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I agree it's insane to think to do that to someone without consent and I hate the trend in porn. But I thought it was women who wanted to be choked during sex? I've truly gotten the impression that men don't give a shit about this but some women are requesting it. I haven't had partners that requested it from me, but I've seen more women post about it online than men.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/25 05:41 PM
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I feel like more women would talk about how they have "That one guy" who actually knows how to cater to their needs in the bedroom I've seen women talk about this kind of guy. This is the basis of many FWB situations, isn't it? instead of all the "Straight men are terrible, selfish lovers" rhetoric People don't value discussing exceptions when ranting on these forums. They're out to vent and/or hurt people - not give people hope.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:42 PM
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Yeah sure, I wouldn't dispute that. But who's to say that doesn't happen? I would bet it does happen. It doesn't mean that most men who are good in bed have some fuck buddy on speed dial, though. Most of them are gonna struggle to get one in the first place.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 07:21 PM
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How would a woman know a man is good at sex without having sex with him? He has to get her into bed first. Men that are best at getting women into bed have the least incentive to perform well.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/25 06:47 PM
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Lot of people in this thread purposely missing the point. What else is new. This is an area where our biology hasn't caught up with the way we're structuring society. A lot of women date (or fuck) hypergamously and sex-positively for as long as they can and if the time comes where they need to lower their standards, they switch shit up. So many women treat sex like an amorphous tool. Natural and noble when they want it; disgusting and dehumanizing when we want it.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/25 09:31 PM
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I think men are looking for a formula because we feel that women essentially have one, yes. But I think the reasons they might dismiss a woman’s input on her attraction are more complicated than that.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 04:53 PM
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Who knows, maybe women already see the men in a similar way, but they are containing it (partially due to how they were raised). I think this is very likely happening. Women are trained to keep attraction to themselves or share it in the most subtle ways. I think another issue is that women have such limitless access to the male gaze and the male gaze is relatively uniform. The sundress is undefeated, for example. OTOH men don’t receive as much education in the female gaze and the female gaze va…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/25 03:57 PM
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There is definitely an element of misandry in the idea that men can taint women. I would not say that slut shaming is purely misandristic, though. There is still plenty of misogyny in it as well.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/25 01:15 PM
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There are plenty of women who won’t do this.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates23/05/25 01:10 PM
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I scrolled through the ppb subreddit recently and was grossed the fuck out. I think I would have to fundamentally view women as objects to be proud of going out with hot girls just because my money carried more weight in their country. I don't think I could look myself in the mirror if I accepted that the only way to find partnership was to essentially buy it. How could I respect myself if my partner doesn't?
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:45 PM
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I spend a lot of time trying to find reason in my (mostly theoretical) aversion to promiscuous women, women who dress very revealingly, etc. I generally think that I wouldn't resent that party so much if I had been let in.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/05/25 11:35 PM
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I've only read one or two and I don't really remember how much the dicks were described. But I have heard that women that read these books a lot get tired of euphemisms like "velvet wrapped steel".
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/25 03:20 PM
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I agree - kinks and desires should be well explored before settling down. The last thing anyone should want is a partner who has a sexual awakening 5-10 years into marriage and starts asking for things they can’t or don’t want to provide. That goes for men and women. And I think women understand this better than men in a way - but they want men who explored on the same timeline they did, which isn’t really accessible for most of us.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 03:09 PM
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Probably not, no. There’s no reason to care about that if you’re having the same experiences.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/25 02:55 PM
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Maybe, but women don't like them back. Desperation creates simps. Women do not love desperation. And that lack of attention is what leads a simp to put women on a higher and higher pedestal, perpetuating the cycle.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/25 06:22 PM
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There are more of them Attraction to trans women is more threatening to men’s sexuality than attraction to trans men is to women’s, since society permits women to be more sexually open than men There’s an argument, however valid, that trans women are a threat to women’s sports. There is no argument that trans men are a threat to men’s sports. These are a few possible reasons off the top of my head.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates22/04/25 05:20 PM
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Uh, no. It's "if you thought she was an attractive woman, don't claim you can't be attracted to someone with a penis, who was born a man, etc" because the ship has sailed. And it doesn't preclude deciding you're not interested anymore after learning more information.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:58 AM
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Yeah why use your brain to respond to a comment when you can just call them a pedophile instead. That's the kind of brilliant logic I come to this sub for.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 03:30 AM
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I think what's funny about some of these responses is that they assume they haven't already been attracted to trans women. It's the same as the lip filler thing - you think you can always tell, but the reality is you only clock the ones that aren't done well. There's a reason trans women are (crudely) referred to as "traps." The attraction occurs before your mind can intervene with the reasons you're not open to it. I'd give it a try in the short term; why not? I see pretty girl, I'm interested.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/25 12:49 AM
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Blaming feminists for this is entirely irrational in my opinion. I'm not blaming them entirely. I'm saying they've been the most vocal, organized, and arguably visible contingent of the American left throughout a decade where we've somehow lost two presidential elections and are actively losing a culture war to absolute morons and they deserve a proportionate share of the blame. And feminists love to rattle off shit like "goes to show how much they hate women." No, goes to show how much they hat…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 02:24 AM
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He is radicalizing. But he's radicalizing like Al-Qaeda is radicalizing. He shouldn't even have an audience. What are the conditions that led people to him? The fact that kids raised in a society where feminists have had more institutional power and more of a voice than ever are even vulnerable to him means something was going wrong long before he got to them.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 01:00 AM
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Trump getting the nom in 2016 should have been a fucking slam dunk for the left. Andrew Tate should be a fucking slam dunk for the left. The fact that feminism has been at the forefront the progressive zeitgeist for the past 10 years and hasn't produced anything that can beat these morons is an abject failure. You should not be losing young men to some idiot swinging nunchucks around on the deck of a boat. The shit is dark comedy.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/12/24 12:35 AM
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It feels good to feel physically desired. It feels bad for that to be the only thing valued about you. Objectification doesn’t cross that line on its own.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates04/10/24 05:51 AM
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Do men not have a right to defend themselves? Who's saying that? I don't see the tweet or OP saying anything about that. I see a low effort post that had generated no discussion about this until I said something and you needed to defend it.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/02/24 10:46 PM
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Can this sub please not go down the road of "equal lefts for equal rights"? I don't want to fucking circlejerk about women losing violent confrontations. It's got nothing to do with male advocacy. If you want to have a deeper conversation about how men are represented in media, then start that conversation, but this post is low effort garbage. The tweet here isn't even about him being a man.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates17/02/24 10:21 PM
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I'd love to see where this guy is seeing this overdiscussed.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates15/02/24 09:06 PM
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It mostly deals with the realities of the psychology of women It mostly deals with decidedly subjective thoughts about the psychology of women.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates09/02/24 12:07 AM
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Folks can deny it as long as they want. The problem will continue to grow until we change course and try to address the root problem here.
/r/LeftWingMaleAdvocates01/02/24 07:47 PM
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No. I think pretty much everyone is somewhere on the bi spectrum and only women are permitted to realize it.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/12/23 07:42 PM
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It's a useful metaphor for starting to come to grips with the state of dating. But it shouldn't be where one's thoughts come to a stop.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/23 10:19 PM
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Nah man I've seen a lot of dudes say some mentally challenged shit on this sub but now you're literally comparing yourselves to forrest gump
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/23 03:41 AM
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shallow, prefer ‘chads’ or bad boys to good men, unchecked hypergamy etc These arguments are not opposed to "personal responsibility."
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 01:13 AM
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No matter how you slice it, I would rather choose from an abundance of options than have none. Talk to women about taking initiative and more often than not, you'll hear that they won't because of how crushing it was the couple times they did it. They have the privilege to think that way. If we switched bodies, a man would face the task of filtering his options and the woman would face the task of creating something from nothing; which she already likely fears to the point of refusal. I cannot f…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 01:07 AM
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The next time when she try to filter out men, swiping right on only 30 men => success rate at 50% And what do you figure will be the success rate of swiping right on 30 women as a man?
/r/PurplePillDebate17/11/23 12:57 AM
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With this logic, you might as well say women aren't into men at all if they weren't into you. Some women are into some older men. Idk why yall are always trying to dumb shit down to universal truths.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 04:44 PM
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No one that has a throwaway account exclusively dedicated to posting on this subreddit is in any position to lecture anyone on "steeping in hate."
/r/PurplePillDebate16/11/23 01:09 AM
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100% You could describe most women as "demi." Wow you need to like the person first...
/r/PurplePillDebate15/11/23 02:54 PM
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It's unhealthy for a man not to ejaculate several times a week. Porn is a tool that they use to do so when they don't have other means. Erotica and imagination are also available, but we're visual creatures so of course we'll prefer the visual option. And their "sexual energy" is going somewhere else in any case.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 09:00 PM
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Funny how feminism is supposed to make the world better for everyone right up until a guy asks how it's improving his life.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:50 PM
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Everyone likes looking at women. Y'all only like looking at pictures of the guys you're into. There's not enough incentive for boys to develop that skill.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 06:45 PM
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No more ridiculous than the women sleeping with them because they're "mature" and have money imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 02:00 AM
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What does what those guys are after have to do with you?
/r/PurplePillDebate12/11/23 01:55 AM
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Y'all love this misdirection shit. Aren't even capable of answering a single question.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 10:11 PM
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it’s kinda pathetic and silly It's so convenient how often yall date older men when you're younger (edit: and shit on guys your age calling them immature and not man enough for you) and then judge your male peers when they get the opportunity to get their end of the deal. There are definitely some creepos out there but 20-something women are also just hot..? There's a difference between marrying someone and having a fling that both parties know is going nowhere. What's pathetic about fucking som…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:36 PM
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Why not both? Why not more of one than the other depending on the situation?
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:32 PM
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I don’t think most women would be okay with a man who NEVER wanted to fuck her I don't think that either.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:23 PM
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The human penis does not* just respond to attraction. Men can get a boner when we're scared, nervous, unconscious, etc. If we really wanted to have sex with someone we didn't find attractive, a lot of us could. But moreover, OP said women have to do nothing to attract men. Just because he finds some woman unattractive doesn't mean every other man thinks so. Most of our nets are pretty wide but there are still a variety of tastes among men.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 09:06 PM
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I don't think there's anyone can do about it; it's biology. How could it be an issue of men having standards when we're not being chased? We are genetically predisposed to want more sex and it will never physically cost us anything. Women have to carry a pregnancy for 9 months - they will always be selectors. This is true throughout almost all of nature. What's so frustrating is that society tells you we're above that when it really is that simple in the end.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 08:52 PM
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Ah yes, because no other human beings are involved when women's hormones are acting up and because men can only view sex in the most simplistic means possible. What a solid, airtight argument you've constructed here.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 05:37 PM
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Don’t they feel angered or offended by the idea that they’re perpetually horny animals who constantly pursue sex? I personally feel offended by the assumption that if we do, it makes us stupid and objectively, morally wrong. I remember when I first started hearing about women and AFAB taking test and going "oh shit. Is this how yall have been feeling every day?" I realized I've been taught to respect women's hormones without expecting an ounce of respect for my own. And no, this does not excuse …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/11/23 04:45 PM
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Height is an objective measurement that's not immediately evident from photos. Weight is deceptively objective. The same weight presents very differently on different people. And 119 pounds vs 120 is a very dumb way to try and judge someone's fitness. You can judge a person's body type by their photos. And if they only have closeups of their face, they're fat. No filter needed. If this is a double standard, and I don't think it is, it's the last one to put energy into. If you’re someone who like…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 06:06 PM
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Absolutely fucking not. There is no debate here. There is no help. People come here to vent. That's it.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/11/23 03:25 AM
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True.. but they also need men to pay. Not that they can't necessarily find ways to monetize a concept like this but I doubt it beats selling tinder gold to 5x the pop.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:30 PM
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If you actually like her and the concept of marriage. Fucking mind blowing, I know.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/11/23 05:23 PM
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They know what men have to face when dating and what women have to face when dating and they would choose the struggles men have any day of the week Doubt that has anything to do with anything since they don't have a choice and they wouldn't have the perspective to make an informed decision even if they did. Pointless, fallacious argument.
/r/PurplePillDebate31/10/23 04:27 PM
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I guess you just didn't read my comment at all, then.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 11:05 PM
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It turns out that algorithms want to show you content they know you DON'T agree with, because they want you to get outraged and comment. They show you the content you engage with. If that means being outraged and commenting then yeah. Clicking "don't show content like this" is still engagement. You're still on the app rather than just closing it. I cannot speak to tiktok but I have had similar experiences on youtube shorts. When I stopped hate-watching fresh and fit clips and shit like that, and…
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 10:39 PM
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men aren’t upholding their end of the deal either, as the average male salary is 45k As if it's a choice lol. Like we could just call a huddle at any time and bump the average male salary to 80k or something.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/10/23 08:44 PM
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The misdirection in this thread lol. Women on this sub couldn't admit to having a single advantage or privilege over men if there was a gun to their head. What's the point in arguing with them
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:03 PM
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Live your life. If you meet a woman you like, see where it goes. You can be social and meet people and pursue things as you choose without the stress of swiping for 30+ minutes a night.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/09/23 01:24 AM
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Posts here will never be productive. People don't come to this sub in pursuit of a goal. They come here to let out frustration.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:34 PM
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The dude shouldn’t be killing people over a rejection, period the end. Do you really think that this is what's under dispute here? The point I was making about OP was that whether you are asking if there's a "sweet spot" of honesty or saying that dishonesty can keep a woman safe, you are making an argument based on the idea that women's words can protect them. This argument inherently demands that saying the wrong thing will put them in danger. If the guy above is victim blaming by using this li…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 05:31 PM
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No OP is blaming the perpetrator for losing his marbles over hearing the word no. There’s no suggestion from OP that if the girl said anything different that it would have resulted differently. This is contradictory. Is it because he heard the word no or would the result have been the same if he didn't hear the word no? If it's not about what she said, why was this thread posted? Is there a problem with women being honest or not?
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 04:45 PM
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Good job blaming the victim. Isn't OP victim blaming by suggesting that the girl got herself killed by saying no? It's the same take from the other side.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:23 PM
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The boy offered her flowers and when she said no, he pulled a machete out of his schoolbag and killed her. Until that risk goes away, women have every right to give out fake numbers and false hope. They went to school together. They were gonna keep seeing each other every day. You think he wasn't gonna figure out that she was being dishonest with him? Her saying no was not the moment where this situation went wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/09/23 03:17 PM
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She would do things to try to get me to be more of a man and put her in her place if she was not acting in a pro social manner I spent a long time trying to deny that these women existed but I dated one recently that would literally say things like this. Be a man, put me in my place, etc. And at the same time expressed disappointment when I would say I had become disillusioned with modern feminism.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 02:04 AM
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It's also full of people cosplaying "guys who have no problem with it." You spend far too much time on subs like this to be anything else. Stop fooling yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/09/23 12:47 AM
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I’ll be waiting for a lifetime if I take this passive approach, potentially missing out on beautiful experiences. There's a difference between spending all your time chasing and being open to romance without centering it in your life.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 05:19 PM
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Social media is discouraging them from "bothering" women The knowledge that you don't just have to be the best option in the bar tonight, but better than any of the thousand guys she could pull up on tinder right now, is a unique burden that prior generations have not had to deal with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:22 AM
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I love the idea that there are retired Chads out there just casually finding their way to PPD to dispense their wealth of knowledge of women.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/09/23 03:05 AM
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Effectively you can say that 70% of men never were attractive enough How are you not delusional if you think only 30% of the male population is dateable but you've got a good chance of getting the partner you want? By definition, most women would not get a desirable partner even today.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:45 AM
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Right. The correct point of comparison is not the 50s when a woman didn't feel like she could support herself without a man. The correct point of comparison is literally just "pre-dating apps" and maybe "pre-social media" which you don't have to go that far back to reach.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/07/23 12:43 AM
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Nothing groundbreaking. Take initiative. Don't ignore your gut just because "at least bad boys are fun," as I've seen women say. And if you notice a negative pattern in the guys you're dating, acknowledge that you might be the common denominator. If you only date men that approach you, you're limiting your pool to the type of guy that will do that. If you're "not attracted to strangers," as I saw someone put it yesterday, you're limiting yourself to your social circle. If you lose interest in gu…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 10:51 PM
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He couldn’t handle being with someone beautiful I've seen this sentiment a couple times now. Being beautiful does not necessitate her lifestyle. She had that lifestyle before she dated him and it was therefore unreasonable for him to expect her to leave it - that much is absolutely true. However, the idea that she has to live like that because she's beautiful is delusional. There are beautiful women looking for all kinds of lifestyles out there. Including the absolute most traditional ones. This…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:36 AM
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Anyway, I think average guys struggle, but a lot has to do with environment. If you are in an environment where you meet & interact with enough new people then you probably will find some who are compatible occasionally, eventually. And indeed, OP, who is currently pursuing a masters, states his perspective is based on college. A place where everyone is the same age, women outnumber men, and most people (particularly women) haven't gotten too jaded about dating yet. School is the easiest dating …
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:11 AM
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That's OP's main problem aside from basic personal bias. He's too young to have any real perspective on the matter.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 04:07 AM
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From what I read through he came across as mega insecure and childish; but not a monster. I saw a comment in the popculturechat thread that said he hates women now because he grew up feeling fat and ugly. In a thread of women calling him an incel, it was hard to put my finger on what kind of immense societal pressure would make him base his worth around sleeping with women. So much shit about men trying to find women to control, give me a break. People are hypocrites. Hypocrisy does not a sociop…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 03:32 AM
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Fair enough. Having experienced these things at varying levels of severity from women, it's hard to buy that it's a gendered thing rather than a human thing. I'm sure it looks different from the other side. But I now understand better what women mean when they say these things.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:20 PM
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Thanks for these examples. I don't know; apart from the physical violence I just struggle to see how this is a gendered issue. Men have always complained about being emotional dumping grounds for their partners. Once women started saying it, it got a buzzphrase and became an issue for men to solve.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:08 PM
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My bad; rather than seek discussion on this sub I should spend all my time trolling like you.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 10:04 PM
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Where does the idea that "average and above average" men are struggling come from? From anecdotal experience; no different from the opposing side. OP at least is attempting to support his beliefs with statistical evidence.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:56 PM
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Okay, far more vague than what I asked for, but thanks. You did at least outline "emotional heavy lifting" as basically "logistics"; which I have admit doesn't sound nearly as dramatic. Those were the kind of examples I was looking for.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:36 PM
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Being therapist = above and beyond emotional support. This can look like dealing with trauma, uncontrolled anger, etc. At a finer level of detail, men are asking to talk about these issues? At length? Regularly? When do things transition from being a supportive partner to being a working therapist?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 09:22 PM
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Q4W: Can anyone explain to me what "women being therapists for men" and "women doing all the emotional heavy lifting" actually mean? Can you give some examples of what this looks like in daily life?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:57 PM
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That Hill article. You can't possibly blame all of this shit on men. They act like everything is hunky dory for women but while they're on those brunches with their friends, they're still out here on the apps, repeating the same dating patterns, and complaining about the men they date on socials. So everyone is upset. Yet men are the only ones that have to take accountability? Wake up to this bullshit, man. edit: Article aside, this post makes a good point. The discussion around this focuses on …
/r/PurplePillDebate30/06/23 08:56 PM
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Yeah when I get down about my dwindling opinion of women, I remember this. If women can persevere through a lot of shitheads, so can I.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 11:44 PM
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Not all book clubs meet multiple times per book. Those I've been to only meet once per book and don't even care if you finished it. It's just a way to combine a hobby with a social outing. There is no pressure.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/06/23 10:42 PM
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Nope
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 06:12 PM
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As a man, I think it’s a largely irrelevant number. People just want to make a false equivalence with height. Weight looks different on different people. It’s not an objective measurement like height. Two people the same height will always look equally tall. Sure one is more muscular and one is more skinny but they’re head to head standing next to each other. Two people the same weight can look drastically different and you’d never know by eye test. Different body types, different height, differ…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/06/23 04:44 AM
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been lurking these sort of subs for a while…and it’s pretty unanimous that women Hate being cold approached aka approached without sharing mutual friends or any social connection Don’t take advice solely from spaces that are only frequented by bitter people. No one happy with the opposite sex or the state of dating is coming to a sub like this. Factor that into how you evaluate what you read here. Some women hate being cold approached. It’s not unanimous.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/06/23 03:19 PM
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TikTok is an entertainment and provocation platform, it's not a place to get information on what a demographic of people is like. Enlightening, but that's not the point. You know full well men aren't the only ones taking harmful messaging from social media to heart. It's natural that social media influences how people think. The gravity of being threatened, stalked, harassed is much worse than the gravity of someone simply not consenting to date one... It's like you're purposely misunderstanding…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 09:21 PM
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That's a great post.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 09:05 PM
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A lot of people lose, yeah. Look at divorce rates. People have not proven to be great at choosing partners so far in the modern history of dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:59 PM
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But to my point, asking a woman out is a little more emotionally and socially charged than not being invited to somebody's wedding. There aren't a thousand tiktoks out there of employers complaining about people sending them resumes at imperfect times. And if you post asking for advice about forming a friendship with a man, the comments aren't gonna be up your grill immediately asking about if you made them feel unsafe. I hear all the time about how much gravity there is on the woman's end of th…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 07:18 PM
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I never suggested it's not something women have to deal with. I suggested that it's unnecessary.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:40 PM
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When they said no his line was "your ugly anyways". This seems like not only an all-around dick move, but irrelevant to the point. He'd have eventually scored regardless of insulting all those women.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:32 PM
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Then, when they try to figure out what's wrong, or seek help, or even encouragement, they run face first into a wall of denial, arrogance, dismissal, invalidation, and insults, confirming their outlook on life Totally. And it becomes more difficult with time to even discuss the idea of this without immediate dismissal or redirection.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:26 PM
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It's important for everyone to read those stories and know that there are predators in the world. It's also important not to treat all men like potential predators. I personally was in that mindset for a long time and have come to realize the cost of it; which is primarily that we're driving young men deep into communities that don't have their best interests at heart.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 06:16 PM
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I agree
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:24 PM
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People are too cavalier in how they talk about rejection. Most humans don't just have the ability to let shit roll off their back like that. "The worst thing she can say is no" and other dismissals of the reasonable fear of rejection (that must be overcome) are some of those little lies we tell young men that add up to the disillusionment many are feeling now.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 04:17 PM
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It's true that the more time you spend online, the more it feels like it's not okay to speak to women anywhere. But IRL people understand this is just how things work - if women aren't going to approach, men HAVE to. It doesn't mean that you shouldn't exercise tact, but couples have met at all the places the internet tells you not to approach - the gym, when the woman was out dancing on girls' night, mundane places like the grocery store. Even, yes, unfortunately, at women's place of work. It is…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/06/23 03:43 PM
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Damn, the people developing the pill for men gotta hire you. Sounds like you got some serious insight on this.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:58 PM
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This chick on r/amiugly talkin bout do I need a nose job I remember times I’ve been called attractive. I believe that shit. I really think I’m handsome. Can’t nobody take that from me. I can’t imagine what my self esteem would be like if I could get a thousand strangers hyping me up with a snap of my fingers.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:52 PM
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He has no legs and a bubble butt. That’s just good cartoon glute genetics.
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:32 PM
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Homie looks like he skips leg day
/r/PurplePillDebate22/06/23 03:21 PM
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Theres no way some of these women don’t get constant validation but they always need a little bit more 🤌 What trips me out is they don’t participate in these communities. Bookending any popular post on one of those subs are men with little to no comments but these women cba to give what they receive. They swoop in, get the happy brain chemicals, and get out.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:26 PM
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You’re close to a breakthrough here. Keep turning that thought over in your head.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/06/23 01:11 PM
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Testosterone gives men higher sex drives; that doesn’t mean women have no sex drive or that their sex drives are so low they don’t think about sex outside of relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 04:48 AM
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This is just a guess, but OP might be tired of seeing women act enlightened for being above sex. The actionable part would be removing the thread of condescension from every "we want something more than [this thing that we all enjoy as humans but only some of us enjoy in abundance]." Fat chance, I know. Not like anything good comes of anything posted on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:11 AM
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To put things into perspective: a 'happily single' woman is like that trust fund kid 'finding himself' by traveling the world and living among poors as a 'wandering bohemian'. But unlike the hobos he encounters along the way he is at peace of mind knowing he can step-out of this life at any given moment, for the trust fundie that way of life is a choice, for the poor it's a matter of of reality and circumstance. Damn if this aint a hilariously accurate analogy.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 02:04 AM
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Yes, this is the intellectual dishonesty OP is talking about. We've all known and seen countless women that do, in fact, enjoy casual sex at times. Not ALL the time. Neither do men. But you're gonna sit here and tell us these women don't exist. Okay. Maslow's Hierarchy of Needs. When a need is met - and sex is a need for almost all humans - they seek the next need. Part of OP's point is that this nonchalance many women claim toward sex is a result of their access to it. Men's desperation is a re…
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/23 01:55 AM
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We can’t complain about a lack of female honesty and then also complain when they’re actually being honest I don’t understand this logic at all. Does being honest shield someone from all critical thought? How far can I take this? Can I say anything if I’m just being honest?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/06/23 02:48 PM
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Half of it is grifting and the other half is being terminally online.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 11:46 AM
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Was bored and took a look at r/hingeapp. The amount of profile review requests is depressing. Save your energy, boys - it’s not your profile. The numbers are not in our favor. You really do gotta go to a bar and do it the old fashioned way.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 11:29 AM
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So you acknowledge that men value emotional support from their partners. I just wanted to establish that we’re all aware men care about more than “sex and physical attraction.”
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 09:01 AM
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I disagree with most of these goofy macho man, sigma grindset points but this is onto something: Men who struggle emotionally the most are those with more feminine expectations for social interactions and dating. It does not help that women also feel less attracted to those men, which makes them feel even worse. Women rave about emotional availability but some (maybe a lot) of them don’t reward it. I’ve had a woman I dated use vulnerability I showed her against me. Aint that some shit.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 08:19 AM
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Based on comments in this sub, men put all the weight on sex and physical attraction. Nothing else. Ever. No lol. And you know how I know women know this isn’t true? How many times I’ve heard women complain about being “made into boyfriends’ therapists.” Which segues well to your next point Women are willing to ask for help and support. Men refuse and get angry. Just my experience: the last therapist I saw was a woman who encouraged me to see a male therapist who could relate to men’s dating iss…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/06/23 08:06 AM
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If that was true this sub would not exist lol. Who upvoted this comment, the women? Men don’t typically get taken off the dating market. Men’s ability to leave the dating market depends on their willingness to seek out a partner. A belief in exclusivity has nothing to do with that.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 09:12 PM
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Woman realizes she’s not as progressive as she thinks she is in real time Must be men’s fault
/r/PurplePillDebate09/06/23 06:53 AM
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Okay FDS
/r/PurplePillDebate15/12/22 09:40 PM
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it seems like there’s a bit of jealousy going on. Oh of course there is. In men’s minds women have access to everything we want.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 10:26 PM
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Question, would you be fine with your girlfriend spending money and buying videos from a male OF creator? Well there’s a difference between paying for porn on OF/elsewhere and having a pseudo-relationship with a creator. A lot of “tipping” on OF is just a financial transaction for PPV content. Paying for porn is fine; I wouldn’t care if a partner did it. Messaging repeatedly with a creator would be crossing into emotional cheating territory and not be okay imo. I would be put out if they were ti…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 03:42 PM
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If you’ve chosen your partner well and you’re trustworthy, they won’t ask, right? This isn’t even a thing I’ve heard normal people talk about.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/12/22 01:42 AM
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I believe that men are healthier in bad relationships than single. And I believe that women are healthier when single than when in bad relationships. I think both ultimately desire companionship. But women have an easier time leaving it when it's not working for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/12/22 04:05 AM
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But you can see them how
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 11:14 PM
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Interesting analogy. I’d call it more like processed store bought food. Maybe not ideal but not inherently unhealthy on a daily basis.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/12/22 10:01 PM
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I moved to a new town maybe 5 years ago and admittedly it’s harder to meet people in your 40s and 50s than it was in my 20s As someone that lives in florida it feels the opposite lol. Very easy to find meetups with 40+. Lower 30s and below is tougher depending on the activity.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/12/22 11:13 PM
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A lot of guys seem to think women are really fucking stupid. A huge piece of dialogue around men and women is how men will fuck anything. How would women not know this? There are no women turning 35 going, “oh my god, they didn’t care about my thoughts on the spanish inquisition at all!”
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 05:02 AM
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Projection all the way down with a lot of fellas on this sub.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/12/22 01:23 AM
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I need to start a copypasta of all the street interviews I’ve seen of women talking about dad bods to demonstrate what they mean when they say “dad bod.” It is not homer simpson.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/12/22 07:20 AM
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I feel sorry for men in the sense of they’re really having to up their game of being better fathers and partners and they haven’t had the encouragement or support for this from male groups like women have. This is a good point. Aside from the fact that men are getting less community support, there are far more boys without fathers than girls without mothers out there. There are a lot of gaps in learning how to be good men.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/11/22 01:17 PM
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I don’t watch her show, but I have been bombarded with many clips of her. I wouldn’t judge her to be acting in “good faith.” She’s as dogmatic as any redpill influencer and seems to only bring on guests that are easy to argue with.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/11/22 11:05 PM
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