karsteniana Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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10	Know yourself I had the same realization some months back and came to the same decision as you! I decided to stop dating altogether and just focus on self-improvement and self-care. There were other reasons as well (like, you know, scrotes being scrotes) but also I did not like the anxiety and low self-esteem that always came with dating someone, and I'm someone who otherwise does not have anxiety or esteem issues. I honestly think a small amount of anxiety is inevitable in the early stages when you meet some…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	28/03/20 03:41 AM
6	I like this sub but I can’t find women like you anywhere :( It says a lot that one of the top priorities you focused on was sex instead of, say, working on your interpersonal skills or reading books about how to be a good partner. And then in your quest to get good at sex you had a lot of casual sex, if I'm reading you right. Whether intentionally or not you treated these women you had sex with along the way as experiments to help you reach your goal instead of, you know, whole human beings. So is it any wonder that you now give off the vibe to the women…	/r/askFDS	20/03/20 04:32 PM
9	Would I regret staying single forever? Look up Cheryl Strayed's "The Ghost Ship That Didn't Carry Us". But also, if you do inflict your red flags on some poor woman there is always the possibility you would end up regretting it anyway when she eventually divorces you at 40, 50, 60.	/r/askFDS	16/03/20 06:11 PM
2	A list of Liberal Feminism’s Effect on Relationships Already loving the sound of it 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/03/20 04:03 PM
1	A list of Liberal Feminism’s Effect on Relationships Thanks! I've been meaning to read her work, I'll get right on it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/03/20 04:03 PM
9	A list of Liberal Feminism’s Effect on Relationships Thanks for this. It's something I've been thinking about a lot as I've come to realize how liberal feminist ideas have failed me and a lot of my friends, making women believe that it's "empowering" to have casual sex and support guys watching porn when in fact we end up getting hurt - only to gaslight ourselves that we're really fine! We're loving it! I've been trying to look for reading material on this subject, specifically how the sexual revolution and liberal feminism have had unintended con…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/03/20 04:06 AM
71	Experiences With Selfish Men? Right here with you. Was married to a selfish man for a decade and have dated a string of LVMs, all of whom were selfish in one way or another, since. An example? My ex was your typical LVM who never lifted a finger around the house, would get paggro if I asked him for help because he didn't LiKe My ToNe, was constantly gaslighting me and then was completely shocked, SHOCKED, when I filed for divorce. I'm fully embracing the radical feminist man-hating life now.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/02/20 12:39 PM
8	Why Are They Non-committal? So I've been trying to find research on this very topic and came across this article from 2013 in The Atlantic. The main person interviewed is an LVM named Jacob and wow it was...enlightening, in a way that also made me want to barf: https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/01/a-million-first-dates/309195/	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/20 02:36 PM
16	So disappointed. I'm so so hurt and angry for you but SO PROUD that you walked away, blocked and deleted like a real queen. And I've been there - that realization that comes after every disappointing man - that I may never have the relationship I want, that I have to be my own dream partner, that I have to be enough for myself. And yes - I already am enough, I already have my dream life. I have my shit together and I am so happy single, but goddammit it gets so tiring to pick myself up after every disappointment…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/02/20 01:58 PM
10	Use FDS quietly, men don’t need to be told what you expect from them, men don’t need a chance to explain themselves This may seem ironic but being really upfront and acting fierce about your boundaries actually signals to an abusive man that you are a pickmeisha. If in the early days he displays some red flag behavior and you tell him off about it, he will actually feel quite delighted that he's not only discovered your boundary but managed to upset you. This tells him you are vulnerable, and he will use this to exploit you. I speak from experience - a former friend of mine who turned out to be a pickmeisha m…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/20 04:05 PM
1	What do you typically look for in a FWB? OP, I wish you the best of luck in your adventures! The comments have been super helpful so far but if I may I have a question for you ladies: How important is it to you that your FWB engage in activities with you aside from sex? This is something I'm exploring right now and I'm starting to get the sense that maybe it's best to only meet FWBs for sex and not do anything else with them, because it's the other stuff that leads to attachment and feelings. What do you think?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/01/20 05:11 AM
11	Made plans with my girlfriends. Thanks FDS. Similar thing happened with me this week. Dude says let's meet on Sunday, but he may have to cancel because he's getting a tattoo on Saturday (uh OK...) Saturday evening he tells me "Oh I can't meet tomorrow after all, I have to keep this tattoo wrapped up for the next five days." I just said, "No worries, I expected you to bail so I made other plans already." He TRIED to act chill, and was all like "Haha well done, always have a back up!" Five minutes later he double texts: "Another guy? Haha."…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/01/20 12:43 AM
7	Men who string women along for sex are a special kind of evil. This is me right now. But I’m quickly realising that even when I enter these arrangements with very low expectations, the men manage to disappoint or upset me one way or another. Case in point: the last guy I had NSA sex with texted me the very next day just to inform me that he had just met and slept with a woman who looked just like me, but younger. I was fully aware we were not exclusive of course, but come on!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	10/01/20 03:03 PM