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katiemonster/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 07:24 PM
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katiemonster/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 04:33 PM
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I would not have a problem dating a single dad, especially now that I'm a little older (late 20s). As /u/_wingnut_ said, it shows good character that a man would both want and be able to obtain custody of his children. I would be wary of "baby mama drama," of course, and I would want to be sure that he still wanted more children (I wouldn't mind being a step- or adoptive mom, but I also want my own), but theoretically I would be OK with it. When I was younger, I may have felt differently. Partly…
/r/RedPillWomen02/11/15 08:05 AM
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Hmm, must be where you live. I'm from the Southern California area originally, and most of the Jewish people I know are Conservative and in their 20s and 30s. Even online, though, if you present yourself as Orthodox and looking for an Orthodox man, it's going to severely limit your options. Your dating pool is already smaller than most, since Judaism is a definite minority in the US, and looking for an Orthodox-except-not-really guy is really pigeon-holing yourself. You'll find much better quali…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 11:38 PM
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So, I'm not Jewish, but I do know quite a bit about Jewish culture after being in a relationship with a Jewish man for several years. It sounds to me like a lot of your problem is that you're trying to date within the Orthodox community without really following Orthodox customs or wanting an Orthodox man. I'm sure it's very difficult to date outside your community in terms of disappointing your family, etc., but I think you'd have much better luck connecting with a Conservative Jewish guy (or ev…
/r/RedPillWomen17/10/15 12:04 AM
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You should definitely stop tanning, as it is terrible for you (has been absolutely proven to cause skin cancer) and will make your skin age faster than anything else in the world. Other than that, as long as your partner is happy, you're fine. You don't need to worry about your SMV when you have a partner, because you're not on the sexual market. You just need to make sure your value to your partner remains high.
/r/RedPillWomen09/09/15 02:07 AM
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I assumed she said it in a sort of half-joking way, as in, "Oh, I guess they took your bagger away because you're so good you don't need the help!" You're right though, it could be condescending. I think it mostly just depends on how it was said.
/r/RedPillWomen02/09/15 06:17 AM
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Respectful to whom? Her ex? This is a teen relationship we're talking about here, not a 10 year marriage. She doesn't owe her ex anything. If she's ready to move on, she should move on.
/r/RedPillWomen01/09/15 02:34 AM
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Oh my gosh, yes! Haha. I still like the stuff NF itself puts out, but the women's Facebook group has been driving me batty lately! The woman who posted the other day about, "So I lose stuff all the time, even my wedding ring, but this time my husband misplaced my credit card while trying to clean up after I left it lying around, and he doesn't understand why I'm furious at him!" just pushed me over the edge.
/r/RedPillWomen31/08/15 05:49 PM
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She, Audrey Hepburn, and Kate Middleton are my style icons!
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 03:32 AM
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She has aged so beautifully. Not in the "I can afford to have a lot of work done" way that so many women in Hollywood do, but just in a natural, graceful way that comes from taking care of herself. I also love that she dresses in lovely, modest, age-appropriate clothing. Nothing is sadder than a middle-aged woman trying to look like a 21-year-old.
/r/RedPillWomen30/08/15 03:28 AM
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It's not so much that he met up with his ex. It's that he lied to you AND to her about it. He lied to you about where he was going and lied to her about having a girlfriend? That's not "catching up." I know this sucks, but I have been in this situation. Seriously, very similar, except that we didn't go long distance. And after I uncovered the first lie, they just kept coming. (And trust me, he made very pretty apologies too. He said ALL the right things, and I forgave him and chose to believe hi…
/r/RedPillWomen29/08/15 03:25 PM
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I saw your name before I noticed your "RP Man" flair, and went, "Oh man, what is she thinking with that username?!" Lol
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 08:13 AM
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A lot of what's wearing him down is frustration with his own inability to help you, I guarantee it. Our men want to be our heroes, and there's just nothing that he can do to take your pain away this time. Take /u/StingrayVC's advice. Go to him. Use him as your emotional rock instead of just your punching bag. Let out your grief to him, instead of just your anger. Let him know how much you need him. I suspect it'll be much easier for him to handle your emotional outbursts if you can remind him ho…
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 07:00 AM
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Let me know how it goes! I had pretty good skin to begin with (not a lot of acne, sun damage, or anything), but when I started using retinol & Vitamin C last year I could literally see the difference on my face within days. It was crazy and so exciting. I almost immediately stopped wearing foundation and haven't looked back since.
/r/RedPillWomen27/08/15 06:37 AM
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You should definitely spend some more time in the sidebar. RPW's only stance on sex is that you should be having it regularly with your husband/exclusive boyfriend, and never with anybody else. The kind of sex that you have is between you and your man.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 04:29 AM
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I just use the OTC stuff by Neutrogena. It has accelerated retinol SA, which is supposed to be a more "accessible" (for your skin) form of retinol than other types you can get OTC. I know you can get stronger stuff by prescription, but I feel like for now the OTC stuff is probably good enough for me. I use retinol before bed at night and sunscreen during the day and haven't had any problems with photosensitivity at all. I'm very fair skinned, too. They make kinds that are combined with sunscreen…
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 12:29 AM
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I'm still in the process of trying out new things and finding products that work for me. I will have to give the Shiseido sunscreen a try! Right now I'm loving the TonyMoly & MyBeautyDiary sheet masks, and the peach sake toner and finish powder by Skin Food.
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 12:22 AM
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Yes! I've just recently discovered them, and I'm having so much fun trying new products!
/r/RedPillWomen26/08/15 12:19 AM
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I've just discovered Asian skincare products and am still in the process of tweaking my routine (I'm excited to hear from some of the other ladies on this for tips!), but one thing I will swear by is RETINOL. I had thought, in my 20s, that I was too young for the really hardcore anti-aging stuff. Boy was I was wrong. It is expensive but so so so worth it. Retinol is wonderful and has completely changed my skin. I also use it on my arms where I have bumps and scars/discoloration from keratosis pi…
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 05:30 PM
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Are you lost? The women here won't.
/r/RedPillWomen25/08/15 04:53 PM
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How old are you? How long have you been with this guy? Anxiety, ADHD, and flakiness sound like a terrible combination if you're looking for a captain.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/15 05:37 PM
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I was going to say exactly this. I have a friend who had the opposite issue: she's a tall, slim, leggy blonde, and her boyfriend liked porn of short, busty girls. Men like variety. He probably likes all sorts of women's body types (most men do, within reason), so why would he watch porn of someone who looks exactly like you when he can use it to get a little variety? I doubt it has anything to do with you at all.
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/15 11:43 AM
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This is especially important for the ladies/girls who are still dating. Once you're married, you're married. Unless he's really a lost cause (physically abusive, cheating, etc.), you're going to want to try to make things work. Especially if there are children involved. But for girls who are still dating, you're working on finding your captain. Our goal should be to find a good captain and then submit to him, not to submit to the first guy who makes us tingle and hope that magically turns him in…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/15 12:36 AM
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We're only hearing one side of this story, but this guy honestly does not sound like a good captain. At the very least, the two of you do not sound like a good fit. Either your behavior is somehow making him feel very ill-at-ease with the relationship, or he is just an insecure, rather controlling dude. I think you should be thinking long and hard about whether this is really a man you could let be your captain for the rest of your life. Women go into relationships with men thinking they're goin…
/r/RedPillWomen15/08/15 12:21 AM
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There's nothing strictly wrong with dating multiple guys at the same time at first. That said, I personally don't think it's a great idea. A man isn't going to want to commit to you unless he knows you will commit to him, too. And what better way to show him that you want to do that than by focusing solely on him and not dating anyone else?
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 09:23 PM
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Really? You'd be ok with knowing your LTR had given hand jobs to a bunch of guys? I wouldn't encourage RPW to do anything they wouldn't be 100% fine with their future husband knowing about, and I know I would sure be awfully ashamed for him to know that I'd spent my 20s giving hand jobs to guys I barely knew. If he isn't ready to commit, he can go out and find himself a plate to "ease his suffering."
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/15 05:38 AM
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The man is grieving the loss of a parent/grandparent, and you're on him about a couple hundred dollars of his own money? Yikes. Treating your man like a child is one of the quickest, surest ways I know of to kill ALL passion in your relationship, and that's exactly what you're doing. If you really want the kind of relationship where you can throw a fit, send him to bed like a child (I'm still totally gobsmacked over this), and tell him how to manage his own money, then I think you're in the wron…
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 03:56 PM
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Thank you! I couldn't quite put my finger on why that statement bothered me so much (since there's obviously nothing wrong with watching how he manages his finances to see if he'd be a responsible captain), but you hit the nail on the head. SO patronizing!
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 03:41 PM
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So...you're mad at him because he got drunk (with you) and lost a couple hundred dollars of his own money? And then you responded by sending him to bed? I'm confused. I can't figure out why you're so upset about this. Have you guys been particularly short on cash recently? Does he have a history of being irresponsible with money (or in general)? Mistakes happen to everyone, especially when you've been drinking. Why are you so worked up over a couple hundred dollars that you're treating him like …
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 03:20 AM
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Oh definitely! I get all my face masks from Asian beauty supply places...they're awesome! I just wouldn't recommend getting prescription meds of any kind over the internet, because there's absolutely no guarantee of what you're really getting. People who sell drugs illegally online aren't known for their scruples...
/r/RedPillWomen04/08/15 01:47 AM
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This exactly. After browsing through her post history, it's pretty clear that OP has way more serious stuff going on than this sub is equipped to help her with. (Also buying face wash from Asia is one thing, but Retin-A is the prescription strength stuff. I still wouldn't recommend it...although it's less scary than the IUD!)
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 03:15 PM
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It doesn't sound like you respect this man at all. You very obviously look down on him...Why are you with him? I can't really comment on whether or not he's being a good captain (it's quite possible he's not, but we're only getting one side of this story), but you sound like drama and a half. Small tangent: As a nurse, I think he's absolutely right to be giving you a hard time about the way you're treating your body. Not the weight loss - I have no context to know whether you're being healthy ab…
/r/RedPillWomen03/08/15 06:36 AM
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No offense, because I've certainly been guilty of this myself, but it sounds like you're really just dying to get the last word in with this girl, and it's not going to be as satisfying as you think it is. If you really want to cut all contact...then cut all contact. You've already got a good "no talking" thing going, so why ruin it? The only reason to talk to this woman is if you want to reestablish some kind of relationship with her. And again, you're not the only one. I like to remind myself …
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 04:20 PM
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Not all of them will commit, though, no matter how hot/great the girl is. This is especially true when they're young. This is (a big part of) why we don't provide sex until we get some form of commitment. It has the dual benefit of more quickly weeding out the guys who won't commit and also helping keep your number low.
/r/RedPillWomen31/07/15 02:43 AM
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There's nothing controlling about expressing, as Laura Doyle puts it, "pure desire." In other words, there's nothing wrong with letting him know that you're ready to take the next step as long as you're not trying to push/control/manipulate him into anything. And especially since he was the one who brought it up in the first place, I think you're probably golden.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 06:11 AM
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I think she was replying to /u/KungPaoEllenTheFist. Get some sleep ;)
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 06:05 AM
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The captain/first mate dynamic is about leadership in a relationship, not value. If you're in a great relationship, you should both be bringing value to the table. Neither one of you should be doing the other person a favor by "allowing" them to be with you. Being with a great captain is a gift, but so is being with a great first mate. We don't know enough about their relationship to judge whether either one of them are meeting these standards. Don't get me wrong, I definitely agree with you abo…
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 05:53 AM
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The other way around? So him letting her be in his presence is a "gift"? Um, no. That's not the way this works, either.
/r/RedPillWomen29/07/15 02:03 AM
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I don't have a lot of experience in this area, so ignore my advice if the more experienced ladies disagree with me, but I would say you should pay attention to his actions, not his words. I know a couple of guys who have hang-ups, not about commitment, but about more "outward" signs of it, like labels, or putting relationships on Facebook. I don't think that's necessarily a bad thing. They take commitment seriously and mean what they say. Contrast that with the men out there who are happy to say…
/r/RedPillWomen28/07/15 05:26 PM
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Unless he's given you some indication that he's unhappy about this, let it go. Whatever you do, do not hamster this into a problem. Toss that thing a carrot stick and tell it to shut up. He's chosen you as a worthy partner: trust his judgement.
/r/RedPillWomen22/07/15 01:38 AM
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Same. I certainly get catcalled (mostly when I was living in LA), but 99% of the time it's completely harmless. I've been assaulted once and followed a few times, but normally the worst I get is, "Yeah baby!" Usually it's much nicer even than that.
/r/RedPillWomen20/07/15 05:14 PM
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True. A lot of them do believe what they're saying, though.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 07:27 PM
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Although, to be fair, women who support these laws (i.e. feminists) would call them "just." So it's not completely off base to refer to that as a "woman's concept of justice." You're absolutely right about the underlying motivations, though.
/r/RedPillWomen14/07/15 06:09 PM
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Whenever there's even remotely controversial topics in RPW you can observe tons of censorship here as well. The difference is that we don't pretend to be a non-biased discussion forum, though. I don't think anybody should be offended or surprised that our views aren't welcome on the feminism subs, or that their views aren't welcome in ours. We're not here to debate. /r/AskReddit or /r/relationships, in my opinion, should be more open since they (in theory) aren't espousing a particular viewpoint…
/r/RedPillWomen13/07/15 06:53 PM
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All women have a hamster. We don't all need to feed it.
/r/RedPillWomen11/07/15 01:56 AM
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He may honestly not view it as cheating. I have a friend who had a very similar issue in her relationship, in which her boyfriend was "addicted" to erotic chatting & exchanging pictures with women online. To him it was really just like interactive porn and was just something he did to help himself get off when he wanted to masturbate. That said...the fact that your husband has promised and failed to stop, and that he's dismissing your feelings is a huge red flag. This isn't a first offense. He k…
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/15 05:14 AM
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Welcome! We actually had a big thread on this topic on here recently, with a lot of the men chiming in as well. The consensus was that you should always go prepared to pay your share on a first date, and should offer (sincerely) to split the bill. That said, if he wants to pay, you should accept graciously and certainly not argue or insist on paying for yourself.
/r/RedPillWomen08/07/15 04:25 AM
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Thank you. I'm glad I could clarify a little bit. It's definitely a good point that white knights will pay for meals and be "chivalrous" as well, and it's not always easy to distinguish the two. I think a lot of my original take on this comes from my individual perspective. I live in a super liberal area, so feminist guys are extremely common around here. Also, while I am at very low risk of becoming an entitled princess (not bragging, it's just not at all in my nature), I am a former "Strong, I…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 08:00 PM
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The whole point is not to avoid the bait. Avoiding the bait is easy, just don't date. What we aim is to teach our readers how to get the bait that belongs to the kind of fisherman they want. Exactly this. It wasn't OP who asked for the men's opinions, it was me, and this is why. The "don't ask the fish" idiom doesn't work quite as neatly in reverse. RPW want to get caught. The problem is getting caught by the right kind of guy. If you want to know what kind of fish the fishermen are looking for,…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 07:41 PM
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Absolutely. I'm not saying I wouldn't say anything, if it was someplace I really wasn't a fan of, but unless you've gotten food poisoning there or have food restrictions they don't cater to, it's certainly not worth arguing about it. (And in those cases, I'm sure any reasonable guy would be willing to choose another venue.) What's worse, a mediocre dinner or an argument with your partner?
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 07:06 PM
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Uh...no. This is not RP advice.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 04:11 PM
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I don't disagree with a lot of what you're saying. I would, however, just like to explain my "a bit of a red flag" quote you posted above. As I said elsewhere in this thread, and even in that same post, I definitely don't want a guy to feel like I'm expecting him to pay for me. The reason I might consider it a bit of a red flag, is that in my limited experience, guys who go Dutch are the feminist-y types. It's not because I'm looking for a meal ticket, it's because I'm looking for a dominant guy…
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 03:53 PM
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No worries! :)
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 03:25 PM
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Sorry, didn't mean for that to come off as rude. More just humorous and slightly confused. I assumed that wasn't what you really meant!
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 04:35 AM
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Wait, so it's cool to ride the CC as long as I stick to high SMV alphas only?! Man, I've been doing this SO WRONG. o.0
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 03:01 AM
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Do you really have girls try to argue with you about where to eat when you are treating them to dinner? Yikes. Even if you were going Dutch...talk about pointless contention! What's more important: what you eat for dinner, or having a pleasant evening with your partner? Sheesh.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 02:06 AM
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Best would be for her to offer to pay half (a genuine, not grudging, offer), but accept gracefully if I say it is on me - which it normally would be. That's sort of what I figured, and what I've always done. I don't want a guy to feel like I'm expecting him to spend money on me, but I will certainly gracefully accept if he wants to.
/r/RedPillWomen29/06/15 01:56 AM
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I'd actually be interested to hear the men's opinions on this. I certainly wouldn't object to him paying, and I would probably consider it a bit of a red flag if he didn't offer. That said, I've also heard men say that it's a red flag on their end if a woman doesn't at least reach for her wallet or offer to split the bill, because it makes her look like a princess/gold-digger. That's certainly not an impression I'd want to leave, either.
/r/RedPillWomen28/06/15 09:26 PM
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You're feeling used because you are BEING used. He is very clearly using you for sex. He doesn't want a relationship with you, he's just willing to sit through dinner and a movie with you once a week in exchange for sex. This is a classic plate scenario, and it's one major reason why you shouldn't have sex (and yes, Mr. Clinton...head is sex) with a guy until after he agrees to exclusivity. I don't know if you've gotten to that chapter in The Surrendered Single yet, but not having sex outside of…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/15 03:42 PM
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Nope.
/r/RedPillWomen20/06/15 03:11 PM
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Absolutely, and I agree.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 05:13 PM
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I believe that's what they call "bolt-on" boobs. =P
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:54 PM
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It wasn't meant to be sarcastic or feminizing at all, it's just a phrase I use to describe lots of things. I was agreeing with & commenting on what you wrote...why are you being aggressive? :(
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:52 PM
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If I didn't like cigarettes and a date made me sit amongst smokers, I would speak up. He tolerated it to avoid conflict. Definitely not ready to be a Captain, yet. She also didn't make him sit anywhere...she chose it when he refused to make a decision. Definitely not Captain material at the moment.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:44 PM
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Mine are physical touch and quality time, with words of affirmation being a close third. Receiving gifts and acts of service are much lower. My SO's are similar to mine, which is both good (we both appreciate physical touch and spending time together) and a little frustrating (I love to show love through gifts and acts of service, and those aren't as meaningful to him). I think it's ultimately more important to understand and respect your partner's love languages than it is to share them. As for…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:37 PM
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It's interesting (and very true) that men can have "acts of service" and "receiving gifts" as their love languages and be perfectly lovely human beings, but in women it's indicative of shrewishness. I wonder how that works? Just one more inherent difference between the sexes, I suppose.
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 04:18 PM
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I don't think RPW has any sort of "official" opinion on this. However, most men I know seem to prefer "real" breasts over implants, and I would certainly never recommend altering your body unless you had a really good reason to (like for reconstructive surgery). Getting breast implants is going to turn off at least as many men as it turns on, so if you're doing it for purposes of attracting a high value man, I'd say it's a wash at best. Now, if you're married and your man indicates that he would…
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/15 03:41 AM
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There is very little detail. She skips over her response and the entire interval between this exchange and the current time where her fiance is "avoiding" her. We have no idea what his volume, tone, body language or facial expressions were like that day. We don't even know if he was truly avoiding her, or if he was giving himself space to cool off and reset. I think that right there was the problem. I, too, read too much context into what was really an extremely vague description of the situatio…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/15 03:13 AM
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I never said, or intended to imply, that she should not respect her fiance's desires. Perhaps "threatened" was a poor choice of words. "Upset" may have been better? I definitely agree that she should certainly have drawn the boundary line sooner. (We don't know how she responded in the moment.) I do see where you're coming from, but I disagree that pointing out what originally sounded to me like borderline abusive behavior by her fiance is BP. That said, I do respect your opinion (and after OP's…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 04:45 AM
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You're exactly right. Back in my feminist days, I was sexually assaulted while walking down the street alone one night. If I had behaved like a lady, the man would probably have gone on his way, and I could have safely run home to call the police. As it was, I turned around and yelled at him, escalating the situation and causing him to follow me all the way home, continuing to assault me. It still turned out all right in the end; I got inside and called the police and he was arrested, but I coul…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 03:30 AM
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Are you expecting us to understand violence? The very post you linked to says that, "Violence is a man's game and women should stay the [eff] out." I don't mean to be rude, but how is this line of argument contributing to the discussion?
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 03:25 AM
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Thank you for clarifying. Honestly, I would not pursue the issue with your fiance any further, except to apologize for not taking care of the situation sooner. If he wants to talk more about his feelings, he will let you know. I would draw the boundary line gently but firmly with your manager, and then let your fiance know that it's been taken care of. End of story.
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 03:16 AM
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I'm not at all suggesting that she create a problem. From the way OP originally described it, it sounded like her fiance yelled at her in public and then withdrew affection (angrily avoiding her) over something that wasn't even really her fault (her manager hugged her, not the other way around; although yes, she should have drawn the boundary line sooner), which suggested to me that she may already have a problem. Her explanation below clarified things a little, and his behavior sounds less aggr…
/r/RedPillWomen13/06/15 03:10 AM
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Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you should go around hugging other men against your fiance's wishes, but...if this guy is so threatened by a gay man hugging you that he yells about it and angrily avoids you, I feel like you may have a larger problem going on here.
/r/RedPillWomen12/06/15 11:19 PM
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I agree completely. For instance, I disagree with a lot of people in the RP world politically, but it doesn't make any difference to me because I'm not here to talk about politics.
/r/RedPillWomen10/06/15 06:10 AM
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That's a good point! Thank you.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 10:38 PM
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Fortunately he's not so withdrawn that I don't hear from him at least once or twice a day. It's mostly just the lack of his usual affection that's bothering me. It's definitely a good point that keeping productively busy is more effective! Watching a movie helps for a little while, but seeing results from something is much better. I think I'll go work on the scarf I'm knitting for him! Thanks so much. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 08:46 PM
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Long distance really is the worst. He'll be here in about a month, and I can't wait for it to be over! I'm definitely trying to keep myself busy and not bug him too much, since I know that's what he needs. Thanks so much for the advice & support!
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 08:43 PM
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Basically just telling the crazy bitch inside of me to pipe down until she has some actual valid reasoning to suspect cheating. Exactly! In this case, I don't necessarily worry that he's cheating, but my hamster definitely tries to spin a little bit of emotional withdrawal into "OH NOES HE DOESN'T LOVE YOU ANYMORE WAAAAHHHHH" when there's no logical reason for this to be the case. The idea of just telling him straight up that I am feeling insecure and in need of some affection/reassurance is fan…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 08:40 PM
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Your ex pulled away and was unfaithful, so there's always going to be that little voice in your head saying that every man is going to do that to you. The fact is, that's not true. That's a great point. I know this logically to be true, but it's good to be reminded sometimes! Thanks so much for the advice.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 08:23 PM
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Thank you so much for your reply! My SO is a super introvert too (INFJ, actually), so we probably are in very similar situations. It's nice to know someone understands! I'm good about not bugging him at work (I have a job where I can't chat much during the day anyway, so I get that), but he's been really stressed on a personal level over the last several days, causing him to be much more withdrawn and less affectionate, and it's been starting to get to me. When he's feeling better, I will defini…
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 05:51 PM
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Exactly. If women are being raped and killed for attempting to change their status, that is a problem. If they are happily taking care of house and home while their husbands handle the village, that's their choice and should be respected.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 04:42 PM
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I've been down this road. It doesn't end well. Next.
/r/RedPillWomen08/06/15 04:07 AM
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I love this way of putting it!
/r/RedPillWomen05/06/15 04:39 AM
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I would love this, personally!
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 04:26 AM
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Right? The girlfriends and wives of all his miserable friends must have much more liberated, fulfilling lives. =P
/r/RedPillWomen03/06/15 12:27 AM
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I definitely have sex "for him" some of the time (i.e. when he wants it and I'm tired or otherwise not really in the mood), and I don't think there's anything wrong with that. But if you're looking at sex in general as a chore and not getting any satisfaction of your own out of it, that is a problem. I'm sure with some good communication, you two can work it out so that you're both having a good time! :)
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 11:59 PM
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And you honestly don't think that engaging with trashy folks displays poor judgement? For hookups (for a man)? No. Now if all his ex girlfriends were trashy you might be right to be concerned, but you said yourself that he has excellent taste in SOs. Casual sex for men is just that...sex. These girls probably had good (or at least decent) bodies, and were easy. That's really the only requirement. He never intended to have anything more to do with them than that. He was just getting his needs met…
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 01:45 PM
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For #1, you just need to talk to him. Nobody's going to fix your sex life but you. He obviously cares enough to ask you about it, but he can't fix what he doesn't know is a problem. For #2...Honestly? Get over it. Unless you two have religious convictions that his past flies in the face of, he's done nothing wrong. You can't hold him to the same standards you hold yourself to sexually speaking, because men and women have different biological imperatives and therefore different standards when it …
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 05:30 AM
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My mother is thankfully not a narcissist. She is a very good mother, all said (we all have our flaws!), but when I was growing up she was a terrible wife. Even during my feminist days, I knew that I never wanted to be the kind of domineering, controlling witch that she was to my father (and that I never wanted to marry a man like my father, who would put up with that). She later found religion and is now, I think, a much better wife to her third husband than she was to her first or second, but s…
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 11:13 PM
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Can't wait for the AMA! I'm reading The Surrendered Single right now!
/r/RedPillWomen31/05/15 11:04 PM
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TL;DR "M'lady...<fedora tip>"
/r/RedPillWomen29/05/15 07:10 AM
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I don't see her saying anything about a "major relationship issue" or a "lack of trust in his vision." She's just looking for advice on how to help relieve his stress.
/r/RedPillWomen27/05/15 03:54 PM
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Is it in the views of RPW that women are lesser than men? I'm fairly new myself, so I hate to answer for the whole group, but I feel fairly confident in this one: No. It is the view of RPW that women are different than men, and that relationships work best when the man is the head of the household. Honestly, if you're new to RP ideas I'd stay away from TRP for a while. My first impression of TRP was extremely negative, because of how angry and anti-women many of the guys seemed. It took a long t…
/r/RedPillWomen23/05/15 05:15 AM
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I certainly don't disagree with your point. I'm just confused as to what made you think I don't understand this. Half my point was that sex wouldn't make a very special gift because my man already gets it whenever he wants. (The other half being that just because men prefer sex over most other things doesn't mean they don't appreciate creative, thoughtful presents as well.) I don't think we disagree at all.
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 04:04 AM
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I'm not looking for a solution. Like I said, I actually pride myself on my excellent gift-giving. I also never said material presents are the only way to go. As other people have mentioned, experiential presents, gifts of time, labor, etc. are often the best ones. Why are people are so hung up on this "men only want blowjobs" thing? That hasn't been true of any man I've ever been with. I guarantee you that my boyfriend would be super confused if I gave him nothing but sex for his birthday, even …
/r/RedPillWomen22/05/15 02:45 AM
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That's what I just said. In my experience, men appreciate thoughtful gifts as much as women do. EDIT: I mean, of course if I was with a man who said he just wanted a blowjob for his birthday, he'd certainly get one. But I wouldn't want to presume that that's all he wanted, if he already gets one whenever he wants.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 08:33 PM
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Maybe not "creative" as in "crafty," but I definitely know guys who like thoughtful presents. I pride myself on giving great, thoughtful, personal gifts, and the men I know love them as much as the girls. My ex-bf actually got a little teary-eyed because I went to the trouble of hunting down and buying him a rare, out-of-print book I knew he wanted but had been unable to find. Blowjobs are wonderful, but if my man gets basically whatever he wants sexually (which I think he should), I feel like g…
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 07:23 PM
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"The nagging never stops." So nag strategically, if you can, instead of making the chores sound snippy, drag put your request and make it an emotional topic. He'll love that. Hah! I thought the same thing. Don't just ask him to do the chores...guilt him into doing the chores. That'll make everyone much happier.
/r/RedPillWomen21/05/15 04:34 PM
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Yes! I mean, I think the point was that she normally just wore PJs and no makeup (so it was somewhat of an improvement), but that made me laugh. "Dressed up? I mean, I guess you got dressed..."
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 01:48 PM
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It's so sad that RP forums are basically the only place on Reddit where you'll hear that statement.
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/15 01:45 PM
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I couldn't tell whether she was "acting" or just kind of a strange person, haha. But it's quite possible. It is TLC after all...I'm sure a lot of it was scripted.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 05:02 PM
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I found it hilarious that she thinks these women are oppressed and powerless simply because they don't work outside the home. There are many, many oppressed, powerless people in this world. These incredibly wealthy, socially influential women are not among them.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 07:24 AM
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The BP wife's mother-in-law cracked me up. Reminded me of my own mother, who pulls no punches when she tells it like it is. "Well I don't really understand what this 'submissive wife' thing is supposed to be about, because my son is already in that role." Ouch. But so true.
/r/RedPillWomen19/05/15 07:13 AM
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and he rewarded you by taking you out to dinner, a movie, and a hotel room in fine romantic fashion, would you consider that "bargaining" or a "reward"? The difference here is between "want" and "need." Sex is a need. Being treated to a fancy dinner is a want. If my SO only doled out affection (another need) as a reward for good behavior, that would not be a healthy relationship. If I am behaving so badly that he does not want to be affectionate with me, then we should not be in a relationship. …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 07:25 PM
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I don't think many of us will be bothered by the lack of "romance" here, but I'm also not sure you'll get a lot of useful answers, and here's why: how do you currently place fellatio in your repertoire/arsenal of behavior-changing or behavior rewarding tools I don't. And in fact, I think that's a big issue in a lot of modern relationships. Sex should not be a bargaining chip. I don't use sex to reward my SO for being a "good boy." The whole idea is pretty repulsive, actually. I would never want …
/r/RedPillWomen14/05/15 06:43 PM
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Unless it was actually an abusive situation in which she felt afraid/unable to leave him, she has nobody to blame but herself for how she was treated in that "relationship." If you let an alpha plate you, he will plate you. Calling him a jerk for doing that is like leaving a plate of chicken in front of a dog and then getting mad when he eats it. Fish gotta swim, etc. etc.
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 12:28 AM
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I like it, and I think Sunday seems like the obvious choice for a start day. :)
/r/RedPillWomen08/05/15 12:22 AM
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FWIW, I don't see the issue with starting posts with "man here," either. Personally I like hearing from the men, and I find it useful to not have to play detective to figure out what perspective the poster is coming from. I think most of the guys who do it are probably just trying to make it clear that they're giving a male perspective rather than the usual female one, since this is mostly a female sub. I'd probably do the same thing if I posted on TRP. (Although it sounds like maybe most of the…
/r/RedPillWomen07/05/15 03:34 AM
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I'm sure you understand how men think better than I do, but I don't necessarily think he's trying to let her down easy. I agree it certainly doesn't mean he's in love with her, but I think it's probably more likely that he finds her attractive and would be happy to plate her, but is enjoying being attractive and single after his divorce and doesn't want/see any reason to get into another exclusive relationship right now.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 08:40 PM
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A resounding YES on the Vitamin C serum. I don't have too many acne scars, but it just helps your general skin quality so much it's kind of amazing. I started using that and a retinol recently, and the results were so dramatic it blew me away. I've stopped wearing foundation completely, because my skin looks better without it.
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 04:01 AM
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I just wanted to chime in and say that all of this is perfect. Flowers are lovely too (again, after checking for allergies, and no lilies if they have cats) in addition to food, or a nice bottle of wine if they drink. Definitely assume you'll be sleeping separately unless they say otherwise. My brother's girlfriend stormed out of the house when our very religious mother insisted they sleep separately when they came to visit, and the fences have yet to be mended. You're in her house. Follow her r…
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 04:43 PM
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She's talking about getting gifts for his family.
/r/RedPillWomen30/04/15 04:33 PM
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You don't deny sex to a man on a regular basis because you're "stressed," unless you don't really want to have sex with him anyway. You just don't. It might happen once in a rare while that you've really got something serious going on in your life, or you're just drop dead tired, but if it happens regularly it's an excuse. If you wanted to have sex with him, you'd be having sex with him. Honestly, you should let him go. If you're already having these kinds of problems and you're still dating, wh…
/r/RedPillWomen29/04/15 04:44 AM
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You can always have a wedding without the paperwork. Make vows, call each other husband and wife...just never sign the documents. I mean, that's the way marriage used to work, anyway. Getting the government involved is a fairly recent addition.
/r/RedPillWomen28/04/15 05:16 AM
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Interesting. I didn't realize western women were so stigmatized in the east. I mean, it makes sense, but I had no idea. TIL.
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 11:58 PM
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That's interesting. The expats I can definitely see, but I wouldn't have guessed western women would have too much trouble getting Asian men. Not that I've spent much time in Asia, but when I visited China I would get people stopping me on the street to tell me how beautiful I was. (And I don't mean catcalling, either. I'm not bad looking, but that certainly doesn't happen in the US.) When I commented on it, I was told that this was because pale skin and Western beauty standards were idolized th…
/r/RedPillWomen25/04/15 07:22 AM
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It helps a lot for some people. For some people it's super comedogenic, and will actually make your skin worse. If other things don't work, it's definitely worth a try.
/r/RedPillWomen23/04/15 06:01 PM
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In my experience, there seem to be a lot of guys who go through a MGTOW "phase" after first swallowing the pill. They are very angry with women for a while, and MGTOW looks very appealing, at least until they cool down. I wouldn't put any more thought into that video than you would into some guy ranting about "AWALT" on TRP. It's just guys dealing with their anger issues in their own way, and we're not here to judge that. They'll either cool down eventually and grow out of that phase, or they're…
/r/RedPillWomen22/04/15 04:34 AM
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Thank you!
/r/RedPillWomen15/04/15 03:48 AM
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I'm pretty new around here, so you should probably take my advice with a grain of salt, but... Honey, there's no such thing as "oneitis" for women. Monogamy is what we want. You're a plate. He wants exclusivity from you but doesn't want to give it in return. You need to immediately either return to girlfriend status, or cut him off completely. If you want to try to make a relationship work again, you need to make it clear to him that that's what you want, and that you won't settle for anything l…
/r/RedPillWomen12/04/15 05:50 AM
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Children should be valued and beloved members of a family. They should not be the center of the family. Kids who get treated like they are the center of the universe grow up into self-involved, entitled, and emotionally fragile adults. This woman isn't doing her children any favors by letting her life revolve around them to the point of neglecting her husband and herself. Not to even mention what it's going to be like when she suddenly finds herself a single mother because Dad gets tired of feel…
/r/RedPillWomen27/03/15 03:35 AM
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Have you bought many things from Rosegal? They have some beautiful items for really cheap, but I worry that it will be one of those cases where it's coming from a factory in China, and the dress I receive will NOT look as nice as the dress in the picture.
/r/RedPillWomen26/03/15 04:42 AM
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This is a fantastic comment, thank you. The idea that men and women value different things in a mate is such a basic concept, and yet it's one I'm just now really coming to understand.
/r/RedPillWomen19/03/15 07:10 AM
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