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| 129 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be nice | Conversation | kate_b87 | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 06:55 PM |
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| 1 | Toxic/low value behavior I have seen in most men that enter game that you need to be on the lookout for.What the heck are major pick up groups? 😳 | /r/seduction | 18/10/22 07:03 AM |
| 1 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?And my point is, women don’t like shallow men especially when the men themselves can’t pass their own shallow standards. Its one thing for guys to approach you because your looks caught their attention and they are attracted to you and it’s another thing for men to approach you because they think your looks pass this imaginary scale. It’s not you they want, it’s the idea of you and a lot of times, the idea of bragging about “bagging” you. It’s very demeaning and hurtful. And women can tell the d… | /r/seduction | 19/09/22 12:45 AM |
| 1 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?He said his interactions are always with overweight women (not by his choice). Wanna bet most of them are not liking him because they find him “very attractive”? Chubby women have been put down a lot so know they are not the beauty standard and they choose men with that in mind. So on dating apps that they tend to go for men who seem approachable looks-wise, aka mid, aka 5s-6s Irl, chubby women may go for hotter looking guys but will settle with a nasty attitude because they feel they don’t dese… | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 10:04 PM |
| 1 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?Tl;dr a guy who is barely a 5 is not hot enough to be a jerk about beauty standards | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 09:40 PM |
| 1 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?It’s okay to have preferences. Everyone has preferences but referring to people as an upgrade or a downgrade based on their looks is a shit thing to say- for both men and women. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 09:22 PM |
| 1 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?It’s not about having preferences, it’s about how he is talking about people who don’t meet his preferences. It’s the mindset of thinking those who are not within his preference is a downgrade. It’s like you’re talking about a car. It’s a kind of objectification. You have to realise that any woman of substance does not want to hear you are with them for their looks. They appreciate being called pretty, sure but not that they were filtered out by weight. Women put a lot of effort in looks because… | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 09:09 PM |
| -2 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?Well, as he so eloquently put it in the title, he wants an upgrade. He’s not looking for variety because he’s concerned with diversity or getting to know different cultures. Generally speaking, conventionally attractive people get a leg up in dating apps because the photo is the first thing you notice on the profiles. Lucky for men, looks matter less for women than what you might think. So if conventional beauty is not a strength, make a solid profile description. Most women will like a profile … | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 01:49 PM |
| -9 | I pretty much only get a chance at fat women online. How do I upgrade?This is laughable. Let me match your energy for a second so you know how this sounds to women. Do you think it’s fair to want to “upgrade” when most women will consider you a downgrade? No offense to short kings online! Most women, even the upgrades mostly go for personality. Contrary to stereotypes, “upgrades” don’t like to be dated just for their looks and you’re giving a shallow vibe. | /r/seduction | 18/09/22 11:55 AM |
| 4 | When someone says there is "lack of connection" what exactly is that?There’s no spark. Maybe the conversation did not flow effortlessly. Maybe she found herself getting bored at some point. That’s what it means to me, anyway | /r/seduction | 13/09/22 04:09 PM |
| 1 | I was in a nightclub lastNight and tried out a more direct approach with womenYikes 😬 | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 09:45 PM |
| 1 | Flocks of women dancing by meIf its a dance floor, women will dance around you a lot because they’re dancing too. It’s kinda like singing with whoever is beside you at a concert. Staff mention it too? What exactly are they saying? Do you hand around after closing and have a friendly chat with them? Bartenders and servers won’t usually set you aside while working because it tends to be busy. If they’re mentioning people dancing with you, it’s possible that they’re just making small talk like they do with everyone else. sayin… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 09:41 PM |
| 2 | Rebounding on a compliment from a woman?Some women grind on you in a karaoke bar? Is this while you’re singing? Are these women you know? That’s very strange if they don’t know you. Kinda like saying people grind on you at comedy bars. Is it the type of karaoke bar when you’re not on stage but just sing from your seat? If so, they’re probably just dancing like they would do at bars. When they comment “wow, you’re the best at finding great songs” it makes me think these are women you are maybe acquainted with because it implies they’ve… | /r/seduction | 12/09/22 09:26 PM |
| 2 | When you meet a girl initially, do you focus on getting to know her alone or with some playfulness/teasing/flirting?I think the most important thing is to make the girl feel comfortable. So, I would say go with whatever she responds better to. You will get further with a girl is she feels safe with you. | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 08:52 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI’m never tried online dating. I’ve been with my husband for over 8 years and online dating was just gaining traction back then. So I’m partial to meeting someone organically. I never minded guys approaching me as long as they were respectful and mindful that they didn’t make me feel cornered. I first met an ex-boyfriend at the uni library. I was still a senior in high school but had some friends in uni and was awaiting for them there. I was reading and he came up to me and said hi. | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 02:11 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceIf there’s enough attraction and tension, asking “do you want to go back to my place” does the trick. If you want to play it a bit safe, prelude it with something like “please tell me if I’m way off base here but…” More importantly, be gracious even if they say no. Word travels around especially if you’re all from campus. | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI would like to say that the previous relationships I had (excluding hook ups) ended for different reasons but at the root of it, they all ended because for one reason or another I didn’t feel valued enough. Some of these slights against me were real and some were just perceived by me. Also, I was young and lacked self-awareness and proper communication skills. I would say the same about some of my exes as well. As for my marriage, I am invested in it because we have almost a decade of history b… | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 01:50 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceIt is possible. Im in an age gap relationship myself. And while my husband is older than me, I’ve seen relationships between older women with younger men thrive. I think it’s important though to have something in common with your age gap partner. Being with them solely because they are younger/older can be problematic | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 01:37 AM |
| 3 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be nice“Bad boy” is such a tricky term and so hard to qualify. It can mean anything from a rebel who fights the status quo to a womanising frat boy, to a guy selling drugs at the corner of Swanson and 4th. 😅 Either way I do think that certain girls are attracted to “bad boys” sometimes it’s the girls who need some adventure. Sometimes it’s the girls who feel “bad boys” can protect them, sometimes it’s the feeling that this guy is an ass to everyone else but a real softie with me. I think this is akin t… | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 01:34 AM |
| 3 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI can’t help you find a girlfriend. I’m not a dating service. Lol. But I would advise you to end your current relationship and work on your emotional and mental well-being before diving into another. Otherwise, you might just find yourself in the same loop with a different person. | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 12:44 AM |
| 1 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceNo. I think it’s sweet. Women in general like when you remember little things. It shows that you pay attention. Good luck on your date and have fun at the concert 😊 | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 12:39 AM |
| 2 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI would say that women (and men) have a list of general rules they follow in dating or in relationship but there will always be someone who you will bend the rules for. You will make exemptions for the one you love/like a lot | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 12:36 AM |
| 4 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceThere are a lot of people who have pretty privilege. All they have to do is stand there and smile and people will flock to them. They will always get more girls/guys than the average looking person with the same set of skills and personality. It’s just the way it is. But it doesn’t mean that average looking people don’t get someone too. Personally, for me, the looks department have more to do with grooming and how they dress and present themselves rather than actual physical attributes beyond th… | /r/seduction | 11/09/22 12:29 AM |
| 5 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceThank you. I appreciate that 😊 | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 11:37 PM |
| 3 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI think couples who break up and decide keep the friendship have a great likelihood of getting back together- could be temporarily or just sexually - because you are used to each other and will miss each other and being available to each other immediately after a break up will likely make you give in to the comforting familiarity. I’ve had a guy I dated on and off for a while. It was a mostly toxic relationship- lots of fighting and screaming but also lots of sweet vulnerable moments with each o… | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 10:36 PM |
| 2 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceDiffering opinions don’t always have to be in harmony. I think it’s more about having a better understanding where each party is coming from. When you start seeing things from someone else’s perspective, I think it’s easier to build a relationship with them, whether or not you share the same opinion. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 09:48 PM |
| 49 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI think it is. Most guys are still not very expressive of their feelings in front of girls so I think guys showing some vulnerability and figuring out dating and what women think in sort of the same way girls do is endearing. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 09:39 PM |
| 1 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceGenerally, it’s attitude that turns me off. Some guys are very self-absorbed and would constantly talk about themselves Then there are guys who scare me a little bit. They will be calm but you can sense a bit of anger they’re trying to hold back. It shows in flashes when you talk about things they feel strongly about- religion, politics, women, etc Aside from attitude, a specific one that turns me off that I can’t help is someone who has saliva that pools on the side of their mouth when they tal… | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 09:32 PM |
| 6 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceHow old is this person? Sounds like something a teenager would do. She’s either quite young or really unstable. Lol. In any case, she doesn’t seem to be in the appropriate headspace for a relationship. Based on the information you’ve presented, I don’t think pursuing a relationship with this kind of person will be beneficial for either of you. I would say just move on from it. While you’re at it, think if you are actually attracted to her and all these things she’s doing or does it just gives yo… | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 09:27 PM |
| 5 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI don’t know her so I can’t say for sure if giving you her phone number for car trouble was an excuse or not. But telling her “I hope we could chat” seems to fall in the general scenario I talked about earlier. If she’s still friendly, try to broach the topic by saying “hey, how’s your car? I texted you about it but didn’t hear back from you” because it’s also possible she saw your text and just completely forgot to reply. Her response should give you a good gauge of what she thinks | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 09:15 PM |
| 24 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceIt depends on how they approach you and what I am currently doing. If I’m rushing somewhere, it might not even register properly- just a quick nod and thanks and continue on my way. If I’m just hanging out with friends or in a similarly relaxed setting, it will depend how you approach me. If friendly and unassuming, I will be flattered. If it’s a bit aggressive and the choice of words are weird, I would be scared. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 08:50 PM |
| 40 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceWhere is this happening and what is the nature of your relationship? Context is important, I think. For instance, when talking to a superior at work or client or making a presentation, I used to keep constant eye contact when talking to them. If it’s in an informal setting and you think she seems interested, just approaching and saying “hi, my name is…” is a good start. If she engages, just keep on talking. If not, you may have read it wrong which is t something to feel bad about. It’s part of d… | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 08:33 PM |
| 13 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceYes. We talked about having kids extensively before having any. Initially, he was the one more keen on starting a family because he was older than me. I was 26 and he was 38 when we started dating, but I happily and wholeheartedly agreed because he made me feel safe and secure about having children. I knew he would take very good care of our family. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 08:27 PM |
| 14 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceHow long is it when you say “it doesn’t last long”? And at what stage of the relationship is this- like early talking stage? What exactly do they say when they break it off? Did they say it’s because you’re not funny or is that your assumption? When I just start talking to someone, a sure fire way to get me bored is if they constantly talk about themselves and humble brag and don’t ask me questions about me. Or if they ask questions, they will sort of interrupt and tell a similar story of their … | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 08:23 PM |
| 24 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI have my personal preferences in the looks department but it’s doesn’t have as much weight as my preferences in over all attitude and intellect. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 08:16 PM |
| 11 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceWhat did she give you her number for and what did you text her about? There were times I gave my number to people to connect about something like a project or a hobby or because we know the same person, but then they text me that gave a vibe that they wanted something else. That can be kind of awkward. I usually try to clarify it nicely but I can understand why some girls will just not reply to it instead. Or possible that they got busy. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 08:13 PM |
| 25 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI think number one is keeping an open, honest, respectful line of communication. Our partners may not always grant our every need or want which if accumulated enough can lead to resentment or feelings of not being wanted. A lot of times, though, your partner may not have a full understanding of what you want which is why they fall short. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 07:59 PM |
| 25 | Do you guys need a woman’s POV? I’m willing to answer questions but be niceI became sexually active at 17 and met my husband when I was 26 so in that 9 year period, my accumulated sexual partners is about 17. Some of them were relationships, some were fwb situations, and some were hook ups. | /r/seduction | 10/09/22 07:49 PM |
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