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DISCUSSIONkamraym/r/RedPillWomen13/09/16 06:01 PM
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ADVICEkamraym/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 02:23 AM
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Thanks! I am a visual learner and super fashion awkward; so I generally buy things I can see on a mannequin or can see a picture of on a model! This helps a bunch :)
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 09:48 PM
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What brand of house dress do you wear? I have tried the maxi skirt, but they aren't as feminine as I like - but I don't want to go full hardcore I'm going on a date mode either.
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 09:24 PM
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I couldn't agree more!
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 04:54 PM
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I love the fist one he listed! When my husband puts his are around me it makes me feel warm and protected. The second one is a bit intense, I would hope that this would be discretionary and even/place appropriate (not at a funeral or at my VERY conservative grandparents house).
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 04:53 PM
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Are you concerned that kind of encouragement would cater to the "women are helpless" trope and shape her perspective into adulthood? Thank you for the question! As a parent (and most parents) try to pass on the lessons and aspects of life they have found helpful to their offspring. Religion, outdoor activities, not putting your elbows on the table. I personally was raised in an environment where my femininity was not nurtured or even taught; looking back I wish these things had at least been pro…
/r/RedPillWomen14/09/16 04:51 PM
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I think the number one thing you need to know is KNOW YOUR HAIR! I have 2B/2C hair that is very porous. I cannons use sulfate free shampoo or I experience a good deal of build up over the course of a month or so. Also one of the big 'shine' boosters people rave about is protein - dear god, if any protein with hits my scalp I am left with a straw mat on my head that I cannot detangle. So for any of you ladies reading this, head over to /r/haircarescience (or /r/curlyhair) and do your research. Th…
/r/RedPillWives23/08/16 08:09 PM
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Reframing and deep breathing are two basic skills that I teach my clients with anxiety. Reframing is a technique in which you change a negative thought into a logic driven statement that you can invest in as a belief. So instead of allowing your hamster to control your thoughts by spinning on "$300 is too much money" you reframe the thought into "We can bounce back from $300." It sounds like both you and your husband did this. Here is a PDF that explains and gives a few more examples. Deep Breat…
/r/RedPillWomen22/08/16 05:04 PM
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Call him your "SO," your "partner," your fiancé, your whatever, but until he marries you, he does not get husband privileges. There are so many people in my life that don't listen of hold to this advice, and it bites them in the butt every time! My sister is engaged to and living with a married man with his three children. She called me last week to tell me she is 4 weeks pregnant and they bought a Suburban to carry all 4 kids. (My sister was married to another man for 6 weeks when she began che…
/r/RedPillWives20/08/16 04:01 PM
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Oh sweet! Thanks! May have to join that one :)
/r/RedPillWives30/05/16 10:25 PM
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Awesome list! I have added a bunch to my curated homepage! Thank you so much!!! I am super excited about /r/GetFeminine ! You do have a subreddit that is private - and I'm curious as to what it is, /r/rpwmfp.
/r/RedPillWives30/05/16 05:05 PM
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I just recently started working out for the same reasons you mentioned - I would LOVE to work out with a group! I will download said app right now!
/r/RedPillWomen09/03/16 07:43 PM
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This one is more of a comment in general than a compliment but it made my insides smile all the same; it is such a huge leap in mindful supportive communication for both of us! Context: I had an epiphany that I am on my phone way too much and need to make some changes. That sounds good, we need to instigate a no phone rule after work on on weekends then. I agree that they can be a trap and an addiction. If you wanted to stop having them I would support you in this as well :)
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/16 05:24 PM
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Oh definitely! I have been suggesting it since day 1 (I am a therapist and know I can't be that for her even though she tries to manipulate it out of me) It sounds like she's looking into it, but who knows.
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 04:28 AM
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Hehe :)
/r/RedPillWomen17/12/15 03:11 AM
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My apologies for my over reaction, your verbage sounded sarcastic in my head - one of the downfall of the internet - you can't hear inflection. I will leave my comment as the information is something I should have highlighted in an earlier response to ensure my own clarity of opinion. To answer you more direct question. No just because a man has not been in a LTR or has established patterns of immature behavior into adulthood does not mean it can't be 'reversed. It is just common for people to c…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 09:09 PM
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If you are going to come into a women's discussion space that focuses on how to create and hold onto red-pill relationships please act like you know what you are talking about and read all the information provided to you before making overall emotional and 'I'm offended' statements. If you had read all of my responses to my initial comment you would have noted: "...frontal lobe comment stands for all people not just men" Taken from the link "The frontal lobe reaches full maturity around age 25, …
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 08:39 PM
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Yep. It sounds like we are in agreement, just saying it differently. Red flags are just red flags; they always require further investigation.
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 08:11 PM
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Briffault’s Law is all about being scrupulous, but it stands for both sexes - weeding out those deemed unworthy by each partner. If you see a quality that derives no benefit, or takes it away, why invest? For women on this subreddit, that boils down to finding a man who leads and guides while having the stability to foster her desire to keep a LTR functioning and healthy. A man struggling with not being able to hold down a LTR makes anyone question why - and for many women here I would assume th…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 07:29 PM
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I made a comment to the comment above yours that addresses this too :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 05:29 AM
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I hadn't considered the 'long term collegiate" when thinking about this question. I am a psychotherapist and a majority of the men I see for relationship issues, depression, anxiety and other traits deemed unsavory in the red pill community are A)Men that are currently or recently divorced from non-red-pill women or B.)Men between the ages of 25 and 35 that have never been in a long term relationship due to the inability to get their lives together (for varying reasons.) Many of the second categ…
/r/RedPillWomen10/11/15 05:26 AM
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My guess would be 30 definitively, 25 with some wiggle room. The frontal lobe finished formation between the ages on twenty-three and twenty-five; this part of the brain is the epicenter for personality and logic based thinking. If by this time a man does not or has not had a LTR (1yr or longer) it most likely will have left certain aspects of his personality developed more toward a single lifestyle than a coupled lifestyle.
/r/RedPillWomen09/11/15 11:09 PM
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This is actually a technique I use with my clients in my psychotherapy practice! It works wonders, but you really have to be motivated to stick with it. It also helps to have an 'accountabili-buddy' to check in with every few days to review progress and increase motivation through reinforcement.
/r/RedPillWomen17/05/15 07:01 PM
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Check out /r/skincareaddiction Since I sub'd over there my skin has never been better! Im still working on things but I feel more and more confident about my skin and nighttime (non-makeuped) appearance.
/r/RedPillWomen12/03/15 07:20 PM
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I think the hilarity in it for me is that her first song - the one that has garnered her all this 'fame' is all about loving your 'womanly curves' and then she goes and loses a bunch of weight Before After Not that getting heathy and weight loss is bad - just don't be so hypocritical about it and then glorify your hypocrisy and continue to insist that your fat in an interview: “I ate pizza yesterday and I am eating Chinese food later today. It’s gonna be great. But so far people have actually to…
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/15 07:11 PM
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I completely agree. I really liked the tune of her first song, but then the meaning behind it came into view and I was let down. After hearing this second song I was appalled. I was actually thinking on quoting the worst lyrical quip here - but upon re-reading the lyrics there is no 'worst quip' its all just really really bad.
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/15 05:07 PM
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Im not sure what StingrayVC was pinpointing, but for me when I read potential to be a wonderful husband... I just have to become a better wife It made me a little sad inside, casting a shadow on the awesomeness that was to be the intended reception of your post. Using words like this not only highlight your inability to see him as a partner but also puts a lot of the blame on him in the situation. You are seeing the failing in the relationship as his inability to be a good husband and and to a m…
/r/RedPillWomen23/02/15 07:05 PM
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You are right. The fault I was describing was my own inability to check myself and to not put myself into a situation I knew would not end well and trusting someone else to hold a boundary that I was not aware needed to be held up. Thank you for the reminder - I tend to self-blame as it was not a violent crime and no where near as bad as some experience. Something I should add to my list as a need to work on ;)
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 05:40 PM
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While I agree that her lifestyle and priorities with men were no where near in line with RP values. I absolutely love her erotica. Coming from a very staunch religious home her writings were some of the first materials I encountered regarding sexuality. The quote I used was never on my radar in early college - but after discovering my own sexuality and now trying to incorporate a more eager role in the bedroom this quote really resonated with me.
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 05:02 AM
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There is always therapy in order to help you organize your feelings on the matter. My 'health field' - I am a therapist :) I have also been to therapy on this and why I have finally been able to embrace my part in what happened and not fall pray to the victim stance. You are both transforming into new "characters" so to speak. I hadn't thought about this as something that is changing both of us. It will be a good thing for me to keep in mind, as my changes can and will effect him as well, so I w…
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 02:05 AM
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This is such a good idea! I may keep it in a less toddler-able-to-access area, but a daily reminder and thing to reflect upon sounds perfect! Also the decorating part sounds fun :) This will also be a good thing for my daughter to see me doing as an example for her
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 02:00 AM
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try to see the things your husband does that you just take for granted. Thank you for this. I often get stuck and forget to reframe my thinking and my outlook. This is a perfect outlook and focus alteration for me to make!
/r/RedPillWomen06/02/15 01:59 AM
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My husband also play WoW (I'm the healer he is DPS). Since adopting RPW we have more quality time together to play the game we enjoy together. With all the reading I have done here I have made priorities to tidy up each night, plan dinner, and try to turn our house into a home. This leads to me being less stressed out and not needing to spend our quality time rushing to create some semblance of organization within chaos. Not only is everybody happier, but we actually have time to run dungeons an…
/r/RedPillWomen15/01/15 10:50 PM
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I absolutely love HabitRPG! Not only is it a fun way to keep up habits but you also get a little dudette to armor up and get pets for :D
/r/RedPillWomen14/01/15 10:30 PM
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This is fantastic! I have been looking for a positive affirmation/mantra for 2015 and I think I just found it (though it may shorten to just the first three sentences)
/r/RedPillWomen09/01/15 07:08 PM
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I was just having this conversation with my husband his past weekend. When I first heard 'All About That Bass' I really liked it, heck I even made a pandora station to listen to similar music and then I started hearing the lyrics (makes me wish they did this with all catchy Billboard songs!) I was so disappointed after I realized what the song is about. Yes we should all see the beauty within ourselves - but unhealthy living is not beauty, and we should not be teaching our children this gross mi…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/14 08:23 PM
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Stout braised lamb shanks are one of my hubbies favorites, especially this time of year. Bonus, the recipe looks super fancy and difficult, but in reality is pretty easy. It can also be paired with a variety of yummy sides like mashed potatoes, polenta, rice, or even quinoa. Heck if you want to go super easy you can even quarter some potatoes and throw them in the broth about 30 minutes before the meat is done.
/r/RedPillWomen14/10/14 04:04 PM
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Your comment makes me want to punch you in the arm and then hug you - well but then I might break you, and we wouldn't want that! :)
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/14 10:08 PM
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were weak people celebrate their weakness But did you read the original post? She is not looking to "celebrate her weakness" she is looking to actually get healthy and start exercising properly. I didn't say that the sub was a bad one - only that it was a horrible recommendation based on what OP is actually looking for. Edit: This judgment was founded based on the posts and the forum description: "Feel free to post discussions and videos revolving around how you are a failure of an athlete and w…
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/14 08:51 PM
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That is a horrible recommendation and you're only suggesting it because you created the sub seven days ago and are most likely looking for traffic. Your comment is bad and you should feel bad.
/r/RedPillWomen09/10/14 07:56 PM
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I think one of your other comments sums up what I was trying to get at in my original posting. You are going to have a rough go in life if you think this "creep" sexually harassed you. Using the term "sexual harassment" has very very serious consequences. All you have to do is substitute 'creep' with 'husband' and it takes it to a-whole-nother level. This woman is throwing around a term in her marriage that perpetuates her own unhappiness - and it has serious consequences! The thought processes …
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/14 08:19 PM
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That is a fantastic analogy! That exactly how I have been feeling lately.
/r/RedPillWomen28/09/14 05:44 PM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 04:49 PM
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What does this mean? Google is giving me all sorts of "10 best Korean tricks" do you know of a more specific link or site?
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 04:13 PM
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When my husband and I married I was 20 and he was 21. We met in college when I was 18 he was 19, we had a committed relationship and knew we would marry one day, so in our minds 'why put it on hold for other people discomfort.' (Mind you we also never lived together nor were we sexually intimate before marriage) I'm 30 now, and we have a 17month old. I feel like our early commitment gave us time to grow with each other and into each other before we had to be 'grown ups' - would do again :)
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 04:08 PM
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My husband regularly tells me the best gift I ever bought him was an espresso maker! It's so easy and quick, and WAY cheaper than going to the bistro!
/r/RedPillWomen24/09/14 12:16 AM
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While I am more at the tail end of Gen X, I can say many of us and those that came after us had mothers who had been affected by the new-age feminist movement. My mother put more effort into cultivating independence and a strong personality (with the underpinnings of 'women are better than men' attitude) in me. Make up was seen as a crutch for ugly girls in my home and even though I am probably a 6-7 my mother always implied that I was >8, so boys should like me for my personality and "who I am"…
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 04:24 PM
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I can say that as someone who is also new to makeup, r/makeupaddiction is SO overwhelming and not very noobie friendly. I joined the private SubReddit /r/howdoibeauty and I find their tutorials both more user friendly an more focused on accentuating natural beauty rather than purple feather eye lashes and the newest jade eyeliner. Edit to say that Wane Goss guy has some awesome tutorials!
/r/RedPillWomen17/09/14 06:05 AM
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I will preface by saying I'm pretty new here, but this doesn't, and you don't, sound RP at all. This sounds like someone who is focused on their good looks doing all their work for them rather than someone who wants to earn their place in the real world. Yes, here on the RPW forums we place some emphasis on beauty, but that focus is in relation to attracting and holding onto a mate - not to frivolously get high earning positions in the work place we did not earn. My advice would be to look at di…
/r/RedPillWomen15/09/14 06:45 PM
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I'm also an INFP. I took the full Myers Brigs back in grad school and just scored the same on this one! So excited to be in league with George R R Martin :)
/r/RedPillWomen12/09/14 05:51 AM
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I am a therapist and work with women who have miscarried and lost pregnancies. For many women the utter shame and self-doubt related to miscarriage is a huge factor for why it is not a well talked about subject, even with partners. As /u/MarriedRP said, it is the one thing her body is supposed to do and it didn't work. So she is feeling similar to how a man might feel when he finds out he has a low sperm count and cannot have children. At some level all women know that this is the one thing the …
/r/askTRP22/08/14 11:52 PM
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Honestly it helps me divide work from home. It's easier to pause and put on the First Mate mindset. Thank you for this! It might be part of the issue I hadn't looked at. I was pausing to transition from work to mom/cook rather then to First Mate. I think I will be looking into some aprons and possible some more cute 'loungey' clothing as well as easily washable garments. Adding a makeup touch up to the routine will help out too! I hadn't even thought of that!
/r/RedPillWomen21/08/14 09:35 PM
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thats a fantastic idea! Thanks :)
/r/RedPillWomen20/08/14 10:57 PM
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Fantastic resource! I had not seen this blog before, thank you for linking it.
/r/RedPillWomen19/08/14 04:31 PM
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I listen to a lot of new-age Regge. Very positive an bright! Michael Franti/Spearhead, Citizen Cope, and of course some good old Bob (or Ziggy) Marley. I also second Caravan Palace & the Electroswing genera I saw mentioned :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/14 09:06 PM
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I am kind of in the same boat as you but on the flip side. I am the one who has discovered Red Pill and I am slowly making changes in my own life and would eventually like my husband on board. While I cannot give you a fulfilled answer (aka this is how I did this), I can tell you what my plan is. Currently I know that my behavior in our marriage has caused my husband to bring some beta-like behaviors to the table, which helps neither of us. So with the understanding that a lot of my behavior has…
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 09:52 PM
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As an Alaskan this has been on my mind lately with approaching Fall. Thanks for posting this!
/r/RedPillWomen10/07/14 05:06 PM
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Emma Stone. She and I share very similar complexion, hairline, and facial structure. In most of her public appearances it seems we also have pretty similar senses of humor & quirks. As someone who is pretty fashion-inept she is my muse in trying to figure out make-up, clothing, and remaining classy while keeping with my quirky personality.
/r/RedPillWomen07/07/14 10:19 PM
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As someone who is a classically trained pastry chef (I only bake at home now) that was the FIRST thing I saw! Made my skin crawl a bit :/
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/14 05:01 AM
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According to The Kinsey Institute (one of the leading, if not the leading sexual research team in the US) states: Females (average frequency reported): 2.8 times a week, in late teens 2.2 times a week, by age 30 1.0 times a week, by age 50 Male data were comparable. So generally speaking it sounds like your doing pretty good! But if you and or your partner are not satisfied by your current frequency, than you should be engaging or initiating more frequently! So far the concensus here states that…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/14 05:41 AM
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I just entered Private Practice as a Mental Health Therapist and as finances are tight with the change SO suggested I fix up old furniture instead of buying new. I just finished fixing up this lea desk that I was able to get for $40 (paint was $50 but have a bunch left.) And I am currently reupholstering a chair (wont let me make an album, apologies) that I scored on Craigslist for $40 and I already had the fabric from an unfinished project a few years ago!
/r/RedPillWomen02/07/14 04:44 AM
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apparently it's 'awaiting moderation' she must have to approve comments on her blog before they are posted.
/r/MensRights16/05/11 10:37 PM
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As a woman lurker I hope you don't mind me putting my two cents in. I was disgusted after reading her post - I have bile... bile in the back of my throat. I think that you bringing light to these horrific posts is an amazing thing, I have no idea what your plans are for combatting this but I know I couldn't sit by and let 7 women praise her work... so I left her a 'nice' comment :) WOW! I’m a woman who has been raped – and I consider myself a feminist as well and your ‘rant’ made me want to vomi…
/r/MensRights16/05/11 03:53 AM
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Wow a few people on here actually make me question my own humanity - and as a psych major thats hard to do. How could you even question his story. You haven't been there - you have no idea what was going on for him. As a woman who was raped, I know what it is like to be frozen in shock, in fear (not from strength but just general "how the fuck is this happening" fear). Rape is not a logical thing - for either party. At least for me I wasn't trying to get away, I wasn't fighting back, no I fled -…
/r/MensRights10/04/11 01:42 AM
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