kigerting Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)

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3	Question about women's ACTUAL response to seeing a man crying/being emotional Sometimes the whole “men being dumped for showing emotion” things comes from man decides he will open up, but doesn’t realize that it’s a two way street. Nobody wants to be an emotional dumpster - you gotta have other people to talk about things with, and allow your partner space to share their feelings too. Some guys take frustration with pushback on their dependence and lack of reciprocation as evidence that women don’t actually want them to express their emotions	/r/ExRedPill	20/10/23 03:55 PM
1	If women want their male partners to be more vulnerable, why is it that there are so many stories of men who opened up and were ridiculed/dumped/cheated on soon after? because some guys will make this a one way street - you become an emotional dumpster because you're the only one they will open up to, and they don't reciprocate listening - i have experienced this more than once	/r/ExRedPill	03/05/23 02:04 AM
2	Ultra feminist posters But it sounds like even if someone watched all of their content and didn’t agree with you, you might call them extreme and that’s just your opinion on what’s extreme and what’s neutral	/r/ExRedPill	17/09/21 03:49 PM
1	Ultra feminist posters “neutral” and “extreme” are incredibly subjective terms	/r/ExRedPill	17/09/21 03:45 PM
6	Any thoughts on this topic here? The person who asked the question on purple pill appears to be deeply insecure about their own ~partner count~ and the easy way to avoid feeling the shame they feel they deserve is to make it somebody else’s problem, in this case by saying women with high partner numbers are more likely to cheat and redirecting the shame that way	/r/ExRedPill	08/09/21 06:41 PM
22	Why the redpill is getting big and bigger Online dating isn’t the only dating that exists and it gives people a false impression of how many “options” in the dating market they actually have. So much of RP’s toxicity comes from the fixation on sex and romantic love over everything else in their life. A lot of RP guys are “I don’t have any friends and I rarely leave my apartment. How do I get a girlfriend?!”. Which is skipping 100 levels of self development	/r/ExRedPill	29/08/21 02:01 PM
3	I hate how TRP takes reading and turns into filth. Not the person to whom the question was addressed but I feel strongly about self-help books. Self-help / sales / business books are a mild red flag for me. I don’t think they’re helpful - it’s like astrology in that you take from your horoscope whatever you were thinking anyway. It’s an exercise in confirmation bias imho.	/r/ExRedPill	21/08/21 11:21 PM
3	How "normal" is the sexualization of teens/young women by men? I honestly think the focus on evolutionary biology and biological impulses or “hard wiring” is not useful. We live in a society and whether or not we have biological impulses we agree to make compromises to live in a society and we compromise base needs to be ethical. So frankly I don’t think it matters if it’s normal or not. It hurts women and girls when people externalize these impulses whether or not they’re “normal” so it should not be encouraged.	/r/ExRedPill	20/08/21 03:03 PM
9	Then what should men do to get dates? This is great! So stop trying so hard. Delete tiktok if it’s sending you down a men vs women / what women want rabbithole - tiktok just wants as much of your data as it can get so it will send you whatever will keep you in the app. The truth is women are not a monolith - none of these generalizations will help you and you will continue to be frustrated if you keep trying to see dating as “If I do X, then women will do Y”. A lot of us know when men do this, believe me, it is very common and more …	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/21 05:53 PM
5	Then what should men do to get dates? Those are good reasons. I would say focus on making your life one that someone else would like to participate in - your own friends, hobbies, etc. Once you have that you don’t need to use these tactics because you will come into contact with more people who share common interests.	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/21 05:39 PM
4	Then what should men do to get dates? Why do you want to get married?	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/21 05:26 PM
5	Then what should men do to get dates? You will never create a meaningful and honest connection with another person if you are trying to manipulate them into doing what you want. Are you interested in getting to know another person or in finding any person who you can plug-n-play in your life? The goal of TRP is always maximum quantity of women because women = power and status in the eyes of other men. So really think about why you want to be dating someone.	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/21 05:24 PM
9	Then what should men do to get dates? You can keep using the tactics if you want, but if you’re looking for an LTR or any kind of meaningful relationship you’re working against yourself by using them.	/r/ExRedPill	14/08/21 04:58 PM
8	Incelexit has been deleted. Another reason for incel forums to be shut down. They need to be separated because they’re all poison to each other. I don’t know if an incel can really be a healthy partner to another person without having some kind of professional intervention.	/r/ExRedPill	13/08/21 09:59 PM
9	Incelexit has been deleted. Yeah the difficult thing with mental health professionals you often have to try a few before you find a good fit. Regardless, none of these guys should be encouraged to date or even try to in the state that they’re in.	/r/ExRedPill	13/08/21 09:56 PM
25	Incelexit has been deleted. I think this is a fair critique. The problem is if you try to engage these guys on misogyny they often get defensive and stop trying. I definitely think there was too much focus on dating and not enough on becoming an emotionally healthy human being - which is required for healthy dating anyway. I don’t have a good answer - ultimately, most of these guys need professional help.	/r/ExRedPill	13/08/21 09:31 PM
7	Does redpill mean ill die alone? This is true! A lot of us make our own money and are just looking for a partner to share life with	/r/ExRedPill	12/08/21 11:17 PM
1	Does Fresh and Fit prove that women dont like to hear the truth about dating. “the actual truths about dating that women don’t want to hear” ? i have never heard of this content creator but it sounds like this guy is just a MGTOW stand in. if you want to date women i don’t know why you would want to listen to a guy telling women they’re wrong over and over - that’s not gonna be very successful for you but I guess if it’s uplifting or something go for it	/r/ExRedPill	11/08/21 06:47 PM
2	Long timer and elite fucker here... here's some wisdom i like to share This really feels like you’ve just moved from one all encompassing ideology to another, but if it keeps you from redpill, I’m glad for you.	/r/ExRedPill	16/06/21 10:08 PM
22	Why do Red Pillers think almost every woman has Borderline Personality Disorder? Everytime one of them says something about women being crazy, having bipolar, borderline, “moody” I just think of the part from the Office where Michael is talking crazy to Jan and she is (reasonably) annoyed so he goes “let’s be lOgiCaL here”	/r/ExRedPill	15/06/21 06:24 PM
5	How would red pillers actually do if they tried their crap in real life? How would they react if it failed? I was in college when rp/pickup artist stuff was coming out. Some of them would be really awkward but tried to be nice so Id try to let them down easy. But more than a few would talk crazy and be disrespectful I’d just look at him confused and go laugh with my friends. ETA these were mostly guys my age 19-23 but a lot were mid 30s also	/r/ExRedPill	12/06/21 01:33 AM
9	I think Red Pill attracts a lot of men who felt or feel that they "Missed out" Yeah I definitely think there's something to this. For some reason, a lot of RP guys seem to think that part of the "normal college experience" for men is having sex with tons of hot college women - but honestly you'd have trouble finding a lot of men who actually had this experience? I think they get hooked on the perception of college that's sold by movies and TV about college and since they tend to be pretty isolated they don't have people around to refute that perception. So yeah they get …	/r/ExRedPill	03/06/21 12:21 PM
12	One of the tenets of theredpill is having no clue what Toxic Masculinity really is Yeah the problem with the term is that some people take it as a personal attack rather than a criticism of society and norms. Some people hear it and their brain shuts down because they feel defensive.	/r/ExRedPill	22/04/21 03:18 PM
1	What now? You've said you realize life isn't black-and-white like TRP, but you've laid out a black-or-white choice for yourself. My advice would be to stop reading "tips" and articles about how to relate to women - if you're interested in manipulating a woman to have sex with you, or being dishonest in order to have sex, then you really need to sit back and think about that. Women are people - there aren't cheat codes to dealing with people. If you're really just interested in sex, get on the apps in your…	/r/ExRedPill	07/04/21 02:14 AM
7	Can you confirm that personality matters? 100% yes. I actually think this is why people get a misleading impression of dating from online dating. Since all you have of a living, breathing person is photos and descriptions online, naturally there is more reliance on those photos and descriptions. But when you meet people in person, there's so much more that influences attraction. For example, I once worked with a guy who was very average looking, and I wouldn't describe him as my type, but he had a great personality and was very competen…	/r/ExRedPill	26/03/21 01:53 PM
2	Q4W: Would you date a single dad/become a stepmom? I get what you’re saying, and I don’t have issues with non parents dating single parents but I don’t think it’s a good idea for single parents to only be going after non parents because they’re asking the other person to make MUCH bigger sacrifices and to be honest they’re unlikely to have a lot of luck. I think it’s fine as long as the single parent understands what it takes to be a step parent / single parents SO. Also, since few parents would admit (or even be aware) that their children are p…	/r/PurplePillDebate	15/01/21 10:29 PM
1	[Science] In online dating both men and women pursue partners who are on average 25% more desirable than themselves (by our measures) and use different messaging strategies with partners of different desirability I don't put a lot of faith in studies about online dating because a lot of people swipe everyone right for the validation and not everyone is on dating apps for the same reason With regard to the people seeking hotter people thing - like yeah I get that. I can definitely see this being amplified online because you're out of context. If you meet someone in public, you're comparing them to the people around/in your life (instead of the people you've swiped) and you can see a lot of body language. …	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/21 05:54 AM
3	Study claims dark triad men have lower standards for women Where do you find that men are less likely to be remarried? https://www.pewsocialtrends.org/2014/11/14/chapter-2-the-demographics-of-remarriage/#:~:text=Among%20those%20eligible%20to%20remarry,compared%20with%2052%25%20of%20women.	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/21 05:41 AM
21	Q4W: Would you date a single dad/become a stepmom? Personally, I would not date a single dad. I'm in my late 20s with no children and if I'm unable to find someone I like enough to settle down with (and maybe have children) I'm happy as I am and I can support myself. I think the issue arises when single moms/single dads refuse to date other single parents - that's when I have a lot of questions	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/21 04:59 AM
1	"Women are more mature" as a trope can mostly be explained by different experiences during puberty? I think it's more about socialization than biology	/r/PurplePillDebate	14/01/21 04:56 AM
18	Is there a connection between female emancipation and sexual permissiveness? Yeah. When you can support yourself you don’t have to make choices based on what will make you the most marketable wife, including when/with whom you’re going to have sex	/r/PurplePillDebate	12/01/21 05:34 AM
1	Q4Women: Has a man ever reacted aggressively when you rejected him? Yes. Men seem to not believe it happens often because most men wouldn’t do something like that, but guys that do behave this way do it over and over and over again. So are most men engaging in this behavior - of course not. If you want to be mad at anybody for women being overly cautious about rejections, be mad at the small percentage of men who have put this fear in us	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/21 11:27 PM
3	The reason most women are indirect with rejections...is that we are afraid of retaliation. I think the "guy you've already allowed to be in your life" somewhat ignores the fact that when women are murdered by abusive partners, it most often occurs when the woman is trying to leave him.	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/21 10:15 PM
1	The reason most women are indirect with rejections...is that we are afraid of retaliation. For me this is true, in addition to the fact that women are socialized to manage the emotions of the people around us d	/r/PurplePillDebate	10/01/21 10:13 PM
11	What makes “mommas boys” undesirable? As a father, how should I tell my son to not be a “mommas boy” without at the same time promoting “toxic masculinity”? I agree with simenta - creating space from your parents is part of growing up and isn’t something I would expect until puberty and kids often model the behavior of their same-sex parent so your job is just to model good man behavior.	/r/PurplePillDebate	05/01/21 07:52 PM
4	Men: You Need To Get In Touch With Your Emotions and Express Them!! Women want men to get in touch with their emotions, but not to become an emotional crutch themselves having to take on all that work for them. Therapy is becoming more and more available and men should take advantage of that if they can	/r/PurplePillDebate	04/01/21 02:32 PM