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HUGE red flag if a woman looks down on service people like that. If you ever date a girl like that and see that kind of behavior towards a waiter or someone working the aisles in a supermarket...then just leave quietly and RUN! (Same for men as well. If people behave like an asshole towards people lower in the hierarchy for no reason whatsoever, then they have huge problems...cut the ties to those people as well)
/r/seduction05/07/18 07:30 AM
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Because vandaalen mentions forgiving and a mirror. What you need to do mate is to look into that mirror and forgive that guy you see. If that sounds to woo-woo the be my guest and eat my shorts. But the reason this shit stings so much, is that you probably amassed a lot of bad self-worth issues while growing up which lead to a lot of guilt and shame. Forgive the guy in the mirror for that. Fastest way - albeit not really fast - to heal that stuff.
/r/askTRP17/04/18 02:17 AM
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1) Feynman technique 2) deep work
/r/askTRP16/04/18 04:49 PM
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I don't blame anyone for fucking someone. I am blaming her for putting out misinformed opinions in another sub. I didn't mention awalt at all in my post. My post was towards her Reddit behavior, distributing bullshit. I told her to either learn something about a topic or shut the fuck up. Yes, I get that this wasn't on topic, but her "yes but nice girls do exist" is a hollow phrase. That's tautology level, she's giving as an answer.
/r/askTRP15/04/18 11:43 AM
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Says the women who lashes out on redpill without even understanding it in other subs. Learn something, understand it, then come to Reddit again. If you don't wanna do this then shut the fuck up babe.
/r/askTRP15/04/18 06:22 AM
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I didn't think that OP mentioned she doesn't want to. I wasn't talking about mind control (which you implied I was talking about) but hypnosis. As you (should) know: There's a difference. So, all's good on my side. I stand by the opinion - cause I have done it - that hypnosis helps with orgasms. Profoundly! (That is, if the woman wants it)
/r/askTRP06/04/18 03:39 PM
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You definitely need someone who specializes in sexual hypnosis. Those hypnotists are out there. There are creepy ones obviously but good ones as well.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 02:50 PM
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It's not a lengthy process unless with lengthy you mean about 1 hour. Find a hypnotist with the specialisation. Easiest solution.
/r/askTRP06/04/18 02:08 PM
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Second NMMNG. Because after reading it you will realise that you are the price and you have to make yourself a priority. If you didn't get that after your first walkthrough, then read the book as often as you need to to get that insight.
/r/askTRP31/03/18 04:15 PM
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Yes. Highly recommend this book as well.
/r/TheRedPill28/03/18 05:13 PM
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I understand what you mean and by all means give your best if you want to. My personal experience though is this: if people don't even bother taking one iota of responsibility then talking about changing some of their behavior is a fruitless attempt. There is a reason the term askhole is so common in modern day internet forums. Too many people are looking for validation of their crazy world view. They don't wanna change or don't want to know that they are the problem. They only want easy solutio…
/r/askTRP26/03/18 04:27 AM
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I agree we with what you are saying. The thing is though: people who don't want help, cannot be helped. without the ability to take responsibility for ones own problems, change just won't happen.
/r/askTRP26/03/18 02:56 AM
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Find another sub for this whining. If you don't care about the opinions here then leaving shouldn't be too hard.
/r/askTRP25/03/18 07:57 PM
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That last sentence makes me cringe so hard. "Nobody". There is so much helpful advice on this sub that even if you aren't able to separate the good from the bad, you'll be fine. You need to do one thing though, and I'll use my fine knowledge of punctuation to make it very clear for you: Take. Responsibility. Of. Your. Own. Life. Dude!
/r/askTRP25/03/18 10:04 AM
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Second this. Read the information on identifying and avoiding BPD chicks in the sidebar. And then apply the advice.
/r/askTRP21/03/18 09:33 AM
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One probably could discuss the effectiveness of pulling out but two things hold me back from doing this: first, for me condoms serve the purpose of protecting my health (and hers) as well as keeping me from impregnating her, and second, OP doesn't seem to be the kind of guy that I would bet on, having the willpower necessary to do it each time.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 09:27 PM
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But his pull out game is PHENOMENAL! I mean, what COULD happen??? ... There is no facepalm meme that can seriously convey the thoughts going through my brain after reading OPs comment.
/r/askTRP20/03/18 06:56 PM
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Read the post on frame that's linked in the sidebar. Then decide if you wanna enter hers (friend zone) or not.
/r/askTRP19/03/18 08:31 PM
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What. The. Actual. Fuck. ? S I D E B A R ----------> READ IT!!!!!!!¡¡¡¡!!!!!!!
/r/askTRP19/03/18 07:53 PM
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There. You answered your initial question yourself.
/r/askTRP14/03/18 01:13 PM
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Ok. With all this coming together your initial post makes a lot more sense. Let me tell you from a "have been in a similar spot", that focusing on girls is nothing you should do at the moment. If you aren't mentally strong, this you will project outward and girls will notice. You'll think something is wrong with you, when in fact it isn't, you just need some time to recalibrate your own life. Really focus on yourself. Do a teamsport, use this to conquer those depressive feelings and please, if y…
/r/askTRP14/03/18 05:04 AM
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No. I am not talking about normal female mood swings. I am talking about how someone familiar with the extreme mood a bipolar lives through, can compare them to a BPD.
/r/TheRedPill13/03/18 11:38 AM
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BPD is the common abbreviation for borderline personality disorder. Bipolar is normally abbreviated as BP. It becomes even more confusing as BPDs are often misdiagnosed as BP. To your case: yes, BP is tough and sucks as well, both for the person who is ill as well as for the partner but it doesn't even come close to what a BPD can do with regards to damage. Things to look for: the main difference is that a BPD can switch moods within seconds. From very positive to hell on Earth and back. A bipol…
/r/TheRedPill13/03/18 08:00 AM
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Through your whole post you make excuses. Also it is not really clear what your question is. Lot of gibberish in your post. At the same time you want us to believe everything is perfect in your life apart from the dating side. This smells like a bunch of BS to me. Post an honest description of your life and start your betterment from there. Good luck!
/r/askTRP13/03/18 05:43 AM
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You have a cool life with cool hobbies, enough money and are asking us how to improve your (dating) life? Seriously? I have the feeling that someone's having a good laugh right now.
/r/askTRP12/03/18 10:16 PM
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Being with a BPD girl brought me to the redpill so I am grateful on one hand. On the other hand she anchored some weird emotional states in me that'll take quite some time to dissolve completely. OP is right. Don't date/marry/fuck a crazy person. Unless you are a sociopath or narcissist yourself, it will SEVERELY damage you. The damage can be undone, yes, but some stuff you'll probably never forget. If you spot a crazy, do a 180 and run!
/r/TheRedPill12/03/18 10:13 PM
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Helped me overcome my borderline ex and made me digest the redpill. Digestion is still underway but understanding that codependent weakling side of me and how to start changing it, made this book as important to me as the rational male. Regarding the exercises. There seem to be a lot and there are. Pick a topic you think that needs the most change and start there, you don't necessarily have to start a 1 though it is the recommended route. I didn't take it but then again this doesn't mean everyon…
/r/askTRP11/03/18 07:42 AM
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Well then... you know what you have to do mate. Rock your life and fuck other babes
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:47 PM
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Obvious for me and you perhaps. Doesn't seem to be for him. This is the reason I told him to think about the answer.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:39 PM
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WASTED 2 MINUTES OF MY LIFE. STUPID ****. Just forget her and move forward with your life. And stop being a dick posting such nonsensical stories.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:25 PM
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If she doesn't want you to bring the topic of visiting her up then this is a huge red flag. Why wouldn't she want you there? Think about the answer to that question. Then think about if that fits into your value system. Then decide yourself what you wanna do.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 10:12 PM
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I never trained properly back in the day (I never followed a routine) but played a lot of soccer as well. Never recorded gains. Now I am just back into it since mid January and I am not bulking at the moment. I just practice the correct movements for the compound exercises in the 12-15 rep range. Probably better of asking on the fitness sub. Go there and ask that question. Someone definitely was where you are.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:57 PM
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Ok. Like others have said. Read a book. Go monk mode. Educate yourself. Improve your value. Basically: swallow the redpill. Instructions for that are in the sidebar. Honestly: monk mode is awesome. Just do it.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:37 PM
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Ok. This explains it then. Did you go the the fitness sub yet? If not go there, they have a few good intro posts there. Both on lifting programmes and in diet. Don't let yourself be taken down by people around you. If they do it constantly, then minimize contact with those people as much as possible.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:24 PM
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You lifted a year and are only at 132 pounds with 6' height??? I just started lifting again after more than ten years of being a lazy fuck but my assumption is that you are probably not following a good programme or not eating enough.
/r/askTRP10/03/18 03:11 PM
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This!!!!!! Live your own fucking live OP! Stop choosing your apartment because it is close to a huge poon supply. Choose it so that it maximises your own happiness and lifestyle.
/r/askTRP08/03/18 11:46 PM
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So because OTHER people get married at 30 and your implication of them not having time anymore to go out with you...let me see if I get it... because of this argument you really say that one has to party away his twenties? And then the rest of your comment...it just makes me wanna bang my head against a wall. A wall made up of steel with spear heads pointing in my direction and 200000 volts running through it.
/r/askTRP07/03/18 08:28 PM
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I recommend stoicism: Meditations by Marcus Aurelius The daily stoic by Ryan Holiday The Tao of Seneca (3 books, Senecas letters, produced by T. ferriss)
/r/askTRP05/03/18 11:32 AM
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Do the same that she did... find a replacement! (because she probably already has one or is considering one). Also: read the chapter on neediness in Manson's models.
/r/seduction05/03/18 11:28 AM
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Love it. Seems to be an amazing dad.
/r/askTRP28/02/18 04:43 PM
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Start with doing ONE thing. That's it. Pick a task, however small it will be. Do it. Then see what happens...
/r/askTRP28/02/18 01:47 PM
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Since you don't give anything about your life away let me make statements based on assumptions: 1) read models by Mark Manson (yes, you could have already downloaded the book an your Kindle and you could have started reading the neediness chapter) 2) stop porn, that will help with your sex cravings. 3) regarding intimacy: get your life in order, love yourself first. My assumption is that you crave validation by other people, hence: fix your life first. Find a mission. Set goals. Pursue them.
/r/seduction28/02/18 09:24 AM
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By being very careful now and if you can afford it talk to a lawyer regarding the false claims and let him tell you how to protect yourself in your jurisdiction.
/r/askTRP26/02/18 05:20 PM
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Fix your mindset. I assume that your vibe is needy as fuck. Women smell that. Read models by Mark Manson. It will give you an idea about neediness, or better yet: non-neediness.
/r/seduction26/02/18 03:25 PM
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"you insulted my intelligence", hahahahahaha. And because you let an answer on the internet influence you like that, that alone is reason enough NOT to go into a past partners discussion. Thx for making me laugh though. I appreciate it.
/r/askTRP25/02/18 09:13 AM
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You mentioned that her two kids irritate you and make your life hell. And you say you have a fantastic relationship otherwise? Are you totally retarded? What is this otherwise? Let me make a guess what your inner voice wants to answer me: "Well, oooh yeah, apart from the fact that my life is miserable it is really great. And the relationship is so fantastic unless it isn't, ooohh which is, ooooh always." Totally retarded. You came here asking for advice. The advice is: move on. The jealousy won'…
/r/askTRP25/02/18 08:51 AM
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The length of this answer screams "excuse"! You have one or more excuses for not choosing the right thing to do. If you wanna know how to get over a breakup. Then read the corresponding article in the sidebar. Since you are in the category of askholing here, the only viable answer that even has a slight chance of changing your attitude is the tough love approach. No other approach works. If you do break up and then are in an emotional dip, nobody on here will tough love you, if you come here wit…
/r/askTRP24/02/18 10:10 PM
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It's not laissez-faire, it's something you don't talk about. If she mentions it she is shit testing you. If she also is a crazy (e.g. Borderliner) then a statement from her regarding her sexual partners is controlling and not really a shit test anymore. If the latter the leave. Just don't bring up the topic by yourself. Why'd you even give a fuck about this?
/r/askTRP24/02/18 09:37 PM
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No sex. Plus kids. You are miserable. And the ONLY reason you stay is because you will have some negative emotions for a short time due to jealousy? You are like the frog who doesn't want to get out of the water even though it is getting hotter and more uncomfortable by the minute.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 09:15 PM
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1) Stop feeling guilty. Most stupid thing in the world to feel guilty about something you did, especially because you didn't harm another person. 2) You live your life. If you are looking for validation for your masturbation habits, you won't get it here.
/r/askTRP24/02/18 09:23 AM
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Ok. Well then, your choice if that's the path you wanna follow. You do you. I wouldn't recommend it, as it does seem to make you pretty angry but I am not here to change anybody just share my experiences. Good luck!
/r/askTRP23/02/18 01:01 PM
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I assume you are in the anger phase, as this feels like it reading your posts. Just realise it for what it is and control it as good as you can. It will subside. But only if you don't cherish the anger and let it control you.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 12:13 PM
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You need to change your attitude. That definitely needs to change. Extorting resources is a weak mindset. Blaming society is a weak mindset. Take all of reality for what it is and take FULL responsibility for your life. And if you prefer extorting resources and fucking crazies is something you prioritise above bettering your money situation and your health then that's what YOU choose to do. Not society. Not other women. Only you! Tough pill to swallow. Do it or don't. Your choice.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 12:05 PM
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No. There is a reason people regularly find the same kind of partner. If you regularly find yourself in abusive relationships with BPDs, you most likely have some issues yourself. Nothing that can be healed but you gotta work on it.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 11:57 AM
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Read this (and read the other articles by Mrs. Schreiber as well, she is an expert working with BPD relationship victims), and especially the text within the paragraph "FEMME FATALES, AND OTHER THINGS THAT GO 'BUMP' IN THE NIGHT" Here is the link: http://gettinbetter.com/anycost.html
/r/askTRP23/02/18 11:56 AM
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You might be fucked up now. But you have to decide if you still wanna be fucked up tomorrow and every day after that. It's your choice! Yours! And a lot of guys came here because they dated a crazy. I did date a BPD as well. I cannot even think about the beta cuck I have been before I found TRP. Still a long way to go for me but realising where you stand and making the commitment to become a better man and a better person helps me a lot personally.
/r/askTRP23/02/18 11:50 AM
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Yes, that's my reply. Show me the scientific studies.
/r/seduction23/02/18 11:35 AM
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You have a very one-dimensional view of the world dude. You are hypocritically doing the same things that you are berating game for.
/r/seduction22/02/18 08:58 PM
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Nope.
/r/seduction22/02/18 08:54 PM
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Look. Two things I hear: excuses because of your poor wording of your initial question and more excuses for your behavior. And the last thing is a problem because as Rollo said, being redpill is a behavior. So stop making shitty excuses. You are a man and not a wimp.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 01:54 PM
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Lol. That mom is a typo. Thx to autocorrection. He he he Regarding the other thing: I am not a native English speaker myself. So stop making excuses. You said LTR. The R means relationship. Your English is good enough that you know that.
/r/askTRP22/02/18 01:33 PM
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This. Though I doubt that OP will understand. Which is unfortunate...for him.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 10:07 PM
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She is not your LTR if you weren't in a relationship. YOU said that above. An semantics is not about grammar. Semantics is about semantics (I.e. not grammar). Tautologies, I know. It wasn't meant as a correction but as a somewhat sarcastic statement on you describing your mom existing relationship as an LTR.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 03:50 PM
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So your title should have stated "LTnotreallyaR" and not LTR. You need to work on your semantics. Also you need to work on your usage of shoulda woulda Coulda and those "not sure"'s. Are there any issues with her? Is she crazy? Doesn't she like sex sit you anymore? If nothing like that happened then just plate her like others said.
/r/askTRP21/02/18 11:37 AM
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I appreciate your reply but I think you should tell that to the guy I replied to as well. So he can read it. My question was purely rhetorical.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/18 04:34 PM
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So he is a beta because he focuses on his business mostly at the moment? He chooses what he wants to do. Good for him. I don't think he is successful just because he doesn't want to pursue pussy. He is successful because he wants to be. That doesn't make him beta. Or maybe you see something different in his writing than I do.
/r/TheRedPill20/02/18 02:43 PM
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Ok, you wanna get brought back to reality here it comes: YOU HAVE ONEITIS. AFTER ONE DATE. WITHOUT SEX! ARE YOU SERIOUS????? Dude, get back onto this planets surface and reevaluate. You most likely had a bazillion escalation windows for sex there but instead you talked about her past relationship or let her talk about it. I honestly don't care. Dude! Seriously. Let a good friend slap you in the face. Next time, ESCALATE! And yes, been there. Done that. It feels as if I am talking to my former se…
/r/seduction19/02/18 08:57 PM
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You have hidden cost with real estate as well. In German the word for real estate is "Immobilie" which translates to immobile. And this is true. You will be immobile and chained to your house and mortgage. Like another poster said. Get liquidity first. This will be way harder with a huge load of debt. Read the book I recommended for more detailed information about good economic thinking while being young.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 08:38 PM
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Emergency fund setup is a great plan. Renting at first is a great idea as well. Settling so young and buying a house isn't a great idea unless you could buy really cheap where you live (which isn't the case as you said). Give the book bachelor pad economics a go. I don't agree with everything but all in all this book is a pretty thorough guide about personal finance. Read it now before you buy real estate, before you get into cohabitation with a SO and before you have kids.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:14 PM
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Look at it this way: IF a woman challenges your value for her based on the fact that you have kids...do you wanna be with her? Obviously you are less free to do what you want than a bachelor is for example. But you have other priorities as well. You can't really compare yourself to a bachelor. Meet women in your free time, just like you would as a bachelor. Don't make the women a priority.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 04:14 PM
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Yeah. Had that exactly once during the last year. I don't mass approach as I have better things to do, but the one time it happened I shrugged it off and that was it. I am the price. That's the mentality to have here. If she handles me this shit test then she can only lose in this situation because every answer leads to me ignoring her. I wouldn't call those kind of challenges shit tests to be honest, because of exactly that reason: this is the kind of test I have no time to put up with because …
/r/seduction19/02/18 03:22 PM
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Me not being a fitness expect, I can nevertheless say that you are asking the wrong question. Are you asking to get validation (in case you are stronger than what you expect) or are you asking because you think you didn't progress enough. If the latter, then why bother? The answer won't help you. A good question would be: I think I stalled, this is what I did, this is what I lift, where did Ingo wrong?
/r/askTRP19/02/18 12:36 PM
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Richard Cooper from Entrepreneurs in Cars offers coaching on those kind of questions.
/r/askTRP19/02/18 07:57 AM
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First: Forgive yourself. That helps with the guilt right now. Second: Getting the guilt feelings in the first place is due to our upbringing in modern society. Women and kids first and all of that other Hollywood indoctrinated nonsense. Third: You live YOUR life. Not anyone else's. If you'd put it this way in public though, they would probably stone you (especially in the context of a man leaving a woman). Luckily you don't have to do that. Just live your life. It's yours man. And only yours. Sh…
/r/askTRP18/02/18 09:43 PM
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https://www.reddit.com/r/TheRedPill/comments/4hp639/how_to_get_over_a_break_up/ BTW: This is from the sidebar. You should go there anyway and learn. So go there. Now!
/r/askTRP15/02/18 03:47 PM
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Constructive criticism: Therapy. Sidebar.
/r/askTRP15/02/18 07:29 AM
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Dude, you are angry as fuck. Solve that first..THEN date.
/r/askTRP14/02/18 09:16 PM
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You cannot negotiate desire! This boat has sailed already and you are not a passenger on it and it won't ever visit your harbor again. Just deal with it, and next time don't negotiate sex via text. Probably is hard for you since I assume she's the only option for you right now, but the sooner you realise that she isn't an option and using you just for validation, the easier it will be for you in the long run.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 09:20 PM
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Wawawaawaiiittt a moment: just to clarify: You guys date for a couple of weeks AND negotiated some kind of sex treaty? If this arrangement thing is true,, this't even funny. I literally cringe in my seat right now. To answer your question though: no, this is not a shit test. It was over a few dates ago. You'll never sleep with her, so just pursue other women. ... Damn, I still am not over the fact that you had a "future arrangement" for sex. This is pretty sad.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 09:13 PM
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This! Also keep in mind that - assuming she is in your age proximity - here biological clock is ticking and she knows it. So her goal is to find a suitable provider as well. For you this means: when you have sex, YOU have to take care of birth control even more. Don't leave used condoms at her place. Just be careful and protect yourself!
/r/askTRP13/02/18 07:57 PM
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Sex for sex's sake won't help with this (this is my experience, other people might have other experiences of course). What I see in your post is your willingness to try it out. Then you failed. And I ask "so what? Who gives a fuck that you failed?" Try another time. And another. At one point you will realise that you stopped trying and just do. You seem to feel guilty when you relapse. I don't know why this is, but this isn't necessary. You are on a good way. Just keep moving forward. Yes, you w…
/r/askTRP13/02/18 01:55 PM
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This. If you can't live a fulfilling life without a girl, you sure as hell cannot with one. Issues any partner has will be amplified in relationships. And if the issue has to do with sexuality, then this will be disastrous for a relationship.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 01:38 PM
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She was in a different state while being in a club. That chance has passed you by.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 11:21 AM
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This post. Read it. Then read it again and again! Key takeaway: it is not your fault how she lived her life. She was too stupid to look for a suitable mate earlier. Then she tried to guilt trip you into having kids, only to fulfill HER needs. Now think about if she is worth the thinking you are still giving her.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 09:25 AM
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Stop whining. Read the sidebar. Don't be am askhole.
/r/askTRP13/02/18 06:53 AM
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Nope.
/r/seduction12/02/18 07:40 PM
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This would have been my reply as well. Purchased the book last year. It has exercises as well: DO THEM! there are a lot of exercises (Glover calls them breaking free activities), if you find that you are using this as an excuse then just start somewhere in the book. Hint: exercise 23 (juts looked it up) was important for me, as it is about setting boundaries (which I found out during and after my last relationship with a BPD woman were basically non-existent for me). If you don't have a safe per…
/r/askTRP12/02/18 02:20 PM
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Yes, it is hard to understand why certain people would be so good at fucking up one's life but cluster b type personalities have this ability to do just that. I would recommend to read some of the stories in the sub BPDLovedones and see for yourself. And as a warning, it might seem to you that all of the victims might be betas with no frame, which might be true to some extent but after a long time of this kind of abusive relationship you will lose your frame. Not to forget your sense of self. Ha…
/r/askTRP12/02/18 03:14 AM
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A&A doesn't work if frame if lost. Like in OPs case. Does A&A work to turn around stupid nonsensical arguments? Yes! Does it make sense to use A&A to game BPD women? No! Not for the majority of men that is. You might have a god like frame AND (because it is not only about frame) the stamina to pull this through. But what you are saying is: "everybody can climb on a skyscraper without being secured by a rope. It might be crazy but maybe you just aren't strong enough". Which is true. I cannot and …
/r/askTRP11/02/18 08:45 AM
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I feel like talking to a wall. A&A doesn't work in this case. Or better, it wouldn't have worked in OPs case. Why I know that? Because if experience. And believe me, nobody wants this experience. If you think this is a shit test then this is fine with me. But it isn't but I already told you that and explained the difference in my previous answer. Either learn something from.my experience or get eaten alive a when you try a&a with a BPD AND your frame is just a teeny tiny bit broken. Then she wil…
/r/askTRP11/02/18 12:38 AM
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Borderline personality disorder
/r/askTRP11/02/18 12:28 AM
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It is not both. Splitting isn't done by a BPD women to test a man. Splitting is done because they have a fragile ego and they do it because of self protection. So it is not both because splitting and shit test have different goals. Calling her texting behavior a shit test is a mislabeling. It looks like one at first but it quite obviously isn't.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 12:15 AM
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Ok. Maybe the "no" was too strong bi admi that. But I am sure that your way is disastrous for 99.9999999% of men because the BPD will fuck them up. For OP this advice doesn't make sense anyhow because (1) he has no frame left and (2) he'll always have part of him that wants the BPD validation. It will be his demon inside him. I know it, because I have that demon myself. Never again will I date a BPD woman. Just not worth it (for me).
/r/askTRP11/02/18 12:11 AM
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Read this article by Shari Schreiber on splitting behaviors (the black/white thinking she has)' http://gettinbetter.com/perfect.html Also: break off the relationship. Go no contact.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 12:06 AM
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No. It is not a shit test. This behavior is called "splitting" in psychological lingo. Typical BPD behavior.
/r/askTRP11/02/18 12:03 AM
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No! Think of BPD women as a 3 years old mind in a grown up body. Boundary setting only works with a 3 year old because you can punish them by taking away their sweets, video time or send them to their room. Good luck trying to do this with a formally grown up woman who is way above your league in projecting and gaslighting than you will ever be. Short version: what you described won't work.
/r/askTRP10/02/18 11:59 PM
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Let me take two things you have written: you feel bad that she left and she asked for huge validation and commitment after one date? Maybe I am seeing warning signs everywhere, but this behavior could be an indicator that she is crazy as others have mentioned, meaning cluster B type behaviors. Be careful! And vet her good, otherwise she will fuck up your life...why do I know this...if she really is BPD, then her prime victims are people who are easy to shame and make feel guilty. Which you might…
/r/askTRP09/02/18 08:35 PM
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The helpful thing was to point you to your flawed thinking that you think you act red pill when in fact you are only using it to achieve blue pill goals. I was there. I know how this behavior looks like. You have that behavior. It is between the lines in your post. I honestly wish you the best but you gotta be willing to learn.
/r/askTRP06/02/18 03:10 PM
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It has been said before but feminism is nothing else but a wealth redistribution scheme. Hot women don't need it because they can get the wealth themselves. If you are not hot, you need help in this modern world that feminism has created. At first it was equality of opportunities but only the most beautiful and/ or intelligent women could capitalize on that. Hence, the way modern feminism works. Everything HAS to be equal outcome BECAUSE most women don't fulfill those criteria. Robespierre put i…
/r/TheRedPill06/02/18 02:38 PM
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Keeping AWALT at Bay??? And how do you wanna do that? Tie her up in your apartment and don't let her go outside (please, don't do that, it is not advice, but for some reason I have the feeling that the sarcasm might be lost with you here). Honestly, how do you wanna keep biological behavior at bay? That's a silly idea. If you have read the redpill like you said, then realise she's not yours, it's just your turn. Maybe this turn will be a happy 80 year long turn, not probable but not impossible e…
/r/askTRP06/02/18 02:18 PM
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Manipulating in the manipulating way. Just listen to the advice and hard next!
/r/askTRP06/02/18 09:33 AM
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Get the new book by Jordan Peterson. He analyses biblical passages with psychological insight. Might help you to let go of some of the hate and anger. Disclaimer: Christian myself, had my falling out with it, then found it again differently. Now use it for what it was intended, to help me through my day, not to bind me to stupid rules. Yes, my parents saw themselves as super Christians as well even though they looked down at other people, I once tried to explain this to them...to no avail. They …
/r/askTRP05/02/18 09:34 AM
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Read the article on war brides by Rollo. This will show you why no woman will have those same feelings of guilt if it went the opposite way. They would hamster to themselves that they just don't have feelings for you anymore. End of story (for them). And yes, they don't do it on purpose, it is a built-in survival strategy. This is an evolutional shortcoming we males have, as this skill of leaving behind an old relationship fast, probably only wasn't needed before the industrial revolution. Maybe…
/r/askTRP05/02/18 05:55 AM
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That last part of your wall of text is not a question...it is a test to see if I have read all of that schmooze. And frankly, I stopped reading after "are we safe". What exactly is that supposed to mean mate? Why you wanna be safe? Safe of or for what? This sentence doesn't make sense in the context you described. Please do the following: Read: the rationale male. Then read part 2 (preventive medicine) and pay attention especially to the parts where he talks about the different stages of life a …
/r/askTRP04/02/18 08:52 PM
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I second this. Beware of the crazy! Look up the BPDLovedones Reddit and see for yourself what you can get into. The only upside my BPD "relationship" HAD was that I found theredpill. Apart from that I would NEVER do that again. You cannot fix crazy. You cannot help crazy. And no, you cannot plate them either: there is a reason the "don't stick your dick in crazy" saying exists. Edit: changed"has" to "had"...boy, that even shocked myself.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 07:25 PM
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Have you cosigned the lease? I hope not. If not then either change the locks after the positive text message to your question. Or leave when she is at work and move quickly. Honestly. If this is like you said it is, you are sitting on a barrel of Dynamite just doomed to blow up. If cosigned is the case then...well...this is too far above my head to be honest. You need to have evidence all the times you are sleeping together were not rape. Damn, your case is a great "shit hit the fan massively" e…
/r/askTRP04/02/18 05:30 PM
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No! No! No! Send her a text asking something like, "tell me please if you enjoyed all the sex we had, I am feeling worthless at the moment" or something beta like that. After her answer block her and never meet her again. She wanted to accuse you have rape mate! If she does this in public your life is fucked up more than you can imagine.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 05:24 PM
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Bend over somehow to get a message from her that says that she didn't mean to say this and that she liked all the sex you two had (which I assume was this way until now). Then immediately block her everywhere. No explanation given. Accusing you of being a rapist is the strongest form of social punishment she can give you. And she knows it. Things like this would - in a normal society - be handled in front of a court and she would have to pay for this kind of behavior. But we live in a gynocentri…
/r/askTRP04/02/18 05:19 PM
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Mate, as long as your are employed in a company then you NEVER do alone time with a female co-worker. NEVER EVER DO IT! When I read that, I was like "Wtf? Why did he even discuss that shit with her afterwards. There is nothing to discuss." I recommend reading the 48 laws of power. Don't make any fast decisions regarding your job but better protect yourself as a word of a female will always more believable than yours. After that incident even more so. Tread carefully my friend.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 05:07 PM
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Call the emergency services in your country, tell them about suicidal thoughts. This is the only thing you have to do ethically. After that block her texts because it is not your responsibility to fix her.
/r/askTRP04/02/18 04:15 PM
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If this would have been in your initial message there would have been only one answer. And you have already been given it. Kick her out off your life. NOW!
/r/askTRP02/02/18 12:50 PM
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Good thing is that you recognize what's stupid by yourself already. You already know what to do as well. Now you just have to execute. And yes, this might take a few days or weeks but you have to execute. And that's ok!
/r/askTRP02/02/18 12:04 PM
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It reads as if the LTR wasn't in a good place to begin with. Question: what would you expect to happen after the ultimatum? Been there done that. Short answer: you cannot attain blue pill goals just because you claim to have a red pill mindset. Doesn't work. Have you read The rational male? It doesn't seem that way. If you have read it, read it again. Other guys with way more knowledge will probably chime in. My guess is the answers will be "demote to plate" and "start dread".
/r/askTRP02/02/18 11:26 AM
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I wouldn't tolerate it anymore either. It was hard because of oneitis. I hamstered my way through it as well. Nowadays I see it as a shit test. The only problem: there is no positive outcome to this kind of test: if the male tested is alpha he moves on, if he is beta he stays. The woman basically hasn't found out anything, hence this kind of shit test is a failure on the side of the woman. Upside for us: we know where we stand with her immediately.
/r/askTRP01/02/18 11:26 AM
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Your usage of 'might', 'try' and the like is so disgraceful to me as a man. Just a fucking disgrace. You come here, being a total askhole, asking everyone for advice and then defending some part of you that wants to be cucked like there is no tomorrow. Do it or don't. Simple. Yeah sometimes one can be undecided, that's ok too. But you?!? Reading between the lines it tells me just one thing: I want to change but I don't want to change.
/r/askTRP31/01/18 09:29 PM
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Not "trying" to dump her... "Just" want to take the reigns back... Dude your language is so foul, it smells even through my screen. Like I mentioned in another reply to you. YOU LOST FRAME! Yeah. I know. Sucks. Sucks hard in case of oneitis. Been there done that. NOW GET SOME SELF-RESPECT and next her. And then - like I already said - read the rational male. READ IT! I make it easy for you: Read the following chapters first: 'Kill the beta' (because you need to hear it) 'Hypergamy doesn't care' …
/r/askTRP31/01/18 09:25 PM
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Mate, I see you hamstering like fuck in all your replies to the good answers you are getting. A lot of us have been where you are. Some even not that long ago. I had a similar experience during the last year with my ex-gf (this his how you should think about your "GF" as well). Got grabbed at a party by a known "friend". This is NOT normal behavior for a girl who RESPECTS you. Because there is no respect, she cannot be your girlfriend. You can hamster this all you want (I did as well last year, …
/r/askTRP31/01/18 04:27 PM
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You say that you "try" to focus on increasing your value. Try is a powerful word, I could give you the Yoda meme answer or the hypnotist answer. Problem with try is basically this: it gives you an excuse for failing. In your specific context, I would ask you what your values are. Do you know them? (My assumption is, that you already put her on a pedestal and made her a big value in your life. I guess this because (1) you used try in a specific context and (2) this is the old Walt Disney me that …
/r/askTRP31/01/18 03:56 PM
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Great. I just spilled my drink reading through this. Getting myself another one now and then off to bed. And to OP: why bother asking when you can't stand the answers?!?
/r/askTRP23/01/18 10:13 PM
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You're welcome
/r/askTRP22/01/18 03:27 PM
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It does. Become the fucking best version you can be. There. Done. Don't worry about Chad too much. Become the best person YOU can be. If you become that person then you'll be in the top 5% of the population because most people don't even try.
/r/askTRP22/01/18 02:46 PM
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This is an important point. I always recommend NMMNG to non RP aware guys. The rational male I only recommend if someone shows to be open to it.
/r/askTRP19/01/18 07:09 AM
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Wow. Great post, didn't bother reading it up until now. Thx for sharing it. Great timing.
/r/askTRP13/01/18 02:33 PM
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There probably could a lot be going on. Best thing to do: do a blood test at your doctor. Might be testosterone. Might be vitamin B12 deficiencies. Might be other shit. Regarding vitamin B12, you can immediately buy that stuff in most countries and supplement. Even if you take multiples of the daily dose, it won't harm you (unless you got for a few thousand times the daily dose, then it'll probably kill you). I am taking in the double dose of B12 and my tiredness went down a lot. Will only take …
/r/askTRP13/01/18 02:12 PM
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Since you asked: No. There is nothing you can do to prevent her crazy behavior. But you can do what you did: block her number. And now go full no contact. So, you did the right thing. That you send her a text back isn't that awful, happens when one is angry. Shouldn't happen, but hey, you learn from experience (I did recently something similar). Drop her from your mind and your life, she will do the same faster than you think she will. Read Rollo's post on war brides if you haven't already. You …
/r/askTRP13/01/18 02:08 PM
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Yeah. I guess what you are saying here is that one learns through experience. Made the bad experience but found it hard to move on. This has probably something do to with self respect. This will be one of my goals for this year. Learn to self respect more. Thx man!
/r/askTRP13/01/18 11:27 AM
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Done that few days ago. She tried to hoover me back in. This time I went full No Contact mode. It honestly feels like withdrawal from something. Thx for your answer man, needed to here that once more I guess to fully digest its truth. Now working on the monk mode stuf.
/r/askTRP13/01/18 11:24 AM
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You are just going down full speed mate. The combination of "just out of a BPD 'relationship'" plus "shitting where you eat" won't lead to anywhere good. So the only advice I can give you to NOT fuck "this" up, is by telling you to leave that workplace romance alone, focus on yourself and rock at life. And to clarify, yes playing around with romances will fuck "this" up. So don't do it but since you probably won't listen to me in this regard: I wish you luck!
/r/seduction12/01/18 11:48 PM
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Searched for that a whole ago myself in asktrp and theredpill subs (by the way: this is good advice: to use the search function). Someone recommended "Ill mind of Hopsin 5" as a great song incorporating a lot of RP knowledge. I listen to it often even though I am not into hip hop. That Hopsin guy is damn great!
/r/askTRP12/01/18 06:30 PM
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This ^ Fighting isn't learned to go out and fight. But: it gives you a shit load of confidence and frame. Other men will recognize that. Hence you get into less tough situations. I remember the situations I could calm down during my time in uni, just because I stepped up when our group was approached and I gave the bully a confident stare. No fighting. Bullies are not looking for strong opponents. So. Fighting is more for the mindset than for the body.
/r/askTRP09/01/18 06:09 PM
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1) Keeping a budget. Basic knowledge on how income taxation works in your country (this might be the best $/hr investment you'll ever make.). 2) Some hard skills like coding (as for a language, learn JavaScript first. Will enable you for web dev but also for React dev, as well as ethereum dev, which will be huge). Learn basic statistics (machine learning and artificial intelligence is based heavily on this. The people I see who don't have a grasp on basic statistics but throw around statistics l…
/r/askTRP09/01/18 02:17 PM
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Great advice. (In case the sarcasm doesn't come through...I am making it clear with this statement) Let me make a prediction for OP: Gets into LTR, thinks he will be able to use TRP to achieve a blue pill relationship (been there, done that), catches oneitis and - which is ever worse - wastes the time he could have used to focus on becoming a better man, on putting the GF on a pedestal. Your advice is as ridiculous as telling someone in AA: If you want a scotch per evening, drink a scotch per ev…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 09:42 PM
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I would approach it like this (did it the same way). Take one thing you consume too much. Find a replacement. Example. You consume too much coke. Replace it with water. If this is too touch at the beginning, replace it with diet coke but switch to water soon. You can do that with all kinds of stuff. Chocolate bar. Replace with carrot sticks. Salty snacks. Replace with nuts (pure unsalted ones that js). And so on Only two things are important. 1) Start with one thing and see that you can do it. 2…
/r/askTRP08/01/18 07:39 PM
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This. And forget all the other advice given for the moment. Lawyer up and don't tell the wife. Pay cash. Don't let him sent paperwork to your place. If you don't do it, she will get a lawyer eventually. Only a matter of time. Also: Get a male lawyer. I had a good one during my divorce and he saved my ass. There probably are good female divorce lawyers as fell but I wouldn't take the sisterhood risk on my side in such an important case. Edit: just realized that you don't talk about her being your…
/r/askTRP30/12/17 11:57 AM
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Sure thing mate!
/r/askTRP17/12/17 03:00 PM
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The phrase you‘ll read often around here is this: „Sexual Strategy is amoral.“. So, women have their own and men have. This is a fact you‘ll have to accept (or take the blue pill and „the story ends, you wake up in your bed and believe what you want to believe“). That you find women disgusting is due to anger after swallowing the red pill. „Just“ accept the anger and let it go. It is just an emotion. It is not you. To overcome the anger I will give the recommendation others say around here: LIFT…
/r/askTRP17/12/17 02:41 PM
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Read this: https://therationalmale.com/2014/09/23/the-burden-of-performance/
/r/askTRP17/12/17 01:14 PM
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This strategy works well in negotiations as well. (Which....oh my...has so many similarities to relationships...who would have thought...) It is explained in detail in the book „Never split the difference.“
/r/seduction17/12/17 09:33 AM
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Was thinking the same, but it feels great to find such nuggets of gold for oneself, so kudos to OP.
/r/seduction17/12/17 09:30 AM
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Thx mate!
/r/seduction15/12/17 09:55 PM
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Without a doubt, Zan is one of the most suave and calm guys that have ever walked the face of the earth. Whatever the content is he is talking about here,the meta communication is important here as well. The way he talks even to that audience is just a great portrayal of character. He exudes calmness, mystery and non-neediness. No wonder girls love him. Which talk from his is this excerpt from?
/r/seduction15/12/17 02:55 PM
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The second one (the one with Roger Love) is the one I meant. Voice coaches are not expensive. A lot of musicians do that stuff on the side. You can get good voice coaching for 40-50 Euros per hour in Germany.
/r/askTRP13/12/17 08:47 PM
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NO! (To your first paragraph). YES! (To the question) Reread the advice again. Since you probably won’t let me rephrase it: YOU GOTTA BE COMFORTABLE BEING WITH YOURSELF. This doesn’t mean that women don’t complement men. Yes, they do. But they don’t fill any holes (in the non-literal sense...) for you. If you have emotional holes that you cannot fill, then you need a therapist and not a girlfriend.
/r/seduction13/12/17 08:30 PM
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Voice coaching. Will not only help with women but with life as well. Sometimes in acting classes you get basic stuff on voice preparation as well. Just google voice coaching. A few weeks ago I saw a video with the red haired guy from RSD getting voice coaching. That is interesting to watch as well.
/r/askTRP12/12/17 08:51 PM
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Did that after a few minutes. Someone recommended it to me in the studio as well. (Which is another reason not to feel embarrassed. Even if one has low self esteem. Nobody in a gym will pick on you if you keep improving yourself. )
/r/askTRP12/12/17 04:48 PM
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„without embarrassing yourself“. Dude if that is anyone’s issue in a gym, then one should probably realise that nobody gives a fuck if you lift an empty bar. This is just the way I am doing it and learning it at the moment. Who cares what the other guys think? (Hint: they honestly don’t care. They even help you if you have questions regarding form. Just ask)
/r/askTRP12/12/17 04:05 PM
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When you go through enough reports in the redpill sub, you will see that the word that comes up most often in recommendations regarding BPD “relationships” is this: RUN! Also: Don’t stick your dick in crazy comes up pretty often. You are a grown up so you have to make your own decisions, but I personally will never get into any kind of relationship with a BPD ever again. Not even for sex. Just. Not. Worth. It.
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 11:54 AM
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If you mean on relationships with BPD, then this is by far the best resource IMHO: [www.gettinbetter.com](www.gettinbetter.com) Also: Spartan Life coach has a lot of resources on NPD but also on other disorders of the Cluster-B spectrum. But then again. The most helpful articles on BPD relationships are the ones here in the redpill Reddit. On the sosuave forum there is a huge BPD thread as well. The problem with all of this stuff: most people won’t realise how deep they are into this shit until …
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 10:37 AM
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OP follow the above advice. BPD is nothing that is to be toyed with. Unless you are a psychopath you won’t stand a chance. Doesn’t matter how effin alpha you are. There will be a time when she has pushed through. Rollo Tomasi had a BPD relationship. The guy from spartan life coach as well. Both are pretty alpha IMHO. Doesn’t matter though. BPDs are experts in calibrating to each and every desire you have. And they will find the crack in your armour. They will. No question about that. Your plate.…
/r/TheRedPill11/12/17 08:54 AM
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One simple way is this: focus on your breathing. If your mind strays. Refocus on your breathing. Cycle through that. You will get better at holding the focus on your breath after time. Do that 5-10 minutes a day. Consistency is important here not volume. Important: don’t guilt trip yourself if you get let astray a lot at the start. Just reframe it as „being able to refocus on your breathing again“.
/r/askTRP09/12/17 12:56 PM
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You did pretty well. When I was at your age I would have made a huge drama out of this and told them to GFY! And yes, if this place helps you to vent and share those feelings why not but beware that those anger trips can lead to dark places. What you wanna do is to channel that energy into positive things. Try daily meditation. Just a few minutes. Just focus on your breathing. Over time your brain will find it easier to handle those situations and you can channel that energy into productive ende…
/r/askTRP07/12/17 07:39 AM
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You could search on google scholar within the disciplines of evolutionary psychology/biology. „Mate selection“ probably is a good word to search for. Other words to search for? Good question. Maybe some other people will chime in.
/r/askTRP06/12/17 06:50 PM
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This. This. And....this. Was struggling with this for months after reading about it at first. Law 38 is HARD to implement. I get it. I have to fight is as well. But OP, you must take this law to heart, especially in such extreme BP environments like school. And like htbf said: it is not your fault. Society only wants you to think it is.
/r/askTRP06/12/17 03:25 PM
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Pack a gym bag, leave it at the front door. As soon as she comes home go to the gym. Important:Don’t be angry. Just say: „Hey Honey. Picked up the kid, at your mom. Went great. Going for some workout now. Am pumped. See you later.“ Then go! Don’t let her discuss this. You need to reestablish Frame and respect. Your only chance of doing this is by improving yourself and setting he frame nonverbally. You cannot discuss what happened with her since that would mean entering her frame. She took time …
/r/askTRP06/12/17 07:38 AM
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You figured it out yourself....“everyone of us“... This „us“ group already took the pill. Don’t know if you ever did coaching or counselling for somebody but if you do, you will find that there are people who wanna be coached but who don’t wanna change. I recognise this behaviour all too often in myself as well. The problem is: if people don’t wanna change then you won’t make them change. Doesn’t matter if you are a genetic superhuman coach combination of Arnold Schwarzenegger, Rollo Tomasi, Ton…
/r/askTRP05/12/17 08:22 PM
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You might see it. The others don’t. They will fuck you up and call you a misogynist or whatever derogatory terms is trending at that moment in time. Law 38! Law 38! Law 38! Read up on it. And then behave like others. Nevertheless, who says it is verboten to buy copies of the rational male and gift it to friends.
/r/askTRP05/12/17 07:29 PM
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