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killer_tofu101/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 08:34 PM
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Because I think these are men. So they can’t comment on their own since the question is for women.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:34 PM
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This is a good point too. Certain women (who I personally would avoid) would really like someone telling them they are different then the other girls. Totally remember now when I was younger - line used on me and I would just roll my eyes. Like mister I’m not particularly special except to my mom and dad 😂😂😂
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:32 PM
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They all are rude comments in my opinion except the “you’re not like most gender”. The latter could just an immature comment not coming from a bad place or just a relative truth. (Yes I have the music taste more consistent with a high school boy 😖) Both these groups aren’t monoliths though. You can navigate through life more easily if you recognize this. I’m really not around many people involved in “gender wars” lol but if I hear a ridiculous comment about men I will speak up gently because tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/26 10:25 PM
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Aw thanks! haha What made you ask about enneagram 3 specifically?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 04:14 PM
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I’m 2w3 and a doctor so it makes sense. I am sure some of my female colleagues and female physician friends might fit into 3w2 (I’m guessing more of the surgical specialties). I don’t know I guess they can be intense and confident but you’d want that from your surgeon. Everyone I know is pretty much married at this point. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate05/05/26 01:40 AM
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Defense mechanism right? It’s hard to come to terms with that especially with people like the other commenter who make you feel like you should have enjoyed it. He was just a child.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:34 AM
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Oh my goodness that’s so horrible 😔
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:33 AM
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Mine would be a 26 year old or a little person. I’m 5’ 2’’. I’d choose the little person who is the same age! I would marry him if compatible.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/04/26 12:32 AM
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I was off Reddit for a bit. I’m curious - why did the moderator delete all their comments? Based on your responses it seems to be a benign interaction?
/r/PurplePillDebate19/04/26 10:46 AM
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There’s so many I think - I’m sure there some I dislike dislike but I think as long as all parties in the relationship are okay with it, it doesn’t matter. If I wasn’t in the field I was in, I would have taken his last name. We both wear rings.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:46 PM
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Maybe! I don’t know I thought I was pretty annoying.
/r/PurplePillDebate17/04/26 07:43 PM
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Wait is he not allowed to have sex with anyone either? If I was in love with him I’d be fine, but I think I’d feel bad for him.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/26 12:26 AM
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Without even answering that see my first statement. You can’t debate someone if you are just going say they are lying if their experience doesn’t match yours. 😑 Yes, women can acknowledge the struggles men specifically can have with dating. Do I hear it a lot? No because usually we are not talking about dating woes. I’m confused because you are saying not about husband or boyfriends but mention how “especially if they think the world of their girlfriend or wife. Women can be married to a good ma…
/r/PurplePillDebate24/03/26 06:40 AM
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Tbh, based on how your post is worded, I don't think you are going to debate in good faith (I'm totally happy to be proven wrong). I guess I don't tend to make blanket statements based on personal experience. What I've learned delving into these "pill spaces" is that many people do live in bubbles based on education, career, socio-economic factors, and social ability. Without getting too complex, in these bubbles, men and women tend to act certain ways or maybe are perceived to act in certain wa…
/r/PurplePillDebate21/03/26 02:41 AM
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Yes or a dad who is “babysitting”. Luckily, we are not around people with this mindset. ☺️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/03/26 07:52 PM
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:( That's horrible. Those people aren't mature, well-adjusted adults. I'd make a bet that there is at least one sphere in their life that will empty and unfulfilled.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/04/24 09:16 PM
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Let me know if I'm wrong, but I think most men would agree that a women with no girlfriends is usually a red flag. While pick mes may have the same opinions as a RP man, they seem more trouble/drama than they are worth?
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 12:38 AM
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I think there are all sort of pick mes. I think the ones' in relationships typically aren't satisfied enough with the relationship. If she was, she wouldn't go around putting women down.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/04/24 12:35 AM
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Yes this is a biased sample
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:13 PM
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Like everything, I think there's so much variation per individual. Based on observation, I don't think everyone reacts to bullying the same way. I saw a tweet from a woman who was autistic recently who said she was chatting with a friend from high school. She mentioned how she felt lucky to never have been burllied, and her friend was like "hon you were definitely were". The comments were of other people stating that they also had no idea until someone mentioned it. I wonder if there a larger gr…
/r/PurplePillDebate02/04/24 02:03 PM
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I'm not sure what you just read. I literally said "I do think people are inherently deserving of decency" essentially of respectful treatment. Also, nowhere do I say " you should not expect reciprocity" although it's unrealistic and idyllic to think it'll happen every time. It's something we are taught in Kindergarten, but it's not the real world. I am speaking of my own personal principles. Like I said "I would like to expect at least politeness in return..." In my opinion though, who other tha…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 09:09 PM
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Yeah I realized that wasn't true by like 3rd grade. We aren't all created equal but what a bore if we were. I couldn't stand it (but I probably wouldn't know any better). I actually think a big issue with the newer generations (probably millennial on, I'm a millennial) is the fact that too many people subconsciously or consciously even think they are special and unique (only to our parents/parent-like figures and some don't even have that). The great vast majority of us aren't and that's perfect…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 08:43 PM
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I never said one shouldn't others differently based on their relationship. Of course, you are going to treat people you know differently than a stranger. I specifically said "the issues are if you are actually not kind to everyone". To me, that's a basic thing for a well-adjusted person. I am definitely not Jesus or really a pious person, but it's not hard to have basic consideration for everyone. I really think you'd agree with this. My thoughts on good and vs. nice are not a unique. There's mu…
/r/PurplePillDebate01/04/24 01:14 AM
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It's bordering oxymoron maybe?
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:16 PM
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Maybe this is a definition error. Entitled means inherently deserving. The only people you are inherently deserving of a good relationship with is your parents (or caretakers as a child). No one else. Just because I exist and am a good person (let's just assume I am) doesn't mean I'm entitled to romantic relationship nor a friendship. I personally wish all good people who desire romance or friendship are able to find that but that's different I do think people are inherently deserving of decency…
/r/PurplePillDebate31/03/24 06:15 PM
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Maybe my definition of anger is more broad I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being angry every once in a while. We are humans! As long as it’s not abusive (verbally or physically or emotionally or otherwise) and you correct yourself. Yeah so don’t throw a tantrum but a annoyed “why wouldn’t you say that” isn’t out of the question imo. I’d be like “whoops sorry!” and I’d probably feel a little bad but whatever.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 08:17 PM
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Depends on the relationship and your humor. I think some couples have that banter. To me, a comment like that is rude and not funny. I don’t think a guy is insecure for not liking it.
/r/PurplePillDebate25/03/24 09:48 AM
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Yup, Cribs
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:26 PM
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Ugh the new French Prince mansion is tacky, but I get why they needed to change it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/02/24 03:24 PM
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IMO one of the best movies about love.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:53 PM
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lol I was about to say my husband except I want him to drive a little bit slower. Oh well!
/r/PurplePillDebate16/10/23 04:40 PM
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I think this work to an extent if you meet that guy's "attractive threshold". Tbh, I find this works in all sorts of relationships. People want to be around those that make them feel good in some way.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 03:11 AM
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Anecdotally, maybe 0.5-1/10. Is that a lot? I definitely don't think it's even close to the majority. Thanks so much for stepping in for that lady.
/r/PurplePillDebate14/10/23 02:26 AM
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Okay thinking about it (and not knowing the details) maybe not a good decision, but she has a choice as well. It doesn’t make you a f boy I can tell you that lol especially if you feel bad.
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 06:23 PM
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If you are honest, are you a f boy though? Nothing seems wrong with what you are doing at all 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:48 PM
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Maybe there’s an occasional exception I’ve had similar f boys “act different” with me. I don’t give them attention for two main reasons: I’m not special or better than any other woman. If you think that I am without knowing me personally, you’re too illogical for me to be interested in. I’m not interested in men who enjoy manipulating others to have sex with them even if for some magical reason they dont do it to me. If you can do that without feeling guilty, you are not a good person. Maybe not…
/r/PurplePillDebate13/10/23 03:27 PM
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Been together for 10 years. Married. Independent in the beginning, but now interdependent.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/10/23 08:41 PM
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Haha I think I've been guilty of the last one, but I really think some folks think genders are a monolith.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:50 PM
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Have you seen anyone post a CMV that even entertain the opposing views? I feel like most are posted as a "gotcha!" (which is usually don't work anyways).
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 07:48 PM
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All my close friends are with good to just fine looking guys. Most of them I think the personality is great in some way too. Most of them wouldn’t have been my type though. Occasionally there was in overlap of who we liked back in the day but not often thank goodness!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:17 PM
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Same, and I like letting guys know to if their fit looks good too. Like you should know if it's working!
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 02:00 AM
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These are pretty superficial relationships. I'm not going to open up to my co-worker nor my hair stylist (although mine really does TMI with me). I couldn't be friends with someone without an opinion though. I really hate when someone agrees with me on everything. BUT I also like to appreciate people's strengths, and I am vocal about it. If this is all they do, this is a specific type of person imo, and they tend to be not the sharpest tools. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 01:53 AM
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Yep I mean some of the things that are are just basic human decency.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:50 AM
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There is no consistency because we are not all the same (just like men). lol My friends and I weren't always interested in the same guys (and thank goodness!). If we wrote a list ranking attractiveness, it would't be the exact same order. Any game of DMK (I know very mature) shows this. I could go on and on with examples. On nice guys: I also think that people sometimes going into relationships and think the best of that person: "he's so caring" and "she's so chill". Once they break up: "he's a …
/r/PurplePillDebate08/10/23 12:32 AM
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I just realized this was gifts in the context of dating whoops
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 08:35 PM
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Isn't there some sort of silly "rule" with your salary? lol My ring size is 3 1/2 so all diamonds look huge on it. I thought I wanted cushion cut, but it looked like a joke on me.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:11 PM
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Yeah I don't prefer things to clutter up the house. I do like items that are just for aesthetics, but there needs to be a place for them.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:06 PM
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Yes! Snacks. I like to try snacks from different countries. People when they travel will usually pick up a couple for me. Money to be invested in mutual funds for my 16th. With my best girlfriend, I give her anniversary birthday gifts from when we became friends. This year was 12th so I got her pearl earrings. My parents sent me dried fruit for my 21st birthday. It was hilarious. Women tend to give more personal gifts in my experience even if it's not for a partner.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/10/23 07:04 PM
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Haha oh man I took it that more that some of the people in this subreddit don’t understand what gaslighting is or lazily use it as a crutch instead of self-introspection. Dating a narcissist sounds stressful. 🙁
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:15 AM
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Then they wonder what they are doing wrong and come to the conclusion that it’s everyone else’s fault. Rinse and repeat. Lolol. It’s seriously the twilight zone.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/10/23 01:10 AM
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I was going to say the same thing. My family in the US do none of the above. I think the above occupations are so important. It just wouldn’t be aligned with our uh strengths and it wouldn’t be good for anyone. I would be down for EMT but no to the rest for me. Edit: actually thought about it thoroughly I would love to do some of those jobs and help people that way but not going to lie I think I wouldn’t be that good at most of them. Maybe farming would also be fine because we already own farms …
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:04 AM
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Agreed. I’m about choice and equity of opportunity and resources. There’s general differences between women and men. It’s not a bad thing. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 03:01 AM
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How many ppl take a trend? He said some videos have a million of likes but I’ll admit I didn’t look it up. First of all, this is the 3rd time I’ve said it might be hyperbole but it still doesn’t make it right. Even if it’s one person being rude, it’s not right. Secondly, I’m a woman, a feminist and don’t do any of things (I also fit it some of those categories but it doesn’t matter). I don’t like body shaming, and it doesn’t matter the demographic for me. I also don’t assume just because someone…
/r/PurplePillDebate04/10/23 01:03 AM
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They are not getting it.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:04 PM
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I'm literally basing it off the number of likes that there is a sizable group of people that think it's alright to make fun of short men. I've already conceding that "epidemic proportion" is hyperbole. What are you basing off a lot of people think that there is an epidemic of short shaming of? This reddit thread? Maybe there are a lot of people that think that. I don't know. Again regardless it shouldn't be done.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 11:00 PM
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It still meant that there were a decent chunk of people that believed that Ivermectin worked and the vaccine is fake. I think regardless of whether it's a popular trend. It's not a kind thing to do.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:49 PM
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Nope I don't let anyone get bullied in front of me. I will speak up but it might not come out eloquently if I'm livid. :(
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:44 PM
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I personally think gaslighting is used too much in this sub, but I 100% agree with you on this one. I don't want to watch these videos because of how disdainful it is. People are pathetic. You have to think some of these women are probably just salty because they've never had healthy relationships if one at all.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:35 PM
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Do you not live in an individualistic country? There are groups of us that were raised in the West but with a collectivist background. I think we tend not to have the same experiences or thoughts as our countrymen, but I do think this is a biased group regardless.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:29 PM
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You bring up a good point, but I think this subreddit have a more integral selection bias than a fast food restaurant (where they really just want the opinion of people who eat fast food). I can't speak to if all the perspectives are outlandish since there has been so many opinions, but I do think most people attracted to this subreddit are going to have strong opinions.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 10:22 PM
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My husband is my best friend. Should we get a divorce? Should we stop having sex? Welp, I guess 10 years down the drain. I mean I also have a girl best friend, but her husband is her actual best friend too. Speaking as someone that doesn't know a lot of divorced people (I think 4 out of our 500 guest wedding), I think there's something to marrying someone you really like and respect. Hm maybe we are all just probably miserable though.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 09:38 PM
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lolol denial? Relationships especially friendships don't need to overcomplicated. I can't imagine how taxing and time wasting that would be. I don't act how I did with him with people I'm attracted to including my husband. It was unbecoming and lazy. Of course, I had to think about it the first time someone asked, but the thought of even kissing seemed like kissing my brother. Believe what you want. I've met guys that have had his opinion, and it always seems like the same type of person. Waitin…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 09:25 PM
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Okay I do like how you specify genuine close friendship. I still can't understand how it's no longer genuine if someone catches feeling...disinterested I get, but genuine? I've had "successful" platonic relationship. I only am close friends like that with my best guy friend from college still. We lived in the same dorm first year and had the same friend group. Eventually, we started studying and hanging out a decent amount because we just had a fun time being weird and goofing off (and it annoye…
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 08:29 PM
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Love this. I can attest my husband and all our male friends are also feminists. They are also all nice people and all married or in a serious LTR (‘minus one). I guess the typical RP argument is that they are probably unhappy or something which is ironic. 😋
/r/PurplePillDebate03/10/23 03:49 AM
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It wasn't a big part of me being attracted to someone. In full transparency, I did care that other people didn't think they were horrendously unattractive though. My now husband and I started dating at 23. I was a virgin, and he had only been with his most recent girlfriend. If someone told me two and were fine looking, I'd figure they liked waiting for monogamy or were particular about who they had sex with. I would personally respect that as I'm conservative in that regard.
/r/PurplePillDebate18/08/23 05:01 PM
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Tbh, I thought you meant that it was abnormal because you wrote one sentence in your post.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:57 PM
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I guess I disagree that most men have "high sex drives". I think majority have normal sex drives for our species.
/r/PurplePillDebate10/08/23 02:46 PM
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I know they take it as a rude gesture. I'm like uh there are way more important values imo.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 02:25 PM
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That's a hilarious picture!
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 11:38 AM
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Yep, I feel like a lot of people answering that "it doesn't matter to them" aren't from the upper-middle class or upper class or may have money but were not born with it. Even the few folks I know who have married SAHMs, have only married women who are educated and had a career prior to having kids. I think this idea of the majority of men not caring about a their partner's background is a "new money" phenomenon in certain industries. I don't know if it's due to making intelligent kids though. I…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/08/23 11:14 AM
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Cheers to adapting to a changing social structure! I feel like the people complain just don't have those skills. I will say I once in a while get an odd look when paying for things. I'm so happy my husband could care less because seriously it's such a banal issue for an advanced society. I have money too (well I guess it's both of ours now). When dating, we both would mostly take turns.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 09:28 PM
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Yeah as someone who was a virgin until I was dating my now current husband, I would have been so turned off if someone tried that with me on the first date. 😭
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:53 PM
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“Date with intention not expectation” Did you come up with that? Because that is such a good dating mantra.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 06:48 PM
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Oh I just used it as a warning to women that the guy isn't interested in LTR but a string of sexual exploits. A douchebag of sorts because they do it in a slimy, lying way vs be straightforward. For me, it didn't even necessarily means that they actually had sex a lot. I don't know where people are getting that means everyone woman wants to sleep with them. Hahha yes immaturity makes me really turned on.
/r/PurplePillDebate08/08/23 01:05 PM
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I see what you are saying, but I actually meant more specific looks than just young and healthy. Slim is a generic trait to me. I’m going to equate it to not being fat. You can still have a preference of body type: hourglass, athletic, model slim (straight), petite etc etc. Like going out with single friends, after a decent level of attractiveness, they all have different preferences. When I actually went out back in the day, I got pretty good at spotting their ideals at the bar or club. My frie…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:37 PM
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It’s tongue-in-cheek.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 10:14 AM
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Fascinating! I would be interested to control these for socio-economic factors and education level. Also is okcupid only US-based? Edit: Oh and age!
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 03:47 AM
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Ignore that person. This is not a hard-concept to believe unless you are salty about your own dating life.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 02:51 AM
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You are onto something. Actually, Logan Ury, a relationship coach, recommends always going on a second date (I mean unless they were like huge red flags lol). My single friends actually have been doing this based on this advice, and I think it's much more fair. Excerpt from the article below. "No! An immediate spark can actually mean very little in the grand scheme of a relationship. In fact, sometimes a spark right off the bat can actually be "dangerous" or even a red flag, according to Hinge's…
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:40 AM
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Nevermind, thinking about it a bit more, I don't think it's subconscious either. It's like just "do I find this person attractive or not?"
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:30 AM
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I agree. I would say let's not call it hypergamy at all then since it is usually done subconsciously. ​ Edit: Read your comment too fast initially. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:12 AM
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Okay so to clarify - ideally, if they were able, they'd try to date someone hotter than them? I think the answer is generally yes, but I think there's luckily variation in what men think is more attractive than them. Otherwise, a lot of us would be screwed. BUT I don't think most men's main goal is to date exceptionally good looking women. I don't think it's rare, but I also don't think it's the majority if that makes sense. I know way to many hot ladies that were interested in some of the guys …
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 01:10 AM
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lol again I wasn't even arguing who is more "mature" as that is too subjective and vague but okay. I actually feel like "maturity level" would not be gender-specific anyways. I would only feel sad if it was surprising that you would think what you observe is fact than consider you might be wrong.
/r/PurplePillDebate07/08/23 12:51 AM
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I can't say anything about your other claims without actually looking into it more. But you did state "Women are just as likely if not more likely... "skip good hygiene practice". That was an easy one to refute for literally anyone with proper experience in health care. So you admit there isn't any any research on any "who thinks just tights or sweatpants are appropriate attire for their office jobs? aka which gender is more likely to dress appropriately? But what you claim is fact is based on w…
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 03:07 PM
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You are a much better person than me. Posts like this just reinforce to me how illogical some people are. To make blanket statements on an entire group of people based on your own personal experiences and circles. Then deem it is fact and don't take into account anyone else's anecdotal experience. Good luck bro. lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate06/08/23 02:10 PM
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Lol really? Who are you hanging out with? Somewhat equivalent to brushing teeth. We went out to eat in the group and the guys were complaining how many times they see men not washing their hands after using the restroom. We women were shocked. I have yet to see someone skip washing their hands. I’m sure it happens but it’s not equal. high N and cross-culture analysis: https://journals.plos.org/globalpublichealth/article?id=10.1371/journal.pgph.0000591 Low N but based on plaque indices https://pu…
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 08:08 PM
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Doesn’t it sound like king of queens lol
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 07:46 PM
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Agreed some relationships have this double standard, and people shouldn't talk to each other that way. I think neither partner in these relationship are happy.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:54 PM
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lol the picker did not pick well.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:52 PM
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Yeah it becomes a vicious cycle because why would the want to meet anyone new?
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 11:49 AM
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I think MOST people like variation in their life. I don’t think that’s equivalent to enjoying emotional turmoil lol. Not wanting to eat the same food every day shouldn’t equal a major upheaval. That’s concerning. I couldn’t live a Groundhog Day life. I would “die of boredom”/very unhappy. I need to be mentally or physically challenged I don’t know know a lot of people period that would be okay with a Groundhog Day life. I don’t think the movie would have done as well if this weren’t true.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 11:46 AM
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I like both (awkwardly I don’t drink coffee) but whatever an equivalent thing is like maybe ice cream! But I would feel uncomfortable to do something too nice early on though. I can’t help but think it’s a bit gauche when these guys take a first date to the fanciest restaurant. I don’t know why these folks are defensive about what you like lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/08/23 02:58 AM
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Hm I would think peoples bio and background would become more important. And then what they message.
/r/PurplePillDebate03/08/23 06:30 PM
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It is a legitimate issue of unconscious bias (and maybe some conscious bias unfortunately).
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:44 PM
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I second big girl panties
/r/PurplePillDebate01/08/23 12:40 PM
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Oh now I want to really know lol
/r/PurplePillDebate31/07/23 12:21 AM
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Have you ever told someone that their beard wasn't doing them favors?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:10 PM
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I don't mind good beards, and I totally dated people with facial hair. But I prefer a younger look, but I guess now I'm like the beard is too rough for me even just the stubble. It's good we can like different things!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:10 PM
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Oh yes, after falling in love, all bets are off on looks (for the most part).
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:07 PM
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I hadn't even thought about stubble when asking this question nor did it come up in that night's conversation. It makes sense that it is a majority preference as it's in the middle.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:05 PM
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I just wonder to myself - when I see these young men with these "ugly beards", are they complaining of lack of romantic attention and would it be better if they shaved off their beard? Oh man, I don't see that many people with nose rings!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 01:00 PM
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When it works it works lol
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:53 PM
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I can't think of a bald man with a beard that was bad. Maybe more discerning on this because they are bald?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:53 PM
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Oh yeah that makes sense!
/r/PurplePillDebate30/07/23 12:50 PM
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East Asian? I know as well that it's not popular in east and south East Asian countries (could be also be most can't grow it as well). I'm South Asian (American though), so different story there. lol I think a lot can grow a good beard, but I swear some would look sooo handsome without one!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:24 PM
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I love that. I guess like make up for some ladies including myself. Beards can be super cool. I used to watch Whisker Wars that showcased bearing competitions lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:21 PM
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Haha they can be. Chris Evans has a good one imo!
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:19 PM
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Yeah, actually although he'll deny it, my husband can grow a decent beard. Thick and not patchy. I personally like how he looks without it a bit more. I like a more youthful face, and I like how it feels haha. But obviously most importantly he feels more comfortable without one.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:18 PM
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So extrapolating from your comment - you and your friends have beards due to it being a sign of masculinity? Would you feel less masculine without it though? I know there is a significance to it in some cultures.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 09:15 PM
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Dress better costs too much money? I doubt he/she means buying designer duds. I was at a concert last night, and most of the guys were dressed so sloppily even for concert standards. I mean iron your shirt for goodness sake! If you it costs too much money to have neat, clean clothes, how are you going to be dating?
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:14 PM
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I agree exactly. 2 and 3 are not plain Janes to me and the last guy could be overtly above average if he took a better selfie lol.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/07/23 04:06 PM
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Some women have those preferences though and are open about them. I think it's fine as long as you are not rude about it (unlike those stupid "Ick" things, they are horrendous) and that you realize it's limiting your options. As it's been said repeatedly in this subreddit, people are truly attracted to different things. And thank goodness because I would be screwed if that weren't the case as I'm not conventionally attractive. When I was single, a man having muscles was not on my priority list. …
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 06:05 PM
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Would you be able to give a specific example perchance? I do think if someone's best way to describe you is nice = boring. It totally is a good quality to have OP! But people should be nice like isn't that a basic thing? I would be hurt if someone I knew well had to describe me in 3 words and one of them was "nice". Kind or good are two other simple words but IMO would be a true compliment.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:52 PM
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Okay it just basing it off of your comment... Could it be you don't have opinions on things or do you feel bad to bring up a differing opinion? I know some people who are agreeable to a fault, and I find that so boring. You can still be a caring, good person and not just agree with someone on everything.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:48 PM
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Who says they want a partner they are unattracted to lol? There a lot of people that are both good-looking and nice.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 05:39 PM
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Most men aren't unattractive. Most people are just fine looking and that works for me especially if they have good style, but it's some of the other qualities I'm more picky about.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 04:48 PM
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Lol Aside from this man's intentions, how are you so sure about 90% and nothing anecdotal please? You do realize we all have biased views based on the people we are around/attract? It's not like we are able to create randomized population to interact with. If I used your logic, I would say 50% of people don't even have IG which would then negate your statistic, but I wouldn't do hat because it doesn't make sense.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:44 PM
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Love island contestants are so cheesy.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:36 PM
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I have a feeling regardless what we say here, you will still think that we would all date him because he is good-looking, but I'll still bite. I wouldn't go on a date with him because I don't go out with people who are that into instagram. To me, it's insight into their personality and what they find important - clout. A bunch of shirtless pics = we will probably not have enough in common for a good LTR. There are other decent looking, chill guys to get to know.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/07/23 02:36 PM
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Yeah, but control for age, she's also not mid for a 55 year old. I had to look that up because I thought she was in her mid 40s.
/r/PurplePillDebate27/07/23 08:15 PM
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Oh gotcha!
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:39 PM
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Yes totally not desperate. I personally feel uncomfortable if the first date spot is fancy (for the most part).
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:20 PM
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Lol where are you meeting these people?
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:17 PM
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I think this is only about romantic relationships? Because yeah, I split with my friends for the most part.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:16 PM
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If it’s a date, whomever asks out/makes the plans. After it wasn’t formal dates/courting period, we take turns paying without strict oversight. I know some men who really don’t like the women to pay though, so whatever works for both parties. I don’t think men should in 2023 because I care more about equity.
/r/PurplePillDebate26/07/23 05:14 PM
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Right! I'm boggled why this is so complicated. Every couple will have different opinions on what works for them. Lol my husband and I don't sit down and think of how many hours we worked this week to figure out who does the chores.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:50 PM
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Hm that's not how I interpreted your original comment. But yeah I agree with you. then
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 02:22 PM
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Ugh this is not a pick me. It’s someone that’s horrible at dating…at the least. Per usual, some people are running with this because a post on reddit represent all women. Follows the narrative: WoMeN ArE HoRrIbLe.
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:18 AM
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Read the comments. I’ve seen one women maybe agree with her. https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick%20me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:11 AM
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Yep when I’ve seen others use pick me. It has always been women who put down women to appease men. I feel like this is one of the rare situations where urban dictionary is appropriate lol https://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=Pick%20me
/r/PurplePillDebate24/07/23 11:03 AM
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If I was interested, I might be a little bummed for a second. But I ask about relationship stuff with all my friends, it's not an unusual topic to talk about. Yeah, I wouldn't bug a stranger about it though.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:11 AM
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"psychological blind spots" - that is a great phrase!
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 02:06 AM
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I agree, and I'll go further to say the same goes for friends. Yep, I meant the former. It's the type of girl that actually causes all the "drama". I doubt your female friends are those types if you are hanging out with them. Most of friends college and beyond have been mixed groups anyways. :)
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 01:14 AM
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Yeah I feel sorry for people like that because that type of attitude will get them nowhere and make them miserable. It's better for your well-being to avoid people like this especially as we get older. l I can't believe you were able to tolerate girls like that, but I get giving people a chance.
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 01:00 AM
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I don't trust any lady that says all men are garbage nor any man who says all women are crazy. If you are having that much issue with an entire group of people, you must partially be part of the "problem". I just don't get how people are only meeting crappy people. No one I dated was a horrible person, and I understand I'm probably lucky. But how is every relationship some crazy melodrama? lol It reminds me of the girls who don't hang out with other women because "they are too much drama." Huge …
/r/PurplePillDebate21/07/23 12:53 AM
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I am dying at the inefficiency. You would get nothing done. lol
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:06 PM
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Literally, this is not how the development of any social programs works. Actually, in that case, for anything, let's just enroll the majority race and gender because "they are the larger demographic makes it more of a priority."
/r/PurplePillDebate18/07/23 09:06 PM
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Yeah nvm I'm re-reading them, and I think only the first one actually is the type of "joke" I'm referring to. The other two were freaking weird, and I have never seen or had a stranger do that. It doesn't seem like they are flirting though either. ​ Seems like maybe a generic joke he occasionally makes at the door. I could it see it doing fine occasionally especially if friends got in on the joke. Weird. It doesn't seem the guy is interested in the girl. Maybe the type of person that likes surre…
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:54 PM
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lolol Not saying I'm not a utter goober, but I'm don't think everyone's interaction with me is odd or calculated.
/r/PurplePillDebate16/07/23 06:48 PM
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I'm pretty sure most women don't read into it that much. People here are weird.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:08 PM
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Oh sheesh! Lady here. I've seen people of both genders make jokes that don't hit well to strangers of both genders. Case in point, we went to get TSA pre, and I overheard the gentleman there making lousy jokes with my husband when it was my turn same thing. I'm guessing he was bored. It's not that deep. OP, trust me. Damn, not all women think like this. Please Oh god I'm going to miss older folks with their cheesy jokes if this becomes illegal.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 08:07 PM
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People misuse it so much in this subreddit.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/07/23 04:00 PM
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Your first sentence is everything. I think it's hard not to be happy if our major focus is helping others, and I think this comes in many forms. Yours is more obvious! I think people should take pride in whatever job (or hobby etc) they have. There is utility and purpose in most things.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:16 AM
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Yeah the few that truly reacted poorly with me (it's normal to be disappointed) were folks who were active in dating.
/r/PurplePillDebate12/07/23 03:13 AM
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So it's not letting me edit but thinking about my feelings I think I was only a "little salty" because they did that afterwards. Like wtf and of course I was at the time when I just went with it.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:48 PM
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I have no idea. I feel like there are so many factors at play including a person's personality and their relationship history. I think we are more likely to hear about men being rejected as they usually are the ones that are approach correct? I put myself out there once for a guy. He didn't bite and actually got with a friend. They both proceeded to talk about their relationship with me (like as a sounding board) while knowing I was recently interested. I was a little salty but clearly neither o…
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:46 PM
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OP your value as a crisis supporter is way higher than anyone who just "gets a lot of baddies on his arm" as someone else mentioned. Thank you! Period. People who think otherwise have a sad existence. It's the 21st century. I guess people want to regressively evolve and have goals akin to chimps.
/r/PurplePillDebate09/07/23 01:38 PM
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There’s a lot of threads on intrapersonal relationships and pill ideology also affects LTRs including marriage. I hope I’m not giving “advice”. I wouldn’t mean to.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:41 PM
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A common argument is “Well people who are married are actually unhappy” queue some anecdotes. Lol good luck. I feel like this is the only sphere where people like to get advice from others who aren’t successful (as well as some people who are). Really they just want an echo chamber for their problems which is also fine if recognize it for what it is! I like to vent too.
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:34 PM
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Yes, typically, your parents are who you interact with the most during a very “moldable” part of your life. It affects us whether we like it or not. My parents had an arranged marriage. My mom would say “ you learn to love each other.” They’re relationship is not idyllic but fine and they do care about each other. On the other hand, I love and am in love with my husband but because of my upbringing I don’t think the latter is necessary. Both my parents have busy work schedules. My husband and I …
/r/PurplePillDebate05/07/23 07:15 PM
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I think they take the opinions of a certain type of woman that fits a narrative and then project it over all of us. Maybe a defense mechanism? 🙁 Trust me y’all its helpful if you don’t see the opposite gender as a monolith!
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:22 PM
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Nor does it mean more athletic either! A capable man is always the most attractive to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:19 PM
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Meh I just wanted someone who wasn’t obese tbh. I mean I only work 2-3x a week myself for health. Some central adiposity was definitely not a turn off and I chose men with guts over men with defined abs. I was definitely pickier in other areas though like similar interests and what I thought about their intelligence.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:15 PM
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Idk my husbands body has changed over the past decade (as has mine) but he still looks about the same in clothes and also wears the same size. 🤷🏾‍♀️
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 07:02 PM
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Wait I thought dad bod meant a gut? I wouldn’t have considered your body to be a dad bod at all! It looks v healthy to me.
/r/PurplePillDebate04/07/23 06:44 PM
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It does make me sad. 😔 being with someone polite to others, should be the norm and not a trait to look for. I even give people who are little rude to me the benefit of the doubt.
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 01:23 PM
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Meaning that they are all very good looking with the exception of you friend with autism?
/r/PurplePillDebate30/05/23 03:13 AM
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I can only offer anecdotes. I see many guys I went to high school who are short, fat, not rich, or some combination of the aforementioned traits married. Even ones who weren’t socially adept. One comes to mind - he was like maybe 5’ 6” and balding even in high school. I’m looking at his Facebook right now. Lol It’s a wedding photo. He gained weight and looks like a decade older than he should. The girl is slightly more attractive than he imo and is maybe like 5’ 8” or 5’ 9”. She also looks sligh…
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 10:59 PM
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Yes! You should just not be with someone you don’t trust period! He shouldn’t have a problem with someone simply hitting on his GF if she declines or ignores the person.
/r/PurplePillDebate29/05/23 12:40 PM
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Oh goodness no! Sorry if that’s what you how you interpreted, I’m just basing off her original post. She’s tooting her own horn despite all her protests. Think of the most the truly most considerate person you know, I bet they think they themselves are a POS. I don’t hang out with people who are rude to others they date. Probably why, most of our friends are married and now with kids. Personally, I never went on a bad date nor dated a “bad guy”. Never had a girlfriend complain about “men”. These…
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 01:28 PM
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Yeah fair fair. Like different lifeviews etc etc. I just think if you are this agreeable. It shouldn’t be that hard. Anecdotally, my cousins are not from the US and they all are married to the first guys they were “talking” to. 🤷🏾‍♀️ I guess I don’t understand how any of those compliments matter if you are a traditional woman but yet still single.
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 01:02 PM
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Lmao I’m just confused how the OP is this “perfect” and not wifed up. 😂 ( the end goal for a traditional woman)
/r/PurplePillDebate28/05/23 12:31 PM
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I feel like some men have said that it’s not their experience. I’ve also gone out with guy friends who’ve chatted up ladies. I still think it’s hard to read a sign and is tasking to approach. I mean honestly some of us ladies are just as awkward trying to signal interest. Could it be possible these ladies acting embarrassed are just socially inept? When I was single, I was fine being approached if 1. I gave a “sign” or 2. If you were cute or interesting to me. Vague I know but the human mind is …
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 06:46 PM
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Damn I guess the times I made out with randos back in my early 20s was imaginary as well. (I mean not that that would be a bad thing 😩)
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 06:33 PM
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YepnI’ve known way too many guys who are able to pull of this type of thing. He must not be smooth ENOUGH as you say.
/r/PurplePillDebate19/05/23 06:31 PM
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What ways did you relax your looks? Dress up less?
/r/PurplePillDebate18/05/23 09:34 PM
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Hm I think I can reason away why most people (men or women) do anything even if I don’t agree with it. For example, people sometimes make large blanket statements on gender (example: post some posts on purple pill). Yes, there’s probably some truth but most are anecdotal evidence. I think people probably do this due to one or more following reasons that will concisely and expound if needed: It’s less emotionally taxing (subconscious avoidance) It’s less mentally taxing (also subconscious avoidan…
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 12:28 PM
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🤦🏾‍♀️ For the record, lady here, I think the majority of men care. I think “rape is bad” is one of those universal principles that most people agree on.
/r/PurplePillDebate15/05/23 12:12 PM
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Yep, I think typically if a man is not good at stating his emotional state it's because he has nothing to base it off. It feels awkward for someone if they are not used to be candid about their feelings. Got to recognize that and make that "safe" environment for that person.
/r/PurplePillDebate20/09/22 10:00 PM
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Hello lady here! I think that's a great question. Like a lot of scenarios, I think it will depend on you and the female friend. But first don't just be friends with them because they are female. That would not be a true friendship and will eventually most likely lead to an awkward point if you both aren't mutually interested. If you happen to organically become friends with a girl because similar interests, I definitely think it can be beneficial. The guy friends I am closer with usually have a …
/r/PurplePillDebate16/09/22 06:34 PM
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