticated, intelligent women in other countries. Wanting to date intelligent women is pretty standard - I don't think anybody seeks out dumb partners. Though some people may prefer more introverted partners or less sophisticated if they're not "sophisticated" themselves. I prefer intelligent and sophisticated women. I like outgoing too, but some of my favorite women I've dated were actually pretty introverted. Places l… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/23 07:23 AM |
| 3 | Is pre-selection actually real?Yes, this is very real, and you don't have to be in a relationship for this effect either. I slept with a girl the other month because her friend (who I had already slept with) told her that she should do it. I've had many instances of girls coming to certain events I host because they saw their friends following me on instagram and dm-ed them asking about me. Or girls that feel comfortable around me because they see other attractive girls very comfortable and friendly around me. In my personal … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 07:48 PM |
| 4 | No matter how good-looking a man is, he isn't able to escape the burden of competence.Jeremy Meeks is a famous, successful fashion model | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 07:14 PM |
| 1 | CMV: There's nothing wrong with this picture and Red Pillers are losing it for no reason.The tweet says "dominant woman. submissive man". I don't really see elements of dominance/submission in this photo, but I do see the leader/follower. Regardless, the tweet author (assuming he is the "red-piller" or whatever) is definitely not losing it - he's trying to do some sort of analysis of poses/connotations in the image. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 07:10 PM |
| 0 | Why do people think that individual men are responsible for women value in regards to body count?No, it's not hypocritical. It's not hypocritical to want to date a creative person even though you aren't creative yourself. It's not hypocritical to want to date someone who is skilled at home repairs even if you aren't yourself. It's not hypocritical to want to date someone who's more grounded, realistic, and conservative when you're adventurous and idealistic. Etc, etc, etc You can prefer a certain type of person without believing the alternative to be "low-value" or whatever. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Seen repeated claims “there are more attractive women then men.”Yeah, exactly, there's no objective platonic ideal of sexual attractiveness. It's relative to subjective opinions of the other gender (or homosexual/bi/etc) | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 06:58 PM |
| 2 | What's the problem with casual age gap relationships?Yes, this has a way bigger impact than age on exploitation in relationships. To have the sort of manipulative/exploitative relationships people (naively) associate with age gap relationships you need: The person has to be machiavellian/sociopathic/antisocial enough to be manipulative like this, and Either considerably more intelligent (like you said) OR have a significant, abuse-able position of power over the other person (such as blackmail or large degree of influence on career, or some threat… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 06:42 PM |
| 3 | What, or when, do you think the breaking point will be?There are some really great, nice, put-together, feminine women in America. I've dated a couple of them, and know friends and family that I'd put in that category too. But women that make great partners in America are definitely a minority (in my personal opinion, of course). These types are much more prevalent in certain other countries - the dating experience is a huge difference. Those types of women are also really in high demand in America - every guy wants to date them. And countries like … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 06:28 PM |
| 1 | What, or when, do you think the breaking point will be?I'm from rural Appalachia US. I've also lived for significant amounts of time in some of the countries people talk a lot about for dating (though not the Philippines specifically). Firstly, people are very diverse personality-wise everywhere. However, culture also makes a huge difference and really affects dating. You aren't really getting the "same types of women", though there are positive qualities that certain women of both those categories share. Rural US has a huge obesity problem, and rea… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/23 06:07 PM |
| 2 | Women do not naturally desire older men; they are forced to settle for them; and have a strong preference for men their own age.Best comment here. Just shows you how divorced reddit can be from reality. I have a friend in her mid-30's who's obsessed with shawn mendes, and was recently dating a girl in her early 20's who's celebrity crush is Robert Downey Jr. Though, of course, that doesn't mean they'd date other guys at those ages - most people do date within a few years | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 03:42 PM |
| 3 | Telling men who have trouble with dating to “treat women like people” to improve their chances is actually gas lighting and abuse.Nobody on reddit knows what gaslighting is | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 03:30 PM |
| 3 | PPD blind spot on "asia"But typically in those threads - the men are suggesting you go to Philippines, Thailand, Vietnam, etc. and get women who are from poorer backgrounds. The women are also not from upper middle class backgrounds either. Those women wouldn’t live in those countries if they were that well off. The same is true in countries like Turkey. Women who are educated and well off tend to leave the country - it’s only those who aren’t well off enough or have the education that stay behind. Most people want to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 01/02/23 12:33 PM |
| 1 | How would you like someone to show interest in you? What would help you feel appreciated vs used?In general, the things you mentioned would definitely make me feel appreciated. Things like genuine, specific compliments/statements of appreciation, or something like cooking for me are rare for me to receive when dating someone new. But sex is very common. I never really have girls who don't want to have sex, but are also really into me and do things like you describe. Cooking for me would definitely stand out to me | /r/PurplePillDebate | 26/01/23 01:40 PM |
| 1 | If a woman's sexual past shouldn't be a factor in a relationship, would you, as a woman, consider dating a man who has previously been sexually dominated by 10 men?Eh, I'm only giving my personal experience here, but I've had around 100 sexual partners as a (heterosexual) man. Having those experiences and relationships actually gave me much higher standards for the people I date. Now, I don't really like/do one night stands anymore, I only have sex with women who I have strong chemistry with, and I'm really selective. When I was younger, creating those intimate connections with new people was an intensely powerful and fulfilling experience, but once you do… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 05:08 PM |
| 6 | Study finds that sexless people are just as happy as sexually active people.I've had periods of my life where I was sexless and periods of my life where I could more or less have as much sex as I wanted with a wide variety of attractive partners. Once you have that for a while, you get used to it and it's not special anymore. Sometimes you sleep with a new attractive partner, but it just feels like a waste of time and you wish you did something productive or hung out with your friends instead. I can definitely go a while without having sex, focusing on other things, and… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 20/01/23 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Does your childhood/upbringing influence what things in partners you find attractive?Yes, these things do have an influence on how you relate to other people and what dynamics you seek out from them. People build a lot of communication habits in their childhood and adolescence from their family. On the other hand, a lot of people try so hard to explain aspects about their personality, desires, and habits from their childhood. People will use the same childhood event or relationship with parent to explain completely different outcomes or vice versa. Not everything needs to have s… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/01/23 02:57 PM |
| 2 | Saw this earlier with the roles reversed, so let me ask: Men, does it matter if a woman is a loner? Why or why not?I don't really care too much about how many friends a girl has, but I do notice correlations between a girl's social life and personality. For example, a lot of "loner" type girls have issues with anxiety/social anxiety and social/communication skills. Some girls like this have a tendency to become really codependent with their partners which can cause a lot of issues. So, I tend to not date girls like that, but actually my favorite girl I ever dated was super introverted and didn't have any clo… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 07:57 PM |
| 1 | Besides sex, do you even like women?do you even like women as people? Of course....what is this even supposed to mean? I guess I don't like every single woman I've ever met, but I also have some really cool women in my life. Do you deep down see women as equals? Equal in what? I don't believe that people have some sort of absolute value that can be measured against each other Do you think women and men can connect intellectually and that such a connection is the basis for a relationship? Duh. Do you expect to do half of the work a… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 07:17 PM |
| 1 | There’s a rise in loneliness among men today, why?People can live thier lives without maintaining relationships. They take the path of least resistance and don't build and maintain meaningful relationships. Local communities aren't nearly as strong, necessary, or pervasive as in the past. Today it's easier for people to isolate themselves. It doesn't really have much to do with dating apps. You can be getting laid every other day and still feel lonely. Dating apps aren't preventing you from having friends | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/01/23 07:05 PM |
| 1 | Q4W: Whats your thoughts on men dating younger women? 6+ years age differenceI've had casual relationships with partners up to 12 years older and 10 years younger than me (in my late 20's). I had sex with a girl on her 18th birthday in my late 20's I've rejected a girl for sex who was slightly older than me, because I thought she'd get too emotionally attached and it would turn out to not be a positive experience for her (We were both mid-20's and I was the first guy she'd ever kissed). I've turned down a couple other inexperienced mid-20's girls for similar reasons. I'v… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 04:00 PM |
| 3 | What are your most important attributes in a women?It depends on what exactly you mean by "partner". But I'll give it a shot. These aren't in order of importance, but in chronological order of when I discover them. Looks. I have to find her physically attractive. For me this means having a healthy weight, a face that's attractive (just not ugly/genetically unlucky), and good style Energy/vibe/chemistry/spark. She has to have a personality that I click with. Where I have fun and enjoy just talking and flirting and being around her. She can be out… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 09/01/23 03:32 PM |
| 3 | Why do many women place so much importance on height (a genetic trait) and at the same time seem to care so little about weight and body fat percentage (traits that are the result of our habits and say a lot about our health)?Weight isn't linearly related to attractiveness and you can't use some threshold to divide more/less attractive people. The average person doesn't understand body fat percentage. Being obese will hurt you in dating more than being short will. Why would it matter whether it was genetic or not? People don't get to choose what they're attracted too. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 08/01/23 12:47 AM |
| 1 | Is the “friend zone” real? Why are men and women so divided about the concept?This is a funny topic to me. I don't think I've ever been put in the "friend-zone" as a guy. Girls just stop responding or never meet up. They never suggest being friends if I'm trying to date them. I "friend-zone" a lot of girls as in decide that I'm not going to pursue them in a sexual way, and am just going to bring them into my social circle or try to join theirs. Idk if that's the same as they aren't hitting on me. (Occasionally a girl will give me a lot of signals that she likes me though.… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/23 11:06 PM |
| 2 | “The Friend Zone” for menI don't agree with you at all. I like feminine energy and hanging out with girls. I have a lot of really cool friends who are girls. Being the guy who always has a lot of attractive girls around him can have so much social utility too. It gets me invited to a lot of cool things and has allowed me to meet some really cool people I wouldn't have met otherwise. Hot girls get invited to everything, and if you're close friends with them, you can end up at some really cool places. I also enjoy social … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/01/23 10:49 PM |
| 1 | Women hypocritically use shaming tactics to try and dictate what preferences men are "allowed" to have, while advocating for women being able to have whatever preferences they wantPositive for you but years later how do these women feel about it when their brains are finished developing? If it was casual and it now turns their stomach to even think of you, would you know? How will that 18 year old feel about it later? What? She texted me the next day saying "Thank you for everything :)". Why would it suddenly "turn her stomach" later? If I don't feel good about it later, does that mean she's a bad person? I don't know why you're talking about sex with children. I personal… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 07:55 PM |
| 1 | Women hypocritically use shaming tactics to try and dictate what preferences men are "allowed" to have, while advocating for women being able to have whatever preferences they wantA little late here, but why is it fucked up? I've had a lot of very positive (mostly casual) relationships with people up to 12 years older and a decade younger than me. Our exact ages have never been an issue. I know a happily married couple who started dating when one person was 37 and the other was 18. Which does seem a little out there to me, but I believe adults should be free to pursue love and connection regardless of age without being shamed or criticized by others. I had sex with a some… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 27/10/22 06:28 PM |
| 7 | What's wrong with this sub recently? We are here for seduction strategies and self-improvement, aren't we? Instead, most guys here seems to hide behind a screen (OLD, Insta, ...) and talk sh*t about traditional approaching.Eh, you need to know how to text girls and close them which involves game, but for the most guys, game isn't what's holding back their online dating results | /r/seduction | 08/07/22 05:46 AM |
| 1 | Being average at everything makes you below averageI think this idea of rating someone as an "average/above average/below average/whatever" person in general is dumb and pointless. Different people value different things and there's no objective standard of a person's worth. So I'm going to assume you're talking about dating given the sub we're on. I also think using your dating success as a metric of your value as a person is also a really bad and misguided idea. Anyway, when I say average here I mean median, and I'm assuming the same from your… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 03:57 PM |
| 5 | “My wallet my choice” should be a real thing when it comes to reproductive rights for menI don't think it's really that simple. In the US, you're responsible for child support even if it's the result of rape. You're responsible if the woman uses your sperm to impregnate herself even if you didn't have sex with her. You're responsible if she removes the condom while she's on top and you don't notice (has happened to me multiple times though I did notice). You're responsible if she sabotages the condom and lies about being on birth control. If you're married and she has someone else's… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 07/03/22 03:42 PM |
| 1 | The gym is not the end all be all solution to get you laidBeing lean vs being fat will make a huge difference in your dating life. Being normal fit vs being jacked will be a much smaller boost that costs much more effort and time. Your musculature is just one part of your looks which is just one part of your overall attractiveness | /r/seduction | 21/02/22 05:51 PM |
| 3 | What Are Some Sure Ways to Prevent Being "Traded In" for a Younger Woman?In short, be an amazing partner that's hard to replace and pick a guy who really values a deep, comfortable relationship built up over many years, and who doesn't value youth in his partner so much. Make him dependent on you in various ways. But you also can't expect to 100% control things in life like that. People change, people change their minds. Committed relationships are great, but if you're betting your happiness, quality of life, etc on the whims/feelings/values/desires of another person… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 02:25 PM |
| 1 | The most attractive women I know tend to be the nicest and most groundedWhile I've met many girls who were both very attractive and very nice/good people, as well as some girls who were both very overweight and rude/shitty - my experience has generally been the opposite. Honestly, this is the reason I don't focus too much on super attractive model/party types when dating. They like me less, and I don't end up liking that many of them either. But everybody is their own person of course | /r/PurplePillDebate | 19/02/22 02:16 PM |
| 3 | Another outlier question: the Kardashian-Davidson-West saga seems to break all the rules and tropes of TRPYes, I read the post. But I don't think pete davidson being more/less desirable than Kanye has anything to do with the red pill. And women get less physically attractive as they age obviously doesn't mean no man ever dates someone older just like the fact that many people are reluctant to date single parents or take on responsibility for other's kids doesn't mean nobody would ever date a single parent. The post is even stupider than trp | /r/PurplePillDebate | 18/02/22 05:10 AM |
| 8 | Another outlier question: the Kardashian-Davidson-West saga seems to break all the rules and tropes of TRPWtf is this. Kim isn't unattractive just because she's older. I don't see how her kids are relevant here. Pete isn't really definitively less attractive than Kanye. Being emotionally unstable isn't really "alpha", but people don't just fit into boxes like that anyway You're just weirdly applying random ideas like "People get less attractive as they age" as super broad absolutes that are more important than anything else. That's not how the world works | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 09:33 PM |
| 1 | What are some of the expectations of women in dating/sex/relationships that you would like to see changed?The "ideal body of a woman" (or man) is subjective. There are many preferences people have in common, but also areas where they differ. For example I prefer particularly thin women (though this isn't the most important thing to me), but have friends that prefer women with more exaggerated butts/boobs. The ability to have noticeable butt and boobs while also being thin (smaller waist/flat stomach) is definitely achievable by much more than 1% of women. Probably well over half depending what you c… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 08:28 PM |
| 7 | How would you design a dating app catering to female sexuality?I don't think younger women would really be more keen on this for the same reason. Apps like tinder are the most popular because they require the least effort and are most convenient. The result is it's really hard to get a feel for someone by sending texts. I'd love to be able to go to singles events to meet people and actually be able to factor in someone's personality before a 1-1 date, but the kind of people I want to date don't go to those types of events. | /r/PurplePillDebate | 17/02/22 02:10 PM |
| 1 | This conversation about male “ urges “ has to stop.Source? | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 09:08 PM |
| 10 | This conversation about male “ urges “ has to stop.OP has said that they're referring to the context of cheating. Which isn't really a question of "urges" just honesty. You can break up with someone because you don't want to be monogamous. Choosing the "urge" or whatever, but not cheating. Anyway, yeah, I don't cheat on people, but personally I find my sex drive to be FAR stronger than my desire to overeat. And yet we live in the time of the obesity epidemic. This isn't really a male issue either, women cheat at comparable rates. The male sex dr… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 09:01 PM |
| 3 | Q4W: Do you dance and sing along to misogynistic rap lyrics?...of course it's not true that nobody watches such movies or they aren't popular. But they get far more criticism than musical artists | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 05:44 PM |
| 1 | Modern women are choosing the lesser of two evilsI don't really think this is much of a gender issue. Making big sacrifices and commitments to one person is always going to be a big risk. Things happen, people change. I don't really consider a relationship a "waste" if I enjoyed it even though I had to end over the other person changing. I've never been cheated on, but even if it happened I don't think it would make me regret an otherwise positive relationship. Though it does suck to lose something you put a lot of effort into But sacrificing … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Q4W: Do you dance and sing along to misogynistic rap lyrics?Did you read the post? I wasn't referring to rappers as "non-musical", I was referring screenwriters, directors, comedians, writers, etc. OP's question isn't about different musical genres. It was "Why do people accept misogyny in music and not other forms of art" | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 05:18 PM |
| 5 | Q4W: Do you dance and sing along to misogynistic rap lyrics?OP didn't mention classic rock because it's not near as popular especially among young women. His point is that it's weird how people go hard after many non-musical artists and other figures for perceived misogyny, but don't care that musical artists say much more extreme things | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 05:12 PM |
| 4 | Q4ALL: What should a woman do if she wants to punch above her attractiveness level?I often pick less attractive girls over more attractive girls (I'm doing this again right now as well). It's always because of their personality. Maybe these personality traits are specific to me, but I'm always going to prefer a girl who's very sweet/caring/thoughtful, a positive/happy person, a girl who's just really excited to be around me and enamored by me, is able to communicate/bring up and discuss concerns and problems in a constructive way, rather than a blaming negative way. honest to … | /r/PurplePillDebate | 16/02/22 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Honestly, would you leave a 7 in looks who you loved and had other shared interests/ values with, for a 10?I think people have different ideas of what 7 or 10 or whatever is, but someone's personality is very important to me (at least as important as their looks). So no, I would never choose a girl that was a little more physically attractive over a girl that was way more attractive personality-wise. But you're idea that men don't bond to people, but women do is just....wrong. I'm guessing you had some relationship in the best where you were much more invested than the guy? I mean, you can find a bun… | /r/PurplePillDebate | 14/02/22 05:19 PM |
| 1 | Men...this is the main reason you aren't getting laidSure, but in other cities you have a lot more potential for getting hot girls without being semi-famous. You get a girls number and go on dates, without resorting to only same-day pulls or meh girls from dating apps | /r/seduction | 12/01/22 11:23 PM |
| 1 | Men...this is the main reason you aren't getting laidPartner dances, especially latin usually aren't massively imbalanced favoring guys in most big cities. A lot of guys think they can start dancing salsa to meet girls. I've seen more scenes with more men than I have with more women. The others generally are though. Urban styles are your best bet for young hot girls. | /r/seduction | 12/01/22 11:15 PM |
| 2 | Salsa, Bachata, social dancing, is it worth it, for picking up women?Hey, I'm late to this thread, but I'll give you the type of answer you're looking for. Nightgame at good bars/clubs/parties is going to get you more and hotter girls than partner dance socials This is due to: Dances like salsa are generally going to be a social circle environment. If you go too hard on hitting on a lot of girls, it will backfire on you. How much you can get away with depends on the size and social dynamics of your local scene. You're also going to get a lot of girls who are real… | /r/seduction | 17/11/21 08:58 AM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I definitely don't prefer those types of girls. I like curvy/thick, but also skinny/tiny girls, and pornstar-type curvy/skinny also. I think anything under the bbw label is too much for me personally though. I need the stomach to be mostly flat-ish | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 10:01 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Personally, I like thick/chubby girls (though not too chubby), but if she is chubby with small tits/ass (especially tits) then I won't be attracted to her. But everyone is different | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 09:39 PM |
| 4 | Is it possible to get someone to stop being a cum rag?Do you want her to be your girlfriend? If so, it doesn't seem like she wants a relationship. But sometimes girls try to make you jealous or just assume you want something casual. If you want a gf, you should probably find a different girl. If not, why do you care? If it bothers you so much just tell her or stop hanging out with her instead of whining on reddit | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 09:35 PM |
| 2 | What are the peak dating/HU years for a man?I think it just depends on too many things. You can become an expert in game and max out your physique/style/looks in several years if you really hit it hard and have the right mentors. The only things that take a decade+ to reliably build are wealth and status. I guess if you're using your wealth for sugar dating or things like that, I could see the peak being later. Otherwise, I think it's hard for those to overcome the culture/dating age barrier unless you're living a really extraordinary lif… | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Talking to girls sucks with masksYeah, I've dropped a lot of my daygaming just because I don't like the mask roulette. I end up approaching a lot of girls that I'm not attracted enough to once they remove the mask | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:21 AM |
| 0 | [deleted by user]Lol, no. How many times has this actually worked for you? This is not going to get you laid. You can get really fast pulls/lays if you find the right girl at the right time. You can get good results running really sexually direct game. But this is not how to do it. You'll get much better results from online dating that this stupid strategy | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:18 AM |
| 1 | What are the peak dating/HU years for a man?This really depends. On the guy's situation, on what you mean by 'peak', etc. Physically/looks-wise your peak is probably in your late 20's. Your face has had time to mature, you're still young enough to maintain an optimal physique, skin is still young, and you probably haven't been hit hard by balding yet (though you can still look good long past that). Access-wise, most men peak in their early 20's in college. For most guys meeting hot girls gets harder and more time consuming after this. A f… | /r/seduction | 29/09/21 06:05 AM |
| 5 | Woman’s perspective: how can men have an abundance mentality when online dating puts so much abundance and power in a woman’s hands?Well, having an abundance mentality mostly depends on your personal abundance. If I can easily get attractive women, then I'm going to have an abundance mentality (regardless of how easy it is for the girls to get other guys). Abundance mentality isn't one singular absolute thing either. You can feel like you can consistently get less attractive, basic girls, but a really attractive girl who's also cool and down to earth is rare to you. I used to be like this. I agree that apps have changed dati… | /r/seduction | 23/08/21 07:59 PM |
| 1 | Do they always come back?No, but it happens every once in a while | /r/askTRP | 30/03/21 12:24 AM |
| 2 | What's the average success rate when approaching women at bars?You're going to have to get a lot of numbers for that. I only got one girl to come over after getting her number from nightgame (was actually my first night out). But I never tried to farm numbers, and would go for longer sets and same-night pulls. You can have lots of great sets and then never get them to come out on a date later. Just like daygame | /r/askTRP | 28/03/21 09:14 PM |
| 2 | What's the average success rate when approaching women at bars?This depends on a lot of factors. If you're come across as nervous, don't look good, are a beginner, etc, you're not going to have any success (until you improve, of course). On the other hand, the guys who are really good at this can consistently get laid almost every time they go out (even multiple times in the same night) at the right venues. I've been out with a few guys like this before, and they don't have to do a lot of approaches to get laid either (they have a very good sense for which … | /r/askTRP | 28/03/21 08:19 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider yourself attractive?I'm taller and in better shape. His face may be slightly better. He'd say I'm a little more attractive | /r/askTRP | 08/03/21 10:13 PM |
| 2 | Why did validation/compliments work for me?Yup. Making girls earn validation > never giving validation. By a mile | /r/askTRP | 27/02/21 03:59 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider yourself attractive?Almost all of his tinder dates come straight over, so he never has that problem He has really good text game as well. He says he gets shit-tested on his height sometimes, but that he's fucked every tinder date that shit-tested him on that. Personally, I've fucked 11/14 tinder girls on the first date. I have less success on tinder though, and fuck less attractive girls from there than my wing. | /r/askTRP | 27/02/21 03:58 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider yourself attractive?He's not rich. His face is a little above average at best. He has professionally taken photos with great candid poses and great fashion. He has high-quality travel photos of him scuba diving and riding a camel. You can't really tell he's short from his pics. Anyway, I'm not going to try any harder to convince you | /r/askTRP | 26/02/21 04:46 AM |
| 1 | Why is the flake rate so high when i talk about hooking up/fwb before meeting her for the first timeIt puts more expectation on the girl and she gets cold feet/nervous. I usually try to sexualize over text first if I'm going to invite the girl straight over (I don't like LMR) , but it depends. Never use phrases like FWB or fuckbuddies. Lots of girls have negative connotations with these words, and it can make them feel like a slut, or make them worry that you'll think they're a slut/think less of them. Lots of girls have bad experiences with shitty sex from guys, especially from apps. 99% of g… | /r/askTRP | 24/02/21 07:29 AM |
| 5 | Is this a shit test or plausible deniability?You said she's looking for a relationship. She wants to know if you'll hang out with her without sex. Don't listen to the birthday thing, she's not going to say the real reason because she doesn't want to look needy. Only do it if you want a relationship with her. Otherwise, you need to set the frame that it makes no sense to just avoid sex when you're attracted to each other. That she doesn't have to do anything that she doesn't want to, but that you don't want to play games and withhold from e… | /r/askTRP | 24/02/21 07:15 AM |
| 3 | Girl I wanted LTR with told me she has a IG account where she posts pictures of her feet?LMAO, gold | /r/askTRP | 24/02/21 07:03 AM |
| 0 | Girl I wanted LTR with told me she has a IG account where she posts pictures of her feet?Lol wtf are these comments? Why do you care if she has a feet IG. Jesus | /r/askTRP | 24/02/21 12:35 AM |
| 9 | How to Deal with Loser RoommateThis sucks, and there's only so many things you can do here. As him to leave. Tell your landlord about the cleanliness and sexual harassment issues and see if he's willing to help. See if you're landlord will let you and your roommate get out of the lease if you can find replacements. Or just deal with it and set boundaries until you can get outta there. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 09:09 PM |
| 1 | "You cannot grasp female nature until you grasp your male nature"You're overthinking it. If you work at it, you can get with hotter/better girls. Once you're getting hotter girls, of course you won't settle. You can get hot girls from dating apps too, you just need killer pics and good text game. Approaching 3 girls a week will get you nowhere. That's like saying you're going to match with 3 girls a week online. You know that it will likely take you months to get laid doing that. If you suck at cold approach, your interactions will be shorter, and you'll alre… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 08:22 PM |
| 1 | A huge fight over something with ltrI'm betting she already worried and insecure about you not caring enough about her, and that is why she is overreacting. Wait until she calms down. Then you just have to let her know that you agree with her, and care about her safety, but you need her to be able to discuss things with you without immediately blowing up at you and starting a fight. In general, don't fight with girlfriends about shit like this. Give them a chance to calm down, and let them know you're there for them when they're r… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 08:09 PM |
| 1 | First Experience With Hypergamy Post-LTRShe’s also moving out of state in a few months for 1 year There's your answer. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 08:01 PM |
| 1 | A huge fight over something with ltrIf that's how you feel just tell her that. "Hey, I think you're right that going one day late is better than you ubering back a day early. So let's just go up on (whatever day)". Just don't apologize for suggesting it, and don't let it seem like you're agreeing with her just because she got upset (this is a really bad frame). | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 07:28 PM |
| 1 | When to message a girl after she gave me a blowjob on first date but no sex?If you want to fuck her make sure you frame yourself as someone who doesn't judge girls for that/slut-shame. Set the frame that waiting for no reason is silly if two people like each other, and set the frame that you're attracted to her because of XYZ and not just looking for a hole to fuck. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 07:23 PM |
| 13 | Approaching young chicks as an older dude(36)?Not all girls are interested in older guys. Some bitter people might also try to shame you for this (though 36 to 26 isn't that big a difference). But yeah you have the wrong perception. I'm in my late twenties and have been with girls both 9 years older and younger. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 07:20 PM |
| 7 | How to text a girl that is actually is obsessed with you? (Not a bad problem to have just want to make sure to not do anything stupid)Invested and compliant girls are great, but this level can get annoying. Just text her however often you want. This is an easy situation, just be normal. I don't date these girls, because it always ends in them getting hurt and being anxious and insecure all the time when they expect similar investment from me. You also just tell her that you like her, but can't text her all the time | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 07:15 PM |
| 1 | Yo wtfYou are paranoid | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 07:06 PM |
| 1 | When to message a girl after she gave me a blowjob on first date but no sex?Yes, tonight. I usually wait 2-3 days to double text and a week after that to triple text, then I give up if she doesn't respond (though logistics and other things can change this). Imo, waiting a week is too long - you want to make things happen as soon as you can while you have her attention. But others do things differently. Yes there are reasons. You should have tried to figure it out why so you can deal with it. Maybe she doesn't want to seem slutty, maybe she thinks car sex is uncomfortabl… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 07:05 PM |
| 0 | When to message a girl after she gave me a blowjob on first date but no sex?So she didn't respond after you messaged her? Wait 2 days-ish before you double text (so tonight-ish). If you're saying she responded with "ok", then message her back now. Most girls from cold approach won't pursue you until you've been seeing them for a while. Don't just sit on your ass and wait for her to move things forward or forget about you. Of course don't be pushy and desperate either) | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:52 PM |
| 1 | How Important is Height?Height matters but it's just one part of looks. And looks matter, but it's just one part of overall attractiveness (though a big part). My wing is 5'5" and fucks more girls than I do at 6'. If you're 5'10" you shouldn't worry about it all. Other than inserts you can't change it anyway, and there are tons of other things you can do to make yourself more attractive. Though yes, the better your looks are, the less you have to work to get initial interest/hook a girl | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:45 PM |
| 0 | Girl flaked on me because i didnt keep the conversation live until the date.Yes, send something like the text I gave you. It sort of shows abundance and dhvs by setting the frame that you flaked on her, but at the same time it's not too harsh and you mention making it up to her, in case you already have enough value to her. If she responds positively just ask her for her schedule and make new plans. If she sends you something really short or something, just text her back and forth for a few messages until she's investing again. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:37 PM |
| 2 | First Experience With Hypergamy Post-LTRLol, what are you worried about? Do you want a LTR with her? It doesn't sound like she wants a monogamous relationship, and asking her right after she mentioned dating other guys could put you in a bad frame. But you can still just ask her what she's looking for out of this, and calibrate your response. Maybe she's scared of asking to be your girlfriend and looking too needy so she's trying to make you jealous, who knows. I don't think she sees you as a fuckboy given your post though | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:32 PM |
| 6 | Phone number or social media?It's not really that important. If you have a killer instagram account with tons of followers and great pics, then definitely get insta. I go for phone number. Not all girls will have insta, and some will only give out social media, but not their number. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:16 PM |
| 1 | Is this situation worth fixing or do I ghost?Oh, I thought you already had the date. It's not "beta", but it's worse logistics if you're trying to pull. I'd guess that you're not getting laid on that date. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:13 PM |
| 1 | what does this mean?I'd guess she's interested in you, but not enough to text you until April. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:08 PM |
| 3 | How to accept female nature fully?Being nice to a girl doesn't make you a simp. Being desperate and fawning over girls who don't care about you makes you a simp. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:07 PM |
| 1 | How to accept female nature fully?Yes, especially the last paragraph. Just don't get whiny/needy and make sure to have a great life whether this girl is in it or not. Affection and validation aren't bad, just don't be way more invested than her. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:06 PM |
| 1 | Girl flaked on me because i didnt keep the conversation live until the date.I told her no. I was just working and she anyway told me she doesn't like to be disturbed. You shouldn't have mentioned the disturbed thing. You want to come off as just living your life, not thinking too much about texting her. The rest is fine here. Her asking about keeping the convo alive is good. When you make plans for a week out or something, you should ping her and send a few messages back and forth every two or three days. It sounds like you did that though? You should have confirmed the… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 06:03 PM |
| 3 | First Experience With Hypergamy Post-LTRDude, you're not even in a monogamous relationship with her, and you're already snooping through her texts with other guys and getting jealous. Why do you care? | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 05:56 PM |
| 2 | Flaking?Flaking happens. It's unavoidable and will happen to you again. Making the first date better or sleeping with her on the first date will reduce the chance of it, but you can't eliminate flaking. Same with ghosting. It could be because of a mistake you made, but it could also have nothing to do with you. If you're getting flaked on the first date from online, you can try to build more investment over text first, but it will still happen. Just be chill and reschedule the first time. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 05:52 PM |
| 2 | Anyone here had any experience with an LTR that cries on occasion, and doesn't tell you what's wrong?Do you think she's crying about something to do with you/the relationship? In that case, definitely push her to tell you so you can deal with it/talk about it. If you think it's something else in her life, just tell her that you're there for her if she ever wants to talk about it, and just joke or do something to take her mind off of it. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 05:30 PM |
| 1 | Is this situation worth fixing or do I ghost?If you know it's not worth it you, then sure, forget about it. You're overthinking all of this "in her frame", "mysterious bad boy", "should I wait to contact her" shit. If she's still into you, just invite her to your place. Also, don't make complicated, subtle jokes over text, and make sure your plans/logistics are clear before you meet. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 05:24 PM |
| 1 | Is this situation worth fixing or do I ghost?You're over-complicating this. She liked you from the start (you can tell by the blush comment and her compliance), so you didn't need to play games. Yes, tell her your real name lol | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 05:20 PM |
| 3 | What advice would you give to a 21 year old virign guy?I have a friend who was a virgin until he was 25, but kills it with girls now. Improve your looks. It sounds like you know what you're doing with physique, so focus on your style. Dress like a cool/hot guy who gets laid. Get a good haircut and keep other grooming shit in check. Improve your game/social skills. Start with eye contact, voice, and body language. Then work on verbals. You can start by just working on your vibe around friends/family and making these things a habit. If you don't have … | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 05:07 PM |
| 1 | How did I lose frame here?It sounds like you haven't slept with her right? If you did it in a really casual, lighthearted way this is fine, but the way you described it, I'm guessing bad move No, you should have contacted her Yes, this is bad. You never want to come off as trying to act cool/high value or try to tell other people you are cool/high value. I don't know what happened on your date, so can't tell you that, but be more chill about the phone call. You should have just flirted/bantered then and asked her out aga… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 04:54 PM |
| 6 | Is this what being “respected” is like or am I doing something wrong??You could be coming off as too unapproachable. But there are lots of people who just aren't very comfortable with confrontation (especially girls). You can tell people that they can always be straight up with you with any issues. That's not a sign of a good boss | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 04:45 PM |
| 1 | Is it worth to fuck below average woman?I've had fun fucking meh girls or chubby girls before. But if you dip too low, then you just feel kind of gross afterwards. Once I start getting girls of a certain caliber, fucking less attractive girls just doesn't feel worth the effort | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 04:38 PM |
| 0 | Do you consider yourself attractive?Rarely works? His lay count is over 60, and 40+ of them came from online within 3-ish years. Cute, attractive girls too, not meh girls. Sure, I've met guys that do better than him because they're higher smv, but he does better than at least 90% of guys. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 04:34 PM |
| 3 | How long do you usually wait between hang outs with your plates?Ping them and send a few messages back and forth every few days | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 03:58 AM |
| 4 | How long do you usually wait between hang outs with your plates?You're going to have to initiate dates for most girls at the beginning. You should bang them again as soon you can (without being pushy about it of course). Once I've slept with a girl 2 or 3 times, she'll usually stick around, although with 18-22 year old girls, who knows what they'll do. I try to get the first two times in as soon as possible, and after that usually see them about once a week | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 03:27 AM |
| 9 | Girl is aiming to LJBF me, I want my money backAre you really that broke and desperate? Of course not, you're just butthurt and retarded. I see why she didn't want to fuck you | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 03:21 AM |
| 12 | Lockdown sucksThere's some truth to this, but there are also tons of girls who are just really shut-in right now, and you just aren't going to meet them. Add this to the girls who are worried about covid, and it's made things more difficult than before in my experience. But I also am more of a nightgame guy, so my favorite way to meet girls is gone right now anyway. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 01:47 AM |
| 2 | Is it usual to get ASD/LMR on the 3rd time after she's already put out on the 1st and 2nd?It happens sometimes. If she's really shy/quiet, you want to be gentler about it. Just figure out what her concern is, and then deal with it appropriately. It could be something as simple as she's insecure about having sex on her period or something. If that doesn't work or she's being a little shitty/bitchy about it, and you just want a casual relationship from her right now, you should send her home (you can try chilling for a bit first and then escalating again though). Tell her something lik… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 12:38 AM |
| 4 | How to command respect among men?You provide value. That's the most important thing by far. You have some sort of connections, resources, expertise, etc, to share with others. Or maybe you organize shit. Maybe you're hilarious, or just fun to be around. You can't be weird or drag the group down. | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 12:19 AM |
| 2 | Loop of improvement / lack of plates / more motivationPandemic game is hard. Girls are worried about the virus/laws and there are just less opportunities. If you live in the right city you can probably still daygame, otherwise you're lucky to get very many one-off cold approaches. You should try online dating if you aren't already. I have no experience with IG game, but from what I've heard from others, you're not going to get results by cold dm-ing girls in your city unless you're just really killing it on IG. I know a guy who wasn't able to get r… | /r/askTRP | 23/02/21 12:06 AM |
| 2 | Anyone help me figure out where I might have gone wrong in this Tinder conversation? I know it's a dumb post, but I'll explain why I'm asking in the body text.I think I really only use the tongue face when I tease a girl over text and need to soften it so it doesn't come off as an insult. Still, I think ;) is better for this in most cases anyway, and I don't use :P much. But some of this is just personal style and vibe too. You don't need to text exactly like me or anything (definitely chill on :P though) You're cleaning service line is good though I would have removed the "solid fuck" part. You can also say "but I'll give it to you for free since you… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 11:42 PM |
| 3 | Anyone help me figure out where I might have gone wrong in this Tinder conversation? I know it's a dumb post, but I'll explain why I'm asking in the body text.This section of the convo isn't awful. You can use emojis, but don't use ':P' after every fucking sentence. You want to text like a cool guy not a14 year old girl in 2013. Don't send 5 messages in a row like that. ESPECIALLY not if you don't send them all immediately. Never double text, unless you wait at least a couple days first. (you can send multiple messages, but only if they're immediately in a row) Actually the core of your responses aren't bad at all, just your vibe comes off as goofy. T… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 11:22 PM |
| 4 | When did you realise that AWALT?I agree that it's good to be aware that cheating isn't rare, and that people will cheat out of boredom/wanting validation in otherwise great relationships. Hell, I've cheating on a past girlfriend while we were temporarily long distance with girls who were definitely less attractive. I was bored and knew that I wanted to end the relationship soon, but it was still a dishonest thing to do. Still not every girl would do that. Sure, maybe there's some hypothetical situation for every girl (or guy) … | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 11:08 PM |
| 6 | Hooked up with a girl who msged me randomly on FB. She acted crazy into me. I was wondering where this behavior came from as I haven’t experience it a ton? I’ll give more details belowIt sounds like she likes you. Some girls come on really strong. This can mean that they're really impulsive/passionate. It can also mean that they are desperate/needy. Your friend was joking about the green card... | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 10:59 PM |
| 3 | Would that be BPD in making?Sounds like you should be on askpsychiatry not asktrp. For yourself not the girl of course | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 10:41 PM |
| 14 | Should you ask out a girl a second time if she said no the first time around?Don't do this with a girl from work/school/social circle unless you're confident that she's interested in you now. She turned you down before because she's not interested. If it's a cold approach or online number you can definitely try again if she's responding a lot over text | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 08:43 PM |
| 3 | Coming off as a serial killerRelax your upper eyelids. And yeah, definitely make an effort to spend more time around others and make friends | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 08:31 PM |
| 8 | What to do to cure huge fear of hot/pretty girlsTalk to them | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 08:25 PM |
| 3 | Male Friends and AMOG Defenselol what? You're saying your friends are nervous about you being around their wives? They either 't don't trust their wives, are insecure, or you're flirting with them. Don't do the last one | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 08:23 PM |
| 3 | Coming off as a serial killerYes, you should smile when meeting people, you autist. Lol, if you're struggling with coming off as a serial killer then try to be more warm. Be more relaxed and warm rather than intense and cold. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 08:19 PM |
| 5 | have you had a girl say "you're mine...forever"She like you | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 07:48 PM |
| 1 | Am I comprehending the red pill correctly?Everyone has their own personal goals and values. I've been in LTRs. I'm pretty certain I will be in more in the future. I won't get married anytime soon, but who knows when I'm older. Yes, I enjoy seeing multiple women at once/non-monogamy. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 07:47 PM |
| 2 | When did you realise that AWALT?Sure, I'd agree that the average guy is less neurotic and validation-seeking than the average girl. But still People are way too scared of branch swinging here. Unless a girl sees herself as higher value than you, and really thinks she can lock down a significantly better guy, it probably won't happen. Plus, if you thought you were out of a girls league, you'd trade up as well. Guys also "hamster" to protect their egos I know what you mean with the relationship equity thing, but I don't think it… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 07:23 PM |
| 1 | Do you consider yourself attractive?Eh, there's pros and cons. Getting laid with hot girls regularly isn't easy regardless of where you meet the girls. You definitely have more of a chance to use your personality in person (and even more in social circle). I prefer nightgame personally, but that's not an option for me right now with the pandemic. Once you put in the initial work of getting a great profile, online can be really convenient. But I also don't really enjoy texting like I enjoy cold approach. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 07:17 PM |
| 3 | Girl wanting to decide date locationIt's not a shit test. Yes, you shouldn't explain if she suggests something silly like taking her shopping. But if she wants to go to some other event/cafe or whatever, she's gonna think you're an asshole (and not in the good way) if you shut everything she suggests down without reason and ignore her inputs. Don't be a trp autist | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 07:06 PM |
| 2 | Do you consider yourself attractive?You can take great, flattering pics that make you look cool even if you have an average or below-average face. It takes a lot of work though. You'll have to take hundreds, if not, thousands of pics to get a solid profile. Online dating is really competitive, since any dude can throw up pics on there and start messaging girls. You only have pics to compete on to get matches, so you have to have a really great profile to succeed online. But still, in person, you can make up for looks with game or … | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 07:01 PM |
| 5 | Any advice on how to keep a good LTR going good?Just be a great high-value guy. Make the relationship a positive experience for her. So that when she sees other guys she thinks she's lucky to have you. Stay attractive, have a cool lifestyle. There's actually plenty of great mainstream relationship advice for communication and shit in an ltr (gottman, etc). | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 4 | Is it okay to ping text a girl if you can't see her for like 2 weeks?If you've fucked her 3+ times, you probably don't need to keep the lead warm for two weeks. Won't hurt either though. Don't immediately ask when she's coming back. Wait a week or so until you think she might be back to bring up hanging out. You can send her a few banter-y messages at some point though. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 06:29 PM |
| 2 | Do you consider yourself attractive?He gets attractive thin girls from tinder. He has professionally taken with great style and cool travel pics from all over the world. He gets hotter girls than me online (I get slightly better cold approach results though), because his pictures are better than mine. You can't really tell he's short from his pics, but he can cold approach as well. Most of the girls I get online are below avg actually. I need better pictures I've also met a bald Indian guy and a fat guy (from the pickup community)… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 06:21 PM |
| 0 | Red Pill isnt always a good thingI agree with you. There are a lot of guys on here with resentment towards women or bad experiences with toxic women. A lot of people have very black and white extremist thinking here. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 06:16 PM |
| 2 | How do I approach this situation like a true redpillerYou don't have to see other women, that will just help with your obsessing. If she's into you as well there's no reason to play games or be too aloof. Just don't get way ahead of her. Let her feel like she's winning you over with her good qualities, not that you're desperate and putting in way more effort than her. Try to have a life that's still great without her, and remember that there are other cool girls out there if it doesn't work out. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 06:11 PM |
| 17 | When did you realise that AWALT?I didn't truly realize that girls have a big sexual side until I started getting laid more and talked to them about their experiences. I didn't truly realize what turned them on until I became that guy and experienced it myself. But I think AWALT is bs the way some guys talk about it here. Yes, girls like validation and sexual attention from guys. You like the same thing from girls, don't you? There are commonalities and lots of girls are similar, but lots are also different. They all have their… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 06:03 PM |
| 1 | Help decoding mixed messages with my friend Nate 27M and me 20FYou're getting trolled in the other comments. It's not clear why he acted that way from your post. You could try asking him. If he's "redpill" or whatever who knows if you'll get a straight answer. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 05:56 PM |
| 4 | Is cologne really that cool?I don't think cologne really matters much, but it doesn't hurt either ime. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 05:54 PM |
| 6 | Is it likely to recover from accidentally slipping back into blue pill in a LTRIdk what you mean by blue pill/red pill here, but if you've been being needy/lazy/whiny/weak or whatever, yes you can recover. If you're just worried about the sex frequency, many people experience their sex drive decreasing after the newness of a relationship wears off. This isn't always your fault (my sex drive eventually decreased in every relationship I've been in). This happens with girls and guys. You can talk to her about it, but that won't really increase her sex drive either. 2 or 3 tim… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 05:53 PM |
| 11 | Do you consider yourself attractive?Physique and style are the two biggest things you can do to improve your looks. Haircut/beard is also important. Things like skin and teeth can also matter a little. After that it's all game and lifestyle. My wing is 5'5" and fucks more girls than I do, and I'm a fit, above average height white guy (though I'm definitely not a chad/10 type guy). He's not really even in shape. He mostly gets laid from online and has great pics and is great at texting. Being less attractive does make things more d… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 05:21 PM |
| 1 | what are you here for or what are you looking for?I dm'ed you an example | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 05:02 PM |
| 1 | Can I spin her back ?You generally shouldn't be losing girls by "giving them love". Unless she only wanted something casual and you scared her off. Lol, you're not going to get her by ignoring her. Just be cool and don't be too eager. Text her a few messages and then suggest to hang out if she seems interested. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 04:55 PM |
| 4 | what are you here for or what are you looking for?You want to avoid two things 1. Avoid anything that gives her the impression you just want to cum in her then leave. Don't use phrases like FWB as they have bad connotations for most girls. 2. Avoid anything that implies you want a serious relationship. Don't say you want a deep connection unless you really qualify this and can fit it into a fuckboy frame. You can be bold and go sexual here, or just be vague "I'm looking for a cool girl with (sense of humor/cute laugh/adventurous side/nerdy side… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 04:50 PM |
| 3 | Getting over the trauma of a BPD relationshipSorry to hear you had to go through this. I had a relationship that got really toxic for a few months before I ended it. You could throw the BPD label on her if you want, I'm not interested in diagnosing her. Definitely wasn't as dramatic as your relationship. Personally, after I broke up with her, I was relieved. I was actually surprised that I never missed her or regretted it at all afterwards. She did and said some really crazy things at the end, which made me 100% realize that breaking up wa… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 04:32 PM |
| 5 | Common Retard Trap for NewbiesEmotionless retard does not equal alpha. But I know the dilemma that you're referring to. You have to calibrate it to each girl, so there's no perfect answer, but instead of focusing on being "alpha", try to come off as just a really cool guy who gets laid and has a lot going for him. Don't worry about emotion, think about investment. Calibrate your investment to how much value she perceives you as having. Make her feel like she earned your investment, because of whatever you like about her. Emo… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 04:24 PM |
| 1 | Office Girl(Age gap=7 years)I wouldn't worry about the age gap. If she seems interested then go for it. It's always a risk that it can negatively affect your job if things don't work out. If the girl seems to be more of the dramatic type, I'd definitely avoid. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Girl sends nudes then leaves on readAre you sleeping with her already? If not, who knows. She could be stressed about her job or family or money or whatever. She could be seeing another guy now. Maybe she felt embarrassed or slutty about it and doesn't want to talk to you now. Maybe she just doesn't feel like replying. Maybe it was your texting, but we'd never know since you shared no details | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 04:03 PM |
| 2 | How do I approach this situation like a true redpillerThe best fix is to be more focused on other aspects of your life and/or see other women. However, the first isn't 100% controllable in the moment, and the second takes some work to get going as well. So what you can do is: Don't see her more than once a week Don't text her first other than logistics to hang out. If she texts you first, send a few messages back and forth then stop at a natural point. Sometimes, don't even reply at all if she sends a short first text. In general, put a little less… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:57 PM |
| 2 | About Teenage Virginity.If you don't have that drive to chase girls right now, that's perfectly fine, don't do it. I will say though that for most guys, life will hand you a lot more opportunities for sex when you're in college (or just around a lot of young attractive girls for whatever reason). I wish I took more advantage of this when I was in college. But you can still get laid when you're older of course. You'll just have to work a little more for the opportunity. I have a friend who didn't lose his virginity unti… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:46 PM |
| 3 | Can't understand why women would tolerate lower than perfectNo they don't. You're obsessing over this red pill theory bullshit. Go meet and talk to hot girls and real life instead of reading about them on asktrp | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:33 PM |
| 6 | 22M, still virgin due to mental health issues. I want to change, but how to do it i'm not sure.I have a friend who was a virgin until he was 25 and gets tons of girls now. Start by improving your looks. This makes everything easier and you can do it during the pandemic without even worrying about being rejected or anything. Get in shape, improve your fashion, and figure out your haircut/skin/other grooming shit. When you have your style handled and are working out regularly, start working on your social skills. Depending on where you live, it may be difficult to met women right now. But d… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:28 PM |
| 1 | A group of my friends acted weird around me all day on saturday and proceeded to not invite me to their dinner party that evening. What is the correct way to react to this social situation?If they bailed on your original plans, hung out without you, and then seemed weird about it, you should just ask them. Otherwise, continue being cool and inviting them to stuff. If they keep excluding you in a weird way, just hang out with other friends. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:19 PM |
| 1 | What are signs that a plate has a crazy/dangerous boyfriend or orbiterIf you're actually worried about this, you're either way too paranoid, or living in some third world ghetto. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:14 PM |
| 6 | Is LTRing or marrying a single mom ever congruent with TRP?Dude, it's your life. TRP isn't some bible of commandments that you have to obey. Raising someone else's kid is a huge commitment that a lot of people wouldn't want to make. If you think this girl is the shit and worth that sacrifice, then do it. That's not what a cuck is btw | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:07 PM |
| 12 | Girl wanting to decide date locationNo, you probably didn't. It sounds like this is a girl you're already seeing. If she proposes something you don't like, just tell her "X sounds like it could be fun, but I'd rather go to Y (your original choice or some compromise), because (reason why Y is better, or why X isn't a good idea)" or just "X isn't really something that I enjoy. How about we do (some other third thing) instead?" or something like that. Telling her she can pay or go by herself just sounds weird and butthurt. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 03:02 PM |
| 1 | How do you not let shit like this get to you?Sorry that happened to you. If she cheated on you (it's not clear from your post if she actually did or if you're overreacting), then she's a shitty girlfriend, and it's good that it happened now rather than later. You shouldn't have to suppress yourself in relationships, but you shouldn't be needy or so eager to jump all in either. I never suppress myself in relationships and I've never been cheated on, and haven't been broken up with since high school. Although I can't imagine myself promising… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 02:52 PM |
| 1 | Girls always start off nice/kind then turn confrontational towards me?What are they getting butthurt about? Laughing and changing the subject isn't usually the best way to deal with tests, but a lot of guys on this sub think everything is a shit test when it's not. Also, I meant lower smv relative to you. If you're struggling with hotter girls, it's because you don't have a high enough combination of smv (looks/lifestyle) and game | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 02:27 PM |
| 1 | Life recently changed for the better and I am overwhelmed with handling it.Congrats man! We can't tell you how to live your life. What do you want to do in the next 6 months? Where do you want to be in 2 years? 5 years? Make a plan and make it happen | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 02:11 PM |
| 1 | When girls message you about accomplishmentsThis is the right answer | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 02:06 PM |
| 3 | Why did validation/compliments work for me?I compliment girls all the time and get laid. Qualifying girls is extremely effective, and is a foundational part of game imo. Genuine compliments are also a great way to make yourself seem more attainable and less aloof (most guys are usually on the other side of this problem thoigh) There's a huge difference between complimenting a girl from the right frame and fawning over her. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 02:05 PM |
| 1 | Female friend attempted to be wing woman last night and embarrassed tf out of me. How should I have responded?It's great to have a girl wing for you if she can be normal about it. If I were you, I'd take advantage of the opportunity and teach her. Otherwise just tell her you appreciate the effort but you felt it was embarrassing and ask her not to do it again. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 02:00 PM |
| 1 | Why am I feeling this way about my girlfriend suddently?This is normal and happens in every relationship of mine. I try to avoid starting out too fast and hanging out too much in the beginning, so you don't have to decrease it and worry the girl later. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:55 PM |
| 1 | Should you avoid girls who rejected you?You're way overthinking this | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:53 PM |
| 2 | Need advice on how to handle these tinder matchesLol seriously? You really study 12 hours a day, and can't spare any time? Stay a up a couple hours later one night, skip a meal, skip a workout, whatever. If it's not worth it to you, fine, but you have time to complain on reddit apparently | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:50 PM |
| 5 | Girl doesn't give headLol why are you asking reddit instead of her? Tell her you want feel her lips on your dick and 95% chance she'll do it. Cmon | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:45 PM |
| 1 | Girls always start off nice/kind then turn confrontational towards me?I was going to guess that you were being too domineering or trying too hard to be "alpha" like a lot of guys on this sub. But based on your comments, it just sounds like you're dating shitty, bitter girls. Girls way below your smv usually won't test you much unless they're just really arrogant. If they're being really shitty, it's usually an insecurity/auto-rejection thing. You could be just failing their shit tests, but I rarely ever get that kind of shit from lower smv girls. Where are you mee… | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:38 PM |
| 4 | What are your views on pornography and masturbation?Personally, ejaculating reduces my sex drive, so I have less motivation to meet girls. I also sometimes (but not too often) have ED with new girls if I've ejaculated within the past couple days. So I avoid doing it much. Otherwise, nofap is overrated, and there are tons more important things to focus on | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:26 PM |
| 5 | Trust Issues or Red Flag From LTR?You're being paranoid | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 01:19 PM |
| 1 | Can we all agree that indirect game doesn’t make you a pussy and un confident because you’re focusing on the end result vs being impatient with the girl.I agree with you. I always go indirect unless I don't have a lot if time or it's something like a street stop | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 12:06 PM |
| 31 | "I dreamt you cheated on me"This is the right answer. These other retard comments are just going to give OP more drama and jealousy. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 11:55 AM |
| 6 | "I dreamt you cheated on me"Lolwut. Girls get jealous and insecure in relationships. Every girlfriend I had got jealous of some benign situation involving another girl around me at some point. | /r/askTRP | 22/02/21 11:53 AM |
| 2 | What is wrong with my tinder? I really just do not understand men who seem less attractive than me consistently seem to have more success than me and I just don’t understand why.You're style is fine dude. Don't listen to people complaining about it. Your pics suck though. You need non-selfie candid shots that you look good in and pics that show you doing cool shit and at cool places. Not random posed selfies against walls and in your bathroom mirror. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/21 06:53 PM |
| 2 | Danging the commitment carrot?What are you even asking? Girls will fuck without you promising and implying the possibility of commitment. Plenty of young girls want casual sex, there's no need to burn and manipulate girls looking for a relationship. If you imply commitment and raise their expectations, it's just going to crash and hurt the girl. You can keep girls around a lot longer without that. You just want to avoid implying that they're not worthy of a relationship and hurting their ego. You don't even have to say that … | /r/askTRP | 21/02/21 06:47 PM |
| 1 | How do some of you guys manage to approach women?"I'm so sick and tired of us always being expected to take the first step." "I have never approached a girl, ever. I just can't bring myself to do it." Hmm. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/21 06:36 PM |
| 8 | Sex questionYou've been with her for two years... just ask her what exactly she wants when you're not fucking. She may be into more extreme SM/impact stuff. You can ask what she thinks about being tied up and flogged or some shit if you're into that. | /r/askTRP | 21/02/21 06:33 PM |
| 2 | Need urgent help with FWB, I may have fucked uplol at some of these answers. Dude, there was nothing wrong with your surprise bondage thing. Your girl isn't upset about that, she just feels very insecure about your relationship. She's upset at the I love you thing. She wants you to be her boyfriend. Do you want a monog LTR with her? If sounds like no, but if you do just tell her you love her (if you feel like that's the truth or whatever). Do you not want that or want some open relationship? Then just tell her you like her, but don't want to… | /r/askTRP | 21/02/21 06:25 PM |
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