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12

That is the responsibility of the person who created this situation. Look at the woman who lied not the man who tried.
/r/Divorce_Men10/07/26 06:36 PM
3

Give her the dog and consider yourself lucky. Think with your head not your heart.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 09:43 PM
1

Yeah that sub used to be a legit useful resource. IDK what happened a few years ago but something changed.
/r/Divorce_Men15/05/26 12:54 AM
4

Sounds familiar. Here’s what I learned. I didn’t change, I allowed myself to be manipulated. I lit myself on fire to keep her warm. I wondered why she wasn’t grateful. It’s because she lost respect for me. Step 1 wish her well on her journey, end it, and go no contact. Step 2 Read No More Mister Nice Guy. Hit the gym. Get therapy. Step 3 apply your new skills professionally and personally. Look for, recognize, and shut down red flag behavior in yourself and the people you allow in your life.
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/26 10:32 AM
1

Gitterdun son
/r/Divorce_Men09/04/26 06:27 PM
7

Learned: Divorce law is cruelly unfair when there is a disparity of income. Differences: Higher income women come with a different set of challenges. Would I invest more in second: Nope. Will never get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men08/04/26 09:26 PM
3

Not all, but most. Fueled by money and attention.
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/26 10:40 AM
10

So many worse posts in that sub. She’s not happy and doesn’t want to do the work? C’ya. Better to find out sooner than later and much better than having to give half your life’s work and worth plus future earnings as welfare. The cackling take everything bc the earned it by hanging out in the house you bought crowd are the awful ones.
/r/Divorce_Men04/03/26 05:00 PM
9

You were deceived. Many things that were lost will soon be found. The ring will conspire to return to its master. And thus will end the dominion of men. Shoulda thrown it in the volcano.
/r/Divorce_Men18/10/25 10:47 AM
10

Divorce her faster.
/r/Divorce_Men22/08/25 10:43 AM
3

Yeah she didn’t “trick” OP, she made an offer and he accepted. Only person he can be mad at is himself, and that’s self destructive. Chalk it up as a relatively inexpensive lesson learned, move on, and don’t make the same mistake again.
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/25 07:30 PM
5

Trying to live it on her terms.
/r/Divorce_Men06/08/25 04:19 PM
12

Woosh
/r/Divorce_Men03/08/25 08:12 PM
13

Stoicism is not about being a silent punching bag or doormat. Stoicism encourages us to act thoughtfully and with purpose, but still act.
/r/Divorce_Men18/06/25 12:13 AM
3

Yeah idgaf whose “fault” it is. I want alimony eliminated and custody granted to whoever can best provide for the kids. That will help everyone in the relationship to make more responsible decisions.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/25 12:18 PM
8

If you look at marriage as a business model - for women it makes sense. 5 kids from 5 baby daddy’s at 20% each and poof they have 5 diversified income streams for a couple of decades with no job. Plus 50% of assets regardless of earnings, and potentially alimony, why tf wouldn’t they get divorced as much as possible? I suspect this will change as more women enter the workforce and become the higher earners. Suddenly when it’s their earnings it will be unfair. We need to end alimony, and send kid…
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/25 10:48 AM
5

Good job. Prepare yourself for the backlash. While your points are valid the most obvious next steps for her are - “you are blaming me when <list of stuff that you did / didn’t do>”; acknowledge and stick with something like we both deserve the chance to find someone we can treat better next time - hysterical bonding (look it up on r/deadbedrooms if you don’t know) now that her actions have consequences; keep your dick in you pants - it NEVER lasts - and crazy hell beast when her lawyer fills he…
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/25 10:40 AM
2

50% in divorce, another 25% unhappy. I married because I thought I found the unicorn - the 25%er that with some work on both sides was going to work out. And I wanted all the things that came with that - a romance, a partner, a family. I got most of that, and I can deal with the various personality quirks but the deadbedroom is tough. Anyway marriage is a scam. Once you are legally locked down they change.
/r/Divorce_Men31/03/25 11:38 AM
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This 💯💥🔥⬆️. In other words I couldn’t agree more. Classic battle plan when they are on the back foot - deescalate, placate, retreat, regroup, gain allies and weapons, attack, conquer, pillage. OP about to get fuuuuuucked - and not in a good way.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/25 03:12 PM
20

Provider mindset needs to stop. It’s bad for us, and it’s bad for them.
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/25 04:29 PM
8

“You don’t think you need to change. I do. I think we are done here.”
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/25 12:35 AM
14

You are being manipulated. Gender swap this and post it over in r/divorce and follow that advice to the letter. Having said that alimony needs to be abolished but that will only happen when more higher earning women feel the consequences and join the cause. Do your part.
/r/Divorce_Men23/02/25 04:15 PM
4

My guess is she monkey branched to someone else who she thinks will better serve her and her ‘promises to her childhood self’. But IDKWIDK.
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/25 05:16 PM
1

User name checks out. Don’t know about the leap to DV, but that post has me pretty sympathetic to her. Kudos to OP for honesty ig, but not so much for self awareness. OP let her go and get yourself to therapy.
/r/Divorce_Men19/02/25 07:55 PM
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You don’t. You stay until they stop treating you with respect and love and then you move on. Unless you want kids. Then you decide whether you want to be in the kids lives. If yes then you hope it will get better, or suck it up if it doesn’t.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 08:15 PM
12

“I’m sure you do.”
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/24 08:07 PM
3

Communism??? Individualism and self centeredness aren’t exactly hallmarks of the communist lifestyle. They are 100% a bastardization of late stage “I got mine” capitalism though. Even early capitalism is based on a philosophy that collaborates for mutual benefit. Individualism and self centeredness are philosophies foisted on the poor to keep them from joining together and taking their share. Ape together strong.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 12:09 PM
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Can’t afford it. Literally. While we all sit around and bitch and moan about feminism and male value, we are letting the billionaires take all the money from our work and thanking them for scraps. We can’t afford the old ways. The divorce courts are taking the rest. Marriage has been turned into a business model, complete with sabbaticals, early retirement, and a pension plan for the lowest earners. The answer is to engage, but differently. Change the laws, change the lawmakers, change the socie…
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 11:58 AM
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Yup. I’ll never chase a woman again. If I find one going my direction I’m open to traveling together. I’ll never marry again until alimony / spousal support is eliminated or significantly reformed.
/r/Divorce_Men26/11/24 11:26 AM
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NTA but if you are still angry and hurt then she still has power over you. You wanna fuck with her head move on emotionally. Be friendly but never open the door to intimacy again. Ever. That will drive her nuts - just look at how you feel as shes doing it to you.
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/24 10:49 AM
3

They almost universally want what their girl friends have.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 02:08 PM
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OP is not responsible for her behavior. She had years, sometimes decades and her actions reflect her choices. She clearly knows how to behave now that it is at the end, but chose not too during. If she wants therapy for herself she could have gotten it. She is responsible for her own behavior.
/r/Divorce_Men12/10/24 02:04 PM
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Look up PTSD, because it sounds like ur going through it, and there might be some useful tips for dealing with episodes like this. IANAP but when the intrusive thoughts are winning I try to do something physical. Anything from a walk to touch grass, to maybe more demanding like run, lift, ride, swim, hit some balls, whatevs floats your boat.
/r/Divorce_Men26/09/24 05:57 PM
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Yeah that and the trad wife bend over backwards comment pretty much puts me on team wife.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/24 12:17 PM
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First IDK the details - you could be an ass or she could be frigid or a 100 things in between. However in r/deadbedrooms there’s a thing called hysterical bonding - the “I’ll do anything to keep you” stage. Most of the time the “anything” dries up pretty quick because that’s not who they really are. They showed you who they were in the years before the reckoning. So if you can accept the historical person then figure it out, but understand that the hysterical person is going to be temporary 99% …
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 09:59 PM
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Women hate this one weird trick..
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/24 09:28 PM
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If you can manage the feels and keep it a casual fwb then yes. If you can’t then no. Under no circumstances remarry.
/r/Divorce_Men02/09/24 02:09 PM
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Believe it or not straight to more alimony jail.
/r/Divorce_Men17/08/24 07:27 PM
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Talk to people. Listen for common interests. Do them together. Repeat. The easiest path for me has been through hobbies. Almost every friendship started with doing something and developed from there.
/r/Divorce_Men01/08/24 04:28 AM
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This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/24 02:01 AM
6

Women overreport DV, men underreport DV.
/r/Divorce_Men13/07/24 03:44 AM
3

“Seven”
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/24 11:22 AM
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Had me in the first half ngl. But second half is still a todo list for the man. Until we have more todo lists for the woman this story is going to play on endless repeat. Responsibility and accountability must go both ways.
/r/Divorce_Men27/05/24 02:52 PM
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Remember that setting boundaries - including not getting married again - isn’t bitter just because someone who benefits monetarily says so.
/r/Divorce_Men21/05/24 07:07 PM
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Prolly r/relationship_advice. r/marriage, r/divorce, r/askwomen are other subs where misandry is more likely to be tolerated of late. I used to browse them for insight, but they seem to have slipped into a culture of bitterness and blame. Perhaps when Reddit banned r/FemaleDatingStrategy the femcells found willing hosts in those subs IDK. Similar to the when Reddit banned r/incells and they polluted r/MGTOW and others. Maybe letting the toxic roll around in their own puddle of filth is a better …
/r/Divorce_Men08/03/24 12:11 PM
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Jfc that must have been one hella beat down for the cops to take her and not you. Hope ur ok.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 08:46 AM
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Don’t be too hard on yourself - modern marriages are tricky. But do play with your kids every chance you get from now on. You are grieving. Get some therapy / counseling. Do the work, get healthy, learn from this. In a few months you will likely have a different perspective.
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 11:10 PM
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Tale as old as time. Or at least as old as the current state of divorce court.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/24 10:53 PM
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“A 20 year old in college also qualifies for child support until they turn 21” What the actual fuck??? Is this true? I wouldn’t leave my kid hanging but I’d want any money to go directly to the kid not to the ex.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 03:54 PM
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Marriage counseling? No. Personal counseling? Yes.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/24 12:21 PM
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That’s cool if u don’t have it in you anymore, but to OPs point, that doesn’t entitle you to force another human to fund your lifestyle.
/r/Divorce_Men25/12/23 12:22 PM
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“I’m not a guy” Not relevant. It’s an unjust system - it’s just historically impacted men more often. The more high earning women who it affects the greater the likelihood for “you keep what you earned” reform.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 06:39 PM
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Make the split at the end based on earnings and I’m in.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 01:40 PM
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This is the way. Unfortunately.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 01:37 PM
1

Statistically that’s 25% of marriages at best tho so it’s kinda hard to find them.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 01:34 PM
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Depends on the definition of “shitty”. Divorced friends getting that short term high of being chased can make a good marriage look shitty. It’s like gamblers who only talk about how much they win tho, never talk about how much they lost.
/r/Divorce_Men06/12/23 12:54 PM
1

Every time I go through some shit my friends and family have been there and I’ve told them I’m fine because I didn’t want to be a burden. Make sure you are letting people help you. Maybe even ask for help… something simple like “I could really use a night off from cooking, think you could make us some of your famous lasagna or take the kids to a movie one night?” Women get more support because they do the work. They take the time to nurture relationships, remembering that mom’s lasagna is🔥 and a…
/r/Divorce_Men29/11/23 01:13 PM
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Which makes sense if ur playing a game that doesn’t destroy you for years, often times decades, when u fail. Getting rid of alimony would be a great start.
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 11:05 AM
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Sounds like healthy skepticism to me.
/r/Divorce_Men06/11/23 11:44 AM
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Wrong perspective - the game is rigged against us. You’ve got like a 1 in 4 chance of picking a partner who doesn’t make you miserable. Maybe 1 in 10 of finding someone who makes you happy. The only real winning move is to not play. Otherwise you roll the dice, hope you get lucky, or pay the bill if you don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men04/11/23 08:23 PM
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Past lives, future lives, adjacent multiverses - something somewhere sometime was the man’s fault 🤣
/r/Divorce_Men01/11/23 11:19 PM
5

That pic! Dayum - and not in the good way…
/r/Divorce_Men24/10/23 01:44 AM
3

Thrifty yes. Side hustle no - soon as u make more they can take more and then OP is locked into that payment level. Divorce laws are well and truly fucked. Should be 2 years max for them to figure out a plan how to support themselves. That’s enough time to get a degree and find a job.
/r/Divorce_Men08/10/23 11:41 AM
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Spot on. Everyone is personally responsible for their own happiness. Even <gasp> women.
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/23 11:58 AM
4

Sometimes truth hurts. He’s a lil raw but that doesn’t make him wrong.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/23 01:02 PM
6

Lol no they aren’t. Sinners need saviors, decent people don’t.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 12:44 PM
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Attracted to the wallet tho’. But then ofc it’s not enough so it’s just a stream of “work harder”, “make more”. I guess in a cruel way it makes sense, they “settled” for cash so they just maximizing their investment. Not a good look IMO.
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/23 08:44 AM
1

First order of business - screenshot the posts and record all further interactions. Second, if ur not a deadbeat dad you have the receipts to prove it. Cleared CS and SS checks, gifts, activities, etc. if ur doing better than Ed financially, post the numbers. If not, post the % of ur income. The woman you divorced is not the woman you married. Conduct yourself accordingly.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/23 05:13 PM
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I think contrary to public opinion men tend to buy into the romance angle more easily tbh. Women too - to an extent - but I don’t think they ever truly lose sight of the financial angle like men do. I would tell my kids that I would never get married again. I don’t know that I would tell them not to ever get married, but I would warn them that any form of “SAHx” can be a financial death sentence and help them understand divorce laws.
/r/Divorce_Men13/09/23 11:42 PM
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Knew a guy who knew a guy who did the math… sooo much cheaper to rent. Find a regular and go 1-2x a month. Gives u that post nut clarity so u can keep looking for unicorns in between visits. Wrap that soldier up, and do NOT get married again.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/23 09:17 PM
0

That’s manipulative and transactional.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 10:40 AM
1

Fuck that noise. Plenty of unmarried light switches out there.
/r/Divorce_Men04/09/23 10:37 AM
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Business 101 - eliminate competition. But srsly - sounds like ur not ready to be mono. Move on and go get ur freak on u til u get it out of your system.
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 10:07 PM
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Nooooooooooooooo
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/23 01:15 AM
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None of this is your fault. Your dad made his choices and that’s on him. Your mom asking you at 12 to take sides is manipulative af and ur probably going to need to work through that with some therapy, but his choice isn’t on her either. None of this is your fault, you just need to build some coping skills.
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/23 04:17 PM
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I’m obviously not a therapist and don’t know your situation but you may want to explore why being alone is hard for you. Being comfortable alone is like a super power. Even the most extroverted artists perfect their craft in isolation. Maybe it will add some healthy balance?
/r/Divorce_Men06/06/23 10:30 PM
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I suspect the reality of bills hits em before logic but tomato potatah 🤷‍♀️
/r/Divorce_Men02/06/23 07:49 PM
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The real LPT is in the comments. Exes antics should be nothing more than a source of mild amusement that is quickly forgotten.
/r/Divorce_Men31/05/23 01:23 PM
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Yup. Went and we came out with a todo list - for me. Did em, things weren’t better. In fact worse for me bc now I had the extra emotional labor of making her feel good about herself on top of earning “our” living (comrade), cleaning, etc. So next time we went I asked what her todo list was. She never suggested it again. I did learn how to use words like “emotional labor”tho so not a total loss ig.
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 01:14 PM
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Lawyer lawyer lawyer repeat until you get a lawyer. Sounds like she knows how the business model works, make sure you do too. The big new house is a giant red flag, easiest line item to split in half so the more she can get you to spend on it the more she gets back. Edits: formatting, example, etc
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/23 03:33 AM
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Why? Because most men seem to want kids and marriage is the path of least resistance. One of the repeated narratives in this sub is Dads wanting to stay in their kids lives. This is in direct opposition to the legal system that treats men as deadbeat dads while rewarding women for earning less (if any) $. We need to focus on the legal system that has essentially made marriage a business model for people who don’t want to work. Less individual STBX horror stories - although that is 100% why I’m h…
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 07:36 PM
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Started with a good message when it was just “men go their own way” but too many people added “because women are evil”. Something this sub flirts with tbh.
/r/Divorce_Men01/05/23 07:26 PM
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OP talk to your lawyer. Especially about her watching the kids during the day. IANAL but if seems like the play is to use that to establish custody, then child support.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/23 11:34 AM
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Living well is the best revenge.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/23 11:00 AM
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I’m sorry ur experiencing this. Lean in on the kids. If she’s going out do game or movie night. The more she goes out the more fun u can have with the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men02/04/23 04:59 PM
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Facts ⬆️
/r/Divorce_Men14/03/23 04:43 PM
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And he also doesn’t seem to acknowledge that statistically most marriages end in divorce, and most of the ones that don’t aren’t happy. Which leads to the aforementioned royal screwing (most of the time). We need to end alimony, or at least limit it to a year or two max.
/r/Divorce_Men10/03/23 01:08 PM
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Hate to be the “this” guy, but yeah, this. Open with a rando or a pro might have a small chance of working, but open with some dude she’s still hung up on??? Fuck that.
/r/Divorce_Men09/03/23 10:26 PM
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Yeah it’s not like we weren’t told dozens of times by Al, uncle Timmy, our friends. Marriage is a horrible financial decision. Women know, that’s why they are so insistent on it. But here we are a bunch of poor dumbfucks who ignored every warning and every sign.
/r/Divorce_Men06/03/23 02:28 AM
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IANAL (I am not a lawyer if ur new here) but if his name is on the title he should have a legal right to live there. Search this sub for something like “move out” and you will find advice and resources. To move back in, he can use his key, open his door, and let her know he is moving back into his house. If she has changed the locks, call the lock smith and the police. If she is refusing to let him back in call the police. Above all he must remain absolutely calm and non violent.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 11:51 PM
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I from what I’ve read here he needs to move the fuck back into his house faster or he will lose it. Get a wearable voice recorder to protect against DV accusations.
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/23 11:35 PM
1

Fuuuuuuuuuuuck. I’m the mouse.
/r/Divorce_Men25/02/23 02:13 AM
2

Yeah u can make more money but they get a share of that too. Alimony needs to end - split 50/50 and move on.
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/23 03:53 PM
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And some members are so good at it they’ve turned pro!
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/23 03:45 AM
1

Some poet or philosopher probably said it better but once you master loneliness not much can master you. Treat this like a new skill you must learn. It wasn’t divorce, but when I was a young man I had to change my lifestyle. I was alone for years. Eventually I learned how to be the kind of person who attracted the kind of people I wanted. So next time I look into that abyss I know that I’m strong enough to get through it. And you are too.
/r/Divorce_Men14/02/23 04:50 AM
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This is the way. Start thinking of them as witnesses to your awesome.
/r/Divorce_Men08/02/23 10:23 AM
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No. No it’s not. The pro move is to get her a raise.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/23 06:43 PM
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Why should we?
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/23 11:25 PM
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Gotdam this is gold.
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/23 12:33 AM
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Yeah she’s the one “ruining the family” by treating him poorly.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/23 01:43 PM
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Err.. I’m pretty sure men keep it under wraps out of respect for their partner. Which is what both should be doing.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 09:57 PM
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I agree. But when they can’t change them AND realize there is t anything better out there, they could choose to be grateful for what they have. But inevitably nothing will change until tax, custody, and alimony laws change.
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/22 09:51 PM
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They do the work. They plant the seeds years in advance with questions like “did he ever get angry in the past?” and other passive aggressive little comments. I’m not even sure it’s nefarious or strategic, maybe just innate. All of our shared friends have heard “funny” stories of me forgetting something, getting frustrated, or rubbing one out. If something happens someday that groundwork will turn into some narrative about being violent and addicted to porn. It can never be their fault. They do …
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/22 06:59 PM
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One thing to investigate, that may actually get some traction, is stop allowing family courts to treat child support and alimony as profit centers. Tbh I’m not sure how it works, and I think it varies state by state, and I could be wrong, but my rough understanding is that the more somebody pays the more the family courts get. Also look at the existing mens rights groups and see where you can help.
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/22 04:58 PM
1

After the divorce they change. Maybe for you, maybe not, but they become a person you’d want to be with. Just don’t stay married or marry them again or you’ll end up right back where you are.
/r/Divorce_Men20/12/22 02:20 PM
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I wanted to get married. I wanted to be married, still kinda do. But just not like this. Marriage changes a woman somehow.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 12:54 PM
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Answered already but ffs don’t let some douchewipe on the internet police your metaphors
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 07:14 PM
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Nothing kills women’s libido like marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men07/12/22 05:12 PM
4

This ⬆️. Get the kids out asap OP, and only supervised visits from now on.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/22 02:57 PM
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There are millions, probably billions of women who earn a living every day, ask them if you really want to know.
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/22 07:13 PM
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Don’t hate women, do hate marriage. Affairs of the heart should not require legal or financial binding. Their behavior improves when we can freely walk away - that’s why dating is always so much better. And get a vasectomy ffs.
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/22 12:49 PM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men16/11/22 11:41 PM
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So I’m usually fully on the D wagon, but post partum is real. Maybe try therapy, your baby will be better off with parents who can tak to each other, whether or not they live together.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/22 06:10 PM
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Ianal but u should talk to one. I get wanting another kid, that’s valid. In my state child support is 2 kids 1 woman 25%.. 2 kids 2 women 40%. You do you but make good choices.
/r/Divorce_Men20/10/22 09:11 PM
2

It know it sucks but you are going to lose your house. In the current family court system the only party entitled to their previous standard of living is the SAHX. As others have said get a lawyer and embrace minimalism.
/r/Divorce_Men07/10/22 03:15 AM
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Our home comrade. But seriously the legal system says it’s half hers. Y’all are now roommates until the paperwork says different. Don’t move out, get a lawyer, file immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/22 01:01 PM
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That is beyond fucked up. I have no words other than I’m sorry this is happening to you.
/r/Divorce_Men27/08/22 01:58 AM
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The types of women that would get angry are also the ones that treat marriage as a business model. Maybe the romantics too, but whenever I point out that they can have all the good things without involving the government it gets quiet.
/r/Divorce_Men28/07/22 10:07 PM
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The more men who do this the sooner women will start helping change the alimony bullshit.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/22 12:08 PM
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That’s not fear, that’s wisdom. Don’t let it take you to the bad place though. Women are just people, they come with all the good and the bad in varying degrees. They can be fun, just don’t marry them as that seems to be the death of joy - for them and for us. Not sure why, just is.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 08:15 PM
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Yeah same. Rule number 1 don’t take it out on the kids.
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/22 02:19 AM
4

A legally binding contract that absolves the lower earning spouse and the government of fiscal responsibility.
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/22 01:42 PM
5

Yeah mostly this. But that kind of healthy relationship can exist without a legal contract. Arguably that’s the only way it can exist.
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 12:14 PM
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Well, I think they all are a little crazy. Don’t get me wrong, I’m not redpill mgtow. I love women, I love the way they smell, feel, that devious look they give when it’s still new and fun. But I’ve been married 20ish, and have dozens of friends who can say the same, and we are all in the same boat. There’s some biological or cultural imperative that I don’t understand that turns even unicorns into bitter selfish sexless dead weight. I think the problem as OP started before he went full incel is…
/r/Divorce_Men26/04/22 12:07 PM
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Nobody should be “punished”. The biological father should support their biological child. The only unfair and unjust act is government forcing one man to pay for another man’s biological child - aka our current system.
/r/Divorce_Men04/04/22 12:36 PM
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Everything is modifiable except your payments. God help you if you get fired or want to retire like she did.
/r/Divorce_Men21/03/22 11:14 AM
1

This is a good approach, however I don’t think anything stops a spouse from retiring early anyway and once they do the fam court laws work in their favor.
/r/Divorce_Men16/03/22 09:20 PM
1

This is the way.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/22 01:14 PM
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Until the laws are changed this is the only answer
/r/Divorce_Men12/02/22 10:41 AM
6

Well said.
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:46 PM
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Well marriage might not be for u then. Culturally (and legally) marriage is a retirement and pension plan for women. If u like your money more than u like her, the faster you get out the less you will pay. Kids will only make the burden on you worse. Billions of parents work after having kids. Depression can be treated. “Communication” won’t work, she’s shown you who she is. She doesn’t want to work and if u make her she will resent it. If u don’t she won’t appreciate it. Life is hard (for u any…
/r/Divorce_Men03/02/22 01:46 PM
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“best interests of the children”
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/22 10:58 AM
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Sorry to be blunt but if you are even thinking about ever getting married again you haven’t learned anything.
/r/Divorce_Men15/01/22 01:06 AM
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I call it early retirement plus pension.
/r/Divorce_Men11/01/22 12:50 AM
3

It will change when women start having to pay too. Support equal rights and STEM.
/r/Divorce_Men27/12/21 11:23 PM
3

Carry that weight just a wee bit farther then lay down that load forever
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/21 12:32 AM
4

Ur correct, but this won’t happen until the lower classes stop attacking each other and start focusing their attention on the billionaire class
/r/MensRights29/08/21 12:43 PM
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Technically the truth but probably not the devastating counter argument you were going for
/r/MensRights29/08/21 12:40 PM
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I’d imagine it depends a lot on the settlement. If 2 adults were allowed to untangle financially and go their separate ways, then a brief mourning period and on to the next would be the norm. But these arrangements where one partner is culturally and financially able to retire early, keep getting financed, and is then entitled to a pension for years - sometimes life - probably changes a persons outlook a bit.
/r/Divorce_Men15/08/21 12:35 PM
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Preach brother. I got downvoted to oblivion a while back for daring to say that being a SAHM was basically early retirement and alimony was a pension plan. It sucks that if she gets a hair up her ass and decides to divorce me I will have to work until I die.
/r/Divorce_Men19/05/21 11:51 AM
1

What.. what just happened here???
/r/PussyPassDenied18/05/21 09:16 PM
3

Preach brother
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/20 10:33 AM
1

Yep
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