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Depends on the beat. On average, risk of death for a police officer is a bit less than risk of death for just being a pregnant woman. Most common cause of on-duty death? Car accident. We have all (esp police themselves) been trained to view cops as frontline, lifelong soldiers in some unnamed war who are constantly on the cusp of death. Stats don’t agree.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/18 10:05 AM
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Lol, man, this is great. Women, or Feminists at least, don't even understand the purpose of work. I am a woman. So I guess that includes me. It doesn't surprise me that you don't agree. I had hoped that you would at least try not to show a modicum of respect. I am tired of these gross generalizations. Don't expect me to respond. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 11:10 PM
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The female traits of motherhood and girlyness do not progress society, they keep society going through population growth. This is what you said. That seemed incredibly discounting of femaleness. I'm sorry if I misunderstood. Globally, women work longer hours then men when you include unpaid work. Feminist researchers? Your answer to men shouldn't decide is that women should decide or a woman biased group should decide? Not solely feminist researchers. I said that in response to your request for …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 09:10 PM
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One of the key points in my argument has to do with who gets to make the determination of superiority. You seem to believe that men alone should be allowed to determine whether or not they are superior to women. What is your rationale for that? You don't think that motherhood progresses society? I'm pretty incredulous about that. As if society would last very long without mothers. Do you tell your mother that you think her role is unimportant to society? Perhaps you are defining society as "the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 06:54 PM
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Different strategies might be superior in different contexts, or be judged as superior by different people. I came up with a situation where emotional expression can be "superior." I am sure that there are contexts in which emotional repression is a superior strategy (contexts where you will be shamed for emotional expression come to mind). But that doesn't mean that men who use that strategy are "emotionally superior" or even superior at emotional regulation. I'm not sure that I agree that the …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 03:20 PM
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Could you please reread the link that I posted? There was no "logical" or task-based component of this study. Men weren't suppressing their emotions in order to do better on an alternate task. They were suppressing their emotions when the task at hand was expressing their emotions (rating them). I have also given a link that shows how emotional expression can save lives. Also, as men nowadays spend less and less of their adult lives on the battlefield, perhaps even you can admit that repression …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 09:50 AM
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I got a 750 on the GMAT the first time I took it (I obviously didn't need to take it again). That score puts me at 98% for people who are applying to business school. I've never had my IQ tested (I've never needed to). But honestly, I don't put much stock in these numbers I just know that they are harder to dismiss. You misundersatnd. I am not saying that it isn't better to regulate emotions (of course it is), I'm just saying that I don't agree that people who underexpress their emotions are nec…
/r/PurplePillDebate08/07/16 01:44 AM
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First of all, even if there were such thing as "scientific evidence of male superiority," it wouldn't follow that any given man is superior to me. Such scientific evidence would follow basic trends and give no evidence on whether any particular individual is "superior" to any other individual. I have plenty of reason to believe in my own intelligence, rationality, and emotional regulation. Those reasons are based on my own experience, the feedback of peers, feedback of people who in a position t…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 07:07 PM
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Thank you for your return to civility. I'm not sure that there is a polite way to say "my group is superior to your group." I think that the sentiment itself lacks the kind of basic humility that allows people to remain in connection with each other. It allows the person saying it to dismiss the other person outright (before they have said/done anything), because the conversation is happening within the context of an underlying ad hominem attack. Not exactly a respectful framework for polite dis…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 08:28 AM
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I didn't call you a mean person. I don't think you are a mean person. But I don't enjoy conversation with someone who is proud of how he looks down on others. Since there's no way to change your opinion about something so basic, I couldn't figure out a good reason to remain in the conversation. Can't help but notice: Your response was to immediately insult not just me, but my gender. That, and the all caps, which I'm sure are helping prove your coolheaded, superior, rational response, somehow. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/07/16 12:40 AM
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I just think your condescension is rude. And it makes me not enjoy communicating with you. Have a nice day.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 08:29 PM
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Because you want that type of person... By no means are men just as easy Men are just as susceptible to their own desires as evidenced by your description that men desire women that they know are bad for them who see no reason to develop themselves completely because men are so easily manipulated by their physical looks. Men are just manipulated by different things than women. So then men are emotionally superior Well there is the men killing people thing. Does that also make them "superior" at …
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 07:52 PM
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I know that dread and AM aren't the same - but the concern is with emotional blackmail, which is often a supported strategy. For instance, a google search led to this example of using dread because a partner didn't automatically have sex on one night (he doesn't even indicate that he initiated, he just punished her by withdrawing from the relationship because they didn't). As someone who has had the difficult conversation with my husband when his libido dropped while he was unemployed, I can see…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/07/16 07:22 AM
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Sounds like you have interpreted RP teachings in the light that most supports LTRs. Good for you. I hope that RP helps you be the kind of person that you want to be. (btw - whether you think of it as "dread" or "abundance mentality," making your partner hyper aware that you can leave at any time by turning small disagreements into potentially relationship-ending events is emotional blackmail. Women who want a successful relationship shouldn't do this, and men shouldn't either.) I don't think tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 11:40 PM
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Why even bother talking about relationships? Because the OP was saying that he thinks TRP is beneficial for relationships. And when we have discussions in this subreddit, it is customary to make sure your response engages with the topic presented by the OP. Try to keep up.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 05:26 PM
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TRP is not meant to benefit LTRs. And it doesn't. Case closed.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 04:37 PM
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There's nothing wrong with breaking up with a man whose vision of your relationship is unpalatable to you. Better to do that than to take it out on him by passive aggressively ignoring what he is telling you he needs while saying that you are committed to him. From your other comments it sounds as if he is lording RP ideas of LTR material over you as a way of maintaining his role. My DH never does things like that, so I don't think that this is a necessary aspect of successful relationships (and…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 04:34 PM
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Yours seems to be a typical redpill response. The centerpiece of my argument is that TRP is bad for relationships because it doesn't believe in relationships and so has no problem with offering advice that undermines them. You reinforce this by jumping into discussions of hot girls who are willing to have casual sex, and what a bad deal LTRs are for men. Is this supposed to benefit LTRs? I am not going to attempt to convince you or anyone else to want an LTR. If you don't, you don't. Fine. Run a…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 03:55 PM
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TRP teaches people that: all women are attracted to and want the same thing women are incapable of love and loyal relationships honest communication is pointless regardless of what they say, women "really" want dominance displays verging on violence threatening the foundation of a relationship is a good way of getting what you want women are incapable of rationality, so there's no point in listening to them or their concerns - they are all red herrings women respond favorably to condescension LT…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/16 12:21 PM
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You don't get to decide what another person trusts or doesn't trust in your behavior. If he doesn't trust you, he doesn't. Telling him he "should" isn't useful in any way. Making unilateral decisions to go into social situations that make him uncomfortable because "it's my bday" isn't a good way to show that you put him first and/or are willing to do what it takes to build trust. You do get to decide how important obtaining another person's trust is to you. It sounds like you are much less inter…
/r/RedPillWomen05/07/16 01:33 AM
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Oh, it's not even your generalization? It's just regurgitated from the websites you visit? That hardly surprises me. The internet is not made up of feminazis on the one hand and the manosphere on the other. There multitudes of people out there talking about their relationship experiences without drawing the conclusion that all or most women are inherently disloyal. (Certainly many women are, because many people are). If you don't think that you are bitter, I am glad for that. Make sure that you …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/16 01:37 AM
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I am insinuating no such thing. I don't know what the percentage of good women is. All I've said is that I don't think that it's helpful for men to generalize bad behavior to all women. I don't expect you to "always believe the best in women." I don't expect anything from you at all. There are lots of awful people out there (both men and women). Lots of people who are immature; lots of people who are narcissistic, undisciplined and self-serving. Plenty of those people (I would guess roughly half…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/16 01:22 AM
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I think that one of the things that makes it difficult to just make a list on how to find the ideal Captain, is that women respect different things in men. For some women, access to money and power is a really important part of respect. For other women, it doesn't matter as much, and are more moved by integrity. Some women need stereotypically masculine behaviors in order to feel respect; other women don't. The important thing about choosing a mate is that you identify sustaining traits that you…
/r/RedPillWomen04/07/16 12:50 AM
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Ahhhh. So you admit that you just categorically disbelieve anything that disrupts your worldview. It turns out that a stranger on the internet telling me that I'm lying isn't all that convincing to me for the simple reason that I know I'm not. Funny how that works. It turns out that I DGAF whether or not you believe me. My life isn't impacted in any way by whether strangers on the internet believe it's true. I get to live it, and it is awesome. However, your life certainly is impacted by your co…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/16 09:09 PM
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And numerous other women on this thread, as well, it seems. Maybe your generalization is actually based on limited social experience, and no adequate skills at vetting women. I don't experience myself as being all that special at all, really. I figure I'm above average wife material, but not outside of the realm of generalities. The fact that you hold it to be true "all women" while simultaneously dismissing evidence to the contrary indicates to me that you are more invested in your own bitterne…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/16 08:54 PM
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I financially supported him while he cooked and cleaned and had no idea what he wanted to do with his life (he even suggested being an electrician). I bought him musical gear (and everything else) long before he brought forward the plan to apply to school. And even now, being a PhD student in sociology is hardly a guarantee of financial payoff. That's honest. Just because my marriage is beyond your imagining doesn't mean that you are "proved right."
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/16 08:47 PM
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I have been the breadwinner. My DH doesn't particularly have a thing for jewelry (I did buy him an engagement ring and funded my own), but I have insisted that he have musical gear and gadgets that he has wanted throughout our marriage. All of our money is joint, and I have helped pay off some of his student loans before my own (the interest rate is higher). Cars that he drives, clothing that he wears, his medical bills/insurance, gifts for his friends and parents, books that he needs (he's a Ph…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/16 02:23 PM
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All women, even the most feminist, most radical, most politically liberal, women, expect men to adhere to very traditional gender roles of provider and protector And yet, you weren't talking about rules and statistical probabilities. You were making gross generalizations that you specifically said applied to all women no matter who they are. I am the primary breadwinner and have been for the majority of my marriage. I have been doing this for the sake of giving my husband more "options" because …
/r/PurplePillDebate03/07/16 02:12 PM
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My husband quit his job (unexpectedly to me at the time) when we had been married for 1 year. A little over two years after that, he started a PhD program where he is paid a stipend. He has been doing that for the last four years. For most of our marriage I have been (by far) the primary breadwinner earning no less than 4 times what he earns. We are currently TTC, and if we succeed, I will likely be right back to work, leaving him to take a leave from school to care for our child. Some day, we b…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/07/16 07:39 PM
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Whenever divorce happens, the same amount of income needs to go into supporting two households (rent/mortgage/utilities) instead of one. That is true no matter what they child support settlement is. That's why people who pay child support always feel like they are paying too much and people who receive child support always feel like they are receiving too little.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/06/16 10:18 AM
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Edit: I botched the gender accuracy. Take this advice with a grain of salt. It might not be accurate. You think that the advice, "develop yourself to such an extent that you are happy about who you are" is male-only advice? That's weird. Go ahead and just switch up the genders (boyfriend for girlfriend, boy for girl, etc.). The advice is gender neutral. It's what I did, and it works great!
/r/PurplePillDebate20/06/16 06:27 PM
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I don't have any advice, I just want you to know that my heart breaks for you, needing to go through this. You must need to have so much strength to get through the day. Please let us know how you are doing, how the conversation with his parents went, how your parents are handling your decision. You sound like a lovely woman, and I hope you have every ounce of healing and peace.
/r/RedPillWomen17/06/16 07:16 PM
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The threat of divorce, not necessarily the divorce itself, is a deterrent to bad behavior. Exactly. Which actually flies in the face of some red pill philosophy, which indicates that giving women equal status in a relationship (including the power to leave) is inherently bad for all parties. The point of TRP was to accept the truth, not to invent your own. Fine to have concerns about how families are structured and see if they are borne out by evidence. Less fine to take logical leaps about how …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/16 01:41 PM
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Thank you for reconsidering the evidence. I can see how the outcome might be counter-intuitive. I think that part of it is that there isn't really evidence that no-fault divorce law increases the long-term divorce rate. There is pent up demand (the rate increases right after the law passes) but then it goes down again. The rise in divorce rate seems related to other societal factors outside of no-fault divorce law (that is, states that did not pass no-fault divorce laws also saw rises in divorce…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/16 08:01 AM
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I have shown compelling, peer reviewed evidence, with a strong methodology which you dismiss out of hand because you "just don't believe it." You have given nothing but your "logic" to even show that no-fault divorce has any impact at all on men's suicide rates. Until we know what proportion of the decreasing women's suicide rate was caused by no-fault divorce, and until we know what proportion of the increasing men's suicide rate was caused by no-fault divorce, then I don't think we'll truly ha…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/06/16 12:30 AM
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You misunderstand. I am not talking about vetting suitors, right now, I am talking about starting with understanding what you respect. The list is list of questions to ask about men in your life already. This is for understanding what makes you respect the men that you respect in your life. People for whom you would absolutely know how they handle setbacks and emergencies (could be your father, a brother, your grandfather, an uncle, a cousin, a clergy member, a coach, a teacher). You need to get…
/r/RedPillWomen16/06/16 09:20 PM
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Okay so there are different groups, each of which has two characteristics. Group A 1.) Very much want to get a divorce 2.) Would be unable to get a divorce without no-fault law There is some proportion of group A that is so upset by being forced to remain in their marriage, that they would commit suicide rather than stay. I have given evidence pertinent to this specific group, that shows that the difference in survival is enough to even have noticeable impacts on the overall female suicide rate.…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/06/16 07:23 PM
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Why don't you bring him the problem? You have two issues: You are worried about being able to find a new job/getting financially situated in your new city You really had your heart set on being able to have a house fund ready for when you take that step. It was something that you wanted more than anything, you believe that it is something that your mother would have wanted for you, and you are having trouble letting it go. See what he comes up with. If you go with openness and are willing to be …
/r/RedPillWomen15/06/16 09:32 PM
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Among women who cannot choose divorce on their own but very much want to (the specific population most directly impacted by no-fault divorce law), some women would rather die than stay with their husbands. Among all women (including those who want to stay with their husbands, those experiencing an uncontested or at fault divorce, and those that were never married to begin with), those who get divorced are more likely to become depressed for any number of reasons (circumstances leading up to the …
/r/PurplePillDebate15/06/16 06:52 PM
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It's going to depend on your values and what you respect most, bc you will be looking for someone who can retain your respect as he ages. Think of the men in your life that you respect. The ones that seem to you to understand the most about how to live life well. You are on the right track with your first question - "How do they treat people who are subordinate to them?" More questions to ask about the men you respect in your life: Do they know how to provide? Do they know how to do things (like…
/r/RedPillWomen14/06/16 10:22 PM
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Fewer women committing suicide, fewer women murdered are a couple of positives.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/06/16 09:54 PM
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Are still arguing that your shitty job is the fault of "breeders" and their "bad decisions"?
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/16 10:47 PM
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I am not arguing that single people should pick up the slack. I am arguing that single/childless people should stand up for themselves and their lives (like parents do). I am arguing that childless people quit acting like workers rights is a zero sum game where either parents or childless people need to "lose" so that the other side can "win". As I have said at least five times already: The problem isn't parents. The problem is the economy, work culture, and potentially your boss. Take a step ba…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/06/16 01:26 PM
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I wasn't making an appeal to authoritarianism. I was guessing why you were being saddled with work. I am straightforward with my boss about what I need to remain happily employed in my position. My boss appreciates that I let her know what I need because replacing good people who leave is expensive. She wouldn't ever ask me to jump off a cliff, because she knows I would have to say no, and she would lose more than me in that interaction. I would hope for you to have the same amount of assertiven…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/06/16 10:41 PM
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Why should I have to pick up the slack? Presumably because your boss asked you to. If everyone's so pro them why doesn't the business enlarge the budget and hire more people, if its such a priority? Great question for your employer. Probably because they feel that they can get away without doing it, and so they do. I don't want you to suffer. I want you to stand up for yourself. Parents stand up for themselves. They leave jobs over work life balance. They go home to care for their kids, knowing …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 05:34 PM
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No one is expecting you to suffer. You are putting yourself in a situation that you don't like and then blaming others for the fact that you don't like it. You are refusing to address things that seem to you like legitimate grievances in the workplace, refusing to stand up for your own need for work life balance and then saying it is the fault of "breeders" (who by and large understand their priorities more clearly than you, and are willing to take the risks associated with acting on them).
/r/PurplePillDebate04/06/16 03:53 PM
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take. it. up. with. your. boss. Quit waxing poetic about mob gyrations with random strangers on the internet that have nothing to do with your particular work situation.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 08:46 PM
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If their performance is a problem, then it is their supervisor's responsibility to bring it up with them. One day, when you are a boss, you can fire parents for leaving to pick up a kid at soccer. See how far that gets you. Saying that a co-worker having children is a "bad decision" because you don't like how their divided attention affects your workload in the short-term is beyond narcissistic. Life is not about you. FFS - Get over yourself.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 07:00 PM
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See, I was so sympathetic to Sanders in the beginning, but at some point he turned into a power-hungry, "everyone is corrupt except for me, that's why I can't be bothered to follow campaign finance laws" politician somewhat reminiscent of the South American far left. He's actually the senator least willing to make reasonable compromises in the effort to govern (his Bipartisan index is lower even than Ted Cruz's), and I actually want a government that functions (apparently this makes me a radical…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 12:05 PM
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So you don't like my source (I guess you have a similar objection as Densend, see above for my response there) And from that you are concluding - what, exactly? That rape doesn't exist? That white women aren't raped? Are you suggesting that white women false report at substantially different rates as black women (I was using then numbers to compare minorities). Do you agree with ABS, that rape "isn't a thing?" What numbers would you prefer to use?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 10:23 AM
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I'm not all that familiar with UK politics, so I don't have an opinion on Corbyn. U.S. "hard left" is essentially the European consensus, so while there's no question that I am on the left here, I would probably be considered pretty moderate across the pond. I don't tend to be all that concerned by guilt-by-association charges. Does it seem like Corbyn is power-hungry? Or is he just so much of a dove that people worry he will refuse to acknowledge national interest?
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 10:13 AM
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Again: that sounds like a problem you have with your employer, not people who have children. Having children is a natural part of life. The idea that people shouldn't procreate because it might create additional workload for coworkers is absolutely absurd. The idea that people have done something wrong by wanting to be present in their kids lives is equally absurd. The problems that you describe will not be solved by single, childless people who allow themselves to be exploited endlessly for a p…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 02:33 AM
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Huh? Not sure what politics has to do with this. I consider myself more left than right. I guess you are on the right? Nice to meet you.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/06/16 02:19 AM
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I agree, although I'm not sure that I would agree with how you would apply it to this case (you've left that open to interpretation). Care to elaborate?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 07:22 PM
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Your disgust for the human life cycle is apparent. No wonder why you find your job so thankless, and find life so full of irritations. There are lots of reasons that life pulls us away from being 100% productive 100% of the time. Sometimes people are diagnosed with cancer, or have to provide emergency care for a parent or spouse. All of these things result in reductions in productivity and the flexibility of team members. People are not machines, and they are not created for the sole purpose of …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 07:13 PM
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Just under half of 18% (the number that I quoted as being the proportion of women who are victims of rape/attempted rape) is 9%.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 07:04 PM
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I know. But the fact that parents are trying to juggle two full-time jobs while you and I juggle one doesn't mean that they are mooching off society. It means that they are attempting to shoulder more costs than can reasonably be handled by one or two people. The gratitude is for leniency and understanding. Parents who work are not lazy people making poor choices, and laughing while they accrue benefits and leave the rest of us with the work. They are normal people making basic human choices in …
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 05:55 PM
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Only as part of reciprocal relationship. (We all deserve to be recognized for our part) I don't think that childless people's contributions to the education and well-being of the children in their community is out of balance with the benefits that they receive from other people being willing to shoulder the high costs of parenthood. In general, in most developed societies childless people pay proportionately more. I say that as a childless person, btw.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 05:35 PM
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Sure. But parents aren't the only ones who benefit from their children's existence, yet your post indicates that they should be solely responsible to shoulder the costs. Society subsidizes parenting (less in the US than in other developed countries) because it benefits society to do so. Parenting is currently so cost-intensive that there are plenty of people who delay parenting, or have fewer (or no) children solely because of the expenses involved in helping them become the kind of educated and…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 05:11 PM
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And they should thank society for creating more workers to run the economy and pay taxes (so that their benefits will pay out) after they retire.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 04:35 PM
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Telling people to deal with a societal fear on an individual basis strikes me as a strange strategy. I just don't think it will work. I think driving women's fear is the much more widespread sense that they cannot expect to be treated with respect. There's lots of non-consensual sexual behavior (like the OP posted: upskirting, voyeurism, etc.) that many men defend. Society hasn't yet reached a consensus that this behavior is out-of-bounds. Women continue to be objectified in the media more often…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 02:03 PM
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Okay, fine. Sure. Discount those findings by whatever amount you think is appropriate. The highest estimate of false rape reports is just under half. So cut those numbers in half. Now we are at ~9% of women 1 in 11. You are comfortable with that as being not a "thing?"
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 12:01 PM
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I take it you agree with my description that society at large (including women) fears male desire. Is that true? I definitely think that there are many places in the world where it is far more dangerous to be a woman than the US. However, both men and women have much to gain by the reduction of fear of male desire. That is my central point. Do you disagree? Do you think that the best way to get women/society to stop fearing male desire is to tell them that they are being irrational?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 11:59 AM
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I'm interested. Please source?
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 11:49 AM
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Where did I recommend new laws? What are you on about? Honestly, I wasn't even talking about my own fear. I was talking about a reasonable response to the threat of non-consensual sex. I have written above that I think we need to be more accepting of male desire, not less. However, if you want to have an honest conversation about society's assessment of male sexuality, it must include the reality that male desire is often feared, whether it is warranted or not.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 12:34 AM
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Well, my experience of attempted rape by a stranger that broke into my home while I was sleeping (in a mid-sized, predominantly white mountain town), and experience as a trauma counselor makes me think that rape and attempted rape are much more common than many people realize. But I'm not relying on just my experience to draw that conclusion. I am glad that you've never been victimized in that way, btw. And luckily, more women in the world have had your experience than mine.
/r/PurplePillDebate02/06/16 12:24 AM
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especially outside the lower classes and minorities and "date rape" ceases to be a thing Again with the declarative sentences. (I'm not really sure what you mean by issue. Are you saying that no one talks about it, or that it doesn't happen?) 17.7% of white women have been raped (or had an attempted rape), not so different from the 18.8% of black women who have been raped (or had an attempted rape). It is true that American Indian women (34.1%) and mixed race women have higher rates (24.4%), but…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 11:16 PM
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i have to add that "rape" as an issue or crime barely exists outside of college I'd like to see your evidence for that. This source describes that female college students are actually 20% less likely to be raped than their non-student counterparts.
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 08:35 PM
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False rape claims do happen. When they happen there is real and lasting damage to the accused. Standard, "innocent until proven guilty beyond a reasonable doubt" must apply. And also: Actual rapes often go unreported. There are risks to coming forward with a rape accusation, and actually raped women are often disbelieved, giving them reason to recant. Example. Treating women who come forward with rape accusations as if they are probably lying has a chilling effect on women seeking justice that t…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 08:30 PM
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I think that this is an important point. I'm sure that we can agree that for all people, healthy sexuality is consensual and fun. There is so much energy caught up in the reality that there is lot of sexual contact in the US that does not meet this criteria, that it doesn't leave much room for the reality that there's lots of different ways to have consensual (and fun) sex and that no one should be proscribing what that means for anyone else. Men (in general) vastly underestimate how much they h…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/06/16 02:55 PM
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You are definitely noticing some symptoms of how our unhealthy approach to male desire results in unhealthy, power-focused ways of men acting out their desires in a way that hurts women. I think that the biggest problem with our understanding of healthy male sexuality is this: Male sexual desire is inherently public. That is, because erections are noticeable, a man can be "called out" and humiliated for his desires. That means that unlike women (who can secretly desire all kinds of things with n…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 10:23 PM
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You are so caught up with telling the world how it is/how it should be. That is a waste of time. It's really none of your business why someone else would choose to have a different kind of interaction with people than what you want. You are shallow and categorically don't understand what motivates other people beyond the pussy you are obsessed with not getting. You would learn a whole lot more by listening to others and building your own strengths than by telling other people what they should do…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 04:15 PM
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So now you think that you're in a position to judge the decision-making of smv men? Life sure would be better if everyone just let you play petty dictator, huh?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/05/16 12:46 PM
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A high smv man should do whatever he wants to. Why "should" any guy "bang as many girls as possible" unless that's what he wants? Is it for god and country? So that others can live vicariously through him?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/16 01:39 AM
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I actually think that there's some danger in this, depending on the age gap. The issue with seeking out a man because of life experience that he has that you respect, is that to the degree it is based on his age, the gap will narrow dramatically over time. For instance, if you are 18, an underdeveloped 25-year old will still be far more developed than most 18 year-old men you know. Your 25-year old "catch" may not be progressing at an age-appropriate rate. When you get to be 25 and he is 32, you…
/r/RedPillWomen28/05/16 06:19 PM
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I actually don't think that my husband is all that beta. He takes great care of me, but also knows what he needs and how to ask for it. He is amazingly powerful human being who knows his worth. He takes care of me because he wants to, never because I expect it. I had the opportunity to be with beta orbiters long before I met my husband, and I would rather stay home on Saturday than be with someone who promised me a house in a love letter before I'd even agreed to a first date. My DH loves me mor…
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/16 03:31 PM
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You are admitting that you don't know why your relationship ended. You have admitted to putting your trust in a person who was untrustworthy. You have chosen to blame an entire gender based on your necessarily limited experience. And I am the one with hubris who doesn't know what she is talking about? Because I believe that I am actually not such a special snowflake? Because I have been able to find a partner who is head and shoulders above most men, and I think that others could learn from his …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/16 09:55 AM
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A full grown man who can't do a reasonable job after about three times? He's not trying. Oh, I'm sorry. I thought you said this. This statement is jumping to the most uncharitable interpretation possible while also making you the arbiter of what is "reasonable." That has power-struggle written all over it.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/16 09:32 AM
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You say it's the only rational response for men, but the rest of your post is sadness and bitterness. I guess it feels better to give up? You acknowledge no personal responsibility for who you choose to trust, or your ability to even understand for yourself basic things about yourself. So instead you spew a lot of stuff that all boils down to "women are terrible." I have shown you another possibility, but I have said that it requires a lot of work. You have shown no interest in the work - which …
/r/PurplePillDebate27/05/16 02:17 AM
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Wow. You have been with him for a long time, and have a lot invested in this relationship. A couple of thoughts: Right now, you are trying to surrender to him, and he is surrendered to his mother/cat. This won't work. He needs to know what he needs to do in order to be your captain. Decide how often you are willing to stay at his parents house. Don't stay there more often than that. If he wants to sleep with you every night, he will need to come to you on other days. He needs to decide if it is …
/r/RedPillWomen26/05/16 11:24 PM
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Why is it so hard to give loving feedback? You are starting off with the assumption that everything is always your responsibility (rather than a team responsibility), and then jumping to the worst possible interpretation rather than just ceding some control. "Hey, sweetie, I noticed that the filter gets clogged really frequently if you don't rinse the plates before putting them in. Cleaning it out is really gross. I hate it, and it's making me dread doing the dishes. Any thoughts on how we can m…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 10:36 PM
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Well TRP also recommends taking actions to make your partner feel insecure as a means of holding on to her affection, and I wouldn't put up with that ridiculousness. My husband does not threaten the existence of our relationship under any circumstance. He knows that would be smashing the foundation of our mutual trust. He knows that we both have built our lives around our relationship, need it and both know it. There's no reason to go nuclear. Is AWALT good advice, if it encourages men to think …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 05:57 PM
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There are a number of things that he does that makes him really incredible. He really believes in himself and what he does, and makes it clear to me that he knows what he is about. He never shies away from telling me what he needs from me, or giving me feedback for how my emotional "rockiness" can impact him. He never shies away from talking about our relationship and that conversation has evolved so much over time. He doesn't sit and stew or walk out when I'm doing things he doesn't like. He wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 04:02 PM
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But it is loading the dishwasher. It's not rocket science. How bad a job could he possibly do? They've been married for 49 years, and had a dishwasher for at least the last 30. It's not new technology. Even if he did the worst job ever why would the most appropriate response for her to be to redo what he has just done? Why not just let it go and see what happens, or give important feedback so that he can learn? It's one thing to say - "hey, I know you mean well, but if you put the hand-carved wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 11:06 AM
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We are both very lucky, I assure you. I think that most women would be quite jealous of how well attended to I am. It's not even 6am yet, he's not a morning person, and he just offered to make me a healthy smoothie that he knows I like while, I chat with random strangers on reddit (he hasn't even had his coffee yet, astounding!). I have no idea why he would do such a thing, but I definitely feel loved and cherished, and I feel pretty motivated to make him feel good about his generosity. I think …
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 09:55 AM
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There is nothing wrong with the way my father loads the dishwasher. It's just not my mother's way. She has no monopoly on "the right way to load the dishwasher." To suggest that she does is absolutely ludicrous. My father does lots of things around the house. He does all of the cleaning of bathrooms/kitchen, mopping, most of the vacuuming and straightening things up (not to mention all of the lawnmowing and yard maintenance). Most of the time when he loads the dishwasher, my mother isn't even th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 09:38 AM
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If you have found something that works for you, by all means, keep doing it. I must say, you don't sound like a person who is happy. You sound like you are angry all the time.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 01:36 AM
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I thought you were asking in general what the deal was with expectations of female passivity. What I was talking about had to do with general interactions with people or your partner (this is a sub that tends to focus on male-female relationships after all). Okay, you are clearly talking about a very specific situation, without giving any of the specifics. I see above that it has something to do with the ER. How on earth do you expect people to give you helpful advice without actually telling th…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 12:29 AM
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There are lots of types of relationships (coworker, etc.) where trust has benefits. If you categorically can't trust other people, you will likely have lots of conflict with them. Most people don't want to be treated as if they "can't reason their way out of a paper bag." It sounds like you go through life with a lot of contempt for others, and a huge chip on your shoulder. Perhaps this is what you mean by a "different view"? Sounds like a self-fulfilling prophecy, to me. Yes, gender expectation…
/r/PurplePillDebate26/05/16 12:10 AM
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I think that the idea is that it can be hard for women to let go with their partners and trust them. And that it's important for the health of the relationship that they learn to do so. My mother still doesn't trust my father to load the dishwasher. He leaves the room so that she can rearrange things. It's ridiculous, and so not worth it. I would not suggest that you "play this impractical gender role to attract men." I would suggest that you focus on living your own life well, and if you meet s…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 11:52 PM
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My husband was very reluctant to trust me to be steady. Here's our symbolic progression: "You might think you love me, or you might just be crazy and manipulative." "You might think you love me. If you were crazy, you'd have to have a lot of endurance to keep pretending to love me so well for so long." "I'm pretty sure you think you love me. I can't imagine how you would be able to keep up the facade no matter how crazy you were. I'm not sure whether wanting to love me means you know how. I do k…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 10:35 PM
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trust them to what? Yes. This. My DH and I have been together for 9 years, and our trust keeps building. Building/or eroding trust forms circles that can either be vicious or virtuous depending on how you move through them. I trust my DH so much more than I did 5 years ago, it's incredible. The places where my trust isn't 100%, I can be happy with, and we are still building the scaffolding there. Sometimes building trust means building skills: "Can I trust you to tell me if something's wrong?" i…
/r/PurplePillDebate25/05/16 10:19 PM
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Of course they would still be aware if they are being rejected. My issue is that TRP oftentimes spends more time blaming women than it spends helping men improve themselves. TRP starts off with the assumption that women are to blame, it encourages men to give up on wanting anything that could be understood as "feminized," and focuses it's "self-improvement" on only the most shallow techniques (usually involving physique and pick-up strategies). Every failure is blamed on women being horrendous h…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/05/16 09:48 PM
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Rodger goes on and on about every single Terrible Thing that girls have done to him over the course of his entire life (he has entire chapters devoted to different ages, and describes how when he accidentally bumped into a girl in the sixth grade at camp or something she treated him badly by yelling at him and humiliating him in front of other people. This, as you can imagine, was the first of many slights). He describes in detail how girls always wanted to hang out with other boys, and how this…
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 09:27 PM
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You can't tell why quoting a murderer's manifesto is a bad idea? What an ass you are.
/r/PurplePillDebate23/05/16 07:10 PM
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You say that you drained him of meeting his own needs because of your anxiety problems. Can you describe what behavior you did that was so draining? How did this it feed resentment? How did you change it? He says that he wants you to become mentally and physically stronger. This is probably good advice. This means thinking more about how you can meet your own needs, and develop your support system so you don't have to lean so hard on one person. There's lots that you can do to respond to the flo…
/r/RedPillWomen20/05/16 10:26 PM
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I hadn't really thought of that. But then she's not even attracted to him - he's just a prop. She's actually attracted to her own feelings of power. Or she just likes disgusting herself. Kind of how some people like movies with gore. How shitty. And predictable. And boring. Yeah, RP really brings out the monsters.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 04:55 PM
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You mean in the, "he's so cute" kind of a way? Or because, in his awkwardness he displays some other skill (capacity to listen and respond to the interaction at hand rather than just gaming the hell out of everything) that she also finds refreshing and interesting? It's easy to understand why some women aren't attracted by men who are constantly trying to charm/game them. Guys that aren't "smooth" may come across as authentic in a way that is easier to read and interact with. Being willing to be…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 03:57 PM
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If you want the validation of being desired you have a few options: 1.) Decide that you are undesirable and spend your life feeling not good enough. Become and stay bitter. 2.) Figure out how to pretend to be desirable to women who wouldn't want you if they knew the real you. Lose respect for women who do act like they desire you. Become and stay bitter. 3.) Figure out what your very best traits are and develop the hell out of them. Be proud of the best parts of yourself. Figure out where women …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 11:57 AM
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I am a victim. A victim of my genetics. I wasn't born good enough... So scream into the wind. You think that the world owes you (or more precisely women owe you???) exactly what you want when you want it with no effort on your part. You don't want to have to "deal with women past the point of having sex with them," but apparently you also don't want to pay a prostitute to just screw you and GFO either. Oh! The humanity! /s its a terrible feeling, a swallowing fear that is always telling me that …
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 09:58 AM
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I am talking about alpha qualities that I find [sexually] attractive. I can tell you point blank that I have lost respect for physically attractive guys that weren't up to snuff intellectually. Sex with such a guy repulses me. Like, throw up in my mouth a little repulsed. It's easier for you if all women are the same. It allows you to whine and play the victim. It allows you to give yourself permission to blame women for being terrible, while at the same time not having to give much thought to w…
/r/PurplePillDebate17/05/16 01:29 AM
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I agree. This seems to feed a complete denial that there are alpha qualities outside of physical attractiveness that can elicit or sustain sexual interest for men in women. Alpha qualities are those that build or represent power. When your partner is worthy of admiration for his capacity to influence the world according to his vision, that itself can form the basis of sexual attraction. A woman who finds nerdy guys sexually attractive, isn't saying that she finds social awkwardness attractive. S…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/05/16 09:52 PM
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I would say that being mysterious and intelligent are both Alpha, because they both have to do with being powerful, and having the traits that help you gain power. Caring, good communication, flexibility, willingness to listen don't have to do directly with gaining power, but do have to do with being a good leader and relationship partner. I am attracted to the former, and require the latter. Whenever I see Alpha traits, it's as if the only things that can gain you power are being physically agg…
/r/PurplePillDebate14/05/16 02:50 PM
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Alpha male traits: Aggression, promiscuity, ill-discipline, physical strength - short term pleasure Why does Alpha always have to be like this? When you define Alpha by only it's shallow traits, you misunderstand the depth of things that women can be attracted to. When I think of the Alpha traits that attract me to my husband they are things like - vision, grit, integrity, intelligence/insight, creativity, mystery. These just so happen to be durable traits that don't just disappear if we should …
/r/PurplePillDebate13/05/16 10:51 PM
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I think that this is a good start. Couples can travel between the various segments as well. For instance, in thinking of my DH's and my relationship (9 years, married for 7), I initially thought of Shangri-La as the best fit. Then I took a more skeptical look and determined that when life is fairly easy for both of us, Shangri-La is easy to maintain. When life gets stressful we may move down the scale to a more Platonic interaction (although "no-sexual attraction" has never defined us, it's just…
/r/PurplePillDebate12/05/16 08:10 AM
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No, it's a moral statement ("right side"). There's no such things as facts about the future. Only opinions and forecasts. Even - the sun will rise tomorrow - is an opinion, not a fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 01:54 PM
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They say that they are. They have nifty acronyms that mean just that.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 12:12 PM
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"Being on the right side of history" is a moral statement and presents itself as a moral statement, not a factual one. You may find it annoying, but it does't have anything to do with stating opinion as fact.
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 12:09 PM
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Two themes: Being a "nice guy" is a sexual strategy where you are not nice because you are nice, you are nice in hopes that you will get laid. It is based on lying and pretending to be something that you are not. True feelings get bottled up. Lots of movies, TV shows promote the idea that the nice guy (even those who are not attractive in any other way) gets the girl as reward for his niceness. This (among other things) leads men to truly believe they are entitled. Unlike other situations in whi…
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 11:24 AM
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I don't believe this happens with anything like the frequency you claim. I can't see the prior comment, so I can't speak to what you are disagreeing with. That said, on what basis do you determine the frequency of men becoming dark, violent, and criminal(ish)? In general, my experience is that most men have no idea (either from evidence or anecdotally) how often women are harassed and treated violently either in general, or in the specific case of when they reject men. Many men simply reject it …
/r/PurplePillDebate11/05/16 12:53 AM
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I think there's a couple of things at play here. First of all, I think that the number of people behaving badly is pretty similar on both sides, but the outcome is heavily weighted in terms of harm owing to the amount of power to inflict harm that men have vs. women in our society. Individual people responding at an individual level to their personal feelings of rejection in person within the bounds of the law. Rejection hurts and I don't think that either men or women have a monopoly on handlin…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 11:54 PM
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The evidence is so obvious and abundant, I did not think it was necessary. And yet you continue to not provide any. The voices in your echo chamber are not audible to the outside world. Unless you are using the fact that women have lower representation in jobs that require them to be away from their families for months as evidence that women don't work very much. You have a pretty tight tautology going. If women work longer, they are being inefficient. If men work longer, they are being more pro…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 07:27 PM
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Okay, so you didn't like my example. Not that you provided any evidence to back up your viewpoint. But you did squeeze in an ad hominem attack. The article that I linked on different types of farming indicated that while women raised the pigs (routine, no breaks, unpaid) men slaughtered the pigs (intermittent and paid). It also noted that men were likely to while away hours drinking and gambling; the women, on the whole, did not. Women don't avoid unfavorable unpaid work like changing bedpans. N…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 05:50 PM
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So the evidence shows that women work, on average, 6.5% longer than men do on a daily, global basis. Not a huge gap, but interesting that there was no country in which women were found to work less. But that, is your claim. Not that women work similar hours as men, but that women work less. For that, you supply your own anecdotal experience. Which the world is supposed to take as seriously as UN/OECD data. The third link that I provided gives lots of qualitative information about work styles. It…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 04:27 PM
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Because your google seem to be broken, I bring you this: https://www.weforum.org/agenda/2015/11/do-women-work-longer-hours-than-men/ http://www.wptv.com/money/who-works-more-men-or-women-one-study-says-its-women-and-its-not-even-close https://www.culturalsurvival.org/ourpublications/csq/article/women-work-harder-than-men
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 02:35 PM
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Very well said. And I'm glad for you as well. I'm new here, and it's nice to meet people who have actually learned a thing or two, amidst the dreck.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 02:04 PM
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One of the surprising side effects PPD has had on my life is making me appreciate the maturity and honesty in my own relationship, and how relatively uncommon that is. Yes. This. One of the things that I wish more men understood is that women are attracted to different things. What works for one woman doesn't necessarily work for another, even though there may be overriding themes and patterns. It would be far more helpful for men to learn about the different things that women might be attracted…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 01:20 PM
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Hey, thanks. This was a really nice comment/compliment. The sad thing is that there are a couple of kernels of truth in TRP. I definitely think that women are often horrendously unaccountable in relationships, and encouraged to be more so by each other (I've had friends suggest to me that they might get pregnant against their husband's wishes. Really messed up stuff). And yet so many people are TRP are so immature, so whiny, and yet so certain that they know everything. I think that there should…
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 11:19 AM
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Wrong. Yes on both counts. I just don't think it's appropriate to disclose details of my husband's sexual preferences (what he wants, how often, etc.) online with strangers. Edit: At least you mentioned this time that you are guessing. That does seem to be progress.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/05/16 10:07 AM
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As often as he wants on both counts. To my knowledge, in 9 years I have only ever refused sex one time (not just sex, but any type of sex he wants), and I didn't really mean to. I was asleep and confused about what was going on. By the time I understood what was going on and was ready, he had stopped. We had sex the next day. Essentially, he gets what he wants. I actually addressed this issue very early on by letting him know that I thought that withholding sex in a relationship is an aggressive…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 06:36 PM
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Fortunately for humanity, most men are not narcissistic sociopaths that don't care about or want to interact with women except for the sex. Funny that you tell me that I don't know any women, when you are in the midst of telling me about how little you care about knowing women. From your rant, I highly doubt you even know your own mother! Seeing as I am a woman, I find it humorous that you would think to inform me about what makes me attracted to someone. So knowledgeable, you are. /s You imagin…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 06:26 PM
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You imagine that you can charm your way through a basic disrespect, and then blame women for it not coming easy for you. It surprises me that you can do it at all. The only women who would be fooled by such a play are fools themselves, thus reinforcing your perspective that women aren't to be respected. Putting you in the position of hating them and have to pretend otherwise. You think that your problem is that you aren't Brad Pitt. I'm saying that no one owes you anything. Resentment because wo…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 07:30 AM
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No. But kneejerk skepticism of anything outside of your experience will. It also demonstrates that you know very little about the breadth and depth of the types of relationships that are out there. As a stranger on the internet, you don't have a way to know that I am telling the truth. You also don't have any evidence that I am lying (I am not, so I know you don't) outside of your own very impoverished experience set. But rather than ask questions to make sense of what I have said, or draw the c…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 07:10 AM
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You just likened most of the women you have ever met to wild animals, and said that you want them to keep their mouth shut most of the time. You are not classy, even if you sometimes try to be charming. Most women want to spend time with someone who can at least pretend to enjoy being with them. A whole couple of weeks to bed someone! Good grief, you are maligned! Everything is terrible for you. The problem must be women!!!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 12:51 AM
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Keep thinking that. You'll never get what you want. If you start out from a place of fundamental disrespect, you will never be a man worthy of a good woman's long term interest. That is a guarantee. I wouldn't have given a guy that talked to me like you just did the time of day, no matter how ripped you were.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 12:45 AM
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Are you looking for a LTR? Or just casual sex. If it's the former, my advice applies. If it's the latter, then it's not any of their business so long as you don't have any STIs
/r/PurplePillDebate09/05/16 12:42 AM
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It's not exactly a happy thought. That doesn't mean I couldn't get over my concerns for the right guy. Particularly if I could be convinced that the behavior was a past thing, not a current thing. A couple of things: Make sure you are tested for STI's (duh, but gotta say it) Why did you visit prostitutes? There isn't necessarily anything wrong with it, but why does matter. You don't have to tell her unless you want to, but you should know for yourself, because it's good information about what yo…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 11:56 PM
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My, what a delightful personality you have! Such a wonder that women aren't falling over themselves to be with you. You are truly maligned.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 11:35 PM
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First of all, you are extrapolating your experience at bars and clubs to all of human existence. There are plenty of people who find other ways to meet people. Also, women use body language to let people know if they are open to communication. People who have to be told to fuck off aren't listening. When I was in my 20s, I was about a 7. Pretty enough to be very attractive to a guy disposed to be interested, but not so hot as to stop traffic. I was working as a lifeguard and one totes hot guy wi…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/05/16 11:25 PM
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My husband is a sociologist, and he describes unconscious bias, or internalized racism/sexism is more of a psychological than sociological concept, though he does say that "radical feminism" is far more political, and likely to pit one group against the other. None of this seems to have anything to do with the waves of feminism. Third wave tends to refer to inclusion of minorities and intersectionality. I don't think that any of us have access to an unbiased look at who is "most vocal" about any…
/r/RedPillWomen05/05/16 11:06 AM
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Small question - Why are you and S0v3r1gn pointing to "third wave" feminism in particular? I think that the move toward women being a larger part of the workforce/not "just" being SAHMs is more of a second wave feminist ideal.
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/16 07:58 PM
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Women in this day and age are likely to find objections to their lifestyle no matter what they do. Stay home? You have no drive. Work? You don't care about your children. Act feminine? You're like a stepford wife. Act non-feminine? oh, there's lot's of ugly responses to this one. If you have a husband who is able and willing to support you as you make a lovely home for him, there's nothing whatsoever wrong with that. You have found happiness, and many people who disagree with you may not. Others…
/r/RedPillWomen04/05/16 07:54 PM
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The key is respect and admiration. I have been supporting my husband financially for most of the last six years. I earn considerably more than him, but I am thrilled with all of the professional successes that he has made (he's in the fourth year of a PhD program), and celebrate those successes with him. My advice would be: Don't ever throw money in his face (obviously), or link his value in his relationship to his capacity to provide financially for you. Don't come to the conclusion that your c…
/r/RedPillWomen01/05/16 08:58 PM
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Absolutely trust your gut from the beginning. The more time you spend giving people a second chance, the more emotional investment you are putting into someone that you already know is wrong for you. Why would you do that? You are looking for a LTR, which is one of the riskiest, most important investments you will ever make! You are looking for durable traits. A person who doesn't have a strong work ethic at 25 will have a difficult time developing one by 45. A person who is uninterested in list…
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/16 11:00 PM
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I know I'm a little late to the party, but I did want to say a couple of things: Having the right partner makes such a big difference, and you are young enough that you could probably benefit from thinking more about what you are looking for in a relationship. You mention that you are rarely attracted to someone, which is an important clue. It'll be easier to find the right person if you can recognize him more easily when you do. Some questions to ask yourself: Who are the men in my life that I …
/r/RedPillWomen21/04/16 09:08 PM
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