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| 1035 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM. | REMINDER 👑 | karaokekiller | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/02/21 11:36 PM |
| 156 | Oh noes mummy messed up lunch | #JustLVMThings | karaokekiller | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/08/21 10:35 PM |
| 1 | Not a cute set. She's so proud and is being congratulated on how clever it is. | PICKMEISHA HALL OF SHAME | karaokekiller | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 10:09 AM |
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| 8 | New low, disabled men demanding prostitutes under "disability rights"Pretty sure in Australia there are ways for people with disabilities to get sex workers funded, I'm sure I've seen it in the press | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/03/22 03:37 AM |
| 28 | Scruffy aged man (Simon Baker) has a meeting with an "OLD-er" woman. I don't always scroll through the daily mail but when I do, it's posts like these that make me snort. Media is ready to devalue women and put scruffy men on pedestals. The comments call them out.I only watched that again the other night. He's done a few TV shows over the years I think but now just slobbing around at home it appears | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 01:27 PM |
| 113 | Scruffy aged man (Simon Baker) has a meeting with an "OLD-er" woman. I don't always scroll through the daily mail but when I do, it's posts like these that make me snort. Media is ready to devalue women and put scruffy men on pedestals. The comments call them out.Lol she is probably his sister or something like that Looks very similar age range. The media sucks. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 11:54 AM |
| 6 | I don’t approve of low value behavior from any one, including a woman. However the FDS in me is suspicious as to what her side of the story is. She sounds miserable, burnt out, and exhausted. I can’t help but wonder how evenly the work load is shared in the house. For both of them, it appears toxic.I used to slam doors, stomp around etc. I was super depressed and at the time had no idea I was in an emotionally abusive relationship- but I was. My ex is a super narc and would act like king shit and tell everyone how awful I was, just like this guy. Yeah, maybe the wife is horrible. But maybe he's abusive. Either way, toxic relationship. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/03/22 11:15 AM |
| 5 | What is the most messed up way you found out your partner was cheating on you?Lol my ex actually does drink Smirnoff | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/03/22 11:28 AM |
| 14 | The occupation of men on OLDOr they just lie. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/22 12:45 PM |
| 6 | She quit her job and is live-in childcare for her husband’s affair baby and is now being asked to cancel her birthday trip to babysitSo she's basically a full time SAHM for the love child?? That's intense. I've put up with some nonsense but whoa. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/02/22 06:12 AM |
| 15 | You guysss 🤮🤮🥲 “Ugh- husband woke me up in middle of night for sex and it was gross”My cats have never left shit stains on my sheets, men have. I know which animal I prefer. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/02/22 02:54 AM |
| 12 | Do you talk to your therapist about FDS?Yep, she specialises in trauma and DV. So she's all over it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/22 11:22 AM |
| 9 | Hot Take: Whenever I see stuff like this, I assume the guy has paedophilic tendencies or has watched too much pornMy first child and experiences with breastfeeding was soured by the father being obsessed with wanting my breasts and milk to himself. He would just sit and stare anytime I attempted to feed. WHY ARE MEN | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 06:24 PM |
| 3 | Reminder: Take Up Space! Use Your Voice!Yeah I'm an introvert but if I've got something to say I'll say it audibly and clearly. No need to shrink away. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/01/22 04:11 AM |
| 1 | Love hearing about women leaving when they had enough! Saying no to couples counseling because she recognizes that there's nothing else she can possibly cOmMunIcaTe to himHey this sounds like my life. I read the riot act and was about to kick his arse out and then we've all been down with covid. Life is about to resume and then he's out on his lazy butt. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 04:40 PM |
| 4 | Have any of you ever known a man who initiated a split with his partner WITHOUT getting into a new relationship right away?I know of one, but has also used escorts, fwb, hookups while being single. Only wants a relationship if it's with a perfect young woman, but he's not getting any younger himself. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 02:50 PM |
| 47 | Strategy: How to know if a man is only after YOUR money and successHahah my ex boyf fancied himself an artist. 15 years later he's now living back with his mother... | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 01:50 PM |
| 50 | Your partner should never ask you for a gift wish list.Oooof I've had those three phrases said to me, too hard to buy for/you have everything/you buy for yourself. So lazy and demeaning. I am really not that hard to buy for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/12/21 01:33 PM |
| 8 | If he’s late he might be avoiding to pay!It's embarrassing the shit we let them get away with. But no more! Onwards and upwards. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 05:20 PM |
| 2 | The reactions I received when I used to talk about being a sugar babyThat's a very rose tinted glasses version of Australian social security. Plenty of people are homeless as there isn't enough public housing, there isn't adequate mental health support. Rents are getting higher and higher and low wages and govt payments aren't enough to keep a roof over heads any more. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 01:03 PM |
| 2 | Welcome back love.Hope you're travelling ok x | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/12/21 12:55 PM |
| 3 | My Adaption of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: HVM vs LVM/NVMOh I appreciate that, but most of those relationship type needs can be fulfilled with good friendships. Nothing wrong with a partnership if you can find a good one of course! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 11:37 PM |
| 9 | This ain’t no Build-A-Boy, ya know?Yep. Paid more than my share of things early in the relationship when he was a struggling student, and he certainly never made it up later on, I just kept having to outlay money. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:08 PM |
| 25 | My Adaption of Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs: HVM vs LVM/NVMExcept, we don't need the man to achieve those. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 02:01 PM |
| 279 | If he’s late he might be avoiding to pay!That's exactly his plan. My ex would often meet me places, but run late so I'd order our coffees or whatever while I was waiting. Took me far too long to figure it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/12/21 01:59 PM |
| 34 | Dunning-Kruger.What a way to tell on yourself lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/12/21 01:41 PM |
| 19 | Roe will likely be overturned.It already is reality- Atwood has been quoted many times that the elements are based off historical (recent and not so recent) events. She just shifted the location. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 04/12/21 05:33 AM |
| 38 | Scrotes still want us to wait on them and their friends, like we’re a restaurantNo, they are probably all single men so love that they get a free home cooked meal that their mummy didn't cook | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/11/21 12:55 PM |
| 25 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costThat one makes me super mad. Yeah, maybe he is depressed. But he needs to deal with that. If you push his giant headed kid out of your vagina, or have major surgery to get the kid out, you're in physical pain and a hormonal mess recovering. Get your shit together Dad and get on with it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 12:49 PM |
| 26 | One of the biggest lies sold to women is the importance of upholding the relationship at any costAh, the good old days. /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/11/21 12:43 PM |
| 1 | Funniest/smallest/strangest Seinfeld-like red flag 🚩 you personally had with an ex?He hated the actor Ewan McGregor. I think mostly to annoy me, because I could never figure out a real reason. Also my favourite band. Just generally into negging I guess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/11/21 01:40 PM |
| 3 | (TW: SEX, VIOLENCE). These are texts men sent to me when I used to engage in BDSM. Even when they hide behind a "nice guy" facade, this is their true nature. Looking back, I I can't believe I ever accepted being treated this way. BDSM is not liberating or empowering, it's ABUSE.Oh wow. I have a history of depression and when I was in my darkest places, I was all into BDSM. I guess I thought I deserved it, needed correction etc all those horrible things. As soon as my mental health improved I had no interest in partaking in any of that nonsense. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 06:12 AM |
| 2 | Your Reality | Award-winning short film on GaslightingSuper smoking trigger warning that was hard to watch. I've been through it. Still somewhat am. I'm shaking thinking about it all. Take care ladies. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/11/21 04:02 AM |
| 18 | Weaponized incompetence is a form of mental abuse.It is beyond belief isnt it. I was another who wasn't expected to do much as a kid... but I often offered to help out anyway. Coz I lived in the house. If a kid can figure it out, why can't an adult? | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:39 AM |
| 33 | Weaponized incompetence is a form of mental abuse.Partner asked if I knew where something was I said no He just stared at me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 05/10/21 03:36 AM |
| 15 | Excuse me?Oh gross | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/10/21 04:25 AM |
| 3 | I'm noticing something scrotes do to undermine when a woman makes a definitive statementI know I've said this when my partner has said something absolutely absurd to me, I've just been so taken aback that's all I can say in reply | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:51 AM |
| 18 | Timing question when it comes to exclusivity?Just because you've known him awhile doesn't mean he's the one. It's nice having common history sure, but that does not mean you're necessarily suited to each other. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:30 AM |
| 24 | Pickme wife becomes a "life coach" to deal with the inequity in her marriageLots of motivational memes I guess? I've not looked into it further just know it exists. You probably buy the courses or something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/09/21 03:27 AM |
| 106 | Pickme wife becomes a "life coach" to deal with the inequity in her marriageThere's a MLM that purports to do life coaching, wonder if it's something like that | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 27/09/21 11:30 PM |
| 1 | What abusers believeI've told partner I'm done and they need to leave multiple times and yet... he's still here guilting me into letting him stay I'm building my own mental health and strength back up which is a hell of a fight but I will get there I don't need any comments about just kick him out or whatever, I know that's what needs to be done I don't know Abusive relationships are shit | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 26/09/21 12:22 PM |
| 6 | Integrity is the pinnacle of being high valueYes! I don't always get along with my Dad but hell yes I respect him for his integrity. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/09/21 12:13 PM |
| 3 | Raising sons to be HVM as an FDSer momI have sons and while I do what I can to raise them to be decent humans, you're absolutely right that mothers are not the only influence. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:12 PM |
| 2 | Why his music taste is extremely important during the vetting process.Yes this. For years I was told how awful my favourite band was. 😞 and while it made me feel like shit I didn't see what he was doing. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/08/21 01:06 PM |
| 8 | Oh honey no, HE'S the a**hole...!!!!! Instant dumping offenceYeah at the start, I thought oh ok, he's a professional sportsball player of some sort. But NO. Just another fan. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 09/07/21 09:28 AM |
| 28 | Potent.One Out of what, 4 billion? 😔 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/07/21 01:52 PM |
| 21 | 🚨Vetting Strategy: Watch how a man drivesOmg mine too 🤦♀️ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/06/21 07:39 AM |
| 13 | A friendly reminder to never stop vetting cause you might end up with 2 children instead of 1Hmm agree with the need to vet but I sucked at wrapping my babies. Also, propping the bottle like in the mum picture isn't safe. But the first pic with pillow and blanket is unsafe too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/06/21 12:57 PM |
| 14 | There is no obligation for you to stay with an unaffectionate man.Oh that got me in the feels. Ouch. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/06/21 10:19 AM |
| 7 | From a FB group. I almost cried at my desk when I read this. Men are truly horrid.Oh I saw that post 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/05/21 12:27 PM |
| 61 | This is why I'm divorced - I also brought home 70 percent of the family income when I was married.'Most men want to be more involved with their children' Then why they hell don't they get more involved? Why is it still up to Mum to facilitate it? Aarrrgghhhhhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/05/21 04:13 AM |
| 8 | Don’t change your last name for a manMy youngest kids have my surname. It is lovely. People do then assume their father has the same name as, but that's not my problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/05/21 01:53 PM |
| 185 | Signs he just doesn’t give a fuck about you: part 1‼️Hates Christmas... but pretty sure it's just a way to get out of putting any effort into prep and presents. Thinks flowers are a waste of money Insists on getting a pet but then doesn't do any of the work involved | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/05/21 08:01 AM |
| 43 | I guarantee there will be comments saying “hAve a ConVerSatiOn” disgusting 🤢😡Oh my gosh 😢 How hard and how much must he have hit her to make her pass out?! I can't even imagine. And she'll be covered in welts and bruises and probably broken skin and it'll take weeks for her skin to heal, let alone the mental trauma. I can't even. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/05/21 02:39 AM |
| 6 | What Is FDS position on Matchmakers?The bit about helping them level up- if the matchmaker is taking on that life coach kind of role it definitely has some.good points But over all, no I don't think it's a good idea | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/04/21 02:04 AM |
| 6 | You ever feel like the women who are happy with their men are kind of just...dumb?I feel this. My ex was proper emotionally abusive. My current is not that bad. But he's not good either. And you're right, I rarely tell anyone the truth. Most people want to keep on pretending and believing the happy family lies | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 03:23 PM |
| 4 | Reminder that you are worthy of the prettiest blooms to ever grace this Earth and you don’t need a man to buy them for you. Buy those damn flowers for YOURSELF! @bodyposipandaYes! I bought myself a beautiful bouquet yesterday. And I have plants on my kitchen windowsill. I love it. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/04/21 12:06 PM |
| 21 | Ofcourse she cleans this..Perfect. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/04/21 11:19 AM |
| 16 | Low effort meme but it's for LVM soEx husband loved cooking carbonara No, actually it was overcooked pasta with a jar of crappy carbonara sauce poured over it. No chicken added (as recommended by the jar!) Super terrible. And then he'd leave the plates in the sink until they were covered in mould 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/04/21 08:01 AM |
| 5 | FDS isn’t about finding HVM. It’s about decentering men from our lives and centering ourselves instead.At least the cat keeps its butt clean | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/04/21 10:11 AM |
| 1 | Loss of Identity and MarriageYoungest is 15months so still very mum focussed, getting easier though. Older ones are expected to do more for themselves. I sew! I love sewing. I tend to make stuff for the kids but it's still satisfying. Carving out the time can be a challenge but I try. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 12:49 AM |
| 2 | Loss of Identity and MarriageI'm working on it. It's hard though. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/04/21 12:46 AM |
| 10 | Loss of Identity and MarriageOf course he does. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 12:00 PM |
| 3 | Loss of Identity and MarriageIt is sad. And I'm definitely one of those women who's main identity is Mum and that's about it. Look it sucks. But I'm conscious of it and working on it. So please don't judge us Mum types too harshly... when life becomes a blur of broken sleep and feeding and housework etc it is really hard to keep your sense of self. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/04/21 11:27 AM |
| 17 | Ladies, stop giving HIS house free renovations with YOUR moneyOh I can't even respond right now, hits too close to home. Be careful ladies, it's too easy to fall into this trap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/04/21 03:57 AM |
| 7 | Gross! 🤮Planned c sections still carry plenty of risks. I don't want to get into a debate but normal vaginal birth still has the better outcomes for both mother and baby. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/03/21 12:31 PM |
| 3 | The "bed nest" post that was mentioned in the podcastWhen my kids were younger, maybe 3 &5? Or thereabouts they made nests using their bedding one night for fun. They were young kids. They did it for one night and then went back to their beds. How on earth do people do things like this lomg term?! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/03/21 08:40 PM |
| 8 | I saw this come on my TV, it's an Australian ad (Aussie here) and thought it might belong here. When will she be right?I don't watch a lot of TV, so hadn't seen that. It's chilling. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/03/21 11:58 AM |
| 25 | Pleasantly surprised by this guy in my DMs sharing a useful tip: men in homeless shelters are using online dating to find women to mooch off of, often after getting kicked out for abusing/cheating on another womanSame in Australia, there's women's refuges fighting to stay open for the same reason | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/03/21 10:58 AM |
| 8 | And they say marriage is bad for men. Who tf think washing dishes is a suprise??Give him a gold star /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/03/21 09:28 PM |
| 30 | I would give my child my maiden name as their last name after this.Fuck him. What an absolute jerk. She will never get over that, never. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/03/21 06:19 AM |
| 10 | Why Do Men Expect Their Partners To Treat Them Like Children?Nope, one of the many reasons he got put out the door. My kids are young but I would expect they would wash whatever made up a full load if they put the wash on, whoever owns the clothes | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 07:59 AM |
| 15 | This is exactly why FDS preaches that your partner should NOT want to choke you during intimacy. Strangulation is ABUSE and ASSAULT. It is not “hot” or “romantic.” Ladies, if it’s abuse with your clothes on, it’s abuse with your clothes off!Bruising and swelling around the airway too | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 02:46 AM |
| 14 | Why Do Men Expect Their Partners To Treat Them Like Children?It's not an empowered answer, but if it's in the basket I wash it. It makes sense when you're washing for yourself and the kids to put his stuff through too. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 02:42 AM |
| 7 | Why Do Men Expect Their Partners To Treat Them Like Children?I know not to but still do it hahha. I wouldn't blame anyone else though, I know it's my own fault | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 02:39 AM |
| 37 | Do you want children? Poll.I have kids. I love them but it is hard. Anyone who is on the fence- all I can say is make sure you have a good support system. Choose the father well but have a support system outside of him because even the 'good' ones often fail at parenting. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/03/21 01:53 AM |
| 46 | they love to tell on themselves😂What a dumbarse | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/03/21 01:05 AM |
| 3 | He speaks truth!So I just downloaded tik tok just to watch all of these haha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/02/21 04:28 AM |
| 4 | She didn't lieThanks for the reply, I agree it isn't easy. At the moment my armpits are mostly hair free but that always depends on whether I can be bothered doing them. I've gone through various stages with my pubic hair, but mostly I feel a lot of pressure about leg hair. I have children of both sexes so definitely have concerns about what my own attitudes and habits may portray to them and their expectations | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 02:00 PM |
| 17 | She didn't lieBut are women actually going to stop removing all their body hair? It's sadly become the norm that it's an embarrassment to have pubic hair or hair legs or God forbid hairy armpits | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 25/02/21 12:04 PM |
| 38 | I'm convinced that men invented patriarchy because they saw how male livestock are treated and they didn't want to be subjected to the same fate.Yeah, and we used to just be able to send them off to war and thin out the numbers a bit... now they play COD and think they're a hero | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:42 AM |
| 44 | Queen energyYOU GO GIRL!!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/02/21 08:35 AM |
| 4 | 'Meet me in the middle'Sounds familiar. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/02/21 12:52 AM |
| 127 | "I had literally the best time with you"Did he get the kids meal? Coz that is a serious manchild | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 05:39 AM |
| 9 | Ladies, in your experience, what are some examples of sneaky condescending behaviors/words that a LVM will usually throw at you as an attempt to lower your self worth?Oh shit. My ex and I are amicable, we have kids and coparent reasonably well. My current likes to do the "Well your ex said (insert negative thing about me/relationship) to me" And I hadn't thought much of it, my ex is a bit of an arse and does come out with some pearler comments at times, but I just let it go most of the time and get on with dealing with stuff relating to the children. But fuck me, I hadn't seen what a reflection that was on my current. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 22/02/21 03:13 AM |
| 3 | W/ a side of big purple and I’m set!They are game changing. Get one! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/02/21 12:17 AM |
| 12 | Degrading names during sexOh, so kind of him to consider your feelings 💕 🤢😡 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:56 PM |
| 28 | Anyone else watch American Gods (Starz)? Character Mad Sweeney sums up why men like anal sex:OMG yes. So I do enjoy it every now and then, and my partner kept hinting he wanted to do it and I kept saying yes, go for it. He eventually did and he didn't really enjoy it. And I think it goes back to exactly that, where's the fun for the man if the woman actually enjoys it?!? 🥴 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/02/21 12:43 PM |
| 3 | Study finds only way to stop men from urinating on the floor is to give them a ‘living’ target to aim at and kill with their urine.That's what I don't get!! I don't pee on the floor but y'know if I accidentally spill a drink or something I clean it up. I don't understand how men find it acceptable to just walk away from their mess. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 10:03 PM |
| 174 | Study finds only way to stop men from urinating on the floor is to give them a ‘living’ target to aim at and kill with their urine.My son peed on the floor today. So I made him clean it up and told him to do better. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/02/21 06:56 AM |
| 15 | "His teeth are gross but I love him." 🤢🤮"I'm so lost for what to do" Ummm stop talking and pack your bag. Or his bag might be easier, send him back to mummy. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 02:00 AM |
| 62 | Former Sex Worker Discusses Repulsive ClientsThat's terrible 🤢 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/02/21 01:11 AM |
| 14 | For all the moms that have to be the tough/strict/main parent, because dad wants to be the ‘fun’ parent.. You’re being appreciated!But that's not how it works. If my kids are little shits when we are out, the judgement comes down on me. It is socially acceptable for fathers to just opt out. And I'm so fucking over it | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 12:16 PM |
| 8 | Red flag after red flags: More reasons why age gap relationships suckOh my gosh 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/02/21 04:13 AM |
| 52 | Valentine's Day Postmortem Discussion Thread: Did your man disappoint you on Valentine's Day? Comment your story below!Yes dissapointing. I know what's next ladies. He'll probably be blind sided even though it's really obvious. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 07:20 AM |
| 13 | Why FDS is Crucial if Motherhood is a GoalI have children. I love my children very much but my gosh it can be hard. My pregnancies varied from mostly easy to being in agony barely able to walk. And yeah, you don't know what sort of pregnancy you're going to get. You don't know whether you're going to get kids with additional needs, and the extra emotional and financial costs of that. So make sure you choose their father well. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/02/21 12:17 AM |
| 5 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.Pretty sure we aren't supposed to name the sub 😉 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 10:41 PM |
| 6 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.I read it and it's like being in my marriage all over again. It's heartbreaking at times. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 10:39 PM |
| 2 | A Valentine's Day Tale.Get through your surgery and get all your ducks in a row. Copies of any paperwork etc. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:41 AM |
| 2 | A Valentine's Day Tale.Hang on SHAMPOO not even like a block of chocolate or something I can't even. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:38 AM |
| 2 | A Valentine's Day Tale.Yeah, the croissants were supposed to get put aside and sexy time happen in gratitude 🙄 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 11:37 AM |
| 52 | Just finished this book and highly recommend to all my FDS queensOh nice, I hate the normalisation of over consumption of alcohol. I'm not anti alcohol by any means btw | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 09:29 AM |
| 14 | YikesThey make a good argument | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:47 AM |
| 51 | He forced her to buy him a PS5 for Christmas, but claims that SHE'S the materialistic one! Nah, sis. If you see this... take your PS5 and leave him!I mean, the memes are pretty good lol But she obviously found herself here for a reason. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 07:24 AM |
| 17 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.Don't be mean hahah, 3 months is no time in ignorant man land | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 06:06 AM |
| 46 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.YES!! so glad you're happier and healthier. I could not shift weight no matter what while with my ex, as soon as he was out of the picture and the stress of him was gone, I lost heaps. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 03:24 AM |
| 59 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.OMG I can't stand it when anyone says 'I was going to do that'. Well do it then, don't wait until someone else gets mad and does it for you. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 02:03 AM |
| 16 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.💜 It is so ridiculously common. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 01:09 AM |
| 52 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.Yeah past me too. I'd take bub with me grocery shopping so he got a break (a break from what exactly I don't know). But I'd have a super quick shower so he didn't have to pretend to watch bub any longer than necessary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 01:05 AM |
| 30 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.Ugh I know right? I highly doubt it has been a sudden change in behaviour from him. Look potentially he has got lazier as time as gone by, more likely it just wasn't as obvious how useless he was when there was only one kid. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:57 AM |
| 92 | This is why FDS matters. Don't get stuck with a LVM.He only cares about himself, and makes that very clear. How DARE she expect him to actually do what he has said he will do. Shouldn't his words be enough to show he cares 🙄 (eyeroll emoji). | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/02/21 12:53 AM |
| 6 | A lot of “Doms” in bed are really just sexually selfish men who use the presence of a dynamic to justify not having to care about their partner’s sexual pleasure.I think there are definitely Doms with High Value characteristics; but no I do not think there are many Doms that are HVM. Honestly there's probably more LVM playing at domming than not, there's a hell of a lot of narcissistic tendencies on show. I'll try to come back later and say more but that's the quick version ha. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 13/02/21 03:25 AM |
| 20 | A lot of “Doms” in bed are really just sexually selfish men who use the presence of a dynamic to justify not having to care about their partner’s sexual pleasure.I've said before, but have dabbled in BDSM. Now that I'm mentally healthier, I don't really have any interest in it. The 'real' Doms use that power dynamic well, there's no excuse for not making a woman orgasm. The submissive gives up control but that's not the same thing as not getting to have any pleasure. An example. Dom made me say he could use me any way he wanted (yeah yeah, I know. I'm not encouraging BDSM, I 100% promise). BUT he then took great enjoyment over watching me squirm having m… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 09:51 PM |
| 1 | contrary to belief deadbeat dads are very proud of being deadbeatsI feel that though, I should have chosen a better father for my children. But I didn't. Still doesn't excuse him.opting out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:15 PM |
| 53 | This is so fucking grossIf I could do my labours over I would do them without a man present. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 02:01 PM |
| 8 | Guy a cheap date?Ugh cut and run! It'll only get worse. I had one who when we got together I was out earning him (not by much BTW), and if we went anywhere I always paid- 'oh, you just get your card out quicker than I do, I'll get next time' (hint, he didn't get next time. He'd happily order what he wanted or filled the trolley with what he wanted and then just wouldn't pay). He got me so used to paying for everything. So wrong. Sadly, stayed in the relationship way too long and it cost me an awful lot of money … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 01:57 PM |
| 4 | What are you ladies opinion on this? Do men deserve a material gift? I think that Valentines day is for us Women and my presence is the present! I don't like the idea of going big... My Lv ex wanted us to be set on a (equal) spending limit for both of us. Never againI'm going to assume you're making an asinine joke. Please don't use 'cutesy' nicknames for your body parts. Vagina, vulva whichever part you're meaning, use the proper name. Cutesy names are often used with children and there's plenty of evidence of cases where abusers use nicknames, such as cookie or flower, and so if the child does manage to get the guts to tell another adult of what has been done to them it sounds like a game or nonsense. Which is exactly what the abuser wants. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 12/02/21 01:04 PM |
| 45 | Man sleeps with over 400 women and it broke his sexuality. I think it’s not just porn that’s the problem...Oh my gosh 😬 Umm I suppose it's good he knows he has issues? But just... wow. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 11:29 AM |
| 4 | Men learn how to manipulate women by learning how to manipulate their mothers.100% agree that LVM take energy away from mum and therefore the children. Honestly right now pretty sure it's my life and I want to say more but I'm beyond exhausted. The children are missing out on things due to the man child and it is devastating. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 11/02/21 09:28 AM |
| 22 | Anyone else deal with men in their life who don’t wash their hands? Or basically unhygienic?🤢 my ex used to brush his feet off with his hands when he was getting into bed and then wonder why I sent him off to wash his hands before he got near me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 01:24 PM |
| 5 | Is childbirth and motherhood “empowering”? What do you ladies think?It really isn't empowering. I have kids, by choice (as in I wasn't forced to; but not forgetting society and patriarchy and what seemed like a biological urge to bear children). It isn't empowering to be exhausted all the time. It isn't empowering to be a snack bitch, to change bums, to comfort a crying child. For most mothers, it means giving up their whole being. The person you were before children isn't the same person you are after. Even in a healthy relationship, the mother has still given … | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 01:10 PM |
| 2 | Men just being men I guess.Probably typed google into google and broke the internet | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 10/02/21 12:02 PM |
| 7 | My flair got upgraded 😎Congrats! Curious how the mods decide, I am definitely still a newbie though ha | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 07/02/21 09:53 AM |
| 1 | Why would anybody put up with this?!Ughhh | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 11:13 AM |
| 6 | hOw dO i NoT eMbArRaSs mY HuSbAnD aBoUt hiS bUtT CrUmBsHow the frik is that even close to acceptable?!??! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 09:06 AM |
| 5 | Remember: You're allowed to have creative time. The dishes can wait (or someone else can do them)YES I so often think, oh I'll just do these few things (washing up, vacuum, hang washing etc etc) and then I'll go sew Take a guess how often I go sew? Not often enough. Must try to keep pushing myself to look after myself | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 06/02/21 04:34 AM |
| 11 | 'A Man is NOT A Plan' - Article on older Women's homelessness and a good reason why we should spend our 20's/30's/40's securing ourselves.I never planned to be in the situation I am in, but now close to 40, divorced, kids- including additional needs, I have a job but it is low hours to work around the kids- I don't know what my financial future holds. It is scary. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 01:14 PM |
| 21 | All the empowering women on this subreddit to everyone who needs to hear it be like:I feel so called out | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 03/02/21 12:21 AM |
| 2 | "You should've asked" is a comic made by Emma that describes the mental and emotional load put upon women. You can find the English translation hereSorry xx | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 11:06 AM |
| 19 | I'm not apologizing for not checking your pockets before doing the laundryI don't check pockets. Ever. Have washed wallets, cash, paperwork, pens, whatever is there. Not my problem. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 08:48 AM |
| 7 | Don't befriend men who hold average views on gender.I have kids. Their father was dissapointed with their sex. Like proper stroppy sooking carrying on. What the heck. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:34 AM |
| 11 | Even the radio guy was like, what?!My ex got me a fry pan for whichever gift giving occasion it was (don't recall). I made him return it to the store- that's a house item, not a gift. He also gave me a sodastream one Xmas and I still use it. He got that one right- because it was something that I wanted for myself but didn't want to pay for. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 07:28 AM |
| 7 | "You should've asked" is a comic made by Emma that describes the mental and emotional load put upon women. You can find the English translation hereYes but no. Let the men flounder. They will have to suck it up and either A) figure it out Or B) let their ego go and ask for assistance Chances are it'll be C) call mummy for help | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 06:56 AM |
| 6 | "You should've asked" is a comic made by Emma that describes the mental and emotional load put upon women. You can find the English translation hereYeah I got a snide comment about not sorting the cloth nappies.... mate I do every.other.thing. around here so shove it What is this downtime of which you speak lol | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 05:34 AM |
| 13 | "You should've asked" is a comic made by Emma that describes the mental and emotional load put upon women. You can find the English translation hereStop helping them then? They'll figure it out. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 03:01 AM |
| 9 | "You should've asked" is a comic made by Emma that describes the mental and emotional load put upon women. You can find the English translation hereJeez you're ungrateful and should have appreciated his efforts more /s | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:52 AM |
| 13 | Evan Rachel Woods steps forward about the abuse she, at age 18, suffered from 36 year old Brian Warner aka "Marilyn Manson"Good. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 02/02/21 02:05 AM |
| 18 | This belongs here 😂How frikken depressing is that though When man-children are proud of their efforts on everyday tasks, I ask them quite dryly if they want a gold star | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 01/02/21 06:36 AM |
| 57 | But men are ViSuAl CrEaTuReSFFS I hate 'the boy look' Take responsibility for your own stuff! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 30/01/21 06:36 AM |
| 4 | The importance of learning to think "not my problem" when a man tries to make you responsible for any of his issues or mess or dickThat's what gets me! I have kids, and guess what? They are quite capable of making their own sandwiches. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 09:44 PM |
| 5 | His GF refused to bow to him, so he tired to kill her.I do get rabid about the 'alleged', but that's a legal thing because he hasn't been convicted of the crime :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 02:15 AM |
| 14 | The importance of learning to think "not my problem" when a man tries to make you responsible for any of his issues or mess or dickIf you are a student, there would be some higher up you can report to. If that first one was no use, keep going up the chain. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 01:45 AM |
| 11 | Scumbag Steve was ahead of his time. He is the penultimate opportunistic NVM.Sadly not. But I think we've better prepared ourselves to keep them at bay | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:48 AM |
| 164 | The importance of learning to think "not my problem" when a man tries to make you responsible for any of his issues or mess or dickHa I have said 'not my problem' out loud to a man on a couple of occasions. Usually it's just in my head. I was in the kitchen grabbing a drink I think, he said: "oh damn I'm hungry" I didn't respond Him:. "Oh I forgot to have lunch" Me: "Yeah, that's not my problem" He looked so aghast that I didn't offer to make him something | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 29/01/21 12:22 AM |
| 51 | Me: Doesn't text/call for two days Him: wHaT aRe We?!Aww diddums let me fetch your pipe and slippers /s Enough is enough ladies! Don't put up with any of that crap. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 28/01/21 05:54 AM |
| 59 | [TW] A lack of initimacy during sex is a sign of sexual abuse"The day everything changed was the day he threatened to hit me. Until then he’d punished me, threatened me, blackmailed me, verbally abused me and twice restrained me. But when he threatened to punch me in the face while I was holding our daughter in my arms, it was a wake-up call." I feel this so much. My ex never hit me. But sometimes I think it would have been easier to accept he was abusive if he did hit me. Instead he went with systematically destroying me, isolating me from friends and fa… | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 24/01/21 10:16 AM |
| 671 | Sexism in MedicineWomen handle pain better than men. If men had to go through periods, endo, childbirth etc the medical options would look entirely different | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 23/01/21 02:33 PM |
| 16 | As she should 😩Ugh what a waste of cheetos! Glad you ditched him | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 21/01/21 01:30 AM |
| 36 | He wanted her to stay fat so that she wouldn’t leave him 🤢🤢🤢Holy crap I think I've had this happen and not even realised I used to be quite into running but it got harder to manage as more metaphorical roadblocks were added and I haven't done it for years :/ | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 01:49 PM |
| 5 | Ah yes, the "good old days" of the 1950s. A time where if a man cheated on his wife, it's HER fault for having an unbleached vagina.Bleach baths are still a medical thing so probably along those lines. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 07:16 AM |
| 7 | Do not discuss your finances/nest egg with men you are dating!Yep have made this mistake 😭 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 07:13 AM |
| 17 | Reminder: If you see LVM acting right after they've acted wrong with you, THOSE MEN ARE STILL LVM.My narc ex FINALLY got a good job and drivers license after we split. Didn't improve his personality in any way but on paper he sounded better. Don't be fooled by those LVM. They've got nothing to lose and everything to gain by continuing in their loser ways. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 20/01/21 06:58 AM |
| 17 | I occasionally get messages from male lurkers asking for dating advice. I seldom respond because when I do, the conversation typically goes something like this:Eeek anything but therapy lolz | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 10:48 AM |
| 21 | “Have you tried communicating?”OMG I GOT MY FLAIR 😍 | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 10:43 AM |
| 29 | “Have you tried communicating?”I've done so much communicating 🙄 and now I'm done. There isn't anything wrong with expressing you are dissatisfied- but plenty wrong with having to walk a man child through how to adult. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 19/01/21 08:52 AM |
| 1 | Lvm readers will be so triggered lol but she's completely right and now I want one tooAll power to everyone who wants a dildo or vibe but I rarely use mine. Probably sounds arse backwards but I feel less need to try to orgasm alone when I'm not having crap sex shrug. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 18/01/21 12:05 PM |
| 3 | Absolutely heartbreaking. This needs to stop.Dropping everything to go to mum's where my sister was having a breakdown My mum lives 5 minutes away; he still had access to a car. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 17/01/21 01:00 PM |
| 23 | Damn. Please leave him!!!It's really really hard to leave an abusive relationship. She sounds like she's on her way to it but it can take time | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:43 AM |
| 15 | “All I want is good sex, are my standards too high?” 🎪 Just another day on r/sex 🤡🤡🤡That seems like an awful lot of effort | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 08:39 AM |
| 73 | The kinksters always shame "prudes" for being vanilla and boring yet the kinksters are almost always basic afI have dabbled in BDSM. It's disturbing how many men see themselves as these amazing D types when all they want is to rough you up and fuck without even having to pretend to care about your needs. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 16/01/21 02:02 AM |
| 5 | Proud of myselfWell done!! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 12:23 PM |
| 17 | YOUR pleasure is just as important as his, if not more. Act like it!This! The clitoris is quite big, with only the tiniest part visible externally. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 15/01/21 06:18 AM |
| 41 | Don't let them trick you, BDSM was never empowering.I remember feeling really put out when a sexual partner I had didn't want to pull my hair and rough me up a bit. It was really hard to accept that the reason he wouldn't hurt me was because he cared about me- after previous (and sadly future) partners would swear they cared and then do what they could to inflict pain on me | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 01:27 PM |
| 6 | Coming out of this relationship. It's been hellish. Listen to men who call their exes "crazy "OMG my ex tried to get me diagnosed BPD! My sister does have bpd and I won't deny some of the characteristics match, but my dx is anxiety and depression. I left my narc husband and then after a few months of him doing a stellar character assassination of me to anyone he could, I attempted suicide. While I was in the hospital recovering, he came in and had a meeting with the psych WITHOUT ME to push his agenda. And then he wondered why I wasn't interested in getting back together with him! | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 14/01/21 03:07 AM |
| 2 | How to spot a cheating manMy ex claimed I was the narcissistic abusive one in the relationship. I don't think so buddy! But as is the way, he isolated me from my supports, actually turned my bestie against me too and soured my relationship with my mum and sister. | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 08/01/21 07:00 PM |
| 2 | Dear ladies who love too much: You MUST protect yourselvesThankyou! I'm constantly doing everything to make other's lives easier even when it makes mine so much harder | /r/FemaleDatingStrategy | 31/12/20 12:49 AM |
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