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| 1 | What is the occupation of your STBXW or Ex-Wife?Same. And then she became a travel nurse then I REALLY made less. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/06/26 10:39 AM |
| 1 | When is it ok to start dating again!This. No one needs to know and if the new one doesn't work out you have the satisfaction of knowing it and you didn't hurt the ex if you're sensitive to that. If it does work then at some point you'll have to reveal but don't until you have to. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/04/26 11:43 AM |
| 2 | Giving up on my kids for everyone's peace?That's tough man and I wouldn't presume to tell you what to do. But as far as playing the long game nothing wrong with that and sometimes your only option. Just let your kids know you love them know matter what. My ex did the same and luckily it backfired, 3 yrs after divorce boy was struggling in school, daughter was emotionally abused by ex, the boy came with me first and daughter asked me later, now they both primarily stay with me, never would've predicted it. Others it's different, my best … | /r/Divorce_Men | 28/03/26 04:11 PM |
| 3 | Trauma of failed marriage (20 years)It's amazing how women claim this stuff. My ex blatantly lied in court and said I threatened to kill her and the fun part is the judge believed her and gave a domestic violence ruling. It's ridiculous that people can accuse anything to smear someone but even more ridiculous that people just believe it outright like this West Earth person. | /r/Divorce_Men | 27/03/26 11:11 AM |
| 1 | Days without the kid hit differentIt's ok man and you will have other times you live in your mind too much about it but you will come out of this to the other side eventually, we all have and some still are in it. Doesn't make it any easier I know. It takes time but you'll get there one step forward each day but keep moving. Watch some John Griffin on YouTube, his videos helped me process a lot of it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 18/03/26 01:55 PM |
| 10 | Why rush back into a relationship? What is wrong with living singleSingle is freedom. I'm not against someone else but I'm not desperate or even seeking it. My kids are teens now and my priority and I'm focusing on myself and rebuilding. I just don't have the time or energy to dedicate to a woman. I enjoy the attention I get on occasion and if it happens it'll happen naturally and be casual, not forcing. Maybe later when the kids are raised I'll be more open to it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 14/03/26 10:46 AM |
| 2 | First time with other womanI don't know how old you are but if you're anywhere close to 50 then go to your Urologist and get an RX for sildenafil if you just want to eliminate the possibility of that happening again. You can even get an RX online through Hims or Roman or various others. It may be this it may be that causing it and I tried a lot of things to help but it may just be nature and age but whatever it is thankfully there's modern medicine. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/26 02:00 PM |
| 1 | How long did you do therapy?I went to about 2 or 3 sessions and realized it wasn't for me. To each his own. | /r/Divorce_Men | 09/03/26 03:36 AM |
| 1 | What was the Craziest Moment In your Divorce Story?Its crazy...mine has emotionally abused our two daughters to the point where our oldest moved out at 17. I've since divorced her but then a couple years later our younger daughter asked to come live with me when she was around 15 and has been with me since. Of course my ex blames me and these people that claim you're supposed to support your spouse over your kids no matter what are delusional...when it becomes abuse and hate, F that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/26 02:50 PM |
| 1 | What was the Craziest Moment In your Divorce Story?Ugghhh... mine blatantly lied in the court room and completely out of left field said "he threatened to kill me". I never even so much as called her the B word in over 20 yrs of marriage. I was so taken back and surprised but the cherry on top was the female judge believing her and granting a domestic violence charge and just like that I had to stay 1,000 feet from our home, only saw the kids on the weekends and I'm labeled on my record the rest of my life. Everything turned around a couple year… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/03/26 02:40 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife asking me to watch her kids.I agree, if OP is willing and open to doing it then be there for those boys even if it's just for a certain time in their life, at least until circumstances change. There's nothing wrong with being a father figure to them or any kid when you have the opportunity. $100 each time is pretty generous too, I'd actually feel guilty taking that much but I don't know what she makes. | /r/Divorce_Men | 24/02/26 03:06 PM |
| 16 | Complete mind F today by my ex.You're not alone. My ex sent me a dick pic of the 1st guy she thought was the answer. Women do this, yet we're the ones called pigs. The shock & emotion will wear off, you will be happy knowing you aren't with someone like that now. She'll regret that later down the road, mine did. Protect your peace and ignore the attention grabbing, see past the bullshit. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/25 02:52 PM |
| 8 | Right now, your ex is ruining someone else's life now. Don't Worry, You're safe.Out of curiosity, how long were they together? | /r/Divorce_Men | 22/05/25 08:15 PM |
| 13 | Can't live anymoreMy ex and I were 23 years married too, 3 kids... She changed a lot the last few years and as much as I knew it was for the best because I was miserable and nothing was ever going to make her happy it still stung & the emotional hit is real and that's natural and it is okay. I felt the same way and it didn't help she was an awful control freak with the kids things are different now. At the time I didn't think I'd ever feel different but it really will get better. I realize now I don't NEED anyone… | /r/Divorce_Men | 02/04/25 04:16 PM |
| 2 | How spouse talks to your kids?It's not ok. My ex wife ruined our marriage with how far she took this stuff with our oldest daughter. Our daughter literally had to move out before graduating high school and she still went to her apartment one night and blew up on her and got a peace order as a result. Our relationship did not survive the fall out. Of course the ex blames me as she does for everything, no accountability for her own behavior or actions whatsoever. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/03/25 03:09 PM |
| 1 | Ex wife divorced me. I feel so lost with no purpose in life.Also John Griffin on Youtube. I know how you're feeling. It's necessary at first and natural to go through it. But there is a other side you will reach. You will realize You do not NEED anyone. Be about you and being available for your kid. It's tough and you don't feel Ok right now and you won't feel like you will be, but you will. | /r/Divorce_Men | 25/02/25 01:42 AM |
| 2 | Time to Deploy the Nuclear OptionYeah I'd definitely go grey rock on her after it's over. She'll probably get interested in what you're up to at some point, they usually do. Mine did but it's a lost cause after what she's done & how she acts. If not for the kids I would not interact at all. I know it still sucks but you can at least have some what of a clean break and there is some solice in that. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 09:56 PM |
| 2 | Time to Deploy the Nuclear OptionTerrible. At least no kids involved though that complicates things so much more & forces ongoing communication & conflict post divorce. Good luck, hope the damage can be minimized & enjoy your freedom once that can be achieved. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 09:16 PM |
| 3 | Time to Deploy the Nuclear OptionOh for sure. Mine's already blamed me for her having to do things with other guys for her validation b/c I didn't give her the attention she needed. The endless accusations & one sided embellished narratives are exhausting. She lies, threatens and is constantly angry & hateful, extremely difficult with the kids. Everything is so blown out of proportion and the professional victim act keeps her from taking any accountability for anything. They really are a nightmare. But I take it a day at a time… | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 06:57 PM |
| 17 | Time to Deploy the Nuclear OptionYep, ex blatantly lied in court & said I threatened to kill her. I never even called her so much as the B word in our 22 yrs of marriage. Judge said I didn't say enough to prove she is wrong and now I have the wonderful label of Domestic Violence on my record. It's pathetic. | /r/Divorce_Men | 16/02/25 12:14 PM |
| 3 | I cant keep going like this…Kids. That always complicated it. | /r/Divorce_Men | 05/02/25 12:04 AM |
| 15 | She lied so much in her court filingsIts amazing. Mine wrote a bunch of nonsense too and then in court blatantly lied & said I "threatened to kill her"...I never in the 22 years of being with her said anything like that, I've never even so much as called her the B word yet the judge said I didn't say enough to convince her otherwise and now I have a Domestic Violence label slapped on me for the rest of my life... Wonderful system we have. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/01/25 10:57 AM |
| 2 | STBXW...I hate her.What is TRT? | /r/Divorce_Men | 30/12/24 10:04 PM |
| 4 | Wife complains about my job.The problem with a lot of these women is no matter what you do they are going to find fault with it. There's nothing wrong with keeping an open mind to changing jobs but it also has to benefit you. | /r/Divorce_Men | 21/12/24 05:58 PM |
| 1 | I cannot move onMother freaker you have me laughin' at a bar reading this. I have a similar situation and your candor & humor is on point. "I plan to go to Thailand and set a new world record" LOL. But seriously, do tell on what you mean. PM me if you want. I love to hear more about this. I'm in full F it mode at this point. | /r/Divorce_Men | 19/12/24 12:25 AM |
| 6 | A man aloneStop giving away your happiness & peace to some woman or idea. Your happiness & peace belong to you & you only. Take back your strength and move forward with a zero fucks given approach. You will be ok. | /r/Divorce_Men | 13/12/24 02:56 PM |
| 3 | What new hobbies or interests have you started since the separation/divorce?Lol seriously... it really puts tiny little us and our puny little divorce drama into place. | /r/Divorce_Men | 06/12/24 10:04 PM |
| 1 | Being called Narcasstic throughout my marriage - this resonates. Stay strong fellas.A to the freaking MEN! Literally no matter what I did, it was picked apart, always something wrong, always finding fault... NOTHING was ever going to make her happy. It was impossible. | /r/Divorce_Men | 20/11/24 01:30 PM |
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