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I mean I’m mostly just taking this position because I think hypergamy is bullshit in an equal society but yet it’s still the norm. You are the exception, not the rule. Good on you for not being hypergamous. But I know in reality, complete 50/50 is not going to work for a lot of couples. I definitely wouldn’t keep a score card of who contributes more. I probably wouldn’t demand they do extra work even if I paid more. Doesn’t hurt to strive for something more equal though.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:54 AM
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Fair enough. I’d consider than an egalitarian couple
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 03:30 AM
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IT jobs can be very stressful. It’s mentally taxing, there are often tight deadlines, and just constantly dealing with complexity and unknowns is very challenging. I cannot say for certain that those other jobs are more stressful or difficult. But they certainly have their challenges, no doubt. But if they were capable of working in IT and earning more, why didn’t they? If it’s less stressful and easier, what’s stopping them from working the same job? My take is that it’s not an accident that a …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 02:59 AM
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I mean if bills are split 60/40, then why is it so bad to split chores 40/60? The higher earner is still contributing quite a bit. I just think it’s very convenient to think money isn’t important in a relationship when it’s coming from the one who earns less. It’s often the case that those who earn more have higher stress, more responsibilities, etc. that’s not to be discounted. If that arrangement doesn’t work then just split bills 50/50.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 02:39 AM
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That’s fair. I just like the idea in principle but I know that reality doesn’t always work out that way. I think I’d be more okay with financially lopsided relationships if I saw more men earning less than their partners. Then collectively it doesn’t seem like women only date men because it financially benefits them. But I think when it starts out 50/50 and things change over time, that’s better than starting with a big income disparity because you’d know the person actually likes you and not yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/08/26 01:41 AM
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Right, I wouldn’t date someone who earns a lot less than me because that would be unfair for them. And if I contribute a significantly higher amount of my money, it is unfair for me. I could be open to arrangement where I pay 70/30 and they do 70/30 house chores/cooking.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:41 PM
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Well then I’d be taken advantage of financially and I don’t like that. That’s not egalitarian. If everything is split 50/50 but I’m paying 60/40, it’s not an equitable relationship. Money is an important asset. Working hours don’t contribute to a relationship. Money does though.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 11:37 PM
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Right, I was mostly arguing for this because I like it in theory. I do like those quotes, especially the first one. But in practice, I don’t believe egalitarian relationships work. I believe evolutionary biology drives mating patterns. Feminism is rooted in the idea that society is just a collection of social constructs that can be dismantled and replaced. But mating patterns are not about social constructs so much as they are about biological hardwiring. What causes the chemical reaction in the…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:52 PM
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That’s fine but then the lower earner needs to make up the difference by contributing more with house chores or something else that provides value
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:24 PM
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I mean, the hypothetical was that things would be split evenly. But I think it could be flexible. Like maybe I pay for a higher percentage of bills and they do more house chores. It just needs to feel like no one is being taking advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 10:05 PM
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The lower earner should earn at least ~75% of what the higher earner makes.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:43 PM
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Right, my framework incentivizes this even further. If you date too far below your partners income bracket, you will have a hard time keeping up with bills. A true egalitarian relationship would mean both parties earn a similar amount and at that point, splitting bills shouldn’t be an issue.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:37 PM
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Well I think it should be split evenly, regardless of who earns more. Women date up financially more often than men and I personally look at that as more of a choice than a “it just happened” kinda deal. In order to avoid one person being taken advantage of financially, this is the only way.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:21 PM
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Well you said “contribute financially”. I’m just clarifying that it needs to be equal. In that case, I agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:16 PM
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Yes, but only if she is contributing to bills equally. But this can change if they are pregnant or are choosing to raise children. I just am tired of feminists pretending they want an egalitarian relationship but conveniently date someone who earn more than them, lets them pay for most things, still takes on most of the masculine duties. Then say well “but I work the same/more hours” and “I can’t help what I’m attracted to”. If you are still leaning on a man to pay for shit and do more masculine…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/26 09:01 PM
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No. I’d just stay single.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 11:22 PM
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Oh I do use both. Toilet paper teaches me when my bidet has done a bad job. Also, don’t want to walk around with a soggy asshole
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 07:58 AM
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Why do people still use toilet paper when bidets exist for $40. Yall just be walking around all day with dirty assholes. That’s why I don’t date
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 07:45 AM
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I have a full head of hair though
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 06:44 AM
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Anal sex is best
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/26 05:55 AM
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Idk if this says something about me but I actually can’t think of a single relationship where the man seemed like he was dating someone more attractive than themselves. But then again my friends have ranged from boring solid people to fun and exciting dudes who ended up addicted to drugs, or were just straight up narcissists who always end up in toxic relationships. The only dude I know who landed someone better looking is ultra wealthy because he inherited a shit ton of money and now married to…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 04:37 AM
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Some met in college. Some met in a small town they grew up in. Some met on dating apps in a mid-sized city. But tbh, the boring men are slightly more attractive than their partners but not by a lot. But very average couples overall. But I think a lot of it was shared values and similar looks and personality. The man earns more in each of these relationships though.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 04:23 AM
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Yeah but what percentage of men are rapists?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:24 AM
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I feel like this is a weird take about undatable personalities. Considering all the men I know in relationships, their personalities are all over the place. Some are the most boring people I know and others are over the top energetic but can be a huge energy drain. But most of them are pretty fucking boring ngl. I think boring people are actually pretty normal and boring personalities are actually considered attractive by other boring people. I think people just look for people like themselves. …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/26 02:19 AM
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Well not only do they have money, but they are also pretty good at critical thinking, at least compared to the general population. I would argue that people in STEM are more likely to not be full on redpill because they don’t think in black and white, unlike this person is suggesting. There is no correlation between intelligence and being good at dating. It’s all about social skills and looks, none of which have a direct collection to intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:44 PM
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Right, but are you suggesting that men with STEM degrees don’t have critical thinking? And on top of that, are you suggesting that’s why they are struggling to date?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:28 PM
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Are you saying that the reason people in STEM are struggling with dating is due to lack of critical thinking? If so, dating and critical thinking aren’t intertwined whatsoever. I agree it’s more related to lack of social skills than anything. Most of the people in stem careers are either on the spectrum or act like they are, which limits their dating pool.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 10:16 PM
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Can’t confirm or deny that statement for millennials/gen z. I think younger generations in trades are probably having a tougher time due to women flocking to cities for office jobs. A lot of men like building stuff with their hands, so it’s likely just a preference. I find it funny how women think they are better than dudes building and maintaining infrastructure because they wanted a leisurely office job so they had to go to college. I went to college and I know damn well that what I do is not …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 08:03 PM
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Men do work majority of hard labor jobs. They have limited dating pool because of their income. Men make more money working in an office to increase dating pool. Women will complain either way. Do you think that all men need to work hard labor jobs to call out the gender inequality? If so, you’d have no one to date.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 07:47 PM
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Well, we have to because hard labor jobs don’t pay enough to meet the 6 figure income so many women demand.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/26 07:33 PM
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Okay, that’s a lot of info. I believe you have good social skills. Good on you. But this whole taking on the mentorship role, boasting about yourself, projecting high social status, and relying on external validation is kinda giving narcissist. Right now, I think your goal is to either feel superior to me or get attention from me, even if it’s negative. I personally don’t like the way you think you’re better than others, so I’m gonna leave it here. I hope I’m wrong about you. Good day
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 08:24 PM
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Well, I also don’t mind being alone. I actually enjoy being alone most of the time. But ultimately, we aren’t built for isolation so I picked up some hobbies to learn new skills and also socialize. Only reason I made accusations about you is that you seem to not like relaxing alone. Did you actually work on your flirting skills? How did you practice? I practiced on dates and sometimes it worked but sometimes it didn’t. I got more comfortable over time. But I’m still not very good nor do I like i…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 07:26 PM
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lol I don’t play video games. I don’t even watch tv really. I work, go to the gym, play pickleball, disc golf, snowboard, etc. you are not my mentor nor do I want you to be. Idk what made you want to take on this role. Me and you are on fundamentally different life journeys and to be frank, I don’t think we share a lot in common. But I doubt that we’d like to exchange lives with each other, I can tell you that.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:56 PM
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When did I say ruminate? Is that what happens to you? If so, you may not have a good relationship with yourself after all. I mean, your whole shtick is about being “fun” and always doing “fun” stuff and only wanting to be with “fun” people. But I think you may be on a relentless pursuit of distraction and external validation. If you are truly comfortable with yourself. Being alone isn’t a chore. It’s peaceful. Distractions are okay, having fun is okay, but when chased too often, it comes at the …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:34 PM
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You sound pretty hedonistic. I think there is value in sitting alone with your thoughts. You know that you can have dialogue with yourself? You can ask yourself deep question. You can try and uncover the difference between your true self and the persona you present to the world. Alternatively, going on a brisk walk, enjoying a pleasant view, while having a good conversation with yourself is a mildly less “boring” way to build a relationship with yourself. If you knew you could NOT show off your …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 05:16 PM
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So you can’t be left alone with your own thoughts? Why is that? What are you running from? Why do you always need a distraction?
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:57 PM
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And what happens when you’re left alone with no one to stimulate you the way you want? What do you cling to? Inability to be content with boredom is a character flaw, not a flex.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:54 PM
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Your desire to be liked by others drives you in life. It’s not growth. It’s actually rooted in insecurity. Stop pretending like you have superior wisdom.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 04:00 PM
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Right, but I’ve decided not to put on a social performance anymore, even with friendships. The reason people try and be “fun” or “attractive” is because they desire to be liked by others. I’ve lost this desire. IMO, it’s all a performance to provide social value because we have a desperate need for validation. I feel actually free now. But downsides are people like me less. As a consequence, women do too. But this feeling of not caring about social outcomes is honestly a feeling I’ve been cravin…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:48 PM
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I have de-centered women if you will. I realized it’s just better for my mental health. I’ve had enough encounters to know my person is rare and I’d probably need to go on 100+ dates to find them. Not worth the effort imo. I’ve tried free walks, then girls demand I take them to dinner. Obviously, didn’t pursue that. Dating apps is where I do most of my dating but have also met girls at bars and such. Anyways, I disagree about the prostitution thing. I think that in order for me to get intimacy, …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 03:23 PM
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Shy, calm, go with the flow, respectful, understanding, patient, deep, mildly adventurous
/r/PurplePillDebate04/08/26 02:13 AM
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I mean you certainly made a lot of assumptions about what I choose to talk about on a date. I have had successful dates before. I’ve also had relationships lol. But just saying dating app culture is fucked up. Girls have put on their jacket after 10 minutes signaling they want to dip, and I was just warming up. And yes, they still wanted me to pay. They have zero patience for a spark to ignite. It needs to be instantaneous. The more I act like an f boy, being flirty and touchy right away, the mo…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 10:42 PM
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Please, women don’t watch ethical porn. They are primary consumers of bdsm and rough sex content. Yall really like to believe your saints compared to men lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 09:28 PM
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Your question isn’t the gotcha you think it is. You just want this conversation to go one way. But the answer is no, if you are too dense to infer that
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 04:40 PM
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Notice how you’ve contributed absolutely nothing in the last 4 comments. Notice how I made my stance clear. You are bad at this
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 04:34 PM
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I don’t have enough context to say. If you would just answer any of the questions, it could help me determine what I think the issue is. You are extremely deflective. I’m just going to conclude that you have issues setting boundaries and don’t want to take accountability.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 04:30 PM
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I asked three separate questions. You responded with a question. That’s not how debates work. But to make it very clear, I think that women who do absolutely nothing to set boundaries and make it clear they don’t want sex and end up having sex have no right to blame the guy for wanting sex with them. But if you did set a boundary and it was crossed, then it’s on the man. That’s how consent works. If you consent to sex and have sex, then you are a willing participant.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 04:22 PM
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So you think the only way for women to have fun is for men to be very intentional about using a tactic that makes them want to have sex with them? I mean if that’s true, women are gonna end up getting abused by a lot of narcissists, which they currently are. So that does check out. IMO, I think women and men both are just harder to please because we have dopamine generating machines at our fingertips. Why have a normal conversation with someone where we actually get to know eachother when I can …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 04:15 PM
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I’m just curious how you know they feel entitled to begin with
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 03:40 PM
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Right, improvements could be made there. But you are still protected by the law if these actions occur or you feel threatened they may occur. But how do you know how people feel? Do they say something that makes you feel they are entitled to your body? Do you sleep with a man who paid for a date because of pressure applied by them? Or is it just regret for sleeping with a man which was completely consensual? Keep in mind, you are allowed to say no if they ask you to come over. You are allowed to…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 03:33 PM
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Well you can’t police how people feel. You can only police how people act. If you sense they feel entitled, time to leave. I can assure you, there are plenty of decent men that won’t feel entitled to your body if they pay on a first date. But demanding a split is a good way to mitigate the risk
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 02:56 PM
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I also want someone who is fun to be around. If I feel like the interaction is fun only because I caused it be fun, what’s in it for me?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 02:19 PM
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I mean entitlement to a women’s body and sexual assault go hand in hand. But the issue is that being entitled to a women’s body, insofar that they act on it, is a crime. You can call the police if such a man is acting that way.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 02:11 PM
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I think you are conflating “having fun” with being manipulated to drop their panties. Having the skills of an f-boy usually means you are one. But you aren’t wrong women do want to be manipulated to drop their panties. But women are wrong in thinking the men with such skills are going to be good long term partners.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 02:03 PM
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I’ve never felt entitled to a women’s body after paying for a date. What you are suggesting is that men are allowed to sexually assault women because they paid. There are laws in place to protect women from this sort of thing. Women however do feel entitled to my money when I take them on date. No laws protecting me from being taken advantage of. I for one think we should normalize splitting the bill. But guess who doesn’t want this to be normalized?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 01:43 PM
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It’s been my experience as well that women on apps just want f-boy energy on a date regardless of what they are looking for. They want an instantaneous spark and they will do absolutely nothing to cause this to happen. They will just show up and react. If you don’t provide the f-boy energy, they will lose interest very quickly. As a result, they end up getting used by f-boys for sex and wonder why
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/26 03:05 AM
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Well it certainly is harder for men to get a ONS than for women. No doubt about that. But something can be difficult and unfulfilling at the same time. While a few ONS could be exciting and fun, doing it too often takes away the novelty and excitement. It just becomes pleasure seeking behavior, which is not that different than an addict looking for their next hit. Anyways, women are privileged when it comes to getting intimacy. But it comes with risk of pregnancy, uti, pain, being assaulted, etc…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 04:57 PM
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You are overthinking this eye contact thing. That’s not always what causes people to approach. But even in cases that’s why, personality, facial mannerisms, getting up close to someone can change how you view them. Looks are the just the initial filter.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 02:45 AM
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Well showing eye contact and a guy not approaching them =\= rejection. Them approaching a guy and the guy telling them no == rejection. There’s a difference
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 02:27 AM
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I mean I don’t think it really matters who initiates. Women will still only express interest in men they find attractive, regardless of who initiates. If they wouldn’t approach a man then said man approaching them will likely lead to rejection. Men may have a tiny shred of hope if they do happen to play their cards right by showing the right amount of confidence and charm. But that doesn’t always work. Women like men who have confidence and who they are also attracted to. The only reason men kno…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 01:48 AM
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Well stats say they are only attracted to 20% of men IIRC, but women say a lot of shit that’s isn’t true. Dating app swiping is not an accurate measurement imo. So who actually knows. When I cold approach I usually don’t target the ones I’m most attracted to. I target more realistic options. When your job is to initiate, you also need to consider risk of rejection. Women never have to do that so that plays into their delusions of who they think they can get.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 01:17 AM
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Men they find attractive
/r/PurplePillDebate02/08/26 12:48 AM
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I do think convenience plays a big role in why women don’t want to pay for dates. But it’s not laziness. When it comes to initiating, women don’t want this gender role because it requires a certain amount of emotional resilience that a lot of women just don’t have. Some may handle rejection fine but most will not. There is a sort of unwritten acknowledgment in society that women are more emotionally fragile than men and therefore men need to take on the gender roles that have the most emotional …
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/26 09:36 PM
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I mean that’s fair, but no one is saying that. When I read “adds value”, I translated it to “on top of the baseline attraction and our connection, what do you have to offer me? Are you a high earner? Are you 6 ft? Do you make me laugh? Do you let me talk most of the time while you listen and ask interesting questions about me?” That aligns pretty well with women I meet these days.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 11:06 PM
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Haha please do. Maybe your partner will learn the transactional nature of your relationship. There is no such thing as being “attracted” to someone because they are financially successful. That’s cope to disguise that you are ONLY in that relationship because of his money. I mean I’ve been taken advantage of financially in my past relationships, so I am just spreading a message that men deserve better than that. We are lovable regardless of our financial success and anybody who filters us based …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:54 PM
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I mean it’s just socially acceptable for men to be taken advantage of so it’s not really their fault tbh. I don’t blame women for this necessarily because they’ve been conditioned to do so. Just saying it’s 100% transactional, but it’s worse because you are the only one benefiting from this arrangement. Very convenient to be “attracted” to someone who outearns you. Sure, you can call sex transactional, but at least it’s mutually beneficial. Just another example of another woman who conditionally…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:37 PM
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I don’t understand this framing. Romantic love has fundamental properties which are just intrinsic value that both parties should enjoy like companionship, attraction, emotional support, sex, etc. There is inherent value in being in a romantic relationship. If those stop existing, then the romantic love doesn’t exist anymore and there is no point in staying in that relationship. The part that I think is transactional is when woman demand men to be funny, high earning, tall, etc. What this transl…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:25 PM
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Seeking and enjoying mean different things
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:11 PM
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I mean, there are traits you mentioned that are just fundamental properties of romantic love. It literally cannot exist without attraction, emotional support, and companionship. So it’s not transactional. It’s like saying that you only enjoy life because it offers you oxygen and allows you to breathe. But demanding they earn more than you is 100% transactional and is not necessary for romantic partnership. Worst part about that is it’s one sided. You benefit more than he does. Your “provider” li…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 10:08 PM
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Yeah, we aren’t the most altruistic bunch are we? But I mean I could really love a wide variety of people and my point is that there isn’t a specific set of traits I’m looking for. But a lot of women are demanding so much from men that it feels way more transactional than how I view love.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:29 PM
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I just don’t look at relationships as something to extract value from. I mean at a bare minimum, I need to be attracted to you. But I’ve been attracted to a wide variety of women. There are certainly things that I would consider deal breakers, like being rude, being a current addict of hard substances, taking advantage of me for my money, etc Right, so if your soulmate was low income, you’d leave him behind for a lesser option who has higher income? Don’t you find that a bit shallow? If finances…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:20 PM
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Idk if it’s something I specifically seek out. I do hear that men think about sex a lot but I for one do not. But I do enjoy sex but it is usually spontaneous based on vibes. Whenever I tried seeking it out in my younger years, it just made me come off as desperate, which never helped. Now I have no attachment to the outcome. But I suppose a month or 2 in and still no sex, I would question the chemistry between us
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 09:16 PM
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I don’t seek anything from any one. I don’t burden woman with expectations they need to live up to. Just treat me with respect and I’ll treat them with respect. I’m not an entertainer, an atm machine, a pornstar, or a comedian. I’m a person who wants to be loved and to love someone else, despite all the flaws. I’m completely content single and will be until someone just enjoys my authentic presence and I enjoy theirs. Hmm financial provision is an interesting one. Is one of the traits you look f…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:58 PM
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Because you look at relationships as something to extract value from. What type of value are you look for? Do you have anything to offer in return of equal value to make it a fair transaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:29 PM
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Because you look at relationships as something to extract value from. What type of value are you looking for? Do you have anything to offer in return of equal value to make it a fair transaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:29 PM
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Because you look at relationships as something to extract value from. What type of value are you look for? Do you have anything to offer in return of equal value to make it a fair transaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:28 PM
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Because you look at relationships as something to extract value from. What type of value are you look for? Do you have anything to offer in return of equal value to make it a fair transaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:28 PM
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So would you say that you look at romantic relationships as purely transactional?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 08:14 PM
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It is but I’m just asking when am I allowed to ask again? What’s the time limit? The next day? Serious accusations can be made and criminal charges could be placed if I don’t follow the rules. Just not sure what the rules are. Is 24 hours a safe enough distance?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 07:11 PM
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Assuming she would do that, that’s the right thing to do. Problem is if she doesn’t initiate. I’ve had gfs who’ve never once asked for sex. They wanted me to initiate. You addressed this in your post but then said no sex is a fine solution. But for how long?
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:46 PM
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I think the problem here is that at some point she will want to have sex. The question is how much time needs to pass before she wants to have sex? Well that begs the question how long does it take for someone’s mood to change? Some people have mood changes rather quickly. Some take longer. Let’s say only 10 minutes have passed but she appears to have an increase in energy and excitement. Is it still “creepy” to ask? I’d argue no, because there is evidence of a mood change. Now if there is no ev…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/26 06:19 PM
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Right, that’s fair. I wouldn’t say men do it to get sex or they aren’t interested in you. More so, they do it because the alternative is that they wont have an opportunity at a second date or sex. If you don’t have to be intentional about your behavior on a date, consider that a privilege. That means you haven’t failed enough to have to use tactics.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 06:30 PM
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In my experience, women look at romantic connection as something that just happens. Men, particularly men with a lack of success in dating, look at romantic connection as something that they’ve created. You fail enough times and you have no other option but learn what works.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 05:17 PM
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I do see how you landed here as some people’s definition of confidence and assertiveness would be a prerequisite for many of these behaviors. I’d argue there are more suitable terms for these that don’t necessarily require confidence or assertiveness. “Pursuing one’s goals” - ambition “Showing one’s sense of humor” - authentic “Expressing responsible, informed decisions” - competent/articulate “Acknowledging what one doesn’t know” - humility “Handling an unexpected problem well” - intelligent/re…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 04:43 PM
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Can you think of any specific examples of expressions of confidence or assertiveness that you find attractive? Is it expressed verbally? Through body language? Through actions?
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 03:38 PM
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That’s fair. I mean, I’d argue that the majority of men (probably women too) have an innate self belief. But I feel like this isn’t something that can be expressed very easily in the early stages of dating. I am curious what woman mean when they say they are attracted to confidence. I can’t help but think it just means presenting yourself in a way that completely masks insecurity or self doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/07/26 03:12 PM
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I guess I don’t really understand what people mean by healthy confidence. In my mind, I think of someone who has unwavering self belief regardless of capabilities and does not express insecurity or self doubt. All the men I’m talking about fit this description quite well. It appears to be an attractive quality to women specifically despite it being 1) delusional and 2) dishonest. Everyone has limitations. Everyone ought to second guess themselves. Everyone ought to have insecurities. If these ex…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 11:10 PM
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Absence of insecurity or self doubt. What’s yours? But when you define it, think about what would provoke attraction when first getting to know someone
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 10:54 PM
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That checks out. But being “confident” just in general translates to self delusion imo. Like there are things you should be confident about. Let’s say you know how to cook well or are good at chess or whatever. Then you’ve earned the right to be confident because you developed a skill. But no human has mastered everything. Everyone is insecure. To claim confidence is to claim the absence of insecurity, which I find to be dishonest. But to your point, dating someone who is similar yourself is may…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:25 PM
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I know right, but I feel like that’s the expectation for men. Like woman just love to take the passenger seat while the man makes all the decisions. I personally, wouldn’t date someone like that but that filters out a lot of women I’m afraid
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:18 PM
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So you want your partner to shoulder the burden of making all the decision to please 2 people?
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:16 PM
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Surprising to hear a woman say this tbh. But still you are admitting to being attracted to confidence, just not performative confidence. But still that’s better than most. From my experience, the guys I’m thinking about have been pretty good looking and they were usually getting with attractive women. But let’s just say these woman didn’t have a lot of self respect if you catch my drift. But man were these dudes some real assholes. But they surely did express confidence, assertiveness, and domin…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:12 PM
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This isn’t true in my experience. The biggest assholes I know have done very well in hookup culture. Granted, it doesn’t translate well to relationship. But I’m talking about dudes who just think they are the shit. Boastful, self centered, and entitled. But I will say the dudes i’m talking about tended to be above average looking, which probably played a role
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 08:09 PM
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Right, I mean I know woman like these traits. I guess my question was more targeted to other men, which I didn’t specify. But since we’re here, what about these traits do you find attractive? Like let’s say it’s a first date. He picks a place and time without knowing much about you. Isn’t that inconsiderate? Or like planning a date without asking what you’d want to do? Don’t women also like to have a say in what they do? Like it genuinely makes me wonder if woman will only date men they view as …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 07:39 PM
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Does anyone else find men who project confidence, assertiveness, dominance etc to be completely insufferable to be around? I am a man and truly dislike these sorts of ego driven men. Maybe it’s my lizard brain that doesn’t like this threatening behavior but it truly rubs me the wrong way. Also, makes them appear rather unintelligent. Worst part is that they are rewarded by women to act this way.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 06:50 PM
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Look, sounds like you got some history with lazy men. It actually sounds like you’re talking about someone specific but let’s not make generalizations based on a dude that you were dating or whatever. Not all men are that lazy. I don’t care for this concept of egalitarian men in this context. I am talking hard percentages here. Does the man pay for 60% and does the woman pay for 40%? If so, that’s fine but the woman needs to do a little extra to make up the difference. Same goes for the man if h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 04:17 AM
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16% still ain’t that promising. But I don’t deny that things are improving. But the study I got my data from was from was a 2023 study on young married couples, so it’s showing the trend of the younger generation. https://ifstudies.org/blog/women-still-marry-up-but-the-income-gap-is-narrowing But my point is that it’s really no surprise that women do more household chores since they are often marrying men who earn more than them. Pretending like contributing money to a relationship doesn’t mean …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 03:36 AM
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Well that’s objectively not true as 63% of young marriages in the US, the man outearns the woman. For marriages where both parties are educated, 75% the man outearns the woman. But I don’t know what you’re on about if you don’t take advantage of men for their money. My whole point is whichever party pays more for bills/outtings shouldn’t be expected to contribute equally across all other responsibilities/duties because that means one party is benefiting more than the other in the relationship. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 01:11 AM
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I mean nobody is forcing women to date men who outearn them. If you want split child care/house duties evenly, you can either date men who make similar a amount to you, split bills/outtings 50/50 (regardless of pay difference) or make up the disparity in value provided to the relationship in another way. But that doesn’t sound good does it? Why? Is it because you want to reap the benefits of dating a high earner? Well that’s my point. Women choose someone who earns more than them for precisely t…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:56 AM
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Literally nothing you said is even remotely true. The vast majority of marriages even among young couples are disproportionately hypergamous at 63% with 5% having the same income. It’s even worse if both parties are educated with men out earning women in 75% of marriages. Men shoulder the emotional burden by listening to their partners vent about daily drama/emotions. This is just obvious if you’ve ever been around couples or have been in one yourself. Men tend to not burden their partners with …
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/26 12:18 AM
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It’s frustrating to be asked a question, provide a thorough answer that pretty clearly has the answer in it, and then be gaslit that nothing that I said is even tangentially related to the question. To put it simply, working hours are irrelevant in the context of value provided to a relationship. Income is the actual value provided to the relationship. In principle, It’s fair to ask her to do chores if I make twice as much as her despite me working 6 hours less because of how much she financiall…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:52 PM
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Reading comprehension isn’t your strong suit, is it? Answer to question number 1 is on the first line. Answer to question to number 2 is the rest. If you can’t infer my answer from that, I don’t know what to tell you.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:27 PM
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I mean I don’t look at women as pathetic people who don’t know how to earn money. If they choose to earn a low wage and work more hours, that’s on them. I wouldn’t date someone like that to begin with. But I definitely answered your question many times over. I don’t know how clear I can make it tbh
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 07:16 PM
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For me personally, I look at finances as the actual asset and work as the means to achieve the asset. For the sake of argument, let’s say I make 80k and my partner makes 20k and we both have full time jobs and let’s also say we split things proportionally 80/20 financially. I personally would feel if we split things evenly everywhere else that I am be taken advantage of financially. In the scenario where income is more like 60/40, I could envision an arrangement where we split bills equally inst…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 06:53 PM
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Yes, that would be preferable if no children are involved.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:55 PM
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Life pro tip, gaslighting is not a a virtuous quality.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:42 PM
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It’s in your tone. It’s in your eagerness to misinterpret my point. It’s in your baseless assumptions. It’s in your commitment to following my comments to ensure each one is downvoted. Why else would you have spent so much energy on a Reddit post from a man just trying to express what he believes to be a recipe for a healthy relationship. Your relationship is either not equitable or you don’t understand what equity means. In either case, it comes off as bitter.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:33 PM
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Right, attempting to insult my character like saying “How masculine” and “Yuck” are surely signs of a good faith argument lmao. Did you notice how I didn’t try to insult your character? This is called emotional stability. Another place where men tend to add value that women tend to just expect.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:17 PM
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Right, attempting to insult my character like saying “How masculine” and “Yuck” are surely signs of a good faith argument lmao. Did you notice how I didn’t try to insult your character? This is called emotional stability. Another place where men tend to add value, which some women, clearly yourself, do not.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:13 PM
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Well I only scored it that low because child care would allow you to make additional income which negates some of the value provided by being a stay at home mom. But nonetheless, I can sense that conversation is rooted in bad faith and bitterness so I’ll let it be.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 05:03 PM
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It’s not true that women generally either split traditionally masculine responsibilities or do it all. That was her claim. Statistics about hypergamous marriages do not support this claim at all
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:55 PM
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Did I say somewhere that women don’t work? Why is everything so black and white on this sub. I used the word “equitable” intentionally. Some woman are breadwinners too, albeit rare, so in that case the man has some making up to to provide equitable value
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:53 PM
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Wrong. I actually think full time child care is similar to working a full time job in terms of value provided. The alternative is put the child in day care while you work. That would cost about 50k per year. There is additional value for a mother to take care of their child so I’ll even add extra value there. Let’s call it 60k. Now that’s what it’s essentially worth to be a stay at mother. Let’s say your husband makes 100k. I think an equitable arrangement would be for your husband to do 40% of …
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:47 PM
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These accusations are ridiculous. I never said all relationships are like this. I was simply providing a counter example to her ridiculous claim that all women provide equally to a relationship. You sound bitter. Seems like I struck a nerve. Usually that’s a sign that I brought to light a painful truth
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:32 PM
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I didn’t say men shouldn’t contribute to child care, even if they are the primary breadwinner. You just shouldn’t assume that your husband had an easy day at work when he comes home and that he is ready to take on a large portion of house chores and child care duties. He of course should help out, but in a way where he’s not being completely taken advantage of.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:19 PM
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This is what I mean by taking what value men bring to the table for granted. Working can be very taxing and I would consider it a luxury to not have to do it. Child care is taxing as well but it’s a hell of a lot more rewarding than working for a corporation that doesn’t care if you live or die and are reduced down to a performance metric.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:08 PM
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Well relationship dynamics vary couple to couple, but a specific example from my relationships is when I earn more money and disproportionately pay for bills/outting with my partner, I’d expect them to recognize that as me adding more value than they do financially; thus, they need to add more value in other areas where they can to make it a more equitable relationship.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:05 PM
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I mean, I don’t know how dumb you think other people are, but no one believes you when you use your limited anecdotal experience to make sweeping claims about all women in relationships. I’ve been in relationships and know damn well that women take for granted what men often bring to the table. “We both work, we both contribute” Honestly, who earns more? If your man earns more and disproportionately pays for things, he still contributes more despite you contributing your share.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 04:00 PM
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Sounds like you are the one being taken advantage of. Are you sure you are happily married?
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:52 PM
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In my view, women often take for granted the traditionally masculine qualities men bring to the relationship that add value, like providing financial/emotional stability, fixing things, leading, providing safety, sacrificing their own needs/desires, etc. I don’t think women realize that these responsibilities are burdensome and taxing. Since women tend to just expect this and don’t view it as valuable, they expect men to additionally split traditionally feminine responsibilities, like house chor…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 03:43 PM
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If you could read between the lines, you’d understand that my comment did address your post. I’m explaining why men put women on a pedestal and treat them as a prize to begin with. If you don’t live up to the illusions that we’ve created, you aren’t worth competing for. Dating is brutal for men. This male intrasexual competition is fierce and unforgiving. There are a lot of men who have odds stacked against them to even have skin in the game. But the only men who are seen by women are men who ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:56 PM
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Oh right, saying men are venomous when women don’t have x-ray vision is a really advanced topic lmao
/r/PurplePillDebate23/07/26 01:11 AM
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Mating is a form of competition. Both men and woman have their own form of intrasexual competition. Men compete against other men in the form resource acquisition, which entails demonstrating athletic ability, competency, intelligence, and social skills. But in order for this competition to be worth the effort and risk of failure, there needs to be a reward. Since women, as they are, aren’t necessarily a reward, we build illusions in our head that they are some majestic creatures, aka a “prize”.…
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:36 PM
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So you have no desire for intimacy? Did you know intimacy is actually considered a psychological need? Did you know that if you are deprived of intimacy for extended periods, that has been shown cause negative mental health outcomes? I think the made majority of woman on this sub are just femcels, misandrists, or asexual. Prove me wrong
/r/PurplePillDebate22/07/26 08:00 PM
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I mean I think there is some merit to looking at dating outcomes as an objective truth as if we were aliens observing human mating patterns from afar and not having emotional attachment to the outcome. But the issue is there we ARE humans and intimacy is a biological need to live a healthy life. You’d only know this if you were deprived of intimacy for extended periods, which most women aren’t. The people who are negatively impacted, namely average men and to a lesser extent, ugly women, have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 10:22 PM
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Right, I’m just refuting the claim that “Standards aren’t too high or unrealistic if one can consistently attract people they seek”. Who women attract and who men attract are completely different in the context of casual relationships. Men attract woman who see something, often numerous qualities, in them that they like. Woman attract literally every horny dude who’s in their proximity, assuming they are at least average looking. If who they attract ends in a committed relationship, then that’s …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:58 PM
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Right, well if I’ve learned anything from women on this sub, it’s that they will only date you if they are clearly the beneficiaries of the relationship. This translates to men disproportionately providing resources, entertainment, comfort, status, physical looks and/or safety to the relationship. But this implies that men are essentially getting taken advantage of. Once I put this observation to the test, it seems abundantly clear that holds true across all modern relationship that I’ve witness…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 08:42 PM
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This post is full of entitlement. For one thing, why do you think you deserve a short term relationship with someone who is so high in demand? Why would you even care about personality for a one night stand? Men tend to want relationships with quality women, but they will settle for less if they are on a dry streak. This is where you come in. Since you struggle to find suitable hookup partners, you are probably not attractive enough for good looking men to want to sleep with you. But let’s say t…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:47 PM
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I think you’re conflating access to intimacy with access to commitment. Average woman can attract higher tier men for short term intimacy. It’s actually very easy for women to attract men than vice versa. But just because a higher tier man will sleep with a lower tier woman doesn’t mean he will commit to her. Conversely, If a woman is willing to sleep with a man, she likely would consider a relationship with him. If I’m looking for short term intimacy, I personally don’t even go for woman I’d wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/26 07:21 PM
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Did you come on here to just to brag about your life? Well since we’re here, here’s my take. You seeing yourself as attractive means absolutely nothing. Almost all woman view themselves as attractive. No clue why. Multiple degrees is impressive but without knowledge about the subject or where you got them, it could be virtually meaningless. Being a decent human being and being liked by your community is pretty normal. I mean, from his perspective, most of those things don’t add a lot of value to…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:32 AM
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Good for you I guess. I can’t even fathom where y’all pull your standards from. Nor do I care to. I think yall just make this shit up in your heads. Or perhaps romance movies/novels gave you these ideas. Regardless, I am just going assume that the guy you met had a lot of practice before you he learned to manipulate the chemical reaction in your brain that made you fall for him. At the end of the day, yall are just a game to played. Some men learned from experience, some men are naturals, and so…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/03/26 01:06 AM
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Yikes. You give me the creeps. Knowing there are more miserable and predatory woman on here like you, I’m done with this sub. PSA for men: This sub ain’t doing anything positive for your mental health. Get off this sub. The women on here are largely predatory misandrists who gain pleasure rage-bating men. There is nothing to debate. Women have it easier in almost every way aside from child bearing in modern society, including dating. Be content being single, don’t be desperate or you might end u…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:52 PM
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Get a life. You’re kinda predatory with how you’re replying to my comments trying to rage bait. It’s gross. You have a husband. Go spent time with him
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:13 PM
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Got it. I mean I still don’t believe the majority are in committed relationships, but for those of you who are, please get a life. Y’all are gross. Exploiting other people’s dating struggles for your own entertainment is pathetic.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 08:11 PM
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Yeah, I mean woman can be super shitty partners. But I’m saying, culturally speaking, when men struggle with dating, it’s their fault. When woman struggle, it’s men’s fault. Or when there are issues during the relationship, it’s often the men’s fault, sometimes justifiably so and sometimes not. After a committed relationship has ended, men have the right to complain about their ex-partners behavior just as woman do. Really? you don’t think woman demand men adjust to their preferences? Look aroun…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:45 PM
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I mean you are one person. How could you possibly know that most woman on this sub are in committed in relationships? That’s just nonsense. Most interactions I have are with woman who just blame men for their lack of dating success.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:06 PM
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I have literally no reason to believe that’s true. Why would it even make sense for people in committed relationships to be on this sub? While I don’t deny some are, that does not mean most
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 07:02 PM
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While I’ll try and dismiss the misandry in this take, I will point out that the same could be said for modern women. Y’all expect a high caliber man to come sweep you off your feet. But what about modern women actually is deserving of commitment from such a man? Being highly promiscuous is not attractive. Being a misandrist is not attractive. Blaming men for your lack of success in dating isn’t attractive. Expecting men to live up to a traditionally masculine gender role while simultaneously not…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 06:17 PM
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Why would it make sense for woman who are older and married be on this subreddit? My hunch is the vast majority of women on this sub are struggling with dating. Also, If their preference is casual hookups, that is not monogamy, so that’s a moot point. Look, let’s not live in this illusionary world where women are not struggling with dating. It’s just struggling with dating as a woman is different than as man. Women do not have a problem getting dates unless they are well below average looking. T…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:45 PM
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It’s literally in the very fabric of American culture. I have sisters. I’ve had female friends. I’ve been in relationships. It’s the most predictable outcome when relationships aren’t going well for them. Are they capable of taking accountability? Yes. Do they often blame their partners instead, also yes. The crux of the issue, which you’ll find is overwhelmingly the case, is that woman believe that men need to adjust to their preferences. Meanwhile, woman don’t believe they need to adjust to me…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:34 PM
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Women have a hard time getting commitment. Getting dates is not a metric woman should use to determine how well their dating life is going.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:21 PM
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All men are dogs is hardly the biggest insult to men. Men who say things like this are projecting. These are the types of men you should actually watch out for.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 05:03 PM
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You guessed it
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:57 PM
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Well then there’s nothing to be held accountable for in regard to dating. What does success in dating look like for women? For hetero monogamous women, that should mean finding a quality mate to commit to them. If they get dates, and sex, but no commitment, that doesn’t qualify as success imo. That’s the biggest complaint from women in modern dating. There’s a huge disparity between how commonplace it is for men to get shit on but the moment women get an ounce of criticism, they become extremely…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:55 PM
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Majority are women but there are some men, yes. Not often do I hear a man say that 95% of men are not well adjusted and repulsive. Are you having a hard time dealing with women being called out for their misandry? Would you prefer if men were to blame for each and every problem that exists?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:40 PM
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Is this because you believe male Reddit users are incels? Or is that men who want to debate the absurdities of modern dating are inherently flawed, while woman who do are perfect the way they are?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:29 PM
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It’s more about the narrative that goes on when relationships don’t go well for them. Women don’t believe they are at fault because their friends and support system don’t provide honest feedback, but rather empower them by saying something adjacent to it’s the man’s fault. I am just saying that it doesn’t hurt for them to look inward and as self evident on this sub, woman tend to not do that very often but instead project their issues onto men.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 04:07 PM
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Yup, women are perfect and men are awful. Truly insightful stuff.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:54 PM
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They ought to hold themselves (whom) accountable for their own lack of success in dating by becoming a more desirable woman (in what way). To be more specific, they should actually understand that they have room for improvement and can also benefit from dating advice, rather than just blame men for their own inadequacies.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:41 PM
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Accountable for your own behavior. If dating is not going well for you, y’all blame it on men. If dating is hard for men, it’s their own fault. Women can absolutely benefit from dating advice but the only way it can be received is if there is some level of acknowledgment that there is room for improvement. I genuinely think most of y’all believe you are nearly perfect creatures the way you are and everyone else around you needs to adjust to you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:32 PM
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Further proving OPs point. This essentially translates to, women are perfect creatures and whatever dating problems they run into can be directly blamed on men. Do you really believe that men are the ONLY ones that need dating advice?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 03:25 PM
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“I don’t hate men, I just think 95% of you are repulsive” This sub is so full of man-hating gas lighters, it’s absurd. Just because a well adjusted man is willing to tolerate your misandry, doesn’t make you well adjusted.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:57 PM
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All these comments kind of proves OPs point. Women refuse to be held accountable for their own lack of success in dating. Any criticism towards them will be met with harsh and defensive responses. This is called immaturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:49 PM
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All these comments kind of proves OPs point. Women refuse to be held accountable for their own lack of success in dating. Any criticism towards them will be met with harsh and defensive responses. This is called immaturity.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:49 PM
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Yikes. Misandry is rampant on this sub but this is just gross. You don’t sound very well adjusted yourself. Don’t think you’re in a position to demand a well adjusted man.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/03/26 02:37 PM
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This sub is full of people who make assumptions lmao. The last guy assumed I’m an incel and you are assuming I’m on dating apps and have never done a calorie deficit, all of which are not true. Tell me, if personality is so mutable, what exactly have you done to change your personality to become more attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:48 PM
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This sub is full of people who make assumptions lmao. The last guy assumed I’m an incel and you are assuming I’m on dating apps and have never done a calorie deficit, all of which are not true. Tell me, if personality is so mutable, what exactly have you done to change your personality to become more attractive?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:48 PM
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That’s absolutely not true. There is measurable and predictable way to lose weight, which is called calorie deficit. The same cannot be said for personality.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/02/26 03:06 PM
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Boring woman and dry texting are not related imo. Dry texting is a result of woman putting in zero effort, which is different than being boring. Being boring means being able to appreciate the simple things in life without constant stimulation. It’s more sustainable, predictable, and stable. Woman who crave constant stimulation are the exact opposite, which indicates some level emotional deregulation or dopamine deficiency; hence they need so much stimulation to help them regulate. This is preci…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 06:52 PM
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And I can’t think of a more tired argument than, “just work on your personality and you’ll have more dating success”. This doesn’t mean anything to anyone because it isn’t clear what you even mean. Does working on your personality just mean pursue hobbies that woman won’t find unattractive? Does pursuing such hobbies change your personality? Maybe some could to a very mild degree. Do you want people to watch YouTube tutorials about how to sound more interesting? What is it exactly that would tur…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 05:07 PM
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Do you believe that personality is easily mutable? How many people in general do you know have had a dramatic personality shift in their adult life? Personality is largely dictated by genetics and early environment. By saying men should just work on their personality, you are essentially saying that men need to pretend to be a different version of themselves until they’re more attractive to females. But if showing an insincere version of yourself doesn’t lead to results, which it likely won’t be…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/02/26 04:32 PM
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