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| 48 | Why University Greek Life Is Structurally Pick-Me w/ Jana Matthews (FDS PODCAST EPISODE 91)Honestly I'm just sticking around hoping the sub will come back. I miss it a lot. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/11/22 06:56 PM |
| 31 | Stop putting the man on the pedestal - sit on it YOURSELF.Love this quote, I'd not heard it before. So true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/04/22 08:41 PM |
| 26 | Access to HVW is a privilege. Cut off contact the second it does not serve you - you do not have to tolerate anything subpar for even a second.Love everything about this. I have to stop forgetting it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/22 08:16 PM |
| 33 | If you need to ask for it, just leave - You want PROACTIVE, not compliant!This post is so eye-opening, I'm glad I saw it. If you have to ask for it, it's not something they're putting the thought and effort in to do for you of their own accord (which they should be.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/04/22 09:43 PM |
| 10 | Recently married. Thanks FDS.Seeing this post gives me hope lol. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/22 08:57 PM |
| 49 | TAKE UP SPACE, YOUR VOICE MATTERSI've started shushing my male family members whenever they interrupt me and they don't like it. :) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 10:24 PM |
| 77 | Men stating they fear “Marrying the wrong woman” is a mind game and power play.My old ass scrote neighbor told me he married the wrong woman blah blah (he's now divorced), and six months later admitted to cheating on her while married multiple times. Married the wrong woman as in he married a woman who wouldn't put up with his lying, cheating ass. Good for her for leaving. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 04:06 PM |
| 45 | Why I DON’T EXPLAIN. On boundaries, disappointment, and self-shielding: You don’t have to explain to an emotionally abusive man why he isn’t allowed to hurt you anymore.I've since learned this with romantic relationships but have yet to put it into practice with familial ones. Your post is a welcome reminder. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/03/22 06:12 AM |
| 40 | It's deplorable that men call women crazy when they behave in a way that isn't subservient or "nice". A woman's actions (this doesn't excuse destructive/bad behavior) are usually a direct result of abusive, controlling, or manipulative behavior. Why aren't men called crazy for their wrongdoings?In response I'm always thinking, "Okay what did you do to make her feel that way?" | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/03/22 01:42 PM |
| 16 | Forever Girlfriend finds out her baby daddy isn’t going to marry her. This is why we need FDS.My worst nightmare. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 10:45 PM |
| 7 | Happy Friday beautiful people 💖 buy your own flowersWhat a gorgeous arrangement! Seeing flowers always brightens my day. I learned this in my last relationship with a NV ex, everything I've ever dreamed about in life I can give to myself. I'm not waiting for anyone to buy me flowers anymore. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/03/22 09:43 PM |
| 23 | "men give women sense of security" be likeYeah, a sense of security from other men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/22 08:55 PM |
| 5 | Symptoms of womanhood. • Sumaya Poetry (Happy Woman’s Day sisters, may we keep fighting the patriarchy and celebrating all that we are).Powerful and moving words. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/03/22 04:34 AM |
| 28 | Why we need to de-center men from our life (yes, even in dating) - It gives you the power to walk away.Fantastic post! When I decentered men from my life I become so much happier and less anxious about my future, because I know it'll be awesome regardless if I find the right partner or not. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 05:39 PM |
| 15 | I don't know if I did the right thing.You absolutely did the right thing, what a creep. Who ghosts someone then shows up at their door two years later and completely unannounced? You dodged a major red flag. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/22 06:32 AM |
| 12 | Am I the only one who's starting to believe I'll never be loved?Through a crappy 5 year relationship with a NVM, after ending it I realized that everything I've wanted in life, I gave to myself. Travels to amazing countries, gifts, treating myself well. You have to love yourself enough to give yourself everything you've dreamed about, rather than hope to stumble across a HVM who will do it for you (because more likely they'll be LV anyway.) | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/22 07:20 PM |
| 15 | I just got dumped mid-abortionWow talk about the trash taking itself out but at the worst possible time. I'm so sorry this happened to you, screw this guy. You'll be okay friend, we are here for you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/02/22 04:26 PM |
| 64 | Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂Wow this sums up everyone I've ever seen on OLD back before I quit using it. This is hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/22 09:41 PM |
| 50 | What types of OLD websites or apps do you prefer?As someone who's tried a lot of them, none. It's LVM across the board. I stay away from dating apps now. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/22 05:41 PM |
| 111 | Using your hobby to vetReally glad he is your ex. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 04:50 PM |
| 12 | Ideas on where to meet HVMIt's truly wonderful you are surrounded by so many HVM, and that your partner treats you special just as you deserve. 💖 I hope I find my HVM one day! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/22 02:24 AM |
| 5 | You need to *humble* yourselfStanzi's videos are absolutely hilarious! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:22 PM |
| 30 | Ideas on where to meet HVMI'm glad this worked for you but ohh dear would it never work for me. I would never want to date anyone remotely related to my dad's friends! They are the definition of LV. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:18 PM |
| 45 | Ideas on where to meet HVMAs a bookworm and a coffee lover, this is comforting to read. I'm fairly introverted and do the majority of my reading at home, so in order to (hopefully) meet HV people I've started gathering a list of cafes to visit and read in. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 10:16 PM |
| 120 | If he can't plan a date, he isn't worth going out with in the first place.Hard agree. Finally figuring this out has been a welcome addition to my vetting strategy- if they fluff around and mention we should "hang out" or suggest anything LV (coffee date, walk in the park, drinks) then I know this is not a person I would like to invest my time and effort into. Being thoughtful is not that hard, they just don't want to do it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 04:59 PM |
| 8 | Holy shit this is genius 😂😂😂🤣🤣😂I mean.. This is clever of her, however if none of the guys she was dating got her flowers for Valentine's Day (literally the bare minimum) I would drop them and start over. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:04 PM |
| 4 | Thoughts? How would you debate that? Seems like it's from a male perspective?!Personally, I believe that you should never hinge your worth/self love/happiness on something you can lose (ie a relationship). Because when that thing leaves, you're left with yourself, and may be tempted to jump into another relationship (likely unhealthy) so that you don't have to be alone. Its important to cultivate a healthy relationship with a partner yes, however I would say its even more important to cultivate a healthy relationship with yourself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 04:01 PM |
| 64 | Love is blind JapanWhen I was browsing Netflix on the weekend I saw Love is Blind Japan pop up and was curious but didn't end up watching. At your post I will now, as I'm curious to see how the interactions differ compared to where I live. That is awesome these women are seriously vetting their future husband, its important and something I wish the majority of women did in North America. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/22 03:56 PM |
| 81 | He’s really dumbfounded, guys. He really has no words.That was not even remotely funny. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:51 PM |
| 40 | Men asking for Instagram or WhatsApp prior to meetingI've had this happen to me a lot back when I was OLD, all the guys kept asking for my phone number, instagram or to use other messaging apps. Its frustrating they can't just utilize the dating app chat for a while first (if they are actually serious about dating that is). I know better now to not give out my socials. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/22 08:51 PM |
| 51 | No coffee dates no walk dates no drink datesOh wow what a "picnic" eyeroll | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 06:09 PM |
| 177 | No coffee dates no walk dates no drink datesNow that I think about it, it is just like a business meeting. I came looking for romance, not to be interviewed. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/22 03:51 PM |
| 15 | Ladies, what are your experiences with a covert narcissistic ex after breakup?Throughout those months after the relationship ending I hadn't blocked him on anything (pre-FDS me) and had attempted to maintain a civil friendship. (narrator: this did not work) He was an asshole to me on my birthday, bailed on our plans and by that point I was fed up. I blocked his phone number, Facebook, Whatsapp, Instagram, everywhere I could think of but had somehow forgotten to get rid of his Snapchat. Then while I was travelling in the Netherlands I saw his private snap story and laughed… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 04:23 PM |
| 8 | Stop fucking falling in love with "potential"!I had to learn this the hard way with my ex some years ago, afterwards I promised myself to never again date a man's potential. Because years in, he was still pulling the same old shit and going nowhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:25 PM |
| 61 | That time I walked out on a date after his first sentenceThat's a queen move right there! You recognized the red flag immediately and walked right out, love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/02/22 04:22 PM |
| 7 | Facial expressions- can't control them. Help.What has helped me most is actually studying royal family members from around the world and trying to emulate their dynamic neutral expression. I try to keep my face "soft", soft eyes and soft relaxed mouth/smile muscles and I find that helps take the tension and expressiveness out of my face. This is a great tactic and I will be trying to emulate this myself! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:39 AM |
| 30 | He accused me of being a “gold digger” and threatened to end the relationship after me not wanting to put out on date #5. It backfired. How grey rocking can protect you!!!Your post from start to finish was delicious. I gotta read those books you mentioned! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/01/22 01:31 AM |
| 40 | Groom smashes bride’s face into cake & she rightfully is leaving himI would've done the same thing- I have this rule as well. There's no way I'm shelling out a ton of money for makeup, hair and a dress only for it to get ruined with icing on my special day. Good on her for leaving! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/22 09:52 PM |
| 46 | Play stupid games, win stupid prizesReading cases like these is always so satisfying. He shit the bed and now he can sit in it for the rest of his life and think about what he's done. Delicious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/01/22 02:18 AM |
| 19 | 50/50 is B.S.Adding this book to my TBR now! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/01/22 05:24 AM |
| 34 | Apple AirTag: a perfect tool for stalkingThank you for your edit, I have an android and was wondering if there was an equivalent. As a woman who solo travels this is especially frightening. Looks like we have to start checking our coat pockets, hoods and purses before going back to our accommodations now. Ffs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 06:08 PM |
| 18 | "I'm the Prize" vs "I'm Priceless" MindsetTruly adore everything about this post, thank you for sharing it op. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/22 07:00 AM |
| 2 | Where do my FDS ladies like to shop?I prefer to shop and support local small businesses when possible. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/01/22 11:08 PM |
| 18 | Been seeing this guy for a few weeks and he does meet a lot of my requirements however he watches porn, a few times a month he says he can get it to zero if i don't like it, it does make me uncomfortable though. Idk should i still give him a chance or find someone who didn't watch to begin with?That's what I'm wondering too.. I feel like they will just easily lie and say they don't. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/22 02:17 AM |
| 7 | So done with avoidant men.Honestly big same. I most recently had this experience while dating, the guy was an avoidant type and it felt like pulling teeth to get him to keep up regular communication. So I didn't. And stopped seeing him. Thankfully it was only five dates and I had my eyes opened to this behaviour by FDS. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:12 AM |
| 15 | The "Happily Ever After" marriage fairytale sold to women is a lie. The truth is most marriages are miserable FOR WOMEN because most men are NV/LV. Society gaslights and (in some parts of the world) even forces women into settling.I never thought about it this way before but you're absolutely right. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/22 02:08 AM |
| 28 | STORYTIME: "Parking Lot Peril" Safety Tips I Always Follow and Trusting Your InstinctsReally glad you're safe OP. We must always stay vigilant! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/21 02:00 AM |
| 19 | Shout-out to this line in a Korean drama. Didn't expect that but really loved itLoved Tale of the Nine Tailed! It is a great line. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/12/21 04:03 AM |
| 45 | A message to male lurkers: So what exactly is it about FDS that triggers you?I love this post so much, I wish there was a way we could pin multiple posts to the top of the sub so this is the first thing male lurkers see when they creep us. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/21 05:04 PM |
| 118 | The kids are gonna be alright! (Scroll for comments)Oh my god 😂 reading comments like these give me hope for the next gen! They are not playing that's for sure | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 07:54 PM |
| 64 | On subreddits outside of FDS women are coming to understand that being “independent” 50/50 women will only attract losersIf you require nothing from a man because you're "independent," then you get nothing. Wow. And there it is right there. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/12/21 10:28 PM |
| 64 | My brother is becoming more and more LVM as he grows up, how do I reverse this?Speaking as someone with a LVM brother myself, you can't. Instead you should focus on yourself, because you can't save someone from themselves. I learned this the hard way after all the stress and headaches I experienced after trying to help my own younger brother from not going down that path. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/11/21 05:40 PM |
| 46 | “Play by ear” 🤮Absolutely loathe the "let's play it by ear/see how we feel that day" lines. My time is way more valuable than that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:27 PM |
| 35 | Information to withhold initiallythe house in which the couple lives belongs to the mother of the woman. in case of a divorce, the property will not be split This is the plan I have for my future house, it'll be under my parents name so that in case I move a guy in, if we ever split/get married and then split/etc then he can't take half. Just like my grandmother warned my mother who warned me- you have to protect your assets. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/11/21 10:23 PM |
| 5 | Red pill favourite Jordan Peterson doesn’t agree with their views on women and dating…Truly shocked to hear that coming out of his mouth. All things considered, was expecting him to answer the exact opposite. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/11/21 06:36 AM |
| 22 | Start having sex where the man doesn’t orgasmI absolutely love this! Thank you for posting it. Definitely something I'll need to keep in mind with my next relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/11/21 05:02 AM |
| 32 | Telling women to “just communicate” with their uncaring, oblivious, self centered partners is the advice equivalent of asking, “Have you tried turning off and back on again?”Hoooly this absolutely. You can attempt to communicate with him until the cows come home but if he refuses to also make the effort to actively listen and engage with you, it's like talking to a brick wall. I'm glad I know now but wow did I waste so many years trying to get through to someone with their head up their ass. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/11/21 04:36 PM |
| 2 | “Scrote’s response to: “What sacrifice have you made to save for a down payment?”As a Canadian who's been saving up for a house for the last 4 years, tell me about it ;; and prices are expected to keep rising too. At this rate I'll be a homeowner when I'm in my fifties. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 08:35 PM |
| 73 | I'm so tired of seeing 'demisexual' tossed around like it's some sort of aberrant practice when really, it's just HEALTHY to want trust & a connection with intimate partners.As someone who identifies as demisexual, I do agree that it should be the baseline however there are a ton of men out there (I would venture to even say the majority) who don't subscribe to that and prefer hookup culture instead of building true, genuine connections with partners. The moment you tell them you don't experience sexual attraction until an emotional connection is made, they disappear. Its a shame what has become normalized nowadays. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/11/21 08:30 PM |
| 14 | This is why FDS recommends snooping. Be very ruthless with your vetting process! You never know how deprived some men can beThis is the most disturbing thing I've ever read. I feel sick to my stomach. The depravity.. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/11/21 04:53 AM |
| 118 | If it’s not a fuck yes, it’s a no!Love this so much. With my last relationship I definitely learned the hard way not to fall in love with potential. If they wanted to, they would, and if it's not a fuck yes, it's a no! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/11/21 05:56 AM |
| 50 | Stop having sex with men who can’t master vanilla.My boyfriend (who I met after following FDS principles!) waited as long as I wanted to have sex, and then when we did, he told me the first time might not be great because he wanted to go slow and learn what I like and make sure I’m comfortable. It is fantastic that he said this! I'm currently still in the vetting stage with a new prospect and I'll be sure to keep this in mind when/if I decide to progress further to sleeping with him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/11/21 06:38 PM |
| 10 | We deserved to be protected. We deserved to be stood up for. We deserved to be treated with respect and kindness.This sub and all of you have been such a safe haven for me. Thank you for being here. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:21 PM |
| 44 | if a beaver can wash his butt, pits, and balls then so can your bfThe way I laughed- | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/10/21 04:31 AM |
| 10 | FDS Success - Thank you!Congratulations! A prime example of "If they wanted to, they would." We love to see it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/10/21 05:58 PM |
| 78 | Men who only pursue you romantically after your “glow up”If we are speaking strictly in terms of weight loss (and not glow ups in other aspects as well), in my opinion no. I was just as awesome a person as before (when I was at a higher weight) as I am now (at a lower weight) and if he didn't recognize that and didn't pursue me at the weight I was before, there's no way I would date him at the lower weight that I am now. That tells me that he dug everything about me but just couldn't look past the weight, which imo is a bit shallow because looks fade.… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/10/21 08:07 PM |
| 5 | Family Matters. Pay close attention to his expectations for you joining his family, and pay equally close attention to his expectations for him joining your family.This is incredibly important, I appreciate you compiling all this into a handy list! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/10/21 07:16 PM |
| 50 | If they want to scrutinize your relationships, then scrutinize theirs😂Absolutely love this response, I'll have to use this next time a "concerned relative" tries to bingo me. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/10/21 05:18 AM |
| 9 | I still need FDS to have my back💛Love this so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 03:52 PM |
| 6 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"Absolutely! Still have to practice awareness and be careful everywhere you go regardless. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/09/21 03:52 AM |
| 50 | Hotels in Turkey are banning men from staying without women because "they're harassing girls to try and hook up with"Looks like its time to bump Turkey up on my travel list! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/09/21 05:39 PM |
| 20 | I told a man he needed therapy last night.Absolutely fantastic of you to say that to him, I can only hope that if/when I get put in a similar situation that I will have the confidence and strength to say something similar. I think calling men on their shit is an absolute necessity. Guaranteed he's only saying that as a front for not wanting to pursue commitment, and that upon dating him for a while (maybe even years) he still wouldn't be ready/willing to commit. If a relationship traumatized him that badly (of which I doubt) then he sho… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/21 06:33 PM |
| 12 | GREAT ANSWER TO "WHAT ARE YOU LOOKING FOR IN A MAN?"Love this response! I'll have to remember this and put it to practice. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/07/21 10:49 PM |
| 56 | South Korean Feminists Are Joining No Dating, No Intercourse, No Marriage, No Kids MovementLove this. According to 4B, the movement has at least 4,000 followers, and a feminist YouTube channel that features messages of boycotting marriage has more than 100k subs. Anyone know the name of the Youtube channel they reference? Would love to check it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/06/21 04:26 PM |
| 39 | Reminder: Don't get transitioned into being the *forever girlfriend* if your goal is to find a life partner. It's counterproductive to allow a man to 'try on the relationship' for multiple years with no commitment.This was me in my last long term relationship. We had been together five years and here I was like a clown, planning for life together, while he had been making future plans for his life, not our life. Of which I was just supposed to go along and still provide him all the benefits with none of the commitment. Thankfully I finally wizened up and left him. Not going through that again, that's for sure. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/21 08:19 PM |
| 8 | *Cries in spinster.*I love this so much! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/04/21 12:03 AM |
| 17 | My favorite part of being an FDS mod... 😂This post 😂😂 The male audacity you have to swim in on a daily basis, my gosh. Thank you for keeping this a safe space for us! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/04/21 07:20 PM |
| 13 | Pregnancy and Its DiscontentsYou gave me a solid laugh, thank you. I needed that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/04/21 02:47 AM |
| 11 | Don’t let them baby trap you ladies. Very bad things can happen.This was honestly so terrifying to read. As someone who has suffered from chronic pain for over ten years and also doesn't want children, I feel so much for this poor woman. It could so easily happen to any one of us if we aren't careful and vigilant. This post is a good reminder for that. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/03/21 05:55 AM |
| 24 | The backlash that FDS gets, both on and off Reddit, proves that society is committed to keeping women in unsatisfactory relationships to the benefit of menThis was an incredible write up, thank you for summing everything up like this. I hope every male and pickme who lurks on this sub reads it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/21 06:19 PM |
| 8 | Men can be a gamer OR he can have a girlfriend. Not both.This whole post rings so true with my experience. My ex was a gamer and spent so much time playing video games rather than develop other hobbies. One year he took an entire year off of work for a "mental health break" (lol), couldn't buy me any presents/do anything for me for Valentines day, our anniversary, my birthday or Christmas (we're talking not even a card folks), BUT he had enough cash to build an entire gaming PC rig with all the trimmings because he needed it for his mental health. Suc… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:09 PM |
| 22 | Why cOmMuNiCaTe simply doesn't work. Extras is from "Men who hate women and the women who love them" by Susan Forward and Joan TorresMy ex in a nutshell. You can try to communicate until the cows come home but if they refuse to comprehend, its like talking to a wall- you're just wasting your energy. I wish I had known about that book sooner, I'll have to read it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/02/21 04:35 PM |
| 13 | The wisdom in these verses... (book and author in tags)Wow this line is so powerful. I'll have to read the book! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 09:05 PM |
| 10 | Being in you 20’s should be about self development, your eduction and to lay the foundation for financial independenceThis book is so good! I also recommend it! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/01/21 10:32 PM |
| 5 | After everything i've been through, there's no way I am ever going to let myself indulge that much energy into a person, even if he is a HVM, i have a lot more boundaries now and want to use that energy for myself and my career more.Your post and comment is an entire mood. I feel the same way. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/01/21 05:59 AM |
| 26 | Don't bother "communicating", actually. Just go.Experienced this firsthand with my last relationship. Communication doesn't work if you're talking to a wall. You can try to communicate until the cows come home but if the other person doesn't want to listen or put in effort to change, then honestly you're better off saving your energy and just leaving. I'm not here to teach someone how to be a good partner. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/12/20 10:34 PM |
| 10 | FDS has ruined my lifeThis whole post is a giant mood. I feel the same way lol but I'm so thankful this sub has made me seen the light | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/11/20 10:41 PM |
| 79 | Men unloading unprocessed trauma on women: is therapy? 🥺👉👈The sheer amount of times men conveniently forget to consider women is infuriating. "Oh wow, you're a person and your feelings matter too? I never thought of that." Unbelievable. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/10/20 07:02 PM |
| 7 | Which one of you ladies did this? 😂Wow I am so impressed, good for them! I wish I had the strength and knowledge to do this at the start. Wouldve saved myself a lot of effort not dealing with a bunch of LVM stress. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/10/20 03:16 AM |
| 16 | Say it louder for those LVMs in the backI always love it whenever I see this quote hit my feed! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/20 11:22 PM |
| 27 | Don’t be Bob the Builder for a man.Lmaoo harsh but necessary. I learned my lesson, its not my job to parent my significant other into becoming a better person. Either they show up a decent human being from the get go or I'll go find another one. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/09/20 05:18 PM |
| 9 | Yes ladies! We need to start reciprocating!👏🏾Omg this is glorious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/09/20 10:12 PM |
| 3 | Terminal uniqueness and proud non-conformity are red flagsThis made me laugh harder than I thought it would 😂 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/09/20 10:40 PM |
| 6 | I hate how normalized sex isI agree with you! I am on the asexual spectrum and I find it exhausting how prevalent sex is in our society. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/09/20 06:19 PM |
| 17 | It's not your responsibility to make your or any man feel like a manI remember watching this movie in theatres with my mom and crying as it made me realize that I too deserved better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/09/20 08:36 PM |
| 3 | 2020 isn’t over yet. Put in the work these last few months and enter 2021 a new woman.I'm sincerely so thankful for the ladies on this sub, when it feels like I have no support I see posts like this on my feed and I'm reminded that we are all here and rooting for each other. 💕 We got this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/09/20 08:01 PM |
| 2 | Some men love calling women gold diggers, yet here I am (politely) turning down a “rich” guy after 1‼️ date. Imagine feeling so entitled and simultaneously so insufferable that even your $$$ can’t keep a woman interested since that’s all he thinks I’m after, I have to laugh 😘Hooo girl you dodged a bullet. The gall he had to send those.. unbelievable | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/09/20 02:04 AM |
| 59 | Cracks me up EVERY time.Oh man two of my worlds are colliding, FDS and my love of Kpop! So cool to see an Exo member mentioned here. They really do take care of themselves so well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 06:23 PM |
| 38 | Cracks me up EVERY time.Wow you are so lucky! I saw him perform during the SuperM concert earlier this year and he was even more attractive in person. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 06:21 PM |
| 4 | Cracks me up EVERY time.I love this so much! Whenever some guys I know mentioned something similar I always think back to how well kpop idols and Asian actors take care of themselves. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/09/20 06:21 PM |
| 28 | Has the view of your own parents relationship changed since being on this sub? Is your father someone who is high value?Definitely changed. Both my dad and brother are LV and its opened my eyes to that behavior and how I definitely don't want a partner like them. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:18 AM |
| 16 | Dear Men: Your Opinion Holds No Value Here. Did We Fucking Stutter?Reading this post made me feel so happy and proud to be a part of this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/08/20 12:04 AM |
| 2 | I don't argue with men. Not over anything, for any reason.Your post is really inspiring, I hope I can put this into practice in my own life. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/08/20 07:10 AM |
| 8 | Boyfriend suggests a prenup to “protect” his house, OP drafts her own prenup that also protects her assets and investments. BF doesn’t like a prenup that doesn’t solely favor him and they break up.Reminds me of my ex! Glad I dodged that bullet. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/20 04:16 AM |
| 4 | “Girl he is the SWEETEST, sometimes he just doesn’t text back bc he’s busy you know?? We aren’t even official but he wants to move in w me, he’s THAT into me.”So was not expecting to see an Animal Crossing meme on here, I love it! So true. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/08/20 07:22 PM |
| 3 | Your boundaries should be nonnegotiableDefinitely need to remind myself of this when past toxic friendships inevitably come crawling back into my life. Not disrespecting myself anymore by putting myself through that again! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/08/20 02:34 AM |
| 73 | Exactly! You can never make LVM see "what you bring to the table", when they already feel entitled it.I experienced this as well. Reminds me of that quote that goes, "You can go to the moon and back for someone and they'll have the audacity to say I never asked you to." | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/08/20 06:33 AM |
| 16 | Their opinions change depending on how it benefits themOne of the reasons why I refuse to have children, especially with men. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/07/20 03:19 AM |
| 5 | SAHM’s husband takes 15k out of their shared account that was meant to correct her torn muscles. He claims he thought she no longer wanted the surgery and wanted to reward himself for being a great father with a computer.I see more and more situations like this come out that further solidifies my complete lack of desire for relationships or marriage with men. Good for her for not taking any of his shit, I hope she drops him. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/07/20 05:34 PM |
| 1 | Loving yourself isn't vanity, it's sanity Queens!Love this so much! It honestly does help to see these reminders pop up often on this sub. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/07/20 06:51 PM |
| 15 | Here is the follow up to my post from last nightI didn't see your first post originally so I went back to check, and wow, the audacity of this guy.. I am so happy to see this screenshot now, right on! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/07/20 05:11 PM |
| 44 | High Value Men and what it means to be oneSuch a great way to put this! Thank you, its a good reminder of what HV means. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/07/20 03:17 PM |
| 2 | Let him go be with someone on his level.Absolutely love this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/07/20 06:13 AM |
| 8 | She finished him 😂I absolutely love this! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/20 04:56 PM |
| 1 | IT'S HERE!! WE'VE LAUNCHED THEREALFEMALEDATINGSTRATEGY.COM WEBSITE! SIGN UP ASAP IN CASE WE'RE BANNED!Sent a PM to mod mail, hope I did it right! Still waiting on my code but I'm guessing you guys are inundated with messages on it right now! I would seriously be lost without this sub, really hope it survives. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/06/20 11:02 PM |
| 41 | Imagine: it’s YOUR lifeSame. Turning 28 next month and so much stress from dealing with LVM in my early twenties would've been avoided had I adopted this mindset earlier, though thankfully we know now! There is more to life than marriage and kids- I'm not going to put my life on hold and stop myself from experiencing it just because I'm not willing to settle. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/06/20 06:55 PM |
| 6 | There's a reason financial independence has been kept from women so long in this country. By owning assets, a woman has options and can choose to leave abusers. Practice caution before giving up your career/money/stability for a man.Wow what a fantastic take, thank you for sharing OP! I guarantee suggesting this to the majority of men and they would be aghast. Just goes to show they don't really consider us as equal. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/06/20 05:55 PM |
| 31 | There's no need to over explain or reiterate your boundaries. They heard you the first time.Wow this just revealed a big reason why I do that.. I didnt know. Thank you for sharing this. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/20 06:29 PM |
| 6 | The outfit I'm wearing when the scrote comes to collect the rest of his shit:Lmao I love the energy of this! Right on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/20 06:22 AM |
| 11 | Wow, are you policing how I clean now?! Guess I cant do anything right 😞😞😞I mean if it's a hobby that hasn't taken over their life its fine.. Im turning 28 this year and still play video games, but I also maintain a lot of other hobbies too and don't spend hours a day playing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/20 07:09 PM |
| 6 | The AUDACITY!! Anyone else from that sub remember this post? It haunts me, like WTFI had to unfollow that sub, I read too many stories like this and it just depressed me. Sincerely beginning to believe that HVM are unicorns and nigh-impossible to find. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/20 06:14 AM |
| 135 | Queen Burn..wars that men start, while we're at it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/05/20 04:04 PM |
| 37 | Reciprocate and that’s itDefinitely heard that before. Never again. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/04/20 08:45 AM |
| 15 | “Conversation” means we both get to talkNewb here- what kind of things do you normally talk about during these screening phone calls? I think I should start doing these. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/03/20 06:30 AM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Oof.. Drinks at a bar is no effort, and on the driving thing.. Coming from someone who's ex seemed to think that just driving to see me was effort (its really not, driving requires no thought, effort or planning), I would just delete and move on. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 05:45 PM |
| 1 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020I'd not heard this song before, thank you for sharing it. Really resonates with me! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:28 PM |
| 2 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Please feel free to book plans on your weekend without considering him. After all he hasn't called yet and is only a prospect who you've barely gone out with, make him work around your schedule (rather than planning your schedule around a potential date.) I personally think if he calls on Friday it would be too last minute, but I also plan my schedule in advance and prefer lots of notice. I'm also on team "its a bit odd he hasn't contact you yet"- in this day and age there's really no excuse for… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020As a first date? Absolutely. Also you have no idea if he's planning on murdering you and hiding your body in the woods, I would definitely avoid hiking the first few dates until you've properly gotten to know them. Better to be safe. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:12 PM |
| 3 | Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered 3/7/2020Oof as an introvert that would exhaust me. Be honest with him! Tell him you aren't a fan of texting and would prefer he didn't chat with you so much. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/20 04:11 PM |
| 5 | Love inspires 💕This is beautiful. It actually warmed my cynical heart a bit to think there are HVM like this out there somewhere. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/03/20 05:02 PM |
| 21 | How to let a man know if they date he suggests is not appropriateAs someone who recently went on a coffee date (before I had discovered this sub) that ended up being mediocre and not worth my time, I really wish I would've stumbled across this sooner! Spent the entire time sitting there listening to him talk about himself. :/ Then the next day he texted me saying he'd love to meet up again, not likely. Now I know exactly what to say the next time someone suggests a low effort date, thank you! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/03/20 09:38 PM |
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