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I'm 22 years old and started seeing somebody who is the same age. We're definitely nowhere near marriage, but considering in this society there is the tendency to get married later (late 20s-30s) than ever before- how do I avoid becoming a forever girlfriend?
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy07/07/20 11:57 PM
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Hi ladies, what should I know about a man before becoming exclusive with him? I've been dating a guy for a few weeks now who is very lovely, but I have this feeling like I need to learn more about him to evaluate his worth. What do you suggest is absolutely crucial to know before proceeding? I've never committed to an exclusive relationship before and don't know if I'm overthinking this.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy29/06/20 10:54 PM
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Ladies, please lend your wisdom on how to recover from this situation: A man you've been dating was willing to drive for an hour to see you for half that time. You told him not to do so because you didn't want to inconvenience him. How do you re-establish the standard that you are worth being inconvenienced for? My friend is new to FDS ideology and is a very sweet girl who regrets making this error. She is afraid she has lowered the bar in terms of effort to put into their relationship. Edit: ty…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy21/06/20 11:44 PM
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Though at the very beginning the man should be initiating, if you've been on a few dates then I think it's fine to reach out occasionally but not as much as he does (I'd say keep it a 70/30 split at most). This goes for texting for conversation or arranging to meet up. Also if you're talking about texting for conversation, you won't come across as uninterested if you put some effort into keeping the conversation alive, even if he may always be initiating, so don't worry about that. :)
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/06/20 02:15 AM
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It's pretty common. Men's chances of meeting somebody on dating apps are significantly lower than women, and also meeting up with a complete stranger holds much lower risk for them. A lot of people do this for various reasons, but generally because: (a) they want to 'close' early before the conversation eventually dies, and/or (b) because they believe they come off better in person, and/or (c) can get a better sense what the other person's like. I think there's no blanket rule as to when to meet…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/06/20 09:57 PM
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Women in anime can (not always, but often) be very one-dimensional representations of real women, pandering to what's attractive to male audiences. Generally speaking, I think guys obsessed with anime may categorise you into some trope that women in anime tend to fall into. For instance, for me they were crazy over the ~*kawaii*~ wholesome vibe... for a friend of mine, they want to melt her Ice Queen(tm) heart. And if they're calling you "dream girl" it's telling that they're in love with the co…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy08/06/20 12:02 AM
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Thanks so much for your insight! I did vaguely respond it'd be fun, and we moved on from that topic, but how should I approach that topic if it's brought up again? Should I be telling him that I need to be in a committed relationship before spending alone time at a man's place? Yet from what I gather on FDS, exclusivity is something that the man would initiate without prodding from the woman, so I don't want to push him into that.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 02:21 AM
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Hi ladies! A guy I've started seeing recently has expressed interest in cooking together, as we both genuinely love to cook/bake as a hobby. This would involve me coming over to his place. How long should I know the man before doing this? Should we have exclusive boyfriend/girlfriend status? I'm not talking about sex, but simply being alone with a man at his place. On one hand it's a cute, considerate and logical date idea but I grew up in a strict household where it is believed that a woman sho…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/06/20 01:49 AM
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If a man does that, I personally would be too creeped out to continue the conversation... but if you want to, then either: just ignore the compliment. Don't thank them, don't acknowledge it, pretend that message doesn't exist, or respond "I know" and/or "Yes you told me [X] times, you can stop now". The latter option is more preferable so you can see how they react - some men can think that the more they give compliments the more they are entitled to your gratitude and affection (*eye roll*). Ed…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:50 AM
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Hey! :) It does take guts to make a move, so you're brave for doing that. It is a valuable lesson for you to remember it the next time you're tempted to make a first move, so please forgive yourself and thank yourself! If he wants to follow up on that, he will. If not, that is his loss. He's just a guy. You're a queen. Don't beat yourself up over it; the past is the past.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:17 AM
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I identify as INFP, so I can't answer your first two questions, but I do enjoy befriending feminine, soft boys (who I'm not attracted to personally but I can see how dominant personalities may be; I can see how it makes for a more balanced relationship.) ​ Are these boys generally better to date compared to masculine guys? Your judgment might be clouded by your attraction to them. I believe that these guys tend to have a higher EQ and be more empathetic than the more 'masculine' guy, which elimi…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy04/06/20 12:04 AM
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No. An ex may be a HVM! He's just not the right HVM for you.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy17/05/20 06:14 AM
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I wish I were wrong as I'm sure he'd be an emotional mess upon breaking up and I don't want to deal with that. It's interesting that this is the one reason you wish you were wrong. Sis, his post-breakup emotions are not your responsibility. I think you seem to have made up your mind, at least subconsciously, because of that sentence and the fact you didn't make any counterarguments in his favour.
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 06:39 AM
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From my own experience: no. I dated a HVM who I was not physically attracted to. I felt so, so guilty about being 'shallow' and I stuck it out for months, but it ultimately made me miserable. I think this is especially because he was the first guy I dated; I was only 20 years old, and I often wondered if I could do better - the future was so full of possibilities of meeting somebody wonderful as well as physically attractive. That's just my experience. It's a tricky and totally personal situatio…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy16/05/20 03:26 AM
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Since he has asked you out before, if I was you, I wouldn't ask. First, he's expressed interest already - I think it's unnecessary and may make you come across as insecure. Secondly, I wouldn't trust a word he says on the topic. He may just say whatever he thinks you want to hear to keep you hanging. Men crave attention, especially during these times. When you refused his invite, I'm guessing you explained to him that it was because of COVID-19. If he's HVM and truly interested, he'll ask you ou…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 08:11 AM
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I believe the general rule is that if you have to ask, it means he's giving mixed signals, which means you should let that man go. How long have you known each other? What have you two been doing? For some situations it might be more appropriate to ask outright - so long as you don't continue with the situationship, waiting for him to bring it up, because he likely won't!
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy15/05/20 12:43 AM
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Hey, I relate to your situation -- I'm also in my 20s, an introvert, all my close friends have boyfriends, and I've only dated one guy non-exclusively. Hope I'm able to help you soothe your worries :) I don't think you should worry about lacking real life experience. You have all this theoretical knowledge from FDS. Also, you don't lack experience identifying HV people from everyday interaction outside a dating context -- friends, classmates, work colleagues, etc. However, getting real experienc…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy09/05/20 11:19 PM
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As a college student in the same dating pool, I sympathise that they don't have much money :-/ I think that high effort doesn't necessarily mean high $$, so if he's put thought into the place based off what you like, its reviews and ambiance, that's up to standard. If they want you to plan the date, I think that the best way to turn it back on them would be to say something along the lines of: "As much as I love planning, I'd love to see what you've got!" like, make it cheeky and kind of get out…
/r/FemaleDatingStrategy06/05/20 02:56 AM
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