killerjewels Archive

Upvotes	Title	Category	Author	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
2341	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂	FDS MEMES	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 08:55 PM
1794	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below	MOOD FOR LIFE	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 02:56 PM
570	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules	MALE DEPRAVITY	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 10:52 AM
81	So this woman I follow blurs her mans face. I thought they were married... turns out they aren’t so now that changes my perception of why she feels the need to do this. She says she does this because “people are weird”. What are your thoughts?	NAH, SIS	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/20 12:10 AM
76	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries?	DISCUSSION	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 01:23 PM
1	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex got me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I’ll put my comment in the thread bellow	MOOD FOR LIFE	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 02:52 PM
1	With advances in technology and access to new services that we have in the west, there is absolutely NO excuse for any man to not have a condom before engaging in safe consented sex	STAY WOKE	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/20 05:09 PM
1	Can we please ban image photos of random celebrity men?	RANT	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 07:43 PM
1	The dirty d*ck of Christmas past	FOREVER GF TALES	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/10/20 04:58 PM
1	My mother did not raise me and she is a pick me. I have paid dearly for the lack of guidance which lead to my poor choices. I am so worried for my future because I have to start from below ground 0. I am not surrounded by any women who can be a great example to me either. HELP!	FDS RESCUE MISSION	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/12/20 09:16 PM
1	Have you ladies watched Bling Empire? There are toxic relationships left right and centre. What are your thoughts? SPOILERS	DISCUSSION	killerjewels	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	16/01/21 02:41 PM

Upvotes	Comment on	Subreddit	Date (UTC)
31	Vetting Vetting, imagine being with a man for 30 yrs plus and he doesn’t love you, only as a best friend…. This is sad. The kicker is he was probably giving her the bare minimum all those 30 years. That’s why we have to demand more because only a man who genuinely loves you will go above and beyond	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/02/22 05:19 PM
11	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 Drop the name please, I’m interested in watching it	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/22 10:38 AM
35	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 The thing is they are taking from men who already have, men who are willing to give. Women are not pushing them to take out loans they can’t afford under the pretence that they will be killed by their enemies if they don’t. That’s the difference!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/02/22 10:36 AM
197	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 There was a post about this. The Office was written by a woman (I doubt they know this). It’s ironic because they don’t think we have good humour but they use this show to prove theirs 🤔 Edit: sorry I stand corrected there are multiple writers. Majority of the episodes are written by men about 40 by women	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:46 PM
162	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 Right?! Men think when they open up the relationship they will get women but it’s usually their wives that are in demand and have better options. I sympathise with women who are victims of forced polygamy	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:39 PM
26	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 You’re not the only one, it’s giving me flashbacks eww 🤢	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:22 PM
57	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 Lol what’s the deal with the fish photographs? I just don’t get it	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:18 PM
29	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 It’s scary how accurate it is!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:16 PM
62	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 I was ready to delete the app after the bully 😂 I can’t stand profiles like that	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:14 PM
61	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 Every. single. one. I feel so much happier now after deleting my profiles. Don’t even go back if you’re bored all that’s waiting is disappointment	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:11 PM
119	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 Literally lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 10:00 PM
81	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 Me too, I was not expecting it! 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 09:50 PM
93	Here’s to deleting our OLD profiles 🥂 As children we had imaginary friends, not Simon though he had imaginary enemies 🤣	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/02/22 09:48 PM
119	Men literally have no empathy for women: A case study on prostitution and porn I stay away from “good” men with trash friends. These friends will be the first to whisper in his ear if the relationship hits a rough patch and there is something they must have in common. I’d hate to find out what that is. Plus a lot of men report back to you and exclude themselves from them to earn your trust. But he’s pandering because he won’t cut ties with these men and there’s no discretion. They usually turn around and start doing what they said they never would. But I may be wrong	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/01/22 12:40 PM
3	And that’s the 🍵👀 The only reason I am saying this is to help other women take charge of their health. My first ever boyfriend gave me herpes and the oral strand down south. We both were clear on our tests but they didn’t test for everything. And same here, no partner of mine has cared, but that is a reason to be careful.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/06/21 06:41 AM
8	And that’s the 🍵👀 So true but I’d rather be told because it can be transferred from mouth to the genitals	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 08:27 PM
42	And that’s the 🍵👀 And the FULL STD check from them because they only test for HIV, syphilis, chlamydia and gonorrhoea. Not for HPV or Herpes and other things you can catch. So when people confidently tell you they haven’t got anything, it’s highly unlikely that that is the case	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 07:06 PM
1	Another reason OLD is toxic. Tinder helping men cheat Oh that’s a good idea thank you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 04:16 PM
2	Another reason OLD is toxic. Tinder helping men cheat Same here! I have two phones now as a temp measure but would probably just do the same. Having two phones is two much for me	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 11:33 AM
3	Another reason OLD is toxic. Tinder helping men cheat What’s a U.K. alternative?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 10:34 AM
98	This reminds me of the slug story Then when she dies, he’ll use that for the rest of his life as an excuse of why he is a low value man	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/06/21 10:27 AM
14	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules I’m sorry he did that to you. I also went through a similar experience. Yes they are always around to take advantage of people who they think may have low self esteem or going through something. It’s evil	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 05:04 PM
11	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules I’m hoping his kids mother sees this too, she needs some sort of justice. Got her children. It is rape and coercion plain and simple. If you attain something with deception did you truly agree to the terms and conditions? No	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 04:00 PM
10	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules I just don’t understand because my brain doesn’t work that way	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 03:49 PM
11	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Hahaha I don’t know whether to laugh or cry 😂 we need this to end. No more Costco home dates. It should be forbidden	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 03:47 PM
10	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules I didn’t even want to upload it because I was disgusted but thought it needed to be seen, in a way it supports what FDS saying	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 03:43 PM
12	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Haha me too! That’s why I thought this was a good video, a lot of talking points. Dead beat to kids he already has check, orchestrated social media check, home dates check, sex attachment check and the list went on and on	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 02:57 PM
6	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Yes you said it well! It’s impossible to avoid all lv men so the only thing we can do is let our boundaries and standards filter them out	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 02:51 PM
6	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Wow that’s so horrible, I’m glad he didn’t stand for it and trusts his instincts now. As a monogamous person I felt extremely violated when my ex cheated on me, it’s reckless for health reasons and but to unknowingly have choice taken away from you and to be put at risk is just evil. Exactly he was just throwing out bait and hoping something sticks, he didn’t mind what he caught. And we can’t act like our gender doesn’t have it’s fair share of problematic individuals	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 02:46 PM
10	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules You’ve convinced me to listen to it on audio book. I’m so glad she was able to get out, I love seeing women win in these trying circumstances	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 02:36 PM
18	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules The thing we need to realise is that our attention is currency. This man couldn’t stand that even the “less desirable” (I don’t like that term) women in society wouldn’t want him, it would be humiliating (we all know how men don’t fear death they fear being laughed at). So to make himself feel better, not face that harsh rejection or reality that he’s trash and maybe get revenge (because these women wouldn’t even look at him before )he does all of this.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 02:16 PM
10	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules That’s a nice strategy. I also have a brother so don’t mind if I steal this and suggest it if he ever needed the help. A lot of ladies online are emotionally unstable/ desperate (even I get tired of them) and they refuse to do anything about it. Decent men also don’t deserve to deal with that	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:50 PM
11	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Thank you so much for taking the time to write this list. It’s more than appreciated. Dream house seems like an interesting read	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:41 PM
12	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Thanks. You did the best thing. Exactly, one sentence or picture can really expose you and give out too much information. Yes that’s why I never liked those quotes “his loss” which lets a man know you’re hung up on an ex and had a recent break up etc etc. We need to be more aware of this	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:38 PM
19	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Hahaha 😂 honestly! Will we ever get to the core of who a man really is? Find out in the next episode of DBZ... episode 43,638,156,267	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:30 PM
20	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Yes I call that being an Instagram dad. I’m a single mother but was absolutely adamant that his dad was not going to do that. That’s what a lot of these men are doing. Yes I think for certain women they need to see it come straight from the horses mouth. He covered about 15 different FDS rules/ safeguarding strategies we should implement in one video. An absolute loser	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:28 PM
33	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Yes same here. Even being a single mom. When I had ‘single mom’ in my Instagram profile I had messages from men every week. One even messaged me straight out of the gate saying, I don’t mind that you have a kid. Like who asked you? I deleted that and my kids pictures from all social media and I haven’t had a message since	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:18 PM
9	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Where can we find your list?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:15 PM
30	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Wow I’m speechless, I’m not in Asian social circles so don’t have that experience, but when I watched bling empire on Netflix I saw the nice Asian boy persona, but the guy was literally trying to sleep with a girl who had just broken up with her boyfriend. He also made a joke about cooking for her just to get into her pants. I was disgusted	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 01:14 PM
44	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Probably narcissism, clout chasing and desperation for money because business is not the same as it used to be because women are gaining confidence and self worth	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:44 AM
232	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules The mental gymnastics made my head hurt, especially coming from the mouth of this predatory, manipulative, lying, broke dead beat baby daddy. I liked the part where he mentioned that it’s getting hard for him because of women like Lizzo giving women confidence	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:41 AM
102	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules Haha same here 😂 if there’s one thing I’ve learnt is there is a woman for every man. Doesn’t matter how dusty. But men, even when they are low value have higher standards and think they deserve a model.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:36 AM
47	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules I’m pretty sure they would just blame the women for having low self esteem etc.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:33 AM
126	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules It’s been said here before if men put all this effort in being better men they would probably get better results	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:28 AM
169	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules But it makes sense because of the illusion that he would give to women on instagram that he was desirable and also the fact he was targeting women with no self esteem	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:26 AM
49	If you weren’t convinced of how far men will go just watch this. This is why it’s advised to follow most if not all of the FDS rules There wasn’t much information to the context of this video, it was just posted on a Instagram page I follow. The post said his name is Brady and he is a serial cheater. If anyone happens to know where this is from that would be of help because I couldn’t find anything on google.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/05/21 11:24 AM
14	Moms with Husbands: More Chores, Less Sleep than Single Moms; studies confirm married and cohabiting moms have more chores, sleep less and have less time for themselves than single, divorced or women living with people other than a male partner Thank you ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 09:04 PM
7	The plastic surgery industry thrives based on the insecurity of women due to the demands of the patriarchy. One surgeon calls his female patients his dolls. “Love you dolls, let’s get beautiful together dolls”. Really messed up	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 07:12 PM
186	Moms with Husbands: More Chores, Less Sleep than Single Moms; studies confirm married and cohabiting moms have more chores, sleep less and have less time for themselves than single, divorced or women living with people other than a male partner I locked my low value cheating abusive ex fiancé out of my flat in 2020. While recovering from a c section, this man made me carry heavy buckets of laundry, this man did not help with our child. Made me cook bucket loads of food for his obese self. Spending all my maternity leave salary on him because he left his job suddenly. He also infected me with an STI because he cheated on me when our child was a new born and I didn’t find out until 10 months later. I was like a slave and all my family/ c…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/05/21 02:43 PM
10	Things that make you go Hmmm... Exactly and most of the time it’s coercion. Lying about loving her, lying about his intentions it’s disgusting and they should be ashamed of themselves because I’m sure they didn’t tell those women “I haven’t been checked in a year, I have had 100 partners since, which I made excuses to not wear a condom/ pressured them and I have no intention of marrying you, will not give you an orgasm and will leave leave you with HPV”	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	12/04/21 08:24 PM
151	Things that make you go Hmmm... Well I do shame men for their sexual past, if they have slept with many women it’s probably because he’s easy and has no respect for the women he interacts with and 9/10 I am right and it’s funny that you can immediately see the look of disgust and shame in their faces	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	11/04/21 11:45 PM
1	What is your all-time favorite FDS post? Thank you so much for sharing!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	15/03/21 07:53 AM
4	What is your all-time favorite FDS post? Would you be able to send me the anal sex risk link? That’s something I haven’t come across and would like to see the reasons. I have never done it and thanks to FDS I will uphold that standard because I don’t want to and won’t be pressurised to	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/03/21 12:07 PM
7	Black men will degrade and berate black women and want to only settle with us when their lives are in shambles. Why are black women always the ones meant to “fix” a black man who’s a mess? Kanye West needs a THERAPIST, not the labour of a ‘black queen.’ Hahaha yes Paris great content makes you think twice about helping or entertaining a bum	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/21 08:57 AM
5	Just a thought on what you "attract" Thank you! 🥳 It is really a set up. Like you said men are allowed to do anything and their actions always justified. It’s rubbish. Almost like we are taught from birth to be modern day slaves to NVM	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/02/21 08:46 AM
20	Just a thought on what you "attract" I agree, I am 100% sure if I wasn’t raised a pick me, surrounded by misogyny, sexist religion and culture. If I had proper guidance and the confidence I would have never ever entertained the shit that I did. I was gaslighted when I tried to leave my ex the first time. After I got pregnant I tried to leave again I was gaslighted/ pressured again but I left with my own strength and my own new found knowledge thanks to FDS. Its like a cult	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/21 10:04 PM
8	Black men will degrade and berate black women and want to only settle with us when their lives are in shambles. Why are black women always the ones meant to “fix” a black man who’s a mess? Kanye West needs a THERAPIST, not the labour of a ‘black queen.’ Your comment sounds like a youtuber I watch who talks about these topics	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/02/21 07:18 PM
56	Don't trust porn when wanting to learn about "the sex" 😂 Me too reminds me of my childhood, I’m not Asian but grew up in a diverse neighbourhood	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/02/21 01:44 AM
8	What factors are associated with recent intimate partner violence? Findings from the WHO multi-country study on women's health and domestic violence I laughed and cried at this. Relatable	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/01/21 07:30 PM
8	This Man is a Rising British Rapper and Certain of His Mixtapes Have Charted in England. I Don’t Find This Funny. Yes my ex used to wake me in the middle of my sleep to have sex every night. At first it was fun then it started getting really abusive to the point I had to plead for him to not wake me up	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/01/21 10:42 PM
2	Jumping on the “bought myself a ring” bandwagon 😊 Happy New Year to me, and to all my FDS sisters Wow this is such a unique design, it compliments you well ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/01/21 01:08 PM
3	My little “I love you” gift to myself arrived today. Years ago, I pinned this ring and when it popped up in my IG feed this fall I ordered one custom made. Loving all these ring posts. Such a beautiful ring, I love the pop of colour and glittery nails ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/01/21 01:06 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below That’s what it is	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/20 12:24 PM
1	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/20 12:17 PM
2	I love the “Here’s my hand with my new ring I bought myself” pics. This is my “here’s my hand with the keys to my new house I bought myself!” pic. Resolve to evolve, sis! Here’s to our new year! Congratulations! Here’s to many years of happiness and peace in your new home 🥳	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	31/12/20 11:17 AM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! 😊	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 09:25 PM
7	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below It’s time to spoil ourselves. They are so cheap sometimes they don’t even spend that money on themselves in a productive way like fitness, fashion, grooming certainly not therapy lol	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 09:25 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! 😊	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 09:19 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you 😊 well I’m always open to give you a second opinion ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 09:19 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:39 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much x	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:37 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Lovely, why wait around right? Me too and I love it!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:37 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you for this wonderful idea I can get one similar for special occasions	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:28 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! What kind of ring? There’s nothing like jewellery to mark the end and beginning of a new era	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:25 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you. What style are you looking for? My ex was the exact same way, would complain that I wouldn’t were those ugly items. You deserve the best	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:23 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you 🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:19 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much! ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:19 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below I have never been bought jewellery as well. I don’t like chunky necklaces, he probably bought them because they were on sale my ex did that. Lord have mercy, my mother used to dress me like a 50 year old church usher, so I understand. I think if you’d like that, it has to be made known. They sound like beautiful pieces, vintage is best. Thank you.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:19 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:14 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:14 PM
4	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you. That is great way to be raised, I am learning to be this way now. It horrifies me that women are getting stainless steel engagement rings with cubic zirconia... basically being cat-fished yet the man wants a life time commitment. I also welcome all the names, I will never be anyone’s fool again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:14 PM
4	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below My goodness how can he tell you what you are supposed to like? That’s what I was going to do with this ring, wear it everyday and then add some other pieces, as you have done. I’m so happy to hear that you have such a thoughtful boyfriend. My ex really tried to dim my light so he could shine brighter, never again. Thank you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 08:00 PM
4	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Lovely! You’re absolutely right why should I hesitate to enjoy the fruits of my labour?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 07:55 PM
4	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much x	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 07:53 PM
5	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Haha onwards and upwards. Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 07:53 PM
4	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 07:52 PM
11	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you, instead of acrylics I will try gel 😊	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 07:50 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:38 PM
14	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! Haha I would have done exactly as you did. He must have been so confused. I think LVM men like to buy you gifts after you separate to clear their guilty conscious (prove to themselves they are good people), for control, to fool themselves into thinking they have a chance or that you care. For now I also need that physical reminder that I can do better and will do better. Thank you, I think I feel it already 😆	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:33 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:15 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you. It’s a step at a time. You can do this ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:15 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below I would have to agree with you. They fall a little flat without it or other rings	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:14 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you 😊	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:12 PM
48	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much. ESPECIALLY as a black woman, we don’t have to subscribe to the struggle or ‘bare minimum’.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:12 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:09 PM
14	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below I will never make myself less for any man. Thank you for the kind words it really gives me that much more confidence to go out and do this for me, FDS and other girls/ women ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:09 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:05 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much. No supplements yet, I’m on on a keto diet so a lot of water, vegetables, fruits and protein. I have used biotin in the past which worked wonders for my hair and nails.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:05 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:00 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! You should definitely	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 05:00 PM
5	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you, I bought this ring from Ernest Jones. But they have terrible delivery reviews on trust pilot (which I have only seen now so I guess I’m really lucky) 😅	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:58 PM
6	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much, it’s all natural I took care of them Christmas morning haha. Have a happy new year! 🥳	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:49 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:48 PM
2	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Welcome ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:48 PM
3	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below I had no idea at the time, and the sales assistant also told me the same. Usually it’s just a leaf design so she was pleasantly surprised by the extra detail	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:47 PM
36	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much. I tried false nails but it wasn’t for me so this a few months of care after having the false nails taken off	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:39 PM
64	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you. It really makes a difference! I was also inspired by other ladies. Tiffany have such a wonderful range. I don’t know, when I wear good jewellery it just feels different	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:36 PM
7	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much! I’m following FDS advice and taking good care of myself, including my outward appearance ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:25 PM
5	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:23 PM
6	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much 🥰	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:22 PM
4	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! The detail is what I really like. It’s feminine and floral	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:22 PM
6	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you. I really wasn’t sure at first but I like it more in person	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:19 PM
15	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you. Well for myself I would consider high quality jewellery to be made of precious metals such as gold/ silver and could possibly have a gemstone like diamond etc. Something that would retain value so I can sell them later or pass down to my child. But as ivy176 said it’s up to you, you can wear whatever you like. It all depends on your taste, fashion/ style, allergies (lol), what you value and your love language. You decide.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 04:15 PM
6	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you so much	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 03:59 PM
14	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below They sound lovely. Opal is so mesmerising. That’s nice of your sister, you can wear it together or separately which is always a nice option. I had the same thoughts, I can’t ask my partner for jewellery if it isn’t already part of how I spoil myself and in a way the standard can not be met if it isn’t in place (if that makes sense). That’s so cute. It would be lovely to find someone to share that same experience with and for many different occasions too. Thank you, I am so happy with it	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 03:58 PM
23	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! I like floral or simplistic designs. I also stopped a while ago because I disliked the strong metal smell. Haha that’s right, they would never wear those cheap watches.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 03:41 PM
53	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below What did you get? Me too. Somehow I always felt like I shouldn’t because I was afraid of being labelled a “gold digger” or “materialistic” which is another way to keep most women from expecting more	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 03:26 PM
41	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below Thank you! ♥️	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 03:14 PM
449	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex bought me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I will put my comment in the thread below I have lived frugally for a while and everything I have done or most things I spent money on was to help me gain skills or was bought out of necessity. This Christmas I bought something for myself. I’m replacing all my old pieces with fine quality jewellery so in future it can retain some value in the event that I would need money. My cheating, abusive NV ex bought me Christmas presents, I did not buy him anything. I kept everything that my friends and family bought me, they were perfect. But th…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 02:56 PM
1	One of the three jewellery pieces I bought myself for Christmas. I am also selling the gifts my NV ex got me so I can put the money towards something I actually like. I’ll put my comment in the thread bellow I have lived frugally for a while now and everything I have done or most things I spent money on was to help me gain skills or was bought out of necessity. This Christmas I bought something for myself. I’m replacing all my old pieces with fine quality jewellery so in future it can retain some value in the event that I would need money. My cheating, abusive NV ex bought me Christmas presents, I did not buy him anything. I kept everything that my friends and family bought me, they were perfect. Bu…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	30/12/20 02:52 PM
11	Seen this wayyy too many times!🙄 Women are held solely responsible for breaking relationships by other women because of internalised misogyny. The poor cheating bf is a "good guy otherwise". My ex actually sent me the socials with this woman’s name and picture. I thought about messaging her but didn’t and never will because he betrayed that trust and she’s a messed up individual to have sex with my ex fiancé when he has a heavily pregnant partner - and she did so willingly. A few months later he revealed to me that he gaslighted/ lied to her, made her break up with her boyfriend because he promised her they would be together forever, gave her herpes which he denied to her face (beca…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/12/20 11:56 PM
2	Anyone else have this view on having children? That won’t even work look at Arnold Schwarzeneggers baby mama who was his nanny 😅	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/12/20 09:02 PM
3	So this woman I follow blurs her mans face. I thought they were married... turns out they aren’t so now that changes my perception of why she feels the need to do this. She says she does this because “people are weird”. What are your thoughts? Right and willingly accepting this	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/20 11:42 AM
52	So this woman I follow blurs her mans face. I thought they were married... turns out they aren’t so now that changes my perception of why she feels the need to do this. She says she does this because “people are weird”. What are your thoughts? My goodness you are probably right. But how do you know (if you can’t post each other) that it’s not for a genuine reason?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	22/12/20 12:25 AM
9	HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3 Thank you so much for taking the time to answer. I have started seeing a therapist/life coach so I will also add all your points to address next week. You have made me realise I need to put all dating to a halt and focus on what’s going in house.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/12/20 09:26 PM
22	HVM proposed with a Tiffany diamond after 1 year, then surprised with a bouquet and a thank you note <3 Congratulations! I’m so happy to see you win! I know you have been asked what HV quality your fiancé has. But do you mind sharing the qualities you have as a HVW? I started my healing and change journey so it would be nice to know which direction I need to go especially from a woman’s POV	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	21/12/20 08:55 PM
1	With advances in technology and access to new services that we have in the west, there is absolutely NO excuse for any man to not have a condom before engaging in safe consented sex And I would like to add from my location it takes 15 minutes max mind you. FDS rules still apply, vet the man before giving up your goodies. But if you already told him your conditions for sex and he didn’t prepare then that’s a 🚩kick him out or leave immediately	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/20 05:11 PM
2	Being a forever fiancée is worse than being a forever girlfriend Thank you!	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/12/20 10:57 AM
2	Being a forever fiancée is worse than being a forever girlfriend I feel the same, I know now I had no chance and especially being born a female. Yes and it’s just important to realise we have a choice. Sorry you have too. Much love, I’m wishing you all the best	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/12/20 03:48 PM
2	Being a forever fiancée is worse than being a forever girlfriend Hey, our stories are so alike it’s scary, I thought I was the only one who is paying for my shit upbringing and when I speak on it people want to force down my throat that “I made these choices”. I didn’t choose to have a pick me mum, absent father, abusive family “friend” and later lead me to my abusive baby daddy, it was a shit show since the day I was born	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/12/20 10:48 AM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? You’re spot on, I was complaining about both to be honest	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/20 07:59 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Thank you so much for the advice. Obviously I have so much more to read on and figure out myself. I saw a post on here that said because I can do it all doesn’t mean I should but I have to gain the confidence in having boundaries.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/20 07:58 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Sorry to hear that your father did that to you after all of your hard work. Have I listened and I am standing my ground	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/11/20 07:32 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Exactly, I would never put anything past them now. Thank you for the words of encouragement. Haha just trying to make you all proud because I don’t have the strength yet to do it for myself	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 11:38 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I absolutely agree with you and need to stand firm. I have been used financially and I don’t plan on letting that happen again.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 11:34 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I just think without any support it’s just hard. He doesn’t even want to cooperate. Plus the gaslighting from family, I’m learning. Thank you so much I didn’t think of that at all.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 11:19 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I have to do the same too. It makes a difference. Before I would have agreed to do this. So it’s nice to stand on my own two feet	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 11:13 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I absolutely agree. I do not think that he will have saved anything	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:55 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I believe so too. I am now seeing that that is a high possibility. That’s what I have suggested he just doesn’t want to listen but as long as I work hard I’m not worried about what he does	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:45 PM
3	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I think you are right. Thank you so much, I think I will lean on you ladies more now. I can not trust anyone around me apart from my manager. He gives me solid advice whenever I need and he’s also HVM single and happy.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:43 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? So our child is under 2 years old so he keeps saying that our child coming over is bad for that age and everyone he’s spoken to says that. My friend came over to support me because I was struggling with the abuse from my ex and just the lack of support from anyone. Thank you for your suggestion I tried this but he keeps making excuses like the one I mentioned. The problem he also says he is busy and has stuff to do, when he comes he leaves early so I don’t have time to even do things I want to..…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:37 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Lol. I wouldn’t be surprised if he knew this and was trying to get me to pay for it because he paid off the rest of my loan for me when we broke up (probably thinking I would run back). So he’s probably planning to get it back	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:31 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I have just cut them all of now. That’s exactly what happened to me, my mother said those exact words. So I had no chance. I will say this next time and I believe it would make them shut up at least	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:26 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Honestly I am not going to lie she was acting really weird shaking her hips, making jokes today	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:23 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I don’t want him in my house, but he’s broke so he can’t have our son at his one bedroom house share. He has rights to our child so this is the only way he would see him... he doesn’t really give me a choice. I have a family that won’t help and are just as toxic as him so they think our child needs him to be present	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:22 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? That’s true if he saves he saves but he can’t also force me to save with him. He pays me on time because he needs to as immigration rules state	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:14 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I know it’s too much. To be fair I tell him at the milestones and when I can be bothered. I don’t get this man, I told him to save money separately and he insisted on sending money to our child’s account?? He pays regular child support but he wants to save money now for university on a shared account	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:12 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Then how should I manage being on my own? No family or friends?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:06 PM
7	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? That is so true	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:05 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I don’t get what you mean. He asked me in front of her, I told him repeatedly that we’ve already discussed this. Which is why I should have told him “pick a better time to talk about this”. He’s the father of my child so what do you suggest? I absolutely agree, that’s what bothers me, she wants it to work out so much. He lives in a one bedroom so our child can’t go to his so he comes to mine, he pays child support to me though	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 10:02 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes that’s what really makes me question her. It’s tiring defending myself all the time	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 09:43 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? This sounds perfect, thank you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 09:40 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes, even when explaining I would not tell someone I don’t trust them like in this case. So true about NVM	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 09:39 PM
1	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I absolutely agree, if he could do those things when he said he loved me I hate to see what he can do when he hates me. Thank you I didn’t know this and knowing he owes a few thousand to a certain institution I would certainly not be opening any account with him	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 09:17 PM
5	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I know, I am. I do think part of it is because he wants another angle to control me. Exactly of anyone who would steal money from the account it’s him. If I needed his permission to take money out I know he would make it harder for me too. For the future I will just stop it at no. I know, she’s still hypnotised by my ex and thinks he is a good guy just because he is polite.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 06:52 PM
4	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Thank you so much for this! I’ll add it to my kindle	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 06:47 PM
3	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? You said it, it made me look unreasonable. Exactly I already told him we have discussed this	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 06:25 PM
2	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I agree, thank you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 05:35 PM
5	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? True. That’s what I suggested but he kept pushing the joint ISA. That’s what I am thinking too. I don’t know where the ‘other family’ talk came from. From my previous post and knowing FDS I will not be dating let alone marrying anytime soon, I need to level up first. He guessed I was dating because he found flower food pack on my kitchen counter and connected the dots lol so I don’t know if he thinks I will marry soon or he will use his dads money to level himself up, then suddenly do more for o…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:58 PM
5	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes she knows what he has done but can’t comprehend how that reflects on his character and our relationship. He can’t be trusted. He is weirdly obsessed and keen, he won’t even consider saving separately	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:39 PM
6	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I agree, she’s too comfortable	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:36 PM
5	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I always try to keep in mind what would be best for our child. We already have an account in our childs name which we both send money into. The only thing is only one parent can have control (which is the rule/law now) and that is me. I think he is mad because he tells me he won’t know how much our child has in the account. I told him that I am happy to send him screen shots monthly and yearly statement, which I do. We have saved up quite well and until recently I haven’t touched the money a…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:35 PM
9	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes I’ll be this blunt next time. I have had a word with her and she said she understood. So let’s hope it stays at that. I would have dropped her if she was a new friend	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:28 PM
8	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? I know! I don’t get it. She doesn’t like confrontation but throws me under the bus by trying to remain neutral	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:25 PM
5	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Ok I will remember this. Thank you	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:24 PM
12	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Yes she knows EVERYTHING about him, she finally got the message that I wouldn’t go back to him and that he wasn’t a good person after he gave me an STI... not all the other things. Yes I totally agree. I don’t know what he plans to do but I don’t want to be in the position to find out	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:23 PM
25	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? She is the only friend I have because all of my friends were pick me, I had a word with her about it. If this continues I would stop it.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 04:20 PM
13	Where do you draw the line between being diplomatic and keeping your boundaries? Thank you, all thanks to FDS	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/11/20 03:30 PM
2	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020 Exactly what I suspect. She’s sleeping with this guy and has only met this guy 2 times, I didn’t even bother, I am not the one getting under him when’s she’s ready to change I’ll direct her here. Wow this is a nice example of what I mean, I know it’s simple but is definitely telling. He cares about what you want. It’s the little things.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	14/11/20 12:30 AM
18	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 9 2020 I started dating again but OLD. So I got a message from a guy who I knew from the past. He was asking if we could meet up. I told him no because it would have been too late for me. He then offered to buy me some groceries/ whatever I needed and I was in need of something so I asked for a few items which may have cost $20. We met and he was fatter than the pictures he posted, which were of him with a more athletic physique obviously from his gym days. The conversation itself was good. But then he…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	09/11/20 06:58 PM
3	The Only Time You Can Bargain is Before Purchase Lol I was wondering because they were switching between Swahili and English. I will definitely a look at his work thank you for sharing	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 09:40 AM
4	The Only Time You Can Bargain is Before Purchase Kenyan?	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	04/11/20 12:44 AM
19	For 3 years I had hope in changing my LV husband. I gave him his last chance 2 months ago and I’m finally leaving. Hello you’re so lucky that you can leave. I wish I was able to escape but I have a child with the man. I should have sent him packing but listened to my pick me family pressuring me because my child “needs a father” or “you will find someone else who would abuse your child” but where is this twat now? I am so angry for being used. I hope I can get rid of him	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	03/11/20 06:08 PM
3	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020 I’m so sorry for what you have been through. I wish you all the best with your surgery. It really is not. Exactly, it’s way too risky. Above all things it’s my health that I’m worried about, I don’t want my life cut short or my fertility messed up because of some scrote who couldn’t keep his penis in his pants. Don’t even get me started on the pick me, she accepted the fact that my fiancé had a pregnant women at home. She was sleeping around with other men too. You’re right. They don’t even care…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/11/20 11:05 PM
12	Weekly FDS Chat, Check-In, Quick Questions Answered November 1 2020 So I think my ex is gay and has definitely been messing around. I have tested positive for something treatable but doing a general health check in a month and 3 months time which is stressful. I feel like I’m always paying the price for shit men, it’s ok you want to put your health on the line but why mine? I hope I don’t have anything else because this isn’t the first time he cheated on me. I am so angry, and depressed I don’t know where to put all of it. I was sick for a month taking the wrong…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	01/11/20 06:36 PM
43	Most Stay-at-moms do not get the luxury of building a career, or even the luxury of a personal life This is how women end up in a financial trap with no support. Like Chrishell on selling the sunset, who got served divorce papers from her now (newly) famous husband, she uprooted her life for him I even think she left college. But at least she has a job selling up market real estate and is on TV now	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	27/10/20 12:56 AM
13	Where being a pick me will get you. Maybe she wanted to die? but indirectly not by her own hand. I prayed to die when I was in an abusive relationship no sleep with a new born and an abusive pos on your neck all the time you can’t think straight. Thank God we made it, I hope she leaves	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	26/10/20 04:17 PM
1	Always look into a man’s background before meeting them like this (it’s free): Would anyone know the UK equivalent to all three points? Thanks in advance	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/10/20 01:00 PM
3	Was anyone else here raised by a Pickmeisha mother? (Trigger warning) Textbook narcissism on their part. Sorry you deal with that abuse from them, my mother is the same tbh	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/20 01:03 PM
1	Was anyone else here raised by a Pickmeisha mother? (Trigger warning) I think you should really listen to what others are saying. That experience was yours alone, and your journey alone. You have learnt from it so pass on those lessons without traumatising your kids. Children can’t comprehend certain things because their brains haven’t fully developed. I won’t tell my kids the full story until they are fully matured adults and even then I won’t share everything. Give them the tools on how to recognise abuse and what boundaries they should have. Build them to be co…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/20 12:35 PM
2	Was anyone else here raised by a Pickmeisha mother? (Trigger warning) Why are you telling your parents so much? Stop telling them anything, but if they live with you I understand	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	18/10/20 12:26 PM
3	Redpill scrote (former incel) sats FDS is for “unattractive women”. Help me roast this scrote ladies. I don’t need a man to validate how beautiful I am so this article does not move me. I wouldn’t even bother roasting this guy. He’s not worth my energy and my time. If he is writing articles like this then we are doing something right. Many women who read his article will look FDS up and be liberated. Any man that feels the need to attack a woman’s beauty has no ground to stand on, men will forever be mad at women for no reason and I am pretty sure he is still an incel.	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	07/10/20 03:42 PM
20	Need some support and encouragement. Just left an emotionally abusive and psychologically traumatizing relationship. First of all I do not want you to say you don’t care about yourself that you care about your family/ friends. This is what he wants. To erode your sense of self worth to not even value the one life you’ve been given. Right now you have to collect yourself, be strong and plan to get rid of the bastard. Women are at higher risk when they plan to leave a man so don’t take this lightly you have to plan this out. If the situation and threats can be realised, I would suggest (if possible) you staying …	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/10/20 08:42 AM
5	Jolene can have them! Omg I love this 😂	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	02/10/20 01:24 AM
8	Dr Karin discusses the question, 'What if I never find my person?' I needed to hear this	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	29/09/20 03:10 PM
7	In this episode of “which kind of maid am I today?” we’re hair-cutting maids. I used to give my ex hair cuts a high top fade with a shape up. I took long but it always looked very nice, he was raving about how his trash friends would compliment him... Now imaging his side was running her fingers through the hair I cut. Imagine he was attracting women and looked polished because of the hair I cut. It’s so disrespectful. After finding this sub I never do wife chores for a man who’s not my husband, he always asks me to cut his hair and I always say no because I don’t want to…	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	24/09/20 10:44 PM
3	Don't fall for "You're the only one who understands me." Exactly we see right through them and it makes them insecure	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/09/20 10:39 AM
38	High Earning, Well-Educated and Well-Dressed Does Not a HVM Make Yep first “HVM” I dated had a bit of money, paid for my plane tickets and for everything else. Then the layers started peeling and he was a racist, a cheat, misogynist and so much more. I’m so glad I’m not stuck in that situation	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/09/20 03:10 AM
6	Loser gets caught masturbating on his family's couch. Tries to explain to his scarred 16 year old sister that it "wasn't his fault" Anyone else think he low-key wanted to be caught? All the disturbing categories of porn out there, like barely legal etc. and he’s obviously a consumer	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/09/20 02:59 AM
21	Don't fall for "You're the only one who understands me." The second point! My LV ex and bd told me last week “I know you better than you know yourself”. I couldn’t help laughing, bloody delusional	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	23/09/20 02:49 AM
3	✔️ I just logged in, I’m 25 just left a bad relationship, this message is for me	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	20/09/20 09:53 AM
1	I love that I see more and more people finally exposing LVM’s. AND I LOVE IT when it’s other men. Yes tell THEM Omfg I just vomited. Wtf	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	17/09/20 01:02 AM
1	After my abusive marriage I stopped singing. You ladies have made me want to start again. Here’s a cover of Lady Gaga I did withhold my kids playing in the background. Thanks for helping me find my voice again ❤️ Your voice is so rich. Like drinking coffee on a winters morning. Lovely	/r/FemaleDatingStrategy	05/09/20 11:40 AM