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keepingittogether20/r/askMRP10/11/20 04:05 AM
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OYS 35 38y.o. 6'0" 194 lbs 19.4% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 6(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, Meditations, Dead Bedroom Fix, I Hear You, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/11/20 05:16 AM
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No What are you waiting on? Her to have some income. My state fucks the income earner if the others is zero. She should have some in the next 90 days
/r/MarriedRedPill04/11/20 04:53 PM
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OYS 34 38y.o. 6'0" 193 lbs 18.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 6(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, Meditations, Dead Bedroom Fix, I Hear You, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/11/20 03:29 PM
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You yell, they win. When I yell we all lose What's your plan? Leading by example, keeping them busy with physical activities, giving them age-appropriate responsibilities, allowing them to see me constantly working on things and bettering myself. I read your recent post. Great stuff and something I will reread a few times this week.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/10/20 10:31 PM
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OYS 33 38y.o. 6'0" 188 lbs 17.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 6(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, Meditations, Dead Bedroom Fix, I Hear You, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/10/20 04:37 PM
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OYS 32 38y.o. 6'0" 187 lbs 17.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 6(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, Meditations, Dead Bedroom Fix, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve. Physical S…
/r/MarriedRedPill20/10/20 03:33 PM
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OYS 31 38y.o. 6'0" 186 lbs 17.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 6(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, Meditations, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve. Now Reading: Dead Bedroom Fi…
/r/MarriedRedPill13/10/20 03:19 PM
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Good question, and yes. I am devouring material, talking to a therapist 2x weekly, working out hard, working on my grief, and overall taking steps to unfuck myself. I'm taking this shit seriously and determined to come out of it stronger and better.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 11:29 PM
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You're right.. the numbers won't lie. Math is math
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:49 PM
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Thanks- I'll check it out
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:35 PM
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For sure... I'm a while from go-live. Right now it's just about doing something that's not my day job
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:25 PM
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Catnaps help me, as does "catching up" on the weekend. But I don't like wasting valuable hours on weekend mornings. 10 would be awesome. Right now I consider it a win if I lay down by midnight and am asleep by one. I generally don't have trouble falling or staying asleep once I lay down. My issue is actually laying down. I'm a night owl and am at my most productive after 9 so switching that off is a challenge that I need to get better at overcoming.
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:23 PM
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Even with the same neck and waist measurements? I'm working to lose fat while keeping muscle at worst the same
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 07:19 PM
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OYS 30 38y.o. 6'0" 185 lbs 19.4% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 6(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve. Now Reading: Meditations Physical Strengt…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/10/20 12:28 PM
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you haven't done the work for you about you. This is what's fucked.. I can tell you that mentally, emotionally and physically I'm exponentially stronger than I was a year ago. Granted a year ago I was a blue-pilled drunk (high) captain butt-hurt and living on covert contracts. Now I see reality and it has me numb, but at the same time truly seeing the pain for what it is. Mission and purpose are the 2 things eluding me right now. I'm getting there, and have some ideas I'm testing the waters with…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/20 04:51 PM
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I'm just not there right now with this mindset. I see what you're saying but cannot wrap my head around it
/r/MarriedRedPill05/10/20 04:45 PM
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You have to actually trust their mother (gasp!) that she will make good decisions on who she brings into their lives. This is a pretty big fucking leap seeing as she has made a shit decision of who she took out of their lives for half the time. there is nothing you can do about this and the loss of control is eating you alive. This. This is the thousands of years of evolution and paternal instinct. My little girl turns 6 tomorrow. The amount of vulnerability she has for the next 10 years needs d…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/20 05:23 PM
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I'm having a hard time wrapping my head around this You're afraid My son had 4 men come and go from his life via his mother in 10 years. Yes. I'm afraid of this for my 9 year old son and 6 year old daughter. You know just as well as I do that this fucks with kids some shitbag dude came into the picture How many stories do you hear in the news about the moms boyfriend harming or abusing the kids, or a step sibling? My job as their father (at least at this point in their lives) is to protect them.…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/10/20 04:40 PM
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High value women are created from a high value man By high value I mean reasonably attractive, in good shape with a tolerable personality. I don't want to fuck anything that moves. If I'm going to do this I want to do it well
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 04:51 AM
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It's a real emotional shit show right now isn't it? The up, down and compartmentalizing is exhausting For the short term (next few weeks) your focus needs to be 1) on your health and mental state 2) on making this smooth on your kids 3) divorce prepping good advice, and I've been prioritizing 1 and 2 the most. Go back (or read) Meditations. There's so much good shit in there for dealing with both regret and anxiety This is the 500 year old one, right? I added it to my audible list Your routines …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 04:49 AM
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it's much more likely that you miss the familiarity of what you had and are scared and unsure of what is to come. The familiarity yes. But much deeper than that I truly love time as a family, and being a daily part of my kids lives, especially at this age. I've only got a few more years before they'll be doing their own thing. Aa far as the challenge to come: I don't want other father figures in my kid's lives. I want to be their example. Is that ego, or is that thousands of years of paternal fa…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 04:39 AM
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I will say that from personal experience, not living an authentic life makes finding your mission incredibly difficult. I ask myself if continually wanting more is living an authentic life. As in never being completely happy in the moment and looking towards the future or past. Now more than ever is the time for your to demonstrate your leadership abilities and be the rock your kids need you to be This is what is holding me together right now; Im LARPing too much everywhere else, but have not sk…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/10/20 04:35 AM
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That's sound advice and I suspect you're right. Maybe Day Bang is the next book for me to consider, and I could do some reading on how to properly create a high value profile on those apps and some basics on the early game with them. Part of it comes down to avoidance of further rejection. I have just experienced the ultimate rejection and want to protect myself from more. I know rejection is part of the game and I shouldn't be such a pussy about it. I can also reduce the likelihood of it by cre…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/09/20 03:36 AM
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Maybe I was doing it wrong but each lead that started to look promising ended up being a scam or only fans.. a couple real ones that showed interest didn't meet my standards attractiveness-wise. I also didn't try as hard as I could have or long enough to draw a true conclusion. The bottom line is that my heart just wasn't in it.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 10:42 PM
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Fair enough
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 05:14 PM
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You're mentally fucked right now and you're looking for something to help you feel better. Spot on here Fix your fucking life by finding a mission, a purpose. I have been looking for this for 9 months now.. I have had success with a couple of short term ones, but the long term big picture purpose continues to elude me do you possess the self-awareness to look into yourself and find the source of your stress and anxiety that is leading you to be a mess? Right now the source of my stress and anxie…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:52 PM
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You think too much and give too many fucks. Yeah. I need to figure how to pull that back and execute I think this is less about their feelings and more about yours but you aren't phrasing it that way. Maybe. I'm still shellshocked about everything crumbling down around me and my role in the implosion. I'm not in a place where dating on any level will benefit me.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 04:42 PM
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Pretty solid OYS 1. The Rational Male will provide you with some good context to what happened with your situation- I recommend bumping that up on your reading list. What internally made you flip the switch from "trying to win her back" to "filed for divorce in August"?
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 12:09 PM
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OYS 29 38y.o. 6'0" 188 lbs 19.4% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, Bang, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those, The Tao of Steve. Now Reading: My writing and OYS from the …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/09/20 11:58 AM
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OYS 28 38y.o. 6'0" 188 lbs 20.3% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, WISNIFG, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Now Reading: Bang. I gamed my wife well in the beginning, and sto…
/r/MarriedRedPill22/09/20 12:13 PM
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Good post. I went autistic and fucked things up. Early on I went Rambo as anger mode set in, then corrected course. I then got too comfortable and slacked on lifting/standards and shit fell apart. I'll be fine. I've identified where I fucked up and am going back to basics (Lift, Read/Sidebar, STFU). My frame, charisma and game all are getting a much-needed boost as I move on to my next chapter.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/09/20 11:07 PM
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Shower and do some job search stuff I'm blind leading the blind with the marriage, but I know my shit in the employment world You will not find a job with this half-assed lazy approach. Are you going to retire or do you want to work. 1: figure out which industries your skills can cross to, then dive deeper to see which will not be impacted by another government shutdown 2: Be at your computer showered, dressed and ready to "work" at 8am. Take an hour lunch, stop at 5. Getting a job is your full …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 05:58 PM
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Don't try to fuck anything over 150lbs. Why would I want to?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/09/20 04:37 AM
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OYS 27 38y.o. 6'0" 190 lbs 21.1% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, now separated, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, Practical Female Psychology for the Practical Man, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Now Reading: WISNIFG- Overall it is okay. If men are not able to handle th…
/r/MarriedRedPill15/09/20 11:27 AM
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You're the man. Thanks!
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 04:57 PM
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It's not. But with laws in my state that doesn't matter
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 04:56 PM
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Women don't generally move out without a branch to swing to. This is where all of my stress and anxiety are coming from. Logic says this. And if this is for someone else it changes everything about my willingness to work through this as opposed to file and hammer her in a divorce. If it truly is for her to heal and learn that I am the prize I can support it. But I will not support someone who is cucking me.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 03:58 PM
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you're not letting yourself admit to her in some congruent way that you DO want her to stay I've been clear that I want her do stay and I've done it without begging or clinging. Maybe a bit more DEER than I should have, but it felt right. I have also been clear that I want her here because she WANTS to be here, not because she feelz like she NEEDS to be (inability to make it on her own). The reason she gave me for doing this is because she is not sure if it is because she wants to or needs to To…
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 03:30 PM
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Yeah... I have not run that by an attorney. I don't want to street fight and this was more out of anger than anything else.
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 01:40 PM
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OYS 26 38y.o. 6'0" 193 lbs 20.3% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Just Finished: Practical Female Psychology: For The Practical Man.. Not sure what I think about this one. I think it is good, to an extent, …
/r/MarriedRedPill08/09/20 11:47 AM
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How do you kill the ego? That's an important questionn that I now constantly ask myself. Sidebar. Dive deep, read all the books, Honest evaluation of yourself. Mine is on life support but still gets flashes of vitality. Maybe it's a defense mechanism. I tend to bite back a little harder when I know I didn't execute perfectly. Is it as easy as STFU? No. STFU is outward, ego comes from within. STFU prevents your ego from making things worse. I definitely need a hard review of NMMNG and WISNIFG If …
/r/MarriedRedPill05/09/20 05:52 AM
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Your lifting looks to be on-point, great work with the weight loss. How is the rest of your physical appearance? The DoD posts have great points on hygiene, clothing, style, etc... Show off your improvements. What about hobbies or social life? What are you doing other than the gym to get out of the house? The Way of The Superior Man made a big impact on me. Also Athol Kay's two books. Horns and Blarg have a lot of good stuff about preventing and responding to bullshit from the wife. > I always c…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/09/20 08:47 PM
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I have, over the last few months contemplated suicide for the first time in my life. Shit bro, don't go that route. Things can always get better. Reach out to the hotline, talk to someone you trust, but people can always reinvent themselves. Plus if you have kids that will fuck them up. Are you getting outside? Talking to friends? Keep up that reading- the right book can change everything.
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 03:00 PM
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I have the basics down. Do you though? It's been 6 months since your last OYS, and this is reading like an OYS 1. How far away is this unit? I love having my weights in the basement because my time is extremely limited and I can get a solid workout done in 30-45 minutes. If you have to go somewhere that amount of time is easily doubled or tripled. Read all of the sidebar at least once You read the sidebar a year ago... What was the last thing you read and how long ago was that? When my reading s…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/09/20 03:40 AM
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Haven’t lifted for a couple of months and eaten like a fucking child That is why your libido is non existant and your self-esteem is very low. It is hard to feel good about skinny arms and a fat ass. If you dont have access to weights at least do push ups, planks and body weight squats. 5 minutes a day will motivate you. Then buy some weights because the gyms that are not still closed will be shut down again this fall. What are you reading/have you read? That is not listed. At OYS 16 you should …
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 08:14 PM
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OYS 25 38y.o. 6'0" 194 lbs 21.1% BF (Navy Method- wild how the % stayed the same with a 5 lb weight swing) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, Manly Marriage Revival, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Practical Female Psychology: For The Practical Man Physical ***I…
/r/MarriedRedPill01/09/20 11:12 AM
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I have. We walked through best and worst cases of current finances vs if she had income of her own. He also warned me against leaving the home.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/08/20 10:21 PM
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Absolutely. Why shoot myself in the foot now when time will put me in a better position? Ego? It goes back to poor choices over the years. By being the sole income provider up until this point, the state expects that to continue in the event of a divorce. But if a few biweekly paychecks start coming in they are factored in to my financial responsibility. And, more importantly my home is my castle. I have not shared walls for 12 years and have no intention of starting now. An aggressive women's a…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 04:47 PM
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Beta strategy or poker? Why go Rambo when the law is not on my side?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 03:56 PM
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I thought that through. It comes down to personal protection. If I play hardball on the finances that would require her to get a lawyer to obtain martial assets. State law- nothing I can do about what is owed from an equity standpoint. A lawyer may also advise her not to leave the house. Something that state law could support with the right lawyer. So then I would have to hire a lawyer and I would spend that same amount in the fight and risk losing my ability to stay in the house.
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 03:13 PM
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OYS 24 38y.o. 6'0" 189 lbs 21.1% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Manly Marriage Revival – Interesting take that is very similar to MMSLP and MAP, but from a different angle. The bottom line with this and all ot…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 12:18 PM
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I'm owning my role in it. I'm not groveling or begging, but I am approaching this with the understanding that my fucking up as a high captain for years got us to this point. The relationship was damaged long before she was in an easy situation with a beta husband that repulsed her sitting at home. If I had known then what I know now I wouldn't have been a pot smoking, porn watching DEERing faggot that was oblivious to the decay of his relationship and SMV. Today that's different. The porn and po…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/08/20 03:10 AM
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You have described me to a T. I read NMMNG 2x. The 2nd to be sure it wasn't my ego getting in the way but it just did not connect with me. The book that opened my eyes: Seven Levels of Intimacy by Matthew Kelly. As a list/structure person it broke human connection down for me and made a huge impact.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/08/20 03:48 AM
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Good points, and it's all self inflicted. I need some time to myself after the kids go to bed. Getting the weights back up will help too. Like everything else it's just a matter of committing to it and executing
/r/MarriedRedPill19/08/20 04:47 PM
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make it very clear with boundaries, fogging and being honest. Fogging has been strong with this and throughout my RP journey. Things that my ego or butt-hurt would fight back on are met with "yeah, I can see how that feels" or where I have been acting like a faggot "good call- I appreciate you pointing that out". This specific situation is "I don't agree, but I understand the need for space when you're upset" My wild guess? I genuinely believe it's the former based on actions/behavior. I have be…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 06:59 PM
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I suspect you're not if I read between the lines. You are correct. Not there, specifically for the kids. They need me, and need me around every day Have you seriously given your wife the impression (incongruently I might add) that you are willing to? I don't think so to be honest, but I think that as I have continued my journey and am no longer butt-hurt by her storms it has given the impression that I am hard/cold. Even with this. I have said that I don't agree, and I would prefer different but…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 04:54 PM
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OYS 23 38y.o. 6'0" 190 lbs 21.1% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, Rational Male, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Reread sidebar pinned posts, last weeks OYS and comments, linked rabbit hole that goes down Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/08/20 12:24 PM
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More than anything I find myself more sharp and charismatic. Yes, I will do it again, but more from a social standpoint than doing it myself frequently
/r/MarriedRedPill12/08/20 12:55 AM
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Your woman will find every and any chinks in your armor.. until she is satisfied that you are as strong as you think you are....It never stops. The captain never gets a break. This is helping me come out of the anger phase. I read the post by u/man_in_the_world as I was processing the toss-up and it underscored my conclusion: my words and actions cause her to shit test, and getting butt-hurt about the shit tests dries her lady parts right up. My ego doesn't like being disrespected, but who is do…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 07:44 PM
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OYS 22 38y.o. 6'0" 197 lbs 22% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: The Rational Male (rereading) Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x15 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 100x10,…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/08/20 01:46 PM
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So you're new? If you had read any of the sidebar before making this bitch comment you would see that faggot is not used in homophobic context here. "Let's" read the sidebar before posting stupid comments. Faggot.
/r/MarriedRedPill10/08/20 01:23 PM
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With the amount of time you spend on Reddit talking about video games and conspiracy theories you are likely consuming yourself with that. Lift weights and fuck your wife. Pregnancy was a turn-off to you? Pussy. Chad Thundercock loves deprived preggo women. Postpartum pussy a turn-off to you? Faggot. Chad Thundercock loves the women with douchebag man-children. You might already be too late. Her hormones and maternal instinct are helping her sense that you are a faggot incapable of giving her th…
/r/MarriedRedPill09/08/20 02:19 PM
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Bingo. You have pain, anger towards yourself, boredom or all three that you are not addressing. Yes, pot is better than alcohol. Robbery is better than murder. Does it matter? Pot make being bored ok. With a failed marriage and three young children you don't have time to be bored. You're not hitting your goals because you are getting high instead. What is more important- your goals or getting high? More importantly what example do you want to show your kids: someone who sets and hits goals, or s…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/08/20 12:35 AM
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Give it 100 days. Start deliberately. Don't wait until you're out of pot. It's important (at least to me) to have the ability to do it but make the concious choice not to. Full ownership. Saying "smoke less" is bullshit. You'll fail because it's not a real goal, and because you either smoke or you don't. Replace the time you would have spent with something productive or fun (hint-sidebar)
/r/MarriedRedPill05/08/20 09:34 PM
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OYS 21 38y.o. 6'0" 195 lbs 21.4% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook, The Rational Male, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Debating the next one. Sex God Method or 48 Laws will start this week Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tric…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/07/20 03:55 PM
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Yes- I stopped counting after 100 days
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 03:10 PM
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OYS 20 Back from Ban 38y.o. 6'0" 193 lbs 21.1% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, Pook BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: The Rational Male Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x15 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 100…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/07/20 02:05 PM
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It comes out sounding like being a try-hard funny dick Exactly. I prefer the style of own it and move on.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/06/20 01:46 PM
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I struggle to make A&A not sound bitchy or butt-hurt sarcastic and instead over the top and a little funny. Still getting there, but I get what you're saying here.
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 05:59 PM
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OYS 19 38y.o. 6'0" 203 lbs 22.0% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Pook- almost done Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x15 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 100x10, OHP 3x 100x10 …
/r/MarriedRedPill23/06/20 03:58 PM
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You are asking in the wrong forum, but I'll answer before this gets removed: If your man cares about you being a virgin in order to marry you he is an insecure pussy. If that is the case, send him here and he will be set straight. Or not. Hopefully that's not the case and you can move on with more important things.
/r/MarriedRedPill19/06/20 03:11 PM
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Given the description you gave of her behavior, I would guess she’s closing off emotionally from you. There are different stages for this, but this is usually brought around by anger and hurt. I think you need to have her express her feelings (explode even, if necessary) in an unplanned manner (because, if you give her enough time to “plan” around her anger, you might get divorce-raped). You know her, you’ve been together for a long time. Make her snap, get her to really tell you what’s on her m…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/06/20 04:18 AM
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That's it for me: I am taking away all of the power that she previously had in the situation. Not initiating is not permanent, but it's a tool I am testing to shift the dynamic back into my frame.
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 07:00 PM
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Fuck- is this a joke? You should probably write her a really long poem about all of these feelings. Her pedistal sounds like it's not high enough, so start by making it higher and she will validate you with better hugs
/r/MarriedRedPill17/06/20 06:41 PM
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If I boil it down, the fear is this: what if all of my changes/improvements aren't real and/or don't work? And I'm the same unattractive beta faggot, just better read with some more muscle.
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 08:34 PM
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I'm not afraid of any of that. Just because I don't want something doesn't mean I'm afraid of it. I don't want starfish sex. I'm not afraid of rejection, I don't want to give her the power to reject. Some of it comes down to restructuring the dynamic. I have years of unattractive bullshit that I am unraveling. 12 months ago she didn't initiate sex. Ever. She has initiated more in the past 2 months than in the past 5 years. I'm not saying this is a forever thing. I'm shifting the dynamic from bet…
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 08:01 PM
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When am I going to cut the shit and start initiating again?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 07:32 PM
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What am I looking to accomplish?
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 07:15 PM
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Why are you not initiating? Me pushing for sex constantly while being unattractive about it was a huge part of our problems before shit hit the fan. I am doing it to take away the argument that I'm pressuring her. I'm doing it so when she initiates that I make it a fun, passionate experience. I'm doing it because I don't want the starfish sex we had for the past few years. I'm doing it to not give her the power to reject. I'm not doing it to make her wonder why I'm not initiating
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 07:04 PM
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OYS 18 38y.o. 6'0" 205 lbs 23.7% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Pook- getting close to being done with the audio version. Good stuff. Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate …
/r/MarriedRedPill16/06/20 04:04 PM
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Goal - 5.5 hours of sleep of night: You're an absolute idiot. Your competitors (whomever they are) will easily run circles around you. How much sleep do you suggest? I doubt she's "seeking (your) attention more," instead, I think you're just noticing it for the first time rather than hibernating in your own martyrdom. Very possible. Looking at the Jung archetypes the lover (living in the moment, connecting) has historically been my weakest/shadow. It's getting better. The autistic grunts are not…
/r/MarriedRedPill14/06/20 03:57 AM
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OYS 17 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 205 lbs 23% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Pook. Moved Wild at Heart to my toilet read since it is moving so slow. I want to and will finish it, but my interest is waning and I want to keep my reading on …
/r/MarriedRedPill09/06/20 05:37 PM
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Test inexpensively so you don't blow your wad on something that inevitably won't work. Spend little to determine what can work. This, and the basic blueprint for how to execute is what caught my attention and that I need to dive deeper into
/r/MarriedRedPill04/06/20 04:36 AM
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Fantastic post. I've got a solid job and would like to start a business that eventually replaces it, but have yet to find the right product or service. I am going to dive into this a few times to play with some ideas.
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 04:31 AM
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She wants to feel like a little girl.. tell her what to do. You fucking retard. Ok, so what am I missing as I connect these dots? She had been stomping and storming all last year BECAUSE she feels like a little girl when it comes to finances and authority, and resented being a SAHM. But as 2019 ended and 2020 has unfolded with a lot of Lift, Read, STFU and 60DoD I'm feeling good, looking good and making good moves to enhance my life long-term. I'm hearing and giving sometimes autistic grunts and…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 03:21 AM
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I bet you give her solutions Historically yes. But not any more I'm broadcasting that I need you to stay I'm not following here. The $ was put out there as an invitation to act or stop talking. To let her know I won't force her to stay and she is free to leave any time. But mostly because I believe that she did FEEL like she didn't have options since she has absolutely no knowledge of money, value or what it takes to get a place on her own. You're REWARDING her with $5k for being a dollar suckin…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/06/20 12:16 AM
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why leave the decision for you both to stay together up to her? While it takes two people to decide to get married, and to make a marriage work, it only takes one person to end a marriage. She can choose to leave at any time. That decision is always up to either one of us at any time. And then even rewards her for leaving? That's simply marital law. When shit was hitting the fan last year she said she could not leave because she was financially trapped, even went so far as to say financial abuse…
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 09:52 PM
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OYS 16 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 206 lbs 23.7% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: MMSLP relevant chapters, Wild at Heart (this is a painfully slow read, I am getting through it a few pages at a time and determined to finish it so I can move …
/r/MarriedRedPill02/06/20 04:35 PM
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6’0 197lbs, 16%BF What are you lifting and how much does it weigh? I'm guessing you're skinny fat. For how much you bitch about your wife why aren't you taking that energy to heavy weights? OYS 101: Lift. Read. STFU Lift. Write here about what you're lifting. Pay attention to what others here are lifting. Get your form right then build weight. Drink a protein shake when you're done. This will get you further than creeping on single runners. Particularly as it is shark week You talk like this and…
/r/MarriedRedPill27/05/20 03:56 AM
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or that she expected me to be upset about something that doesn't affect me What's happening in my case is that either there is something I would have gotten butt hurt about in the past, or else she is festering something about what my negative thoughts COULD be, then preemptively getting angry with me about it. In this case I am following Blarg's advice from my last OYS and shutting it down completely. "You are angry at me for projections that don't exist. Instead of thinking FOR me, just ask wh…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 06:14 PM
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I'm guessing you know about The Epic Test. I read this a while back, a month ago and just reread it now. This is exactly what is happening, and while she is playing it cool there are little slip ups where she mentions my ability to move something or that she expected me to be upset about something that doesn't affect me She WANTS you to pass this test I see this. If anything I see some extra communication about what she needs for her feelz. I also am more forgiving because in the roles of the ma…
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 04:15 PM
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OYS 15 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 203 lbs 23% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: MMSLP Again, Wild at Heart Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x15 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 100x10, …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/05/20 02:44 PM
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What is the vision you're selling? To you in this comment or to her? Either way, I'm not "selling" anything. I'm keeping my home and life up how I want them, building muscle, dressing nice, and just being better in general without saying anything about it. If that spins her hamster then so be it. Edit: good article. I read it as STFU unless you can back it up, and even then don't word vomit/DEER
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 07:38 PM
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" Point out and verbalize the obvious changes that both you and her are noticing, the payoffs of the work you've been putting in. " At what point is this actually appropriate? I have been following STFU, Acta non Verba, Biological Stepmother for several months and there is a difference. She verbalized yesterday that it made her sad when she looked in our daughters closet and all laundry was done and hanging up. Said that it made her think that she is not doing enough. I just smiled and said that…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 04:01 PM
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Income is important, and a key component of earning high income (if working for a company) is providing VALUE to your employer and then effectively DEMANDING that you are compensated for your value. I have had success with negotiating pay structures that are based on gross profit. Meaning that I will take a modest base salary with a monthly or quarterly bonus that is a predetermined percentage of company profit before a high salary with no incentives any day. This, combined with an effective rea…
/r/MarriedRedPill23/05/20 03:52 PM
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Your irritation is a feeling and your feelings are wrong and you should feel bad about having them. I laughed out loud at this. I get the point. Uncontrolled emotions can quickly turn to butt-hurt. I am actively avoiding butt hurt.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 06:08 PM
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Drop your fucking ego. Working on the ego. If anything I get irritated with commentary that's not helpful. I know I'm allowing far more than I should. I'm looking (not just here) for tactics, mindsets and actions I can take to unfuck myself and improve the situation.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 04:56 PM
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Thanks. Real fucking helpful. So go Rambo on her? Pack a bag, throw it in her car and tell her to get the fuck out? Got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill20/05/20 12:44 AM
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Good stuff. Simple, but strong and effective. I caught myself starting to DEER today about handling a contractor. Stopped, smiled, and said "because this is the best approach" and just kept moving with my plan. She backed off immediately. The DEER is where I failed both times... If fuels the fire
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 09:03 PM
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The bigger thing here is a bitchy wife? Is that what the focus should be? Definitely an issue. But I'm keeping my focus on myself and my leadership. id throw her sandwich out the window on the way home. The thought crossed my mind but I attributed that to the anger phase and let it go Your wife is thinking for you and then reacting to that thought. Address that. This is an issue. How do I do it without DERRing? I told her she immediately assumes the negative and it has to stop. Fix you. Lead her…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 12:57 PM
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OYS 14 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 203 lbs 23% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Wild at Heart Powering through but rereading stories. Added MMSLP Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate…
/r/MarriedRedPill19/05/20 12:18 PM
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Fair enough re: DEER Let me reframe my initial response to his bonehead comment about my financial goals: "Did you read the entire OYS to deduct the value being added to the new house and the income on the old? If not don't waste my time with bonehead shit like this. The right planning and execution will enhance my life at home and add some toys I've wanted for years. IDGAF about Joneses. This is for me."
/r/MarriedRedPill13/05/20 05:19 PM
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Maybe try lifting up some heavy shit Maybe you missed where I went up in all of my weights last week. BP Sets of 225 isn't exactly bitch level. Bitch For a forum that discourages getting butt-hurt you sure seem to be throwing butt-hurt retorts to legit answers. Yeah, super awesome. I like going fast. An open throttle on a 1990 Yamaha super-jet is, in fact, "super awesome". I challenge anyone here to try it (if they can fucking stand up without falling) and tell me otherwise. Bitch. No one here h…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 10:50 PM
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invest more time and money into a multiple depreciating assets, rather than building anything of real value? Tell me: how is redoing an original kitchen, an original bathroom, opening walls, and refinishing original hardwood on a house being sold at 100k-150k less than updated houses on the same street not "building anything of real value"? I am walking away from my current house with 120k TAX FREE from doing the same thing 4 years ago. "Lousy fucking goal" my ass. keep up with the Jones I don't…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 08:02 PM
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Did you see this as a huge burden on her before? How hard is it, really? I never saw it as one. I work full time as the sole income provider. In my eyes 10 hours a week to keep the house clean should not be too hard and is her role. But that passes responsibility/creates covert contracts. So I just get it done and notice that she will be better about keeping the things that are important to her clean. It adds about 5 hours to my week, but I figure it out and it's done. Working from home helps, b…
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 02:30 PM
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OYS 14 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 199 lbs 21.9% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Wild at Heart Powering through but rereading stories. Physical Strength Day A: BP: 175x12, 3x 225x5, 175x12 DL: 3x 215x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x15 Day …
/r/MarriedRedPill12/05/20 12:07 PM
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Great post, and a solid reminder. I am seeking new hobbies right now, and if things fall into place will get both a boat (family hobby) and stand-up jet ski (my hobby) this summer
/r/MarriedRedPill08/05/20 08:16 PM
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look up the "Copenhagen Plank". This is hard for sure! I'm not so much bored, I just want a 6 pack. I recognize it's my body fat that's keeping those hidden! Have you done NMMNG Breaking Free #41? Yes, and everything that I come up with surrounds my kids, my finances, travel, and to an extent my marriage. That's why I have taken a different approach with books like "wild at heart" and the archetypes. I've got it on a pedestal. I'm good at small, short term missions like this current house transa…
/r/MarriedRedPill06/05/20 04:05 AM
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That's the article I linked to. Great stuff
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 01:06 PM
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OYS 13 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 199 lbs 21.9% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Wild at Heart (this is a slow read in part because of all of the religion. I will power through it this week to move to the next on the list) Physical Strength…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/05/20 11:44 AM
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read that whole thread. Wow. Great thread that read as well as a solid post. It was a solid reminder that while I have some solid noob gains, I have not established my value enough to inspire her to follow. As I kill my ego, my next biggest downfall is my lack of mission. I've been putting it on a pedestal and maybe need to go with the "ready, fire, aim" process that has served me well elsewhere in my life. There is no strength in avoidance. I agree with you here. Which is why I decided to hit t…
/r/MarriedRedPill30/04/20 04:36 AM
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what does one have to do with the other? It is how I'm getting over my oneitis and understanding that I will do just fine without her. I know my value, and as I unplug it increases daily. As I switch from drunk (high) captain to the true leader of my ship, I recognize that my first mate is fucking up more than me. My fault for not providing proper leadership. I'm saying you got sucked into a conversation you had no business being in. Fair enough. I have yet to figure out how to avoid and/or get …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 09:00 PM
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This is a dangerous combination. Yes it is. I am often close to boiling over, and have been taking that energy to my weights or else rage cleaning.
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 05:21 PM
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This shit is like buying a pair of Jordan's because you wanna dunk. You're gonna tangle your fingers up in the net and bust your fucking head is what's gonna happen. But hey, at least your feet looked cool in the process right?! I don't get what you're saying here. In the event that she is bringing up nonsense like this, STFU seems a bit autistic, A&A would escalate. Maybe just not engage, but that just kicks the can down the curb My thought was that I needed to pop this fantasy bubble that beta…
/r/MarriedRedPill29/04/20 05:17 PM
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Is this something you want in order to spend more time with your family or to spend more time on your own? Both: for my family to fish with my kids and general family exploration/quality time. For me because I have wanted one for 20 years, and because I have recently gotten into stand-up jet skiing and want one. But don't want to get on the water without getting my family on the water first. Then rent the damn thing every weekend and have fun I looked into this and daily rentals push $800 plus g…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 06:04 PM
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it’s completely out of my control which is a hard pill to swallow. My observations are that it takes about 2-3 months to close a job opportunity for the level I’m at. Before stay-at-home orders were issued I was 100% confident about having two offers. Currently it is out of your control, but you likely know that your career in the next downtown is 100% within it now more than ever. Out of all of these companies, who is the strongest right now? My industry has companies tanking, but because we su…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 04:40 PM
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OYS 12 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 198 lbs 21.1% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Wild at Heart Physical Strength Day A: BP: 170x12, 3x 220x5, 170x12 DL: 3x 205x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x10 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 95x10, OHP 3x 95x10…
/r/MarriedRedPill28/04/20 12:15 PM
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Show it by living it That is exactly what I plan to do. I'm not explaining anything to her. And as good as I am, making her cum is not a grand gesture. Bottom line is similar to the concept of a yoni massage: pleasure without expectations.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 08:07 PM
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Myself first- to prove to myself I can do it in the moment. To her only insofar as to take unattractive pressure out of the equation.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 07:35 PM
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You're giving your gift therefore she will want to "pay you back" therefore you will refuse it... for some reason This is the covert contract I am seeking to kill. Based on my past actions she will likely think I EXPECT her to "pay me back". But payment for me is the knowledge that I got her off. Give her pleasure if you want to for the fun of it. Don't expect shit in return Bingo. This is a short version of what I am getting at. But at least once or twice I need to refuse when she tries to pay …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 07:26 PM
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I see it. Frankly I see the whole thing as a covert contract, at least short term. I want to be desired. I want to receive enthusiastic sex. I want to watch/experience my woman experience pleasure, knowing that I did that. All of the above is pleasurable to me. Ejaculation is a byproduct, but not nearly as important to me as the rest. My thought more than anything was to try something new. Bad advice from deadbedrooms and me being a faggot put unattractive pressure on my wife to give duty sex. I…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 06:39 PM
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If you can change your mental model to YOU wanting to fuck for pleasure only, that's a little better to begin This is it. In my case the woman getting pleasure is gratifying for me. Short-term do I want to have sex/have an orgasm? Sure. But in the bigger picture I want to train the entire experience to be pleasure without expectations. I'm playing the long game here. To have success in the beginning this will have to be playful and covert. I negotiated desire up until I found MRP, and it failed …
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:57 PM
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I guess I have to plan a different approach and reread this subject from TWOTSM and HOA's posts. The goal was to make my dick the prize, give my gift, etc as opposed to fuck for my orgasm. To show that fun and pleasure are the goal, not my orgasm.
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 05:15 PM
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OYS 11 Back from ban #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 198 lbs 20.3% BF (Navy Method) Wife 34y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, TWOTSM, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: Wild at Heart Physical Strength Day A: BP: 170x12, 3x 220x5, 170x12 DL: 3x 205x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x10 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 95x10…
/r/MarriedRedPill21/04/20 12:07 PM
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Unless you own the bar (and even then) 7 nights a week there is objectively unhealthy in any situation. Hours daily on Facebook would be the same. But 1-3 nights a week at a bar with less than 4 drinks each time? In the right context is healthy. 30-60 minutes daily on Facebook sharing home improvement ideas, researching the local used boat market, and being social, in the right conext is also healthy. But I get it. It is easy to get sucked in and waste valuable time. Balance without DEER is my g…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 04:19 PM
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No, you didn't. You worded it the way your mental models were and it subconsciously exposed you. Shit. The OYS dialogue in action I even brought in a Morpheus with /u/rocknrollchuck to give you another perspective. Go back and read his comments I have a couple of times. There are some hard truths in there that I am forcing myself to face. The fact that giving it up for a year seems so unnecessary should tell me how necessary it is. It does you good to continually evaluate every mindset you have …
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 04:08 PM
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You don't actually want to get rid of your time drain, so you've built in your excuse. Is it excuse or strategy? I get value from Facebook if I don't let myself get sucked in. My weight bench came from marketplace, I get inspiration and advice for home projects, and it helps my antisocial ass be more social The actual time drain- the bullshit- I do want to cut out and have something of value (reading) to replace it with.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:59 PM
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Stop trying to fix her. Maybe I worded that wrong. I am no longer trying to fix her, and am instead working to lead her. By out of control think rudderless ship in a storm as opposed to adjusting my sail for the wind. I let her lead too much, especially last year as my pot use became compulsive. With myself reigned back in (on the right track at least) it is leading her to where I want her to be. Not changed, but with a strong lead to follow. Good points
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:22 PM
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What situation? Did you lose your cock behind the sofa? Lol- we separated in October, in part because I pressured for sex in an unattractive way and displayed butt-hurt when it didn't happen. I'm escalating daily now, and as my game improves will initiate in ways that get results. Zero fucking excuses for not doing this. I disagree. During the pandemic I am staying in touch with my poker group and a couple of relatives. I am also in a couple of mens groups that have inspired me to do little proj…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:15 PM
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I get that. And that is why I'm not getting butt-hurt about it. Her feminine got out of control and I'm working to reign it back in. I'm working to build my value and frame to a point where when I make the push that the only reasonable answer is yes.
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:11 PM
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I prefer the audio version. Funny you mention that. I generally listen to audio books more than print, but with the pandemic and work from home my 5-6 hours per week in the car has been cut basically down to zero, making the Kindle the better option. When are you going to tell your wife that you have an expectation that husbands and wives sleep in the same marital bed? Working on that. I've told her it's what I want, and she came in 2x last week. It comes down to using value and dread to get her…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 03:04 PM
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OYS 10 #60dod 37y.o. 6'0" 198 lbs 21% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"178lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, The King Within, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: TWOTSM Next: Wild at Heart Goal: cut Facebook time in half and make up that time with reading Physical Strength Day A: BP: 165x12, 3x 215x5, 165x12 DL: 3x 205x5 Tricep o…
/r/MarriedRedPill31/03/20 11:26 AM
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Continue stacking days. I did not list it here because after doing it the previous week my goals without action are meaningless. So acta non verba right now, and only talk about what I HAVE DONE, not what I WILL DO. With the pandemic, social use is not an option so that is easy for now. I am less present to my kids while high, so I don't do it when they are awake- this was a rule of mine even when I was doing it daily. And now that I am working on being more present for myself and my wife, I am …
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 06:49 PM
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Makes sense. My wife did Keto a few years ago and I learned then that sugar is sugar. My problem is the volume of the junk food. Cutting cookies and candy would be a substantial calorie/sugar drop. I need fruit and vegetables to stay regular, but could put more focus on vegetables to accomplish this.
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 06:42 PM
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OYS 9 37y.o. 6'0" 187 lbs 19% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"170lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, Poon, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entrepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Currently Reading: The King Within Next: TWOSM Physical Strength Day A: BP: 160x12, 3x 210x5, 160x12 DL: 3x 205x5 Tricep overhead w/45lb plate 3x10 Day B: Bent Over Row: 3x 95x10, Pendlay Row 3x 95x10, OHP 3x 95x8…
/r/MarriedRedPill24/03/20 11:19 AM
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No validation seeking. Owning my shit. I broke a 57 day streak of not smoking solo. That sucks. Pot didn't make me smoke it. I debated it in the moment, knew it was weak when I was setting it up, justified it to myself , and with the exception of the solid 45 minutes of basement organizing I got out of it, hated my decision and recognized the choice for what it was: Shit. And admitted it here because if I can't be honest to internet strangers, then what is the point?
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 03:54 PM
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OYS 8 37y.o. 6'0" 188 lbs 19.4% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"170lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Physical Still getting used to new back exercises. The day after my upper back hurts, so have had to rest more than I would like to ensure I don’t injure myself. Day A: BP: 160x12, 3x 210x5, 160x12 DL: 3x 205x5 Tricep …
/r/MarriedRedPill17/03/20 10:59 AM
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Great points, and I appreciate you spending the time to dig through my previous posts. The bottom line is that I have made a massive mindset shift when it comes to pot. She is a seductive mistress and yes, even with the mindset shift I am an addict. The big deal with quitting for a year is that I simply don't know if I want to. Can I? Yes. Do I want to? no. I liken it to my affection for a good porter: I am not slamming a case of Bud Light each weekend/week but occasionally I like a beer with di…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/03/20 02:10 PM
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What kind of fucking goal is this? You haven't smoked alone? Bingo. I smoked alone daily for 19 years. Thinking it was a way for me to relax. Instead it made me ok with being bored, and allowed me to waste a shit ton of time. So I made the commitment to stop, and have been successful since January 12. I am allowing myself to smoke socially, which is maybe once or twice per month with a very select group. Your wife is seeking praise and you likely suck at this How do I get better without appeasin…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 05:27 PM
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OYS 7 37y.o. 6'0" 180 lbs 17.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"170lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) (Had food poisoning yesterday, so expect next week’s weight to be higher) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover, MAP, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, specifically Lover & Warrior, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those. Read and reread recent posts in MRP Physical Implemented new back-focused exercises recommended by u/Cam_Winston21…
/r/MarriedRedPill10/03/20 10:49 AM
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Great feedback, and yes I am a recovering pothead- 19 years of daily use. If you feel guilty about a substance, if you have to invent excuses to keep being together That's the thing: I don't feel guilty and am not inventing excuses. I am being honest because that is the point of OYS. Smoking at poker night and the occasional social event is about self-control. Can I limit it to these appropriate occasions, and not long for it after? And the answer so far is yes. If that changes I will reevaluate…
/r/MarriedRedPill07/03/20 01:20 PM
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It is a realization of how bad things really were when this week is still a huge improvement over my past behaviors. But I get it. ALMOST doesn't hit my goals, and won't get me where I want to be. I enable myself to let up after a win instead of punching the gas to get another one. Or will sabotage a win in progress by taking my eye off the goal and following my wants in that moment. There is too much laziness and comfort-seeking, which ironically makes things harder and less comfortable down th…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 05:34 PM
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OYS 6 37y.o. 6'0" 188 lbs 18.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"170lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) *Another overall good week where I had mostly wins and minimal (but still present) losses. Consistency and self-control continues to pay off. Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, specifically Lover & Warrior, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links within those Currently Reading: Mindful Attraction Plan (slacked a…
/r/MarriedRedPill03/03/20 11:39 AM
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Awesome thanks. I'll go through all of the links after work. This looks like great stuff to use to restructure my workouts. What are your thoughts on a pull up bar for my door frame? My lats are looking weak next to my hardening chest and abs.
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 05:30 PM
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I'll look into those programs and/or some rowing options and see what the best one is that I can do from home with my equipment. I have a bench and olympic weight set. Don't DLs and squats work hamstrings and calfs? What is your beef with curls? I like the size increase they have made in my biceps and forearms. The curls and my triceps routines have made huge improvements in my arms over the past 9 weeks. Squatting is a safety thing. Until I get the right equipment It becomes how much I can get …
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 04:20 PM
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Will do. On to my day B workout
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 01:07 AM
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Ironically enough we just started watching GoT together again this weekend
/r/MarriedRedPill26/02/20 12:52 AM
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Wild to see the ability to read between the lines. well-played
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 10:08 PM
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I'd say kissing, holding hands, and another man grabbing your wife's tits is probably an affair Yes. 100% affair. Crosses my boundaries. Fucked my world up more than I could have ever imagined. The catalyst for me pulling some crazy shit to get them fired. If actual or even oral sex I would have divorced immediately, but since it wasn't my lines have been blurred a little bit. But I have reaped what I sowed. For years I looked at porn daily, fantasized about every woman in even slightly better s…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 10:06 PM
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Wow. That sucks. Glad to hear you at least avoided getting divorce raped. There is a bit more to the story than I've shared, but since we are all sitting in the share circle, here goes: I suspected EA right at ILYBNILWY, did some research, and figured out how to make her phone a recording device. Did it, confirmed the EA. Chad was/is a virgin and I heard his first kiss and lost my shit, scoured the internet, which eventually led me to MRP. That aside I listened to a ton of word vomit, holding ha…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 08:17 PM
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Ask me how I know How do you know?
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 07:31 PM
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I suspect an EA based on sluething, red flags and bad lying on her part. I can almost positively rule out a PA based on a divorce threat I made about a month ago and her response, but am not taking anything off the table right now. I read your post from the other day and it really resonated. My validation is coming from myself and compliments from people outside of my home. Nothing from her. The goal is to continue on my mission to break old habits and create/maintain strong new ones. While the …
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 07:22 PM
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OYS 5 37y.o. 6'0" 186 lbs 19.7% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"170lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) *This week has shown me that consistency pays off. 2.5 months of busting my ass (including multiple failures in that time) has set me up to be ready to execute within my frame in a smooth non-autistic way. Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, specifically Lover & Warrior, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars. Pinned Sidebar + Links wi…
/r/MarriedRedPill25/02/20 11:17 AM
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OYS 4 37y.o. 6'0" 187 lbs 20.3% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"170lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, MMSLP, King Warrior Magician Lover BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, specifically Lover & Warrior, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars. Revisiting sidebar on dread and anger This week will start Mindful Attraction Plan Physical Slacked on the weights this week due to vacation. Carried bags through airport/cruiseport for the family like a fucking pack mule. Did 50 p…
/r/MarriedRedPill18/02/20 11:18 AM
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Got it.
/r/MarriedRedPill12/02/20 03:50 AM
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Just do the fucking work and shut your fat fucking mouth. So what am I missing? I'm lifting, reading, SingTFU (probably not enough of that), making her the biological stepmother, building my frame, and not jumping the gun on going nuclear until this becomes more natural.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 11:03 PM
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If you didn't mean it, why did you say it? To an extent I meant it. Her current behavior is a shitty example to the kids on multiple levels. However, true or not as you said "wasn't the best thing to say in the moment" and the mother comment was the only thing I apologized for. A better phrasing would have been "the kids deserve better modeling of an adult relationship" or similar. And I told her as much in the morning. Am I off on this? You realize this was just a shit test wrapped up in a comf…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 09:02 PM
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I like this. And will use it. Good on you and thanks for calling me out. Her entitlement is out of control and it's entirely my fault for letting it get to this point. I'm still working on my frame and SMV before really dropping the hammer. I don't want to get all autistic and sloppily blow everything up. But I'm making fast progress, and the ass-chewings and reading through MRP is giving lots of ideas.
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 08:47 PM
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How do you fucks have such low standards as to even fathom a continued relationship Kids. But when you put it like you did, the bullshit screams a little louder. Oh...because you're a pussy The apology was for saying I would replace her as the mother figure. That crossed the line
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 01:50 PM
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currently thinks she's 8.5+ Why does this matter MMSLP: the one with the higher SMV holds the power. Goddamnit. What compelled you to do that? Did you mean what you said? If so, why did you apologize Giving her shit about being a shitty wife is one thing. Telling her I'm going to replace her as the kids mother crossed the line. That's what I apologized for. What lies has she told? There is a former coworker that she claims she doesn't talk to that I found out otherwise. I'm investigating right n…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 01:46 PM
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OYS 3 (posted from middle of Caribbean) 37y.o. 6'0" 184lbs 18.5% bf (navy) smv 7, wife 33 y.o. 5'11" smv 7 (currently thinks she's 8.5+), kids 9 (m) 5 (f), married 11 years. Reading/Sidebar NMMNG BPP- SLSM MMSLP YouTube: athol Kay (lots), entrepreneurs in cars (lots), Archetypes analysis (lots) Current: king warrior magician lover Next: mindful attraction plan Physical Day A: BP 15x155, 3x 205x5, 15x155; DL 3x 185x5; tri- overhead 45lb plate 3x10. Day B: curl 3x 70x10; ohp 3x70x12; squat 3x70x15…
/r/MarriedRedPill11/02/20 09:23 AM
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Yeah me too. It is fucking sick that it's true. Except the dick part
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 05:29 AM
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Thank you. Truly. For the time that you put into this. I needed the bitch-slap. Good tips, with a few misconceptions that I'll address in future OYS after the cruise because now that I'm finally starting to understand, I see how long it's going to take. In the meantime, my focus continues to be lift, STFU, Read, Sidebar, be attractive, don't be unattractive. A couple things: I don't care what others think, but I want to learn. I am looking at experts, people better than me that I can learn from.…
/r/MarriedRedPill05/02/20 05:28 AM
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u/HornsOfApathy would you mind giving your opinion? I have read a ton of your posts and admire your work
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 08:41 PM
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Good Questions, and working on all. My completion of sidebar books is lacking. When back from the cruise getting all of them on audio is my top priority. The car is the best opportunity for me to read as I continue the biological stepmother route. One major problem I have had in my life is relying solely on myself for happiness and fulfillment, and blocking emotional connection with others as I pursue the next best thing. But I pursued this the wrong way, and lost control of my ship (family). I …
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 06:58 PM
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My mission is to lead my family as a healthy masculine man, but yes my wife is a part of it and yes the main part, which is spinning my hamster way more than it should. I am working on being the prize, and my coach is using that exact phrasing so it is solid validation when I see the same advice elsewhere that. Regarding the prize: I give her a good fucking life (big house, nice car, doesn't have to work, I am a damn good father). But those are all external and not necessarily attractive. I have…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 03:54 PM
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OYS #2 37y.o. 6'0" 184 lbs 18.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"165lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, specifically Lover & Warrior, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars Just Started King Warrior Magician Lover Physical Day A: BP 155x15, 3x 205x5, 155x15; DL 3x 185x5 Increase due to proper form becoming more comfortable; Tri Exercises 3x 45x10 overhead w/plate Day B: Curl 3x 70x12; OHP 3x 70x12 Squat 3x 70x12 Daily: Plank 4x 3 minut…
/r/MarriedRedPill04/02/20 11:55 AM
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Good Question, and right now there are none. What consequences could a faggot drunk captain who bitches about everything and throws covert contracts out like a motherfucker give? I hate to say it, but her separating was a wake up call that I needed to straighten the fuck out. I'm pretty solid, but let myself get soft over the years, especially in the last 3. I was chasing my career, and while I have done a great job at securing this, I let the rest of my life slip. Lesson learned, and now I fix …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 04:20 AM
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OYS #1 37y.o. 6'0" 184 lbs 18.5% BF (Navy Method) Wife 33y.o. 5'11"165lbs, Married 11 years, Kids 9(m) 5(f) Reading/SB NNMNG, BPP- SLSM, Youtube Archetype Videos, specifically Lover & Warrior, Tons of Athol Kay & Entepreneurs in Cars Physical Day A: BP 150x15, 3x 200x5, 150x15; DL 5x 135x5 until proper form is comfortable; Tri Exercises Day B: Curl 3x 65x12; OHP 3x 65x12 Squat 3x 65x15 Daily: Plank 4x 3 minutes, Stand at desk for minimum 2 hours. All is newly consistent in past 30 days. Pushing …
/r/MarriedRedPill29/01/20 02:11 AM
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