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Check in regularly via text and the occasional phone call. Remind him he’s a great guy and fire away with some humor and real talk. Repeatedly. Don’t expect a response, Just keep @ it! Your thoughts and support REALLY matter, just reaching out periodically says that you care 😊
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 01:06 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men24/07/26 12:31 AM
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🎯
/r/Divorce_Men19/07/26 06:51 PM
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I did that too, dude 😂 NOT proud of my choice to continue fucking her, but I was a completely active participant, and the sessions were memorable… helluva drug
/r/Divorce_Men18/07/26 04:50 AM
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Wow man, very well-said that really hits home
/r/Divorce_Men14/07/26 07:15 AM
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😂 I hear that!
/r/Divorce_Men11/07/26 05:22 AM
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Good on ya, mate!! One of my favorite women that I spend time with has an adult stepson that she helped raise and remains close-with even after splitting with his dad years ago. It was clear the first time that I hung out with both of them together how valuable and important that relationship is, and what a positive impact it’s made on the young man.
/r/Divorce_Men09/07/26 10:25 PM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/26 12:20 AM
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😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 04:55 AM
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Dude, that question can only be answered by YOU, and it’s gonna require actually having sex @ least 2x with; younger women, single moms, AND cougars. For best results, at least one of them needs to be MILF-certified 😂 Re-post with your results and feedback!
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 04:26 AM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men30/05/26 04:04 AM
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👏💯
/r/Divorce_Men28/05/26 05:51 PM
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😂🎯
/r/Divorce_Men26/05/26 09:45 PM
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Dude, I’m betting any pussy within your striking range is definitely ‘going’ and DAMN sure not ‘coming’ 😂
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 01:20 AM
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Re-read the post dipshit! He ain’t got kids and genuinely putting his family first accelerated the divorce, like many of us can relate to.
/r/Divorce_Men14/05/26 01:03 AM
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🤣
/r/Divorce_Men30/04/26 11:22 PM
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Dude, this is a good thing. They’ll be fine! Of course it’s hard! They are 4 legged family and you care about them -I completely relate. Not trying to minimize it at all, but the current cultural attitude towards treating pets like minor deities is borderline insanity IMO. You, and your children are WAY more important and deserving of your limited time and attention.
/r/Divorce_Men29/04/26 12:41 AM
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Those are very accurate observations. A Lady friend like that can be an invaluable ‘wingman’ and symbiotic friend for perspective, feedback and connection without the weight of long term expectations. It’s not hard to standout from the pack just by being genuinely curious and maintaining a good conversation without being thirsty. It’s like the most basic concept ever, but SO many guys aren’t able to do that. You are on a good trajectory my man!
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 09:29 PM
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Totally depends on your personality, expectations, and emotional state. If you’re curious than try it out! I’m a mid forties dude and was ALL-in on my marriage and I started with the apps in the middle of my D… it was great to just interact with single females after 15 years of hardcore monogamy. Dealing with my ex @ that point was SO awful and it was very healthy to interact with a variety of other women. It also provided some very valuable insight! Depending on your personal standards, be prep…
/r/Divorce_Men27/04/26 12:20 AM
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Hell yeah man, well said!
/r/Divorce_Men18/04/26 05:51 AM
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Meet and spend time with the people they are close to (close friends, family) what are those relationships like and how do they make you feel to be around? Be clear, confident, and firm about your own boundaries and observe how they react and communicate in a variety of situations.
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 10:52 PM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 10:48 PM
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Navigating the same thing myself. My attraction and connection for Mothers vs. childless women in their 30’s or older has been distinct; In short, I’ve become a REAL motherfucker post-divorce 😂 There’s definitely some high value single-moms out there, just vet them hard, stay frosty, don’t get overly entangled!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 08:10 PM
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Navigating the same thing myself. My attraction and connection for Mothers vs. childless women in their 30’s or older has been distinct; In short, I’ve become a REAL motherfucker post-divorce 😂 There’s definitely some high value single-moms out there, just vet them hard, stay frosty, don’t get overly entangled!
/r/Divorce_Men07/04/26 08:10 PM
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💯💯💯
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 08:10 AM
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I think the concept of ‘Healed’ is an illusion; real personal growth is a lifetime marathon. Anyone claiming they’re fully ‘healed’, ‘evolved’, or ‘actualized’ is a major red flag IMO. A self-aware woman who’s consistently been putting in work to progress long-term is a wonderful thing if you share compatible baggage.
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/26 02:46 AM
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Heh… I’ve spent hours upon hours talking with my teenage son about his Mom, her choices, and inability to communicate transparently. He’s independently reached the same level of frustration and disappointment with her that I did years ago and it makes me really sad! I want him to have a great relationship with his Mom, and I’m also damn sure not going to pretend like he should over-function emotionally for someone that isn’t going to reciprocate. We don’t do our children any favors by excusing t…
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/26 04:50 AM
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SOLID words of wisdom right here
/r/Divorce_Men13/01/26 03:42 AM
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For me, the loss of the marriage itself was very hard, but it’s relatively small potatoes vs. the weight of uncertainty and fundamental identity shift.
/r/Divorce_Men09/01/26 01:01 AM
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I very much understand. Personally, it wasn’t so much about banning those thoughts as it was about acknowledging they may arise but it’s never going to be an option. Have you ever fantasized about robbing a bank, punching someone you despise, or fucking your wife’s hot friend? I definitely have! 😂. …But when you consider in vivid detail how it will play out long term, it’s a non-starter. I think these impulses arise from our biologically hardwired role as self-sacrificing protectors of the thing…
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/26 08:14 PM
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🫡 this is pure gold, thanks so much
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 07:57 PM
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😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 04:31 AM
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Good man! Let it all out dude, this is the healthiest way to flow those feelings. I feel you brother, but what you really want/need and will eventually do is metaphorically kill your old self. It’s hard, miserable and exhausting but I assure you that you are going to truly LOVE the Man that emerges from it.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 12:02 AM
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F yeah dude, the kid was right!
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/25 11:38 PM
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Thanks so much Man, I love hearing this! I just had one of the best xmas’s in memory because we made it fun and RELAXED. The running around and being caught up in someone else’s neurotic holiday BS was truly AWFUL! It completely kills the vibe.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/25 02:17 AM
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My kid time is a fraction of what it was, but it’s clean and clear. And I’ve never felt close as to my offspring as I do now 🥰 I make them food, do their laundry, and we talk about absolutely everything! Hate to say this, but Dee-vorce made fatherhood more fulfilling
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 07:52 AM
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Yes man! Very well said
/r/Divorce_Men21/12/25 02:40 AM
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I can relate 💯! Especially the part about being dumb and loyal 😂 I’m being truly tested rn by an absolute stunt show that hides her baggage so well with swagger and confidence that i have to remind myself it’s still all there! Really needed to see this today, thanks bro
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 11:10 PM
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Would you EVER say or send that kind of message to someone you genuinely care about in their moment of vulnerability?? I feel you man… the realization is what hurts more than anything else. 🩸
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/25 10:58 PM
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Ah, me too! Same exact thing dude. Feels really good to get that fire stirred up doesn’t it?
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 04:35 AM
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🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 07:28 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 02:33 AM
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YES
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/25 02:30 AM
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I can relate to all this on a profound personal level. And goddamn bro, you articulate what it all feels like so accurately…. Being tapped into that primal drive and purpose brought the best out of me, but now it’s like - what’s the fkn point? I was thriving in a delusional construct of my own creation, but it was working out really well for everyone involved until it all got vaporized. So now what, right?! I don’t have any words of wisdom or insight beyond the basic principles of self-care expr…
/r/Divorce_Men22/11/25 06:16 AM
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That is so well-said! It is incredibly easy to forget the majority of life really is spent on the little things and in-between moments.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:22 AM
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What?! Hopefully she included some pictures along with that impressive resume 😂 Truly incredible…. It really is a multi-billion dollar industry and there’s levels to it.
/r/Divorce_Men19/11/25 01:08 AM
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So it sounds like she only netted $275k when it was all said and done - you didn’t pencil-out, but I bet her next target is really in for it! 😂 Mine had a very strong sense of superiority/elitism too: they are looking to fulfill something else besides just getting the $$, don’t you think?
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 02:25 AM
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What?! That is crazy on so many levels, sounds like she had a calculated game plan. I’m glad the judge saw through it. Your story just underscores the pure madness of US family law. Thanks for sharing your story!
/r/Divorce_Men18/11/25 12:08 AM
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😂good one dude! FWIW though, personally I chose to give up several hundred thousand dollars of savings and real estate equity so I could move on free and clear and never be legally obligated to write that succubus another check… Walking away from the sweet fruit 15 successful years of gains still bothers me, but not having to pay her anything else is truly priceless. We’re pretty much all F’d one way or another
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 09:07 AM
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Good on you for checking the bank account… $27 over 6 days in NYC??! Highly suspect. Hey what made you decide to marry again? I’m asking about the aspects outside of the fundamental quest for love and partnership… was that something she wanted more than you?
/r/Divorce_Men17/11/25 08:08 AM
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Thanks for putting this out there man, I had one of those days where I was doing a lot of reflection - damn sure not intentionally 😂 Losing both a job and relationship identity at the same time is like a slow-motion nightmare! Its quite remarkable how many years of stability and consistent growth can be completely compromised when just a couple important things get screwed up in the same timeframe. Most men need purpose to make sense of our place in the world and thrive, it’s hardwired.
/r/Divorce_Men15/11/25 08:00 AM
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That’s a really good question to ask! As stated by previous comments, it is completely different for everyone. I took that ‘wait’ advice very seriously as a concept, but I was going completely nuts and had to get out there. So I did! And frankly, I don’t know if I would’ve ever truly been able to get a more accurate assessment of where I was at without doing the damn thing. As a result, I’m very happily unattached. (Results may vary, see store for details) 😜
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 07:04 AM
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Well said!
/r/Divorce_Men14/11/25 06:12 AM
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Fuck.Yeah.Mate!!!
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 06:33 AM
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Really dude?? HARD disagree on that if their Mom’s a twat. ALL people-regardless of their gender-should be treated by their character, not their chromosomes. Perpetuating the stupid myth that one gender is inherently more valuable or precious over another, regardless of their behavior does a disservice to ALL genders.
/r/Divorce_Men09/11/25 06:30 AM
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It most certainly isn’t boring! Good one 😂
/r/Divorce_Men31/10/25 12:21 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 11:52 PM
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Don’t play her stupid games, there’s nothing to be gained from it. ‘Separation’ is just preseason training for her to get prepared for what’s coming while f’ing with your head. I get it man, it’s incredibly difficult to not obsess over what she’s getting into, but you will go crazy thinking about it and it won’t change a damn thing. Separate yourself emotionally and mentally from the relationship, every little bit helps.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/25 10:42 PM
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Good one bro! There’s definitely been keen curiosity from married friends and also times they’re contemplating how their own future may play out based on my experience.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/25 12:24 AM
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It’s also reality that spouses neglect keeping the sensuality alive. What’s your secret for consistently receiving robust blowjobs boss? Dying to know, seriously!
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 06:46 AM
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Yeah dude, get that emotion out! I feel you, and that’s what this space is for. And also, these clowns here trying to shame you about porn and calling it cheating are missing the mark BIG time. Those who bark the loudest about it genuinely do have an unhealthy relationship with it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 06:09 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/25 05:42 AM
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Lots of good tips here, I would recommend that no matter which route you go try to keep a curious mindset and sense of humor.
/r/Divorce_Men29/09/25 12:24 AM
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Can’t.Unsee.It 😎💀
/r/Divorce_Men28/09/25 05:48 AM
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🤣🤣 🤣 good one dude!
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 09:47 PM
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I didn’t get married in a church, but as a youngster I got some righteous handjobs in the balcony! 😜
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 07:52 PM
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THIS👆
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/25 07:36 PM
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Wise words here, get the background check and do a thorough digital recon. Neither your ex or the guy needs to know what you learned from it though, and don’t get pressured by your ex into thinking this is someone you need to interact with regularly.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 07:41 PM
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Similar age and started casually dating about a year into separation. Not anymore though: It makes no sense to me how many really amazing women seek to lock you down emotionally and/or want to play house despite being recently divorced themselves… it’s like what do they think is going to be different about themselves or the guy? Only a fool or child would think that a person who spent a good part of their adult life creating a marriage/family/life just to have it all collapse wants to head down …
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 02:54 AM
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😂💯
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/25 08:30 AM
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The witch doctor in Tunisia part got me laughing, thanks for sharing that😂 It sounds extra strange at first because I don’t have a cultural reference point about that practice, but it’s all EXACTLY the same type of behavior so many of us have experienced with ex’s: we genuinely wanted to provide and support their material and emotional needs. That impulse is so strong for men that we can justify wasting LOTS of time and resources doing completely ridiculous, asinine bullshit for our beloved.
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/25 02:25 AM
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Physical attraction isn’t a shallow or superficial requirement… most women need to be desired, touched and feel sexy. It matters
/r/Divorce_Men26/07/25 06:39 PM
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Dude, you answered your own question at the end - SoCal’s prime habitat for women with all those things you said you don’t want. There’s actually a ton of amazing women there, but the majority are already shacked up or completely career focused, it’s not the same place it was growing up in the 80s and 90s.
/r/Divorce_Men02/07/25 07:57 AM
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Dude I was banging ex HARD every 2-3 weeks for @ least 7 solid months after she filed. Yeah, I KNOW - it’s NOT rational or healthy or strategic behavior and I was fully aware of how simple I was being. Despite clearly knowing our marriage was over, I very much savored laying it down for a final season. Dumb and impulsive of both of us, but I don’t regret it at all and we had some very memorable sessions. Wouldn’t touch her with a 10 foot pole now in any circumstance now though, funny how things …
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 08:25 AM
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THIS
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/25 08:01 AM
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Are you crazy or something dude? We all know the 1st rule of perimenopause is DON’T talk about perimenopause!! 😂 Spot on my man
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 08:33 PM
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‘Why can’t they just leave peacefully???’ - seriously though, why is that?
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/25 08:23 PM
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Whether she’s a sociopath or not doesn’t matter dude, and you’re going to drive yourself crazy 4realz and/or leave your children fatherless unless you find some pathways to get your mind off of it… get back in touch with some real shit that involves your body and the natural world. If nothing else, take a moment to acknowledge that you feel stuck in an infinite swamp of despair and consider it might get worse. Just keep slogging, that’s a win sometimes. You won’t be in this shit forever but is s…
/r/Divorce_Men14/06/25 06:30 AM
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I wholeheartedly agree that it’s a huge mistake and way too common for men to default or depend on their spouse to create/maintain social life. Typically, that’s not a sustainable or healthy dynamic. As far as discussing infidelity with the kids or other complicated divorce issues, it can be just as damaging or traumatic to NOT discuss it… all depends on their age, and (more importantly) their level of emotional awareness and maturity. Sheltering children from impactful emotional dynamics is lik…
/r/Divorce_Men04/06/25 05:16 AM
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Yaasss Grrrrl! Your story is so inspiring to me, Roxxxxie 🧚‍♂️ Where did you find the courage and fortitude to level-up after decades of giving 💯to your kids and 💯 to husband? Will you ever be able to forgive them for putting you through it?
/r/Divorce_Men23/05/25 06:19 AM
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Haaa, good one brah! “Is that a Burmese mountain dog??!” 😂😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men09/05/25 07:05 AM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men02/05/25 05:27 AM
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I think it depends on the age, temperament, and the nature of your relationship with your children. The family I grew up with was adept at not discussing significant events/trauma: I resented that as a child and even more now as an adult. I shared quite a bit with my teenager throughout the process and I think it brought us closer… but more importantly, they have a high capacity for discretion, emotional intelligence and asked a lot of questions as part of their process to ‘make sense’ of the si…
/r/Divorce_Men28/04/25 03:53 AM
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Hot damn bro, that is an inspiring, wise and pragmatic reply!! Good.One.Dude.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 06:07 AM
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That is supremely F’d to have 2 peripheral associates of your family put their name behind an accusation like that. Good on ya for staying the course and letting time unmask the false narrative.
/r/Divorce_Men05/02/25 05:57 AM
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Several months into Separating and right before I got served, my ex-MIL was reaching out to me wearing a mask of empathy while coaching and bankrolling her daughters campaign of dissolution behind the scenes. I sent her a concise and gracious message saying it’d be healthiest for everyone if her and I didn’t talk or interact anymore. I am proud to be 30 months MIL-free next month, it was a good decision to cut that cord.
/r/Divorce_Men02/02/25 08:31 AM
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🎯
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 05:03 AM
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Do you feel like you have no other choice but to let her move back in? I’m not talking about the ‘what’s best for the kids’ or ‘it’d so F’d up of me not letting her come back’ narrative or how it might look on the outside. Keep her away as long as you are able to
/r/Divorce_Men27/01/25 05:00 AM
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Nailed it, dude!
/r/Divorce_Men21/01/25 11:59 PM
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I empathize with your concern and can also verify that it’s out of your hands and therefore not worth stressing about. The social aspect of Divorce is an interesting one and takes many, many years to fully play out. Most people don’t know how to react or the protocol for reaching out. A lot of your married friends might not say anything because they’re also on the rocks or know that they are going to be. Some of the other guys/husbands will secretly envy your eventual liberation, but might not b…
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 03:39 AM
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Wise words
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/25 02:59 AM
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Don’t fret too hard yet amigo, I think that in most states your Dad’s generosity will be legally protected from a greedy STBX’s machinations
/r/Divorce_Men16/01/25 02:45 AM
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🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 08:28 PM
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Nailed it, dude! As a survivor, I really feel for those poor bastards
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 08:28 PM
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Nope! Some instances of infidelity are more egregious than others to be sure, but I damn sure don’t judge other men or ride an ethical high-horse because I didn’t. My own dissolution experience has erased much of the cultural and religious BS that we are taught about marriage.
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 08:07 PM
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Same for me! Had to defend my fidelity multiple times and faced accusations throughout the course of marriage. Didn’t ever do it, but she did 😂
/r/Divorce_Men10/01/25 07:54 PM
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Given the context, it doesn’t seem unreasonable
/r/Divorce_Men06/01/25 07:48 AM
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Right?! For me personally, uncomfortable-awareness is infinitely healthier vs. convenient fantasy as a paradigm
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 10:33 PM
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Yeah man, I know in my case that my ex’s Mom frustrations had some influence on my ex: that woman (in her late sixties now) had career and ‘be somebody’ aspirations in her youth, but she locked down a high-earning Simp and defined herself by the wife-and-mom roles that came with it. This woman had every resource imaginable to ‘live her best life’, yet chose to resent and annihilate her husband as the cause of her own unfulfilled aspirations. She then actively passed that mentality on to her daug…
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 08:17 PM
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Yeah it’s crazy-town! But I thank god it exists. Why? It is full of informative content about how a lot of people perceive and approach relationships and gender. And as perspective evolves, you will see the same silliness play out IRL just by observing and connecting dots. Daddy didn’t tell me about any of this , but Reddit showed up for me big time!
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 07:26 PM
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That would make more sense, but it appears to be the full age-spectrum
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 07:16 PM
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🤣
/r/Divorce_Men05/01/25 07:15 PM
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If you’ve got a close, loving relationship with your teen daughter and spend quality time with her then you’re slaying it. Bravo, Dad!
/r/Divorce_Men30/12/24 03:02 AM
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Nice one Bro! Merry Christmas
/r/Divorce_Men22/12/24 03:44 AM
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Yessir 🕰️☀️🌖
/r/Divorce_Men18/12/24 06:40 AM
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Yup! Almost on a daily basis. It’s all perspective amigo, please don’t believe everything you think. Nobody has it figured out, some are just better at giving the impression that they do. Onward. Forward.
/r/Divorce_Men12/12/24 08:28 AM
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Trust your gut, these little pebbles of concern probably have a landslide just waiting to happen with enough time
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/24 10:20 PM
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💯
/r/Divorce_Men01/12/24 01:25 AM
1

Wow, really? Of course it is! I could make some jokes about what else is restricted in that community, but that speaks volumes about the prevailing mindset at play. 🤔
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 11:24 PM
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I would be and could be if she hadn’t pursued a shock-and-awe campaign of destroying me financially in our divorce process. The loss of a partner and family unit was ROUGH, but I can accept that part! How she played it was some really ugly, ‘can’t unsee that’ type behavior. Civil, but hell no we’re not friends.
/r/Divorce_Men30/11/24 11:15 PM
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This ⤴️right here! Nobody cares, don’t fight it or fret it. Just lean into your role and let the haters do they damn job.
/r/Divorce_Men28/11/24 09:57 PM
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😂
/r/Divorce_Men21/11/24 08:26 PM
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Are you a feminist and terrified about the election? If not, then don’t let someone else’s hysteria affect how you navigate the world
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 03:50 AM
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It IS a dealbreaker my man - as harsh and unpleasant of a reality this is, she’s giving you an early-warning signal that your family-responsibilities for Primary Elders aren’t part of the equation and you gotta navigate that wilderness solo. Best-case scenario all you have to coordinate is a couple funerals and not the extended death via mental and physical deterioration. Even in the best scenarios without extended health issues preceding death, the estate management component takes a lot of ban…
/r/Divorce_Men11/11/24 03:48 AM
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This.this.this
/r/Divorce_Men10/11/24 09:47 PM
2

Yeah, exactly! I firmly believe that letting it go and using the ‘let’s fix this’ energy into you instead of bringing it to her. You can’t go wrong with that, regardless of the outcome.
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 03:54 AM
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Damn boss, you’re in the groove! Ngl, I’d say the one Gay dude’s compliment is equal to that of anywhere 5<hundreds of women as long as it was genuine. No seriously bro!! What’s your secret, tiger?!
/r/Divorce_Men28/10/24 03:21 AM
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Amen! My ‘intensive therapy weekend(s)’ of banging, eating, and some leisurely nature walks thrown in there for good measure with someone new did wonders for my healing process.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:44 PM
2

🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:38 PM
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You don’t get through to her. But… if you’re thick headed like me you might need to learn this truism by repeatedly bashing your head against the wall.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:37 PM
4

Wise words
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 11:32 PM
4

The nonstop financial ass-rape and navigating a for-profit system that is rooted in inequality.
/r/Divorce_Men27/10/24 04:12 AM
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Some of the best relationship advice I’ve ever received was from my friend’s badass septuagenarian mother that’s been married to his Dad for 40 + years… She said “You know we (women) are all crazy, right?? There’s nothing you can do about it, so don’t worry too much about it and just be a Man.”
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/24 03:05 AM
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*Restrictions apply, see store for details. Only valid in states of reason and accountability.
/r/Divorce_Men17/10/24 11:34 PM
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A Bovine’s gut system is a genius metaphor! Ya gotta pass through several stages that break you down in different and special ways… I’m looking forward to getting shat out here at some point myself!
/r/Divorce_Men05/10/24 01:25 AM
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The non-stop planning and travel cycle was a strong theme in my situation as well and through the years it just ramped-up and she became really anxious and strange like she was trying to fill some empty space that kept growing
/r/Divorce_Men04/10/24 08:01 PM
8

🐈’s a helluva drug!
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 07:56 PM
2

Amen! This the way.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 06:08 AM
4

My man, you have to start with forgiving YOURSELF first. Anything beyond that is inconsequential at this point and it’s going to cause unnecessary strife to your girls and the marital situation bringing it up now. Make peace with yourself and make your girls pancakes and do fun things with them, time will reveal who to bear your soul to. All that shit is in the past now anyway, love yourself brother
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/24 06:07 AM
7

“Bummer, hey how’s our dog doing??” Well, that’d be my personal response towards it, but I’d exert tremendous effort to make sure the kids were able to grieve, be present with their Mom and her family, and for her to navigate the situation. I won’t be sending any flowers!
/r/Divorce_Men21/09/24 01:08 AM
1

Excuse me?! Hate is neither tolerated nor allowed on this sub in ANY form. This is a sacred space of support and healing and his words resonate with my own experience deeply. You don’t have to agree, but please find a healthier outlet for navigating your own personal traumas then further victimizing a brave man speaking his truth.
/r/Divorce_Men19/09/24 04:34 AM
3

Sounds like you are approaching this superbly - outside of the kids, how you behave is nobody’s business. If you’d been behaving antagonistically towards him she’d be hassling you to stop, if you’re indifferent she wants you to be making more of an effort, if you’re getting coffee with him occasionally than why isn’t every week?! Keep a polite, professional distance - it’s best for everyone.
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 10:13 PM
2

It might be worthwhile to get a legal consult on the parameters of these shenanigans, especially if it’s taking up an inordinate amount of your attention. I bet part 2 and 3 will reveal that you’re an…. emotionally-abusive Narcissist! Stay tuned for the upcoming series on caretaking trauma recovery. Who the F watches or even cares? Could you EVER imagine a close friend or Man you respect taking the time to make a YouTube video about his relationship gripes?! “He is SO brave and empowered” 🤣 It’s…
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 09:28 PM
3

Good stuff bro
/r/Divorce_Men01/09/24 08:54 PM
3

Your boys’ compass will always point to DAD. There’s nothing wrong with saying you that you aren’t okay with him meeting your kids or being involved with them. She’s definitely going to do whatever she wants either way, but expressing personal boundaries re: your kids doesn’t make you a bad or toxic person. You don’t need to meet what’s-his-name or even acknowledge his existence if you aren’t ready. He’s not their Dad and never will be. Double-down on your boys’ time with your parents and brothe…
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 05:57 AM
3

Definitely don’t acknowledge it to her. That said, do WHATEVER you personally need to on that day… Feel everything you need to feel and feel it fully, just do it privately and resist any temptation to reach out.
/r/Divorce_Men26/08/24 12:25 AM
4

Haha, when you’ve already been through it’s shocking to witness how many Cucks just constantly eat shit from their beloved spouses
/r/Divorce_Men23/08/24 02:26 AM
6

Get the H-E double hockey sticks out of there my brother. You obviously know this is the only way by what you shared, but your big heart is making you 2nd guess it. Sometimes the most radically compassionate and impactful thing you can do for someone you care about is to step away.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 04:49 AM
1

Keep your expectations low and make it fun. Don’t overthink it and learn to laugh at the shenanigans. Play around with your profile pictures and description. It’s a numbers game, so try and embrace the inevitable rejections - it’s not personal! Definitely don’t waste your time on prospects that are not engaging with you enthusiastically. Hire slowly, fire quickly. The goal here is to re-quaint yourself with the modern dating landscape and interact with a variety of women.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 01:04 AM
1

The pawn shop is a great alternative if selling them to a supportive and trustworthy friend isn’t an option.
/r/Divorce_Men21/08/24 12:45 AM
3

There’s no formula to this stuff, it’s more about how you operate as a person. I was totally straight up about my shituation and approached the whole thing as an educational excursion with minimal expectations. Is anyone fresh out of a D or in the process ready for a serious relationship? HELL no! I was upfront about that and didn’t feel like it hindered my options. Intimacy on a physical and emotional level helped me navigate the process, just don’t let it take priority!
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 01:21 AM
2

Yup! Amen to this
/r/Divorce_Men20/08/24 01:07 AM
6

There’s no timetable or any sense to the process. I promise you are now in a much better spot than you probably even realize. I’m 2 years and 1 month from Separating, 6 months from the final decree. I was depressed and heartbroken for a good chunk of 2023. Over time I am genuinely grateful to be free from what I thought I couldn’t bare to lose and don’t feel jealous or yearning for the past. But strong feelings of resentment, disgust, and anger over how it all went down do make guest appearances…
/r/Divorce_Men14/08/24 12:17 AM
2

I’m into this! Really think you’re onto something here Boss… Divorce is now a pivotal rite-of-passage for many cultures and needs some ritual, tradition, and memorabilia honoring the sacred journey
/r/Divorce_Men13/08/24 04:30 AM
1

🤣
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 02:59 AM
12

I witness these types of situations on a regular basis and it makes me want to throw rocks @ foolish old-me who couldn’t imagine peace and harmony without my ‘person’ 😂. Holy shit, never again!
/r/Divorce_Men10/08/24 02:04 AM
5

🤣🤣🤣
/r/Divorce_Men08/07/24 01:08 AM
1

Because Fijians and their islands will absolutely blow your mind. Get yourself on a small boat with locals fishing, snorkeling, exploring, whatever…. There is indescribable vitality there and no better place to get a proper reset
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 07:06 AM
1

This was my first thought too, hope you’re enjoying paradise, ya bastard 😜
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 06:54 AM
2

The potential to make a genuine connection that stimulates the same impulse to commit and prioritize an intimate partner over your own best interests.
/r/Divorce_Men03/04/24 06:51 AM
4

Dude, I feel every part of what you’re saying about how this shit feels on a daily basis. All of it… How’s your current emotional/physical status compare to 6 months, 1yr, 2 yrs back?
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 06:15 AM
2

This wisdom really nails it for me and my experience. ‘Greatest Hits’ 😂😂
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/24 12:04 AM
1

Oof, that sounds like an unpleasant procedure either way Doc… first off, I’m sorry: you’ve worked hard to craft a robust work/life scenario and deserve to be honored for that by your woman. Shooting from the hip, I’d get both a competent attorney and Accountant in a meeting at the same time to layout the legal and financial considerations.
/r/Divorce_Men27/03/24 05:57 AM
2

I disagree that another adult actively participating in parenting activities is none of OP’s business… interested to hear more about this perspective though because it can be very challenging…how do you navigate this type of thing with your kids?
/r/Divorce_Men22/03/24 01:21 AM
1

Thanks thanks!
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 08:19 AM
2

I’m confused, did you interpret my response as being defensive or hostile? That was assuredly not my intention whatsoever… and it’s actually very concerning to me that it was possibly received like that though, I’m genuinely asking for feedback here - what was it about my words, syntax, or punctuation that conveyed defensiveness or hostility? I would never call myself ‘red pill’… My response was based on the content of this specific comment and I didn’t review the specific commenter’s history… I…
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 07:10 AM
2

That depends on your own interpretation of ‘red pill’! This forum is a far-cry from the pathetic echo chambers of bitter, misogynistic hardliners… quite the opposite! These perspectives may be unsettling, but 99% of ‘em are coming from Men who cherish, respect, honor and deeply appreciate females and sacred relationship bonds… spend a little time reading through this sub’s posts and keep an open mind as your process unfolds.
/r/Divorce_Men20/03/24 03:13 AM
3

Absolutely… this 👆🏻is true and real… read and repeat, OP
/r/Divorce_Men19/03/24 07:36 AM
9

I think I speak for the vast majority of this community when I say that your marriage is FUBAR and finished. I say that with respect, compassion and empathy. But I do absolutely assure you that your efforts and energy are better spent on self-care, your kids, and literally damn-near ANYTHING else. Godspeed brother
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 09:44 PM
1

$7k retainer and $600/hour in a rural region of the west coast
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 06:23 AM
1

Yeah, absolutely. The pendulum will shift at some point! As much as it sucks, this wack-ass trend will ultimately create a stronger and more adept Male homo-sapien
/r/Divorce_Men18/03/24 06:18 AM
2

That is so gnarly, it is indescribably traumatic to have been vulnerable to a person and then have them weaponize tragedies… total mindfuck
/r/Divorce_Men17/03/24 06:16 AM
2

PREACH
/r/Divorce_Men05/03/24 03:04 AM
1

Michigan? You’re good, my man - the law says so and supports your right to partake responsibly. So long as the kiddos can’t access it, it’s a non-issue. Keep your head right and let HER huff and puff(😜), try to slander you, etc it won’t matter
/r/Divorce_Men27/02/24 07:15 AM
7

Scrutinize Mama, it’s the closest thing to a crystal ball on what’s in store
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/24 08:10 AM
1

What you said about enjoying the fruit of your labor really struck a chord… that would be a solid building block IF you were dealing with a rational, committed partner that truly believed in the same core principles… that’s not the case and navigating that gnarly reality is 10x harder and murkier than transitioning to a healthy, independent life. It’s you and you alone now, chart the course accordingly, there are treasures over the horizon
/r/Divorce_Men21/02/24 08:05 AM
6

Shootin’ from the hip here, no card-carrying Narc would ever actually reflect on the possibility they could be one. Her diagnosis is self-serving BS, but also an opportunity to sharpen whatever you need to.
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 07:24 AM
4

😂😂,cats can be SUCH assholes but I appreciate the transparency
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 07:14 AM
3

You’ve done what you can for her and any further entanglement that impacts ANY shred of your health, hustle and fatherhood should be removed with extreme prejudice. Sentiment should be strictly reserved for your own relations with the kiddo(s), take full ownership and everything else will come right, got this!
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/24 06:54 AM
1

The 2nd paragraph echoes for me as well: together almost 20 years, married 15 and overall had a great run. Unless she’s impressing you with a consistent commitment to self development and personal growth over time than it’s not worth the effort.
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 11:59 PM
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He’s at my house right now too dude… and by ‘house’ I mean the dream-property we purchased a little more than a year before the split where we planned to spend the rest of our lives together 🤣 My sitch is different as we’re not co-habitating but it’s been one of the most aggravating parts of this thing… My attitude has changed over time though from rage and incredulity to no rage but a mildly irksome feeling and a sense of amusement. The less I care, the healthier and more-peaceful I feel and TH…
/r/Divorce_Men18/02/24 11:44 PM
2

Well said 😂
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 05:47 AM
2

You have solid mental foundation despite the lingering hurt/longing… given enough time, these feelings will transform into a wonderful sense of peace and freedom. Fill that freezer and keep fishin’!
/r/Divorce_Men13/02/24 05:46 AM
6

That’s partially true, but the goal posts will change once her individual idea of ‘comfort and security’ has been fulfilled. Have you achieved a champion status as a husband/father tonight? Well, that means she can do even better tomorrow morning…. But don’t hate her for being wired that way, it’s biology and rarely as personal as Men take it to be.
/r/Divorce_Men01/02/24 06:50 AM
4

IT.GETS.BETTER You don’t have to feel it or believe it right now, just survive-the-suck and keep telling yourself that over and over. It really does.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/24 06:46 AM
3

It doesn’t sound toxic to me. OP is educating himself.
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 08:11 AM
2

👆🏻THIS
/r/Divorce_Men25/01/24 12:06 AM
4

That sounds awesome, I hiked up a hill with a couple friends to watch the sunset and drink beers… the vibe was more ritualistic than wild on the eve of my rite of passage…. Blow and hookers might have been more appropriate though, quien sabe?😂
/r/Divorce_Men23/01/24 08:23 AM
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It doesn’t matter and you’re better off not knowing… assume the absolute worst, but don’t let it impact how you move. The bottom line is that you’ve been discarded and disrespected so act accordingly and channel the emotion into practical solutions… don’t ignore the emotions or hurt, just keep them contained as a bulwark to self-doubt and uncertainty.
/r/Divorce_Men22/01/24 01:40 AM
6

That sounds like a great settlement if you can get it official! Maybe just be prepared to defend against future demands for an increase and any fine print that could be manipulated into squeezing more than that.
/r/Divorce_Men20/01/24 07:07 AM
1

How about taking some responsibility for your choice? If you hate it then change it! There’s probably a MUCH better last name waiting out there for you and deserve to be happy!
/r/Divorce_Men19/01/24 05:36 AM
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It really is all about convenience and ownership - you nailed it!
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 08:41 AM
7

Keeping my name bothers me more sometimes vs. the assets… she chose to take my surname when we wed and she chose to end the marriage. I do not want her associated with me like that. Maybe some of the femme lurkers here can chime in and enlighten me about why an empowered #girlboss would cling to such a misogynistic vestige of the patriarchy?? …I think it’s cuz mine sounds better than her maiden name and it’s a hassle to change back!
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 06:01 AM
2

Agreed mate, I also think kiddos are a helluva lot more perceptive and ultimately wiser than what we often give em credit for in the short term. The acting-out in provocative ways is means to probe for truth in a world that fundamentally doesn’t make sense. Thats just to say I think that a man with solid principles and genuine care for his loved ones will stand the test of time if they don’t get tripped up or triggered by bouts of hysteria. Steady hand
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 03:01 AM
1

She’s certainly got a way with words! Wonder where she got that from 🤔 Despite how hurtful it must feel, I get the sense there’s a lot of mixed-up love and frustration behind the words. It sounds like you’re important to her and you do have influence.
/r/Divorce_Men18/01/24 12:36 AM
5

😂 that is hilarious, dude - I’m still waiting to receive mine too, but the author is relentlessly creative so I know it will be entertaining if nothing else
/r/Divorce_Men17/01/24 09:17 PM
2

🤣🤣so well put, especially the part about what the x can do if she doesn’t like something
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 01:57 AM
8

Those aren’t friends, dude - anybody can tag along for the fun times. Loyalty and accessibility in the midst of strife and hardship is the acid test. Better to have one or two solid ppl in your inner circle than 100 show-ponies.
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 01:53 AM
1

This 👆🏻is a solid blueprint, save it and re-visit often. I would also strongly recommend the following books as foundational personal finance tools; The Psychology of Money- Morgan Housel and The Millionaire Next Door by Thomas J. Stanley
/r/Divorce_Men14/01/24 01:43 AM
2

I approached the whole thing as an educational exercise requiring detached amusement. My goal was to find stimulating chemistry and good sex, and also learn more about myself… re-aquainting with the game and how I stack-up in it has been a fruitful pursuit and led to some enjoyable moments.
/r/Divorce_Men12/01/24 01:03 AM
7

Control what you can on the material/asset equation via shrewd strategy and robust legal representation. Handle it like you would any other aspect of business and don’t let ANY sentiment dictate your strategy. At the same time, ya gotta realize and seriously-onboard that NONE of that shit matters to your precious-children now or ever… they just want their Dad to be present, fun, masculine, and healthy! It’s the greatest gift you could ever give them.
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 08:24 AM
3

… the best illustration of the mentality I have ever seen, you nailed it
/r/Divorce_Men08/01/24 12:21 AM
2

“It will be the most worthwhile check you ever write” - that single sentence from a friend who went through hell and went from the corner suite to sleeping in the back of his Tacoma in my backyard was one of the best nuggets of wisdom ever bestowed on me. He’s doing better than ever now, and you will be too.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 05:07 AM
7

Time as a healer is so profoundly true as it is so damn cliche… and inconvenient!😂 It SUCKS, right?! Can I just this fix this now and move forward already?? No manual for this, but to quote King’s wise words to Taylor in Platoon: “There’s a way out of anything man, just keep your pecker hard and your powder dry and the world WILL turn…”
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 04:51 AM
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Creating this post was a healthy and constructive activity… you are definitely making progress despite feeling sorrow. Remember that it’s probably going to feel awful for a while and you don’t need to feel ‘happy’ ATM - making it through each hour/day/etc is success. In time you will feel progressively less shitty, then maybe not bad, and eventually okay, etc. Hang in there amigo.
/r/Divorce_Men04/01/24 03:01 AM
2

I hear where you are coming from and humans of ALL genders have too many variables to be globally-categorized or stereotyped. Consider for a moment that this forum is a sounding board for the Men that genuinely care about, and truly-honor Females…. maybe more than they do themselves! Mysogyny = hating women. This sub exists and persists primarily because we care so much.
/r/Divorce_Men03/01/24 12:24 AM
2

To piggyback on all the great tips here, my personal silver-bullet has been the sauna @ my local gym. Sweating my ass off has diminished even the most extreme states of mental stress to the point where sleep can happen. It might not be practical for your situation, but it’s helped me get rest on those days of raging intensity where nothing else helps.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/24 10:32 PM
5

I believe it does.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/23 07:02 PM
2

Brazilian Jiu-Jitsu. I recommend anyone even remotely curious read or listen to ‘Breathe’ by Rickson Gracie for some history and background about why it matters.
/r/Divorce_Men24/12/23 02:45 AM
2

Blue ribbon reply Dude!
/r/Divorce_Men23/12/23 04:32 AM
1

THIS 👆🏻
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/23 03:01 AM
7

You’re talking about Purpose, right? I feel a strong drive to ‘belong’ and have something outside myself, which I do! Most (not all!) Men are biologically hardwired to derive identity, value, and purpose from our place in unified family-units… The Protection-and-Provisioning roles we are built for are not needed in regulated, highly-structured society….
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 07:49 PM
6

Clarity.
/r/Divorce_Men05/12/23 05:16 AM
2

Strongly disagree! It might not be fun or lighthearted, but I guarantee you this sub has saved lives, helped a lot of children, and makes a positive impact on a daily basis. To me, it represents the best of digital connectivity; Men from all over the world discussing universal and significant topics… it transcends race, culture, geography, and economic-status - the vulnerability and realness expressed here is un-paralleled and I am very grateful to have found it.
/r/Divorce_Men04/12/23 02:44 AM
4

Yup! And you took her seriously on that because… well, that’s what partners do, RIGHT?! Does it really matter who-does-what as long as home-life and financial matters are being attended-to? 50/50 dude, GET.IT
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 05:20 AM
6

FWIW, small doses of healthy intimacy+sex has improved my psyche more than damn near anything else! Having a couple close friends/support network and regular physical fitness is more important, but getting laid periodically has had tremendous benefits to me personally. Keep yourself hydrated and don’t over-think it, you’ll do great!
/r/Divorce_Men03/12/23 03:43 AM
2

I wasn’t able to shut it off, dude… I had to build a serious amount of scar-tissue over a period of time and every bit of it sucks. It will get better though, and also amazing… just gotta slog through the misery, you got this!
/r/Divorce_Men13/11/23 03:34 AM
2

So well said
/r/Divorce_Men12/11/23 10:33 PM
2

Same
/r/Divorce_Men08/11/23 04:21 AM
2

Of course! They all have her best interests in mind 😂
/r/Divorce_Men03/11/23 02:00 AM
3

You told her ‘No’??! Sounds like emotionally-abusive and Narcissistic Behavior
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:27 PM
5

Same for me 😂… I’ve had some pretty incredible conversations and laughs as a result
/r/Divorce_Men02/11/23 11:17 PM
2

Ha! Congrats on the new human, that doesn’t really happen without a Woman in the mix.
/r/Divorce_Men23/09/23 08:28 AM
1

Just when I thought I had made sense of my upbringing…. They pull me back in! Thank you Divorce, for yet another issue to tackle.
/r/Divorce_Men06/09/23 08:54 PM
1

Weed laws are extremely inconsistent and incoherent… that said, there really shouldn’t be an issue for use vs. Abuse… talk to a legal professional for verification, but it’s likely that they don’t know either.
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 10:52 PM
1

Does your State (if in US) have medical or recreational cannabis laws?
/r/Divorce_Men28/08/23 04:10 AM
3

Well said!
/r/Divorce_Men25/08/23 06:41 AM
1

Thanks for the chuckle!
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/23 04:06 AM
2

Oh yeah, she might have had to do the dishes a couple times. Betraying the team for the most pathetic-ass trifling reasons is par for the course.
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 08:58 AM
1

Fuck yeah Dude. Get it!
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 08:29 AM
8

This hit home my man, on so many levels. Impactful. Way to put it out there, that might as well be me. To be in an epic place like that with your family while going through this shit just completely changes the entire experience. And there she’s just there smiling like everything is fabulous. Insanity
/r/Divorce_Men12/08/23 08:19 AM
0

Brother, be thankful it’s rabbits for now.
/r/Divorce_Men11/08/23 06:40 AM
3

Clapping in the front row on this
/r/Divorce_Men09/08/23 07:57 AM
4

All the things I would have done differently would have just accelerated the inevitable. Stashing dollars and hedging my emotional and material commitment was something I thought about often…. But I’m just not someone who can compartmentalize like that. Ultimately, I wouldn’t have anything differently. I made incredible children that have great genetics and a good Mother. I maintained a stable partnership for years with a woman I had fun with, was attracted to, and built a life with. I got to be…
/r/Divorce_Men08/08/23 12:34 AM
8

Her earning more than you can be just as problematic, and don’t assume that it’s a stable bulwark against predatory moves regarding financial responsibility in the context of dissolution… from my own personal experience and those of my comrades in different scenarios, it is common for them to establish security followed by excess; self-preservation first, and when that has been satisfied seek every additional perk, convenience, and upgrade possible.
/r/Divorce_Men22/07/23 10:14 PM
1

THIS
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 03:58 AM
11

That is some disloyal bullshit! You aren’t alone; My X’s Dad was @ the very top of his specialized, and rigorously hard-earned position making multiple six-figures/year and in fantastic physical shape when he had an unexpected stroke. I kid you not, within 15 months of his stroke, his wife of 30+ years orchestrated and then executed a VERY calculated exit-strategy to get EVERY single penny she could of their multi-million asset portfolio. Almost every single aspect of their life had reached a pi…
/r/Divorce_Men21/07/23 03:57 AM
2

All these. And in my experience, her Mother/siblings/friend-group are strong indicators. Especially the Mother. As stated by a previous commenter, it doesn’t matter if they don’t get along, she is probably going to become more like Mom especially over time. It’s a fascinating phenomenon.
/r/Divorce_Men01/07/23 07:34 PM
4

I fuckin rode up on a white horse to my wedding ceremony 😂 We were living on a Ranch at the time, it seemed right…. I have to listen to that song, thanks amigo
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 08:32 AM
2

This saying is 100% accurate! I indulged… Despite how that choice led to the gnarliest emotional pain and strife that I have ever experienced, I don’t regret it! That said, I really want my Son to not drink the Marriage Kool-aid. The concept of lifelong, ride-or-die commitment is beautiful, surely it made sense for some people @ some point, right??!
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/23 08:23 AM
2

These words are gold.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/23 08:15 PM
1

This conversation about depression and medication changed my entire perspective about it: https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=hkxGah4Kz1g&bpctr=1687307503
/r/Divorce_Men21/06/23 12:08 AM
1

Better a Tiny failure vs. Life-altering fuckery, right?! Thanks for this
/r/Divorce_Men20/06/23 03:04 AM
5

In addition to what’s already been recommended, here’s a few titles (in no particular order) that I have enjoyed and benefitted from; ‘The Subtle Art of Not Giving a Fuck’ by Mark Manson ‘Breathe’ by Rickson Gracie with Peter Maguire ‘The Obstacle is the Way’ By Ryan Holiday ‘Hustle Harder, Hustle Smarter’ By Curtis Jackson ‘Own the Day, Own your Life’ By Aubrey Marcus ‘Natural Born Heroes’ By Christopher Mcdougal ‘The Right Kind of Crazy’ By Clint Emerson
/r/Divorce_Men16/06/23 06:18 AM
2

I love your story! It mirrors my situation. My son has expressed to me that things are great when it’s just me and him or just him and his mom. All of us together = inevitable tension! That sucks, and I feel disappointed that we couldn’t all create a consistently smooth-dynamic all together, but recognizing that reality is a healthy thing.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 04:27 AM
2

I know a few good men who have gotten totally sober and delayed their Divorce… but it was going to happen regardless! Damned if you do, damned if you don’t… Every case is different, and I am not minimizing the impact of alcohol-dependence on relationships. All I am saying is that whatever you choose to change or take accountability for, do it strictly for YOU and/or your children alone.
/r/Divorce_Men15/06/23 01:21 AM
4

That’s DEEP!! En serio… that sorrow of loss and identity after going ALL-IN can trick you into thinking it’s all about her. There’s a much larger scheme at play, and it is a fucking game.
/r/Divorce_Men22/02/23 11:23 PM
4

‘Unconditional Love doesn’t mean unconditional boundaries’ is a gold nugget, thank you for that
/r/Divorce_Men07/02/23 02:22 AM
3

My Man, what you wrote here really speaks to me right now.
/r/Divorce_Men31/01/23 11:25 PM
4

My business was thriving when our kids were little and I am proud she was able to focus on them fulltime. I was enthusiastic about helping her launch her own successful career with my time, $$, and active involvement. None of that ‘we’re a team’ support counted for shit when my income took a major hit and I became depressed. Becoming vulnerable after years of consistent Beast-mode hustling turned me into a liability in her eyes immediately.
/r/Divorce_Men19/12/22 05:15 AM
2

Facts!
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/22 11:21 PM
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