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Yes, all of the time. It usually starts when the scrote leers at me for too long. Pick me notices. She rolls her eyes, and starts LOUDLY saying things about me. He joins in. I just think. “Dump him. I would never date such a disrespectful, leering loser” it’s a common thing with all single woman. Double it if you are very good looking.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/01/22 06:33 PM
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Thank you for the sentiment. 💕 It’s important that we do not blame ourselves, you are right. Thank you. I hope that I can be a cautionary tale, and help other women avoid the type. I’m well on my way to being healed, but I think I was lucky to have support. One day, my intrusive thoughts about this person will evaporate. Onwards and upwards 💫
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 08:14 PM
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**Trigger warning rape+ assault** This is very, very true. I used to be a kinkmesha. The most abusive man I ever dated , was a “dom” the lines between sex began to blur, he started hitting me and screaming at me in “real life”. When we had sex , he NEVER listened to our “safe word” he escalated to choking me until I almost blacked out. When I tried to communicate 🤡 that I didn’t like what he was doing , he laughed and said that I did like it, and was lieing. I never had consensual sex with this …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 07:07 PM
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This read as icky to me too. Divorced coparents usually get gifts for the child to give, but the breakfast making is excessive. It feels like a boundary cross. Like as a single mama, it would be weird for him to be in my home making me breakfast(even if it’s for the kid) Also: would you really date a man that goes to his ex’s to cook for them? From both sides, id never let my ex do that, and would dump a man if he was that excessive with his ex. He can cook for his partner on step Mother’s Day/ …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/12/21 02:05 AM
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They always start out nice in the beginning. It is called love bombing. He is abusive and probably has a personality disorder. He will treat her poorly some day too (if he isn’t already) they hide their abuse behind closed doors while they pretend to be good in public. You were never the problem. I know a man just like your ex. He’s in his mid 30’s now. He is a loser, and most women eventually figure it out. Focus on your goals and life. One day his ways will catch up with him. He will never cha…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 08:45 PM
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They manipulate, psychologically destroy, and coerce their victims. Serial cheaters are always abusive . There is not one with out the other. They often start assaulting and battering their victims if the relationship goes on too long. Women stay with these men , for the same reason other abuse victims stay with their abusers. I finally broke free when I found fds. I confronted him about his latest conquest, and told him that I didn’t see a future with him any more. Old me, would have played “co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/21 09:41 AM
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Red pill rhetoric, and projection. My most dead beat/ abusive ex would say things like “women can’t love men, they just see us as appliances” . Watched a lot of male self help, but did not work to better his life. The points here are all very true. He had massive debt. Dated women that were classes above him. I was actually his first “poverty girlfriend” When I got accepted into a program that would make me a lot of money, and lift me out of poverty, he started accusing me of using him to “suppo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/12/21 06:46 PM
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He watches too much porn. It is not sexual incompatibility. He has dick and brain rot. His “preferences” are pulled directly from porn.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:26 PM
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Porn sick men are coercive and abusive. I hate that she is blaming herself and not respecting her own boundaries. I’m assuming that he is not a stand up guy. She sounds like she has Stockholm syndrome. Even if you do what the pornsick man wants, he will always treat you like an object. She may not see it now, but she is so lucky that he left. She has won years of her life back.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 06:23 PM
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Some of the women in this sub game. They are grown adults and are high value. I think it’s only LV when they are obsessed with games to the detriment of their career and relationships. It’s not fair to say someone is lv because they game. Most men do not game in moderation. So I’d say do not date most “gamer” men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:55 PM
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It is so annoying when they call us incels. I am a volcel. There is a difference. I could walk into a bar , or go on any dating app, and have someone to date and have sex with, within a half hour. All women could. We are choosing not to. Being voluntarily celibate is different than being an incel.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/12/21 05:51 PM
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It’s not just the men in their early 20’s. Men in their 30’s and 40’s are worse cause they have hit “the wall” I’m so happy that the younger women are refusing to take their shit now. I am in awe of you, young queens
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/12/21 07:52 PM
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Feel like we dated the same loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:46 PM
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Dated a musician/abusive/porn addict. He was a cheater too. Every time I brought up leaving , he would have a “health crisis” he also threatened to kill himself at least once a month. He hit me a few times and was super rapey and creepy. I got excepted into two different programs for a healthcare career. He started to get more abusive, while also neglecting me, while paying more attention to his shiney “new” friend. I wanted to leave so bad , but was very afraid to. (Because of his suicidal idea…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 08:39 PM
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Oh boy, I think I would be happy to die old and alone. Who wants a life of drama and chaos like that? I’m happy the guy you speak of is an ex. I loath men that have “woman best friends”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 03:51 PM
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Ugh. When I was a new wife/mother this was a fad. For about 2 years all I got was ugly Pandora charms. I was in my early 20s , so didn’t have the spine to say it. If you like Pandora, all the power to you. They just assume all moms like it for some reason. There is an SNL skit called “holiday jewelry “. It makes fun of these guys. Look it up!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/21 03:35 PM
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I feel bad for her. Imagine living out the rest of your days with someone who does not even like, respect, or love you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:49 PM
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It is ok, we are all strong. I honestly believe almost all women have experienced it. It does not make it ok, but it is a reflection of our oppression
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:48 PM
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Rape /coercion is not sex, it is violence. So it’s fair that it is not counted.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 10:19 PM
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It’s ok, I am healed. I think it is important for us all to differentiate between consenting sex, and coercive /rape. Think of the times a man lied to you, to have sex with you. Or the times you were intoxicated , or unsure and they pushed until you caved. I think almost all women would have a smaller “body count” if they only counted 100% consensual sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 03:42 PM
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I only count PIV, and it has to be consensual. Any time I was coerced , I do not count it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 02:07 PM
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I do not like it when furries try to lump themselves in with LGBTQI+. It is offensive. I do not care what someone’s orientation is. It is not comparable. Kinks are different. Do not throw your kinks in peoples faces in public. It is disgusting. Being a furry is not the same as being gay. All couples should be able to be in public without discrimination. However, if you walk around with cat ears and a leash, you are assaulting people’s eyes. Kids don’t need to see that and neither do I.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/21 04:33 AM
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I got myself a wicked new tattoo 🤘 it’s beautiful
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 11:54 PM
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Not to mention that the ONLY reason they “settle down” is because they are too old, ugly and deranged to pull women anymore. They do not love, respect, or even like the women they “settle” on. Yes, they are usually pot bellied and have Ed at this point. They still treat the woman they “settle” on like shit. Most of their cheating moves online or to emotional affairs too. Been there, done that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 10:05 PM
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Only women who are with him long term, and have a significant investment in him will ever know….. just keep your eyes and ears peeled. I used to be in a similar scene and you’ll hear about it, if he is a dirt bag. If he ever acts abusively to anyone bring out the banshee in you and run him out of town. 👑 If Hes just an ex and he’s an ok guy, just mind your business and carry on. Treat him as you would any person you see around.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 09:20 PM
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Just a nod and a smile will do. However, if he does turn out to be a lvm (as they often do),just pretend he doesn’t exist. Look right through him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 06:08 PM
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Another thing about it……. Basically every man I come across says this. Some women use it as a compliment too. I take after my mama, and she said the same thing happened to her until she was well into her 40s.We live in a disturbing culture.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 02:36 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 01:53 AM
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I’m petite and have big eyes. My most hated compliment is: “you look like a teenager, it’s hot” I am a 30 year old woman. It makes them sound like pedos
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/12/21 01:13 AM
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Yes! And some of the comments were: “she is probably 200 pounds and hairy” Scrotes and pick mes get triggered so easily
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 07:27 PM
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I hate this too. I’m a single mama, I have my shit together, I’m good looking and fit, I have friends and a loving family. It offends me when mentally ill bar flies think they have a chance with me when I’m out and about. “No. I will not put myself and my child in danger for a chance to see your erectile dysfunction in action”
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 06:03 PM
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If you are vetting a man and he has ANYONE like this in their friend group, block and delete him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:27 PM
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I saw on a different sub Reddit, screen shots of a women’s standards. All of the comments are LVM and Pick-mes saying “wow your standards are toooooo high!” And “she must be a member of FDS” It was just basic standards, like : must have a job, Must have mutual attraction. Everyone is saying “you will die alone” in response. It is creepy af.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/21 05:24 PM
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I believe you! Especially if they were raised with unearned entitlement
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 04:26 PM
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Ohhhh ! I see. My bad. Sorry about that. You are right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 01:55 PM
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I do not know if all wealthy people are HV. I can however speak to the conventionally attractive bit. I have two stories about how very attractive people can be LV. In my early 20’s, I was best friends with the most physically attractive woman. She was beautiful. However, she was very LV. She cheated on her partners, and often would go out of her way to “seduce” other women’s husbands. She was mean and nasty and always tried to bring everyone down around her. She would make abusive comments cons…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/12/21 12:28 PM
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So. When I started dating the most abusive man I ever met, he painted all of his past sexual and romantic partners as jealous and controlling. Low and behold, when they came to warn me, I figured that they were just being jealous and controlling. It also made young pickme think “wow, this guy must be great, because all of these women are obsessed With him🤡” I didn’t believe them. So when he started abusing me , and cheating on me, I called him out. He told me that I was now “jealous and controll…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/12/21 03:27 AM
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That’s a bad sign. 🚩 You made the right choice! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 05:20 PM
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Guys like this bring out the nasty-ness after a year. It’s easy to pretend to be nice for 6 months. They inevitably see you as another “chore” and mistreat you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 02:36 PM
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It’s ok, I am better emotionally now for the most part. Thank you for the well wishes.I feel like the legal system often fails us. So this would be poetic justice to me 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/12/21 03:58 AM
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Good. He started having medical issues with his downstairs, so that lines up. His addiction started when he was 8, so I really hope that he is screwed for life 😇.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:55 PM
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This may sound a little bit evil, but can they repair the damage once it’s done? My most abusive ex was addicted to porn, (like hide in the bathroom for hours with it) I would take great joy in knowing that his dick and brain are ruined forever. I am probably just being petty but oh well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 09:42 PM
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That gut feeling too 👌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:49 AM
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All cheaters are also abusive(gaslighting,manipulations, rage fits,physical abusers, and coercive ) the man you are speaking of, was raised around that. Block and delete. Too risky.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 01:46 AM
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Listen to your gut, do not date this man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/12/21 12:46 AM
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I hate the music scene for this reason. It is riddled with LV , abusive,alcoholic, cheaters. Usually the women that throw themselves at these un(der) employed losers, are mentally ill or addicted to something. Even if the band does not tour. I could not work with any of them, it would drive me nuts. I was a band wife, then a band gf. I can confirm. Never.ever.again. Do not date these fools, and stay away from the desperate pick-mes that “love” them. The music scene is shady af, and no place for …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/12/21 10:06 PM
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It is so gross! Many non-narcissistic men act like this too. It is as if you are a “thing” that they caught and trapped. I don’t get how they “let” their friends and other men speak about us this way. It’s as if we do not have humanity.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:47 PM
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What a scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:23 PM
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If she does, she is a pickme
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/12/21 01:21 PM
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This is so ,so true! Before I found FDS I was usually a trophy wife or gf. I’m quite a head turner, and men only dated me to “show me off” A memory that makes me cringe is when I was walking with my narc ex. A few men had stared at me while we were on our way to swim. A creepy 50 year old scrote was leering at me from his truck. Instead of checking to see if I was ok, my narc ex said “that’s right old man, I get to c*m in “that” “ 🤮 They see you as a way to impress other men. You are not a perso…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/12/21 04:18 PM
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It’s nice when they are friendly with women, but if they spend a lot of time with these “friends” emotional cheating most definitely happens….
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:31 PM
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Can you make that post please?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:27 PM
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I am friendly with men. However, I have always found…… That they just want to date me eventually and are not true friends. When I was younger, I would have close man friends. I want more genuine friendship these days. So, I do not even bother any more. An exception would be a gay man, or if I ever met a man that doesn’t want to have sex with me or date me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 09:22 PM
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I’m going to say that a woman best friend is bad, even if there is no sexual history. There is always emotional cheating and gaslighting. All of us know this though haha
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 11:30 AM
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Whoa we must have dated the same scrote
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:16 AM
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Yes! He will refer to his ex gfs and ex hookups as “friends” but they still are romantic to some capacity with ALL a of them.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/12/21 02:13 AM
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I am furious about the reactions to this. Instead of mourning the women who had their lives taken, they are inserting themselves and their feelings about it. They do not care about women. They only care about men, and how men are perceived. It is proving our point further. Male entitlement and violence is what caused this tragedy in the first place. Imagine showing up to someone’s funeral and making it about yourself. It’s like that but on a mass level. It’s disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/21 02:18 AM
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I dated a man like this too. They have fake medical emergencies to have a cover to cheat, and garner attention. Sociopaths 💯
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 11:02 PM
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Men are dumb. I am glad you and your homestead are safe!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 04:22 AM
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Welcome to the club sis. Here you go! 👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 03:09 AM
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In Ontario, they taught us about it in elementary school French class. I do not know if it is standard, but my French teacher was a feminist bad ass! I wish that it was talked about more, because people deny misogyny, and femicide in the western world. It’s horrific. Rest In Peace
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:23 AM
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“Professor hair splitter” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:19 AM
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The worst dude in the Toronto sub is throwing an absolute shit fit. He is saying that men are not statistically more likely to be violent, even though the statistics are posted right there. Anyone calling him out is getting downvoted 🤬 he is crying “hate crimes and discrimination towards men” on a post dedicated to the Polytechnique victims, and the 56 victims of femicide this year. sorry but statistics don’t lie. Yes all men. Holy shit, BC is crazy right now. I hope my BC sisters are doing ok o…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 02:12 AM
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Ugh. I live in Canada.So we have an international day (today, the anniversary of this horror)where they release the numbers of women that have been murdered in the last year.All by femicide. In the comments sections for Canadian subreddits there are hordes of scrotes reeeeeing “NOT ALL MEN!YOU ARE DISCRIMINATING “ our rate of femicide keeps rising and everyone wants to fix it……. But these scrotes are making it about themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/12/21 12:09 AM
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It’s really gross that scrotes on OLD act like a dad bod is a good thing. Yet they have strict rules about how we “should” physically look.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 06:33 PM
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So.So. True. When we are younger, we believe that his shitty friends are obstacles, not deal breakers. Personally, I used to think that the friend group had no effect on the man. I just saw his pickme , low value friends as something he’d “grow out of” if he doesn’t have friends that have good morals and values, kick him out.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 09:10 AM
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Thank you! Coming to the realization that I definitely do not get enough sleep! I’m in a clinical placement , for my career. I have been working way too much lately…..I have 2 more weeks…… I can not wait until clinical is done. I’m gonna get all the rest I can. Thank you for the advice, silly me , didn’t even consider that 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/12/21 08:37 AM
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I actually have a question for you queens. I was with an emotional terrorist for 2 years. My question relates to the “effect on beauty “ these scrotes have on you. I have been free of him (true no contact) for 8 months. I still look “tired” bags under the eyes and just not as “glowy” as I was before I met him. I developed more wrinkles around my eyes too. Any tips from you ladies on how to aid myself in this? I have a great skin routine, it’s just not working.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 10:53 PM
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What the heck is with our moms trying to marry us off? It’s annoying.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 10:30 PM
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I never read into FDS in that way. The way I understood it, was that making as much money as you can, gives you security and safety. I have lived in poverty. I have suffered through illness and tragedy . At the time, I was low value and a pick me. I am only just scratching my way out. I was a high school drop out, living on government assistance. It was all I could do when I escaped my abusive ,controlling ex. Then I got educated, and I have a great job now! I work in healthcare, and every day I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 03:32 AM
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👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/12/21 12:06 AM
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That is generally what happens to families where the parents split. Mom becomes a self sufficient, high value, power house. Dad sits in his misery looking for a mommy bang maid to raise him, and his children. To all of the single moms that worked their asses off to be high value: you do not have to lower your standards to date one of these sad sacks. Realistically, many men do not want to date single mothers.You are better off being a bad ass on your own. If a great guy comes along, go for it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:46 PM
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My thoughts as well! He can only have one child over 7 years of age. Younger children are a lot of work. I also agree, I get annoyed when they say that single moms should date them. Just because we have a child or children of our own, doesn’t mean we should date a sad, resentful man that lives in a basement and sees his kids once a month. Single mamas are not like single dads. We are generally more high value. With some exceptions.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 06:43 PM
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👑 good boundaries!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:12 PM
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I feel like a hypocrite, but I just want to add something. Single dads are often angry/ misogynistic/hate single moms(project their ex on to them)/ low achievers/ fat bodies and poor health/and often neglectful of their children. Single mother’s are often the strongest most resilient women you will meet. I fought tooth and nail to obtain my own wealth, education, and mental health to escape that man. Look at divorce statistics and see that women are the ones leaving. I have been dating for three…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:11 PM
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I walked out 10 minutes into a date last night because the scrote was talking about Luis CK and defending his sexually abusive behaviour. I was like “ohhh boy am I ever TIRED. Gotta go” 😎ohhh ya he also asked me if I ever “dated a black”. Misogynistic racist scrote.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 01:04 PM
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Block and delete 🎵
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/12/21 02:09 AM
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I agree with this 💯. On the other hand there is a brand of man (musician, artist) that is too comfortable expressing extreme emotions at inappropriate times (when you are celebrating a success, or struggling yourself). It comes off as attention seeking. Any ex Pick-mes who used to date “artsy types” know what I’m talking about. **Like buddy, I just found out I have cancer, and you are crying because no one will listen to your shitty band? Coooool………. Cool.**
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 11:14 PM
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Always get an education , and career, just for you. There are no guarantees when you involve others in your success. Especially men.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 10:42 AM
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In Lundy Bancroft’s book “why does he do that” , Bancroft explains that,abusers often use mental health as an excuse to abuse. I know plenty of women who are mentally ill , that do not abuse others. Abuse is never a symptom of mental illness, but it is a symptom of moral corruption. Never feel empathy for these men. He is not dating hot famous women. He is manipulating, using, and abusing them. They are more like a supply or prey to him.It happens with non famous men too.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/12/21 01:23 AM
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So, this is what I love about OLD. They put all of their fucked up traits on display. Even if you meet a guy irl, you’ll most likely find him on OLD being creepy and/or disgusting . So even if you don’t date anyone on there keep an eye out for guys from your life and their profiles. They be tellin’ on themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:48 PM
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“Failed abortion” 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:17 PM
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He abused Grande too. Threatened suicide publicly when she dumped him.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:16 PM
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I have not. When ever I see posts about how “hot” he is I reference the Cazzy David book. He also abused the celebrity he dumped her for. When the celebrity tried to dump him, he went on Twitter and publicly threatened suicide. He also made “jokes” about sabotaging her birth control.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:15 PM
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I think we need to start using the real language to describe these events, and not sugar coat it for scrotes. His dad verbally /and emotionally abused her. Instead of protecting her, her husband laughed, then gaslit her about her reaction. Remember the “towel” post ladies? The man in the story psychologically manipulated, and abused that woman. He then gaslit her for having a reaction. The things they do are abusive, and we should always refer to it as such. There you go, I fixed it.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/21 11:37 AM
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What a pos. This is chilling because it resembles what I went through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 10:37 PM
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Old tshirts work well too!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 10:23 PM
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She looks like she is training a geriatric walrus at sea world 😈
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 10:22 PM
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It is never ok to use people. It is unethical. I was/am a fearful avoidant. If you can’t afford therapy, do not date. Even taking time off dating, and working on platonic relationships, gives you the time and space to start working on yourself.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:38 PM
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I went to the original post and apparently it is a well known fact! I have had people disrespect my curly hair my whole life, from men, to peers, to hairdressers. I’m glad people are learning about wild curls. It seems trivial because it’s “just hair” but it’s cultural and important.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:29 PM
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Definitely lucky. Most therapists are not like mine. The one I went to before her, said that I should “force myself to have sex with my husband, until I enjoyed it” she was fired.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:15 PM
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Even then…… I had a cheating LTR ex. He actually set his social media so no one could see that he was in a relationship, but me. He made it seem like he was single to everyone , even at work. He did it to the women before me. I am gonna take a wild guess and assume he will do it to everyone after me. Cheaters go to great lengths (even travelling out of state ) to cheat.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:12 PM
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He also lives a few states away…….. ldr situations are perfect for cheaters. It sounds like he is treating her well. There needs to be a lot of vetting though
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 01:13 AM
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Well trained therapists know what to spot. Many moons ago, when I was a very young wife, my much older husband convinced me to go to therapy. To “fix” our marriage. I remember my ex spouse and I sat down in her office. She looked at him then looked at me. She asked him to leave the room so we could talk. She suggested that I only see her. Without him! She said it was very obvious what was going on. I was completely dependent on him. He was manipulative, a cheater and abusive. The therapist and I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/12/21 12:45 AM
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Look at it this way. He was also with YOU long term. He treated you like shit and abused you behind closed doors. No one gets into a relationship that quick, and changes. He has not done a 360. He is most likely abusing her, as he did you. He had no time to reflect or change. It is not a reflection of you. I had a similar experience . Narcissistic ,monkey branches, stays with /abuses a woman long term, then quickly moves on to the next long term victim. Do not contact him. He will triangulate. I…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 11:35 PM
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So . About the towel story. There are special towels for curly hair. Normal towels make our hair frizz
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:56 PM
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I can imagine women reading the article and thinking “hell ya! I am sick of being treated like shit, and being abused” Then they will join us!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:05 PM
12

How is any of this “dark”????? I wish that I was taught when young, not to date men who are mentally ill and financially unstable. Men in those demographics are statistically more likely to abuse their partners. These are facts.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 10:04 PM
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I have always not really liked the super hero genre. Then. Jessica Jones. Then, the captain Marvel movie. Having women in these roles is so important. 👑 I still will not watch super hero movies that centre men. They are boring, and all have the same plot to me.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/11/21 03:41 AM
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🤫I’m not there yet! Shhhhhhh
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 11:31 AM
21

I really enjoyed The Chilling Adventures of Sabrina . It passes the Bechdel test, it’s feminist. Sabrina is a bad ass.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 01:01 AM
2

Dump his ass. 👑 Put on your crown, and leave him in the dust!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/11/21 12:58 AM
8

🤘👑right on! I bet he was talking about you as if you were “the one who got away” to the new supply. Gotta love triangulation. They are all the same. Glad we have FDS. We can spot these fuckers from a mile away.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 06:07 PM
39

His broken shrimp dick 🦐
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:15 PM
26

Narcissistic men have nothing real in their lives. He is basically a floating coat hanger wearing a shirt. I honestly would say that everything he says is a lie, to get a reaction out of you, and other women. I’d cut out the mutual friends cause you don’t need to hear about your shitty ex and that rude stuff. Hope your ex is happy with his empty soul and erectile dysfunction. What. A.loser.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:06 PM
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I strongly believe that lying, cheating and gaslighting all are classified as emotional/psychological abuse. I have been in your position. The best thing you can do is call an emergency line for domestic violence. Tell them your story. They will validate you. Tell them about how he is trying to Hoover you back. They will help. When I have been in bad places, those hotlines have been my saving grace. They are a third party, and they will tell you. Your ex is a cheating emotional abuser. You deser…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 03:00 PM
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Hot take: he treated the ex like shit too. Now he has the perfect “excuse” to treat you, and every other woman even worse.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/11/21 01:16 AM
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Ted Bundy volunteered at a suicide hotline. People who seem altruistic, can be horrific monsters. We are not supposed to see parts of a person as green flags. We are supposed to be always watching, and always vetting. No matter what.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:41 PM
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I didn’t know that was the outcome. This makes me sad I think in all countries it should be considered hate crimes tbh. My country usually mimics your countries laws, because of our close ties. I always look at the Uk with envy , because they expanded adolescence up to 25 years of age, and declared Mgtow and manosphere groups as hate groups. My country is catching up I think.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 09:09 PM
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What in the fuck did I just read? I read somewhere that the UK is cracking down on male extremists. Red pill and Mgtow are both classified as terrorists groups. I even think that the UK is attempting to pass a bill that makes any violence against women , a hate crime. This man sounds like an idiot. The rise in male violence is caused by porn, and misogynistic hate groups on the internet. What a fool.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/11/21 06:13 PM
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Slightly off topic, I just want to mention Mary Shelley. Men always claim that men are the most intelligent, and groundbreaking novelists. Mary Shelley wrote Frankenstein , when she was 19 years old. She invented the science fiction genre (a favourite amongst nerd scrotes.) I laugh when they try to gatekeep, and think that they “own” sci-fi.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/11/21 11:30 AM
6

🤘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 08:35 PM
61

Dad could even be making it up. Just because he knows the daughter doesn’t approve. He also could have figured it out on his own.It may be easier for his disordered ego, to blame his daughter. He would have to except that he is a predator and gross otherwise.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:54 PM
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👑✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:25 AM
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I feel like it is a red flag. Of course many women are attractive. However, I think that men should only be complimenting you like that. I have an ex that would talk about how hot he thought his “friends” were. It was awful. I think if you are with a man for a long time it’s ok if he thinks a celebrity is pretty and talks about it, as long as it’s not excessive, and he doesn’t compare you to them. As an aside I think that men and women have celebrity crushes differently. For example, us ladies w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy24/11/21 12:17 AM
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Ugh or it’s ugly cousin, the elitist neg. “ WOW you like THAT? EVERYONE likes that” “guess you’re just like all the other girls” 🤡
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 05:29 PM
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I wish the scrotes would actually take the advice, instead of taking out their anger on women. Ya, you can clean your room, but that doesn’t negate the abuse they put women through.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 02:06 AM
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So I like that he is calling out his followers. My most abusive ex loved Jordan Peterson. He had a signed copy of Peterson’s book.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/11/21 12:55 AM
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Petition to have a magic fds podcast episode ✨
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:12 PM
8

I would just keep the pic for myself. Anytime you feel down on your looks, look at your sexy pic, to gas yourself up! I am pretty anti-social media. Any validation you get on your looks feels nice, yet it is hollow.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 10:05 PM
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Ya….. it’s so sad. They brainwash you and abuse you into tolerating it, ever so slowly. It’s like the boiled frog analogy. It usually starts with things like a smirk, or a tone of disapproval. It evolves into outright abuse. Every.single.time. I’m happy that we now know not to tolerate the small negs. 🔮 Its a big predictor of things to come. We can’t get back the time we lost, but we can all make better decisions from now on!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 09:56 PM
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“MOST men prefer larger boobs. You are LUCKY I’m dating you, because I like small ones.” Another good one from the same scrote. His friend complimented me and said “you look like Helena Bonham carter” scrote ex replied: “guess you look like a monkey, just like Helena Bonham Carter does.” ;) Most of these a-holes are more subtle than this. It’s to ease you into putting up with the more abusive negs.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/21 01:50 AM
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You’re a smart woman. Do not trust them. A good way to test this in your own romantic life is to see how sketchy he is about his phone/devices. Is there a lock on it? Does he turn it away from you while texting? Does he get random notifications in the middle of the night? Does he freak out when you use his phone to make a call? Emotional cheater/cheater scrotes know what they are doing. Cut and run if your partner behaves this way. Ask me how I know. ☕️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 10:57 PM
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Doom metal queen here 👑 this happened a lot when I was younger. Now I just give them the ice glare and tell them to respect their elders 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/11/21 02:59 PM
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I have seen OLD profiles that say the sugar coated version of this. It’s as if someone translated scrote speak. It’s hilarious, and I too, am praying to the gods that this is satire 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 04:23 PM
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To be fair, I read the whole thing, yet I would have nexted him just from his musical tastes. He reeks of scrote from the first line. 🤣 It definitely has to be satire. Especially with the purple mushroom comment. It almost looks like if one of us made a fake profile to make fun of scrotes.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/11/21 02:43 PM
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👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/11/21 10:32 PM
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Hahahahaha they are pathetic. Now I just laugh and avoid.It’s funny when they are broke too. They can’t afford the cialis. Bonus points if they are in their late 20s/early 30’s 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 10:46 PM
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Ew. All of the pornsick men cheat. I have found that they are so desperate and sad, that it is the “validation” cheating brings that they get addicted to. It always confused me when I was dating one of these scrotes. Like, how are you cheating? Your dick doesn’t even work. If you have to down erectile dysfunction pills to have sex and masturbate, what’s the point? They don’t even enjoy sex. This woman is a pickme. The shit we put up with is insane.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/11/21 11:18 AM
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I grew up poor/working class. I only date middle class and up now. I now have a well paying job. I am glad that I scratched my way out of poverty. I can confirm: men that are poor are more likely to be abusive , have mental problems,do drugs and cheat. I’m pretty sure there are also studies on this. I am not classist . I grew up and spent my early 20s dating men within my own class (poor). I agree. The collapse of the middle class and poverty causes lv behaviour. Some of the stuff I have witness…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 09:48 PM
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This is a great analogy. It makes me feel a little less angry at the people who just “jump” over the missing stair. It is more bleak to imagine that everyone is protecting him. I’m sure some are, but to most he probably is just a known hazard, and it’s just easier to jump than fix
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:09 AM
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My dad always told me “men are dogs”. However when ever I would come home upset about cat calling, he would say stuff like “ Maybe he was just trying to be your friend.” He talks the talk but doesn’t walk the walk.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/21 11:03 AM
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I saw the trailer, and it looked coercive and creepy.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:22 PM
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She does not sound like a friend. Like a scrote, I would block and delete. Making passive aggressive gestures about your body is covertly abusive. She sounds like a negging scrote, so treat her like one. You got this!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 05:19 PM
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I hate this too. There is an abusive narcissistic man in my town(mid 30’s) who has groomed and abused multiple young women. No one ever calls him out and he is welcome in the community. Everyone just says the women are “stupid” and “embarrassing “ for dating him, called crazy when they try to get help. I loath this dynamic.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:23 PM
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👑
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy14/11/21 04:21 PM
8

I know men that do this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 09:33 PM
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Been there. The narc I was “in a relationship” with would hang out with MY friends and I. Once they left, he would say that I came off as rude and stuck up. Would pick apart everything I said. I felt so awful and embarrassed I withdrew from them. After that “relationship” ended , I reconnected with my pals and mentioned what he had said. All of my pals said that all of that was not true. That I didn’t offend them at all. They suggested my “ex” is most likely a narcissist. 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy12/11/21 12:27 AM
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*Trigger warning*** Just to give you all a heads up, I once was lurking on a message board(not going to name it) to study how they think. One of the posters says he goes online to read stories about women who were raped, and masturbates to them. These men are twisted and disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/11/21 12:35 AM
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I want to add that we should never date men diagnosed with ADHD, BPD or anything similar. I do not want to sound like I’m discriminating against mental illness. Unfortunately, many of these illnesses have the symptoms of “poor emotional regulation” and “poor impulse control”. It always manifests as abuse. Someone who is emotionally explosive , manipulative, and can’t control themselves, is not an ideal partner.I have empathy for the women that suffer through mental illness. They often take a bre…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:21 PM
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When ever he is written about , it is very clear that he psychologically and emotionally abuses women. He threatens suicide when ever they try to leave. He abuses drugs, cheats, and monkey branches from woman to woman.He uses women. Then manipulates them into being “friends” with him after. Cassie David(Larry David’s daughter) wrote a book and has done interviews about it. He destroyed her. She is still his “friend” because he has guilted her for years on end. People always defend him. They say …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:52 PM
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Another point about this is, some crafty narcissistic types will take what they learned from you. They will use it. Hide it when they meet the next woman. Pretend to be a good person. Once he has his hooks in,he will treat her poorly too. A misogynist can’t be rehabilitated in most cases.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 12:45 PM
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Not to mention that their peens stop working way before that. Thank you porn addiction🥳
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/11/21 01:21 AM
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This is so true. I go out to pubs and bars maybe once every 6 months with pals. Every time 20 year old boys hit on me. I am 30. I just kinda chuckle and tell them to bring a warmer jacket., it’s cold out! They are babies. Now that I am in the position of having the power, wisdom , and experience,it feels gross to even think about it. I could not imagine dating them, or having sex with them. I think our experience proves that men are disgusting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:27 AM
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Hahahaha I got one of these the other day.I don’t even remember commenting on anything.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 03:23 AM
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🤢🤮that is all.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/11/21 02:25 AM
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I would like some advice 😊 I basically match with everyone I “like” but unmatch a day later because I notice red flags🚩 I am not taking it too seriously, or spend much time on it. What would you recommend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:15 PM
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Fuck those scrotes. Also. Sabath Rulez 🤘🖤
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 11:12 PM
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Ya . I was out of my ex husbands league and he treated me like a maid. I was out of the last man I was dating’s league, and he treated me like dirt and abused me. When you are out of their league the abuse is worse because they are insecure about your looks etc. Last scrote would become furious when other men would leer at me. Later in the day, he would pick apart my appearance or triangulate me with other women. What did I do to deserve that ? I was way better looking than the man I was with :)…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:58 PM
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One of my siblings sent this to me the other day ❤️I love it!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 09:50 PM
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Often times the victims don’t realize until there is time /space and therapy. I am so proud of you for getting away
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/11/21 05:12 PM
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I’m so glad you are ok ❤️ my heart goes out to the other victim and her unborn baby. Rest in peace little angel. I am so sorry that this all happened to you as well.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 10:45 PM
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I have been reading about this lately. It annoys me because the cliff’s notes version is: Men are being narcissistic , and treating women as interchangeable objects. We should lower our standards and beg them for a relationship. 🤡 I do not want to be with anyone that does not see me as a person. That cheats , lies. Narcissism is the worst quality For a relationship.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/21 02:57 PM
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I can confirm! I feel so sorry that your sister has to go through this. I have been in that subculture for about 15 years. It never ends. Even if you have a great career, and healthy life, the lvm come for you. I have considered changing my look, hoping that men will treat me better. At the end of the day, I would not feel like me if I did this. It may even be a good vetting tool, because the red flags appear instantly. As soon as you meet men they throw it all out there! Your sister should wear…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:43 PM
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Hey there! Depending on where you live, If you have a local women’s shelter, or sexual assault shelter, they give free therapy. Usually up to 6 months. Blocking him can help. Changing your number can also put your mind at ease, because even if he changes his number , he won’t be able to contact you ❤️stay strong! You are doing so well in school. I am proud of you. You’ve got this 🤘
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 02:37 PM
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I think that the podcast could do a whole episode on alternative women and what they face in dating. It is a pretty unique experience to us. Gatekeeping happens. Also, men often assume that you are into BDSM and kink. Predatory men gravitate to you because they think that you are unstable (an easy target). In addition , they will often only date you because they want attention from other men. We seem “exotic” like a spooky little accessory for LVM. We should be able to dress in a way that makes …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 01:18 PM
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I was told that our intuition is ancient. That it has evolved with us since the beginning of time.That it must be honoured and respected.Our gut knows. Every.Single.Time.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:45 AM
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Ever since I gained confidence, I have cancelled 5 dates in the last month. These dipsh*ts can’t even make it to the first date. They plan nice things, act very polite but then……. They say something off. Just things that make me not want to bother.I just block and delete. I just want to be taken out by a normal person tbh. 💅 too much to ask for apparently.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/11/21 03:42 AM
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Before fds, I did not have any. Now, I get the ick from so much. They seem like “little” flags. To me they are huge. The last time was when a man I was casually seeing burped in front of me. We had only been on one date and he belched as loud as he could 🤢
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 05:12 PM
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This is not always a red flag….. well at least I hope it isn’t. I have dated decent men, and horrible men. No matter what I delete them completely from my life. It is so I can be free of the past, and for when I have a new partner. I don’t want my new partner to have to deal with that mess! I also do not use any social media. I still speak to my kiddos dad, but rarely and only about the child. 😳I sure hope it doesn’t look bad.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/11/21 12:04 AM
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The more confidence you gain in your intuition, the less you will care. Therapy can help. I have been working on this for half a year. It’s such a treat when you learn to listen to your gut. Women have been trained not to, so it’s hard!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 05:53 PM
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I know it’s hard OP. Always trust your gut more than the opinion of others. My mama is the same as your family. When they judge you for having standards, stand tall. You just might inspire them to want better for themselves too. Every time I am judged by family,I simply state that “I’m way too bad ass to put up with any loser” I see the cogs turning in their heads. One day, they may follow in your footsteps.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/11/21 05:51 PM
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Same with men that study philosophy. It’s endearing if a guy is passionate about studying and learning about ethics, religion,and morality. But then you realize they only studied these things to manipulate and gaslight women. I think in one post someone referred to these guys as “professor hobos” very very fitting.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/11/21 04:00 PM
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I personally enjoy just un-matching them with out saying a word 🤣
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 09:14 PM
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Preach! “She needs me to see her nudes and compliment her, because she is feeling insecure!” “What do you mean I can’t have sleep overs with my BEST friend” Literal things that were said to me when I was a pickme , dating a narcissist that had a woman best “friend”. HVM do not engage with this nonsense
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 05:08 PM
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If you still online date, do not swipe on men with women in their pictures…… it’s a test to see if you are a pickme that will tolerate emotional/physical cheating. You probably already know this . It is such a 🚩
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 03:08 PM
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They are very manipulative. It is understandable that you got sucked in. Polyamory translates to “multiple loves” these sociopaths love no one but themselves.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:46 AM
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I want to add that being poly , is low value. I am glad that I have levelled up enough to see this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:44 AM
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I used to be in the poly community. They are desperate. I say, if you NEED even one partner, it is a red flag. It’s codependency on crack. I ended up becoming monogamous with a fellow poly man. He was the most narcissistic,abusive ,cheater I had ever met. “Your feelings are YOUR problem” is their favourite phrase. The biggest gas lighters you will ever meet.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/11/21 02:43 AM
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Kink shaming is my kink 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy01/11/21 02:46 PM
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❤️thank you! You are awesome for posting this 👸
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/21 03:19 PM
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Same, girl. They are trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:07 PM
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I took mine into geek squad at Best Buy to reset it, and check for any nefarious apps. Change your locks. Don’t post where you are. Do not let them know where you work.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/21 11:05 PM
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Hello! I had a VERY similar marriage to you. I also have a beautiful autistic daughter. I left about 5 years ago. It is very much worth it. The kids get over it. Children are resilient. It is better for them to see mama strong, happy , and on her own. They will be able to tell you are not happy. It gives bad energy out. You can leave, I believe in you! A word of caution, being a mother of a disabled child myself: make sure to build a support system. Dating is also often pointless. Men are way wo…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 02:22 PM
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Preach.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:42 PM
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Bartenders should be in avoid. They can’t or won’t get a real job, hang around degenerates, and drugs, get hit on by Pick-mes all the time, and often cheat/are addicted to attention. It is a job for boys in their late teens/early 20s. Not a grown ass man.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 12:41 PM
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****trigger warning, rape, abuse* I know someone that works in long term care. So, a retirement home. He told me that there is a woman that is not “all there” one of the male residents is “dating her” they found him having sex with her while she was passed out. He had porn on while he did it. He also tried to make her change her will, so he could have all of her money. Luckily her lawyer would not let him. These demonic men have always existed. Never put it past them to use and abuse women. Vet …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/10/21 07:07 AM
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I dated a guy like this for a few years. He became physically abusive. He also was a serial cheat and abused a lot of girls. It’s a big red flag for narcissism. It indicates that he needs constant attention from women, and that he needs “backup plans” scrotes can’t go a day with out excessive attention from the opposite sex.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/09/21 10:05 PM
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When I was hit by a car, and he complained about “having to take care of me” because he couldn’t record a song with his friend. He said he would “kill himself” because it was my fault that he was unsuccessful. Guess I shouldn’t have been hit by a car then 🤷🏻‍♀️. Many red flags before that, but that was when I started to make my plans to leave. He was super abusive so I felt trapped.Luckily, he dumped me. Trash takes itself out 💅 I’m thriving now!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy10/09/21 06:14 PM
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