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That man has negative value not low value lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:43 PM
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I bet you he caused the accident by doing something stupid
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/04/20 11:42 PM
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It’s hard when you live with them rip. But I’ve definitely grown by seeing how dysfunctional they are and realizing what it is I truly want is a healthy and honest and loving connection with no holding back or codependency or toxic behaviors
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy03/04/20 05:23 AM
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Wow grandma knows what’s up
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:15 AM
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I feel attacked
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/03/20 02:15 AM
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Yeszzs
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/03/20 10:41 PM
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Saddddd why is this me loool
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/02/20 06:06 PM
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Thanks so much I musnt lose hope then xD In what ways do guys who show commitment and dedication? I don’t think I’ve ever had that happen. I always find chemistry with the ones who didn’t match what they said, luckily it never lasts long.... but I still have yet to have chemistry with someone who wants to commit or whatever
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 11:40 PM
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I see. Because now I’m doubting my intuition. I look for chemistry when dating and unfortunately chemistry is like the tool for men to manipulate you into thinking he’s a good guy and only has eyes for you. So then I was like is love not supposed to feel like love I’m confused because one guy I’m not very attracted to and I know he’d probably be a good stable guy but I just can’t feel the passion or love but I’m wondering if the feeling comes later or something because the guy I was falling for …
/r/RedPillWomen25/02/20 11:35 PM
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Will do!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:53 PM
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I feel so stupid since I don’t know any of these manipulative behaviors from men. It makes sense why I’ve never been able to find a man who is genuine and consistent. I think I give too much before waiting to see if he reciprocates. How do I prevent myself from doing this? I want him to see my worth but I don’t want him to receive my worth before he deserves it or before I trust his intentions. DAting is so hard when 90% of men are trash
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:38 PM
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If he is breadcrumbing you in the early stages of getting to know you is that a sign he will do it if he commits to you? Or is it common for guys do do this if they’re not yet committed ? I’m confused because I don’t understand the evil mind
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/02/20 08:21 PM
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My sister 😂
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/02/20 04:12 AM
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I just finished the book “for women only” which brings me to a unique insight into this situation. To be honest that rando guy was rude and unknowingly being disrespectful of you. You did not want to be made out to be a sexual object because you are more than a nice body! It’s natural to feel defensive and upset over your boyfriend not making a big deal out of it because you might be thinking either your boyfriend thinks of you in the same context as sexual object or he didn’t care enough to def…
/r/RedPillWomen19/02/20 02:09 AM
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Yes true thank you for your words of caution
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 08:01 AM
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Just to add a note besides this being awesome .... do not rely on your accomplishments to fulfill you because you’ll be waiting to fee fulfilled, happy, and self love till you reach those goals.... sort of like “you don’t get to feel good until you’ve achieved this goal” and many people have that backwards. You should first feel good about yourself and life and then you can have a more enjoyable time reaching new desires and goals but never suffering because the lack of those goals being reached…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:58 AM
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I have wanted to do journaling and in fact started two or three times but for some reason ALWAYS forget to do it. I should have that be my main habit to form!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:44 AM
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Thank you I need to remember to play defensive not offensive
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 07:43 AM
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Thank you your comment is so helpful ❤️ I have that book in my “wish list”!
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 07:40 AM
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I love this comment thanks your brilliant
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:36 AM
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The problem is I’ve been looking for a job so I haven’t had money to do things and I kind of get bored of the every day things I try to love in my day and so I feel trapped and I start seeking others to add joy to my life but because nothing is competing with a new move he becomes my main attraction and I get insecure and anxiously attached ): I’m glad I learned so quickly from my mistakes I’m still making improvements with my anxious mind and self love it’s a new concept to love myself so I’m n…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:23 AM
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Thank you I think I got caught up toooooooooo focused on the good feelings of someone else I forgot I can have a great time with or without them and I just temporarily forgot my happiness without needing another
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:20 AM
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Thanks my friend for looking out for me, I would t diagnose myself as bipolar cuz I think those labels only make people feel helpless in solving their own problems. It would make me focus on the negative and my settlements rather than fixing my issues I’ve been lucky to have a big interest in self improvement and I’ve been improving all sorts of mental disorders just with time and self love and learning ❤️ I make a lot of mistakes but I’m hopeful that I’m going to gain control over my emotions a…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 03:19 AM
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Thanks so much ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 03:17 AM
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True man finding decent people is so much hard work lol but I guess that’s why they’re worth it they’re rare
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 02:35 AM
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Thanks for this comment it’s so helpful! I realize exactly where I went wrong with this person and now I worry I ruined the potential because of my lack of knowledge and I guess I’ll just take this as lesson learned
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 02:10 AM
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I do agree and understand where you’re coming from but I do practice self love very frequently and I’ve been making great improvements in self esteem but old habits die hard and I catch myself going back to old thinking ways sometimes when I get triggered and I remember the hurt and pain of heartbreak and I start to lose self esteem a bit. But I always come back around, every pain and hurt is a learning opportunity for growth!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:50 AM
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Wel at first he was the one who initiated and I wasn’t interested in him really but I felt such amazing chemistry with him over the phone that HOOKED me. And then things got hard when he went out of state before we got to have any dates and it’s been long distance so it feels like he’s waiting for a more interpersonal opportunity ORRRR I fucked it up by being TOO interested and affectionate too early. He’s a little older and has more life experience and heart break so I might of seriously scared…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:48 AM
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I would love a strong gal pal group I’m so bad with making friends with women... I feel intimidated or judged a lot.... my family was like all females and they were very harsh and critical and so I naturally fear women a bit to criticize me
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 01:41 AM
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But after like a month of me initiating you’d think he’d initiate just once. But no. I always give in and text him because I miss talking with him lol. And my hope is oh well maybe if I just keep texting him eventually he’ll start to like me more and initiate more but nope it’s like he’s lost interest and I understand why. I think I pushed too much too quickly. I think it’s only complicated because it’s long distance right now (he’s moving back soon) and maybe things just didn’t start right. May…
/r/RedPillWomen18/02/20 12:25 AM
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Number 9 I’ve been having trouble with just enjoying moments alone. I start to feel lack because I feel like these moments with myself would be so much more fun maybe with friends or a lover. Maybe I’m missing out too much of social fun because tbh I have no close friends who live near by. Only abroad. Maybe what I need is to develop friendships before I develop relationships
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:21 AM
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Thanks I loved your advice!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/02/20 12:16 AM
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The only issue with this one is I’ll be looking around for me. Vetting etc. and then one will stand out and sort of cancel out the others and then I lose all desires to put my focus into other people because this person is satisfying my needs so I don’t go looking for more men.... Yes i learn everytime that I am too naive and I believe people have the same intentions as me which is not accurate My intensions are mostly pure and come from my heart and I find men either lie about this or make you …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 11:38 PM
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I would tell him I liked him if he has shown interest in seeking me out but he has been silent for days I am the only one who initiates conversation so I believe I pushed too much and it scared him off or he was never that interested to begin with. Maybe I read all the signals wrong
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 11:20 PM
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Women are the sexual selection choosers for evolution. We don’t need to be fucking every guy we see because there are so many who want us. Guys forget that they need to impress the lady with skill or valuable traits to win her over. Just look at birds. Only the best dancers, beautiful colored, and resourceful birds get to mate with the female birds. I think during the oppression of women, men became lazy and delusional in thinking they get to be low value and expect high value women because that…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/02/20 08:59 AM
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Thanks I’ll check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen17/02/20 03:41 AM
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So as a moral code I don’t find porn bad, in fact I’ve wanted to try VR porn at least once or twice (never have) But I stopped watching porn all together because I know how bad it is for a healthy sex life and desire. (I didn’t watch porn all that often anyways) but many many men enjoy porn but do not understand the detrimental health effects it can have on your mind and ability to enjoy regular pleasures. Porn fucks with your brain and you become less and less stimulated by basic sexual acts yo…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 09:37 PM
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Sad reality to accept, need to stop giving excuses for lack of interest
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:24 PM
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Exactly
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/02/20 09:24 PM
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I loved your comment thanks so much. I do know that right now I won’t “know” for sure until maybe he moves back. I hadn’t had the opportunity to ask when he’s planning on coming back, it was just a casual conversation about him thinking of coming back, but no date. This certainly does complicate things making it harder to tell if he’s just not interested in like a text or FaceTime relationship type of thing (being too much distance communication and not enough interpersonal) I do know that he is…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 08:31 PM
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Yes I keep thinking things like why am I not good enough bleh I forget my self worth when I feel rejected
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 01:53 AM
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I’m annoyed I’m thinking about this guy still tho cuz he makes me really lol damn I hate to believe he really isn’t interested in me cuz we could make some magic together haha I might mention his tinder profile was horrible haha I don’t think this guy is much in social media or his cell phone. I keep deceiving myself thinking he only hasn’t texted cuz he’s like an old man with a phone or maybe other reasons. I keep making up excuses and it gives me the excuse to continue crushing. Bleh I feel li…
/r/RedPillWomen16/02/20 01:05 AM
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Yeah my standards are pretty high because of how much I work on myself so that’s why I’m worried LOL I worry no one can match me in my efforts to self love and be positive and happy. Maybe I just need to go to events where I know these self improving men will be huehuehue, but then again I’m quiet and shy and introverted so I’ll probably just die alone. Sigh...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 09:56 PM
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He might have said it to get a reaction (of jealousy) from you... he was probably resting you to see if you’d obsess and beg for his approval. I noticed some guys will do this because they’re insecure and they want you to fight over them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 09:38 PM
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Thanks! Sometimes I wonder if there will ever be a man who puts in as much love and effort as I would in a relationship...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 09:35 PM
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Thanks I’ll check it out!
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:17 PM
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Yes I wish I’m person could happen sooner than later because his lack of communication makes me believe he is not interested. I would expect even a bad texted you make effort though? Or is that wrong to think such a wAy
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:09 PM
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I have told him I enjoy talking with him. He has said it back multiple times, and we have casually talked about a date, but since he’s out of state right now it’s only theoretical dates and so it’s really not the same as actionable responses to wanting a date. Since we are still getting to know each other I didn’t want to be like “I like you” cause I’m pretty sure it’s obvious especially saying things like “I love talking to you.”
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:08 PM
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It’s hard to see him as someone manipulating me for an ego boost but I think even subconsciously men will act like this, but I’m also a little naive when it comes to men’s devilish acts to get with a woman...
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:06 PM
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I love this response thank you! Haha I’m totally a rat in this scenario
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:03 PM
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Thanks for your advice! I must remember to not give myself away to someone who is not willing to do the same
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:02 PM
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I really appreciate the advice thank you! I’ll keep this in mind
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 09:04 AM
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There’s definitely no friend zone vibe, the opposite in fact. Not overtly sexual or anything. Just maybe the occasional flirtatious comment like about him being a good kisser or about what we’ll do on our 3rd date. Just fun and playful not platonic. He has told me he doesn’t like smart phones and he wants to go back to flip phone (I mentioned wanting to get rid of my smartphone) but The conversation about his texting habits has not come up. I did mention in one FaceTime “I was worried I was both…
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 09:03 AM
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But you can tell fairly quickly who’s a great person or not can’t you ? Like I’ve been talking to guys for months not rushing anything just chatting and then this guy I didn’t think I’d be interested in comes along and we just have good talks and I noticed how skillful he is at conversation and other things, so then all my attention goes to this guy cause he’s clearly the cream of the crop and I don’t have the energy to spend talking to other guys so I usually hone in on who I like (this is the …
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:23 AM
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UHg I just hate dating because I often can’t find a good man. There’s so many basic ones to sift through ):
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:19 AM
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Yes I agree the only thing that kept me contacting him is he seems so charming and interested when we do talk (of course me initiating) so I held onto that hope....): I hate liking someone so much and then I found out it’s one sided....I never get crushes but when I do it’s usually one sided ): oh well.
/r/RedPillWomen15/02/20 08:14 AM
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My version of kinky sex is the man being completely immersed and in love with my pleasure, because I’m my experience it’s difficult to find a man who enjoys giving pleasure and seeing a woman’s reaction to pleasure vs only being concerned with their own pleasure. I say I’m kinky because I’m open to being creative with sex and having fun with it, not because I’m into some hard core shit lol. I wonder what other people’s ideals of “kinky” are. Seems like there’s some variety of opinions...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/02/20 05:45 AM
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I felt this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/02/20 06:36 PM
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You know I find it strange that most men I talk to describe their exes as crazy... hmmmmmmmmmm
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/01/20 07:42 PM
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I think a lot of people do not take the time to empathize or care about others needs. They can fall asleep because to them it’s bliss to have a women besides them in bed. It’s calming. They’ll fall asleep without a care in the world, meaning not a care for their partner - wondering how they’re able to sleep in a new bed or person. it’s nice to be shown that your partner is thinking and caring for you and not only about themselves
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 07:09 PM
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True
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:44 PM
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They want to do it with yol they just don’t want you to have fun without them or to look at other men
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/01/20 06:20 PM
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I agree! You are valid to desire to be taken care of. Relationships are give and take. BUT it’s something you might have to discuss or just find the right match because some people have certain things they like to receive more of and give less of and then same for giving more of and receiving less of. Could be kinky or romantic idk but just depends on the persons
/r/RedPillWomen07/01/20 06:45 AM
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I think this is only gross if muse to the male means an object or he doesn’t see you as a human just like him he sees you as some sort of beautiful object to USE you as inspiration and to let you go when you no longer serve his inspiration. Otherwise if they’re a healthy human with healthy values and honor you as an individual with feelings and thoughts then it’s not so bad
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/01/20 10:21 PM
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Great recommendation!
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 10:44 PM
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Yes exactly he was playing me and his parents
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:28 PM
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Exactly!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:01 PM
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Yes I had to meet the parents of my first boyfriend and he was very much a play boy and so I was mad like why you make me meet yo parents then
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 02:01 PM
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Yes here we go. It’s important to feel our feelings. Do not let anyone tell you your feelings are invalid. I KNOW it’s not just a male thing, but I feel more of a sting of annoyance when a male discounts my reality or feelings.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 01:20 PM
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Yes it’s like they’ve given up putting any effort into winning the affections of a women and they complain when women have high standards because it means they have to work hard on themselves which most people don’t like to do
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/12/19 12:32 PM
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I think your awkwardness is just your manifestation of insecurity. You would not be so awkward if you felt confident in your value. I believe confidence is not something you just get, you have to actively be confident in order to grow confidence. So next time you catch yourself thinking “I’m so awkward.” Stop yourself 🛑 and say positive affirmations about yourself like, “I love myself, I am confident and strong, I have a lot to offer, I am worthy of love.” Work on your self love and others will …
/r/RedPillWomen29/12/19 04:37 AM
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Okay because I’ve only had two partners and they were both duck boys who didn’t care about my pleasure at all so I really hate the idea of giving myself to someone who won’t appreciate me... never again I said
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 09:09 AM
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How do you understand if they’re good lovers without indicating you’ll give them sex . I hate to make them think I’m easy, but I would like to not waste my time with a fuck boy who doesn’t like to please his woman right
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy25/12/19 05:08 AM
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This is GREAT friend advice thank you
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/12/19 10:00 AM
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I like lingerie to feel sexy and boost confidence, not that I’ve ever worn it before tho... my first partner kind of chuckled when I wore this choker piece and I felt silly for wanting to be dressed up, but he was an asshole anyways . I should not be fearful because of him
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 11:13 PM
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Man this ain’t a bad idea. Put the expectation off women and the guy can’t use no condom excuse unless he wants a baby.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/12/19 05:34 AM
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Swerve that dude quick
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/12/19 09:37 AM
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Yes and I see OP has had the same problem for over a year . Her problem is she is unwilling to let go of the time she invested in him and find a new partner probably . I understand how hard it is to let go of someone you care about but if they’re not serving your needs then you gatta move on. Sounds like OP wants someone to be as driven as she is.
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 10:34 PM
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Never ever compare. You are on your OWN life journey. You will make mistakes and then make better choices but others are own their own life path too. You will never be able to be someone else so maybe you need to focus more on yourself and re evaluate what you want. You keep repeating “he is a good guy” like you feel guilty for having higher expectations. The problem isn’t with him it’s with you. You decided to settle for his immature behaviors instead of holding what you know to be the best opt…
/r/RedPillWomen16/12/19 02:30 AM
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Sometimes the hardest lessons are the ones that stick with us to learn from I’m sorry your marriage was bad I hope you learned to value yourself out of the experience and love yourself! Own your power
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/12/19 01:31 AM
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The only way is self-work, self-improvement, self-education and information, couples or family therapy, self or personal therapy, identifying unhealthy patterns and changing them with healthy reactions and behaviors
/r/RedPillWomen15/12/19 01:34 PM
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Women need to hear more of this!!!!! We get caught up in the guy Because we think that’s the pain point. Truth is the guy doesn’t mean shit to us and it’s our perceived rejection and loneliness that has us hurt. We forget to stand up for ourselves and love ourselves. We loose who we are trying to win the approval of a man
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/12/19 09:08 PM
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I think I understand your hesitation. Something about him must seem off, it could be how he asked or just how he expected when you guys were just getting to know each other. Personally I always bring money and I usually offer to split when getting to know someone because I feel if he wanted to “woo” me he wouldn’t accept my money. I prefer more romantic dates and money is an issue for me, so having to shell out money I don’t have puts a stump in any romantic feelings because money is a stressful…
/r/RedPillWomen08/12/19 09:06 PM
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Wow why do I know too many Rons
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy02/12/19 10:27 AM
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Haha true!! They pull this excuse
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/11/19 04:07 AM
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Maybe I’m brainwashed into giving them a slap on the wrist when really they deserve a slap in the face. Using ppl does suck and I’m sure those guys I talked about are conscious about their behavior in some degree, they just don’t care about your feelings or existence unless it’s useful to them
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:31 AM
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I think some guys lie to themselves that they are the good guys, the ones with an ego trip and think they’re smarter or better than you bc they’re male and think highly of themselves from their male culture. So they may date wanting sex and believing that being a good guy consists of waiting for 3 dates before sex, saying you’re beautiful, and splitting the bill bc he’s a feminist and treats women equally. Those kinds of guys r the worst. (I dated one briefly when I was new to dating)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:26 AM
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It sounds like me. I am working on myself to be better for me and other people and experience the world in a better light, but it’s so tempting to just reach for an easy fix of feeling good and rewarded like you earned it. It’s only a distraction from working on yourself and your goals and self love. I think you should inspect why you’re craving love from him and if you’re trying to fill some sort of void with him. Ask yourself why you feel that void and see if there is anything more healthy and…
/r/RedPillWomen15/11/19 03:14 AM
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Yes this is why it’s so important to hold off for a while cuz assholes like this!!! They pretend like they’re good guys but when it comes down to it they just want sex from a pretty & kind woman. They have no real intentions of finding something real and genuine, just playing a long the part of a good guy so he can get laid.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:09 AM
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I agree that whatever we are told growing up about sex we tend to believe is true, often dysfunctional beliefs resulting in dysfunctional behavior. I grew up feeling shame and fear over my womanly body. I was educated about what a vagina and penis are, but never educated about sanitary health and general everyday health for private parts. I was taught how to use protection during sex and what STDs looked like up close, but not how to have trusting consensual sex or how to look out for red flags …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/11/19 03:07 AM
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They have the hormones that cause violent behavior and yet they fear our crying more than war. Smh.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy13/11/19 10:19 PM
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True, I’m not saying he will ever make the move, in fact it sounds somewhat like he has always liked his ex but maybe she never felt this way about him. If she ever changes her mind though and makes a move on him then I really doubt he would stop her. It sounds like whatever SHE chooses HE will respond with his choice. So she doesn’t want him, he doesn’t go after her, she wants him he goes after her, she wants him but then changes her mind and says it’s a mistake then he’ll change his mind and s…
/r/RedPillWomen13/11/19 07:29 AM
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HAHAHA THIS!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 09:37 AM
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Yes the guys who can’t survive without their gf cuz they’re insecure have no hobbies or life purpose usually
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/11/19 06:14 AM
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I respect you opinion and encourage you to feel confident in expressing your ideas ❤️
/r/RedPillWomen07/11/19 01:19 AM
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No no I don’t mean that level romance that’s of course given in bite sized pieces so it’s easily digestible. Lol. Like a rose next to every text or maybe just listening, really listening, wanting to know more about you, caring about your emotions, it’s all bite sized pieces at first and when the relationship builds you can do more grand things of course. So even a NEW person you SHOULD be able to tel if they even put in any effort with little bite sized pieces. Certain things like did he dress n…
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 12:48 AM
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Oh that’s fucked up. I’m used to hearing the women blamed for being used and not enough men being blamed for using
/r/RedPillWomen05/11/19 12:43 AM
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Children are soooooooo high maintenance which is where the term “it takes a village to raise a kid” comes from. Back when people would help each other out with entertaining and teaching the kids things. One person simply can’t do it all because one person has their own life. They can’t spend all their time on their child and plus burnout is a real thing... jobs, family, etc. so I completely understand wanting a secure family before you raise a child.. it’s a HUGE responsibility and NO ONE talks …
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 09:39 PM
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Also he’s manipulating to make you feel bad for him, his groveling and pity is his last resort to manipulate you. Run far away from this one
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy31/10/19 11:59 AM
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Korean culture is the same! Also you stay at work until the boss leaves even if that’s till midnight plus drinks afterwards.
/r/RedPillWomen31/10/19 06:56 AM
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Bro sounds like a closeted woman hater
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 11:08 AM
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Preach ! 🙌
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy30/10/19 11:07 AM
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Yes! Men will only come to realization when other people call them out on their behavior. OP your self realization is a great leadership quality that other men will look up to. Please educate and inform others who you find doing these behaviors. Not just for women, but for themselves. Glad OP could come to self awareness on his dysfunctional behaviors.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy28/10/19 10:35 PM
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Sorry I don’t understand what you’re implying, what you’re saying seams to be different than what I said. I also did not post that link. Maybe replied to wrong person.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy27/10/19 09:43 PM
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My sisters ex/ baby daddy is emotionally manipulative and he constantly pokes the bear until he gets an emotional reaction from her which is exactly what he wants. It’s his way of trying to gain power over her emotions, so that he can hopefully manipulate her into loving him again or coming back to him She does not understand that her responses to him are just feeding his power over her
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy23/10/19 10:09 PM
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I’m ganna start spreading the word about emotional blackmail. It may not be forcing but it is coercion. I think it’s so fucked up that coercion/emotional blackmail is not talked about because it’s PROBABLY the most common form of sexual abuse/rape/assault/whatever you want to call it. It’s FUCKED UP and it’s NOT OKAY to do that to anyone ever. I’m sick of men looking at women as sexual objects and not like people with realities of their own. My first partner literally told me he thought I was st…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 11:35 AM
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I think it’s very important to recognize the fact that coercion can be simply emotionally manipulating someone for sex, it doesn’t have to be violent or intense.... my first sexual partner did this. I don’t think he realized he was even doing it. I don’t blame him because it was my own choices to accept the treatment of him. I let someone use me like a personal sex toy/masturbatory toy because I felt bad, and he made me feel bad for wanting to feel pleasure and for not wanting sex to hurt. Simpl…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy22/10/19 07:51 AM
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You’re caught up in the love drug and you’re seeing him through rose colored glasses trust me the glasses come off eventually. He is just a male. He isn’t the answer to your happiness and life joy. He has the potential to bring value and support into your life but he will just be him, an imperfect human. Just like you, he will have his flaws. See him as an imperfect human and start valuing yourself and what you desire. If you desire a mature man who goes out of his way to be his best version of …
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/19 10:20 PM
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Personally anytime someone is offended by not replying I take it as a red flag. Doesn’t matter the context. The reason they got offended by no response has to do with insecurities. I don’t mess with any guy with that level of insecurity bc I would never want to feel anxious that I HAVE to respond at all let alone right away ... I want to be able to respond whenever I want weather it’s right away or 3 days later. I’m an introvert and sometimes don’t like to talk to people 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/10/19 10:09 PM
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From my own experience with depression I’d say a lot of it is self loathing, sometimes we feel shame about ourselves and our emotions and it’s a self feeding loop that won’t stop till I decides to change. Unfortunately no one can get him to change except himself and this might be very difficult to want to help and support him changing but if he doesn’t seek out help himself to fix why we his feeling numb and other negative feelings then he will stay that way. You can be there for him and support…
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 09:01 PM
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Pull ups! If you walk around try finding things to do pull ups with. You can buy an at home pull up bar that attaches to the doors
/r/RedPillWomen21/10/19 08:19 PM
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Yes! I’m healing from dysfunctions and I knew this boy would bring be back to dysfunction. I’m glad I told him I can’t help him and he needs to go help himself
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 05:03 AM
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Yes exactly. I also think it’s important to know the difference between cocky and confident because so many people are cocky but also insecure. I think true confidence is just tons of self love (healthy) cocky is narcissistic and often insecure form of confidence. They want you to feed back to them that they are beautiful bc they don’t genuinely believe it so they make sure everyone knows it
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy20/10/19 05:01 AM
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Why do I feel so guilty? Wonder if it’s cultural, or my upbringing or my personality or what what’s wrong with me!!!! Lol I’m drawn to his dysfunction maybe cuz he’s giving me attention?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy19/10/19 12:07 AM
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Oh my god you’re right ...
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 11:30 PM
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I love ancient history 🤷🏻‍♀️
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 10:56 PM
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It’s shown that men often think higher of their looks than rated by others and women think less of their looks than rated by others Lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 10:36 PM
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HAHAHAHA classic fear of the patriarchy. Yes matriarchy is real and in our ancient past there were matriarchal civilizations. When the patriarchy took over they destroyed the evidence of this, much like humans destroy everything for power... The difference is in the ancient Egyptian matriarchal past it was celebrated to embrace both feminine and masculine qualities within yourself..... the patriarchy wanted ultimate supremacy and divided our feminine and masculine sides for control
/r/RedPillWomen18/10/19 10:31 PM
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we were told to have abstinence and told to abstain from giving into sex... then as we grow old and realize these old traditions are ridiculous and we try out sex and realize it’s not as scary and shameful as the adults made us believe.... THEN after realizing there is SOME value to what the adults were saying... it’s not about never having sex and pleasure.... it’s about holding your worth and value to where it belongs and not settling or allowing anyone to bring you down to a lesser value or w…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 08:10 PM
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Hahahahah classic
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy18/10/19 08:03 PM
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Faking orgasms only furthers the ignorance of men. They literally believe they are giving girls orgasms by there subpar methods and so they continue doing subpar things. If you want them to learn and be better you have to hurt their ego first so they can learn they aren’t all that by doing that.... but they CAN be all that if they’re willing to learn ..
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy11/10/19 07:23 AM
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Should be pinned on this forum
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 10:01 AM
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Literally took me a second but I died laughing
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 04:28 AM
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There’s a study that shows women’s worst fear is a man murdering them, and a mans worst fear is a woman’s rejection
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/10/19 12:09 AM
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This is why you hold out until you can trust them to honor you as a person and woman
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 10:14 PM
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AMAZING WILL POWER!!!!! You were so excited and yet you didn’t let him move your boundary when he disappointed you. I could say more but I’m sure you know you are a bad ass haha Also to me it sounded like he wanted an EASY get laid scheme, he might have even done that so that you’d push your boundaries to meet him at his house like he originally intended. What an ass!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy05/10/19 07:56 AM
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Oh we have different standards for sure. I’m not strictly looking for man with job lol
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/09/19 12:36 AM
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These are everywhere in Denver
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy26/09/19 11:45 PM
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