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Oh gosh what are you doing to explore the cause(s) of your husband's drop in sex drive? I'm asking because I'm a first time mom, my sex drive plummeted during the first couple years and now it's back after getting my period back, but now I'm pregnant again and I think I'll be in the same boat as in OP's story. Even foreplay didn't get me revved.... but the fact that my libido finally returned on its own gives me hope. When did your husband's health and sex drive start going in the toilet? can yo…
/r/RedPillWives13/07/25 03:21 AM
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Oops, I forgot about that sub. Used to use it, then it fizzled out of my feed. Recently, I tried joining r/ConservativesOnly (or maybe I'm thinking of r/Conservative) but they told me libertarians aren't allowed. Boo hoo. I can still browse. You can also represent us by posting in r/AskConservatives, unironically. I hope it helps.
/r/RedPillWomen09/07/25 01:33 AM
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Yes!!! This stood out to me, too. It's something that works really well for me, too, and it gets easier with practice. It takes a lot of practice. Especially when your female example growing up is OP's boyfriend's mom.
/r/RedPillWomen25/01/24 04:54 AM
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Aw, I just read your title and I love this topic. Sorry about your experience in r/AskWomen! Also try r/AskWomenNoCensor, and feel free to tag it for women-only answers. Anyway, yess, yes I absolutely do feel like there's pressure to overachieve — as well as — and you didn't mention this — pressure to be known as a "Woman XYZ" or "Female XYZ." I hear ya on craving a slower life, too. Wow. That really speaks to me. Just earlier this evening, I was on a phone call with my sister, and every single …
/r/RedPillWives15/03/23 11:53 PM
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I have this SAME issue! I default to nodding and smiling because it's the polite thing to do? But I feel like it's not polite with your partner or friend when it's not genuine! I'd also love for some tips, please.
/r/RedPillWives21/02/23 11:51 AM
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One of the suggestions in the AutoMod post is: “Make a point to tell your partner what you appreciate about him this week. Make it real and genuine.” This is along the lines to what my husband recently expressed to me that he wants from me, instead of "thank yous." 😅 For example, instead of saying, "thank you for finishing the dishes!" (with a kiss! 😘) I now say: "I like that you finished the dishes." ☺️ Instead of saying: "thanks for calling the vet." I'll say: "I appreciate that you took charg…
/r/RedPillWives21/02/23 11:47 AM
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There was a Discord server posted in this subreddit not long ago (link here) and we're pretty active. 😊 We do discuss homemaking, too! Hope to see you.
/r/RedPillWives08/02/23 12:28 AM
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You're so right. I feel like this plays a huuuge role in my capability to be turned on, whether I consciously realize it or not...
/r/RedPillWomen25/10/22 08:42 PM
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I think most of us wish we wanted to have sex with our husbands/partners when we're not in the mood. Or wishing we had an "on" switch to help.
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/22 11:54 AM
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She'd let me skip school sometimes in high school when things were tough and we'd go grocery shopping together, have lunch, watch Top Chef, and snuggle. Oh my gosh, my mom figure did the same!! (Almost!) Well, OK, she'd let me skip school for whatever unknown reason (it wasn't my birthday), but she'd call it me being "Queen For A Day" and I don't really remember what all we'd do, but I know it involved fast food (or dining in at a restaurant of my choice... usually First Watch for brunch) and so…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 03:33 AM
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I dunno, but I really like making protein pancakes to share with my husband, and I hope it can be a regular weekend staple for when our kid comes along. I've gotten really good at them, lol, and have mastered the consistency/texture and protein-carb-fat ratio that I feel like I'm doing us all a favor by making & serving them. 😅 (And Hubby loves them!) Gram (my mom figure), who raised me, used to make spaghetti with homemade spaghetti sauce on rainy days (or was it rainy Sundays?). Anyway, she sa…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/22 03:23 AM
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I think the reason it worked for my husband and I was because we were always openly discussing marriage/kids Yep! Same here. I moved in with my then-boyfriend-now-husband but only on condition of marriage. We talked about it. We were/are open books to each other. It wasn't before long that I was itching for a kid with him and required marriage before we started trying. I have lived with a boyfriend before, but both he and I were anti-marriage when we met. Then I discovered Red Pill and started g…
/r/RedPillWomen19/10/22 08:03 AM
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I dunno, but I'm just cracking up at all the political ads focusing on a specific local candidate (here it's Ted Budd) and ONLY focusing on his stance on abortion. Like, that's all anyone cares about now. I'm like, "Pick a different topic, please."
/r/RedPillWives08/10/22 03:07 PM
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I think it makes sense for it to be decided at the state-level. It doesn't make us any less "United" that way. I mean, isn't that what the purpose of statehood started as — independent states.
/r/RedPillWives26/08/22 04:11 PM
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OK. I'm trying to wrap my brain around why so many women think the Roe v. Wade law is necessary. To my ears, the proponents of it (to federally legalize abortion across the USA), they fully believe abortion is a method of birth control, and they're outraged for themselves and for other women that we won't have the chance at this “form of birth control??” It baffles me. To my understanding, abortion is supposed to be rare — and safe. Yes, safe. It should be accessible in [what ought to be rare] s…
/r/RedPillWives26/08/22 02:23 AM
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Yeah, but he knows I'm married, and he briefly knows who my husband is. Also, we were friends for a few years before I got married, but I'm not sure if that matters.
/r/RedPillWives18/08/22 12:27 AM
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My cute kid is still in the womb, but I'm really looking forward to all the cuteness when the time comes — and for the years ahead! :)
/r/RedPillWives17/08/22 02:16 AM
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Well, you're right.
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 03:53 PM
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Can you kindly link to your comment? Sorry, maybe I'm dense, but I'm able to find it. 😅
/r/RedPillWomen14/08/22 03:47 PM
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Oooh, thank you!
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 11:30 PM
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Mine is relatively left-ish and moreso Libertarian, but I mean I'm not exactly Conservative, either. I don't care who he votes for, as long as he votes. I come from an extremely left-leaning family, though. So, I don't even know what's left and right anymore. I prefer not to define by "left" and "right," anyway. I like what I like and I know what I know, and so does my husband. I used to feel significantly stronger about politics, up until a few years ago when I decided to "live under a rock" (f…
/r/RedPillWives11/08/22 10:50 PM
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I'd love to see what memes (etc.) you have to share. :D
/r/RedPillWives06/08/22 03:37 PM
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Yeah... I only have my therapist. She helps immensely with practical advice and reframing my perspective on things. It's not at all the same as having a buddy if I just want to chat, though. There's an online Discord group I can PM you, if you want to join that. They have a "venting" channel and an "advice" channel, plus plenty of casual channels. They're very friendly and welcoming — and chatty. But it just ain't the same as in-person. Have you ever tried the BumbleBFF app? Or Replika.AI?
/r/RedPillWomen16/07/22 02:56 PM
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Thanks for this discussion topic! I am still giving this thought. Off the top of my head: Compliments from my husband. About anything about me. This can also be in the form of cat-calls, lol. I feel feminine when I'm able to be a source of comfort to my husband. I feel feminine because of my long hair. (Probably a shallow reason among a few.) This includes just generally maintaining it and styling it. I feel more feminine when I'm wearing skirts that a) complement my figure and b) I feel comfort…
/r/RedPillWives29/06/22 08:40 PM
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Oh wow! I thought your story sounded familiar! You're in my baby bump group. 👋 Hi there, lol!
/r/RedPillWives28/06/22 03:19 PM
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Hey. I agree. I go by katsumii or Kat online and I've been on reddit lately for the r/BabyBumps group and my December bump group because I am due with my first baby in December. I'm married as of 2021, and finally wrapping up the name change (it is ROUGH!!) by end of next month, and I'm a bit right-leaning politically so it's hard to look on reddit sometimes without feeling attacked, lol. My hobbies are computer gaming and listening to music. I work in graphic & web design. The stuff that brough…
/r/RedPillWives28/06/22 03:13 PM
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❤️ Sorry I don't have better advice right now. I believe in you that you will feel feminine in time, though.
/r/RedPillWomen26/06/22 01:37 AM
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I dunno how you feel with your guy, but look at a Cameron Diaz. She's feminine and tall as fuck. I've been with a man about my height — maybe even ¼" shorter than me (I'm 5'7½"), because of my hair — and I loved the bejeezus out of him and I loved being next to him. He absolutely made me feel feminine, and it wasn't hard to feel feminine around him. But maybe you look for pics online of tall women with shorter men? (Search for Tom Cruise next to almost any woman.) Could that help your confidence…
/r/RedPillWomen25/06/22 03:22 AM
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While it's idealistic and nice-sounding, I don't live it everyday. I love the support of other women and I like to support other women and I like traditional values. I like tough love. What u/HappilyMrs said, it's a toolbox; not an identity. RPW advice totally helped me into my current relationship, helped me get married, and they help me everyday with my husband. I actually believe I wouldn't be with the love of my life if it weren't for RPW. I stray sometimes. A lot. And sometimes I go on week…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 11:46 PM
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Oooh, I'd have no problem dating an ironworker if he's happy with it, or hell, if he's unhappy and making effort to switch careers. He's trying hard to please you. I think that's sweet. But be ... wise about it, you know? Try not to fall too deep too soon. I've been love-bombed, then tossed aside before I knew what was happening, and he broke my heart. So, yeah, keep your radar active, keep some kind of guard up. But still... allow yourself to be vulnerable. This reminds me of Roz dating a garba…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/22 11:32 PM
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I wrote him a chore list a few days ago (take out recycling, scoop litter box, laundry, etc. stuff I wanted done), and he wrote me one back. The items he wrote were along the lines of: Look beautiful, be awesome, relax, lol.... ❤️ (He was just writing compliments and helping me destress.)
/r/RedPillWomen16/04/22 10:22 AM
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Thanks so much, I hope your pregnancy is a smooth one!! ♥
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 08:35 PM
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Congratulations!! I am very early in pregnancy — haven't even yet had my first ob/gyn appointment — but so far it feels all positive at home and mostly positive online. Since you're on reddit, have you checked out /r/BabyBumps? They also have specific subreddits depending on the month of your due date. So far, I have found nothing but support in mine. I hope you will, too! I'm sorry about all the negativity you've had so far! I'm sure it will be a beautiful birth. 🥰
/r/RedPillWomen10/04/22 12:19 PM
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Wow. I'm not very active here, but that thread is eye-opening and jaw-dropping. I must have been living in a bubble, thinking it's normal to dress up to go out somewhere nice. I can't believe what I'm reading in those comments. I do also wonder, along with others in that thread, in what ways has he also changed. Like, what is he doing to inspire her to dress up? I think there's something else going on. My hubby and I didn't let the pandemic stop us from snazzy date nights or even dress-up at-hom…
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/22 02:46 AM
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Forgiving Physically sexy (my type) Responsible for himself Yes, has male friends (I wouldn't find him as high value if all his friends were female or if he had none) Cares about his mom even if he doesn't admit it, lol Discusses tough topics with me Drops what he's doing to help me. (I still never expect this, but he still does it.) Generally supports my values, even if it isn't his thing Supports me doing my own thing Sees eye to eye with me on most issues, and when he doesn't, it's usually a …
/r/RedPillWomen26/02/22 01:07 PM
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I don't have kids, but I support you. My parents divorced when I was very young — 3 or 4, maybe — and subsequently, neither could take care of me and my two younger siblings. We were adopted by our maternal grandparents, who have been married since they were ~18 or 19 and are in their 70s now. 😁 I'm forever grateful to have our grandparents as sort of relationship role models, because they always supported each other while we were younger. They had their rough patches, but hey, they're still tog…
/r/RedPillWives13/02/22 09:48 PM
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We're in the midst of this right now.... I was always taught that “as long as you aren't on birth control, you can get pregnant at anytime.” Scare tactics....? We've been trying for almost half a year. Working it into the fertility window, predicted ovulation days, etc. I wanted to have my first baby by the time I'm 32 (by the end of 2022). I'm 32 now. We each have appointments in February (mine is a follow-up from a December appt). Might be him. Might be me. Wish I'd thought about this sooner, …
/r/RedPillWomen01/02/22 01:36 AM
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Can't you voice your concerns to him? How long has he planned this? Why doesn't he bring you with him? How long will he be gone? And yeah, if it's expensive and if he refuses to take you with him, I understand. You two have been together for a year. For his age, that may not be very long: he may not take the relationship very seriously at this time. But see if he will understand where you're coming from, too. Do your darnedest to hear him out, understand his perspective on the situation, and tal…
/r/RedPillWives27/06/19 12:39 AM
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This is extremely likely. I would urge OP to set a good example of setting boundaries and open communication (no manipulation). I would also drop the negative judgment, but note that it is probably rooted in reality, in case her boyfriend needs to work on himself more.
/r/RedPillWomen06/03/19 05:04 AM
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Yes, good point — most female Disney villains' femininity are noticeably lessened, unless they are meant to be enchanting (e.g. when Ursula turns into a beautiful girl).
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 11:36 PM
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Bravo — this is awesome! I would appreciate a thread on Disney villains for sure. :)
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 11:01 PM
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I got on here to post for Gratituesday, and lo and behold the thread was started a few minutes ago. :) Here are a few things I'm grateful for: The weather/time change. It's so much easier to get lots done while it's daytime outside, and it's been so nice out lately. I don't miss out on the sunsets, and if I'm inside, the natural lighting is gorgeous. :) My job, still. xD It's my livelihood. A good support system — my friends and family. They've been helping me out in rough times lately.
/r/RedPillWives11/04/17 10:57 PM
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Oh my gosh, It's Gratituesday! *\o/* I am grateful for my grandma (she's my mother figure). She's helping me on my life journey, and I couldn't be here without her. I'm grateful for my INCREDIBLE, loving, considerate boyfriend, and his patience and his tolerance and his temperament. He makes life SO easy and truly enjoyable. I was just eating mussels tonight (he showed me how to prepare them in the past), and was picking out the mussels, and was remembering that the last time he made mussels for…
/r/RedPillWives28/03/17 11:10 PM
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I'd be interested to know the rate (if you're a “serial monogamous” dater) and length of such high-quality relationships.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/17 12:47 AM
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This was my first post mentioning my new man, and I've got to say that I haven't given him the credit he deserves in it. He's everything I could ask for and more. He's attentive, he's hot (he cares about his appearance, he dresses impeccably, and I never appreciated facial hair and chest hair until him!), he's a provider, he's a family man, he's a major goofball, he's genuine, he's driven, he's an awesome friend (for the most recent example, see the Raspberry Pi story above — he built it for his…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 02:22 AM
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My relationship is also very new. But he's THE BEST. Today it was pouring, and he insisted holding the umbrella over us. He wouldn't let me get out of the car until he let me out himself with the umbrella overhead. ^_^ (This is not something I'm used to.) Something awesome he accomplished (I guess it was no difficult feat for him, but our friends seemed to appreciate it greatly!) was putting together (emulating?) an old Nintendo system using Raspberry Pi. It goes over my head a little, but his g…
/r/RedPillWives22/01/17 01:19 AM
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I probably prompted it first... That's typically me. He for sure was the first to hint that he was developing feelings for me and caring about me; he said along the lines of, "Hormones and endorphins suck." And all I did was agree/concur with him on that point. The sex was awesome and we were getting pretty darn attached. I don't remember how far into the relationship we were when I would have brought it up. It had to have been after a few months. I probably said something like, "I think I love …
/r/RedPillWives05/09/16 08:57 PM
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I was listening to a song on the radio this morning on my way to work – "Feels Like the First Time" by Foreigner – and whether or not the entire song is RP (I don't think it entirely is, since it sounds sort of oneitis), I thought bits of it were. Especially this line pops out to me: "it's just the woman in you that brings out the man in me." A few days ago, I listened to another song where the line stood out to me, "Her face on the bridge made a man of me." That sort of message I like to strive…
/r/RedPillWives31/08/16 12:38 PM
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Awesome! Yes, yes and yes. This helps. Thanks. ^_^
/r/RedPillWives30/08/16 04:50 AM
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Hi Bella, This is a wonderful, well-needed post. Its message can't be emphasized enough, and I think many married women need this advice. :) When you have sex with your partner, you want to give him a reason to be the only person he wants for the rest of his life. Seriously, fuck him like he's the last man on earth - because to you, he is. ...This is probably my pitfall: I'm not giving him the best he's ever had. Not every time. ._.; So yes, be his Goddess of Fun and Light. Be his lady on the st…
/r/RedPillWives29/08/16 04:28 AM
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For me it is when I'm hungry. When I'm tired I get all cuddly and snuggly. But hungry?? PFFFT Insert Emergency Donut!!! Aw, me too. I turn into a drunk, smiley cuddle-puppy when I'm at my sleepiest. But at my hungriest...? I'm a snapping turtle. >.<
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:43 AM
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Wait, wait, wait! Underwear style. It was a few months ago that a small quote in a Family Guy episode caught my ear. Peter said that no man likes beige bras on women! I'll be honest, it was at that point that I started buying more black and other-color (purple lace) bras. I gotta say, I'm much sexier in black underwear. It's something I wore/felt in high school and early college — but soon enough, I had started buying beige bras to feel more mature and because I'd have the same choice everyday t…
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:26 AM
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I never even thought about it... But I've been painting my nails pink for the last 5+ years. Yay!
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:14 AM
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I hope I'm not like that at 29.... It seems a lot of my late-20s female friends on Facebook are, though. (Along the lines of whistling_dixie's comment, these women are mystified why they can't keep men; or they only talk about what men should do, etc.)
/r/RedPillWives19/08/16 03:03 AM
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In a way, this is so encouraging. I'm looking into cooking classes myself, and really want to make delicious meals for my BF and family events. Occasionally I'll practice from recipes online, but without a female mentor in the kitchen, it's difficult! In the meantime, I am of the starving domestic skills population. :s
/r/RedPillWives17/08/16 04:41 AM
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Even hardcore patriarches don't last for long as history has proven. Will you please provide some examples? Lots of patriarchies weaken because the decline. In Rome women were emancipated before the decline and historians estimate female emancipation was one of the reasons. My only thought is that they weren't hardcore patriarchies after all, then. What are you talking about? Why isn't it female nature. My bad, I brought in a Red Pill term when I mostly meant third-wave feminism. Women are tryin…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 03:32 AM
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Hi there... Someone linked your post here in Purple Pill Debate chat, so I took a look, and thought I'd take a shot at some points. Men excel in even feminine activities. Best cooks in the world? Men. Fashion designers? Gay men. What makes these feminine activities? Maybe traditionally women cook and sew. But I agree with you that, generally, men are much better naturally at concocting meals and designing and constructing fashion lines. Why do a lot of RPillers have a problem with saying men are…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/08/16 02:05 AM
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Thank you very much, Passerby6. :) You're right. This does help, and it gives me some things to reflect on.
/r/RedPillWomen13/08/16 08:31 AM
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Thank you sooo very much for this post. It's just what I need for a pep-talk / primer. On one hand, I don't naturally know what "assertive" action to take in ANY of the listed partner-focused situations (the other situations I have a firm grasp on), and am now making it my goal to practice these. (I'll look for other charts like yours!) On the other hand, I totally don't expect him to read my mind while I am passive and passive-aggressive. It just doesn't come naturally to me to tell my boyfrien…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/16 01:16 AM
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Thank you for the feedback. I'd recommend the books When I say no, I feel guilty and No more Mr. Nice Guy. There are lots of good websites talking about the concept as well. Thank you. I'm looking these up now - the first one looks perfect for me. :) Is the second one written for either gender? Asking because I'm a passive woman/girlfriend. He explains how they can stop seeking approval and start getting what they want in life, by presenting the information and tools to help them ensure their ne…
/r/RedPillWomen12/08/16 12:35 AM
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I know it's 23 days late, but I am just now seeing this, and I need this message so badly. I'm bookmarking it to go over it later. If you ever have time, or know someone who can help guide me on my path to assertiveness, I would appreciate being in contact for the future. This is by far an important and long term goal for me. Regardless, I appreciate you writing and posting this thread. :)
/r/RedPillWomen10/08/16 03:43 AM
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I believe it makes sense. Sorry, I wish I had wise advice to add. But right now, all I can do is empathize. I am also on a path to assertiveness. I don't have kids, but am a passive person myself. At least, this is what my LTR boyfriend claims. Honestly, my life mantra is "live and let live." Also, I am on my way to check out the thread that stevierose345 mentioned. Beyond passive/aggressive: ASSERTIVENESS for Women written by MentORPHEUS. By the way, I totally relate to both of you — my typical…
/r/RedPillWives10/08/16 03:38 AM
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Days late, but just saw it and decided to give it a shot. Here's my score. :3 53% feminine. http://imgur.com/Lcqf3yC ...I'm working on it!
/r/RedPillWives08/08/16 05:27 AM
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Couldn't agree more, myself. But I tended to like the villains, anyway. >:)
/r/RedPillWives07/08/16 05:08 AM
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Aw... Guilty as well. I legitimately may be doing our relationship a disservice here. Oftentimes when he complained of having a headache/migraine earlier, I'll ask him how he's feeling. Or if he's feeling better. Other times, I'll text him in the morning (at some point after his workday has begun) saying, "Hope you feel better. ♥" (or 😘 or 💋) Are these things harmful? I didn't think so, but maybe I'm being demanding/annoying? Each day, when I come home from work (he always gets home before I do)…
/r/RedPillWives07/08/16 04:36 AM
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Thanks for sharing this article, Tempy! It’s worth noting that, even without any conscious effort, personality does appear to evolve quite a bit throughout a person’s life. I can attest to having an evolved personality over time (without conscious effort). I used to express significantly more extroverted traits, enough to score a solid "Extravert" in MBTI results, and yet during college, I evolved to 90+% introvert. I loooove being introverted and not the center of attention. As a kiddo, pre-tee…
/r/RedPillWives07/08/16 03:40 AM
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I really need to get better at going to bed earlier, even if it means sleeping before my SO gets to bed :( Me, too! I was doing just so for a while (going to sleep before him) — I have my sleeping mask, ear plugs and nightly routine to prep for the next morning — but I keep finding myself stuck in hobbies or watching TV with my BF until he's ready to go to sleep. :/
/r/RedPillWives28/07/16 02:33 AM
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Nice. I would be interested in joining, but have been slacking with MyFitnessPal. When I feel I'm ready to step up my Fitness game, then I'm in. For now, I'm playing Habitica. =) Have fun, ladies!
/r/RedPillWives30/05/16 04:03 AM
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I have not read the books, although would be willing to read segments featuring Catelyn Stark, but I'll excitedly say that, during my first impressions of Game of Thrones, she was my favorite character. I miss her. Fully agree about Kitty from That 70s Show. I relate to her so much, and kind of strive to be like her. And my boyfriend's relationship quirks and temperament are comparable to Red's! (Although, my BF's mindset is on point with Bill Burr - another celebrity.)
/r/RedPillWives12/05/16 03:44 AM
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The feminist behavior of my grandma and her growing resentment toward my grandpa; yes, it was difficult. Growing up without knowing the basics of homemaking, self maintenance and involving myself in the community? Not difficult growing up, but difficult after moving out. That's really all I have to say in response.
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/16 09:57 PM
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Sort of ... I was raised by my grandparents; their foundation is in "red pill" (old fashioned, role-based) behavior and mindset. I didn't see it at the time, but Gram cooked, cleaned, took care of the kids, did her hair and makeup, kept up with her friends, kept up her skin & nails (fingers and toes), pampered herself, did laundry, grocery shopped, kept up with the neighbors/neighborhood, kept up with family and appointments... I mean, she was ultimately feminine, and I did not see this growing …
/r/RedPillWomen09/05/16 03:12 AM
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Okay, that helps. Thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/16 09:38 PM
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What is the reasoning behind this? Just curious. Also, because I'm probably doing it wrong.
/r/RedPillWomen24/04/16 08:43 PM
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Hey, ohheyydee... I understand and relate to the part about his response. NaturalMama's and StingrayVC's answers are spot on. We are not controlling our emotions but we're hiding and suppressing them. This is something I need to work on, myself. Plus, I'm sure that he wants to fix the problems and see you happy. it seems like he is no longer interested Alas, I am experiencing this, too. Me: " How was your day babe ?" Him: " tells me about his day " Me: " responds to the day " ...my day was.. Him…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/16 04:54 AM
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Ah, thanks.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 04:35 PM
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Just passing by and saw your comment here, Tempest. Want to thank you for sharing! This topic got me thinking, and your comment provides interesting and helpful info. Henna looks great on the lady in the video, and she and I have the same hair/eye/eyebrow color combo, so that's encouraging. Also, I learned about types of curls since you mentioned "3a/3b curls" (apparently I have 2a/2b). ^_^ Cheers.
/r/RedPillWomen22/01/16 04:03 PM
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Just want to say thanks for sharing your blog post, Kittenkajira. I've bookmarked it and am printing it out for myself.
/r/RedPillWomen20/01/16 10:41 PM
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This makes sense, and it's something to seriously consider with a copper IUD. Paragard-wearer here. While I haven't had cystic acne, I do get acne, and I've experienced iron deficiency... and likely zinc deficiency (this has topic has inspired me to investigate...). My point is to emphasize seriously considering this.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 03:43 AM
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Other than its traumatic installation (see my past post for more details), I can attest to the neutral effect of Paragard. Previously, I had a hormonal birth control implant in my arm which caused me to bleed three years straight; and before that, I used the pill which is by nature hormonal.
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 03:20 AM
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Hey Land_Before_Thyme, Thank you. I didn't mean to imply that anyone is morally superior regarding religious practice of marriage. When saying we're not religious, I do imply that there's no cultural pressure to marry, and no moral (or personal) obligation, either. Religious marriage is a personal thing, and we don't personally connect with that. Why did they convince you not to want marriage? Why is a LTR, with cohabitation, better for you? For me, it helps me know that we're in it together and…
/r/RedPillWomen08/01/16 02:19 AM
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This is something I'd like to learn more about, because it hits close to home for me. My boyfriend of 1 year told me from the start his stance on marriage (anti). Early on, he (and other red pill sources) has convinced me not to marry. So, I don't want to marry, as it has no inherent benefit that a committed, trusting and loving relationship does not. (Plus, we are not religious, so there's no moral motivation for us. Additionally, we're not planning on having children.) But I do see many men "f…
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/16 12:59 AM
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You assume it means something and OP's friend assumes it means something, but does it mean that same something to OP's boyfriend? Heh.... Precisely. While I found it exciting to meet both of my boyfriend's parents, he did take me to dinner with his mom only because she insisted. He admitted that he'd otherwise not have gone (if she didn't insist). Thankfully, he thought it'd be good for his dad to meet me, so that was definitely on my boyfriend—and it feels as CoochQuarantine described. The poin…
/r/RedPillWomen06/01/16 12:28 AM
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Thank you. :)
/r/RedPillWomen11/12/15 06:07 AM
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^ This is my view, too. I'm guessing you use a landline, right? I do not. Also, it doesn't offend me when people don't answer their phones right away. It actually surprises me when people text back right away. Unfortunately, holding this view, I'm the odd one out of my bunch of friends and family, including my SO.
/r/RedPillWomen24/11/15 12:36 AM
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Hi Stingray, I greatly appreciate your reply and advice. It helps to hear your anecdote with your husband. This also helps me understand the steps to take toward being a softer spot to land. I don't know where your anger stems from, but when he needs his space, spend the time trying to figure it out. I'm convinced it's an anxiety problem for me. Currently, the best I do is keep silent or leave the space when possible (to which he's taken personally—and bitterly—but I do it to help keep myself ca…
/r/RedPillWomen23/11/15 06:41 PM
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Hello Stingray, Thank you very much for sharing your post. This is exactly the number one issue in the foreground of my mind lately! In fact, it's something I'm struggling with, and it's a personal problem I'm working on. In the comments, I saw the link to Elspeth on "Types of Wives." My default girlfriend behavior is mostly "stimulation," and that is what my boyfriend likes. But he needs solace as well, and that's what I'm struggling with. Like, he really needs it. And I'm really bad at it, but…
/r/RedPillWomen22/11/15 04:54 AM
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Thank you so much, weelittlebabyforme !
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 01:47 PM
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Plug for the lovely Red Pill Women here on IRC. I've been struggling greatly to be the soft spot to land for my boyfriend. I've written about it in my journal (mainly this is to let it out of my system). It was time for me to get practical advice. My boyfriend gets very, very angry and frustrated at a game he plays. Loud, booming voice, violent with inanimate objects, scary reactions to things to which he'd otherwise react lightly. At first, I thought of his game anger as funny and lighthearted.…
/r/RedPillWomen27/10/15 01:53 AM
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My thoughts... Monkeys ≠ apes. But, "Some of the Monkees played to a sold-out crowd." :P
/r/RedPillWomen23/10/15 03:35 AM
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This is part of the feminine imperative, isn't it?
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/15 02:34 PM
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FleetingWish puts it quite well. A lot of people [...] like to use other people as sounding boards. They want someone around to vocalize their ideas to, and make their thoughts whole. They want to just work through an idea, and have someone there listening to see if it makes sense. If you can contribute something useful, that is definitely welcome, and will probably be acknowledged, but it is not necessary. If you have nothing to contribute, it sounds like mostly what he wants is an audience any…
/r/RedPillWomen13/10/15 01:36 PM
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Hi WildHoneyChild, here is my anecdote for you — This reminds me of my boyfriend in the beginning of our relationship, and it bugged me, too. What I later learned is he has a much better grasp at understanding me than I do of him. (We are also naturally compatible in other aspects.) Knowing this, I could relax without stressing him to get to know me more. It eases me that he lets down his guard to tell me about his day, his thoughts, his interests, etc. I see this as a vulnerable state, so I do …
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 06:04 PM
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This has been the case for me as well! Female here, but "gaming" still works on her. Since she is locked into her own world, through TRP techniques I've been able to handle dialogues and interactions with her much more gracefully. (No more falling for her manipulations!)
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 04:06 PM
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A bold move, indeed. My SO also showed the Red Pill to me... Well, he showed me elsewhere of the Manosphere, not Reddit (I guess he avoids Reddit). First, he had read some forum threads to me. Then, he read some blog posts / articles to me. He was very hesitant to send me actual links (understandably). I began asking for him to share me more stories from his forum, and by then we're reading blogs together. These topics and philosophies interested me very much. Soon after—coincidentally—I wandere…
/r/RedPillWomen06/06/15 07:08 AM
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So exciting, looking forward to Mrs. Doyle's AMA! Thanks, redpillschool.
/r/RedPillWomen02/06/15 10:19 PM
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Hi, sorry to interject, but this is magnificent: “I stopped drinking long before i was truly sober.” Wholeheartedly feeling this comment. If you came up with it — may I share your quote? Cheers.
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 01:46 PM
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Hey windlabyrinth :) Since exploring Red Pill Women, I have more awareness of others' behavior, but not judging them (the women themselves). Me, I've never been one for drama — NEVER. No gossip. No whining. It's pointless, so I'm used to disliking it, tuning it out, I don't understand it*, and am accustomed to its popularity. With RPW, I'm learning and practicing how to gracefully withdraw myself from gossip talk, knowing what ~not~ to do, and knowing that there's zero point to contribute negati…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 12:17 PM
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Hi ModernClassicLady! I relate... :) As for hypergamous thoughts - I've been starting to accept them as completely natural and this has reduced their importance. Yes, AWALT, and we are all going to have these urges from time to time, but what makes a RPW different is that she recognizes their nature and doesn't act on these instinctual thoughts. So, yes, from time to time I'll still feel a little flustered if an old flame pops up or if I'm suddenly showered with positive male attention, but I si…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 02:00 AM
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You shouldn't have to constantly be compared to some other women to the point you're hoping to learn how to be more like her in ways. More likely she's seeking to adopt the other woman's ways into her own (OP's) girl game, whether in mindset, behavior or mannerisms—stuff that we already value—as opposed to comparing oneself to the person. What I mean is there is a difference between the person's behavior and the person herself. In terms of "watching and learning," OP probably refers to the behav…
/r/RedPillWomen16/05/15 01:20 AM
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What is this (prescription strength tretinoin), and how would I request it? Can my general doctor prescribe this? Thanks
/r/RedPillWomen03/05/15 11:31 PM
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Yes. We've been together since September/October 2014, and he's made it clear to me that he's against getting married. Here's what my boyfriend has to say about the situation you're in: Sounds like she's grown up to the Disney theme song. [...] She feels like her bf is a catch, which is why she's trying too hard. She feels like she should "earn" a marriage out of that, and she feels like him not doing it is his way of saying she isn't good enough. And by not marrying her, she's taking it to mean…
/r/RedPillWomen18/04/15 05:39 PM
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Something I would share — while I'm learning and practicing this myself — is to have your reasons for your comment before you make the comment. Many women tend to respond and blurt-out as an emotional reaction, without having her reasons to back her up when asked or challenged. To speak without substance will make you seem more of a jerk. In practicing this, it helps me develop more of a backbone when conversing or interacting with others. I make it a habit to determine first, "Why am I saying t…
/r/RedPillWomen01/04/15 12:55 PM
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Congratulations — cheers to another 10,000! Looking forward to only positive growth. :)
/r/RedPillWomen23/03/15 10:11 PM
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Good ending message, a wholesome view: Perhaps meeting people isn't about where you go, but about how you carry yourself. That said: Where are you located? I've heard and read a lot that Tinder's utility ('hook-ups' vs. long-term relationships) varies, depending heavily on its users' regions. No doubt you presented yourself well from the beginning. Kudos!
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 08:45 PM
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Comfortable, warm robe and cozy slippers. How long is your nightgown? I tend to wear mine only to/past my knees (not shorter). What material are your nightgowns? I've got a few cotton (warm!) and some that are silky (not warm). What parts of your body get cold? It may help to wear gowns with sleeves (not spaghetti straps) if your shoulders get cold. It may help to wear socks or slippers if your feet get cold. My legs get cold easily, so it helps me to wear longer gowns — these I can stretch over…
/r/RedPillWomen21/03/15 08:29 PM
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Well, me.... I'm a gamer. I play online games (and Reddit and chatting in IRC), attend local events pertaining to my interests (on special occasions, it's a great "networking" opportunity), participate in group meet-ups related to drawing and comic booking. For you, I don't know what you are interested in. ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Maybe try a local farmer's market, in-town shows or events, walk in the dog park, browse a small bookstore, join group meet-ups via meetup.com. Check your city's website for regular …
/r/RedPillWomen16/03/15 10:19 PM
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Hi FlowerAndWillowWorld, Men don't "contribute" to the trope, they're just telling it like it is. Unfortunately I'm only referring to some men of couples, men with girlfriends past or present — these ones surrender to their wives quite blatantly, because to them, "that's just the way it is," and "there's no way out" (besides death, as in the opening comic). The men I refer to aren't mine. The women who manage them (i.e. their wives or girlfriends, current or past) play into the attitude, not exp…
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 11:18 PM
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If others joke about nagging, interfering and controlling women, I generally don't butt in, because that would just prove their point. Ha - excellent point. :) Thanks for sharing.
/r/RedPillWomen10/03/15 10:54 PM
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The sad part is that both men and women embrace this attitude. Men outwardly contribute to the trope of the nagging wife, in the form of light-hearted jokes, nudges, and in their social habits/reflexes. This is a perpetual effect. It has been going on for a long time, I know — I barely have the gist of the history of this trope. Myself being young, plus since nibbling on the red pill, I'm finally noticing its impact. Wondering: What is an appropriate response to this attitude? As of now, I gener…
/r/RedPillWomen08/03/15 09:27 PM
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You know what's really satisfying about being a RPW? When all our friends (we pretty much share all friends) say they hope to one day have a relationship like ours. [...] And I really have to credit learning to submit, to listen more, and to be open and let him take care of me. It's pretty amazing what these changes can do. This truly inspires - thanks for sharing. You show them how it works. They see it in practice. Wishing you and your husband only the best! (｡･ᴗ･｡)ﾉ♡
/r/RedPillWomen05/03/15 04:03 AM
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With men, there is constant room for improvement. For women their is to, but in different in a different way, and the most important thing is somewhat out of their control. And if they are older (and finally waking up) then most of their SMV is gone, and facing that reality is too bitter a pill for most. Sure. There's a positive spin on this: It's never too late in one's life to make a change in one's values or behaviors. More importantly, it does no harm to spread ideas/teaching, share field re…
/r/RedPillWomen04/03/15 09:14 PM
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You may want to try: reddit.com/r/SkincareAddiction For me, I check the ingredients. I focus on salicylic acid and benzoyl peroxide. I won't advocate a certain brand or product, because different types of washes, lotions, gels, etc. work for different types of skin. My acne is naturally oily, and the products I use work well for me. Good luck to you and your girl!
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/15 08:01 PM
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Note: The recommended book is called The Surrendered Wife, written by Laura Doyle. (Alternatively, The Surrendered Single, also renowned for female self-improvement, aims to "help single women attract a good man" according to similar principles.) I have not read the book either, and my mind often mistakenly remembers it as "the submissive wife," too. Whoops. :)
/r/RedPillWomen01/03/15 06:45 PM
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Hi, PhantomDream. :) What are your thoughts on Lucille Ball and Roesanne Barr (if any)? These two are just off the top of my head. On a less humorous note: How do you view Melinda Gates (if applicable)? ... To me, each of these women is loyal to her husband and to herself, and each aims to show her best face. Lucy comes from an older time where ladies' and men's roles were socially and domestically defined — and she still shines her quirky personality through her generally submissive (ha!) gende…
/r/RedPillWomen18/12/14 06:31 AM
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Indeed. It was traumatizing for this non-mother over here. Absolutely emotionally scarring. My internal organs had a shocking meltdown. This was NOT expected. Pro-tip: Non-mother women, before installing a copper IUD, have a family member/friend attending or a designated driver with you or on-call for the way home.
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