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It's complex, a lot of factors. The easiest one you can control in my opinion, is be yourself. Literally, meaning don't hide your personality. We all tend to hide pieces of ourselves, for various reasons. Shame. Wanting to impress. Being afraid of judgement. Feeling inadequate. Wanting to look "mature". Basically trying to play a persona. If you hide a little bit, just minor things, you're mysterious. If you hide a lot, if you hide most of your personality, motivations, intentions, you can come …
/r/seduction18/09/25 02:57 AM
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Nobody can mesh with "everyone". Part of "no spark" is simply bad luck, and unavoidable. This is why people say it's a numbers game. There will be people you're inherently a poor match with. Don't let it get to you; try to assume that at least some of the time, it's not your fault in any way, and just laugh. Obviously lack of spark is also, in part, skill. Whether it's speaking ability, confidence, or actions. If there was a spark, you need to be able to grow it into a flame. You could make the …
/r/seduction18/09/25 02:03 AM
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What great advice. We spend so much of our lives trying to grow up, to be mature, to avoid pain and embarrassment. But your personality doesn't show when you hide behind appearances and try to be perfect. There's nothing unique or interesting about a perfect persona. And guess what, if you're constantly hiding your personality, it'll be difficult for people to find something special to love about you. My wife fell in love with me, without any effort on my part, on the rare occasion when I wasn't…
/r/seduction13/09/25 04:28 AM
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Don't take yourself too seriously. When you make a dad joke, do you deliver it as if you were a nervous comedian auditioning for a gig, hoping that it's good? No, you deliver it with a shit-eating grin, because you know it's probably terrible. Just speak as if you already know you're gonna say something corny. If you say "We should stick to tamer stuff like anal" with a face that says "oh man, I hope she thinks this is okay" or "I really hope she says yes" then it'll come off as cringey. But if …
/r/seduction21/06/23 02:53 PM
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I don't drink, and I'm happy to sip Sprite or Dr. Pepper all night while my friends are loosening up with some beer. I'll have a good time, but bars/alcohol are not my thing, and my most satisfying interactions have been elsewhere. I didn't say bars aren't a good logistical date -- it's a classic for a reason. But the guy who's asking "what if you don't drink" and "is that weird?" doesn't strike me as somebody who feels comfortable being a non-drinker at a bar. You could make an argument that he…
/r/seduction10/05/23 05:52 AM
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Go for bubble tea, or coffee, or smoothies -- don't be somebody you're not. Bars aren't the only acceptable meeting spot. If you force yourself to fit somebody else's mould, you will struggle to feel genuine, and you'll attract people who don't match your values.
/r/seduction09/05/23 08:27 PM
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That's a reasonable assumption
/r/seduction28/10/22 02:46 PM
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Yeah dude, if that's your routine, sounds like you've got something good going for you. Keep doing your thing.
/r/seduction28/10/22 02:44 PM
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Fair enough. If you're not gonna eat, then clearly food establishments are not your thing. Live your life man.
/r/seduction28/10/22 02:35 PM
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When she's eating, you'll be... eating? Talk about the food, the music they're playing, tease her because she can't cook, talk about your love of coffee. Finish eating, settle up, end the date early on a positive vibe. Or invite her to join you on whatever else you're doing. Hit up a farmers market. Invite her over to meet your dog, make coffee. The world's your oyster. If you can't think of anything interesting about breakfast, then that's just not your jam, and that situation probably wouldn't…
/r/seduction28/10/22 02:32 PM
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Nobody does breakfast, so it's interesting. If you enjoy going out for breakfast, then a breakfast date is just inviting them to join one of your usual activities. It's a short and cheap meal. Take a walk after, explore town, go to a coffee shop. Or just leave depending on the mood. People live different lives, not everyone needs to be at home in the bar. Obviously not for everyone, but you should live your life if you want to meet someone who fits your life.
/r/seduction28/10/22 01:49 PM
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Not saying that looks doesn't play a part, but there's also a difference between gazing deeply at her, cupping her hands, and telling her seriously to text you when she gets home, vs nonchalantly saying, hey, had a great time, let me know you got home okay. Later. Like many aspects of relationships, the way it's said, and the degree of emphasis can be the difference between "Okayyy... needy, over-the-top, creepy" vs "Nice gesture, probably does the same for his friends, sweet and caring guy"
/r/seduction27/10/22 03:05 PM
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And also make sure that the guy she's talking to isn't a serial killer or high functioning psychopath
/r/seduction04/07/22 04:29 PM
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To build on that, confidence is built through failure when you fail but push through and work things out anyway. You start to cultivate a sense of reliability-- that even in failure, you have the ability to handle the situation.
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:59 PM
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The important thing is to always respect yourself. Don't tolerate shit from others, but also don't be a jackass. You're right that it's not about being serious. You can be goofy while still showing self-respect. It's the act of conveying that you have strong roots, that you have a strong sense of self, strong convictions, that you won't be shaken easily.
/r/seduction27/05/22 08:57 PM
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The amount of comments saying that this is normal is really concerning. If she isn't interested in learning about you, here's two possible explanations, (which may not be the only explanations) She's just not the type to probe your history, even though she loves to learn about you. Some people just don't have the habit/skill of inquiring about you. Maybe you just need to speak more about yourself, be more vulnerable, share more. Or if it's important to you that she makes the effort, know that it…
/r/seduction22/05/22 10:30 PM
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High school is a different game. Insecurities, popularity, and a desire to be "mature" makes it easier for some people who can manipulate those desires (whether intentional, or coincidental). Some of that is still present in college of course, but less so. You're 21, not 17. Don't judge yourself based on someone else's playing field. It sounds like you don't want to play the game the way your brother does, and that's perfectly fine, that's your personality, your convictions. Be kind to yourself.…
/r/seduction23/12/21 03:46 PM
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For someone who's she and/or insecure, the only way they'd ever respond to that kind of text is to ambiguously be supportive of you, and if they're not very self-confident, he might never believe you could actually be interested, if you're too indirect. Even if he's interested, he'll just think "Is she into me...? Nah, I'm probably over-analyzing and I'd ruin the friendship if I make a move without knowing for sure..."
/r/seduction08/10/21 09:48 PM
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You could start with hugging goodbye as a natural introduction to physical touch, most guys don't get much in the way of physical affection and just a long full-bodied hug could give him some thoughts. You could tell him you really enjoy spending time with him, [insert reason why], does he want to grab dinner and/or a drink sometime and get to know each other better? Perhaps even in the middle of a hug, to emphasize that it's not just a casual invitation as a friend. Some other people mentioned …
/r/seduction08/10/21 09:44 PM
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#9 was a major part of attracting my girlfriend. Instead of being in my head all the time, I was doing my best to say positive things about my friend. Lo and behold, as I'm giving off positive energy and not caring about how I come off, she actually ends up finding me attractive. I'm not an attractive guy. At 22, I had only a single relationship, in highschool, that lasted 3 months. Take it for what you will.
/r/seduction31/08/21 02:30 PM
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Do what matches your personality. If you are comfortable with not taking continuously, them don't force yourself to. After all, if your partner is someone who needs you to constantly be talking, then maybe you just don't fit well together. Don't be afraid to take a few moments to enjoy your food or take in the surroundings. Take that time confidently, but your moment, comment on it so it continues to be a shared experience. Savor your meal, and ask about her food, connect it to other life storie…
/r/seduction18/02/21 09:33 PM
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Statistically, you're going to fail most of the time. It's just life, that people you are interested in may not be looking for a relationship at the same time you are, or just may not be interested in you. Just like for unexplainable reasons there are probably attractive people you're not interested in. As the saying goes, "you can make no mistakes and still lose, that's life." Keep your head up. You can never go wrong by being genuinely interested in the things they care about.
/r/seduction30/10/20 07:25 PM
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Women love when you are show genuine interest in the things they care about. That helped me a lot. Just don't fake it.
/r/seduction30/10/20 07:16 PM
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For the record, my girlfriend was very put off by getting those kinds of comments from guys at the bar in the past. She thought the guy was interesting but the unsolicited attempt to turn it flirtatious soured the interaction Take it how you will, but that is probably bad advice. If a woman tries to steer away from an attempt to make it sexual, it's time to step back and build more rapport, since she clearly isn't receptive. And especially if she is being "stern" about disliking the sexual comme…
/r/seduction14/10/19 06:44 PM
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Send them to me too please!
/r/seduction17/07/18 11:32 PM
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That's a much better answer than "I've got a boyfriend" imo. Makes it really easy to move onto the next. You know she for sure isn't into you, no reason to be hung up on it. And she feels comfortable enough to tell you the truth. You're not coming off as frightening or dangerous, which is great. I don't have any advice to give, but props, keep it up. It sounds like almost the best way you can be turned down. Clear and simple.
/r/seduction08/07/18 05:16 PM
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Seriously sounds like you're trolling but everybody here deserves the benefit of the doubt. if you are already having sex why would you marry ? it just doesn't add anything. Think about this. If sex is the only reason for marrying someone, why spend huge money for a wedding? You can have sex for free without the lifelong commitment. And if "try before you buy" breaks the hype for marriage. Just think about how bored you'll get after 30 years if sex is the main reason you marry someone. Or maybe …
/r/seduction06/07/18 12:20 PM
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About 1-2 times weekly with my main group on the weekends. Other smaller or more distant friends I see every few months. Many of them met in college, some from work, some from doing social things and encouraging friends to bring their friends that might be interested. Ie, hiking, karaoke, ice skating.
/r/seduction27/06/18 05:17 PM
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I was 22. I'd rate her as an 8, generally accepted that she was very attractive, but not an absolute stunner. I didn't tell her until after the second time, she wouldn't have guessed. She told me she thought I was very confident. We did have a few silly "oops" moments and we laughed about it. She was very down-to-earth. We connected through one mutual friend, we'd been texting for about a month and a half before our first date. Had sex 3 weeks after our first date. The next week we made it offic…
/r/seduction08/06/18 10:30 PM
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I'm around the same age as you. Recently had a relationship with a woman who's 25, she was my first. Don't worry, just have fun making her feel things. If you worry about how well you're doing you're shooting yourself in the foot. Explore her body. Try kissing, licking, gentle biting her neck, ears, legs. Just do it with some confidence. Enjoy the foreplay, it's fun. There'll be moments when things aren't perfect, but have a laugh, that's part of the fun. I'm assuming you're talking about relati…
/r/seduction08/06/18 02:12 PM
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As a fellow Asian guy in the same region, it can be tough. It can start to seem like nobody likes Asian guys, but that's not true. Realistically, you have to accept that race puts you at a bit of a disadvantage. But it also makes you different and interesting. Think about it as a criteria for you to reject women, rather than the other way around. This woman isn't attracted to Asian guys? Cool, I'm not attracted to women who disqualify me based on my race. And all the same I have my own racial bi…
/r/seduction08/06/18 06:13 AM
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If she isn't attracted to you, but you have fun with her and she brings her friends, you don't necessarily need to cut ties with her. Talk to her, talk to her friends, maybe one of her friends finds you attractive. If not, then that's also great, go invite them all to go out with you. It's a lot easier to talk to girls when you go out with a group of women. But the most important thing is do you enjoy her company as just a friend? If yes, then why not talk to her once in a while? It doesn't hurt…
/r/seduction07/06/18 08:06 PM
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Great post, I've unconsciously done this a few times and it's always been fun.
/r/seduction07/06/18 07:30 PM
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Thanks for sharing these, it's nice to see how the situations we are afraid of are not really as terrifying as we think. Look forward to seeing more.
/r/seduction05/06/18 06:32 PM
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What do you like, what do you enjoy? What do you do on your own time? There were a lot of things I found rewarding when I finally made a deeper connection with a woman. Some examples are acceptance, interest, and support. How well do your friends know you? What do you tell them? What don't you tell them? To some degree, I think we all have a private self. Things that we enjoy, but may not share with others for one reason or another. And when you find someone who you can share that with, it's ver…
/r/seduction01/06/18 08:03 AM
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Just want to say I have a huge amount of respect for the way you try to help people /u/recyclablebanthas People struggle with themselves on this sub, and I'm sure you have your own life to attend to, but you consistently make an effort to calmly and logically contribute. Whether your advice or comments are right or wrong is subjective, but your efforts to treat users like people is always a breath of fresh air. Thanks for your work as an individual, as a moderator, and as a fellow human being.
/r/seduction28/05/18 06:57 AM
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Jobs aren't as long-term nowadays as they used to be. It's still a problem for the company, but chances are it doesn't really affect their turnover rate that much. It's a different story if this is a long-term job he is highly invested in, but that's probably not the case here. The way to move up in your career is often by leaving your company, not by staying for raises and promotions. Especially since pension plans are becoming less common in favor of 401k match.
/r/seduction25/05/18 05:06 AM
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Who said you were a slut? You had fun in your own middle-schooler way, so did I. There's more to life than just seduction.
/r/seduction26/04/18 05:43 PM
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A lot of people don't learn in middle school. I didn't learn until college, after making a good few mistakes. Still have a lot to learn, but it's not reasonable to expect everybody to have tried dating in middle school. We didn't even understand what dating meant at that point.
/r/seduction26/04/18 04:47 PM
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Try to have a reason to talk to them, rather than opening with an unsolicited compliment. At the food court, comment on what they're eating, ask if they recommend it. In a store, ask for advice, you could say you're looking for a gift. If you really have to approach someone that's walking, ask if they know where a certain store or two is. Regardless, it's weird and forced if you don't have even a weak reason to talk to them. There was a psych study that was interesting. On a line to use the copy…
/r/seduction26/04/18 04:30 PM
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Catch their eyes, give a short smile, maybe a second or two. This shows your interest. When they notice you, raise your eyebrows briefly, or do a quick nod up-down. Raising eyebrows or lifting the head is an almost universal sign that you've acknowledged somebody that you want to talk to. But nodding down-up is a common way to greet a casual acquaintance you don't particularly want to talk to. If you're not going to approach men personally, then these subtle things could make them more likely to…
/r/seduction26/04/18 04:14 PM
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Pm me, let's talk, show me a picture, let me figure out what you have going for you. I'm sure you have a lot of good traits, but as a guy you haven't gotten much in the way of compliments. I'm no expert, but the times that I've had most success with women is when I wasn't trying to pursue them. It can be really powerful and healthy to talk to women (and people in general) with the mindset of "I'm not trying to get with you" My last girlfriend, I was trying to help out my friend who was intereste…
/r/seduction24/04/18 05:49 AM
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He's telling OP that he should be proud of himself for growing his confidence rather than proud that he got a number. I think it's really positive, and most of the advice on this subject should be for the goal of personal development rather than the goal of collecting numbers/notches on the belt.
/r/seduction16/03/18 07:14 PM
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In my experience, the seduction community guidelines aren't a scientific formula that gets you women. Have you heard of "fake it til you make it"? That's basically how I looked at these "techniques". You're not supposed to go through your interactions thinking about these things. But they're ways for you to act more confident than you might feel. And eventually, you'll gain true confidence. It's not that these things are required for attraction, but rather, you grew up incorrectly being afraid o…
/r/seduction11/03/18 03:57 PM
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Oh I did :)
/r/seduction05/03/18 03:51 PM
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I had success with my current girlfriend when I just kissed her because I couldn't stand to wait for a good moment anymore. She was caught by surprise, but she thought it was a lot smoother than I thought it was. And then there was nothing ceremonious about feeling her up while we were kissing either, I just did it, despite being terrified that it was wrong. There's probably no perfect moment. Just go for it.
/r/seduction04/03/18 04:36 PM
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I didn't say its a good thing, I definitely think Instagram is not the best way to get in contact with a girl and I can't believe that some people actually use it as their primary messaging platform. But if Instagram is all you have for contact info, might as well use it and treat it as you would a phone number for texting. Just remind her who you are, keep it light-hearted and brief. It's a tool, like any other. If you contact her on Instagram and she doesn't respond, she probably wasn't going …
/r/seduction15/02/18 05:13 PM
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You got downvoted, and I'm not sure why. It's true. On multiple occasions I've met guys/girls who have set up dates over Instagram the way you'd expect people to use a phone number. For reference my age group is 20-25.
/r/seduction14/02/18 11:57 PM
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From the picture, my guess was that you're 26, and also that you don't have any passion. Also the greasy hair looks like it's been two weeks since you last washed your hair. To put it simply, you look dirty. If you think you look young, then stop looking young. Buy some pomade, style your hair. Give yourself a very sharp clean shave. Well-groomed facial hair makes you look more mature. You don't need to shave off all your facial hair, but groom it so it looks neat and even. The messiness of your…
/r/seduction12/01/18 07:38 PM
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At one point, I wanted to be in a relationship because I liked the concept and status of being "in a relationship." That's social pressure, and my self-esteem improved when I realized this was a stupid reason to seek out a relationship. At a different point, I kept dating this girl after life events changed her personality over the course of two years. It took a lot to realize that I liked the girl from two years ago. The person I was in love with was "the idea of her", and I didn't really love …
/r/seduction31/12/17 08:45 AM
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Take it as a lesson for the future, and be more attentive to these things so you can take action. I'm sure a missed opportunity like this has happened to a lot of people here before. Move on and get on with your life. Happy holidays friend, wish you luck in the new year.
/r/seduction26/12/17 01:56 AM
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If she was really interested, she'd know when she's back, or she would suggest another time. Sounds like polite rejection to me so don't push any more unless she does, seems like she's probably not interested.
/r/seduction26/12/17 12:32 AM
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Just wait. It's the Christmas season, people have families, stop thinking about her for a bit and enjoy the holidays. It'll work out for the better if you 1. Decide to make moves, and 2. Stop thinking too much about her
/r/seduction25/12/17 08:04 PM
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Do you want to touch her body, feel her breasts? Have sex with her? If you're honest with yourself you probably want to do all of these things, but you're worried about backlash. In reality, it can all be forgiven as long as you watch for and respect when/if she doesn't want it.
/r/seduction25/12/17 08:00 PM
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would I push a friend to do this? You are your own best friend Thanks for the reminder, I think this is great stuff.
/r/seduction23/12/17 08:55 PM
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Interesting take on it. Thanks for the input! It's easier to calibrate with some reference points. She's complimented me on a short 10 second recording of me singing, and said she would save it to listen to again when she needs a pick-me-up. I can sing on pitch, but I know I don't have a pleasing voice by any means. I know that she sings better than I can. I'm cautiously taking it as a positive sign, with the understanding that it's likely just her personality to be friendly.
/r/seduction21/12/17 08:33 AM
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Thanks, I appreciate your input. Helps me establish realistic expectations.
/r/seduction21/12/17 01:45 AM
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That's good and fine, being flirty is fun as long as there's no desperation. As long as you can accept a rejection gracefully, power to you. Seems like you have a mindset for success, friend.
/r/seduction20/12/17 08:09 PM
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Thanks. Appreciate the opinion and point of reference.
/r/seduction20/12/17 08:03 PM
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Thanks for the voice of skepticism. First time getting compliments like this from a girl. They're not IODs, for sure, and I invited her out and plan to escalate to test the waters. Doesn't hurt to try right?
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:53 PM
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It's perfectly fine to ask out a girl in your friend group. But are you going to get weird and obsessive about it if she says no? You're fine as long as you have the mental fortitude to accept a rejection, and move on, treating her as you would any another friend. I've seen it happen multiple times. If you get rejected and you're worried she will get weird, tell her outright it's no big deal, and you'll just be friends as normal. The problem is usually you. And as long as you don't make a habit …
/r/seduction20/12/17 07:37 PM
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It's important to be honest with yourself. You want to reach out to her, so you should. But you should also be aware of whether you're getting needy. It's not even been a week. Give it a little more time, let yourself get busy with some other things. Next time it comes to mind, if it's been a reasonable amount of time, you could tell her you're drawing plans for the next week. Pick a day you're free, ask if she's free. She'll either say yes or no. If no, see if she offers another day. If not, mo…
/r/seduction18/12/17 09:55 AM
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I think the flip-flop of perspective is intentional, it's kind of silly, and it's always good to avoid taking yourself too seriously. Keeps things light-hearted.
/r/seduction07/12/17 08:26 AM
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Exactly. Just live, instead of trying to corral a relationship into a label. Interpersonal relationships are way too deep to be simplified like that, and it adds too much expectation. That's why I usually just refer to people I'm seeing as just that, "this girl I'm seeing". A simple broad label that doesn't have many assumptions to it. Just enough for others to know who and what I'm talking about. Not everything needs to be well-defined.
/r/seduction06/12/17 09:23 PM
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Thank you. My whole life people have been criticizing me for not strictly and verbally defining my relationships. It's nice to see that it's not truly necessary. Perfectly fine if relationships naturally resolve themselves into friendships. Or for them to naturally grow stronger.
/r/seduction06/12/17 07:32 PM
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Yeah, the fact that you felt the need to post about this is a definite sign of oneitis. But you're seeking help and improvement, and that's a good thing. You can always improve as long as you're not too proud to ask for help, and you're willing to accept advice and critique. Without a good model to learn from, it's hard to figure this stuff out and internalize it. It took me a long time, and the fact that I need to live in the present I only picked up this past year. Honestly I'm not that far ah…
/r/seduction06/12/17 07:29 PM
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I had this situation recently. No offense, but your messages make me cringe a little bit. If she doesn't respond, forget about her for a while until something comes up in the future that you can invite her to. Don't chase a ghosted text. Don't call her out on the lack of reply. I'm sure there's ways to go about that, but you're infinitely more likely to hurt you rather than help. Don't even say anything to acknowledge that maybe she's not interested. If you really think there might still be some…
/r/seduction06/12/17 06:31 PM
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Congratulations on making some progress with you inner-game! What a great inspirational story for this sub.
/r/seduction06/12/17 06:23 PM
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My chronic oneitis improved somewhat when I reminded myself that women aren't perfect. Like, I'm sure she's great, otherwise you wouldn't have fallen for her. But don't make her out to be larger than life. It puts unfair expectations on the woman. You've only known her two months. Stop thinking so far ahead in the future, you don't even know if you'll still like her in the next month, let alone 5 years from now. Live your relationship in the present and enjoy the time with her. Realize that at t…
/r/seduction06/12/17 06:05 PM
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At least in American society, men rarely receive compliments. They may look good, they may have a nice shirt on, it might be obvious that they improve themselves at the gym. But very few people ever compliment them outside of their close friends. Everybody likes being complimented, but the validation that you can give a man is intoxicating.
/r/seduction29/11/17 05:13 PM
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I'm 21. It's crazy, but I changed a lot since I was 20. I started inviting acquaintances to do things together, people I knew were good people but I otherwise knew barely anything about. I stopped worrying about whether or not people would get along, or if people would think it's weird for me to invite them. People started calling me a social organizer. The guy who made the college town a happening place when it never was before. I committed to going to the gym. Started at 120lbs, 5' 8". Went al…
/r/seduction05/08/17 09:18 AM
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Just wanna say, I'm sure a lot of people appreciate that you gave advice on multiple timescales.
/r/seduction26/07/17 10:41 AM
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Use your own judgement. In my opinion the end goal should be to meet cool people. If she's interesting, and you find out that she really wants to be friends, then having interesting friends can help you have an interesting life. If your only intention is to have sex with her, that's fine, maybe you don't need or want another friend. Maybe she doesn't really want to be friends. That's fine, walk away from it. There's nothing inherently wrong with meeting a cool person and just being friends, as l…
/r/seduction05/07/17 03:08 PM
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I think the concept is, play to your strengths. Until you're comfortable enough with yourself to really enjoy yourself in the "party" or club environment, you'll have low success, because you're not being honest with yourself. If you get the urge to go to a party, and you're going with the mindset that "oh boy, this is exciting it's going to be a great time", then you'll probably do just fine. If you aren't going to the club or to the party because you genuinely enjoy it, then you're basing your…
/r/seduction17/04/17 08:25 AM
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Thanks! Though, I meant that I wanted more examples of statements of empathy, if you have any more examples you can think of!
/r/seduction11/12/16 02:48 AM
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Thanks! I would appreciate so much if you could give me more examples, I have a sticking point of being afraid to escalate because I don't know how to respond if it doesn't work out the first time. Obviously I shouldn't apologize, but I've never had a good response to give.
/r/seduction11/12/16 02:36 AM
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What exactly is a statement of empathy?
/r/seduction10/12/16 08:05 PM
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Don't give up preemptively out of consideration for another guy. Nobody has told you they're a couple, and you said they're not dating. You don't really know if they're seeing each other. She's holding your hand, you can escalate that to a kiss. Then either something would work out, or she'll tell you no. Either way, you would find an answer. Itd be disrespectful to your brother to hit on her if she was dating the brother, or if you had any substantial knowledge that they're already a couple. Bu…
/r/seduction10/12/16 07:44 PM
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This happened to me! School of 20,000. I took a girl on a date, she was boring, and then she insisted that I shouldn't pay for her. A year later, I ask another girl out, and after a while, I find out that they know each other, by some crazy coincidence, and the first girl had complained to the second about how horrible I was for not paying for her meal. Yet I had offered multiple times, but let her pay in the end because she was insistent. In the end, I got a funny small world story. The second …
/r/seduction09/11/16 09:30 PM
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Vulnerable means you should not be afraid to share parts of yourself that may cause conflict, such as confidently mentioning your passion for classical music. It's an opinion that many people may disagree with, but it's attractive to be firm and confident in who you are. What it doesn't mean is to show off your weaknesses, "I've never been good with women", "I don't have many friends I'm close with", or "I'm unemployed". None of these are good things to show. "Be vulnerable" means to confidently…
/r/seduction09/11/16 09:19 PM
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I like bicycling, eating at new places, technology, DIY stuff, cooking, anime/manga, writing music, playing music, and a variety of lesser interests. I can evaluate myself well enough that I can say I'm not obsessed with any of these enough that it would be off-putting, but I still find it difficult to talk about most of these topics unless the other person is actively showing interest and participating in the conversation about it. I'm usually unable to ramble or comfortably speak at length abo…
/r/seduction13/10/16 05:12 AM
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That's very powerful. Thank you.
/r/seduction30/09/16 07:40 PM
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Thank you, great advice that I really appreciate. It's really tough to know what's "acceptable" when you have no models to learn from. I like your bit about introductions, and I totally agree.
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:51 PM
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Thank you, great advice that I really appreciate. It's really tough to know what's "acceptable" when you have no models to learn from.
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:50 PM
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Thank you, this was the unspoken social instruction that I never understood, and left me wondering why nobody ever wanted to dance. I even saved your comment, and some others ITT.
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:49 PM
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Thanks for sharing, it was insightful for me too. A good thing to remember is that if you want to something, like put your arm around her, as long as you don't have any bad intentions, it will almost never backfire badly. The results of your well-intentioned actions will not have severe negative consequences, though a little rejection is always a possibility.
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:25 PM
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If you're having trouble with the noise, take it as an excuse to go to a quieter location with her. Put your hand up to your ear like "I can't hear you", make a silly "sorry" face, then grab her hand and lead her to somewhere quieter, maybe outside of the bar or the club. But the is only if you have an attempt to make conversation. I don't have any solid advice on dancing.
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:09 PM
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Play ultimate with her. And as things are winding down, ask her to join you in doing something else at a later date. If her friend is around, make sure you address your girl specifically, her friend should understand what's going on, don't let that faze you. You shouldn't be put off that she's inviting a roommate the first time, but just try to set the stage for a one-on-one, and don't let The presence of her friend bother you too much. If anything, do something like tell the both of them that y…
/r/seduction30/09/16 06:04 PM
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You are clinging too tightly to your misconceptions about women. Although their conversation topics do differ from what men generally talk about, each woman has their own personal interests too. And like how some meh don't like talking about sports or bars or parties, some girls feel pressured in the same way to talk about things they're not really interested in. I'd suggest you reconsider whether these girls are actually "dumb and stupid" because you don't really know them. Part of dating is tr…
/r/seduction30/09/16 05:55 PM
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Thank you. This comment is exactly what I needed to hear, in the best possible way. Also thank you OP for asking the question that was on my mind.
/r/seduction18/03/15 08:30 AM
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What the heck, send one my way.
/r/seduction25/02/15 08:52 AM
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Great method, it actually sounds like a lot of fun.
/r/seduction19/02/15 07:58 AM
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If you like her well enough as a person, I think keeping friends is perfectly fine. The problem with the friend zone is when people can't accept just being friends for any reason. IE, only want to get in her pants. Seduction isn't just a way to get into girls' pants, it's self-improvement. It's making yourself somebody people enjoy being around. Not every woman will be looking for a relationship, whether serious or casual. I think if you can make an attractive female friend who is genuinely fun …
/r/seduction19/02/15 07:44 AM
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Thanks for the reply, but that seems too improbable. Who doesn't have a phone to check the time anyway? Being obvious works better once you had the chance to build some attraction already
/r/seduction19/02/15 06:12 AM
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Thanks for the opinion, it's appreciated. Any other advice you might have would be much welcomed :)
/r/seduction19/02/15 06:10 AM
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RemindMe! One Day.
/r/seduction19/02/15 01:03 AM
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I totally agree with how you feel. It seems way too selfish to interrupt someone just trying to live their lives.
/r/seduction13/01/15 04:07 AM
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Haha good advice there. We could all do to lose a few years mentally.
/r/seduction13/01/15 04:05 AM
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