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Absolutely not alone.
/r/Divorce_Men27/07/26 05:45 AM
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Dude, if you haven't already started, get a therapist who specializes is divorce. Mine helped me soooo much. She put things in perspective, gave me tools to manage different scenarios with the STBX, and was just there for me to vent to.
/r/Divorce_Men05/07/26 03:34 AM
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I can only speak from my experience. YMMV.
/r/Divorce_Men30/06/26 12:34 AM
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100% I've been told this - having kids is a green flag for a lot of women. You've been there. Someone else trusted you enough to have a kid with you.
/r/Divorce_Men29/06/26 11:23 PM
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You can ask for 100% if that's what you want. Make your case. It will be up to the judge in the end.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 03:33 AM
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I my case I established and maintained contact with the GAL - sent them input as they requested and updated them as needed. You should ask them what they think is appropriate and how they want this info. Talk to your lawyer too. These are very important conversations that will basically end up deciding if you get to see your kids or not. Don't skimp on costs by asking this forum, every GAL is different. You should be in tight with your lawyer and aligned in your approach.
/r/Divorce_Men24/06/26 03:30 AM
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You are cooked. If her lawyer is in her ear and you broke trust then the calculus has changed and you'll have to deal with the new reality. Your last paragraph seems to want to shift blame (my read of it, may not be your intent). IMHO your best bet is to consult your lawyer on any apology and remain consistent in your words and deeds. I'd suggest that you communicate through your lawyer if she has one in her ear advising her. Everything you say will be used against you. Good luck brother.
/r/Divorce_Men17/06/26 03:27 PM
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I hear you when you're saying you're going to get your financial ducks in a row but I would suggest that you see a lawyer for a consultation ASAP. Go see three. I went and looked on Google Maps for lawyers in my area and chose the top three highest rated ones it's a swift way to find a good counsel. Most of these guys will give you 30 minutes to hear your case out and then you can talk about payment terms. In my case my lawyer allowed me to take credit out and pay him out over time in which case…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 02:52 AM
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You sound like you are in a terrible situation... I'm not a lawyer, but the gray rock technique worked really well for me. Eventually she got tired of it because I wasn't giving the energy back she wanted. You have to be very careful to not give ANY energy back. If I were you... 1) Talk to your lawyer! This is the most important thing you can do right now. Can you put a lock on your door even? When does her actions become abuse or assault? Document and record EVERYTHING. If she starts banging pa…
/r/Divorce_Men07/06/26 12:43 AM
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Divorced father full time of 3 - signed the paperwork 3 years ago after spending 250k between us to settle everything. Its hard but easier now that you don't have to ask her permission for everything/anything. Network with other moms as they will get you, even if your ex goes bashing you. Full custody is a massive green flag to other parents (and when dating when you get there). I have so many tips on how to manage this I can write a book but one easy win that has saved my butt more often than n…
/r/Divorce_Men05/05/26 10:01 PM
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Lucky dog!
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 11:06 PM
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Who is going to tell him about Alimony? Same situation here, she gets 9 years of support at a very good tax free salary courtesy of me to "maintain her lifestyle". I sleep at night knowing she cannot marry or have a live in boyfriend - as much as the state got me, they have also ruined her life - she has to choose, money or love. What do you think she's choosing? Depressing but I'm glad I'm not married to her anymore. Life is much better on the other side.
/r/Divorce_Men14/04/26 03:04 PM
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Sorry if that doesnt answer your question, if it were me, I'd tell my lawyer what happened. I suspect there is nothing for you to do unless you get served or the police visit. So don't sweat it until it happens. Sounds like you are at the start of your process. Limit contact with your STBXW. Make sure you have a good lawyer. Go to the gym. Get a therapist. Eat well and get your rest. You are in a marathon, not a sprint.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 06:06 AM
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Record everything. Never take/make a call that is not recorded. If you are in a two party consent state, stop talking entirely, only communicate over email.
/r/Divorce_Men28/03/26 06:02 AM
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As expensive as they are don't cheap out on your divorce lawyer. You'll spend the rest of your life looking back if you get screwed and wish you hadn't
/r/Divorce_Men11/03/26 09:57 PM
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never get married.
/r/Divorce_Men03/03/26 11:32 PM
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I can't overstate how important number 4 is
/r/Divorce_Men20/02/26 11:14 PM
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TALK TO HER. You owe it to yourself and to her to sit down at the table and say "what is going on here?". There is no law that says you can't ask her "are. You seeing someone else?". Yes, it's uncomfortable as F, but better now than with lawyers at 10 paces. At least you'll be able to sleep at night in the future knowing she was honest with you or not, that is a defining moment in time that will be forever in your favor. Look up your state laws on recording conversations - if you are in a one pa…
/r/Divorce_Men17/02/26 05:47 PM
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This is what happened to me. 18 years of marriage and she gets 9 years nice chunk of alimony and now only has to live modestly until she can live off her nice chunk of the retirement we split 50/50. Me on the other hand, I have to work.
/r/Divorce_Men16/02/26 06:59 PM
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What Ocino said. I put up a 4x8 sheet of whiteboard card in the hallway that tracks every thing that's going on 3 months in advance. Everything goes on the board: sporting events sleepovers special events birthdays work trips everything. The kids know that if it's not on the board it doesn't exist. Give the kids jobs in the house or better yet make a list of all the jobs that have to get done and then you and the kids work together to divide up who does what (It goes on the board!) and change fr…
/r/Divorce_Men29/01/26 09:41 PM
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Record everything. When the kid is agitated and the phone calls are no longer in the best interest of the kids you will have a case to limit them.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/26 04:09 PM
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This. And document everything.
/r/Divorce_Men02/01/26 03:09 AM
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Don't do anything... Let silence speak for you.
/r/Divorce_Men01/01/26 03:55 AM
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In my case the courts ordered the kids see a therapist, which ended up really helping them (and me) by giving them some tools to deal with the changes.
/r/Divorce_Men31/12/25 03:28 PM
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Sounds like a you might be a bit down the path, but if your lawyer isn't advising you where you may end up you need a better lawyer.
/r/Divorce_Men29/12/25 01:39 AM
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This.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 01:48 AM
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Betterhelp.com was fantastic for me. Not plugging them but it was a way to try without any commitment. Game changer for me.
/r/Divorce_Men16/12/25 01:47 AM
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I (51) found a therapist was incredibly helpful. Was with my ex for 18 years. I spoke with the therapist weekly for a couple of months, then every two weeks, then about once a month until I got my feet back under me and started to feel normal. It took 2+ years before my first real date and that was perfect... I get the wanting kids part. I have 3. But focus on you and the universe is going to work the rest of it out with you when you are ready. Find yourself again. You will thank yourself later.
/r/Divorce_Men15/12/25 06:48 AM
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Cannot stress this enough. Stash everything in a cloud drive so that no matter where you go you can easily add to it. Check if you are in a 1 or 2 party state for recording conversations. Use the voice recorder on your phone if you can. Emails. Texts. Nobody has ever said "gee wiz that went well" in this forum.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 02:18 PM
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Consult a lawyer BEFORE you move out. If you have kids she can change her mind at anytime about why you moved out and she can say you abandoned her and the children. Not a lawyer, but that's been pretty consistent advice in this forum for guys exactly in your situation.
/r/Divorce_Men11/12/25 02:14 PM
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Single dad, 100% custody, wife gets 3h every other Sat supervised. Maybe a similar situation to you. It's amazing. The kids are doing fantastic. If you are running a business and teaching you may want to consider giving up the teaching for the foreseeable future and be in the moment where the universe put you. The kids need you as their rock. Rethink your world view. You have been handed an amazing gift where you control the outcome now. This is right where you are meant to be.
/r/Divorce_Men23/10/25 02:12 PM
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Stay strong brother. It gets better.
/r/Divorce_Men05/09/25 08:25 PM
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Bro, you need to learn to Grey Rock. Learn to recognize the bait, no matter how tasty. Only reply or respond when you are legally required to. It's either in writing or it didn't exist. She will test you. The person you once knew is not your wife or your friend.
/r/Divorce_Men18/08/25 03:41 PM
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Religion is only a tool to control the masses. If the "have more kids" narrative fits, then my increased taxes must be part of God's plan, I guess.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 08:50 PM
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Let's be clear what the GOP are doing. They need rubes like us to pay for the tax cuts the rich bought in the election. Its not about what is fair. It's just business.
/r/Divorce_Men26/01/25 03:24 PM
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Good call to stay put. She's doing you a favor. Never forget that.
/r/Divorce_Men28/12/24 08:47 AM
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And don't worry about being 50, 51, 52, 53 years old. I am 50 just starting to flirt now that I'm 3 years post settlement. I have had dates with beautiful late-thirty-somethings and refined women my own age. There are women in the same boat as you and it is just a numbers game. If you do the apps (I do) expect 1000 swipes to get a date. But like any numbers game you will eventually find someone who's in the same life position as you are. Don't rush. Enjoy your freedom!
/r/Divorce_Men01/10/24 04:47 AM
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8 is well worth it. Just having someone to talk to regularly where there was no judgment and they could tell me what was normal and not normal helped me immensely.
/r/Divorce_Men20/05/24 04:35 AM
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Here in VA, the last known date of intimacy can and will be used against you when establishing a date of separation. The longer you are married, the more money you will pay in alimony. And so long as you are not separated (still being intimate), any debts she is incurring in the mean time will be yours too. Get a good lawyer. Good luck.
/r/Divorce_Men24/09/23 04:32 PM
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Datsun or the Impala
/r/Divorce_Men23/03/23 03:21 PM
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It's nearly midnight in the US on a Friday. Give people time.
/r/Divorce_Men16/10/21 03:32 AM
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