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I'm just happy that my favorite celebrity gossip website breatheheavy is getting more hits for this. /s
/r/MensRights10/01/15 10:43 PM
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Pretty true actually.
/r/MensRights10/01/15 10:03 AM
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Well when you put it that way....
/r/MensRights10/01/15 10:02 AM
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I'm glad some people here are realizing my dilemma. I would have to give up one passion (acting) for another (men's rights) for me to declare my views when I felt I needed to. I guess I feel better knowing that I am not the only one who has to keep quiet at times. I think I was putting too much pressure on myself to be "for justice".
/r/MensRights09/01/15 10:49 PM
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Because being gay is something that affects many aspects of your life. I didn't want this to turn into anything about being gay haha. It affects your social circle, who will be your partner, what state you live in if you want to get married, or hell even work without getting fired for it. People ask you who are you dating,have you been meeting girls/guys. It's kind of hard not to be out, especially in CA, unless you were a social hermit. Not to mention, besides a few bullies in elementary school…
/r/MensRights09/01/15 10:43 PM
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Give up my passions for some political points. That's sort of just the same issue that I'd be in now. Sacrificing who I am and what I care about most for ideas.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 10:39 PM
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Haha I regret using the coming out metaphor. In some cases it is apt, because of social stigmatization, but it's not comparable simply because being an MRA is a choice and being gay is not, and being an MRA is not something people kill/beat/harass/bully you over. So I kind of wish I had never made that comment without seriously thinking about it. I get your point though.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 07:17 AM
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I don't call myself anything IRL either. When it comes up, you could clarify that you're an equity feminist. Point to Christina Hoff Sommers, Camille Paglia, etc. Gently introduce them to Sommers' excellent video series. I actually will do that if I am ever asked "are you a feminist?"
/r/MensRights09/01/15 02:33 AM
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Easy isn't the word. I guess I would say I would be purposefully going out of my way to make my life more difficult if I were to let people know I was an MRA. If your boss was pro-feminist, would you work for him/her, especially if your position was a public one? Now imagine every single "job" you have ending after a few months and having to get a new one, with people who are more likely than the general population to not only be feminist, but put feminist and sometimes even anti-male ideas in t…
/r/MensRights09/01/15 02:27 AM
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Haha. I regret using that coming out metaphor. It wasn't really apt. But yeah, that's what I've done so far.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 02:12 AM
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See any of my many comments to see why this isn't so easy.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 01:57 AM
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Again not so easy when your circle of interests (theatre and gay subculture) is entirely feminist. I have yet to meet another actor, who was not a vocal feminist. Scratch that, I did, he was just a prick.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 01:44 AM
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But it's not as simple as that. I stated in another comment that this would leave me with very few friends, even alienate me professionally (I have had to work with many very pro-feminist directors on projects and commercials and had them say bullshit and have to shut my mouth so that I continue to get work as an actor). my social circle at school was all actors/artists/creative people, who leaned feminist. I would have to fundamentally change my interests to find friends who were not feminist. …
/r/MensRights09/01/15 01:43 AM
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Conservatives tend to favor traditional gender roles, which means they tend to be anti-feminist. Which means that if you're a conservative and an anti-feminist, you've got a lot of social support as long as you stick to the right kind of anti-feminist messages. I don't think you'll find a lot of conservatives arguing against male disposability, or that it should be more socially acceptable for men to be stay at home husbands or wear feminine clothing, or things like that. If you're a liberal ant…
/r/MensRights09/01/15 01:39 AM
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A lot of MRAs are left leaning, actually. And a lot of those are ex-feminists/feminist supporters who either got tired of being put down and dismissed for being men, or realized that most of what feminism says is bullshit. I know that is true. I guess what I was trying to get at with that comment was that I do not see myself, as you jokingly put it, "listening to some AM radio" and "eating beef jerky". Those critical of feminism tend to like, well, not the things I like. I do not want to stereot…
/r/MensRights09/01/15 01:37 AM
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Yes this is the game I play so far.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 12:42 AM
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lol! I do the same thing! I've gotten very good at writing comments on pro-feminist stuff that has some hidden criticism that some of the more intellectually minded feminist will actually take to heart that wouldn't if I had just said what I wanted to say. Hey, at least we've learned some important life lessons about phrasing what you say that they never will.
/r/MensRights09/01/15 12:40 AM
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Perhaps that is true. However, I do notice that prominent MRAs tend to live in more conservative or moderate areas of the US. They themselves may not be conservative, but they at least had an environment that led them to be sketpical of left-leaning feminism. Perhaps I should have used libertarian or moderate instead of "conservative" I do not think it would be completely unbelieveble to suggest that those from a liberal background are more likely to identify as feminist. And vice versa. I doubt…
/r/MensRights09/01/15 12:37 AM
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Very skeptical of this study. I've heard the opposite many times. I don't have the data right now, but in my experience, gay men earn more than lesbians. I've heard it chalked up to stereotypical reasons, like gay men work in "creative" classes which earn more, like designing, art, fashion, entertainment, marketing. In addition, the amount they present is not much. The 1-10% differences are nothing, and I wonder if it accounts for difference in education. I think it should be a bigger deal that …
/r/MensRights19/12/14 06:35 AM
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Yes this is basically what he said but in a much more sociological and academic way. I think it's great that this man noticed these things about society without even trying to think about gender issues. It's one thing to look at society through a gendered lens (feminist, MRA, or otherwise) and another to just happen to these conclusions because of experience.
/r/MensRights13/11/14 10:59 AM
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He's tenured and he said it in a way that made it society's fault, not each individual womans (and to some extent that's true). He also isn't lecturing about gender issues but is instead teaching acting in a theatre dept.
/r/MensRights13/11/14 10:57 AM
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This is just projection on the authors part. Ignore this bullshit. It deserves no attention. Not even pity.
/r/MensRights02/11/14 03:58 AM
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I find that behaviors seem more inherent (taking risks, stoicism, physical movement vs sitting still) whereas preferences for arbitrary things are cultural (the color blue, cars, "boy" hobbies vs "girl hobbies") things that basically have no reason to be gendered or at the very least very little reason to be gendered. I never liked any of the typical guy things and I often feel social pressure to conform to them. Those seem to be cultural, even if they were initially preferences on the whole fro…
/r/MensRights26/09/14 01:10 AM
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Well I do think there's something in there about men being expected to use their privileges to maximize society in a perverse way. You suggest using roles/privileges for helping everyone and that being a positive element. I agree, but it can sometimes go too far. Ie. Men are expected to fight and die in war, men are expected to pay on dates, men are expected to protect and server their community (firefighters, police officers). Of course there are women throughout history who have done all of th…
/r/MensRights21/08/14 05:14 AM
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I would choose female. But perhaps not because of any of the reasons suggested above. Women get awesome clothing/self expression and it is encouraged and normalized to express yourself throughout your entire life. It is a social privilege. Explanation: I'm a gay male (although straights could possibly understand this desire as well). I'm slightly effeminate. Society polices masculinity far more strictly than femininity. I'm not trans or anything, and I'm perfectly ok with having my male body. He…
/r/MensRights21/08/14 05:01 AM
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Really these are the posts that I love reading on this sub. I know it's not necessarily a post about activism, or even specifically mens rights (although it relates!) but I love the philosophical discussions that come up every now and then. I had honestly never thought of privileges or rights in this way and I think this topic can be further expanded to address specifically mens rights.
/r/MensRights19/08/14 05:09 PM
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I think the point of that was to show you how "totalitarian ideology" can make it "easy" to "defend" shitty types of thinking: ie Stalinism.
/r/MensRights04/08/14 05:10 PM
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I really love the way he makes his argument. It's a lot more than just "rose tinted glasses are bad" but instead a philosophical exploration of reality. Reading the first comment was really crazy too, the epicycles thing. In this sense, feminist theory attempts to create epicycles to explain male suffering in the way that Hipparchian and Ptolemaic models used to cling to the idea that sun moves instead of the earth in a perfect circle. When in fact, the EARTH moves around the sun in elliptical p…
/r/MensRights04/08/14 05:01 PM
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I actually think to some extent this bill helps us. Before the bill, colleges essentially just assumed based on some social standards set forth by mostly feminists, that the man was the rapist if both parties were drunk and could not consent. But now this bill, which is gender neutral in it's terms, legally makes it so that men can say "she didn't ask for my consent" as well. Of course, this may be laughed out of college courts, but if a man takes on a lawsuit like you said, he now has even more…
/r/MensRights02/07/14 07:05 PM
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Yus! Other gay MRAs exist! Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one
/r/MensRights28/05/14 11:23 PM
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I just had to have the same conversation with a feminist friend. At first she was angry and surprised, and the most offensive thing was when she said she thought I was lying about being gay too lol wtf. But after a good 3 hours of discussion I got to the point where she understands why I'm an MRA and that we don't hate women and that at the very least she gets why men are frustrated. She still thanks we should be "feminists" though because it's about equality -_- at least I got that far
/r/MensRights28/05/14 05:10 PM
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Lost some facebook friends over criticizing feminists response to UCSB shooting too. I've noticed this too. They weren't really friends. I was upset at first, but now I'm glad I don't have to see their awful thoughtcatalog reposts every fucking 2 seconds about how hard they have life. Irony, as they post on facebook about it.
/r/MensRights27/05/14 06:33 AM
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Correct, he was a misogynist. He also hated himself and humanity. Should we blame pervasive misanthropy? But, I should have been more specific. The article I linked to specifically blames ideology, and tries to conflate PUAs with MRAs. She is basically saying that if misogyny didn't exist, this guy wouldn't have done what he did. I do not think that is an accurate analysis of the situation. His misogyny was merely a symptom of much larger problems that occurred in his life.
/r/MensRights26/05/14 02:45 AM
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You literally conflate MRAs with PUAs. It sickens me. Any discussion of the friend zone here is typically about how men have the short side of the stick when dating, not that they are entitled to women's bodies. This is sick. Also, I'm gay, btw, and an MRA, and I definitely don't feel entitled to women's bodies. Stop with the generalizations.
/r/MensRights25/05/14 04:35 AM
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I have a friend who was at the shooting, and her friends are dead. She survived the drive by. It's really infuriating reading all of my facebook feminist friends blaming this on MRAs and "misogyny" especially when many of them went to my high school where we also had a troubled kid with Aspergers, who was also in a very similar situation to the guy, rich parents, bmw, kind of normal, but slightly on edge and weird, and eventually he committed suicide. Thankfully he didn't shoot a bunch of people…
/r/MensRights25/05/14 04:02 AM
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So when I was a kid, I would totally do this. It's not unbelievable. My brother and I would get in fist fights, and I would punch him, and then start crying and tell my parents he punched me and he would get the blame. This especially works if you're the "innocent, good" kid. It's a classic, but horrible way kids try and get their siblings in trouble.
/r/MensRights24/05/14 02:30 AM
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So Im definitely anti-circumcision, but many studies show that the area underneath the foreskin is a breeding ground for bacterial infections. I know this because my younger brother was not circumcised, and I was (to this day I don't know why I was and he wasnt, never had the courage to ask, but anyways...) He was always getting infections down their as a very young boy. It was because he was afraid of bathing and showering, like many young boys, and so bacteria would get caught underneath the f…
/r/MensRights22/05/14 12:56 AM
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I don't think this perspective is necessarily worth anything. It's basically just a radical feminist, who does not want to fall into the guilt of identity-shaming-politics, but wants to partake in them herself on behalf of men. It's borderline transphobic, and definitelly misandric. Look at what she says about men in the article. Basically it's her complaining that woman, and "real woman" only, experience more suffering than trans people. Really? Trans people are killed and beaten quite often ju…
/r/MensRights28/04/14 07:46 PM
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Google results are based on what you search for. :P
/r/MensRights28/04/14 07:42 PM
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Well, exactly. Better in the sense that you don't remember how painful it was. I think that right there is very telling of the procedure at hand, and our ability to abscond guilt because, well, "he won't remember it." Why not just wash down there instead? Isn't that far simpler, cheaper, and less potentially damaging way of prevention?
/r/MensRights07/04/14 07:53 PM
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The most serious and dangerous harmful effects that circumcision can help prevent (But can also be prevented with proper hygiene without circumcision) do not affect a man until much later on in life, most specifically cancer. Why not wait till older, then do it?
/r/MensRights07/04/14 07:34 PM
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The comparison to vaccination is such bullshit. Anti-Vaccination arguments tend to come from a place of fear, not concern for moral and bodily autonomy. Also the risks of vaccination are considerably less harmful, and the subject at hand is far less sensitive. Getting a couple shots is a lot different from having your skin torn off without anesthetic. Also, of course circumcision has some benefits. The whole point of the argument is whether or not the benefits outweight the costs. Unfortunately,…
/r/MensRights07/04/14 07:31 PM
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I'm sorry but this article is B.S. The author may realize some of the hypocrisies or ulterior motives of feminists with rape culture, but that's about as good as their analysis gets. Men should not have to be provider, protector, whatever. And women (and men) should feel completely ok with hooking up as long as they themselves chose to do it and were not pressured by others. "Hook up culture" is not the problem. The problem is strict sexual policing from outside youth culture (parents, cultural/…
/r/MensRights07/04/14 07:03 PM
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I don't think guys in San Francisco are "bowing out", they're just not interested in it in the first place. First, about 8-10% of San Francisco's men are gay (there aren't nearly as many lesbians in SF), and they definitely aren't bowing out. And then, straight nerdy men from the younger generations aren't interested in serious dating yet. They're interested in their gadgets, partying, and hooking up. I really doubt many men are like "I won't dare make a move towards a woman because I will be co…
/r/MensRights17/03/14 10:05 PM
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I love that last part: "A theoretical women" because it really does sum up most of any "argument" that a feminist has about "The Patriarchy"
/r/MensRights07/03/14 12:36 AM
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If you can't name a movie where a woman got an abortion then that just proves that Hollywood doesn't do a good enough job showing women exercising their bodily rights, SHITLORD!
/r/MensRights06/03/14 03:09 AM
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I think you're right in pointing out that it still exists in gay relationships, where one is the "masculine provider" and the other is the "taken care of feminine beauty", even if that beauty is not of the female kind haha. But I think it exists less than straight relationships because there is less reason to conform to those gender roles because when you're gay you're already kind of not exactly "normal."
/r/MensRights03/03/14 09:39 PM
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Honestly, this is the most annoying shit to deal with from feminists. That and "homophobia is just internalized misogyny". If feminists can say that homosexuality is the "ultimate misogyny", then I think it kind of proves that homophobia is not internalized misogyny, but instead it's just fucking what it is: irrational fear/hatred/oppression of gay people.
/r/MensRights03/03/14 09:35 PM
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I've thought about this a lot recently and I'm glad someone made this post. I am openly gay, and have been since I was 16. I've had a relatively positive experience: my parents accepted me, albeit it took them a while, and most of my friends did as well. It's definitely not a perfect world of equality here in the west, but it isn't exactly Russia/Uganda level oppression. I think the Mens Rights movement opened me up to a lot of the hidden advantages I have as a gay male: I get more sympathy from…
/r/MensRights03/03/14 09:26 PM
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I enjoyed the video but god Naomi pissed me off. And so did Antigone really, it seemed as if she knew absolutely nothing about the conversation, other than to add random things about anarchy. And of course, the moderator, as everyone has mentioned. I applaud Karen for doing her best, and her arguments and facts were spot on, even when Naomi and the moderator seem to have made it almost impossible for her to get anything serious in the discussion. If I may, I do have some criticisms for Karen tho…
/r/MensRights02/03/14 06:56 AM
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Emma Roberts is an actress. Julia Roberts niece. She isn't an A-list celebrity, but she's not a nobody either, she's done a lot of teen movies. I actually agree with your point though, there are better examples and she isn't a super star that would warrant a ton of press. But can you imagine if a lessor male celebrity did this, someone, on say, the same level as Emma Roberts? The press would go fucking nuts. I didn't make the GIF however, I just saw it on a pop culture blog completely unrelated …
/r/MensRights04/01/14 05:42 AM
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lol it's only funny because its true :(
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:45 AM
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I made this point, and she seemed to agree with it actually, even if she was antagonistic. So I think I did make some ground in our discussion.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:43 AM
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I will do this thank you.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:42 AM
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Well I don't think she has a persecution complex, she just doesn't understand MRAs, because the name has negative stigma attached to it. In fact, her entire reason for becoming interested in feminist circles was because she was sick of the victim complex, and she wanted to critique it, and she does. She even openly admits that she has "female privilege." The point of this post was not "look how bad my friend is", it was "lets take a look at the stigma the movement has among those who would other…
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:40 AM
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I'll show her this. Thank you.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:38 AM
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This story is 100% true. I said "even" to point out the fact that she agreed with so many things, but the second the MRA title got attached to it, she stopped agreeing with me.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:35 AM
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No she would never do that.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:33 AM
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I don't think its because of the loudest, most obnoxious and staunched MRAs that raise awareness. I think it's the reasoning, the statistics/facts, and the calm and civil voice that make people sympathetic to the movement. That's the only reason I decided to give a damn about it. And it's not about being liked or receive external validation, it's about getting people to give a damn, but the title itself has a negative connotation, no one can deny that.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:33 AM
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Well I agree that it's ridiculous. The thing is, she doesn't think this way about the MRM because she hates MRAs or the ideas of MRAs, but because literally every example of the MRM she has been shown via feminist blogs, has poisoned her image of a movement that she would otherwise agree with. Literally every MRM issue I brought up, she agreed with. It was just the "term" MRA when attached to the ideas that made her behave like a tumblr feminist.
/r/MensRights24/12/13 01:30 AM
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I don't understand how this applies?
/r/MensRights23/12/13 07:39 AM
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My family (of 3 men and one woman) get free healthcare through Obamacare. We are white and mostly male. Oh no, the world is ending, these programs might actually help anyone of any race/gender.
/r/MensRights23/12/13 06:34 AM
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If you truly care more about transphobia and whorephobia, then the MRM movement may not be for you. I am all there with you on transphobia, and even whorephobia, but I do not think those things relate to the MRM, that you seem to care about them so much so why not just focus on them. Hell, the MRM doesn't even claim to be about those things. At least we're honest. Feminists will tell you they care about LGBT issues (and as a queer myself, let's be honest, they don't give a shit!) If you can't de…
/r/MensRights20/12/13 05:17 AM
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I actually do read AVFM btw, but no one takes it seriously outside of the MRA movement, and people do not read it or when they do they stop listening to anything I say because it has a negative reputation outside of the MRA movement. I can say what I think, and I am not afraid of conflict, I am just not interested in an antagonistic tone that will create unnecessary conflict. I do not expect to please everybody, but I don't want anything I say to be hindered by the reputation or tone of a websit…
/r/MensRights08/12/13 12:58 AM
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I only mentioned it because I didn't want to seem like an identityless troll, and so that you could understand where I was coming from.
/r/MensRights08/12/13 12:14 AM
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Yes, I understand that, and I expected this sort of response. But it takes time, and is definitely not easy, to give up your social circle of the past 3 years. I know my friends don't have to be told about it, but it's more just when I share things on facebook/etc, I don't want to be linking to AVFM because a lot of people take it about as seriously as people take jezebel here.
/r/MensRights08/12/13 12:04 AM
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I've noticed this a lot too. I sort of recently got into the whole SJW/MRA/etc etc and I sort of took it too seriously, thinking that more people did as well. But in reality, I'm just thankful that most people have no idea what the hell most of it is - it makes them at least reasonable when I discuss these ideas.
/r/MensRights07/12/13 11:59 PM
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Thank you everyone for all of the resources! I appreciate the upvotes, and the links.
/r/MensRights07/12/13 11:56 PM
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Sorry, you are right that I don't really know what I want. Perhaps you guys have some guidance on what someone is supposed to do to help the MRM? It's not that I don't want to argue just for the sake of avoiding conflict, it's that literally ALL of my friends are feminists (i was super involved in the LGBT organizations on campus, and the feminist groups there often had overlap in events, etc) So I really don't want to alienate myself from that sphere of people entirely, hence why, I want to sta…
/r/MensRights07/12/13 05:37 AM
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